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Soph
October 20th, 2003, 06:39 PM
Okay when some one talks about their boyfreind or girlifreind or about some one they hve a crush on the first words out of their mouth are usually 'oh, hes so hot!' or 'she's so cute!'

lots of people like some one based mainly on how they look. people judge other on how hot or cute or whatever their boyfreind/girlfreind is. But what about the persons personality? is it really fair to like some oe only for how they look?

My boyfreind is the sweetest guy i have ever known. i couldnt care if he grew horns and a tail, i would like him the same.

and yet, so many people disregard personality and nature of a person in favour of looks. so, what do u think matters most? wouls you rather a hot person whois a jerk or an ungly, but nice person. okay soi its great to have both, but im not asking that, i want to hear what u all think...which matters most, looks or personality...and why?

Rift
October 20th, 2003, 07:21 PM
Oh, man by far personallity is the most importent thing! i mean at my school all the "hot" girls are going out with jocks and "popular" people, but i could care less about them! but yeah, trust me being beutiful is not the way to look for a BF/GF!

Kairi
October 20th, 2003, 07:24 PM
You know most people will say personality simply because it is the "cool" answer. ;p

Soph
October 20th, 2003, 07:30 PM
well im hoping people will be honest here. honesty is the best policy and to have a good discussion we need HONEST opinion!

Kayleigh
October 20th, 2003, 07:33 PM
You know most people will say personality simply because it is the "cool" answer. ;p
Lol, that's true, but I'm going to be honest...

I think looks matter, but personality is what keeps a relationship together. If you've noticed, a lot of famous couples that everyone thought looked 'sooooo cute' together, usually are the ones that end up breaking up? If someone I liked was being rude to me or anyone that I cared about, then they'd be off my list faster than they could apologize. o_O; I'm not one to tolerate being taken advantage of. So.. to answer your question, personality is the most important to me. ^_^ Welp, I bet none of that made sense. *shrugs*

Haruka
October 20th, 2003, 07:34 PM
Both... but I don't want to date with a popular boy that picks on unpopular people. :P

Soph
October 20th, 2003, 07:36 PM
Lol, that's true, but I'm going to be honest...

I think looks matter, but personality is what keeps a relationship together. If you've noticed, a lot of famous couples that everyone thought looked 'sooooo cute' together, usually are the ones that end up breaking up? If someone I liked was being rude to me or anyone that I cared about, then they'd be off my list faster than they could apologize. o_O; I'm not one to tolerate being taken advantage of. So.. to answer your question, personality is the most important to me. ^_^ Welp, I bet none of that made sense. *shrugs*

it made sense! yes...you know i should have also had category for popularity level too, a lot of people like some one cos they are popular! i didnt think of that one.

Kairi
October 20th, 2003, 07:43 PM
If I was an smod I'd add that option. Andy can do it later though. ^_^;

Soph
October 20th, 2003, 07:45 PM
okies il get him to do that. lets continue the dicussion before we get offtopic about mods, lol. ^_^

Kairi
October 20th, 2003, 07:48 PM
Well, see the thing is...

If I said "It's looks, I would not even consider a guy who was not hot" Would you not think less of me?

That's why personality gets more votes. o.o;

Soph
October 20th, 2003, 07:53 PM
i suppose but you could say you 'woulnt like an ugly guy' so it dont sound so bad....i just hope people ar honest...how about we make a rule no one is allowed to be nasty to anyone about their opinion or thir post gets deleted taht way people can express opinoons without any fear of people opposing them. or being thought less of!

[edit] besides voting is anonymous isnt it? they can vote and not comment, at least then we get the statistics.

Hazuki-san
October 20th, 2003, 08:31 PM
I think its the inside that counts. Some people just can't help the way they look. And you may never know what a beautiful person is like, he/she could be sweet on the outside and poison on the inside

latiosspud
October 21st, 2003, 02:48 AM
I can't say I would only go for looks but I can say I wouldn't go out with an ugly girl with a great personality. I need both, so it's double or nothing.

Arcanine
October 21st, 2003, 05:22 AM
Ill add to the poll what you want me to add but some one has to tell me what to put.
And I say personallity matters the most.

