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Chibi-chan
March 30th, 2008, 02:30 PM
Seeing that the other thread was popular, we're making a new one and stickying it! :D
But this time, there will be some rules. Please read them first.


Follow standard OC rules.
Please don't use this thread to vent.
No one liners.
Do not post stupid problems or problems that can't be solved. Ex: "I'm turning 16! Help!!" "I didn't study for a test tomorrow!" "I've been diagnosed with _____"
Do not post stupid answers.
Respect other members and their problems.


These rules may be modified as seems fit. Hopefully your problems will be solved. (b'-')b

BREAKINGBEN
March 31st, 2008, 06:10 PM
Well, I guess I'll start off. There is this girl I like (soo original..) and we were at one point really close friends. Just one problem to that, she is one of the "popular" kids and whenever I am around them, she completely ignores me.

This came into play a few weeks ago, she invited me to the movies with those 'friends' telling me that I would have fun... it was the least bit enjoyable. At first I thought it was going to be OK, everyone (at first) I saw greeted me and kinda talked to me, then we met up with her and her boyfriend.

Just to clue you guys in, I hate her boyfriend for three reasons 1. he normally gets a lot of girls (I don't), 2. I think his a.... [profane]....., and 3. he has the same first name + last initial as I do.

It was OK when we first said hi to them, but it just went downhill from there. I was pushed to the back of everything, conversations, food (decisions or something like that?), and other stuff. They even changed the movie on me AFTER I bought the ticket for the one I thought we were all gonna see (I had to eavesdrop to actually figure this out). The movie was terrible, I sat next to no one, and no one even realized that I left.

For the past two weeks I have been ignoring her to try and figure a way to straighten this out, I have come up with no solutions. What should I do... Stay friends with her? Talk to her... but not necessarily as a friend? Or should I just forget about her altogether?

P.S.-When I said Good friends, I meant REALLY good friends.

Razer302
April 1st, 2008, 12:18 AM
I would talk to her but not as a friend. Tell her how you were left out and didn't have a good time and ask her if she even noticed you and left. If she was bothered about you being there she would have noticed you were missing.

She doesn't treat you like much of a friend at all. Ignoring someone and not talking to you when she invited you is wrong. I think she is selfish and you should just be with the friends you know will talk to you and not leave you out.

People change. You could have been the best of friends but now that one of you have changed you have got different intrests. You dan't want to leave all the rest of your friends out for her or you will end up losing them aswell. I think losing her as a friend would be better than losing all your other friends because they felt ignored.

Avey
April 2nd, 2008, 05:17 AM
Well, I guess I'll start off. There is this girl I like (soo original..) and we were at one point really close friends. Just one problem to that, she is one of the "popular" kids and whenever I am around them, she completely ignores me. [/B]


That's what happens with some people. They're scared what their 'cool' friends will think if they hang out with someone who isn't classified as cool. Most are just scared that the 'cool' kids won't hang out with them anymore.


This came into play a few weeks ago, she invited me to the movies with those 'friends' telling me that I would have fun... it was the least bit enjoyable. At first I thought it was going to be OK, everyone (at first) I saw greeted me and kinda talked to me, then we met up with her and her boyfriend.


So she has a boyfriend.


Just to clue you guys in, I hate her boyfriend for three reasons 1. he normally gets a lot of girls (I don't), 2. I think his a.... [profane]....., and 3. he has the same first name + last initial as I do.


Okay. Those are three pretty horrifically stereotypical reasons for hating someone. He could be a really nice guy who just gets lucky with the ladies, none of your reasons are good enough to actually dislike him.

It was OK when we first said hi to them, but it just went downhill from there. I was pushed to the back of everything, conversations, food (decisions or something like that?), and other stuff. They even changed the movie on me AFTER I bought the ticket for the one I thought we were all gonna see (I had to eavesdrop to actually figure this out). The movie was terrible, I sat next to no one, and no one even realized that I left.[/B]


It's called elitism. Your friend has new friends that think they're better than everyone and she has to act that way too if she wants to keep hanging out with them, even f it means being mean to you.


For the past two weeks I have been ignoring her to try and figure a way to straighten this out, I have come up with no solutions. What should I do... Stay friends with her? Talk to her... but not necessarily as a friend? Or should I just forget about her altogether?


Forget her? Just tell her she's treating you unfairly, normally makes elitists see the error of their ways.

Mr.Roserade
April 3rd, 2008, 08:05 PM
Alright, I have a severe problems that i cant fix,
1.Im burning out horribly
2.And since I was burning out, I got sent to nowhere wyoming, and I dont get along with my grandpa at all, thats who I live with now, and I have the money to get a plane ticket, so Im about to be 17, but once I leave Im a runaway, but I also have a place the authorites cant find me, so I could wait it out till im 18 and lose the charge.
But then I figure ill just get my G.E.D and join the army....
When I say I dont get along with my grandpa, I mean I DONT GET ALONG WITH HIM AT ALL!!!! I mean i no wuss, but he's threating to beat me and Im not scared but if I hit him back ill end up getting some bs charge because I have a history...

What should I do

Oh and Ben, just leave her alone, she'll end up breaking up with the guy, realize her friends arent that great, and then want to apologize, but dont succumb, tell her if she was really your friend she wouldnt have been a..um not nice person

Gunn
April 5th, 2008, 07:46 PM
I'm really opposed on the idea to run away; I feel that this will just spur even more complications with your grandfather or any other members of your family. Really, don't do it. I've done it before and it only made matters even worse. Moreover, I ask of you not to become physical with him because of not only of your "history," which will add more of, but I'm going to assume that your grandfather is an elder, which I believe that some psychological issues could result.

Stay onto the track of receiving your GED. It shouldn't take that long on getting it. And if you really want to enlist into any branch of the military, you really should stay out of trouble because your criminal history plays a large role when getting started and it starts when being interviewed by an army recruiter. The federal law will investigate your records, even juvenile records. I'm heading towards the army too, but since I'm 18 and if I do anything which offends the law, I can be charged as an adult. Not everyone has the right to join the army.

I hope things become better with your grandfather, dear.

Mr.Roserade
April 5th, 2008, 07:52 PM
I understand where your coming from, but its him trying to get physical, not me..and I was a runaway half the summer, thats another reason Im here..and my charges arent anything bad, just an assualt charge for beating up some dude who hit one of my girl friends, and few things for weed and stuff so idk.....thanks for the feedback, you gave me some thing to think about

Lady Nicole
April 8th, 2008, 03:34 AM
I can't do matrices. I can't do it at all :'( Omg... I really need help with transformations. Can someone do this question and show all the working?

The transformation T of the plane is equivalent to a reflection in the line y = x followed by a translation in which the point (x, y) is translated to the point (x +1, y + 2).
a) Find the 3x3 matrix representing T.
b) Show that T has no fixed points.

Yeah, it's a simple question and I can't even do those :'( Matrices is not my strongest point, I have to say.

But when I try to get T I end up with a 2x2 for the reflection and a 3x3 for the translation, so I can't multiply them. Do I need to put in an extra line or something on the 2x2? (Yeah, I've got no idea about matrices) And I don't really get what it means when it says "the point (x, y) is translated to the point (x + 1, y + 2)." Why does it say point and not line? Does that mean the origin or what? *confused*

I've ended up with:
(0 1)
(1 0)
for the reflection
and
(1 0 -1)
(0 1 -2)
(0 0 1)
for the translation

That's completely wrong isn't it? I honestly have no idea about matrices... Omg. Missing the whole topic of matrices doesn't help :'(

Dawg 2005
April 8th, 2008, 03:55 PM
Okaaay. So in the last thread, I had a love thing going on.
Click to get the story. (http://pkmncommunity.com/showpost.php?p=3417735&postcount=950)

Okay, so yesterday, we went for a walk around the lake by her house. We joked around, and we sat down on some rocks and talked for a long time. We started walking back to her house, and about half way there (still around the lake), we stopped. We talked about how she thinks I should cut my hair, and then she said, "...If I do something, will you promise to not tell anyone?"
"Of course, yeah."

Then there was a long pause.

"What would you do if I just kissed you?"

wtf.

"Uh, I don't know..." (At this point, I couldn't look at her, I was shocked as a mofo.)

"Would you let me?"

"...Yeah... I guess."

Then she walked forward, put her arms around me, and kissed me (not open-mouth kthx, which lasted about 3-5 seconds).

"...Okay then."
I had no idea what to say. Seriously.
And that was my first kiss. D: (I'm lame like that)

We walked back to her house, chilled, and her sister gave me a ride back home.

Okay, this may sound really "aww" to a lot of you, but...
she doesn't like me.

This is the part that's hard to explain. Which I totally don't know how.

Honestly, can something really happen? I'm confused beyond belief.

Amachi
April 8th, 2008, 04:37 PM
then just try to forget about it all since she's obviously

1. Messing around with you.
2. She just wants -some-.

In any case, it's not worth your time unless your feelings for each other are mutual.

Lumine
April 9th, 2008, 10:23 AM
I can't do matrices. I can't do it at all :'( Omg... I really need help with transformations. Can someone do this question and show all the working?

The transformation T of the plane is equivalent to a reflection in the line y = x followed by a translation in which the point (x, y) is translated to the point (x +1, y + 2).
a) Find the 3x3 matrix representing T.
b) Show that T has no fixed points.

Yeah, it's a simple question and I can't even do those :'( Matrices is not my strongest point, I have to say.

But when I try to get T I end up with a 2x2 for the reflection and a 3x3 for the translation, so I can't multiply them. Do I need to put in an extra line or something on the 2x2? (Yeah, I've got no idea about matrices) And I don't really get what it means when it says "the point (x, y) is translated to the point (x + 1, y + 2)." Why does it say point and not line? Does that mean the origin or what? *confused*

I've ended up with:
(0 1)
(1 0)
for the reflection
and
(1 0 -1)
(0 1 -2)
(0 0 1)
for the translation

That's completely wrong isn't it? I honestly have no idea about matrices... Omg. Missing the whole topic of matrices doesn't help :'(



Well Nicole I tried another way and considering an arbitrary point (x,y). Which mean applying T would transform (x,y) into (y,x) then into (y+1,x+2).

Consider the base for R^2 {(1,0),(0,1)}.
Then, applying T gives us

T((1,0)) = (1,3) and T((0,1)) = (2,2).

Thus, the matrix transformation would be

[ 1 2 ]
[ 3 2 ]

Since T((1,0)) = (1,3) = 1(1,0)+3(0,1) and
T((0,1)) = (2,2) = 2(1,0)+2(0,1). This is in the matrix representation wrt.
(Not sure here)

As for the next question suppose (x,y) is a fixed point. Then T((x,y)) = (x,y).

But by above T((x,y)) = (y+1,x+2).

Hence, by equality of points in R^2:

x=y+1
y=x+2

Adding these will give you

x+y = y+x+3

In other words it's not possible.

Yuzix
April 9th, 2008, 12:46 PM
Okaaay. So in the last thread, I had a love thing going on.
Click to get the story. (http://pkmncommunity.com/showpost.php?p=3417735&postcount=950)

Okay, so yesterday, we went for a walk around the lake by her house. We joked around, and we sat down on some rocks and talked for a long time. We started walking back to her house, and about half way there (still around the lake), we stopped. We talked about how she thinks I should cut my hair, and then she said, "...If I do something, will you promise to not tell anyone?"
"Of course, yeah."

Then there was a long pause.

"What would you do if I just kissed you?"

wtf.

"Uh, I don't know..." (At this point, I couldn't look at her, I was shocked as a mofo.)

"Would you let me?"

"...Yeah... I guess."

Then she walked forward, put her arms around me, and kissed me (not open-mouth kthx, which lasted about 3-5 seconds).

"...Okay then."
I had no idea what to say. Seriously.
And that was my first kiss. D: (I'm lame like that)

We walked back to her house, chilled, and her sister gave me a ride back home.

Okay, this may sound really "aww" to a lot of you, but...
she doesn't like me.

This is the part that's hard to explain. Which I totally don't know how.

Honestly, can something really happen? I'm confused beyond belief.


If you know for a fact that she does not like you then i'd ignore that ever happening. What kind of a relationship do you have with this girl?

Dawg 2005
April 9th, 2008, 04:05 PM
If you know for a fact that she does not like you then i'd ignore that ever happening. What kind of a relationship do you have with this girl?

She's my best friend. *Making things awkward, but today we were back to normal*

Amachi. NO. She's not that kind of person at all. She doesn't go around kissing people. The only person besides me that she's kissed is her ex-boyfriend.

DarkKnight541
April 9th, 2008, 05:46 PM
Hmmm... I'm not so good at reading people, but I'd say that she likes you. Try going on 1 date together, just ask her if she just wants to try it out, as friends.


Yeah, I know, I'm not so good with this stuff.

Avey
April 10th, 2008, 02:51 PM
Okaaay. So in the last thread, I had a love thing going on.
Click to get the story. (http://pkmncommunity.com/showpost.php?p=3417735&postcount=950)

Okay, so yesterday, we went for a walk around the lake by her house. We joked around, and we sat down on some rocks and talked for a long time. We started walking back to her house, and about half way there (still around the lake), we stopped. We talked about how she thinks I should cut my hair, and then she said, "...If I do something, will you promise to not tell anyone?"
"Of course, yeah."

Then there was a long pause.

"What would you do if I just kissed you?"

wtf.

"Uh, I don't know..." (At this point, I couldn't look at her, I was shocked as a mofo.)

"Would you let me?"

"...Yeah... I guess."

Then she walked forward, put her arms around me, and kissed me (not open-mouth kthx, which lasted about 3-5 seconds).

"...Okay then."
I had no idea what to say. Seriously.
And that was my first kiss. D: (I'm lame like that)

We walked back to her house, chilled, and her sister gave me a ride back home.

Okay, this may sound really "aww" to a lot of you, but...
she doesn't like me.

This is the part that's hard to explain. Which I totally don't know how.

Honestly, can something really happen? I'm confused beyond belief.

It means that when she said she didn't like you, she was lying.

Jaimes
April 10th, 2008, 02:57 PM
Not really... lots of people will make out with anyone just for the sole purpose of enjoyment or out of boredom. Especially those who have already once been in a relationship. Kinda speaking from experience here....

Besides if you were going to kiss someone as if you actually meant it.. you probably wouldn't give a 3 second peck.. that's comparatively lame.

Mr.Roserade
April 10th, 2008, 03:23 PM
I agree with jaimes, Ive made out with women with out thinking ya know ooh i like you blah blah

Dawg 2005
April 10th, 2008, 04:21 PM
Well, that's you. My personal opinion is that going around doing that is really screwed up. It's called Lust. I'm sure you've heard of it (besides from that anime show). She felt that she was giving back what I gave her (which is, support, friendship, a lot of other stuff). I haven't mentioned this before, because everyone will think that I'm a total loser who can't get a girl, but that was my first kiss. And you know what? I'm glad it was from her.

Thanks for helping everyone, but I really think there's nothing else I can do.

Yuzix
April 10th, 2008, 04:39 PM
Well, that's you. My personal opinion is that going around doing that is really screwed up. It's called Lust. I'm sure you've heard of it (besides from that anime show). She felt that she was giving back what I gave her (which is, support, friendship, a lot of other stuff). I haven't mentioned this before, because everyone will think that I'm a total loser who can't get a girl, but that was my first kiss. And you know what? I'm glad it was from her.

Thanks for helping everyone, but I really think there's nothing else I can do.

No man you're not a loser.^^ Like you said, be glad that it was from your best friend. Yeah it might be lust what shes feeling. But on the other hand let me tell you a "what if"... What if she did it to see how you would react to being more than just friends? I'm not saying this is the case but it can be. Ofcourse there's nothing like having really good communication, try talking to her about it. ^^

DarkKnight541
April 10th, 2008, 05:01 PM
Well, that's you. My personal opinion is that going around doing that is really screwed up. It's called Lust. I'm sure you've heard of it (besides from that anime show). She felt that she was giving back what I gave her (which is, support, friendship, a lot of other stuff). I haven't mentioned this before, because everyone will think that I'm a total loser who can't get a girl, but that was my first kiss. And you know what? I'm glad it was from her.

Thanks for helping everyone, but I really think there's nothing else I can do.


Listen to this, don't worry about the past or the future, for they do not exist. You're entire life exists in the present. Never let an opportunity pass you by.

Mr.Roserade
April 10th, 2008, 06:25 PM
Dude its not that Im person with no morales, i just party alot....but i understand what its like to be in love with your best friend, it happened to me, we dated for like almost a year and broke up.....just remember sometimes its just better to stay friends...

txteclipse
April 10th, 2008, 08:05 PM
Well, do you want her to like you? If the answer is "no", then don't worry about it. If the answer is "yes", then just ask her about it. Be like "hey, you know the other day when you kissed me? Should I read into that?" or something along those lines.

Actually, you may just want to ask her either way. It will probably feel awkward, but if she's that close of a friend I can guarantee that it will be fine. In any case, you'll feel more confident in what you should be thinking about the situation once you really know what's going on.

Chibi-chan
April 11th, 2008, 02:07 AM
Okaaay. So in the last thread, I had a love thing going on.
Click to get the story. (http://pkmncommunity.com/showpost.php?p=3417735&postcount=950)

Okay, so yesterday, we went for a walk around the lake by her house. We joked around, and we sat down on some rocks and talked for a long time. We started walking back to her house, and about half way there (still around the lake), we stopped. We talked about how she thinks I should cut my hair, and then she said, "...If I do something, will you promise to not tell anyone?"
"Of course, yeah."

Then there was a long pause.

"What would you do if I just kissed you?"

wtf.

"Uh, I don't know..." (At this point, I couldn't look at her, I was shocked as a mofo.)

"Would you let me?"

"...Yeah... I guess."

Then she walked forward, put her arms around me, and kissed me (not open-mouth kthx, which lasted about 3-5 seconds).

"...Okay then."
I had no idea what to say. Seriously.
And that was my first kiss. D: (I'm lame like that)

We walked back to her house, chilled, and her sister gave me a ride back home.

Okay, this may sound really "aww" to a lot of you, but...
she doesn't like me.

This is the part that's hard to explain. Which I totally don't know how.

Honestly, can something really happen? I'm confused beyond belief.

You need a female's opinion on this topic! >;
Well, if I had done this, this would mean that I'd have to have a loooooot of trust in you. And yeah, she does like you. That's a given. The thing is is that she doesn't want other people to know that she likes you...could there be a reason for that?

Mr.Roserade
April 11th, 2008, 10:14 AM
Wow, chibi-chan is smart =O

Dawg 2005
April 11th, 2008, 12:18 PM
You need a female's opinion on this topic! >;
Well, if I had done this, this would mean that I'd have to have a loooooot of trust in you. And yeah, she does like you. That's a given. The thing is is that she doesn't want other people to know that she likes you...could there be a reason for that?

The trust thing makes sense, since we both trust each other with our lives, pretty much.

I can't think of anything. I'm sure I've done nothing wrong.
If she liked me, then why wouldn't she just say?

Avey
April 11th, 2008, 02:12 PM
Let's just say that the mind of a teenage girl is unpredictable.

Chibi-chan
April 11th, 2008, 04:36 PM
The trust thing makes sense, since we both trust each other with our lives, pretty much.

I can't think of anything. I'm sure I've done nothing wrong.
If she liked me, then why wouldn't she just say?

Because she doesn't want anyone else knowing or she thinks you'll make a big deal about it.
I'm sure she doesn't want to risk you changing because of it so...she won't openly say it.

Jubilation
April 11th, 2008, 09:56 PM
Oh wow, I can't belive my thread was actually stickied ^^;;. Well some she may have a hard time expressing her emotions?

Dawg 2005
April 12th, 2008, 11:31 AM
Because she doesn't want anyone else knowing or she thinks you'll make a big deal about it.
I'm sure she doesn't want to risk you changing because of it so...she won't openly say it.

No disrespect to you, but I think you might be wrong.

I asked her if that kiss meant anything, and she said she'll tell me later; on myspace.

even though when i explained it before and it sounded like i was saying that it didnt mean anything...well. i guessed i phrased it wrong.

cause i did mean it. just in different ways.
it didnt mean "i want you like that" or "things could happen between us."

it meant something more...deep.
like...

i know you so well. so please let me. i want to share something more with you than just a hug for once. i literally want you to be able to feel what i'm thinking.

i know that was a bad idea and it was very rash.

but i had to. i wanted to. if i didnt then, i never would.

but...even now, trying to explain it isnt working very well.
so.

i have a big big question.
The question was, "Will you give me another chance? Not to screw up?"

Of course, I said yeah.

"so that's what you needed to ask me?"

"sort of. yeah."

"sort of? there's more to it?"

"yeah.but not now."

Then we dropped that conversation.

Wtf.

Chibi-chan
April 12th, 2008, 12:51 PM
Well, I don't know what to tell ya.
You know your friend more than I ever would.
I'm just going by girl standard.

Gummy
April 12th, 2008, 03:32 PM
Dawg 2005: I've been in a situation like that before, but my advice to you is to let fate take its course and don't try to force anything.

txteclipse
April 12th, 2008, 07:36 PM
That's...pretty general, I guess, so...well...I got next to nothing DX

There could be a wide spectrum of things going on, everything from her needing to confide in you about something to her just needing to reassure herself that she has a really good friend.

For the second one I have an example: there was a fire near our house, and a family we kinda know had to evacuate. We basically took them in, and they have a daughter around my age. Anyways, this woman was like clinging to me and hugging me and stuff. I truly didn't know her that well at all, and it was awkward. Looking back, however, I think she just really needed to be certain that there was a person that cared for her and was sympathetic to her condition.

So I guess your friend could be doing something like that with you, except you know each other a lot better and it's kissing instead of hugging. I wouldn't go out and ask her what's wrong, however, because that's just a hunch. When she's ready to tell you what's up, I think she will, if there's even anything wrong in the first place.

Or maybe she won't. I don't know...I'm not a girl...she might be expecting you to pursue the conversation and get to the root of things. Opposite-gender types would probably be better at answering that, though.

Mr.Roserade
April 13th, 2008, 05:31 PM
Alright I have a BIGGGG problem, what if you know something that you know will hurt a friend and possibly cause you to lose one too??? Yeah it involves a girl and I dont know if I should keep muh mouthshut or just tell my friend??

Razer302
April 14th, 2008, 12:32 AM
It depends what the problem is. If it is that she is cheating on him then I always think they should be told. It is worse if they eventually find out that she has and discover you knew but didn't tell them. They will blame you for being hurt and will probably never talk to you again.

Dawg 2005
April 14th, 2008, 08:48 PM
Alright I have a BIGGGG problem, what if you know something that you know will hurt a friend and possibly cause you to lose one too??? Yeah it involves a girl and I dont know if I should keep muh mouthshut or just tell my friend??

We need some more detail...

Mr.Roserade
April 14th, 2008, 09:12 PM
Well two of my better friends go out, and the girl cheated on him with another one of are close friends =/

Anxiety.
April 15th, 2008, 09:41 AM
It's not my problem really, but I am concerned for my friend who may have SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) and I want to know if there is another cure other than the light box as it costs a lot of money. Or if there is anything I, as a friend whom does NOT live with her, can do to help.

Thanks a billion xD

Unlimited NiGHTS
April 16th, 2008, 08:31 AM
My problem is Avatar and mewthree w/armor feel it's necessary to spam up my profile with their moronic nonissues with me. Honestly, you both need to get the hell off.

Zanacross
April 16th, 2008, 11:32 AM
You do realize that you can report it to an administrator?
And this isn't the place to post this problem.

Unlimited NiGHTS
April 16th, 2008, 11:47 AM
You do realize that you can report it to an administrator?
And this isn't the place to post this problem.

1. I believe this is the "post your problems" thread. Therefore, it's the perfect place to post this, because it is a problem.

2. I already have, but it's likely that Rukario will just side with mewthree w/armor, declare him innocent, and not believe anything a lowly supporter has to say.

Amachi
April 16th, 2008, 02:24 PM
1. Problems with other members should be directed to the attention of the staff, not posted here.

2. Maybe then it would have been a smart idea not to delete the messages.

Anyway, you already seem to be discussing this with Rukario, hence proving your assumptions wrong, so there is no need to post here about it again.

