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Chibi-chan
January 21st, 2008, 08:56 AM
At my school, there are a good number of people who plan on marrying a guy who's a millionaire or extremely rich. I also know some girls on the feminist and independent side who argue that they shouldn't rely on someone rich to make money and that they should make their own riches. Also, people say that money should never count at all. In my opinion, falling in love with someone who happens to be in the rich crowd is a pretty much an optimal thing, and trying to make it in to be part of the rich crowd isn't bad either. I'm asking for opinions on such an idea that money also has to do with love and marriage. Does it play a part? Should it?

PB
January 21st, 2008, 09:01 AM
Thats really immuture, I mean yes it is good to be wealthy and have lots of money to spend. But pretending to love someone just because of their bank account sounds stupid.

YoungAngel
January 21st, 2008, 09:02 AM
I wouldnt want my husband/boyfriend to be poor because it may mean that they need to really rely on me, then if the relationship doesnt work out, all the money ive dished out for him would all be in vain so i guess it matters to me.... they dont have to be mighty rich or rich at all but at least be able to hold their own. if you get what i mean, marrying for riches is wrong

mystletainn
January 21st, 2008, 09:09 AM
I can't exactly get married anytime soon, but I see nothing wrong with using a potential partner's wealth as a deciding factor. It's not at the top of the criteria, but it's up there. I don't want a loser boyfriend.

Ausaudriel
January 21st, 2008, 09:17 AM
There are more important things. :/

If I really love someone, I wouldn't mind if he's dirt poor. I'd take pleasure in spending on him, as a matter of fact.

Careful With That Axe, Pichu!
January 21st, 2008, 09:31 AM
♫ You can't hide your lyin' eyes
And your smile is a thin disguise
I thought by now you'd realize
There ain't no way to hide your lyin eyes ♪

If there is love, it's perfectly fine. If there is not love, that's the couple's problem. Let's imagine a married couple in this situation. The most important thing is the having the certainty that as a couple there's reciprocity when in love, regardless of money. If there is not that confidence, then they probably shouldn't be married in the first place.

mystletainn
January 21st, 2008, 09:44 AM
I've been taken advantage of too many times by losers, who guilt me into paying for everything. It's too much stress and anger to deal with. So, no longer will I date jobless losers or money-pinching tightwads. I'd much rather have someone I can split bills with and take turns buying things for one another than have me be stuck with everything.

Cassino
January 21st, 2008, 09:46 AM
I personally couldn't care less about the financial status of my significant other. "Love conquers all" as they say...

As for girls wanting to marry rich men, believe it to be part of the female nature to find a mate who is successful, powerful, etc... these sorts of animalistic traits that have been watered down by evolution.
i.e. Traditionally, the man does the "away from home" work, while the woman takes care of the children, house, etc.
Thus, it makes sense that women are more likely to prefer a man who is successful and rich, whereas men would prefer young and attractive females who are obviously fertile and whatnot.*


*There was a survey of some description held once that I read about in a newspaper, and these were the results.

22sa
January 21st, 2008, 12:21 PM
I'll agree it's sad if someone's love for you depends on money :\. All your money can be taken from you, and the stock market is gambling basically. To be loved for the money... and I bet some will marry you then divorce you to get half your money for free.

That said, rich people are very lovable though! Making riches is one of the hardest, most admirable acheivements on earth! It's not weird to fall for a rich guy, if they are people who deserve their wealth.

Weatherman, Kiyoshi
January 21st, 2008, 12:57 PM
Thats really immuture, I mean yes it is good to be wealthy and have lots of money to spend. But pretending to love someone just because of their bank account sounds stupid.

Have to agree with ya, perry.

Marrying someone with an overflowing wallet for just the money,
just seems selfish to me.
and greedy.

I've even heard of a story where a billionare was cheated out of millions.
even his own son got greedy and stole thousands by pretending he had a wrighting company and his father was funding it.

wis own wife almost stole half his mone.y if he didn't check his banking accounts, it would all have been lost.

anyone who would steal money or purposely rely on someone for thier own expensives,
is a selfish, greedy, terrible person.

anyone who is like that, I hope they get hit by a large automoblie and not survive or catch a horrible non-curible diesese.

Jessie
January 21st, 2008, 01:09 PM
I also know some girls on the feminist and independent side who argue that they shouldn't rely on someone rich to make money and that they should make their own riches.
This is me! I kind of hope I -don't- get married. xD I do NOT want kids. Never. No way. Nu-uh. The thing would probably die with me within the first day anyway and knowing me I'd probably forget to feed it.

I plan on earning a living by studying/researching animals (whales and manatee's hopefully, and maybe some african animals!) and doing something to help save them from extinction. Another fun thing to do would be to rehabilitate wild, injured manatee's and then release them into the wild. :D

I sure as heck don't need no man around to do that.

Sorano
January 21st, 2008, 01:34 PM
lol, this is a topic my Dad just won't shut up about. x_x "SO WHAT ARE YOUR PLANS FOR MARRYING A RICH MAN?!"

Personally, money doesn't mean anything to me in a relationship. Sure, if I was planning on marrying this person, I'd want to be able to at least support a family, but I don't need a lot of it. I wouldn't be able to live in a relationship that didn't have love. I don't plan on just leaving it to the guy to get money, anyway. I'll want a career of my own. :/

I have nothing against people who do marry just for money, though. That's their decision, and if they want to take a risk like that, then fine.