Sturm
October 21st, 2003, 05:30 AM
I think good looking isn't very important...if you are going loving someone...better pay attention first to see other personality first...if you think his/her personality is suit you then you can love with him/her...me? I prefer...kind and cute...the age doesn't matter...>_<

Dizzy
October 21st, 2003, 11:03 AM
Looks , well Both .

Think about it , You have A Nice Looking Girl But she's Shallow , Dippy. But then you have a not so looking nice girl , she's sweet and kind and has a personality.

Both ~~ Theres Lots of Nice Looking Smart Gurls in Tan House.

jynx
October 21st, 2003, 11:35 AM
Personalityh is more important.

latiosspud
October 21st, 2003, 11:43 AM
I don't really get people with their, "Personality is all you need" becuase then you might as well go for people the same gender as you with a great personality.

Timbjerr
October 21st, 2003, 12:35 PM
looks by far...

think of it like this: we've all heard the phrase "Come for the ___, but stay for the ___." To relate to this topic, I would fill in the blanks with "looks" and "personality", respectively. it is the physical beauty of a person that attracts you to her/him, then you want to take the time to get to know thwm a bit, then you decide whether or not you truly like them...

Dizzy
October 21st, 2003, 12:51 PM
Your right ... Looks Is the Thing that Attracts People the most.

Frostweaver
October 21st, 2003, 03:14 PM
looks by far...

think of it like this: we've all heard the phrase "Come for the ___, but stay for the ___." To relate to this topic, I would fill in the blanks with "looks" and "personality", respectively. it is the physical beauty of a person that attracts you to her/him, then you want to take the time to get to know thwm a bit, then you decide whether or not you truly like them...

completely true... i was going to say that until i saw that you said it already...

and that is why i can make more friends online ^_^, where looks cannot be part of the mathematical formula

Keleri
October 21st, 2003, 04:30 PM
It's human nature to lust after the 'beautiful' people...but it's dangerous to form a relationship based solely on physical attraction. I believe that personality is extremely important, but it's also nice to have someone you find attractive. I mean, I'm not sure what sort of relationship you could have, even if the person was friendly, brilliant and humourous, if looking at them made you want to throw up. But then again, love is blind. Heh.

I don't really get people with their, "Personality is all you need" becuase then you might as well go for people the same gender as you with a great personality.

...

Must...resist...urge to maim...rising...

Iveechan
October 21st, 2003, 07:57 PM
Lol Keleri... hee hee. Watch out though, this place is full of homophobes.

Anyway...

Personality, but looks are important too. I'm not saying you should strive for the hottest person ever, but someone who looks like a scuzzy rag is hard to find appealing, even if they have a good personality.

Soph
October 21st, 2003, 09:18 PM
Your right ... Looks Is the Thing that Attracts People the most.

No. not right, at least not for everyone.

my boyfreind i have known since we were 4 years old. we used to not get along but as time passed we bacemae freinds. now he is more than that. the point is, i never cared for his looks. okay, so he's cute...but thats not why i originally liked him, its because i knew him for the person he is, sweet, kind, caring, loyal, and a million other great qualities! never looks. so no, what dizzy said is not right...not for everyone.

Kyosuke
October 21st, 2003, 10:34 PM
To me, it is somewhat looks, because that is what gets you attracted to the person, but on the other hand, if they have a good personality, you can easily get around on how the person looks until looks don't matter anymore.

Sturm
October 22nd, 2003, 01:14 AM
No. not right, at least not for everyone.

my boyfreind i have known since we were 4 years old. we used to not get along but as time passed we bacemae freinds. now he is more than that. the point is, i never cared for his looks. okay, so he's cute...but thats not why i originally liked him, its because i knew him for the person he is, sweet, kind, caring, loyal, and a million other great qualities! never looks. so no, what dizzy said is not right...not for everyone.I agree with you Soph...I think Personality is more important...