Namine66
April 19th, 2008, 05:16 AM
Does anyone know anything about SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). Because i want to know if there is any other cure other than 'the light box'.
thanks bye

DragonsofTime654
April 19th, 2008, 06:27 PM
Okay so i like this girl and i think she likes me, what should i do!? I need suggestions on what to do! HELP PLZ!!!!!

Smarties-chan
April 20th, 2008, 12:47 AM
Okay so i like this girl and i think she likes me, what should i do!? I need suggestions on what to do! HELP PLZ!!!!!
It would be better to have a bit more information. How good is your relationship with this girl and perhaps even more importantly, how much do you like her? If you have a solid friendship with her, then I say you should just go for it and admit your feelings for her. If you don't really know her that well, try befriending her before making your move. That way, even if she doesn't feel the same way, you'll still have her friendship which you should value more than anything if you truly care for her. I know from experience that telling someone about your feelings might not be easy, but afterwards, even if things don't turn out as well as you might have hoped, it'll feel better. Trust me, if she really is important to you you'll hate yourself if you never tell her how you feel. Bottling up your feelings does no one any good. If she feels the same way, then good, if she doesn't, life moves on, but if you know each other well enough, you two should still be friends afterwards, and if such a thing ruins your friendship, she isn't worth the trouble to begin with.

sims796
April 20th, 2008, 01:03 AM
It would be better to have a bit more information. How good is your relationship with this girl and perhaps even more importantly, how much do you like her? If you have a solid friendship with her, then I say you should just go for it and admit your feelings for her. If you don't really know her that well, try befriending her before making your move. That way, even if she doesn't feel the same way, you'll still have her friendship which you should value more than anything if you truly care for her. I know from experience that telling someone about your feelings might not be easy, but afterwards, even if things don't turn out as well as you might have hoped, it'll feel better. Trust me, if she really is important to you you'll hate yourself if you never tell her how you feel. Bottling up your feelings does no one any good. If she feels the same way, then good, if she doesn't, life moves on, but if you know each other well enough, you two should still be friends afterwards, and if such a thing ruins your friendship, she isn't worth the trouble to begin with.

Not knowing is very annoying. Straight up finding out a good yes or no might put your mind at ease.

heyj524
April 20th, 2008, 08:23 AM
i want to know why i have to do 15 posts before i can put links up

Aegis
April 20th, 2008, 08:31 AM
That rule is in place to prevent members from joining on the sole purpose of advertising to other websites and forums. And while we are on the subject of rules, I'd suggest you go and read them, (http://www.pokecommunity.com/showthread.php?t=91723) spamming to get your fifteen posts is not allowed.

evilcheese
April 20th, 2008, 03:28 PM
ok im making a final report for P.E. and my theme is basketball. i want three topics and i cant pick which one. for the second part of this i have to do an oral presentation so the 2 im stuck with are

in game terms (assist, bank shot, etc.)
or defense

please help i need to get this done today becuase this is do thursday.

BakingBluePotatoe
April 24th, 2008, 06:44 PM
um... I'm ashamed to be admitting this... -.-

so we're in Life Science this year, and now we are studying animals... that's all fine and dandy is it not?
Well, that's not QUITE the issue... it's... *cringes* HOW we study them...
*shudder* oh how we had to look at... dead animals... in this liquid... in a jar... *faints*

Somebody mentioned that next week we'll be................ dissecting stuff.

truly sickening how they make us do that... *shudder*

I for one will not take part in this.
But how can I get out of it...?

Gerri Shin
April 24th, 2008, 06:55 PM
um... I'm ashamed to be admitting this... -.-

so we're in Life Science this year, and now we are studying animals... that's all fine and dandy is it not?
Well, that's not QUITE the issue... it's... *cringes* HOW we study them...
*shudder* oh how we had to look at... dead animals... in this liquid... in a jar... *faints*

Somebody mentioned that next week we'll be................ dissecting stuff.

truly sickening how they make us do that... *shudder*

I for one will not take part in this.
But how can I get out of it...?

It's rather understandable that dissecting Labs make some people queazy and uncomfortable. That being said I took AP Biology my senior year and encountered a situation similar to yours. While I'm not usually uncomfortable with dissecting labs the last one we did was of the feline nature, and I have three cats at home. here's what I did to get out if it.

Go to the teacher and explain that deissecting animals makes you uncomfortable and that you would really rather not do it. If your teacher is at all reasonable then they will be more than happy to try an accomadate you with some thing that will teach you pretty much the same stuff, but with out having to actually do the lab.
Now I will tell you that throughout the course you may have to at least watch someone dissect something. (and just so you know stuff like earthworms and frog aren't that bad and every specimen that gets sent to schools dies of natural causes so there's nothing inhumane about them.)

fade101
April 24th, 2008, 10:34 PM
Hahahaha... as you can see how desperate i am... i need some help... since there are a lot of girls in this forum, i kinda need some advice/opinion from you guys... i mean girls... ok sooo... i have this friend... and she is a girl... shes havin her birthday soon and i wonder what does a 14 year old girl like or interested in???? i could ask my mum or my sis but trust me... you really dont want me to do that... LoL :embarrass

Zet
April 24th, 2008, 10:38 PM
jewelry is always good but it's more less what does she like, so if you know what she likes/or wants, get her that unless it's beyond your price range

Kishijoten
April 25th, 2008, 08:41 AM
:( doe's anyone know anything a bout taking care of a dog when it refuses to play with you? my collie isn't playing with anyone it just wants to be alone. she seems a bit sassy too can you help me? if you know any tips or ideas please post them here

Anxiety.
April 25th, 2008, 09:42 AM
:( doe's anyone know anything a bout taking care of a dog when it refuses to play with you? my collie isn't playing with anyone it just wants to be alone. she seems a bit sassy too can you help me? if you know any tips or ideas please post them here

Don't think of me as sexist... but it can be about gender, I was reading about someone who's MALE dog will only play with HIM (The farther of the house (Human)) but won't play with the Mother of the house (Human) so sometimes it can be gender, as if it is a boy, it may want to play rough, but doesn't want to hurt anyone. So you might just need to find out what it likes to play, and do that.

Also, if it is new to your house, it might be scared to play, but it will get used to you eventually.

If you got it from a shelter (Where disowned pets live) it might have been abused, in that case you should teach it that you are friendly, give it fuss whenever you can.

If I think of anything, or hear/read about anything, I will update until you say that your dog is playing with you xD

Kishijoten
April 25th, 2008, 12:37 PM
:(hi everyone I'm not doing so well with this whole liking process if you have any love advice please post them here.


Reasons why
* this guy likes me and I do too
* the idea of love isn't so sweet after all
*secret and lies are coming into being
* a road of bitter salt
* I'm a huge mess.....,,,unless you help me i'll be happy

Chibi-chan
April 25th, 2008, 01:11 PM
Can you be a bit more specific about that?
Love isn't a problem; Problems arrive from love.

Jaimes
April 25th, 2008, 03:51 PM
:( doe's anyone know anything a bout taking care of a dog when it refuses to play with you? my collie isn't playing with anyone it just wants to be alone. she seems a bit sassy too can you help me? if you know any tips or ideas please post them here

I'd completely disregard rhiannas post personally, since that single scenario sounds ridiculous and sounds like it is moar determined on the dog-owner relationship.

But I must, stress a dog is NOT a toy. It is an animal and can think, have emotions and change physically. Sure you might want to play with it, but it's also up to the dog if it wants to or not. You shouldn't try forcing it.
There are hundreds of reason's why it may not want to participate. It may be exhausted, hungry or ill causing irritability. Or undergoing hormonal (in heat yah?) or growth changes.

Orange Meganium
May 4th, 2008, 04:50 AM
Well,my problem is,the first forums i joined where pokeplushies.I read the rules,but I repeat,they were my first forums and i got overexcited.Forgetting the rules,i begged for my adoptable to be leveled up.I was banned by Firefall.How unfair.I only broke the rules 2 times,you get a ban there for breaking them 3 tines.I even made a blog to get back in www.zeonzom.wordpress.com but i dont thin i ever will.

Zanacross
May 4th, 2008, 05:05 AM
Well,my problem is,the first forums i joined where pokeplushies.I read the rules,but I repeat,they were my first forums and i got overexcited.Forgetting the rules,i begged for my adoptable to be leveled up.I was banned by Firefall.How unfair.I only broke the rules 2 times,you get a ban there for breaking them 3 tines.I even made a blog to get back in www.zeonzom.wordpress.com (http://www.zeonzom.wordpress.com) but i dont thin i ever will.

This isnt the place to post it.
Well pc in general isn't. Go post it somewhere where people care.

Orange Meganium
May 4th, 2008, 05:09 AM
This isnt the place to post it.
Well pc in general isn't. Go post it somewhere where people care.

What are you on about?This is the"roblems thread"if you havent noticed yet.Its the best place i could post it in!!!:P

Amachi
May 4th, 2008, 05:57 AM
Those aren't the sort of problems that this thread is concerned with, particularly since they concern another forum that we have no relation with (besides the obvious fandom). You got banned there due to your own actions, and that's that. I doubt it's permanent, so you shouldn't worry about it so much.

Orange Meganium
May 4th, 2008, 10:09 AM
It certainly is permanent,pardon me.

The Confuzzler
May 5th, 2008, 10:11 AM
Well i uh have girl problems.. yeah i know a nine year old sue me.. but yeah uh aanyway this is what is happening.

Well a few weeks ago i told some of my friends i liked this girl - who is also my friend but she were not there - So this sneaky guy in my class comes and listens in. He goes and tells them and i get very angry.

So she tells me no because she likes this guy - who is my best friend! - and he does not like her a bit. So i tell her the next day i actually dont when i still did. Then about two weeks later one of my friends tells me that she likes me - kind of an omg moment - And she didn't get angry one bit. But now she moved on to my best friend again. And the other day we were playing this weird word game and nobody could figure it out. My friend looked like he knew it and i said to him if he got it he'd be more popular than me - since i'm popular - and then she gives me a weird stare like she's angry. sOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!

Razer302
May 6th, 2008, 12:10 AM
I think you are to young to even be thinking about things like this right now. I doubt it would last long. So justb wait till your older and then see what happens. If she really liked either of you she wouldn't change so quick between you both. Just wait till your older and concentrate on school for now.

Anxiety.
May 6th, 2008, 11:06 AM
Well i uh have girl problems.. yeah i know a nine year old sue me.. but yeah uh aanyway this is what is happening.

Well a few weeks ago i told some of my friends i liked this girl - who is also my friend but she were not there - So this sneaky guy in my class comes and listens in. He goes and tells them and i get very angry.

So she tells me no because she likes this guy - who is my best friend! - and he does not like her a bit. So i tell her the next day i actually dont when i still did. Then about two weeks later one of my friends tells me that she likes me - kind of an omg moment - And she didn't get angry one bit. But now she moved on to my best friend again. And the other day we were playing this weird word game and nobody could figure it out. My friend looked like he knew it and i said to him if he got it he'd be more popular than me - since i'm popular - and then she gives me a weird stare like she's angry. sOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!

Razor302 hit the nail on the head there. Just see what happens, from what I can tell, she is confused too. So just let her be for a bit, she will sort it out. Anyway, you're only 9, just concentrate on keeping your friends and getting good grades, or marks, or whatever xD
Don't take my word for it though, when I was nine, I had three friends, two of which can't even remember me :( So I don't know much about love between 9 year olds.

Tell you what, think about it, if you really, and I mean really like her, and then PM me, I'll talk you through it, unless you want to carry on posting in this thread. I'm a novice when it comes to love though :(

Kura
May 6th, 2008, 07:32 PM
I dunno if this is a solvable problem.. probably isn't..
But I started work today.. and it's pretty good.. I just.. hate hate hate having to travel like.. an hour to an hour and a half to my workplace.. and then another hour or hour and a half back =_=
Work starts from 9:30 AM to 6PM.. long hours.. I get an hour for lunch..
But I dunno.. I feel like.. my summer is just.. gone. Sure.. I'll have weekends.. but it feels like.. ongoing school or something..
=_= I feel like.. part of my life has ended I guess.. no more summers.. it's just gonna be work work.. and more work..

I dunno how to handle this thought.. it makes me so stressed.. and it makes me tired from having to be stressed all the time..

I want to be able to move on when I'm older and work at a place that I'll love. I feel like I'm putting all this effort in and getting uncertainty in return..

It's scary.


No one can offer me any advice for this at all.. =_= And that's the worst part about this problem.

Maybe my expectations are too high or glamourous or something..

Bug Catcher Nick
May 7th, 2008, 07:20 AM
Can't you move closer to work?

Do you drive there, or use public transport?

txteclipse
May 15th, 2008, 10:28 PM
I dunno if this is a solvable problem.. probably isn't..
But I started work today.. and it's pretty good.. I just.. hate hate hate having to travel like.. an hour to an hour and a half to my workplace.. and then another hour or hour and a half back =_=
Work starts from 9:30 AM to 6PM.. long hours.. I get an hour for lunch..
But I dunno.. I feel like.. my summer is just.. gone. Sure.. I'll have weekends.. but it feels like.. ongoing school or something..
=_= I feel like.. part of my life has ended I guess.. no more summers.. it's just gonna be work work.. and more work..

I dunno how to handle this thought.. it makes me so stressed.. and it makes me tired from having to be stressed all the time..

I want to be able to move on when I'm older and work at a place that I'll love. I feel like I'm putting all this effort in and getting uncertainty in return..

It's scary.


No one can offer me any advice for this at all.. =_= And that's the worst part about this problem.

Maybe my expectations are too high or glamourous or something..

I'm breaking my rule of no posting until I get a fanfic chapter done, but what the heck. I think I can help you out.

Alrighty then: first off, I started working in the summer after my junior year of high school. I wasn't full time, but I worked about 8 hours a day, 4-5 days a week iirc. I was a little bummed out to be working during what was supposed to be my time off, but I got over that pretty much immediately after receiving my first paycheck. I believe I got a DS Lite and Pearl version with that money alone. That's the big thing about work...the money. It may feel like a chore now, kinda the same as school, but school doesn't pay you. So hang in there until your first paycheck, and as long as you don't have to pay rent and such, it will be a big boost.

As for how far you are from work, that's a bit more difficult to negotiate. I live roughly 30 minutes from my job, so I'm not too sure what to say on that...

Xairmo
May 26th, 2008, 10:08 PM
I have somewhat of a problem. Ive been having a lot of drama with my parents lately an d I just cant handle it. I think if I keep going as I am now I'll end up doing something self-destructive. So Ive been considering legal emancipation lately. So I just need a tad bit of help.

Ageless Irony
May 28th, 2008, 07:12 PM
I have a bit of a problem that I feel like posting here. *Trying to be more active, and if I need my problems to help me do so, so be it*

Anyway...I'm having trouble with my parents...
See, they think I'm suicidal :/
I had a similar deal with them in seventh grade about this same subject that pretty much changed our relationship forever. I was reading a book called "Give a boy a gun" (Think Columbine) and I was currently getting bad grades and stuff so they thought I might try something like that. Even though I told them I'd never do that, And I will NEVER do that, they still kept close watch on me and were always talking about my feelings and if I was sad or angry or if I was getting bullied at school...

Anyway, skip forward 5 years or so, and it's happening all over again. A couple months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months who I was very much "in love" with. I'm still too young to know if it was actual love or not. Anyway, I was really depressed and sad and heartbroken...But I'll spare you the details on how we broke up, I just felt really weak and unwanted. So I was sad and wrote some stuff I regret writing (Nothing too creepy, just sad poetry and stuff) And I kept that all in a notebook which I hid pretty well...

Okay, enough back story, heres my real problem. My Dad found the notebook and read EVERYTHING. A lot of very personal stuff was in there. And as a coincidence, the same day he found the notebook, I had spilled some red ink all over my wrist, and he thought I was morbidly imitating hurting myself. So suddenly, he rings up all this stuff to further prove his point, and I keep telling him that it isn't like that and that I'm not hurting myself or going to kill myself. Now they're really protective and won't really let me be alone at all, they keep asking me how I'm feeling. Our relationship is just weird now, and I hate it.
And on top of all that, I heard him talking to my Mom aobut how he doens't want to come home to find his son in a puddle of his own blood, so he thinks he might send me away to camp for a retreat thingy for emotionally disturbed kids.

I just want them to trust me that everything is okay. But they won't believe me...Anyone got any advice on how I can get them to listen? Talking doens't seem to work much...

Hazuki
May 28th, 2008, 07:34 PM
I have somewhat of a problem. Ive been having a lot of drama with my parents lately an d I just cant handle it. I think if I keep going as I am now I'll end up doing something self-destructive. So Ive been considering legal emancipation lately. So I just need a tad bit of help.
Drama with your parents? Such as yelling at them, getting into fights? That's not cool. Your parents are the ones that are here to support you. When you are first born, the first people you see (other than your doctor) is your parents. And when your parents see you, they can't help but love you. That's why you should show them some love, you should let them know everyday you are there for them, and they are there for you.

I would suggest, going up to them and talk about the situation. And then at the end apologize and forget about the whole thing. ^^
I have a bit of a problem that I feel like posting here. *Trying to be more active, and if I need my problems to help me do so, so be it*

Anyway...I'm having trouble with my parents...
See, they think I'm suicidal :/
I had a similar deal with them in seventh grade about this same subject that pretty much changed our relationship forever. I was reading a book called "Give a boy a gun" (Think Columbine) and I was currently getting bad grades and stuff so they thought I might try something like that. Even though I told them I'd never do that, And I will NEVER do that, they still kept close watch on me and were always talking about my feelings and if I was sad or angry or if I was getting bullied at school...

Anyway, skip forward 5 years or so, and it's happening all over again. A couple months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months who I was very much "in love" with. I'm still too young to know if it was actual love or not. Anyway, I was really depressed and sad and heartbroken...But I'll spare you the details on how we broke up, I just felt really weak and unwanted. So I was sad and wrote some stuff I regret writing (Nothing too creepy, just sad poetry and stuff) And I kept that all in a notebook which I hid pretty well...

Okay, enough back story, heres my real problem. My Dad found the notebook and read EVERYTHING. A lot of very personal stuff was in there. And as a coincidence, the same day he found the notebook, I had spilled some red ink all over my wrist, and he thought I was morbidly imitating hurting myself. So suddenly, he rings up all this stuff to further prove his point, and I keep telling him that it isn't like that and that I'm not hurting myself or going to kill myself. Now they're really protective and won't really let me be alone at all, they keep asking me how I'm feeling. Our relationship is just weird now, and I hate it.
And on top of all that, I heard him talking to my Mom aobut how he doens't want to come home to find his son in a puddle of his own blood, so he thinks he might send me away to camp for a retreat thingy for emotionally disturbed kids.

I just want them to trust me that everything is okay. But they won't believe me...Anyone got any advice on how I can get them to listen? Talking doens't seem to work much...

Huh how wierd. Well I'll just skip to the part of your problem. Wow I am so sorry about that. I don't understand why your parents won't listen to you...

Well I hope this doesn't sound offending or anything, but is there any backgrounds around them, and do they do drugs?

BeachBoy
May 28th, 2008, 07:35 PM
I have a bit of a problem that I feel like posting here. *Trying to be more active, and if I need my problems to help me do so, so be it*

Anyway...I'm having trouble with my parents...
See, they think I'm suicidal :/
I had a similar deal with them in seventh grade about this same subject that pretty much changed our relationship forever. I was reading a book called "Give a boy a gun" (Think Columbine) and I was currently getting bad grades and stuff so they thought I might try something like that. Even though I told them I'd never do that, And I will NEVER do that, they still kept close watch on me and were always talking about my feelings and if I was sad or angry or if I was getting bullied at school...

Anyway, skip forward 5 years or so, and it's happening all over again. A couple months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months who I was very much "in love" with. I'm still too young to know if it was actual love or not. Anyway, I was really depressed and sad and heartbroken...But I'll spare you the details on how we broke up, I just felt really weak and unwanted. So I was sad and wrote some stuff I regret writing (Nothing too creepy, just sad poetry and stuff) And I kept that all in a notebook which I hid pretty well...

Okay, enough back story, heres my real problem. My Dad found the notebook and read EVERYTHING. A lot of very personal stuff was in there. And as a coincidence, the same day he found the notebook, I had spilled some red ink all over my wrist, and he thought I was morbidly imitating hurting myself. So suddenly, he rings up all this stuff to further prove his point, and I keep telling him that it isn't like that and that I'm not hurting myself or going to kill myself. Now they're really protective and won't really let me be alone at all, they keep asking me how I'm feeling. Our relationship is just weird now, and I hate it.
And on top of all that, I heard him talking to my Mom aobut how he doens't want to come home to find his son in a puddle of his own blood, so he thinks he might send me away to camp for a retreat thingy for emotionally disturbed kids.

I just want them to trust me that everything is okay. But they won't believe me...Anyone got any advice on how I can get them to listen? Talking doens't seem to work much...

Wow... that's a terrible coincidence for him to find ink on your wrist the day he finds the notebook, ouch. If I were put in this situation, I would sit down and talk it over with them. Usually it doesn't work, but it's the option I would take. If they aren't listening to you sincerely or keep interrupting and such, then maybe make your case on a computer of how there's no way you would ever commit such a stupid task (Taking your life) and that you really don't want to go to such a camp and write it on word and print and give it to both of them so then they have to read it and here your side of everything. However, that's what I would do. Hmm... it's a tough situation, and I think if you really want to show you won't commit suicide and turn their opinion around, I say you kick up your school work (If it's low) and become positive. I'm not sure whether you still haven't moved on about the relationship deal, but you should. Sort of like, become positive and so you appreciate your life to not commit it I guess. I'm not entirely sure how to handle the situation, but yeah... That's all I can currently come up with to aid the situation, hopefully.

Hope things go well~

LaurenLOVESTONED
May 28th, 2008, 08:04 PM
I have a bit of a problem that I feel like posting here. *Trying to be more active, and if I need my problems to help me do so, so be it*

Anyway...I'm having trouble with my parents...
See, they think I'm suicidal :/
I had a similar deal with them in seventh grade about this same subject that pretty much changed our relationship forever. I was reading a book called "Give a boy a gun" (Think Columbine) and I was currently getting bad grades and stuff so they thought I might try something like that. Even though I told them I'd never do that, And I will NEVER do that, they still kept close watch on me and were always talking about my feelings and if I was sad or angry or if I was getting bullied at school...

Anyway, skip forward 5 years or so, and it's happening all over again. A couple months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months who I was very much "in love" with. I'm still too young to know if it was actual love or not. Anyway, I was really depressed and sad and heartbroken...But I'll spare you the details on how we broke up, I just felt really weak and unwanted. So I was sad and wrote some stuff I regret writing (Nothing too creepy, just sad poetry and stuff) And I kept that all in a notebook which I hid pretty well...

Okay, enough back story, heres my real problem. My Dad found the notebook and read EVERYTHING. A lot of very personal stuff was in there. And as a coincidence, the same day he found the notebook, I had spilled some red ink all over my wrist, and he thought I was morbidly imitating hurting myself. So suddenly, he rings up all this stuff to further prove his point, and I keep telling him that it isn't like that and that I'm not hurting myself or going to kill myself. Now they're really protective and won't really let me be alone at all, they keep asking me how I'm feeling. Our relationship is just weird now, and I hate it.
And on top of all that, I heard him talking to my Mom aobut how he doens't want to come home to find his son in a puddle of his own blood, so he thinks he might send me away to camp for a retreat thingy for emotionally disturbed kids.

I just want them to trust me that everything is okay. But they won't believe me...Anyone got any advice on how I can get them to listen? Talking doens't seem to work much...

boy is that a tricky situation. heres a thought, how about going to a counsellor? if you're still upset over losing you're girlfriend its a perfect chance to talk about it and it'll get your parents off your back, hopefully they'll see that you're trying to deal with your "issues" and stop thinking that you're going to try and take your own life. hey, it can't hurt can it?

Ageless Irony
May 28th, 2008, 08:27 PM
Wow... that's a terrible coincidence for him to find ink on your wrist the day he finds the notebook, ouch. If I were put in this situation, I would sit down and talk it over with them. Usually it doesn't work, but it's the option I would take. If they aren't listening to you sincerely or keep interrupting and such, then maybe make your case on a computer of how there's no way you would ever commit such a stupid task (Taking your life) and that you really don't want to go to such a camp and write it on word and print and give it to both of them so then they have to read it and here your side of everything. However, that's what I would do. Hmm... it's a tough situation, and I think if you really want to show you won't commit suicide and turn their opinion around, I say you kick up your school work (If it's low) and become positive. I'm not sure whether you still haven't moved on about the relationship deal, but you should. Sort of like, become positive and so you appreciate your life to not commit it I guess. I'm not entirely sure how to handle the situation, but yeah... That's all I can currently come up with to aid the situation, hopefully.