Aegis
January 21st, 2008, 04:18 PM
I guess money might play a small part on who/when I decided to marry, but I they're other things that would come first. I certainly wouldn't marry somebody just for money, I'd have to love them at the least. I know lots of families who married for money and didn't really like each other though. Most of them seemed pretty happy, so I guess it's just whatever you prefer. Love, or money. :x

Lumine
January 21st, 2008, 05:45 PM
One day all you guys will realize that you only work for money for your wife to spend, it's the law of nature.

Saryka
January 21st, 2008, 06:28 PM
I have to admit that money would play a small role on who I would marry in the future. Not so much if he comes from money, but if he works hard and has money. I wouldn't want to marry someone who's not willing to work and earn money (I don't care how much he makes, just as long as he's making money and he's not a loser). I definitely gotta love him too :D

Cherrim
January 21st, 2008, 06:42 PM
I'd probably marry someone without loving them if I was offered enough money. :B That's not really what the thread is asking, though.

I do plan on having a career of my own. No way am I going to depend fully on a spouse since I'd hate that. I'm very independent and... relying on someone for everything? That would really bother me. At the same time, I don't want my spouse fully depending on me since that's not really fair. Money, or the ability to earn it, will most definitely play a part in any relationship I'm in.

Saryka
January 21st, 2008, 06:50 PM
No, I do look forward to having a career. xD I meant that I don't want to be the only one bringing in the income in the house. I can't rely on someone else to make money for me. It's unfair, and boring, since what the heck would I do if I wasn't working? :/ I don't want to pay for someone else either because it's not fair for me. Marriage involves teamwork, and we would both need to hold our ends of the bargain and make money 8D

!gnition
January 21st, 2008, 11:04 PM
Sure money can buy you that 5000+ sq ft. house, Mercedes, or the diamond ring you always wanted, but can it buy love?

I don't think so. Probably love for the money, and a divorce later on down the road... Money should be a important part in any couple because in order to have a family, buy a house and car, and pay the bills, the family needs a steady income. But it shouldn't be everything, and that's just my opinion.

Snivi
January 21st, 2008, 11:18 PM
My dad made this mistake with my step mom. She has plenty of money but do you think she let him spend any of it? Nope.

Would you want to have to ask someone for permission to buy something or have your own money and buy what you want without having to get permission.

I have a girlfriend at work and she cannot buy anything without getting the third degree from her stupid boyfriend.

Then there is my baby sister, she has to ask her husband for everything! When she does have a job he takes every cent she makes away from her.

Money and your relationship should be seperate in my opinion. When I was married that is how me and my ex did it. We split the bills and what we had left over was for ourselves.

I would never marry someone for money even if you do that doesn't mean they will let you have any access to it.

Razer302
January 22nd, 2008, 02:15 AM
I don't like to depend on anyone. I like to pay for things myself. I don't want to have my girlfriend paying for everything for me. I would much rather pay for it all.

Amoeba
January 22nd, 2008, 02:40 AM
It would be nice to be comfortable, to not have to worry about money with someone you truly loved. But if you're with someone only because they've got money, then you're living a lie. I mean, you'd have to fake so much, so many of the relationship aspects you'd have to put on a mask and pretend ... and if you did gain some control over the money aspects, who's to say people will like you for you? Maybe people will start being friends with you just because you have money? (not definate, but it happens)

Nah. There's something about it to me just seems so... filthy. *shudders*

I don't plan to marry. But I am in a relationship. He has less money than I do. And I don't have much. I wouldn't want to be with anyone else. We share what we have. When one of us has more, we help the other out. We love each other, that's why we're together. Money is not necessary for love to happen.

Jesus Freak Josh
January 22nd, 2008, 03:36 AM
Though I wouldn't care either way, it would probably be nice to be in a relationship with someone that knows how to handle money. :P

Avey
January 22nd, 2008, 09:11 AM
What a funny thread.

No. I mean, look at all the Hollywood relationships that have been destroyed because it was only for money. Love is love. Money helps, but isn't needed.

Nuke
January 22nd, 2008, 11:00 AM
Money is great but relationships for money are idiotic.

You just end up with one heavy divorce fee.

^Although thats avery small reason why not to.

Snivi
January 22nd, 2008, 11:05 AM
Though I wouldn't care either way, it would probably be nice to be in a relationship with someone that knows how to handle money. :PJust because someone has a lot of money doesn't necessarily mean they know how to handle it.

22sa
January 22nd, 2008, 12:04 PM
I don't like to depend on anyone. I like to pay for things myself. I don't want to have my girlfriend paying for everything for me. I would much rather pay for it all.
Wow, I want to be your girlfriend!

...O_o

Umm, I'd love to marry a rich girl! Assuming she's not over 10 years older then me. I can't see it happening in the real world though.

Jesus Freak Josh
January 22nd, 2008, 12:09 PM
Just because someone has a lot of money doesn't necessarily mean they know how to handle it.
If they earned it themselves, it would mean that most people would somewhat know how to handle it. I definitely wouldn't marry a stupid person to begin with.

badgerskunk
January 23rd, 2008, 01:03 PM
All moneys made above and beyond the level needed to survive with adequate food and shelter is a partner to greed and an enemy of true happiness.

aarathi
February 14th, 2008, 01:16 AM
I am agree with your opinion.

Gerri Shin
February 14th, 2008, 08:14 AM
well the most important factor for me is the love and the bond shared between me and the person I wish to marry, if that isn't there than it wouldn't matter how much money she has. I'd much rather go broke with the girl I love than be rich with a girl I'd most likely end up despising.