Timbjerr
October 22nd, 2003, 06:44 PM
I just made a cool rant in the fashion thread here that also happens to relate to this topic...

http://www.pokecommunity.com/showpost.php?p=34943&postcount=58

Frostweaver
October 22nd, 2003, 08:02 PM
so heartily agree tmbjr...

the world and society is 2D. What they see first is what they will always see. 96.5% of the time the first perception of a man will also be the last perception for the man. You appear to them dressed in rags, and you'll be an "ugly burden" for society forever. Dress up in the best fashion sense possible, and you'll be a well respected leader in society

Cherrim
October 23rd, 2003, 01:57 PM
I don't think I have any sort of fashion sense. o.o;; *shrugs*

I don't really care about looks. I don't understand people who say, "omg! Look at that guy. He's so hot". They hand around pictures and everyone says, "You're right!" except me. I... don't see it. o_O; I've gotten several crushes in my life and NONE of the guys were what you would call "hot". Sure, they weren't ugly, but I suppose they aren't the greatest looking guys in the world. But I still liked them. Why? Because they were fun to talk to. I don't know why people would like others on a looks basis. x_X; I'd rather go out with someone who I can really relate to - not someone who makes all the girls squeal. -_-;; Same goes for guys, I suppose. But I can't make that sort of assumption. o_O I'd rather someone like me for who I AM, not how I look.

Timbjerr
October 23rd, 2003, 03:20 PM
it is true that all people have different likes and dislikes as far as physical attractiveness...it has been proven psychologically

it is even true among males. I have been known to become infatuated with girls that some of my friends find not-so-hot, and vice versa...

PokeTrainerCarol
October 23rd, 2003, 05:15 PM
I think most people would answer personality just because that's the answer that is like, the "best" but probably what most people don't feel...IMO, though it is important and personality is what keeps you attached to the person ^^

I'll have to be sincere ^^
I wouldn't date someone bad looking, but if he were handsome but extremely stupid I wouldn't like him...:P yet I don't want to date someone ugly...so both I guess? *nod nod* looks is what makes you want to talk to the person and personality what makes you want to keep talking with that person...

^_^

latiosspud
October 23rd, 2003, 05:52 PM
I think most people would answer personality just because that's the answer that is like, the "best" but probably what most people don't feel...IMO, though it is important and personality is what keeps you attached to the person ^^

I'll have to be sincere ^^
I wouldn't date someone bad looking, but if he were handsome but extremely stupid I wouldn't like him...:P yet I don't want to date someone ugly...so both I guess? *nod nod* looks is what makes you want to talk to the person and personality what makes you want to keep talking with that person...

^_^
So it's double or nothing, eh? I agree with you on that too.

Greed
October 23rd, 2003, 06:14 PM
I HATE it when people go for people just cus their looks.. >.<;; It's so unfair! So many guys in my state are sleepin' with gurlz just cus they..

1. Got big bossoms..
2. Got big-@$$es..
3. Are wild..
3. Boyz in my town are pimps.. Well, not all of 'em..

Yes.. I prefer personality best than looks. ^^;;

*gets killed by gurls*

~CaRtOON

Greed
October 23rd, 2003, 06:34 PM
I don't think I have any sort of fashion sense. o.o;; *shrugs*

I don't really care about looks. I don't understand people who say, "omg! Look at that guy. He's so hot". They hand around pictures and everyone says, "You're right!" except me. I... don't see it. o_O; I've gotten several crushes in my life and NONE of the guys were what you would call "hot". Sure, they weren't ugly, but I suppose they aren't the greatest looking guys in the world. But I still liked them. Why? Because they were fun to talk to. I don't know why people would like others on a looks basis. x_X; I'd rather go out with someone who I can really relate to - not someone who makes all the girls squeal. -_-;; Same goes for guys, I suppose. But I can't make that sort of assumption. o_O I'd rather someone like me for who I AM, not how I look.
I forgot to add this to my last post.. Anyways, you're right, Lightning, I do dig Orlando Bloom for his looks, but I don't mean I want a hot dumb guy or something like that. We all get crushes especially on hot people. But I'm sure they would honestly appreciate to know their personality.

I luv Eminem cus he's kinda hot, he raps great, and has a great personality. He seems gruff on the exterior, but deep inside him he's a sensitive man who cares for his fans and family so much, he even donates to homeless children! That is so sweet of him, btw he's a Libra, ~.^ Libra's are sweet and forgiving.