Hope things go well~

My Parents are overly successful (Dad is a pro-trainer for boxing/Principle at a rich people school. Mom is a successful fitness/self defense trainer) Which intimidates me. I'm starting to think that they're in denial that I'm not perfect and Successful like them (I'm a scrawny, skinny 15 year old that gets Cs) so I must be angry at life. Which I'm really not...I've just been unlucky. (They've sent me to therapy before because of my grades and a close friend's passing)
I'm going to do what you said though and write a letter type thing. Hopefully they won't freak out and think it's a suicide note at first.

If the situation doesn't get any better after that and they still won't listen and try sending me off to some dumb camp, I just...don't know what else I should do.

I'm afraid to tell a cousiler or something,because I might get my parents in trouble, and I really don't want that. They may not listen much, but I do love them and stuff...

Midnight Beat
May 28th, 2008, 08:29 PM
I have a bit of a problem that I feel like posting here. *Trying to be more active, and if I need my problems to help me do so, so be it*

Anyway...I'm having trouble with my parents...
See, they think I'm suicidal :/
I had a similar deal with them in seventh grade about this same subject that pretty much changed our relationship forever. I was reading a book called "Give a boy a gun" (Think Columbine) and I was currently getting bad grades and stuff so they thought I might try something like that. Even though I told them I'd never do that, And I will NEVER do that, they still kept close watch on me and were always talking about my feelings and if I was sad or angry or if I was getting bullied at school...

Anyway, skip forward 5 years or so, and it's happening all over again. A couple months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months who I was very much "in love" with. I'm still too young to know if it was actual love or not. Anyway, I was really depressed and sad and heartbroken...But I'll spare you the details on how we broke up, I just felt really weak and unwanted. So I was sad and wrote some stuff I regret writing (Nothing too creepy, just sad poetry and stuff) And I kept that all in a notebook which I hid pretty well...

Okay, enough back story, heres my real problem. My Dad found the notebook and read EVERYTHING. A lot of very personal stuff was in there. And as a coincidence, the same day he found the notebook, I had spilled some red ink all over my wrist, and he thought I was morbidly imitating hurting myself. So suddenly, he rings up all this stuff to further prove his point, and I keep telling him that it isn't like that and that I'm not hurting myself or going to kill myself. Now they're really protective and won't really let me be alone at all, they keep asking me how I'm feeling. Our relationship is just weird now, and I hate it.
And on top of all that, I heard him talking to my Mom aobut how he doens't want to come home to find his son in a puddle of his own blood, so he thinks he might send me away to camp for a retreat thingy for emotionally disturbed kids.

I just want them to trust me that everything is okay. But they won't believe me...Anyone got any advice on how I can get them to listen? Talking doens't seem to work much...

This is an unfortunate situation indeed. I realize that events such as the ones you have gone through are emotionally crippling, but you may have talk it out with your parents. If you can get it all out in the open, one, they may see where all this sadness is coming from, and two, it very well may strengthen your relationship in which they trust you more. Not to offend, but it seems that your parent-child trust has been severely damaged by the events with the "Give the Boy a Gun" book. In my mind, the first step to bettering the situation is to repair that trust relationship.
Now about the whole book and pen ink thing. Honestly, and again I mean no offense, it sounds a little far fetched...the pen part, anyway. Regardless, red pen ink and dried blood look rather different. If your parents got the two mixed up, it was only in a worrisome rage. I promise you that they care about you, if they didn't, they wouldn't be freaking out about this whole situation.
And about the camp, you should speak up about this one. You may not need to go to a camp, but maybe therapy could help you out. And if it doesn't, and if you are telling the truth, than the therapist should be able to report to your parents that you are in fact, not suicidal and that you are just in a slump.

Well, there's my two cents, take it or leave it, your choice. =]

Ageless Irony
May 28th, 2008, 08:46 PM
Now about the whole book and pen ink thing. Honestly, and again I mean no offense, it sounds a little far fetched...the pen part, anyway. Regardless, red pen ink and dried blood look rather different. If your parents got the two mixed up, it was only in a worrisome rage. I promise you that they care about you, if they didn't, they wouldn't be freaking out about this whole situation.
And about the camp, you should speak up about this one. You may not need to go to a camp, but maybe therapy could help you out. And if it doesn't, and if you are telling the truth, than the therapist should be able to report to your parents that you are in fact, not suicidal and that you are just in a slump.

Well, there's my two cents, take it or leave it, your choice. =][/QUOTE]

He didn't think it was blood, he thought I was imitating blood with ink, like I put the ink there on purpose, because apparently I'm not well -.-;;
Really should've not been lazy and washed that off...

I know they care about me, I just wish they would listen instead of denying me and only hearing and seeing the bad side of things.
And I don't wanna bring up the camp thing with them yet, I was sort of listening to them talking when I shouldn't have been. So I'm waiting for them to bring that up first...

Thanks for the advice though, everyone, really, thanks a lot for listening. ^^
Now I'm going to go to bed because I have 3 finals to take tomorrow morning...
Hopeful everything will get better...I'll definatley write them that note.
Later!

Lady Nicole
June 1st, 2008, 10:27 AM
I have an exam tomorrow and I feel too depressed to finish revising.

EDIT: It made me feel very slightly better just to post that.

sims796
June 1st, 2008, 10:52 AM
Funny, I know Lady isn't too sad to study. Sure, I do believe she knows that with good enough grades, she can get better jobs, and with better jobs, she can afford ot stay with Danny boy forevah. So, using the powah of deduction, she will study for that test.

She will also eat Cherry Pie, as that always cheers me up.

Lady Nicole
June 1st, 2008, 11:24 AM
I’m not being funny or anything, but I don’t want to be with someone who admits he prefers talking in group convos with other people to talking with me :'(

Avey
June 1st, 2008, 11:27 AM
I’m not being funny or anything, but I don’t want to be with someone who admits he prefers talking in group convos with other people to talking with me :'(

Perhaps you should talk to him about it rather than posting it here so everyone who wanted to could see it.

sims796
June 1st, 2008, 11:39 AM
I’m not being funny or anything, but I don’t want to be with someone who admits he prefers talking in group convos with other people to talking with me :'(

Hm, this is more dire than I thought. Not even my cheery disposition can fix this.

I would also suggest talking it out...

...however, right now, you got to get your mind off that, and on to the task at hand. Right now, you have an exam. Sounds serious. So, to put your mind off of that, I suggest hitting the books. I've never been heartbroken, or betrayed outside of the intarnets (and that doesn't bug me much) so I can't compare, but I can tell you that I've dealt with my fair share of dissapointments, and hurting yourself doesn't help. By which I mean not doing what needs to be done. So get to studiying, might make you feel better.

Lady Nicole
June 1st, 2008, 11:47 AM
Perhaps you should talk to him about it rather than posting it here so everyone who wanted to could see it.

Hm, this is more dire than I thought. Not even my cheery disposition can fix this.

I would also suggest talking it out...

...however, right now, you got to get your mind off that, and on to the task at hand. Right now, you have an exam. Sounds serious. So, to put your mind off of that, I suggest hitting the books. I've never been heartbroken, or betrayed outside of the intarnets (and that doesn't bug me much) so I can't compare, but I can tell you that I've dealt with my fair share of dissapointments, and hurting yourself doesn't help. By which I mean not doing what needs to be done. So get to studiying, might make you feel better.

Hmm yeah, thanks. When I'm concentrating on something else I'll probably feel better...

Victoria~
June 1st, 2008, 08:22 PM
Oh boy.
I just can't sleep!

Really, I have to wake up at like... 6:30 AM (to be at school 7:15). So, I need to go to bed early, 11 PM. But I just can't. Every night I lay down and try to relax... Try to relax, relax... I spend like FOUR HOURS trying to get some sleep. When I wake up to go school, I barely can move.. It's awful.
Right now I SHOULD be sleeping, it's 1 AM already...
And I've tried everything you can imagine to solve this: relaxing techniques, warm milk, count sheeps, read a boring book, get a hot bath before going to bed, don't ingest any caffeine after 6PM (it's hard to not drink any Coke at night ://), don't eat so much at night, I don't have big problems with my personal life (I do well at school, have a boyfriend, my life's great)...
I've already been to the doctor, and he prescribed some medicine.
This crap doesn't work. and it was EIGHTY bucks DDD:"
I don't know what to do anymore. Soon my body's gonna collapse just because I DIDN'T SLEEP. i do not understand. I'm healthy. I'm happy. Of course I have some problems, but I learned to deal with them.
I'm really desperate. You know, i think I wouldn't be so confortable talking about it with my friends.. I'm quite sure they'll think I'm some sort of problematic-zombie-freak.
So, please, PLEASE, pretty please, help me.
Please ;-;

Anxiety.
June 2nd, 2008, 07:37 AM
Oh boy.
I just can't sleep!

Really, I have to wake up at like... 6:30 AM (to be at school 7:15). So, I need to go to bed early, 11 PM. But I just can't. Every night I lay down and try to relax... Try to relax, relax... I spend like FOUR HOURS trying to get some sleep. When I wake up to go school, I barely can move.. It's awful.
Right now I SHOULD be sleeping, it's 1 AM already...
And I've tried everything you can imagine to solve this: relaxing techniques, warm milk, count sheeps, read a boring book, get a hot bath before going to bed, don't ingest any caffeine after 6PM (it's hard to not drink any Coke at night ://), don't eat so much at night, I don't have big problems with my personal life (I do well at school, have a boyfriend, my life's great)...
I've already been to the doctor, and he prescribed some medicine.
This crap doesn't work. and it was EIGHTY bucks DDD:"
I don't know what to do anymore. Soon my body's gonna collapse just because I DIDN'T SLEEP. i do not understand. I'm healthy. I'm happy. Of course I have some problems, but I learned to deal with them.
I'm really desperate. You know, i think I wouldn't be so confortable talking about it with my friends.. I'm quite sure they'll think I'm some sort of problematic-zombie-freak.
So, please, PLEASE, pretty please, help me.
Please ;-;

I also have that issue... I barely sleep at all now... but i'm fine, my body is weird and doesn't need that much sleep, but if I don't sleep at all at night I will be like this the next day - x.x

But anyway, I know this sounds odd but, I cuddle up to things, teddies and such, they help me sleep. But the best thing to help me sleep is cuddling my dog, she is a medium sized dog and is gentle, so if I cuddle up to her her breathing and warmth soothes me and helps me sleep... I dunno why though o.0

I don't know if it will work for everyone. But I don't sleep much, i'm rarely tired, and I have unusual sleeping times. I sleep better at about 5-6am rather than 11-4am, when the sun starts to rise, I like that light. I'm unusual in that sense...

I don't know if that has helped you at all... but I just thought I would throw in what I do to help me sleep.
And in case that doesn't work, here is some stuff from a site: [There's a lot of info there]

Causes:
- the bedroom may be too noisy, too hot or too cold
- the bed may be uncomfortable or too small
- you partner may have a different pattern of sleep from yourself
- you may not have a regular routine, or may not be getting enough exercise
- eating too much can make it difficult to get off to sleep
- going to bed hungry can make you wake too early
- cigarettes, alcohol and drinks containing caffeine, such as tea and coffee
- illness, pain or a high temperature.
- emotional problems
- difficulties at work
- anxiety and worry
- depression - you may wake very early in the morning and not be able to get back to sleep
- thinking over and over about day to day problems.

People have used sleeping tablets for many years, but we now know that they:



* don't work for very long.
* Leave you tired and irritable the next day.
* lose their effect quite quickly, so you have to take more and more to get the same effect.
* some people become addicted to them. The longer you take sleeping tablets, the more likely you are to become physically or psychologically dependent on them.
* there are some newer sleeping tablets (Zolpidem, Zalpelon and Zopiclone), but these seem to have many of the same drawbacks as the older drugs, such as Nitrazepam, Temazepam and Diazepam.


Sleeping tablets should only be used for short periods (less than 2 weeks) - for instance if you are so distressed that you cannot sleep at all.

If you have been on sleeping tablets for a long time, it is best to cut down the dose slowly after discussing it with your doctor.

In some cases, antidepressant tablets may be helpful.

You can buy several remedies at your chemist, without the need for a prescription. These products will often contain an anti-histamine, like you find in medicines for hay-fever, coughs and colds. These do work but they can make you sleepy well into the next morning. If you do use them, take the warnings seriously and don't drive or operate heavy machinery the next day. Another problem is tolerance - as your body gets used to the substance, you need to take more and more to get the same effect. It is best not to take anti-histamines for a long time.


Herbal alternatives are usually based on a herb called Valerian. It probably works best if you take it nightly for 2-3 weeks or more. It doesn't seem to work so well if you take it occasionally. As with the anti-histamines, you need to be careful about the effects lasting into the following morning. If you are taking any medication for your blood pressure (or any other sleeping tablets or tranquillisers), have a chat with your doctor before using an over the counter remedy.

A technique called cognitive behavioural therapy has been shown to be helpful. It involves looking at unhelpful ways of thinking that can make you more anxious, and so interfere with your sleep.

Things to avoid

- Alcohol. Everybody knows that alcohol can help you to fall asleep. The problem is that you will usually wake up half-way through the night. If you drink alcohol regularly to help you sleep, you will find that you need to drink more and more to get the same effect. If you drink regularly and you stop drinking suddenly, you may find it hard to sleep for a week or two.
- Slimming tablets make it hard to sleep, as do street drugs like Ecstasy, cocaine and amphetamines.

Here are some simple tips that many people have found helpful.

Do's...


- Make sure that your bed and bedroom are comfortable - not too hot, not too cold, not too noisy.
- Make sure that your mattress supports you properly. It should not be so firm that your hips and shoulders are under pressure or so soft that your body sags. Generally, you should replace your mattress every 10 years to get the best support and comfort.
- Get some exercise. Don't overdo it, but try some regular swimming or walking. The best time to exercise is in the daytime - particularly late afternoon or early evening. Exercising later than this may disturb your sleep.
- Take some time to relax properly before going to bed. Some people find aromatherapy helpful.
- If something is troubling you, and there is nothing you can do about it right away, try writing it down before going to bed and then tell yourself to deal with it tomorrow.
- If you can't sleep, get up and do something you find relaxing. Read, watch television or listen to quiet music. After a while you should feel tired enough to go to bed again.


Don'ts...


- Don't go without sleep for a long time - go to bed when you are tired and stick to a routine of getting up at the same time every day, whether you still feel tired or not.
- Caffeine hangs around in your body for many hours after your last drink of tea or coffee. Stop drinking tea or coffee by mid-afternoon. If you want a hot drink in the evening, try something milky or herbal (but check there's no caffeine in it).
- Don't drink a lot of alcohol. It may help you fall asleep, but you will almost certainly wake up during the night.
- Don't eat or drink a lot late at night. Try to have your supper early in the evening rather than late.
- If you've had a bad night, don't sleep in the next day - it will make it harder to get off to sleep the following night.


If you try these tips and you still can't sleep, go and see your doctor. You can talk over any problems that may be stopping you from sleeping. Your doctor can make sure that your sleeplessness is not being caused by a physical illness, a prescribed medicine, or emotional problems. There is some evidence that cognitive behavioral therapy (see above), can be helpful if your sleeplessness has gone on for a long time.

You may find that you often fall asleep during the day at times when you want to stay awake. The commonest reason is not getting enough sleep at night.

However, you may find that you are still falling asleep in the daytime even after a week or two of getting enough sleep at night. Sometimes, a physical illness can be responsible - diabetes, a viral infection, or a thyroid problem.

There are other conditions which make people sleep too much:

Narcolepsy (Daytime sleepiness)
This is an uncommon condition that has often not been recognised by doctors.

There are two main symptoms:


- you feel sleepy in the daytime, with sudden uncontrollable attacks of sleepiness even when you are with other people
- you suddenly lose control of your muscles and collapse when you are angry, laughing or excited - this is called cataplexy.


You may also find that you:


- can't speak or move when falling asleep or waking up - (Sleep Paralysis)
- hear odd sounds or see dream-like images (Hallucinations)
- "run on auto-pilot" - you have done things, but can't remember doing them, as if you had been asleep
- wake with hot flushes during the night.


The cause for this has recently been found - a lack of a substance called orexin, or hypocretin. In sleep apnoea you may have excessive daytime sleepiness and this may be confused with Narcolepsy. If the diagnosis is unclear, then some tests may be required (Polysomnography or a Multiple sleep latency test ).

Treatment consists of taking regular exercise and having a regular night time routine. Depending on the pattern of your symptoms, medication may be helpful - e.g. a drug which increases wakefulness, such as Modafinil, or an antidepressant (particularly for prominent cataplexy).


Sleep Apnoea (Interrupted Sleep)


- You snore loudly and stop breathing for short periods during the night. This happens because the upper part of your airway closes.
- Every time you stop breathing, you wake suddenly and your body or arms and legs may jerk.
- You are awake just for a short time before falling off to sleep again.
- This often happens several times during the night. So, you feel tired the next day, often with an irresistible urge to go to sleep. You may also have a dry mouth and a headache when you wake up in the morning.


It is more common in:


- older people
- the overweight
- smokers
- those who drink a lot of alcohol.


Sometimes, the problem is noticed more by their partner than by the sufferer. Treatment usually involves correcting the parts of your lifestyle that may be making the problem worse - cutting down smoking and drinking, losing weight, and sleeping in a different position. If your apnoea is very bad, it may be necessary to wear a Continuous Positive Airway Pressure (CPAP) mask. This fits over your nose and supplies high pressure air to keep your airway open.

At some point in their life, about 1 in 20 adults have night terrors, and 1 in 100 report that they sleep-walk. Both these conditions are more common in children.


Sleepwalking
If you sleepwalk, you will appear (to other people) to wake from a deep sleep. You will then get up and do things. These may be quite complicated, like walking around or going up and down stairs. This can land you in embarrassing (and occasionally dangerous) situations. Unless someone else wakes you up, you will remember nothing about it the next day. Sleepwalking may sometimes happen after a night terror (see below).

A sleepwalker should be guided gently back to bed and should not be woken up. It may be necessary to take precautions to protect them or others from injury. You may need to lock doors and windows, or lock away sharp objects, like knives and tools.

Night terrors can occur on their own, without leading to sleepwalking. Like a sleepwalker, a person with night terrors will appear to wake suddenly from a deep sleep. They look half-awake and very frightened, but will usually settle back down to sleep without waking up completely. All you can do is sit with them until they fall asleep again.

Night terrors are different from vivid dreams or nightmares as people don't seem to remember anything about them the next morning.

Nightmares
Most of us have had frightening dreams or nightmares. They usually happen during the later part of the night, when we have our most vivid and memorable dreams. They do not normally cause problems unless they happen regularly, usually because of an emotional upset. Nightmares often follow a distressing or life-threatening event, such as a death, a disaster, an accident or a violent attack. Counseling may be helpful.

- You feel you have to move your legs (but also, sometimes, other parts of the body ).
- You may have uncomfortable painful or burning feelings in your legs.
- These feelings only bother you when you are resting.
- They are generally worse at night.
- They are relieved by movement, such as walking or stretching, for as long as you carry on doing it.

You may not be able to sit still in the daytime, making it difficult to work, and may be unable to sleep properly.

Sufferers usually first seek help in middle age, although they may have had symptoms since childhood. It seems to run in families.

RLS usually occurs on its own. It can occasionally be caused by a physical illness, such as iron and vitamin deficiencies, diabetes or kidney problems. It can also happen in pregnancy.

If it is not caused by another physical illness, treatment depends on how bad it is. In mild RLS, the symptoms can usually be controlled by simple steps designed to help you sleep better (see section on 'Helping Yourself').

In more severe RLS, medications may help. These include medications used in Parkinson's disease, anti-epileptic medications, benzodiazepine tranquillisers and painkillers.

If simple measures do not help, you can be referred to a sleep or movement disorders specialist.

Some people with autism do not seem to realise that night time is for sleeping, and may be up and about when everyone else wants to sleep. This will usually need the help of a specialist.

I don't know how much of that applies to you. Most of it is for adults, like the pregnancy thing, but I left it in because there are some adults on this site that may find it useful.

I hope it helps xD!

Lash
June 2nd, 2008, 07:56 AM
Oh boy.
I just can't sleep!

Really, I have to wake up at like... 6:30 AM (to be at school 7:15). So, I need to go to bed early, 11 PM. But I just can't. Every night I lay down and try to relax... Try to relax, relax... I spend like FOUR HOURS trying to get some sleep. When I wake up to go school, I barely can move.. It's awful.
Right now I SHOULD be sleeping, it's 1 AM already...
And I've tried everything you can imagine to solve this: relaxing techniques, warm milk, count sheeps, read a boring book, get a hot bath before going to bed, don't ingest any caffeine after 6PM (it's hard to not drink any Coke at night ://), don't eat so much at night, I don't have big problems with my personal life (I do well at school, have a boyfriend, my life's great)...
I've already been to the doctor, and he prescribed some medicine.
This crap doesn't work. and it was EIGHTY bucks DDD:"
I don't know what to do anymore. Soon my body's gonna collapse just because I DIDN'T SLEEP. i do not understand. I'm healthy. I'm happy. Of course I have some problems, but I learned to deal with them.
I'm really desperate. You know, i think I wouldn't be so confortable talking about it with my friends.. I'm quite sure they'll think I'm some sort of problematic-zombie-freak.
So, please, PLEASE, pretty please, help me.
Please ;-;

All you need to do is find a good sleeping routine. At night time, I am pretty active (force of habit), so I am awake a lot. Here is my routine:

Fall asleep at 4AM - Wake up at 7:30AM - Take an hour or two nap.

Mow, I really would recommend something like that, but here is what I would, for school and what not. Now, though people are usually need 8hrs of sleep, in reality you only need a good 5 or 6.

Fall asleep at 11PM-12PM - Wake up at 6:30

Sort of a simple routine, all you need to do is to train your body to be tired, trick yourself into being fatigued.

Noah Ridgewood
June 2nd, 2008, 06:13 PM
Oh boy.
I just can't sleep!

Really, I have to wake up at like... 6:30 AM (to be at school 7:15). So, I need to go to bed early, 11 PM. But I just can't. Every night I lay down and try to relax... Try to relax, relax... I spend like FOUR HOURS trying to get some sleep. When I wake up to go school, I barely can move.. It's awful.
Right now I SHOULD be sleeping, it's 1 AM already...
And I've tried everything you can imagine to solve this: relaxing techniques, warm milk, count sheeps, read a boring book, get a hot bath before going to bed, don't ingest any caffeine after 6PM (it's hard to not drink any Coke at night ://), don't eat so much at night, I don't have big problems with my personal life (I do well at school, have a boyfriend, my life's great)...
I've already been to the doctor, and he prescribed some medicine.
This crap doesn't work. and it was EIGHTY bucks DDD:"
I don't know what to do anymore. Soon my body's gonna collapse just because I DIDN'T SLEEP. i do not understand. I'm healthy. I'm happy. Of course I have some problems, but I learned to deal with them.
I'm really desperate. You know, i think I wouldn't be so confortable talking about it with my friends.. I'm quite sure they'll think I'm some sort of problematic-zombie-freak.
So, please, PLEASE, pretty please, help me.
Please ;-;

I know the feeling of not being able to get to bed at night. I have gone through that for a good four months. Since I am taking courses online, I don't have a set time to go to bed and wake up at a certain time. With that said, I do like waking up around 8 a.m. and going to bed when I can. Anyway, enough about me, lets move on to your problem.

It seems to me that your issue is that you can't find a comfortable place to relax in. When I go to bed, usually I have my iPod under the pillow and my headphones in my ears. It'd be a good idea to have a light fan next to you, and some comforters, that is if you do not have any. Even though, for me, I wake up with my mouth being either dry or have what feels like that stuff on the bottom of your teeth when you forget to brush your teeth, but really isn't, around my lips. If you have an mp3 player or portable device, I suggest doing what I do and listening to music. Though, I don't suggest listening to anything that you listen to often. I fell asleep to Jordin Sparks a few nights ago, so maybe that'd be a good idea. Find something that sooths you and that will allow you to go to bed easily.

Next, what you need to do, is make sure you have the following things:
A. A dark room. Be sure to turn off all of the electronics in your room, or anything requiring electricity. Make sure the computer is turned off, in hibernation, or in any setting that will make the monitor go dark. Be sure to turn off the speakers, and if you leave your computer on, be sure to hide the anything that will make a light for you, even if it's the dullest light.
B. Shut the door, and either lock it if you have a lock, or block it with something that is able to block it. This helps keep out disturbances, even though it's night time. It helps me, personally, go to bed.
C. Make sure your window is covered. Either if you don't have cutians, put a sheet to cover it, or do whatever it takes to get your room as dark as it can be.
D. Test your pillow. When you fold it in half, does it go back to the way it does, if so how long does it take? You may need to get a new pillow, or get more pillows.

Try the above suggestions tonight, and let us know in the morning, or whenever you can. If nothing else works, I suggest maybe staying up all night during the weekend and throught the rest of the day (if you can), I don't suggest this as a first resort or anything you should do during the weekdays. If anything, try it on a Friday and Saturday, that way you have Saturday and Sunday to get back into the habit of a sleeping pattern.

I really hope I helped, and please provide some feedback on how it helped you or how it didn't.

Best Wishes
- Lettursnnumburs

Jaimes
June 3rd, 2008, 04:00 AM
Oh boy.
I just can't sleep!

This can happen in teenagers during puberty due to changes in metabolism and typically if they spend to much time online. Anyway you need to alter your body clock (and feeding times) to solve it.

Say you have a rough night, do not spend any time in the day sleeping (not even a nap), let the fatigue build up. Try doing this on days where you are normally active (i.e weekdays) - to prevent the likelihood of you getting a chance to nap. Eventually you'll catch up the sleep at the desired time, this is the same effect as jetlag.
If you're hungry at night, you will also not be able to fall asleep. Your body will purposely keep you awake so a late meal will also help. Distractions before bed will also keep your mind awake - especially computers and the internet, so a dull routinely task will help you sleep.

Victoria~
June 3rd, 2008, 04:27 PM
Hey, guys, thanks a lot for the help :3
I didn't think that so many people would come with nice explanations :B

Well, let's get this going..
Lash, thank you SOO much for trying to help me and all, but I know this sleep routine thing. I try to keep in balance, you know? I go to bed at midnight, to wake up at 6:30AM. But I just lay there with nothing in my mind, waiting to sleep. It doesn't work at all x.x

Jaimes, I've already tried to stay awake in the daytime. I did it. But when I went to bed, I was TOTALLY COMPLETELY tired, my muscles just couldn't move.
And I didn't slept! I felt a lot of pain, headaches and all, but nothing solved. only after I took a med for headache that I fell asleep for 2 hours.

Letturnnumburs, thank you a whole lot. It was kinda useful.
i don't think that my bedroom is too hot/cold/noisy/smelly or anything x]] I really like it, my favorite place in the house.
Nways, I did all that tips you told me too, even if it wasn't needed x]
The sheet that a put on my window even fell in the middle of the night, it scared me A LOT.
I thought it was a ghost *coward*
Thanks for your help!

Rhiannon-chan, I tried your tips too.
Well, i called my dog and went to bed. Everything was fine.
Then I realised that it has a REALLY BAD BREATH.
It smelt like fish x.x Rotten fish x]] Also, my dog started SNORING (HOW COULD THIS DOG SNORE???) so I put her outside x]]
I tried to cuddle a teddy bear too. ALL OF THEM.
It didn't work T_T
Nways, all those things that you told were really useful, although many of them didn't apply to me.. and any of the causes were in my life DD:'
- Make sure that your bed and bedroom are comfortable - not too hot, not too cold, not too noisy. - Check. my bedroom's awesome, really :b
- Make sure that your mattress supports you properly. It should not be so firm that your hips and shoulders are under pressure or so soft that your body sags. Generally, you should replace your mattress every 10 years to get the best support and comfort. - It's true that I own it for more than ten years, but it is still comfy. I don't feel any pain after sleeping in it.
- Get some exercise. Don't overdo it, but try some regular swimming or walking. The best time to exercise is in the daytime - particularly late afternoon or early evening. Exercising later than this may disturb your sleep. - I exercise REALLY often.
- Take some time to relax properly before going to bed. Some people find aromatherapy helpful. - I've tried this aromatherapy thing once.. then I started having some kind of allergy because of the lavander essence or something x.x
- If something is troubling you, and there is nothing you can do about it right away, try writing it down before going to bed and then tell yourself to deal with it tomorrow. - The more I write, the more I can't relax x.x
- If you can't sleep, get up and do something you find relaxing. Read, watch television or listen to quiet music. After a while you should feel tired enough to go to bed again. - Check. I tried this hundred times.

Thanks for this, Rhiannon, really. But i couldn't find my problem.
Maybe I AM a problematic-zombie-freak.
I don't know what to do anymoreee x.x
Maybe it's something like nightmares. I used to have a lot of them, but suddenly I stopped sleeping, and stopped having them too..

Well guys, THANK YOU SO MUCH.
I really apreciate your help. I'll try other things, maybe hammering my head on the wall will make it xb
Thanks. If I solve this problem, I'll post here :3

~ok, move on to the next problem

Zanacross
June 3rd, 2008, 05:11 PM
Zombie freak ftw :)

Sleep doesn't come natrually to some people. You should go see a doctor about it.
Especially if your feeling like
I've already tried to stay awake in the daytime. I did it. But when I went to bed, I was TOTALLY COMPLETELY tired, my muscles just couldn't move.
And I didn't slept! I felt a lot of pain, headaches and all, but nothing solved. only after I took a med for headache that I fell asleep for 2 hours.

That after staying up all day without a nap.

txteclipse
June 6th, 2008, 01:49 PM
I have very strange sleeping patterns in that I sleep when I can. That includes everything from taking naps whenever to getting normal nights of sleep at times to being awake and staring at my clock from when I go to bed until the time I get up.

I would suggest not going to bed at 12. If I overshoot my bedtime (around 11) my body decides that it's going to stay awake all night. I'm not sure if it's a trait I've garnered from poor sleeping habits or if it's true for everyone, but once I pass a certain "point of no return" my body finds some reserve of energy somewhere and I can't sleep at all. SO I would suggest going to bed earlier to keep your body from thinking that you want to stay up all night (try 9:30 or 10 if you haven't slept in a while).

Otherwise yeah, do something mundane to make yourself tired. I draw or read, personally, but if you find something only mildly engaging to do it should help you sleep.

Renneh
June 7th, 2008, 05:40 PM
Do some exercize to make you tired... Just sit there doing sit-ups.. that will tire you! ^^

But they won't believe me...Anyone got any advice on how I can get them to listen?
Be yourself and be insanely happy.

Make sure that you are around your dad when he gets back..out in the garden doing some active and laughing. ^^ Talk to him about random stuff that he likes *shrugs* I dunno, just chat.. make jokes.

Parents won't listen if you talk to them, you have to show them.

Saltare.
June 10th, 2008, 05:53 PM
My friend is depressed and guilty well she thinks she is. Because our friend, Lauren, back-flipped into the pool and went head first to the bottom and spit his head open and we haven't seen him for a while ever since that happened, any ideas to get my friend over the depression and guilt?

Aegis
June 10th, 2008, 06:28 PM
We already have a Post Your Problems thread, stickied near the top of the forum. And since this IS a problem, it belongs there.

-Merged-

Edit: Ugh >.< PC died right as I tried to merge it. Oh well, at least it's here now.

Working Class Hero
June 10th, 2008, 06:35 PM
Unless its her fault she has no reason to feel guilty. And its normal for someone to be depressed after someone's friends gets hurt badly. I know I would! Good luck to your friend who cracked his head open, your friend who is guilty, and you! ^_^ -hug-

Noah Ridgewood
June 10th, 2008, 09:45 PM
My friend is depressed and guilty well she thinks she is. Because our friend, Lauren, back-flipped into the pool and went head first to the bottom and spit his head open and we haven't seen him for a while ever since that happened, any ideas to get my friend over the depression and guilt?

Question: Where is the pool? Was it in your friend's yard? If so, that could play a major issue with this. Due to that, she could feel guilty because it happened in her own backyard. The fact that the pool is located there, she probably felt it was her responsibility to make sure nothing happened. That would be the most logical reason as to why it is making her feel so guilty. If not, please explain where the pool is if it isn't in her yard.

Question: What has she been saying lately, other than (most likely) it's all my fault that this happened? Knowing what she's been saying could help us help you help your friend.

Saltare.
June 11th, 2008, 08:50 AM
Well, I guess I'll start off. There is this girl I like (soo original..) and we were at one point really close friends. Just one problem to that, she is one of the "popular" kids and whenever I am around them, she completely ignores me.

This came into play a few weeks ago, she invited me to the movies with those 'friends' telling me that I would have fun... it was the least bit enjoyable. At first I thought it was going to be OK, everyone (at first) I saw greeted me and kinda talked to me, then we met up with her and her boyfriend.

Just to clue you guys in, I hate her boyfriend for three reasons 1. he normally gets a lot of girls (I don't), 2. I think his a.... [profane]....., and 3. he has the same first name + last initial as I do.

It was OK when we first said hi to them, but it just went downhill from there. I was pushed to the back of everything, conversations, food (decisions or something like that?), and other stuff. They even changed the movie on me AFTER I bought the ticket for the one I thought we were all gonna see (I had to eavesdrop to actually figure this out). The movie was terrible, I sat next to no one, and no one even realized that I left.

For the past two weeks I have been ignoring her to try and figure a way to straighten this out, I have come up with no solutions. What should I do... Stay friends with her? Talk to her... but not necessarily as a friend? Or should I just forget about her altogether?

P.S.-When I said Good friends, I meant REALLY good friends.


wow that must really suck about her boy friend. It's kinda like me and my friends, Bryan and Jared and Bryan's girlfriend gets any guy she wants and Jared used to date Bryan's girlfriend and Jared and I have become real good friends. To help you with your problem, just talk to her, ask her how she feels about you.

It always works. But just try to get her alone with you first before you talk to her. And as soon as her and her boyfriend break-up go and ask her out, simple as that

Okay, I like this guy in my gym class. His name is Jared and his sister is going to High School with my brother. And I think he likes me, but my friend, Ashley says he likes her more than me just because he wrote his name neat in her year book. And I will be seeing him a lot in the summer cuz he lives right by me and I really like him.

PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO!

Zanacross
June 11th, 2008, 01:56 PM
I have a bit of a problem. Well its not really a problem.

Im just feeling really angry lately. I dont know what at or who at.

I have adults that keep telling me to do obvious things which I really dont care about and wont do.
Ive failed nearly all my G.C.S.E's because I didnt do most of the coursework.
Ive nearly finished my exams and leaveing school. Should i really be angry round this time? Its meant to be a great time.
My friend pisses me off when ever he comes round.
I have to write a letter to my mum.
Im always bored because I have nothing to do.
:(
can someone attempt to help please.

Saltare.
June 11th, 2008, 02:09 PM
I have a bit of a problem. Well its not really a problem.

Im just feeling really angry lately. I dont know what at or who at.

I have adults that keep telling me to do obvious things which I really dont care about and wont do.
Ive failed nearly all my G.C.S.E's because I didnt do most of the coursework.
Ive nearly finished my exams and leaveing school. Should i really be angry round this time? Its meant to be a great time.
My friend pisses me off when ever he comes round.
I have to write a letter to my mum.
Im always bored because I have nothing to do.
:(
can someone attempt to help please.


That really sucks, I was like that a few months ago. Have you tried talking to someone you trust? Like a friend or another adult? And don't feel bad, a lot of people don't finish work, and I mean a lot of people. I hope this helps.

Weatherman, Kiyoshi
June 11th, 2008, 02:14 PM
I have a bit of a problem. Well its not really a problem.

Im just feeling really angry lately. I dont know what at or who at.

I have adults that keep telling me to do obvious things which I really dont care about and wont do.
Ive failed nearly all my G.C.S.E's because I didnt do most of the coursework.
Ive nearly finished my exams and leaveing school. Should i really be angry round this time? Its meant to be a great time.
My friend pisses me off when ever he comes round.
I have to write a letter to my mum.
Im always bored because I have nothing to do.
:(
can someone attempt to help please.

Okey... lemme try.

1. You should probably do them so they stop annoying the hell outta you.

2. Well... find a way to make them up.

3. Nope. you should be danceing for joy :D

4. Friends are for:
A: To hang out with
B: Share opinions
C: Talk to
D: Frendly piss off
If your friend is not pissing you off in a friendly way, you can do:
A- Talk to him to stop this ordeal
B- stop being friends with him

5. And this is a problem cause...? just wirte your mom a letter and mail it (or whatever you plan to do with it) and get it over and done with.

6. Well with all these problems you have, don't you have your hands full? but- if your looking for an obbessive time killer- play cubefield while listening to good music.

You good?

Saltare.
June 11th, 2008, 02:34 PM
Question: Where is the pool? Was it in your friend's yard? If so, that could play a major issue with this. Due to that, she could feel guilty because it happened in her own backyard. The fact that the pool is located there, she probably felt it was her responsibility to make sure nothing happened. That would be the most logical reason as to why it is making her feel so guilty. If not, please explain where the pool is if it isn't in her yard.

Question: What has she been saying lately, other than (most likely) it's all my fault that this happened? Knowing what she's been saying could help us help you help your friend.

Unless its her fault she has no reason to feel guilty. And its normal for someone to be depressed after someone's friends gets hurt badly. I know I would! Good luck to your friend who cracked his head open, your friend who is guilty, and you! ^_^ -hug-

I have very strange sleeping patterns in that I sleep when I can. That includes everything from taking naps whenever to getting normal nights of sleep at times to being awake and staring at my clock from when I go to bed until the time I get up.

I would suggest not going to bed at 12. If I overshoot my bedtime (around 11) my body decides that it's going to stay awake all night. I'm not sure if it's a trait I've garnered from poor sleeping habits or if it's true for everyone, but once I pass a certain "point of no return" my body finds some reserve of energy somewhere and I can't sleep at all. SO I would suggest going to bed earlier to keep your body from thinking that you want to stay up all night (try 9:30 or 10 if you haven't slept in a while).

Otherwise yeah, do something mundane to make yourself tired. I draw or read, personally, but if you find something only mildly engaging to do it should help you sleep.


That has happened to e before and it still does. What I do to sleep is watch a boring TV show or play on the computer until you get really tired. OR break out your MP3 or Ipod and listen to your fave song. I also look through my old yearbooks at think about the guys I like and my old friends and look at the signatures. I also draw.

I draw a lot of Pokemon Pictures and I LOVE to write stories. And that usually makes me really really tired. Once I only got 5 minutes of sleep then it was time to get up to go to school. Hope this helps!

Alright, there's this guy in my math class, Gabriel, and I hang out with him a lot and we are good friends, but everyone and I mean everyone thinks we are going out and we aren't. And I don't want my friend, Jared, to get the wrong idea cuzI like Jared, not Gabriel. Please attempt to help me

Cruelty And The Beast
June 12th, 2008, 07:01 AM
Pokefan32, maybe you should just talk to Jared. It doesn't matter what the people in your class think, so long as Gabriel knows you're just mates and Jared knows that too.
I know it probably gets on your nerves what the other people are saying, but it's not really worth compromising your friendship for, I'm guessing.

Midnight Beat
June 12th, 2008, 07:32 AM
I have a bit of a problem. Well its not really a problem.

Im just feeling really angry lately. I dont know what at or who at.

I have adults that keep telling me to do obvious things which I really dont care about and wont do.
Ive failed nearly all my G.C.S.E's because I didnt do most of the coursework.
Ive nearly finished my exams and leaveing school. Should i really be angry round this time? Its meant to be a great time.
My friend pisses me off when ever he comes round.
I have to write a letter to my mum.
Im always bored because I have nothing to do.
:(
can someone attempt to help please.

I feel you on this one, I had the same problem about 2 months ago. It's not a good feeling, is it?
Anyway, I have some advice that may help you perk up a bit. Something I found that really helped me was an outlet for my anger. What I did was tape up my hands, put on some lightweight boxing gloves, and just freaking unloaded on a heavy bag. It worked really well, but it wasn't enough, like yourself, I was just bored with life. You need to find a long term hobby to keep yourself busy. I personally work on old vehicles, it's fun, challenging, and there's nothing like hearing that engine roar to life after you've put weeks and weeks of your time into it. You need to find an activity that really excites you, it puts you in just a better general mood, and makes you much more likable to the people around you as well.

.Seth
June 13th, 2008, 10:27 PM
nobody on here seems to care about me. no1 has posted or even looked at my welcome thread. (sigh). isn't there somebody that cares?

Midnight Beat
June 13th, 2008, 10:36 PM
nobody on here seems to care about me. no1 has posted or even looked at my welcome thread. (sigh). isn't there somebody that cares?

Chill out, dude. You posted the thread roughly a hour and half ago, give it some time. And it's not like a lot of people are on right now. I'm not sure where you live, but it's somewhere around midnight in the all around the US, and that's where the majority of the user here are from. Oh, and your sig isn't exactly helping your cause. >>

BeachBoy
June 13th, 2008, 10:47 PM
nobody on here seems to care about me. no1 has posted or even looked at my welcome thread. (sigh). isn't there somebody that cares?

Some people get 9 welcomes, some get 1, some don't even get a welcome at all. (That's pretty rare though)

Patience is a virtue, and I'm sure someone will welcome you, just give it time. :) As Midnight said, it's midnight and we're not oh so active like "POSTED THREAD = immediate replies" Uh no. Just wait, and you'll get a welcome. ^^ Just because you post an introduction and don't get a welcome ASAP doesn't mean we don't care about you. So, cool off, sit back & surf PC, then you may get a nice warm welcome later on. :D

Noah Ridgewood
June 13th, 2008, 10:56 PM
nobody on here seems to care about me. no1 has posted or even looked at my welcome thread. (sigh). isn't there somebody that cares?

I wouldn't say no one cares about you, seeing as how nobody knows you. XD
With that being said, it's not really possible to say no one cares about you without getting to know them. From what I see, people have viewed your thread. Probably, a reason no one (but one) has replied to it would be because they are just busy. I read threads all the time, myself, but only post in it if I find something to reply about. Since I, myself, didn't find anything else to say "Welcome to PC", I didn't reply. Most of my replies are generally rather long posts in that section, which I tend to try to do my best. Having only that is hard for me to do, let alone not allowed. It would be better if you edit that and explain why you are feeling upset and had have put a few more details about yourself. That's usually what I look for in intros and then I try to reply to it so that it only applies to you. But, that's just me. As far as actually caring, post around more and try to have a lot of detail in them. Most people here enjoy reading posts that have detail and are on the medium-long side. XD

Chill out, dude. You posted the thread roughly a hour and half ago, give it some time. And it's not like a lot of people are on right now. I'm not sure where you live, but it's somewhere around midnight in the all around the US, and that's where the majority of the user here are from. Oh, and your sig isn't exactly helping your cause. >>

I'm gonna have to agree with that. It's a little strange, but if you like it, that's up to you. Who am I to tell you what to put in your signature? XD But you should at least consider changing it to a nice quote or a banner of some sort. Another tip would be to try typing with some letters the way they "should" be. Most people here, yet again, tend to reply to threads that have correct punctuation, spelling, etc.

Changing your occupation would be a good idea too. I tend to look at someone's profile to get to know a bit more about them before interacting with them and seeing you fart for a living isn't helping either.. rather a turn off. XD

Amachi
June 13th, 2008, 10:59 PM
I have a bit of a problem. Well its not really a problem.

Im just feeling really angry lately. I dont know what at or who at.

I have adults that keep telling me to do obvious things which I really dont care about and wont do.
Ive failed nearly all my G.C.S.E's because I didnt do most of the coursework.
Ive nearly finished my exams and leaveing school. Should i really be angry round this time? Its meant to be a great time.
My friend pisses me off when ever he comes round.
I have to write a letter to my mum.
Im always bored because I have nothing to do.
:(
can someone attempt to help please.
In all seriousness, this is known as "Angry Teenage Boy" phase.

Well, not seriously, but you get what I mean, haha. I think a lot of guys go through this, myself included, and I think the best thing for yourself to do is it to talk about some of the things that are troubling you, and maybe try and put things into perspective. I know that you're at the computer a lot, so maybe try and get away from it for a bit longer each day.

Anyway, just remember what you enjoy doing and if you feel like you're getting angry just try and stop yourself to ask "why?" I hope you feel better soon.

Tamaki
June 13th, 2008, 11:16 PM
nobody on here seems to care about me. no1 has posted or even looked at my welcome thread. (sigh). isn't there somebody that cares?

Aww, sorry if you feel left out. Like Ryan said, some people get tons of welcomes, some people only get a couple or none. Doesn't mean we don't care.

This isn't the welcome thread, but welcome to PC anyways :3 You'll find friends, trust me. You can even talk to me if you want a friend to chat with ^.^

Hope I could help ya.

Tré
June 13th, 2008, 11:36 PM
my problem is why do people hate me even i didn't do anything....like just sitting in my chair...and then someone annoys me....T~T

Mao
June 13th, 2008, 11:37 PM
I have a problem at school As always xD

Anyway basicly everyone likes me the way I am, I make them laugh and I have fun, eat loads and don't care what people think. Lately, however I have been thinking to change my attitiude and be more "Mature" It's really rubbish because my friends like me the way I am and If I change i don't know what will happen. I don't want to change but lately I've been meaning to.

I'm only 13 and I'm in my second year in Secondary School.

.Seth
June 14th, 2008, 01:10 AM
You be who you want to be. If you want to be more mature, then be more mature. If you want to stay who you are, then stay who you are.

Zet
June 14th, 2008, 01:16 AM
I have a problem at school As always xD

Anyway basicly everyone likes me the way I am, I make them laugh and I have fun, eat loads and don't care what people think. Lately, however I have been thinking to change my attitiude and be more "Mature" It's really rubbish because my friends like me the way I am and If I change i don't know what will happen. I don't want to change but lately I've been meaning to.

I'm only 13 and I'm in my second year in Secondary School.
A change will always happen sometime in your high school life, though some may never change, I see that some changes are good while others aren't but as long as your friends will still like you for you thats all thats important

Mao
June 14th, 2008, 01:16 AM
You be who you want to be. If you want to be more mature, then be more mature. If you want to stay who you are, then stay who you are.
Thanks a lot, Seth. I'll be who I want to be and have fun at school. I've got my whole life ahead of me right? So why not enjoy it. God I sound like a teacher *shudder*

Edit: Thanks as well Aniki, I will realise these Changes as i grow up and try to make sure I keep the good ones :).

Cruelty And The Beast
June 14th, 2008, 01:25 AM
You're your own person, other people maybe be close but they don't define who you are.
If you feel more mature you won't get anything but frustrated pretending to be someone you're not anymore.
Just be yourself dude, it can be hard at times, but it's worth it.

Tamaki
June 14th, 2008, 12:29 PM
my problem is why do people hate me even i didn't do anything....like just sitting in my chair...and then someone annoys me....T~T

Awh, I know just how you feel. Some people just hate me for no apparant reason.

I've asked my friends what they think, and they usually sy either they're a)just idiots or b)jealous. They're probably right.

Just be happy you have friends who know how to treat you right. Life is too short to worry about jealous idiots who don't know how to live :3 Ignore them~

.Seth
June 15th, 2008, 03:37 AM
(sigh) My problem is that i have trouble when i post a thread. Mine always end up closed. I guess what i'm tryin to say is that i can never figure out how to post a thread where it will not end up closed, will not seem completely stupid,and make it so that someone will actually look at it.

Victoria~
June 15th, 2008, 11:53 AM
You should read the forum rules first.
I know that rules suck and all, but if you read them, at least you won't get embarassed... When you're posting a thread, think if it has a useful purpose (ou something near of it x.x) and if it has something to do with the area you're posting. Like, you can't create a hack rom thread, for instance, in the section that only has the tutorials to create one.. you know what I mean?
I saw that you are having a bit of a hard time here since you're new... I'm a new member aswell, so I don't who I am to advise you here, but let's go.
Sometimes, when you're not used to be on forums, it's kinda hard to adapt. But don't give up.. be yourself, don't matter if you look weird or don't have any friends yet. They come as tiime passes byy.. sooner or later :]
Be careful to not look noob, because the first impression is important.. being gramatically correct helps :x
And not doing thinks against the forum rules (or members) helps a lot. I think you should read the rules thread, just to know the basics; it's waaay better to know the rules before posting than learning them while posting :T
You should see who are the "top members" and try to act like them. I mean, NOT THEIR STYLE, but as an example of how to behave correctly in the forum.