*dies because of seeing Eminem pic*

~CaRtOON

Kairi
October 23rd, 2003, 06:49 PM
Try to edit your posts in the future, okay? People will notice you edited it, and you could add a bolded sentence to do so. ^_^;

Miyu-chan
October 24th, 2003, 06:12 AM
Personality. But I won't want a boyfriend that whenever I look at him, I shudder. Just OK-looking. XD

Kayleigh
October 24th, 2003, 09:09 AM
...I do dig Orlando Bloom for his looks...
*spits out water and gasps* You like Orlando Bloom too!? O_O My gosh, and I'm a Libra. >_> That's another thing we have in common...

DragonTrainer
October 24th, 2003, 10:56 AM
I think personality is best in looking for a person, and ultimately, a mate.But I'll be honest, looks are important too.Mainly because, the outer appearance is what attracts you to them, and from there you can get to know them better.

22sa
October 25th, 2003, 05:04 PM
Hard question but I finally figured it out, I think.

Personality. I don't need someone that's going to torment me to death.

Not looking all that attractive is understanable but looks can't be ignored either.

Soph
November 11th, 2003, 04:51 PM
a lot of people posting here said that looks is what generally sparks the original attraction but here is something to think about: what about internet love? i have heard of people fall in love over the internet and this means they fall in lov with a person they have never see, heard or met. sure someone can send a photo but mmost play it safe online and dont show their photoi unless they trust the person. so if some one can fall in love with another person over the internet then where does that put looks? no where, cos more often than not looks are the last thing takne into account when it comes to loving some one online. anyone want to offer their opinion on that? its a new way to look at it.

Too-Angel
November 11th, 2003, 05:10 PM
I look for personallities to a person. I don't look to the person's neither
attractive or not. We all are the same, not personallities. There are some changes containing personallities to other people. Not all of us are all the same. For myself, I look for the personallity of this person.

Soph
November 11th, 2003, 05:12 PM
is anyone going to offer an opinion on what i said before too-angel posted?

latiosspud
November 11th, 2003, 05:34 PM
:\ Online love isn't quite safe at all.

Soph
November 11th, 2003, 05:37 PM
that wasnt the issue!!!!!!!!!! the issue was about how it contradics the popular opinion of looks sparking the initial attraction!

invinible
November 11th, 2003, 06:04 PM
I went with personity since most I don't want somebody mean hearted. Now a days, looks can be completely changed.

latiosspud
November 11th, 2003, 06:05 PM
that wasnt the issue!!!!!!!!!! the issue was about how it contradics the popular opinion of looks sparking the initial attraction!
:\ But it doesn't...it's unsafe too.

Soph
November 11th, 2003, 06:07 PM
look all i want is a discussion on a different side of this topic. it can be unsafe but it can be perfectly okay too. stop getting off topic! i was offering a new way to look at this topic now would some on offwen an honest opnioon instead of a judgmental remark!

22sa
November 11th, 2003, 06:39 PM
Internet relations rely solely on the mind, people can use lies much easier, so latiosspud has a good point about internet relations not being safe at all.

Soph
November 11th, 2003, 06:52 PM
*looks frustarted* WELL IM TALKING ABOUT THE SAFE ONES THEN! far OUT all i said was that love over the internet is one form that does not rely on looks, therefore it contradicts the statemntt that love is mainly based on looks. THAT is the topic, not how safe it is!

Gengar
November 11th, 2003, 06:56 PM
I go with Personality ; but in my school looks matter :( I dont like that. I cant help that im "ugly". >.<;; But , I know a girl in one of my classes that I said "Gosh , Im ugly!" She just said "Who?" I said "Me.." She said "I know."


NOT FAIR! >.<; Not fair at all. Some people are very bitter and sweet , like me for example! Im honest , and well known. But Im not popular! Im just "cool". My school is stupid , that's my say. If someone hates me because THEY thing im ugly then they aint a very good friend!


Another thing , I find myself sweet , and sometimes a bit nasty on the hand , but hey , Im honest. I can give you 1 girl name I like. Emily (She's the one who said Im ugly. :( ) Im not ugly. I know she know's that.



Can anyone help me with above?

22sa
November 11th, 2003, 07:01 PM
*looks frustarted* WELL IM TALKING ABOUT THE SAFE ONES THEN! far OUT all i said was that love over the internet is one form that does not rely on looks, therefore it contradicts the statemntt that love is mainly based on looks. THAT is the topic, not how safe it is!
Who said love is mainly based on looks? lol. Safe ones? I don't know, I mean you can always phone each other anyways...