Noah Ridgewood
June 15th, 2008, 12:44 PM
(sigh) My problem is that i have trouble when i post a thread. Mine always end up closed. I guess what i'm tryin to say is that i can never figure out how to post a thread where it will not end up closed, will not seem completely stupid,and make it so that someone will actually look at it.

Well, for one, they don't always end up closed. You can't say that unless all of your posts end up closed. You only posted three threads. One, of which, wasn't following the rules and the other wasn't needed. Nothing wrong with that, really, since you are new and it takes a while for most people to get into new rules regardless of the community. In order to stop making threads that might end up closed, you have to do exactly what Victoria said to do; read the rules. But you also have to abide by them. It's one thing to read them, it's another thing to follow them. Another idea would be to stick around and view some other threads. That'll help you learn what threads won't end up locked and what will.

A good idea would be to wait a few weeks until you post a new thread, unless of course you need to, then feel more than free. After all, the final decision is up to you. But you should really get to know the community (rules, people, etc.) before posting a new thread (well, that's my opinion on it). That way you know what kind of threads are allowed (as stated above) and what kinds aren't.

Also, if I may add to the fact that you also stated in one of your threads:
Moderators feel free to close, move, or do whatever with this thread. And feel free to be descriptive.Well, Hiroshi was descriptive as to why that thread wasn't allowed, so why your confused is a bit of a daze to me, but very well. You also, although I don't think it would have mattered, stated that they can do whatever they feel like with the thread (i.e. giving them "permission" to close the thread, delete it, modify it in any way, shape or form). So,.. yeah. XD


If u wud like to help and get ur name on the credits, Email me at ___ ([email protected]) thnks. Also if u have any ideas for the game post them in the thread.
Note: I removed the email from the quote just in case you didn't want anyone to see it.

That seems to me like you were trying to recruit a team, which should have went in team building if you were trying to do that... but then you gave information (rather rudely) about the game itself, which wipes out that theory. XD Then Careful with that Axe, Pichu stated that you didn't read the rules, which to me is enough of an explanation to help me understand.

LawlRly
June 15th, 2008, 07:20 PM
I have an insomnia related problem. D:

So, it's like this: Every morning, be it weekend or weekday, I wake up at exactly 5:30 AM. I'm serious, not a minute sooner. Wide awake. Now, I don't have to be up until 6:30, so I usually just fall back asleep *somehow*, but then I fall into such a deep sleep of state that an hour later, when I actually need to be awake, I am so tired I can hardly breathe, let alone get out of bed. You know the feeling when you've taken one too many Tylenol 3s? Yeah, it's like that.

I've tried getting up at 5:30 and wandering around for a bit, but my energy only lasts until 6 AM, at which point all my muscles stop working and I begin to fall asleep. So I do this little cycle every friggin' morning: Wake up at 5:30, fall asleep again at roughly 6, wake up dead tired at 6:30, regain my energy after I've had some tea. But I am REALLY tired of feeling so awful in the morning, like a weight is in my stomach. I dunno what's up.

And another thing, I always fall asleep at EXACTLY 11 at night. If I don't go to bed before then, I won't fall asleep until 4:30, then wake up at 5:30, etc., you get the idea. From 11 PM to 4:30 AM all I am really doing is counting plaster bumps on my ceiling. :x

Any help here?

Lash
June 17th, 2008, 01:25 AM
Probably not all too bad of a problem to complain about, but...

Alright, I am going to be a Sophomore when school comes around. I got a boundary acceptance to a good school, and I barely ever get into good schools. So, some may think I got it all set up, but heres the problem.

I am a person of dark attire. I will be going to a school of preps. And, oh god, when it comes to preps, I am the biggest freaking stereotypical ass whole. The first snob that complains about how I dress gets one darned good fist across the face. Now we all know that won't be good since I had to get a boundary acceptance to get into this school >_>

So, I do need some advice not to fly off the handle.

EDIT: And, sorry if this has offended you if you are a prep. This is not an attack to all preps, just the ones in my state... The ones in my state are real jerks >_>

Saltare.
June 17th, 2008, 01:53 PM
Pokefan32, maybe you should just talk to Jared. It doesn't matter what the people in your class think, so long as Gabriel knows you're just mates and Jared knows that too.
I know it probably gets on your nerves what the other people are saying, but it's not really worth compromising your friendship for, I'm guessing.

I did talk to Jared on our last day of school and I guess he knows I like him now and he likes me but he says he just wants to be friends. And I told him about Gabriel and he was cool with that. Thanks

Unforgettable
June 17th, 2008, 04:37 PM
Probably not all too bad of a problem to complain about, but...

Alright, I am going to be a Sophomore when school comes around. I got a boundary acceptance to a good school, and I barely ever get into good schools. So, some may think I got it all set up, but heres the problem.

I am a person of dark attire. I will be going to a school of preps. And, oh god, when it comes to preps, I am the biggest freaking stereotypical ass whole. The first snob that complains about how I dress gets one darned good fist across the face. Now we all know that won't be good since I had to get a boundary acceptance to get into this school >_>

So, I do need some advice not to fly off the handle.

EDIT: And, sorry if this has offended you if you are a prep. This is not an attack to all preps, just the ones in my state... The ones in my state are real jerks >_>
My best advice would be to ignore them. Dress the way you want. And be who you want, and don't let their opinions bother you or make you mad. It's not worth the energy.
So when this happens, ignore what they say, or take a deep breath and kill them with kindness. Give them a nice compliment. It will surprise them and throw them off guard. In the long run, you will get left alone, you will feel better, and you won't be in trouble for flying off the handle. I hope that helps you! :3

Spinor
June 17th, 2008, 07:45 PM
(sigh) My problem is that i have trouble when i post a thread. Mine always end up closed. I guess what i'm tryin to say is that i can never figure out how to post a thread where it will not end up closed, will not seem completely stupid,and make it so that someone will actually look at it.
The Problem is your threads ain't following the rules. I know they zuck but their important, maybe you should've joined earlier with lotso luck and you could've survived and matured. And why are you posting now if you only got 2 closed threads?

Be careful to not look noob, because the first impression is important.. being gramatically correct helps.
Scrap first impression. If you get banned everyone will forget you and you can start a new life matured Well, at least that's what happened to me...

Noah Ridgewood
June 18th, 2008, 05:11 AM
Alright, I am going to be a Sophomore when school comes around. I got a boundary acceptance to a good school, and I barely ever get into good schools. So, some may think I got it all set up, but heres the problem.

The thing about high school is that once you get there; the stereotypes start to vanish. I mean, I'm entering my third year in High School next year (Junior year) and I can honestly say, all of the stereotypes that they had in middle school are starting to slowly wear down. Although many people will disagree with me, some people from one group that is concidered high on the "student chain" start to hang around from people from a lower rank in the "student chain". Entering Sophomore year in high school is just wonderful; though it wasn't for me, since I had a lot of things going on in my life then.

When the end of that year comes around; people start to realize (within your grade) how idiotic cliques are and they start to actually respect (I know, shocking) one another. Although, this can vary from school to school; this is just what I have come to know from my own, personal, experiences. For you, it can be the quite opposite.

I am a person of dark attire. I will be going to a school of preps. And, oh god, when it comes to preps, I am the biggest freaking stereotypical ass whole. The first snob that complains about how I dress gets one darned good fist across the face. Now we all know that won't be good since I had to get a boundary acceptance to get into this school >_>

Now, when you say "school of preps" do you mean that you will be going to a prep school? That is, a private school. Or do you mean you're going to a public school that has a lot of preps in it? Tell us a little bit more about your situation; then it can be a lot easier to help you out because we know what's going on more clearly and we know what's going through your mind, aside from punching them in the face.

So, I do need some advice not to fly off the handle.

After reading that you're going to a new school alltogether, with new people alltogether; the best thing to do is to enter the school and be yourself. Though any idiot with a stick could tell you that, and I know for a fact you know that yourself. It is very hard to be yourself in a new school because you know how it was like in your old school, which was probably rough since you ended up being transfered in the end.

One thing you can do, is to laugh with them (or joke around). - It's basically like teasing them and will make you feel a bit better about being around them. When you joke around with them, their comments hurt less. You also get a little bit under their skin so you can really see what they are like. Who knows? Most preps end up giving up because most of them end up being complete idiots.

EDIT: And, sorry if this has offended you if you are a prep. This is not an attack to all preps, just the ones in my state... The ones in my state are real jerks >_>

Well, you can't be too sure about all of them. Surely there is one prep out in your state that has a mind of their own. After all, if you end up with one prep alone; you start to see they aren't all that bad. Where as, when you get them in a group (which is where they mainly are), you see how mean they can be. But they are just people. Like you. Like me.

Anxiety.
June 18th, 2008, 07:40 AM
-Waves- Hi there... I have a problem, and I really need some help with it

There's this girl at school Molly who irritates me until I react, when I do react (As in physical violence) she fake cries to my friends, she even admitted to me that it was fake, and nobody heard her D: So yeah, I get in trouble with the teachers, because whenever she annoys me, nobody is looking so all they see is my reaction. Then everyone gets angry at me, she fakes all her innocence, she gets sympathy and I get in trouble, shouting and physical violence back! She tells everyone her version of the story, that is all lies, and when I tell them the truth, they don't believe me!

And now my best friend from Great Bar is shouting at me because I said I had a bad day on MSN!

WHAT AM I DOING WRONG! HEEEELP!

Lash
June 18th, 2008, 07:48 AM
@Lettersnnumbers:

Or do you mean you're going to a public school that has a lot of preps in it?
A school that has a lot of preps in it, but luckily not 100% full.

Thanks for the advice, especially with joking around with them, my sarcastic side could come in handy :P

@YunaDances:

Thanks for the advice, like how its not worth the energy to let them anger me. Letting them get the worst in me would not be worth the trouble.

Once again, thanks, it did help me and I am pretty sure it will once August rolls around :3

Pikachu of Chaos™
June 18th, 2008, 08:01 AM
I have a problem
theres two girls at my school that i have a crush on.Everytime I time I try to talk to them,but i end up doing something stupid.what should i do?

Anxiety.
June 18th, 2008, 09:22 AM
I have a problem
theres two girls at my school that i have a crush on.Everytime I time I try to talk to them,but i end up doing something stupid.what should i do?

See what THEY like, say they like... Pokemon, talk about Pokemon AROUND them, then they might come up and talk to you, then the conversation has started, and looking stupid is less likely to happen, also, if you do something stupid make a joke about it, say you fall over, get up and say 'I'm okay... I think' or something to make them laugh (Bad joke, I suggest not using that one, it's old, and all I can think of at the moment). Humor is what saves me most the time, like, I get bullied, a lot, but when they say something i'm just like 'Oh really?' situation over as they can't say anything back, and it sometimes makes people laugh.

But what do you mean by stupid? I just assumed, but you might mean something else. But if you do something stupid, just make a joke about it.

Try simple icebreakers to avoid awkward conversation starters, don't try any BAD pick-up lines, unless they find that sorta stuff funny.

Don't change the way YOU are though, if they like a type of person, and your not that type, then don't change, because if you do, the person they fell in love with isn't you, and that's bad.

I dunno what to do because I don't know who the people are, but in general, most people like funny, happy people, so just try to stay happy, as in, if they don't like you, then shrug it of and be happy with your friends, they might like you after that, or you might find someone else that you like if you stay optimistic!



Alright, I went a little offtopic then, but anyway, if you do something stupid, just shrug it off, and carry on, they most likely wont care too much, unless you make a big deal about it.

Well, thats all I have to say on this topic, but I might think of more stuff, and if I do, then I'll tell you! :3

~ xxx

MissMegano
June 18th, 2008, 09:28 AM
I think it's cute when a guy messes up a bit. That is, if he's not bragging of showing off. As you walk up, think of something to say and make sure you sound good. Remember to stay confident. Compliments are always nice, but make sure not to start out right away with one. It might cause problems to flirt with two girls at the same time, so try to get to know them a bit and 'choose.' You might like one more than the other and it'll be easier to focus your thoughts on one girl. Also, it's way better when a guy tries to be sweet instead of smooth. :)


I have a different problem... ants. Ugh, they're all over my kitchen. Just a few minutes ago, I killed twenty with a towel. My vacuum doesn't work and our house isn't the best. I have reason to believe it's not too hard for them to get in. My dad won't call an exterminator, even though we've had to get rid of a good amount of food because of the critters. We seal things as tightly as possible, but they still teem around the sink and on the floor. What's the best way to fight them? Is there something effective and affordable I can spray around the perimeter of my house? The solution has to be something a 13 year old girl can to, because my family doesn't seem to give a care.

Unforgettable
June 18th, 2008, 10:06 AM
@MissMegano:
There are some cheap sprays that you can buy at Wal-Mart. But I'm not sure how old you have to be to buy it.
But if you are able to buy it, you will be spending your time spraying each ant. Takes a lot of time, but you well get rid of them sometime.
If you can't buy them, you can try to get one of those sticky mouse things, and put a little sugar water in the middle. The ants will flock to the sweet water, and hopefully stick. That is about all I can think of. I hope it helped, and sorry I couldn't be more help.

MissMegano
June 18th, 2008, 01:19 PM
The sticky trap sounds like a good idea! I'll try it! It should be really effective if I put them in the right spots. They're all really in the same place, too, so it should be pretty easy.

Michii
June 18th, 2008, 04:37 PM
I cannot believe I'm even here. But whatever. Ya so this kid got an award that I thought I deserved. I knew I should have gotten it deep down, and I feel so angry right now. My rational side, however, tells me how stupidly immature I'm being and how I'm really not thinking right. Even though I know how immature I am, I still can't shake the fact that I'm angry.

Basically I can't deal with this. Woohoo the cataclysmic post hits home.

Kishijoten
June 18th, 2008, 05:07 PM
i probably have the most issuest problem here

what should i do to make this guy know that i'm intersted in him, i know he likes me too but i am afraid i'll mess up can u figure out of a way or a good thing to say so he knows that i'm intersted without saying a single word?

Motsuko Live
June 18th, 2008, 05:20 PM
I cannot believe I'm even here. But whatever. Ya so this kid got an award that I thought I deserved. I knew I should have gotten it deep down, and I feel so angry right now. My rational side, however, tells me how stupidly immature I'm being and how I'm really not thinking right. Even though I know how immature I am, I still can't shake the fact that I'm angry.

Basically I can't deal with this. Woohoo the cataclysmic post hits home.

Aw, sis :(
Well, you shouldn't feel bad for feeling angry. There's nothing wrong with being disappointed, especially if you've been looking forward to this. We all get jealous sometimes ;)

But on the other hand, you can't really ask them to give the award to you instead. You can only try to do better next time (if there is a next time). If I were you, I'd see what made this "kid" stick out so much. Don't, like, ask him, but just observe, I suppose xD

And if there isn't a next time, then... I don't know. Steal the award or something. :3

Unforgettable
June 18th, 2008, 06:49 PM
I cannot believe I'm even here. But whatever. Ya so this kid got an award that I thought I deserved. I knew I should have gotten it deep down, and I feel so angry right now. My rational side, however, tells me how stupidly immature I'm being and how I'm really not thinking right. Even though I know how immature I am, I still can't shake the fact that I'm angry.

Basically I can't deal with this. Woohoo the cataclysmic post hits home.
Awww, it will get better in time. I've been there. I've worked my ass off for something, then get it handed to someone else. I was hurt, betrayed, and mad. But it does wear off. You know deep down you should have got it, and that is all that can be done. oh and *e-hug* Maybe that made you feel better ;D Keep trying, I'm sure you will get it next time.
i probably have the most issuest problem here

what should i do to make this guy know that i'm intersted in him, i know he likes me too but i am afraid i'll mess up can u figure out of a way or a good thing to say so he knows that i'm intersted without saying a single word?
You can't be afraid that you will mess up. If he likes you, he likes you and nothing will change that.
I suggest from my years of experience, that you just tell him straight out. Just say "Hey, I think you are pretty cool. Would you mind going out sometime?"
If that isn't your thing, you could sneak attack it in there. Like, if he asks how you are doing, you can say "I'm ok, but I would be a lot better if you were going on with me." It's cute, and I've seen it done.
If you wanna go about it the quiet way, just flirt a little. Touch his arm when you talk to him, stuff like that.
But most importantly, be yourself. And he will love it ;D

Spinor
June 19th, 2008, 07:25 PM
i probably have the most issuest problem here

what should i do to make this guy know that i'm intersted in him, i know he likes me too but i am afraid i'll mess up can u figure out of a way or a good thing to say so he knows that i'm intersted without saying a single word?


Better not be me.


Err.. Well I must be a guy like him so I guess I can help you in this situation.

Well when I was in 4th grade I had a crush on this girl and just for being myself (angry, idiotic, stupid tantrumatic, supercalofragilisticexpialikiller.) I made her my friend. But Last year It looked like she liked me but ended up not. And now I know what I did wrong.

Mmm.. So what to say to him, if he has lots of friends that hang out "cool" a lot, I might not be much help, but if he's average or under, this should work.


Boys LOVE girls that comment on exercise
Now to start a friendship with him, try to start small chat (How he likes this school/grade, How was the last school, virtually most of the stuff you ask, beleive it or not, small chat grows easily into friendship, hence that was the strategy I used on the girl I like.)
After building friendship, you can ask him his Phone #.
Try to buy Abercrombie clothes/perfume. May be expensive but it's worth it.
Boys LOVE girls that comment on exercise
Try to find common points with each other.
Nerds LOVE girls that need technical help... *Whole school stares at me*
DO NOT ask him to a dance immidiatly after his knowledge of it, this is the point were you must overcome fears, go all out, the ask him IF he's comin to the dance
He may say : Yes but searching, Yes got one, No got no one, No I shouldn't bother.
Ask him out if it's looking good. If not, I'm sorry, chances got slim, but not impossible.
Boys LOVE girls that comment on exercise
You shouldn't even have fears in the first place, at this age.
Did I mention Boys LOVE excercise related comments?

BTW, This (http://men.msn.com/article.aspx?cp-documentid=6014683) may help a bit as well.

Minato
June 25th, 2008, 05:19 AM
Ehh... so. Cough. My problem. Yes..

All right, so there's a really big change going on really soon for me. I can't state exactly what it is, except that I'm going to be moving to the city, and that I'm going to experience the real feeling of having "people" around me, and the whole "group" thing. I'm going to have to socialize with people and all.

Well, for starters, I absolutely despise leaving my house where I am at the moment- there's nobody to befriend or hang out with, and nothing really to do (my town is near the army base, and most of the people here are just soldiers and salespeople). To me, the whole "going out" concept is utterly useless, when I can be doing equations and drawing and reading in the comfort of my own home. Plus, the whole "social", "people" thing is completely new to me, and the idea of living in a crowded city and going out a lot is also getting to me. It doesn't really help my anxieties that moving is going to be a pain, since my life is pretty much rooted into this house and I'm going to have to let go of a lot of old (and useless) artifacts.

So, get moving, carry a load of my stuff and clean up a lot. Be prepared for picking up a fast pace and the life of a city. Be prepared for crime, be prepared for a new home, be prepared to memorize a heck of a lot of new things. Be prepared to be made fun of as the "village kid", be prepared to experience one too many new things at all the same time. I've told people that I'm fine with it, that I think I can survive, but to be honest, I'm thinking that's just way to much for myself to deal with.

The prospect of what awaits me is taking its toll. My math grades, normally an average of 26 out of 30 questions right, has fallen to 18 out of 30. I'm beginning to feel extremely lethargic, and growing weak and listless. I simply don't feel willing to leave this quiet (if not boring) town for the loud, bustling city and pick up such a fast pace. I feel useless and bored, but I don't really want to do anything. I don't know how I'm going to adjust.

So, concisely, how am I supposed to deal with this tremendous change in my life?

TheReignOverhead
June 25th, 2008, 11:44 AM
Ehh... so. Cough. My problem. Yes..

All right, so there's a really big change going on really soon for me. I can't state exactly what it is, except that I'm going to be moving to the city, and that I'm going to experience the real feeling of having "people" around me, and the whole "group" thing. I'm going to have to socialize with people and all.

Well, for starters, I absolutely despise leaving my house where I am at the moment- there's nobody to befriend or hang out with, and nothing really to do (my town is near the army base, and most of the people here are just soldiers and salespeople). To me, the whole "going out" concept is utterly useless, when I can be doing equations and drawing and reading in the comfort of my own home. Plus, the whole "social", "people" thing is completely new to me, and the idea of living in a crowded city and going out a lot is also getting to me. It doesn't really help my anxieties that moving is going to be a pain, since my life is pretty much rooted into this house and I'm going to have to let go of a lot of old (and useless) artifacts.

So, get moving, carry a load of my stuff and clean up a lot. Be prepared for picking up a fast pace and the life of a city. Be prepared for crime, be prepared for a new home, be prepared to memorize a heck of a lot of new things. Be prepared to be made fun of as the "village kid", be prepared to experience one too many new things at all the same time. I've told people that I'm fine with it, that I think I can survive, but to be honest, I'm thinking that's just way to much for myself to deal with.

The prospect of what awaits me is taking its toll. My math grades, normally an average of 26 out of 30 questions right, has fallen to 18 out of 30. I'm beginning to feel extremely lethargic, and growing weak and listless. I simply don't feel willing to leave this quiet (if not boring) town for the loud, bustling city and pick up such a fast pace. I feel useless and bored, but I don't really want to do anything. I don't know how I'm going to adjust.

So, concisely, how am I supposed to deal with this tremendous change in my life?

You need to remember that it isn't the end of the world. Living in a city isn't that hard, but it will take some time to get used to. Just remember to make the best of it. When life throws you lemons you make lemonade.

Michii
June 25th, 2008, 12:08 PM
Ehh... so. Cough. My problem. Yes..

All right, so there's a really big change going on really soon for me. I can't state exactly what it is, except that I'm going to be moving to the city, and that I'm going to experience the real feeling of having "people" around me, and the whole "group" thing. I'm going to have to socialize with people and all.

Well, for starters, I absolutely despise leaving my house where I am at the moment- there's nobody to befriend or hang out with, and nothing really to do (my town is near the army base, and most of the people here are just soldiers and salespeople). To me, the whole "going out" concept is utterly useless, when I can be doing equations and drawing and reading in the comfort of my own home. Plus, the whole "social", "people" thing is completely new to me, and the idea of living in a crowded city and going out a lot is also getting to me. It doesn't really help my anxieties that moving is going to be a pain, since my life is pretty much rooted into this house and I'm going to have to let go of a lot of old (and useless) artifacts.

So, get moving, carry a load of my stuff and clean up a lot. Be prepared for picking up a fast pace and the life of a city. Be prepared for crime, be prepared for a new home, be prepared to memorize a heck of a lot of new things. Be prepared to be made fun of as the "village kid", be prepared to experience one too many new things at all the same time. I've told people that I'm fine with it, that I think I can survive, but to be honest, I'm thinking that's just way to much for myself to deal with.

The prospect of what awaits me is taking its toll. My math grades, normally an average of 26 out of 30 questions right, has fallen to 18 out of 30. I'm beginning to feel extremely lethargic, and growing weak and listless. I simply don't feel willing to leave this quiet (if not boring) town for the loud, bustling city and pick up such a fast pace. I feel useless and bored, but I don't really want to do anything. I don't know how I'm going to adjust.

So, concisely, how am I supposed to deal with this tremendous change in my life?
I can almost relate to you, since I'm a New Jersian, and I'm in the denseness of it.