(IRL) Let's see... Looks to attract and please your partner (and yourself sort of), personality to keep the relationship going, and a brain to actually have something to talk about.

DragonTrainer
November 11th, 2003, 07:01 PM
All's I can say Gengar is, just you wait, in some years, you will be the only good looking one. and everybody else will be oogly.

Soph, I don't think that it is exactly online love is save, because for all you know, the person you are in "love" with, is just some perverted old guy.But I won't bring that up.

Frostweaver
November 11th, 2003, 07:04 PM
I go with Personality ; but in my school looks matter :( I dont like that. I cant help that im "ugly". >.<;; But , I know a girl in one of my classes that I said "Gosh , Im ugly!" She just said "Who?" I said "Me.." She said "I know."


NOT FAIR! >.<; Not fair at all. Some people are very bitter and sweet , like me for example! Im honest , and well known. But Im not popular! Im just "cool". My school is stupid , that's my say. If someone hates me because THEY thing im ugly then they aint a very good friend!


Another thing , I find myself sweet , and sometimes a bit nasty on the hand , but hey , Im honest. I can give you 1 girl name I like. Emily (She's the one who said Im ugly. :( ) Im not ugly. I know she know's that.



Can anyone help me with above?

Congratulation Gengar! You're finally out of the matrix and into the world!

Welcome to reality...

latiosspud
November 11th, 2003, 07:07 PM
I go with Personality ; but in my school looks matter :( I dont like that. I cant help that im "ugly". >.<;; But , I know a girl in one of my classes that I said "Gosh , Im ugly!" She just said "Who?" I said "Me.." She said "I know."


NOT FAIR! >.<; Not fair at all. Some people are very bitter and sweet , like me for example! Im honest , and well known. But Im not popular! Im just "cool". My school is stupid , that's my say. If someone hates me because THEY thing im ugly then they aint a very good friend!


Another thing , I find myself sweet , and sometimes a bit nasty on the hand , but hey , Im honest. I can give you 1 girl name I like. Emily (She's the one who said Im ugly. :( ) Im not ugly. I know she know's that.



Can anyone help me with above?
Is the girl you like good-looking? Cause if she is, you're being very hypocritical.

22sa
November 11th, 2003, 07:08 PM
I go with Personality ; but in my school looks matter :( I dont like that. I cant help that im "ugly". >.<;; But , I know a girl in one of my classes that I said "Gosh , Im ugly!" She just said "Who?" I said "Me.." She said "I know."
What did you expect, after you called yourself ugly? They probly think it's just for attention.

Are you sure you can't help that you're ugly by the way? What about people with ugly personalities and feel they can't change? Anyway, if you are really good inside, than your outside would be covered by your inside, in a way.
NOT FAIR! >.<; Not fair at all. Some people are very bitter and sweet , like me for example! Im honest , and well known. But Im not popular! Im just "cool". My school is stupid , that's my say. If someone hates me because THEY thing im ugly then they aint a very good friend!
Being cool is pretty good, but you know, there's price to everything. And being cool has it's price.
Another thing , I find myself sweet , and sometimes a bit nasty on the hand , but hey , Im honest. I can give you 1 girl name I like. Emily (She's the one who said Im ugly. :( ) Im not ugly. I know she know's that.



Can anyone help me with above?

Gengar
November 12th, 2003, 05:32 PM
Is the girl you like good-looking? Cause if she is, you're being very hypocritical.

First of all what is hypocritical? Another thing , yeah she's good looking. 0.o()

Frostweaver
November 12th, 2003, 05:38 PM
hypocritical: to be a hypocrite. A hypocrite is a person who contradicts himself (usually in terms of his/her/its actions and beliefs).

and since you said "yes she's good looking" you've just got yourself a "Hypocrite Stamp" from me.

latiosspud
November 12th, 2003, 05:38 PM
First of all what is hypocritical? Another thing , yeah she's good looking. 0.o()
You see, right there...you said you think it's wrong to like someone for how they look... :confused: :\

Frostweaver
November 12th, 2003, 06:33 PM
Whoa...look how long a conversation about looks vs. personality can get! With nothing offtopic...that's pretty amazing!