Ok. So, you say that you're moving from basically a desolate place to the big city. I'm going to tell you one thing, it's not going to be easy. It's going to be really hard at first; you're going to hear noises that you're unfamiliar with, and you're going to see things that you're not used to seeing. It's going to be weird, but I'll give you a couple ways on how to deal with the noise from inside your house. When you first move, try keeping a couple windows open; that'll get you used to the noise. Even at night, keep the window slightly adjar. Doing this will make the noise seem comforting almost, and you won't even hear it soon. Not used to going out? Well, try sitting on your stoop for a couple minutes each day. This will not only get you outside in general, but it'll also give you some newfound curiousity on what the city has to hold for you. And your grades? This might seem insane to you, but get something from outside your current home, and bring it with you to the city. When you get nervous about your grades, or when you're taking a test, you can hold it for the familiarality of your old home and the familiar smells.


It'll be hard, but you seem like a strong person. You'll get used to it. =)

Omega Saikon
June 25th, 2008, 01:07 PM
Inactivity is my most major problem yet... ><;

Anxiety.
June 25th, 2008, 02:35 PM
Inactivity is my most major problem yet... ><;

Is that really a problem we can help you with? Or was it a joke, because it's hard to tell sarcasm from being dead serious on the internet.

But, if you are dead serious, then we can't help you. If you are inactive, then... stop being so inactive. Also, depending on what you mean by 'inactive'

Inactive as in real world
You should get out and play football, or rounders, or basketball, or any sport with your friends, or jog around the park, or the block, with other people, or with a dog. Soon, you'll enjoy it, because exercise gives of -insert big word here- or as I call it 'Happiness' and well... makes you happy, and lively. You'll get used to it

Inactive as in PC
Find a topic you enjoy, and keep posting in that. Problem solved

If you were being sarcastic.... TT___TT I just wasted my time D:

Minato
June 25th, 2008, 07:17 PM
I can almost relate to you, since I'm a New Jersian, and I'm in the denseness of it.

Ok. So, you say that you're moving from basically a desolate place to the big city. I'm going to tell you one thing, it's not going to be easy. It's going to be really hard at first; you're going to hear noises that you're unfamiliar with, and you're going to see things that you're not used to seeing. It's going to be weird, but I'll give you a couple ways on how to deal with the noise from inside your house. When you first move, try keeping a couple windows open; that'll get you used to the noise. Even at night, keep the window slightly adjar. Doing this will make the noise seem comforting almost, and you won't even hear it soon. Not used to going out? Well, try sitting on your stoop for a couple minutes each day. This will not only get you outside in general, but it'll also give you some newfound curiousity on what the city has to hold for you. And your grades? This might seem insane to you, but get something from outside your current home, and bring it with you to the city. When you get nervous about your grades, or when you're taking a test, you can hold it for the familiarality of your old home and the familiar smells.


It'll be hard, but you seem like a strong person. You'll get used to it. =)

Thank you, this encourages me that it won't kill me to move xD. I'll try and follow these; it seems like it'll work out well. Again, thanks. It really helped.

You need to remember that it isn't the end of the world. Living in a city isn't that hard, but it will take some time to get used to. Just remember to make the best of it. When life throws you lemons you make lemonade.

All right, I'll do my best. There are definitely advantages to living in the city, and I'll try to keep a positive outlook on it. Thanks.

Cruelty And The Beast
June 26th, 2008, 01:37 AM
I'm really quite suprised I'm here, but yes my problem...

Basically, about 6 weeks ago I broke up with my girlfriend. Well now we're really close friends, like really close. But she has this new boyfriend and he and his mates are threatening me. One of them even pulled a knife on me the other day. That's not so much the problem, I've been doing martial arts for 11 years now and I can take care of myself.
But I'm close to just losing my temper, and if I do I'll get in trouble with the police and my ex will get angry with me and it'll ruin our friendship.
As well as this, he's been saying to her that I've been threatening him which is not true.

I really need some help with this one =\

-HeaveN-
June 26th, 2008, 02:04 AM
Sorry I can't help with this situation. Gee, you ppl do have some major problems. *coughs*
My problem: There's a guy a just met 2 or 3 days ago (on the net). We started chatting and got along pretty well. He kinda acted that he liked me -_-". To tell you ppl the truth, I've just seen his pic and just talked to him. First he declared that I'm his best-friend and now he says I'm his GF!. That sounds pretty absurd. I do not believe in having a BF/GF on the net. So what shoud I do with him? I know he sounds pretty nice and all But it just doesn't feels right. It's cuz I'm not a flirt. *PHEW*

Mr. Curling Iron
June 26th, 2008, 02:12 AM
Tell him to lay off. Dont worry about how he'll feel. He seriously needs a life. No-one just goes out with someone just because they feel like it.. and you guys just met...

Make him suffer... but then again... that would be inhumane. Just tell him straight out, how you feel and you want this stupid nonsence to stop

Kylie-chan
June 26th, 2008, 02:27 AM
Sorry I can't help with this situation. Gee, you ppl do have some major problems. *coughs*
My problem: There's a guy a just met 2 or 3 days ago (on the net). We started chatting and got along pretty well. He kinda acted that he liked me -_-". To tell you ppl the truth, I've just seen his pic and just talked to him. First he declared that I'm his best-friend and now he says I'm his GF!. That sounds pretty absurd. I do not believe in having a BF/GF on the net. So what shoud I do with him? I know he sounds pretty nice and all But it just doesn't feels right. It's cuz I'm not a flirt. *PHEW*

Are you his girlfriend? No? Then make it clear; he's just going to get more carried away.

Tell him to back off. Let him know you can't just go saying people are with you when you've just met and/or they haven't consented. Let him down nicely, if you still want to maintain the friendship, but if he goes off crying and swearing vengeance or something, obviously you don't want to know someone immature like that, so it should be interesting.

-HeaveN-
June 26th, 2008, 05:58 AM
Thanks so much ^^. Both of you, iMiraj and Kylie. I think u ppl are right. I'll do it now.
I'll let him know that I'M so NOT his GF. I'll lay him off alright.

Bug Catcher Nick
June 26th, 2008, 06:55 PM
Meh, I'm in a weird situation at the moment. I had a pretty serious girlfriend for about 8 months, but she started getting back into drugs, and mixing with the wrong crowd. In the end I felt she cared more for the drugs and low lifes than she did for me, so things kinda petered out, and we broke up. Since then she's gone a little mental, I haven't seen her since, but she's been banging on about how **** her life is, and how she doesn't want to see me at all. Weird, but there you go, and I tried to get on with life, she's doing her best to screw hers up.

Now the other day my house mate's girlfriend showed me some photos of her new housemates, and I mentioned that I thought one of them was pretty hot. Following day the hot one happened to be about when I was around, but I didn't get introduced or anything, just sat there for a minute or two before leaving the house. The following day the housemate's girlfriend gets a text from her asking who I was because she liked the look of me. It's a bit crazy because I was dressed as a scruff and my hair was a mess, so my sitting there in silence clearly made a good impression.

They're now trying to get me to phone her, but I reckon it'd be a bit awkward, given that I don't know a thing about her, and I'll have to bump into her loads next year when I'm round. I'm off for the summer for 2 months, so do I wait and hope she doesn't find someone else in the mean time? or do I bite the bullet and hope for the best?

I'm really quite suprised I'm here, but yes my problem...

Basically, about 6 weeks ago I broke up with my girlfriend. Well now we're really close friends, like really close. But she has this new boyfriend and he and his mates are threatening me. One of them even pulled a knife on me the other day. That's not so much the problem, I've been doing martial arts for 11 years now and I can take care of myself.
But I'm close to just losing my temper, and if I do I'll get in trouble with the police and my ex will get angry with me and it'll ruin our friendship.
As well as this, he's been saying to her that I've been threatening him which is not true.

I really need some help with this one =\

Just leave them all alone. You're in danger of becoming attached. They won't last, and you're friendship with last longer.

Xairmo
June 26th, 2008, 07:07 PM
Meh, I'm in a weird situation at the moment. I had a pretty serious girlfriend for about 8 months, but she started getting back into drugs, and mixing with the wrong crowd. In the end I felt she cared more for the drugs and low lifes than she did for me, so things kinda petered out, and we broke up. Since then she's gone a little mental, I haven't seen her since, but she's been banging on about how **** her life is, and how she doesn't want to see me at all. Weird, but there you go, and I tried to get on with life, she's doing her best to screw hers up.

Now the other day my house mate's girlfriend showed me some photos of her new housemates, and I mentioned that I thought one of them was pretty hot. Following day the hot one happened to be about when I was around, but I didn't get introduced or anything, just sat there for a minute or two before leaving the house. The following day the housemate's girlfriend gets a text from her asking who I was because she liked the look of me. It's a bit crazy because I was dressed as a scruff and my hair was a mess, so my sitting there in silence clearly made a good impression.

They're now trying to get me to phone her, but I reckon it'd be a bit awkward, given that I don't know a thing about her, and I'll have to bump into her loads next year when I'm round. I'm off for the summer for 2 months, so do I wait and hope she doesn't find someone else in the mean time? or do I bite the bullet and hope for the best?



Just leave them all alone. You're in danger of becoming attached. They won't last, and you're friendship with last longer.
My advice for you is just to go for. Like they say It's better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all. I mean the worst that could happen is that it doesn't really work out between you two. Never hesitate in life, otherwise that may lead to regret. You can sit around and wonder "what if", but you'll never know till you go for it. Life isn't here for you to observe, it's here for you tive! I know what I've said is just a bunch of cliches mashed together but I feel that it's the truth. :P

Akarei Yorume
June 26th, 2008, 07:19 PM
...where do I begin?

I feel I'm in love with Itachi Uchiha (yes, the character himself)... and I'm sure I'd do positively ANYTHING for him if he existed. If he told me to kill you, I'd make myself do it because he would want me to. If it would please him, I'd do it. It's getting in the way of my everyday life, he's all I think about. I dream about almost nothing but him (seriously!), everything I say relates to him... I'm sure I'd kill my best friend to follow in his footsteps.

I think it's tearing me and my best friend apart. See, we write these fanfictions together, and she has control of Itachi... and she knows I want control, and I've started to press my point and use force to show I mean it. She once gave in and said "fine, you can have him...", but I declined. Part of me screams at me every day: "WHY DIDN'T YOU SEIZE THE OPPORTUNITY WHILE YOU HAD THE CHANCE?!" She doesn't allow me to even get near him, and it's building up inside of me. Eventually I blocked her e-mail address so I wouldn't do any more harm to her. (btw, she's here on PC- Rainfall)
What should I do? I really want to show her that I have rights too- and that she can't keep me from him... but I don't want to lose her.

Tamaki
June 26th, 2008, 07:24 PM
...where do I begin?

I feel I'm in love with Itachi Uchiha (yes, the character himself)... and I'm sure I'd do positively ANYTHING for him if he existed. If he told me to kill you, I'd make myself do it because he would want me to. If it would please him, I'd do it. It's getting in the way of my everyday life, he's all I think about. I dream about almost nothing but him (seriously!), everything I say relates to him... I'm sure I'd kill my best friend to follow in his footsteps.

I think it's tearing me and my best friend apart. See, we write these fanfictions together, and she has control of Itachi... and she knows I want control, and I've started to press my point and use force to show I mean it. She once gave in and said "fine, you can have him...", but I declined. Part of me screams at me every day: "WHY DIDN'T YOU SEIZE THE OPPORTUNITY WHILE YOU HAD THE CHANCE?!" She doesn't allow me to even get near him, and it's building up inside of me. Eventually I blocked her e-mail address so I wouldn't do any more harm to her. (btw, she's here on PC- Rainfall)
What should I do? I really want to show her that I have rights too- and that she can't keep me from him... but I don't want to lose her.

Oh... um, wow.

Well, I feel sorta the same way about L from Death Note, (lol.) only not quite so obsessive. He's just a character. Remember that there are real guys out there who can give you real love. You can be a fangirl without overly obsessing.

Besides, Sasuke's better >.>

Akarei Yorume
June 26th, 2008, 07:27 PM
Oh... um, wow.

Well, I feel sorta the same way about L from Death Note, (lol.) only not quite so obsessive. He's just a character. Remember that there are real guys out there who can give you real love. You can be a fangirl without overly obsessing.

Besides, Sasuke's better >.>

T_T Everyone tells me that. <_< But I suppose it's true.

...me no likey Sasu.

Xairmo
June 26th, 2008, 07:31 PM
Trust me Sam, we all get super FanGirlish like that but don't let it run your life! I mean I love Renji but I have long accepted the fact that he isn't real. Take Nozo-chan's advice. Look for a real boy to give you real love.

Ialso think this maybe much deeper than you're letting on. It could be from an inner depression/anxiety or fear that you may never find the right guy for you thus you cling to Itachi because in your mind he will always be there for you.

Akarei Yorume
June 26th, 2008, 07:36 PM
Trust me Sam, we all get super FanGirlish like that but don't let it run your life! I mean I love Renji but I have long accepted the fact that he isn't real. Take Nozo-chan's advice. Look for a real boy to give you real love.

Ialso think this maybe much deeper than you're letting on. It could be from an inner depression/anxiety or fear that you may never find the right guy for you thus you cling to Itachi because in your mind he will always be there for you.

^^;

Hmmm... I've never thought of it that way before. I'll take that into consideration, thanks! ^^

Xairmo
June 26th, 2008, 07:37 PM
You're welcome ^^ I hope I wasn't harsh though D: Sorry if I was :/

Anxiety.
June 27th, 2008, 12:58 AM
...where do I begin?

I feel I'm in love with Itachi Uchiha (yes, the character himself)... and I'm sure I'd do positively ANYTHING for him if he existed. If he told me to kill you, I'd make myself do it because he would want me to. If it would please him, I'd do it. It's getting in the way of my everyday life, he's all I think about. I dream about almost nothing but him (seriously!), everything I say relates to him... I'm sure I'd kill my best friend to follow in his footsteps.

I think it's tearing me and my best friend apart. See, we write these fanfictions together, and she has control of Itachi... and she knows I want control, and I've started to press my point and use force to show I mean it. She once gave in and said "fine, you can have him...", but I declined. Part of me screams at me every day: "WHY DIDN'T YOU SEIZE THE OPPORTUNITY WHILE YOU HAD THE CHANCE?!" She doesn't allow me to even get near him, and it's building up inside of me. Eventually I blocked her e-mail address so I wouldn't do any more harm to her. (btw, she's here on PC- Rainfall)
What should I do? I really want to show her that I have rights too- and that she can't keep me from him... but I don't want to lose her.

Ah. That is a problem. Thing is, I have done that with a character I made for a story. And I keep wanting him to be real D:

But best thing to do is to say to yourself
'I love him. But he isn't real, he is more of a backup for when my life gets down, and there are real people in this world, that I can really fall in love with, and can really love me back,' and keep thinking that whenever you think of him

DAMN I LOST THE GAME! -Sorry, but I did-

Anyway, think about other people, don't bring him up, give Naruto a break for a little while, just until you calm down from it if it helps.

I know this is an odd way of helping, but every time you talk about him, in a love way -Not like... Itachi and Saskue are fighting, and I think Itachi is winning- sort of thing, but like -Itachi is so cute- sort of thing, get someone to hit you, then you will stop thinking about it because you wont want the pain. I know it's the same way they house train dogs, but it works, I did it aswell to stop me from shouting at people, every time I shouted in an angry way, for no or little reason, I slapped myself. I don't shout anymore so it works xD But only for like... a month, otherwise you will start hating Itachi...

Just give some techniques a try. He can still be your favorite character, just without the obsessive thing.

Well... it might not work, but that's all I can think of.

Oh yeah, can nobody say
'Yeah, but you are telling them to receive physical violence, that wont make anything better!' I'm not saying they have to, I'm just saying it might work. Okay? Thanks ~

Chosen_of_Manaphy
June 28th, 2008, 09:16 AM
My little chiuaua, Benette, got hit by a car today.

I was watching Pokemon, and he whined to go outside, to do "business".

We live in an apartment house, which was recently built. Our landlord and some workers were working on the unfinished section of the basement, and the gate was wide open, unknown to me.

We live off of Route 110, a very, very busy road. Benette was only 1 year old, and didn't know any better.

By the time I let him out to do business, I hadn't known the gate was open. Thus I assumed he was going outside.

Two minutes later, I get a call from the kind lady who had seen him in the street and put him on a blanket beside the road, stating he was hit.

My mother had just pulled in to the driveway, and saw the group of children across the road.

She went with them to cremate poor Benette's body, so we could keep his ashes.

And the worst part? Its mostly my fault for being an irresponsible owner...
:(

Please, Click here and give your support to poor Bennette (http://cfnchris.deviantart.com/art/R-I-P-Benette-90048155)

Aegis
June 28th, 2008, 09:23 AM
While I'm terribly sorry for your loss, there is already a thread you may post any problems or grievances in.

-Merged-

Chosen_of_Manaphy
June 28th, 2008, 09:32 AM
Oh, sorry. I didn't know there was a thread like this.

Anyways,
my mom is tearful right now, and though I'm sad, I cant sem to really feel anything, ya know?
Everyones all crying and upset, and here I am tring to get our lives moving along, ya know?

Twinx
June 28th, 2008, 09:42 AM
Oh, sorry. I didn't know there was a thread like this.

Anyways,
my mom is tearful right now, and though I'm sad, I cant sem to really feel anything, ya know?
Everyones all crying and upset, and here I am tring to get our lives moving along, ya know?
I'm sorry for your loss...
I guess you're not feeling anything yet because you're still in shock...
But you shouldn't be blaming yourself.. It's not a very uncommon thing to happen.

May his soul rest in peace.

Chosen_of_Manaphy
June 28th, 2008, 09:45 AM
Thanks.

My personality is basically: "Oh no! Aw, that sucks...getting back on with life"

Michii
June 28th, 2008, 10:00 AM
My little chiuaua, Benette, got hit by a car today.

I was watching Pokemon, and he whined to go outside, to do "business".

We live in an apartment house, which was recently built. Our landlord and some workers were working on the unfinished section of the basement, and the gate was wide open, unknown to me.

We live off of Route 110, a very, very busy road. Benette was only 1 year old, and didn't know any better.

By the time I let him out to do business, I hadn't known the gate was open. Thus I assumed he was going outside.

Two minutes later, I get a call from the kind lady who had seen him in the street and put him on a blanket beside the road, stating he was hit.

My mother had just pulled in to the driveway, and saw the group of children across the road.

She went with them to cremate poor Benette's body, so we could keep his ashes.

And the worst part? Its mostly my fault for being an irresponsible owner...
:(

Please, Click here and give your support to poor Bennette (http://cfnchris.deviantart.com/art/R-I-P-Benette-90048155)


Look. I know that this just happened hours ago, and you're grief and pain is still fresh in mind. But blaming yourself isn't going to do anything. It's not going to bring Bennette back, and it's not going to help you at all. I'm sure that if Bennette could talk to you right now, he'd tell you to go on and live your life. He'd tell you that he had a great life while he was living, and that it was just his time to go. The bad part about guilt is not that it's just an emotion, but that it can control your life. Recovery will be slow for you, but it will happen. All you can do now is honor your dog's memory, and learn from your experiences with him.

Good luck to you. Everything will be ok, I promise. =)

EDIT: I'm a tad bit late with my post, I find. Awh well, no matter. ^^

Chosen_of_Manaphy
June 28th, 2008, 10:05 AM
Thanks.
Death never really affected me...

Akarei Yorume
July 2nd, 2008, 03:05 PM
Hm...

Well, I have a pair, but I'm not sure if I want to be paired anymore. I really want to tell him but I'm afraid because I don't want to hurt his feelings. He's a really good friend, but...
What should I do?

Midnight Beat
July 2nd, 2008, 03:22 PM
Hm...

Well, I have a pair, but I'm not sure if I want to be paired anymore. I really want to tell him but I'm afraid because I don't want to hurt his feelings. He's a really good friend, but...
What should I do?

Well for starters, he's probably going to see this post. So, he probably knows already. And next, if he's really that good of a friend, he'll understand. Just talk it out with him and give your reasons for not wanting to be paired any longer. Good luck!

Kylie-chan
July 2nd, 2008, 06:18 PM
Hm...

Well, I have a pair, but I'm not sure if I want to be paired anymore. I really want to tell him but I'm afraid because I don't want to hurt his feelings. He's a really good friend, but...
What should I do?

Like Midnight Beat pointed out, he's probably already seen this.

Just PM him and say you don't want to be paired anymore? Pairing isn't serious business at all. If he's actually a good friend, he won't treat you any differently because you've unpaired. Good luck~ I hope it all works out for the best.

Yuukihime
July 4th, 2008, 10:23 PM
Well I dunno if the follwoing problems are worth posting but here goes..

A few years ago I was diagnosed with epilepsy. (Seizures and what not) I have to get blood drawn every 6months or so to make sure all ym blood count is okay and everything and it usually is so whatever~ And i have to be on medication for this which is like 2 dollars a pill! (Lame I know ~.~) Well anyway every year or so I have to have an E.E.G. (a brain wave scan) My doctore says that everytyhing will normalize in the next couple of years. So I hoped that by my last E.E.G. I could get weened OFF the medicine. When we got my results back.. they were abnormal.. *sigh* same as always. Then I was told later on that about 5% of epileptics..will never recover from having seizures. When I was told this I burst out crying. I didn't want to be on the medicine, and I was also anxious on how when I turned 18 if by some dumb cruel twist of fate I still had epilepsy, that I would have to pay for the medicine and as stayed before.. one pill is like 2 dollars so a 6month prescription is liek 1000 dollars =3=... and I cannot pay that! My dad says I'll be on his coverage till I'm 21 but time passes in the blink of an eye. (philoshical saying I guess o.o;) So I'm fairly nervous about the whole thing... But recently I have been thinking that their are people way worse off them me. (Won't go into details) Which makes me feel guilty for worrying about all this crap! I think to myself. ''I'm so selfish think abotu all the peopel who are worse off then me?" Makes me feel guilty T.T..but alas....My epilepsy is nder control but myselfish side yerns too not take this medicine. My last doctor appointment with my doctor said that they may try weening me off the medicine even though my brain waves are still abnormal and take the risk. Thing is..If i get off the medicine I will end up having the worst type of seizure..a grand mal (or tonic clonic which ever you prefer xD) in which I will fully collapse and be in a twitchy moany shakey state for like 2-3 minutes. And when I coem out the doctor says if someone has one they will feel like crap or even have amnesia for about 10 minutes.. This scared me like alot..

2. (A mindless problem I guess) Well you see...I know there are probably alot people who have this problem so don't sue me Dx.. Well my mom smokes :/.. I know there are more meanigful pronlems to post but I will post this oen anyways~~... You see she smokes and she has for like.. 40 years or soemthing >.>;.. and about 2 years ago she was diagnosised with fibermalsia (spelling?) In which he muscles and joins are really painful and what not.. And she was told the worst thing to do was to smoke. And she still does.. about 6-7months ago she told me she would quit over the phone..and after she hung up..I fell to my knees and cried in joy. And I thanked God so much. (I grew up in a Christian household so I'm religious ^_~) But..Sje never followed through with her promise. And eerytime I try to talk to her about it she brushes me off like I'm nothing! And my dad defends her he goes.. "Tiffani stop.." This pisses me off so much..! *insert grr angry mark* And my godmother smoked as well.. (she's an adopted family member) SHe smoked for like 50 years and now..what haooened is she has emphensima and 1 dead lung.. and she has to use and inhaler liek 5 tiems a day and be on an oxygen tank 3 tiems a day and she has to sleep with one.. and I fear..worse could happen to my mom!

Well I dunno if you people at pokecommunity can help but I'm glad to be able to talk about them here :)

Manaphy1128
July 4th, 2008, 11:00 PM
(posting a problem where pretty much everyone is going to say what I've already heard)

Okay, so I have Asperger's, which means I have a "special interest." My "special interest" is probably manga, so I generally want everything to do with it. But now, I want all the manga I can find, which means I also want Older Teen books. My Mom says no to pretty much all of them, so I've been lucky to get a few. Anyway, her No can lead to... problems. The first time I encountered this was when I went hysterical in a bookstore when my Mom said no, and events have occurred up to this date. I have had about 3 more similar incidents, so my Mom has banned me from bookstores. Which could be a major problem, considering books are half of my life. So, I have to convince my Mom I'm not gonna "pull another one" and also convince her on some of the OT books, and that they're not as bad as they seem, and she should trust me on this one. Any hints on either two arguments?

Akarei Yorume
July 5th, 2008, 01:20 AM
(posting a problem where pretty much everyone is going to say what I've already heard)

Okay, so I have Asperger's, which means I have a "special interest." My "special interest" is probably manga, so I generally want everything to do with it. But now, I want all the manga I can find, which means I also want Older Teen books. My Mom says no to pretty much all of them, so I've been lucky to get a few. Anyway, her No can lead to... problems. The first time I encountered this was when I went hysterical in a bookstore when my Mom said no, and events have occurred up to this date. I have had about 3 more similar incidents, so my Mom has banned me from bookstores. Which could be a major problem, considering books are half of my life. So, I have to convince my Mom I'm not gonna "pull another one" and also convince her on some of the OT books, and that they're not as bad as they seem, and she should trust me on this one. Any hints on either two arguments?

Wow, I have High Functioning Autism, very similar to Aspergers in most respects. I know how you feel. (okay, maybe I don't. No one can ever fully understand another... ._.)

Hrm... well, you could try to just talk it out with her and just tell the truth. You might not get what you want, but at least she'll know what it's like for you.

...

*sighs* I know this'll be the third time I've posted here. I'm so whiney. o.o
But I digress...

I have to go to my dad's tomorrow, (well, technically later today) and I'll be there for a week. I have massive anxiety and I feel so uncomfortable about the whole thing. When I go, I feel like I'm in a cage, and I can't explain to anyone why I'm so reluctant to go...
Is there a way I can tell my mum how extremely anxious about this I am? It's keeping me up, as I type this it's about 3:45 a.m.

-HeaveN-
July 6th, 2008, 01:03 AM
Oh, sorry. I didn't know there was a thread like this.

Anyways,
my mom is tearful right now, and though I'm sad, I cant sem to really feel anything, ya know?
Everyones all crying and upset, and here I am tring to get our lives moving along, ya know?
I know what you mean. I've had the same experience before, and I was just 9.5 at that time. Try to make them cheerful. This may take time but you've gotta be strong.

Syrex
July 8th, 2008, 05:01 PM
Ok, Before any of you read this, I want to make this clear. I do NOT want to be made fun of
called emo or anything negative towards me because of this thread.

Now, to the point of this thread.

I'm just a 17 year old male who is looking for the right girl to be with.

Firstly, The two girls i'm confused about is Brooke(current) and nicollette(ex)

Nicollette and I started dating on December 22nd of 07. Sadly,
I lost my best friend because of this girl. She broke up with him to get with me. I felt bad, yes. but it was
something about this girl that drove me up walls. That'd get out in the dead of night
and do anything for her. I dated her for 5 months and we broke up 4 days after valentines day.
Her reason for dumping me was she was tired of hurting me. I'll admit. Sometimes she was a bit mean.
She'd get mad at me for no reason. We fought a lot.
but after we have broken up. She completely changed. She changed into my perfect
dream girl. I asked her about whats going on and she simply said, I want you back
and I'll do what it takes, but I won't purposely break you and break up because
I don't want to see you hurt again. Now, Be mature about this. Nicollette was my first.
It was this year as my junior year when she took my virginity. was she a virgin? no.
but that doesn't bother me, and the way she lost it, I won't say it here just because it's
horrible what was done to her. Even since I've been with Brooke, I cannot stop thinking
about nicollette and the amazing times we've had together. Being silly. Her mom was
like my mother. she came out at the dead of night and picked me up because I got beat
up over some drug deal. Now, I used to smoke weed and drink. but I quit for nicollette
to make her happy. Anywho. She was pretty much the most caring girlfriend in the world.
She even brought me a few packets of Ramen when I ran out of food at my house. Cute? I think so.
Nicollette tells me constantly she believes I'm her true love and
she could see us one day getting married and starting a family if I wanted to with her.


Now, Brooke. She's a different story. She one of those girls who has many guy friends
and flirty. She is confusing. She will instantly go to sleep when we have a fight and
wont talk to me about me. She goes and does things and won't let me know or invite
me or ask me if it is ok if she hangs out with this guy or this person. I mean, I'm not
going to tell her no if she wants to hang out with a guy, I just want to know which guy
it is. have I done something wrong for asking? Anywho. Brooke is gorgeous and I'm
happy with her. and mature again. I took this girls virginity, she wanted me to. But
on the other hand. I don't think she really cares me for me. I was at a party and got
drunk. Yes, my fault and I was looking for a place to stay so i called her up and asked her.
she said yes, that I could. I walk around 3 MILES from the party to her house and
when I get there she tells me I can't now because she invited a friend over. so naturally
I got mad at her and just left. She left me walking on the main road of my town drunk
and could have gotten picked up by the police and what not. Her parents let her see me
whenever she wants to, but Her dad doesn't like me because I one of those "metal" kids
that wear chick pants and tight band shirts but whatever. I'll deal with not talking to him.
but her mom, her mom CONSTANTLY calls me a "Faggot" and a "queer" all the time
and always yells at if I mad brooke cry. Now, Brooke cries over everything. If I don't say
something right like "Oh, you're beautiful too!" she'll begin to cry. or she'll BAWL when I
tell her I have plans with other friends and cannot hangout. I don't get her sometimes.
Also, We do have a lot in common. but We dress very differently. Like I stated before.
I'm one of thos "metal" kids and she would be what you call a "Prep". Also, I told Brooke
I wouldn't leave her for anything to be cute you know? but she took my seriously.
Just like last night, she was crying on the phone with me because she thought I was
going to leave her.

Alright, so. That descibes the two girls. I mean, Out of all honesty, I want Nicollette more
than anything I've ever wanted before but at the same I don't want to hurt brooke.

Both girls have said they would die without me. I just don't want that to be resting on
my shoulders that some girl killed themselves over me, if they really do it.

Here is a photo of each girl

Nicollette
http://img211.imageshack.us/img211/6392/070708195600oh4.jpg




Brooke
http://img515.imageshack.us/img515/1768/0620082225bxl6.jpg




Now, the purpose of this thread is. I don't know what to do. I want Nicollette, but at
the same time, I want brooke. If I left Brooke, She'd cry and I'd feel horrible.

So please, PokeCommunity. Help me out on this one.

Thanks,
Dustin

Aegis
July 8th, 2008, 05:15 PM
There's already a thread you may post any problems in, please make sure to check before creating threads. And since your post is so large, I added in some spoiler tags~

-Merged-

Syrex
July 8th, 2008, 05:26 PM
Sorry about that. now I just hope people notice my post up there.

Akarei Yorume
July 8th, 2008, 05:33 PM
@Syrex: Seems to be a bit of a problem. But really... I'm not sure if either of them is right. If I were to choose for you I'd say Nicollette, because she really does care about you. Leave Brooke behind, don't drop her rudely or anything, but at least try to explain to her the situation. If she gets upset, well... there's nothing you can do about that.

Another thing: ...I firmly stand against breaking virginity or whatever before marriage. There's nothing I can do about your situation, and I don't want to sound controlling, but if you stop what you're doing now, I can guarantee that you'll feel a lot better about yourself. As much of a thrill and a rush that... well, breaking virginity is, it just, in my veiw, not right. I'm not trying to get all religious or anything, and I'm not saying you're a bad person. I'm just saying what I believe.

But if you are firm about this... well, Nicollette got you to stop doing crack, right? It seems she really cares about you, while Brook is more off and running with the crowd, if you know what I mean. Brook doesn't seem to care, and Nicollette does. I know I'm repeating myself here, sorry. -_-
What I'm saying is... if you choose one, go with Nicollette. If any one of the two of them is right for you, it's her.

Syrex
July 8th, 2008, 05:38 PM
Thanks for your input Myra Uchiha (http://www.pokecommunity.com/member.php?u=57850) - Nicollette got me to stop smoking pot and drinking.

And as for the virginity thing, I'm not going to argue against your beliefs. It was kinda drunk sex
both times anyway. We both had a few drinks in us and yeah...

But, would anyone else let to comment on my situation? Many thanks if you do.

Gerri Shin
July 8th, 2008, 06:33 PM
@ Syrex
after reading the lengthy description f your situation, it sticks out at me that you really do care more for Nicollette more than Brooke. I'd say go with Nicollette, if you don't you'll rue it forever.

Syrex
July 8th, 2008, 06:48 PM
@ Syrex
after reading the lengthy description f your situation, it sticks out at me that you really do care more for Nicollette more than Brooke. I'd say go with Nicollette, if you don't you'll rue it forever.


I care about Nicollette more than anything in the owrld. that's true.
but at the same time, if I got with her, I don't want her to treat me
like crap again. She has changed. I can tell that. She acts totally different
She always wants to be talking to me now. She cries when im depressed or hurt
and tries to cheer me up.

Brooke doesn't she just says "Oh, im sorry" and thats it. but Even thought I care
about nicollette more than anything, I don't want to hurt brooke or make her cry


Sometimes, I wish I could move away so I didn't have to choose between the
girls. I don't have to choose now, but I WANT too.

Ugh...

Memory
July 9th, 2008, 12:05 PM
@ Syrex -

Nicollette, most definitely.

Listen, the biggest mistake that you can make in your lifetime is not following what YOU believe. And what I mean by that is, don't do something because someone ELSE wants you to. Or not do something because someone else doesn't want you to.

You may hurt Brooke, but you need to follow what -you- believe. It's obvious Nicollette cares about you more. Brooke doesn't.

My dad ruined his entire life... because other people wanted him to do something. His girlfriend said she would only marry him if, instead of going to college, he went away on a mormon mission's trip for four years. 6 months in that girl found someone else. My dad could've gone back to college, but people wanted HIM to finish the mission's trip though he didn't want to.

He ruined his entire life that way. See what I mean? Don't feel obligated to stay with Brooke. Do what -you- want. ^^

Akarei Yorume
July 9th, 2008, 12:11 PM
My dad ruined his entire life... because other people wanted him to do something. His girlfriend said she would only marry him if, instead of going to college, he went away on a mormon mission's trip for four years. 6 months in that girl found someone else. My dad could've gone back to college, but people wanted HIM to finish the mission's trip though he didn't want to.

He ruined his entire life that way. See what I mean? Don't feel obligated to stay with Brooke. Do what -you- want. ^^

Wow... that's the meanest mormon I've ever heard about. You've got a good point there, too. But please don't judge all of them by that one person... 'cause I'm mormon too. -_- Reluctantly, but still...

Syrex
July 9th, 2008, 12:25 PM
@ Syrex -

Nicollette, most definitely.

Listen, the biggest mistake that you can make in your lifetime is not following what YOU believe. And what I mean by that is, don't do something because someone ELSE wants you to. Or not do something because someone else doesn't want you to.

You may hurt Brooke, but you need to follow what -you- believe. It's obvious Nicollette cares about you more. Brooke doesn't.

My dad ruined his entire life... because other people wanted him to do something. His girlfriend said she would only marry him if, instead of going to college, he went away on a mormon mission's trip for four years. 6 months in that girl found someone else. My dad could've gone back to college, but people wanted HIM to finish the mission's trip though he didn't want to.

He ruined his entire life that way. See what I mean? Don't feel obligated to stay with Brooke. Do what -you- want. ^^

Thank you very much.

I don't plan on making a decesion soon. I have alot of thinking to do

Z o M B ii 3
July 9th, 2008, 09:01 PM
I haven't went to sleep now for around 48 hours.
I'm need even tired.
Problem.

Syrex
July 10th, 2008, 09:57 AM
I haven't went to sleep now for around 48 hours.
I'm need even tired.
Problem.


You could go to the doctor for insomnia and get perscripted a sleeping aid.

or go by some nyquil.

Gewitterdrache27
July 10th, 2008, 10:07 AM
I'm a Semi-Insomniac, if I don't get any kind med to help me sleep, I'd sleep for 2-4 hours if I'm lucky.

Syrex, I may not have any real experience with this sort of thing, but I do know one thing. Everyone deserves a second chance. If Nicollette is what you care for, then give her a second chance. She seems to have changed by what you said, and a second chance for her would give you a second chance for yourself. Because if you don't give a second chance to what you truly care about, you're not even giving yourself a chance. That's what I think.

Syrex
July 10th, 2008, 10:11 AM
Thanks alot Gewitterdrache17.

I'm still thinking on the situation

Mr. Curling Iron
July 10th, 2008, 04:14 PM
Hey.. I went out to granville (suburb) while telling my parents that I was going to work...

They really mistrust me etc etc.

You guys think they'll excuse me if i send them this email:

[attatched]

I'm gunna just sit there and cry through the whole speech if i tell them ><

Normally I wouldnt attach stuff in PC but this is a bit private so..

Syrex
July 11th, 2008, 09:35 AM
Why email it to them?

My mother did they same thing about Nicollette and I. Mother hated her, but whatever.
I still stuck with it.

I did sneak out to see her. Just tell them in person and tell them how you feel about her
maybe they'll understand.






I told my mother I'm going to be most likely getting back with nicollette and she was AWAL.

Sorry if I offend anyone but this was what my mother said.

"Nicollette or her drunken worthless mother is not allowed her, and If I see her mother,
I'm going to give her a peice of my mind"

So, I didn't want to start a scene, so I walked nicollette home, and she lives 2 hours by foot
from me.

Yeah, I'm really irritated and annoyed with everything right now.

CaspianSun54
July 11th, 2008, 06:08 PM
Okay so I was wondering... How do you ask a girl out?

Syrex
July 11th, 2008, 07:28 PM
Just ask them really.

Just talk to them casually and be like "<name>, I think you're cute"

and if she says your cute back or seems "flirty" then go for it.

if you want to be easy about it. Just be like "Wanna date?"

Jubilation
July 11th, 2008, 07:35 PM
Yeah, just ask her out, if she seems like it's a date then it's a date, otherwise, make it look like just two friends going out

Mr. Curling Iron
July 11th, 2008, 07:40 PM
Ok, first try to find out how she feels about you, she may or may not call it a 'date.'

Just tell her, "Wanna go to <insert a lame place here eg. movies> with me?"

If she goes, "sure!"
then make it the two of you... if she seems reluctant, if its like the Movies, tell her other guys and girls will be there and invite other people... (this may backfire)

If she goes 'sure' :D Ask her if she wants to have lunch/dinner aswell :D


[M][I][R][A][J]

Syrex
July 12th, 2008, 10:34 AM
Problem solved :]


I finally got up the nerve to leave Brooke, and I got back with Nicollette.

Akarei Yorume
July 12th, 2008, 01:18 PM
Fourth time I've put something here. But this time, I'm really clueless.

I have two very good friends. One of them is like, one of my best friends ever, and the other... the other I have romantic feelings for.
But he accidentally offended me, causing me to... well... run away. My other friend was upset, obviously, and she hates my... love interest.
I came back, but I seem to have made the problem worse. She and my love interest have been fighting furiously over me... I've tried to convince both of them to just try to look at the situation, but my love interest is angry and my friend is determined to think that it's a fight over me... a real fight where there is a winner and a loser, no draws.

My love interest says he loves me. I really like him back, you might go as far to say I love him too...

But my friend is also very important to me, and she's one of the nicest people in the world. One of the best friends I've ever had.

I know I'll eventually have to choose one... my friend, or my love interest? What should I do?

Zanacross
July 12th, 2008, 03:11 PM
You will get lots of lovers but only one best friend who will stick with you through it all.

But you also only find one true love and this wont be it. Your only 14. Its the age your should think about school. Not a boyfriend who will leave you at the first hurdle. You will only end up getting hurt. Its not something you need especially if you really like him.

Your best friend, you will go through more with her then you will him.

But in the end its all about what you want. I would rather have a best friend who will stick by me through thick and thin. Who will look after me when I'm sad and someone who I can look after when they are sad.

CaspianSun54
July 12th, 2008, 08:52 PM
Hey guys I need some advice please. I like this one girl and I think she likes me too, but the problem is neither one of us has the courage to speak up to one another. This has annoyed me throughout the summer therefor I have been having trouble going to sleep, eating, etc. I want to tell my parents about it but I am scared that it will go terribly wrong. I can try to talk about it to my oldest brother (who has no girlfriend) he will just say 6th grade is too young. Half the kids in my school were dating last year! So what do you think I should do and I need some girls advice please. Thanks for all your help here. I simply love being on the forums! <3

Allstories
July 12th, 2008, 08:58 PM
6th grade IS too young. You should be pulling her hair and calling her names to display your affection.

Virtual Chatot
July 12th, 2008, 09:19 PM
Some friendly advice from a guy who's dated a few girls in his life.
Look, I started dating when I was 15-years old, because then I could actually drive a car where I live. At your age, "dating" is just something that boys and girls use to say they have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. You can't actually do anything yet, you can't go out on your own with parental supervision, and you really won't know what to do on a date.
Give it a few more years buddy, by then you would have learned a little bit more about how girls are, and that will be valuable when the time comes.
For now, just try to become friends with them :p6th grade IS too young. You should be pulling her hair and calling her names to display your affection.That is not good advice at all Mate, the first step is that the girl actually likes you as a person, and is not completely repulsed by your presence -_-;
You want to screw this kid up? :P

CaspianSun54
July 12th, 2008, 09:41 PM
But what if she asks me? What am I supposed to say?

Merzbau
July 12th, 2008, 09:51 PM
Most girls tend to like it when you insult them and are generally rude to them.
The more a jerk you are, the more people are attracted to you. Simple as that.
Rules of the universe right there.

If you're a tl;dr type of guy...

Be a jerk.

CaspianSun54
July 12th, 2008, 09:53 PM
But I am not a jerk. And if I am it will come back and bite me later. BTW I just sent her an email that I think is her e-mail address.

Virtual Chatot
July 12th, 2008, 10:11 PM
;3752383']Most girls tend to like it when you insult them and are generally rude to them.
The more a jerk you are, the more people are attracted to you. Simple as that.
Rules of the universe right there.

If you're a tl;dr type of guy...

Be a jerk.You really don't understand the female mind very well, do you? -_-;
( btw, I have 3 sisters, so I know these things )

Most likely, she won't ask you. On the chance that she does, go for it.
Like I said, at your age, you really can't date yet. But for now at least you can say that you have a girlfriend.

Embrace...
July 13th, 2008, 03:28 AM
@Myra

This has happened to me before. There was this girl, and well I thought I'd do anything for her, and she knew I would. But she had just split up from my best friend, (Because she had used him) and he hated her.

We were all there one day, and it started off as something very minor, she asked me to apologise to one of her friends, and I did. But when my friend found out he hated me. I felt like trash for the whole day, thinking non stop about how to get my friend back, so much that i'd completly forgotton about the girl.

We made up in the end, and from that moment on I knew that friends are way more inmportant than crushes.

The morale of this story? Crushes are for a fortnight, Friends are forever.

timmieboy1995
July 13th, 2008, 10:05 AM
Fourth time I've put something here. But this time, I'm really clueless.

I have two very good friends. One of them is like, one of my best friends ever, and the other... the other I have romantic feelings for.
But he accidentally offended me, causing me to... well... run away. My other friend was upset, obviously, and she hates my... love interest.
I came back, but I seem to have made the problem worse. She and my love interest have been fighting furiously over me... I've tried to convince both of them to just try to look at the situation, but my love interest is angry and my friend is determined to think that it's a fight over me... a real fight where there is a winner and a loser, no draws.

My love interest says he loves me. I really like him back, you might go as far to say I love him too...

But my friend is also very important to me, and she's one of the nicest people in the world. One of the best friends I've ever had.

I know I'll eventually have to choose one... my friend, or my love interest? What should I do?

you DEFINATLY have to go for your friend,a friend is somebody you'll have forever , well love interests could last some time but someday it will end.. i had this choise a few times now and i never did regret it that i did go with my friend.

Omega Saikon
July 13th, 2008, 10:40 AM
Hey guys I need some advice please. I like this one girl and I think she likes me too, but the problem is neither one of us has the courage to speak up to one another. This has annoyed me throughout the summer therefor I have been having trouble going to sleep, eating, etc. I want to tell my parents about it but I am scared that it will go terribly wrong. I can try to talk about it to my oldest brother (who has no girlfriend) he will just say 6th grade is too young. Half the kids in my school were dating last year! So what do you think I should do and I need some girls advice please. Thanks for all your help here. I simply love being on the forums! <3

Yeah the 6th grade is too young (even though I had about 7 different girlfriends throughout my entire 6th grade year). You will have probably no benefit from dating at that age, seriously... even though young crushed are cute, don't fall for 'em.

Vanilla Kitsune
July 13th, 2008, 12:41 PM
Today is sucking. I swear, I'm getting tired of this.

My grandma is addicted to pain killing pills. (Oxycodone, hydrocodone, etc.) This has been going on for years now, and once again like always, they send her to rehab which doesn't work. She's going to be there for I guess a few months, so we're going to be stuck when school starts back. She always says she will stop, but of course she doesn't. This is slowly but surely wearing on my nerves. I'm tired of all this. I really am. There is always something in this family, and it doesn't help me. My step father laughs in my face for being upset, and my mother doesn't care. I don't know how I'm supposed to react to this stuff.

Not only is my grandmother bothering me, I went to the hospital on Thursday. The docters found some ulsers in my stomach. (Not bad, but they really do hurt!) I'm taking medicine for that, which is good. Still, stress ulsers are no fun. With all this happening, I fear I might get more.

Anyone got ideas?

Mr. Curling Iron
July 13th, 2008, 03:27 PM
;3752383']Most girls tend to like it when you insult them and are generally rude to them.
The more a jerk you are, the more people are attracted to you. Simple as that.
Rules of the universe right there.

If you're a tl;dr type of guy...

Be a jerk.
Go and die in a hole D:
Either learn how women think, or dont talk about them D:

Girls like guys that are rebellious, but are romantic, but kinda wacky D:
And no-one likes a jerkor a playa D:

*btw to the ppl from chats im in - im hyper, not purposeful :P*



Andd~ @Vanilla Kitsune

Ok, Firstly, worrying will not help your condition. Stop all this worrying, and just relax. Its hard when a family member is in pain, yeah, I know that, but in the end, who is this story about? Its about you and these problems shouldn't affect you.

Why do you fear the Ulcers? Just don't worry, they hurt, but the more you worry and stay emotional about some disease, the longer It'll take you to get over it. Think about, if you lie regularly, you're prone to believing false stuff, just like those crazy people who jump of cliffs to find their ability to fly, but if you just sit back and think happy thoughts, go out, get some fresh air, hang out with your pair/bf/besties, it'll help you get over the pain.

Cmon... U must be used to random pains since ur a girl *not the men are macho thing but the periods and stuff*

Ignorance is Bliss <33

jirachistar
July 13th, 2008, 03:33 PM
I suppose this isn't a major problem but it's been going on for four months now. The members of my acting team are in the middle of a heated argument: Who is cooler, Tyrant from Resident Evil or Roxas from Kingdom Hearts 2? They're still bringing this up and it's irritating me. We need SOMEONE to decide, once and for all, who is better...

Mr. Curling Iron
July 13th, 2008, 03:58 PM
Umm... There's no real solution to this D: but you can try to have a vote :D

Or, you guys can just agree that both are quite cool and that such stupid little things shouldnt get in the way of friendship D:

Careful With That Axe, Pichu!
July 14th, 2008, 08:45 PM
Go and die in a hole D:
Either learn how women think, or dont talk about them D:


Tell us the great secret then.

At least for behaviour on girls within romantic situations, there is one truth that's universal.

Simple as most women subconsciously 'prefer' or enjoy a relationship best when they are ignored to an extent instead of recieving lots of attention.

They all crave for the perfect man, the problem is... they find it, and they get bored. What John tried to say is that being a 'jerk' will help mark a contrast.

I swear, if you didn't know this, you're the one who doesn't know about women.

I can't count honestly, how many times I've heard the freakin' I-always-look-for-her-and-she-doesn't-seem-to-care-but-I-left-town-for-a-couple-days-we-lost-communication-and-when-I-came-back-she-was-the-one-who-was-all-over-me story. It's happened to me.

It's as simple as they will not realize what they have until they feel they're gonna lose it.

This is all based on personal experience. Experiment it yourself if you've got a girlfriend that seems to be losing interest in you. Guys, comrades: disappear, stop being too corny or stop treating your girls like royalty for even a couple days, and I guarantee you'll find a difference. If you don't, either it's pride or they simply don't love you. Or maybe you're just stupid.



iMiraj, btw... That post earned you an infraction. I could see you whining to the staff if someone else said to you what you said to John. Have a good day.

Aizuke
July 16th, 2008, 08:51 PM
Problem: How do I say no to a dare? :<

parallelzero
July 16th, 2008, 09:47 PM
You... just say no? XD

If it's more complicated than that, you may need to elaborate on the situation and dare itself. oo

Zet
July 16th, 2008, 10:16 PM
Problem: How do I say no to a dare? :<
simply press the 'n' key followed by the 'o' key then you should be all set, if not, just man up, watch some GL for a manly boost and then you should be good to say 'no' though if thats still enough just talk to me more on msn and I should be able to help you say no eventually so you should pretty much be good either way, though I recommend watching Gurren Lagann first

Mr. Curling Iron
July 17th, 2008, 01:23 AM
How to say NO to an online dare if you arent manly enough to say "No."
Disconnect your router/ADSL/DIALUP o.o

Otherwise, get someone else who is manly enough to do the dare on your account to do it :D

Zanacross
July 17th, 2008, 08:44 AM
Problem: How do I say no to a dare? :<

You shout NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO in their face

Anxiety.
July 17th, 2008, 01:19 PM
How do you say no to a dare? That isn't what I call a problem.

I just say:

'Oh hell no.'

Simple, yet effective.

I don't get how this is a problem in all honesty... but if you're not man enough then... wait whats the dare? Like... if it's really bad, just say no, but if its not too bad then do it. Anyhow, if you're not man enough then like... I dunno, man up.

BeachBoy
July 17th, 2008, 02:18 PM
This topic has been rehashed enough but...

Aizuke, seriously, what can they do to you anyway? Following through with a dare that's idiotic (*Glares at cetain someone*) is simply foolish. If you don't wish to do it, don't. You have every right to say no. Remember, it's just a simple game. If they simply say "oh we won't be friends with you if you don't follow through" then that's pathetic anyway. =/ They can't do anything to you. So don't worry, just say pass. If you get beat down with comments, simply walk away. :) You're not going to lose anything by simply saying no. :D

Manaphy1128
July 17th, 2008, 03:04 PM
(I have the most boring problems ever)

Okay, so I write, and I write a lot. Now, some of my stories are, how do I put this, R-rated. They're "cuss happy" and have excessive amounts of gore. The thing is, I like writing them. Also, my Mom doesn't know. On two occasions she has come close to finding out, so it's gotten me pretty paranoid over my stories.

So, should I tell her, or just keep them to myself? I'm not going to get rid of them(since they're all pretty good and they're long)and I don't want to keep them in the Recycle Bin, since it'd be a hassle to get them every time I want to see them, and it's pretty often. I'm also afraid that if I confess, my Mom will take all of my Parental Advisory CDs away, all of my Teen and up books, unhook my computer, and not allow me to use any sort of electronic device for a long time.

Tr@ce
July 17th, 2008, 03:22 PM
(I have the most boring problems ever)

Okay, so I write, and I write a lot. Now, some of my stories are, how do I put this, R-rated. They're "cuss happy" and have excessive amounts of gore. The thing is, I like writing them. Also, my Mom doesn't know. On two occasions she has come close to finding out, so it's gotten me pretty paranoid over my stories.

So, should I tell her, or just keep them to myself? I'm not going to get rid of them(since they're all pretty good and they're long)and I don't want to keep them in the Recycle Bin, since it'd be a hassle to get them every time I want to see them, and it's pretty often. I'm also afraid that if I confess, my Mom will take all of my Parental Advisory CDs away, all of my Teen and up books, unhook my computer, and not allow me to use any sort of electronic device for a long time.

If you tell her, it's better than her finding out on accident and she could end up doing all of the things that you fear. So what if your stories swear and have gore? That's how a horror movie writer is born. You should tell her how much they mean to you, and that it's something that you're talented at. Blame her (muahahaha) and say that she's the reason you're so evil (xD seriously don't do that). But yeah, you should probably tell her. Maybe you could show her one of your "somewhat-less-gory-and-cussy" stories, or maybe clean one of yours up a bit. Let it on easy. It's best if you start off with something small and then work your way up to the more gory stuff.

ktn
July 17th, 2008, 03:32 PM
first of all u have to act relly nice for a few days them when she is impressed with u.thats when u break the news to her.or u just hide like a criminal.[just kiddin].but i do the same thing u do.but i told my mom and she was ok with it

Manaphy1128
July 17th, 2008, 03:44 PM
If you tell her, it's better than her finding out on accident and she could end up doing all of the things that you fear. So what if your stories swear and have gore? That's how a horror movie writer is born. You should tell her how much they mean to you, and that it's something that you're talented at. Blame her (muahahaha) and say that she's the reason you're so evil (xD seriously don't do that). But yeah, you should probably tell her. Maybe you could show her one of your "somewhat-less-gory-and-cussy" stories, or maybe clean one of yours up a bit. Let it on easy. It's best if you start off with something small and then work your way up to the more gory stuff.

Well, actually, I've already told her about the gore, but not the cussing. Yeah, I told her that someone got stabbed through their head and someone else got it through their neck.

Anyway, yeah, I should do that one day. I can't tell her right now, because that will just scare her into thinking that her theory about me really listening to song lyrics is true. Plus, she really hates cuss words in the first place. She knows how much I love my stories, too, so that's not a problem. And I can't exactly clean one up, because whenever I do that, it all sounds so... wrong. So, in all, I guess I'll considering confessing after the whole "you-can't-read-this-you're-too-young-Don't-listen-to-that-it's-too-dark-You're-Asperger's-is-showing" phase is through.

sims796
July 17th, 2008, 03:45 PM
This is the way you express yourself. Your parents would most likely accept you for it.

Tr@ce
July 17th, 2008, 03:47 PM
Maybe you should wait a bit, but this phase won't be over for a while. And it seems that it wouldn't be shocking in the least if you told her. Like, if I was your mom and you told me about your stories, I don't think I'd be shocked because I'd know that's just how you are.

Neko
July 17th, 2008, 03:48 PM
Well here are my problems:

My boyfriend James, whom I been going out with since last September (September 8th, to be exact) is away this Summer. ALL this Summer. He left the day atfer his graduation party and is coming back the day before college starts. He is at a summer camp watching little kids run around. -.- It is an overnight camp, so he works around the clock. The only day I can call him is saturday, and we can't talk for long, seeing as he has trouble getting his phone fully changed. *dies* There is snail mail, but he only has one stamp sooo...

However, he is off one random day every week, but the kids are still there so I cannot call him during the day, in case they here the phone ring (cause the kids aren't allowed to have cells, so the counselors there have to hid theirs. >.>) So he calls me any random time that day.

Ok anyways, I'm at Florida right now. I've been dealing with a lot of stress recently. Family stress, friend stress (I've just lost two of my best friends recently) and other kinds.. My parents sent me here so I can RELAX and well, I guess technically it's working, but idk.. I'm here with my aunt and uncle and cousin. My cousin is 14, and the last time I went here it was awesome! I went with my mom and we went to disney, seaworld, and universal, and I hung with charlie (my cousin) the whole time! He was awesome to be around, but now he is completely different. I am here for two weeks and the only time my aunt and uncle are home during the day is the weekends, so now every week day all I'm doing is sitting around watching all the movies they have and occasionally playing my ds. =/ I mean, don't get me wrong, it's not THAT bad, I just wish I wasn't so bored all the time. It makes me sad and kinda missing home even more. I try to get Charlie to Brawl with me, but now all he does ALL DAY is sit in front of his freaking comp and play warcraft. >:( And when my aunt gets home I get to hear her yell at charlie and my uncle constantly. Woo hooo.

It was just so much better the last time I can't believe things have changed this much. :'( I guess cause the last time my mom was there and we went out when they were at work. But the last time Charlie actually WANTED to hang out instead of sitting on his ass all day playing warcraft. Now I'm basically alone all the time, away from home, even farther from James, and missing EVERYONE now.

:<

Forever
July 17th, 2008, 09:31 PM
I really am in love with a girl. I'm having these sexual feelings for her and it's really making me happy. Does...this make me a lesbian? DX

Hiidoran
July 17th, 2008, 10:12 PM
I really am in love with a girl. I'm having these sexual feelings for her and it's really making me happy. Does...this make me a lesbian? DX

I would say, "no". You're 16... almost everyone has urges such as these. Some last a few seconds... some make it all the way to "events". The point is, do what will make you happy. If you really want to see where this goes, ask her out. If you would just like to keep them pleasant thoughts, feel free to do so. My sister recently found out that she was a lesbian... she even has a child! That's how I know how to answer this question, even though I'm a male. :)

Akarei Yorume
July 17th, 2008, 10:20 PM
(I have the most boring problems ever)

Okay, so I write, and I write a lot. Now, some of my stories are, how do I put this, R-rated. They're "cuss happy" and have excessive amounts of gore. The thing is, I like writing them. Also, my Mom doesn't know. On two occasions she has come close to finding out, so it's gotten me pretty paranoid over my stories.

So, should I tell her, or just keep them to myself? I'm not going to get rid of them(since they're all pretty good and they're long)and I don't want to keep them in the Recycle Bin, since it'd be a hassle to get them every time I want to see them, and it's pretty often. I'm also afraid that if I confess, my Mom will take all of my Parental Advisory CDs away, all of my Teen and up books, unhook my computer, and not allow me to use any sort of electronic device for a long time.

Wow, I have like, the EXACT same problem. ¬¬ Well, rather tell her than have her find out. o.o

For instance, I cut... and I was afraid to tell my mum, because I was afraid she'd do something horrible. She found out, and I was locked in the mental institution. DX
But a recent cut got me thinking... rather tell her than have her find out. So I told her. I got a good scolding and more promises of therapy (noooo!) but at least I wasn't locked up again. (that place is hell)

Okay, bad example. ^^;

code4242
July 18th, 2008, 07:17 AM
Well, that's you. My personal opinion is that going around doing that is really screwed up. It's called Lust. I'm sure you've heard of it (besides from that anime show). She felt that she was giving back what I gave her (which is, support, friendship, a lot of other stuff). I haven't mentioned this before, because everyone will think that I'm a total loser who can't get a girl, but that was my first kiss. And you know what? I'm glad it was from her.

Thanks for helping everyone, but I really think there's nothing else I can do.

I just have to say that you rock!(i wish i were u:'()

The trust thing makes sense, since we both trust each other with our lives, pretty much.

I can't think of anything. I'm sure I've done nothing wrong.
If she liked me, then why wouldn't she just say?

some people tell others they like by simply(or not so simply) kissing them. try kissing her back.

Moon lucario
July 18th, 2008, 06:06 PM
my grandfather died in my house at night on january 31 of 2008. Well a few days after he died i started getting "uneasy feelings" about my house. I would get feelings like someone/something is in pain or wanting to cause pain. well a month or so later i stopped getting that feeling. Now resently at night when i go into my dinning room i see aura or white light ball thingy going into the room where my grandfather died. now a week or so ago while out in my dinning room i saw something(sorta blacking figure) walk across my kitchen look at me then dissapear.

What do you think?

Neko
July 18th, 2008, 06:44 PM
Well now my cousin's friend is sleeping over. My cousin seems to want to hang out with HIM. >.> It actually makes me a little depressed. I'm basically all by myself in this house, even when technically I'm not! *cries* :'<

We're even going to see a movie tomorrow that is the sequel of another movie that I haven't even seen! God I just hope I don't start crying in the middle of the theatre. It's embarassing, cause sometimes I can't really help crying (and I seem to do it a lot *death) but fortunately enough it seems I'm really good at hiding it...

Moon lucario
July 19th, 2008, 12:03 AM
Ok ive been dating a guy for 6 months now. hes 21 im 17. in august i have a doctors appointment(regular doctor). well my grandma had me put on Birthcontrol. If the docotor were to recomend me get a test at a guincalogist to check if i have had sex or not and i go there and they find out i did is there another excuse i can use besides me "doing it"? like can i say i put a tampon in or what? Can a doctor even tell if you have or what?

Eureka1
July 19th, 2008, 12:28 AM
Ok ive been dating a guy for 6 months now. hes 21 im 17. in august i have a doctors appointment(regular doctor). well my grandma had me put on Birthcontrol. If the docotor were to recomend me get a test at a guincalogist to check if i have had sex or not and i go there and they find out i did is there another excuse i can use besides me "doing it"? like can i say i put a tampon in or what? Can a doctor even tell if you have or what?

Your hymen will be broken. ;)

Maybe they won't be that intrusive though.

Akarei Yorume
July 19th, 2008, 12:38 AM
I am sorry to post here yet again. But I can never decide things for myself. And I really want to be helped.

It's the same issue as the first one I posted. But it's gotten worse. Now I dream about him every night. I feel faint when I hear his voice. I pretend he's real... I cling to the blanket as if it's him, and to vent my emotions I just say everything, pour out my entire soul to "him"... and I'm not focusing on anything, even the stuff I like, like Pokemon... or programming.
The scary thing is, part of me thinks "don't get help. They'll pull you away from him, and you don't want that..." I don't even really WANT to be helped, I want to stay in this dreamlike state forever... I wouldn't care if I never woke up again... if I were in my dreams eternally and I died I wouldn't care.
If he existed I'd literally kill someone if he told me to. I'd do just about anything for him... even die...
It's made me lose all my friends (all my friends IRL anyway), and I don't even care. I have him to talk to even though he isn't real. He strokes my hair, and I feel it without really feeling it. I hardly feel anything these days except when I am alone... alone with my thoughts of him.
Itachi Uchiha.

Eureka1
July 19th, 2008, 12:45 AM
Itachi Uchiha.

Is trolling allowed in this section?

Akarei Yorume
July 19th, 2008, 12:49 AM
Is trolling allowed in this section?

No, not in any section on PC, why? >_> And we're getting off topic. If you're not gonna say something relating to this thread than don't post in it. D:

And I really thought you had posted something that would at least make me feel a little better. ><

Eureka1
July 19th, 2008, 01:01 AM
But Itachi Uchiha is fictional, so is this classed as roleplay or what? I personally don't think it's appropriate when compared to other people's problems.

Akarei Yorume
July 19th, 2008, 01:03 AM
But Itachi Uchiha is fictional, so is this classed as roleplay or what? I personally don't think it's appropriate when compared to other people's problems.

My problem is that it's an obsession and it's getting in the way of my daily life.

Zet
July 19th, 2008, 01:03 AM
But Itachi Uchiha is fictional, so is this classed as roleplay or what? I personally don't think it's appropriate when compared to other people's problems.
obsession is found in many forms, her's is some fictional character

and to that problem I'd say just stop watching the show, hard as it may be, it should help

Moon lucario
July 19th, 2008, 01:13 AM
Your hymen will be broken. ;)

Maybe they won't be that intrusive though.


ive heard there is so many other ways the hymen can be broken but does that mean u have had sex or is no actual way to tell if you have had sex or not.

Weatherman, Kiyoshi
July 19th, 2008, 03:22 AM
Okay, problem:

Yesterday my dog had heatstroke (we know this by looking in my dog-care book I got when I was little. He had all the symptoms.) and he had to be taken from our neighbors last night because he couldn't get up and my dad had to carry him home;

now, this morning he's better, but should we proceed with treatment?
(not medication, there are some ways of heatstroke treatment in the dog-care book)

Eureka1
July 19th, 2008, 03:26 AM
ive heard there is so many other ways the hymen can be broken but does that mean u have had sex or is no actual way to tell if you have had sex or not.

I know people who've broken it from doing the splits.. so get to it!

Zanacross
July 19th, 2008, 03:27 AM
If it was my dogs I would do the treatment. My dogs are my best friends. I wouldn't want anything happening to them.

Neko
July 19th, 2008, 04:49 AM
Yeah, better safe than sorry. I would still do the treatment. x.x;;


-Neko

Anxiety.
July 19th, 2008, 05:05 AM
Go through with the treatment.

get rid of it before it gets any worse. Because you want your Dog to live life to the fullest, and with something like that, he can't because he has o be careful. Its for the better of the Dog if you go through with the treatment, so it can be fully healthy.

Akarei Yorume
July 19th, 2008, 12:28 PM
obsession is found in many forms, her's is some fictional character

and to that problem I'd say just stop watching the show, hard as it may be, it should help

I actually don't watch the show or read the Manga much anymore.

Mr. Curling Iron
July 20th, 2008, 02:39 AM
I am sorry to post here yet again. But I can never decide things for myself. And I really want to be helped.

It's the same issue as the first one I posted. But it's gotten worse. Now I dream about him every night. I feel faint when I hear his voice. I pretend he's real... I cling to the blanket as if it's him, and to vent my emotions I just say everything, pour out my entire soul to "him"... and I'm not focusing on anything, even the stuff I like, like Pokemon... or programming.
The scary thing is, part of me thinks "don't get help. They'll pull you away from him, and you don't want that..." I don't even really WANT to be helped, I want to stay in this dreamlike state forever... I wouldn't care if I never woke up again... if I were in my dreams eternally and I died I wouldn't care.
If he existed I'd literally kill someone if he told me to. I'd do just about anything for him... even die...
It's made me lose all my friends (all my friends IRL anyway), and I don't even care. I have him to talk to even though he isn't real. He strokes my hair, and I feel it without really feeling it. I hardly feel anything these days except when I am alone... alone with my thoughts of him.
Itachi Uchiha.


Dude. Tell your parents, or don't, but atleast go to a psychiatrist/psychologist, get your medicare card and go to a doctor for gods sakes! Man, doctors cant take what happened in their work into their life, its illegial, so it'll all be confidential. get help. seriously.

.Seth
July 21st, 2008, 05:29 AM
My problem:

I have this sleeping problem. With me its either I stay up most of the night and sleep all of the day and miss everything that happens that day, or I stay up all night and end up falling asleep around 10 or 11 in the morning and waking up right after everyone else is asleep.
Its really getting at me because I work on my hack during the day. It's cutting into production since my team is usually awake during the day where i live. (One lives in the philipenes, but he works rarely, usually correcting a few errors here and there) and (One lives in the Eastern time zone, right next to mine.) and the (other one i don't know where he lives but He's always on during the day.) Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that while they're one in the day, I'm asleep. And I'm on when they're asleep. I really need to get this straightened out. Can anyone help?

Any suggestions are welcome.

Noah Ridgewood
July 21st, 2008, 05:46 AM
My problem:

I have this sleeping problem. With me its either I stay up most of the night and sleep all of the day and miss everything that happens that day, or I stay up all night and end up falling asleep around 10 or 11 in the morning and waking up right after everyone else is asleep.
Its really getting at me because I work on my hack during the day. It's cutting into production since my team is usually awake during the day where i live. (One lives in the philipenes, but he works rarely, usually correcting a few errors here and there) and (One lives in the Eastern time zone, right next to mine.) and the (other one i don't know where he lives but He's always on during the day.) Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that while they're one in the day, I'm asleep. And I'm on when they're asleep. I really need to get this straightened out. Can anyone help?

Any suggestions are welcome.

This is the same problem I have, but I do know the way to fix it. I have had this same problem many times beforehand and the only method that worked for me is by forcing yourself to stay up throughout the whole day. What you need is to keep yourself away from the computer for one day because the computer doesn't help when you are trying to stay awake. Try going over a friends house, going swimming (usually swimming wakes you up a little bit.. especially when you're trying to stay up all night. XD), or even playing video games. Those are really the three things I've done to keep myself busy during the day enough to stay awake until, at least, dinner time.

If you do that, you'll probably wake up around nine in the morning and you'll have a full nights rest, basically. If you start to feel tired during the day, you need to do something to keep your mind off of it. Though it's unhealthy to force yourself to stay up all night and day long, it's the only thing that will help you get back to a normal sleeping pattern without any extra work. Though, that's enough work on it's own. XD

If this doesn't help, a few pages earlier in this thread I offered some help to another member. You can find the single post here (http://www.pokecommunity.com/showpost.php?p=3638211&postcount=86).

Suki
July 21st, 2008, 06:20 AM
I am sorry to post here yet again. But I can never decide things for myself. And I really want to be helped.

It's the same issue as the first one I posted. But it's gotten worse. Now I dream about him every night. I feel faint when I hear his voice. I pretend he's real... I cling to the blanket as if it's him, and to vent my emotions I just say everything, pour out my entire soul to "him"... and I'm not focusing on anything, even the stuff I like, like Pokemon... or programming.
The scary thing is, part of me thinks "don't get help. They'll pull you away from him, and you don't want that..." I don't even really WANT to be helped, I want to stay in this dreamlike state forever... I wouldn't care if I never woke up again... if I were in my dreams eternally and I died I wouldn't care.
If he existed I'd literally kill someone if he told me to. I'd do just about anything for him... even die...
It's made me lose all my friends (all my friends IRL anyway), and I don't even care. I have him to talk to even though he isn't real. He strokes my hair, and I feel it without really feeling it. I hardly feel anything these days except when I am alone... alone with my thoughts of him.
Itachi Uchiha.
DAMMNNNN I just typed up a reply for this but I took so long writing so much it logged me out and everything I typed up disappeared... >>;

Anyway, many people may receive feelings towards characters on shows, movies, etc, and that's a really common issue, however, there's a line where you stop and you have clearly ran over the line. This is a really dangerous problem, and certain things you stated within your problem made me realise that your problem is beyond help with just advice from a Pokemon forum. I suggest you go and see a doctor or someone who can help to cure this problem. And try to tell your parents about it as well, as I assume they desperately want to know what's wrong with you due to your behaviour. Btw, clearly you want help with this problem since you posted here about it and thank god you did, cuz IMO this issue is serious. Oh and it is possible to stop surrounding yourself with these obsessive but revelling feelings, before you aren't just bothered with the fact that you have lost probably most of your RL friends, but you will lose other things too, i.e., the goodness of your health. Hope you will feel better about this soon.

Wilow-Wisp
July 21st, 2008, 11:03 AM
Ive had some sleeping problems too, Seth, but not nearly as bad. It sounds like your sleep schedule is really wacked up. Try getting to sleep at around 11 or 12 at night after a long days work, or relax a few hours before you plan to sleep. It helps settle down your mind and body so it will be easier to get to sleep. Try this for a few days and you might get back on the ball. :) Hope it works for you.

I didnt get to sleep till 3 last night becuase I sketched a bit before hitting the hay. Its like a curse or something...Ive done this before and only got like 3 hours of sleep. Felt like shiz the next day.
Its like drawing a tiny bit overstimulates my brain and I just lay wide awake for hours. Hopefully I can sleep easier tonight... @_@

Cherrim
July 21st, 2008, 11:16 AM
My problem:

I have this sleeping problem. With me its either I stay up most of the night and sleep all of the day and miss everything that happens that day, or I stay up all night and end up falling asleep around 10 or 11 in the morning and waking up right after everyone else is asleep.
Its really getting at me because I work on my hack during the day. It's cutting into production since my team is usually awake during the day where i live. (One lives in the philipenes, but he works rarely, usually correcting a few errors here and there) and (One lives in the Eastern time zone, right next to mine.) and the (other one i don't know where he lives but He's always on during the day.) Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that while they're one in the day, I'm asleep. And I'm on when they're asleep. I really need to get this straightened out. Can anyone help?

Any suggestions are welcome.
Start waking yourself up earlier everyday. I always had this problem over the summer and I'd fix it by necessity when I went back to school since all of a sudden instead of waking up at 4PM I had to wake up at 7AM. Since it is summer and it sounds like you don't really have anything to do during the day, you won't need as drastic a sleeping schedule change.

I would suggest setting your alarm for 1PM or noon for the next little while and forcing yourself to get out of bed at that time. If you stay in bed you'll just go back to sleep, so get up, get on the computer (or do something) so that you start to wake up. You'll get used to this eventually and start going to bed earlier. Then just set the alarm earlier and earlier until you've fixed your schedule. It could take a while if you're that far off, but if you're serious about wanting to be awake for daylight hours, I'm sure you can pull it off~

Buoysel
July 22nd, 2008, 11:36 AM
I have a sleeping problem. Its hard for me to go to sleep, and once I do its even harder for me to wake up. I think it may have a lot to do with my job. I have to get up at midnight. I am normal asleep by eight or nine. I go to work and get back home by six or seven in the morning, and go back to bed until nine or ten then go though my day studding for college, hanging out on the internet, or just sitting at home working on my fic. I am not as tired on the job as I use to be, I am in fact quire awake, once I get up. My only problem with going to bed earlier is that I have an evening college class. My question is do you have any suggestions to make it so that I am not so tired all day, other than more sleep.