True, it is kind of stupid to like someone because of how they look. It's mostly personality but matters, but there are just some people that care more about looks... u_u which isn't fair, because a person not very good looking could be the most beautiful person in the inside. But they're not given a chance, you know why.

I don't really complain or ask or care much about my looks, but as a normal person living in this world I do care about myself -_- but what I try the most is to be a nice person. I'm not an "ugly" person, but I would never just go around saying I look good. I usually say I look bad to my mother...it sounds better than saying I look good...but my mom disagrees with me when I say I look bad u_u

And no, it's not both or nothing latiosspud. It's mostly a little bit of each, but personality is always better than looks. I really wouldn't want someone that scared me with looks, and I can't say I wouldn't mind, I'm tryin' to be sincere here, but it would be worse if the person annoyed me to death.

Did I make myself clear? Probably not. XD I have a strange feeling I went like "yes...but yes...but no....but no....but yes but no" and so on XP


well it's perfectly clear for me...

looks spark interest to start a new friendship, while personality is the true object behind the scene to start the friendship and to push it beyond its limitless limit (oxymoron but you know what i mean... hopefully)

and i just have to hate those people who just call themselve "i'm pretty"... very arrogant and a stuck-up those ppl are... especially those one who have no shame to even call themselve " oh i know... i'm such a 'sexy' beast". (i hate *all* ppl who call themselve by that if it's by their own will) Ignorant fools like that care a lot about looks. >_<

Gengar
November 12th, 2003, 07:11 PM
I dont think looks is EVERYTHING , it's not! It's barley anything in my book. (Sacrifice : Charnel *I didnt know you could read*) Well , the reason I like Emily is cause' she's energetic' etc...

latiosspud
November 12th, 2003, 07:13 PM
I dont think looks is EVERYTHING , it's not! It's barley anything in my book. (Sacrifice : Charnel *I didnt know you could read*) Well , the reason I like Emily is cause' she's energetic' etc...
Sure, so we're talking about coincidences, eh? Yeah, and I so believe you... :P

Dizzy
November 12th, 2003, 07:16 PM
You said Your not Popular Just Cool... Your School is stupid.
You like this girl who called you ugly, you dont think your ugly.

Um.... I really Dont understand... FIND ANOTHER PERSON.

latiosspud
November 12th, 2003, 07:19 PM
You said Your not Popular Just Cool... Your School is stupid.
You like this girl who called you ugly, you dont think your ugly.

Um.... I really Dont understand... FIND ANOTHER PERSON.
Exactly what I was thinking...if she thinks you're ugly, live with it. :P

Frostweaver
November 12th, 2003, 08:17 PM
You said Your not Popular Just Cool... Your School is stupid.
You like this girl who called you ugly, you dont think your ugly.

Um.... I really Dont understand... FIND ANOTHER PERSON.

my thoughts exactly... this whole situation is one big ironic contradiction. However it is possible to like someone who thinks you're ugly. Love can drive a man to do stupid things. You can love someone although she do not really like you too much. There are one-way-love in the world (tons too.) But the popular/cool thing... i dont' get that at all.

*snicker* but who am i to talk about love and romance? i can barely make friends... talk of a girlfriend... *snicker*

22sa
November 12th, 2003, 08:54 PM
Whoa...look how long a conversation about looks vs. personality can get! With nothing offtopic...that's pretty amazing!

True, it is kind of stupid to like someone because of how they look. It's mostly personality but matters, but there are just some people that care more about looks... u_u which isn't fair, because a person not very good looking could be the most beautiful person in the inside. But they're not given a chance, you know why.

I don't really complain or ask or care much about my looks, but as a normal person living in this world I do care about myself -_- but what I try the most is to be a nice person. I'm not an "ugly" person, but I would never just go around saying I look good. I usually say I look bad to my mother...it sounds better than saying I look good...but my mom disagrees with me when I say I look bad u_u

And no, it's not both or nothing latiosspud. It's mostly a little bit of each, but personality is always better than looks. I really wouldn't want someone that scared me with looks, and I can't say I wouldn't mind, I'm tryin' to be sincere here, but it would be worse if the person annoyed me to death.

Did I make myself clear? Probably not. XD I have a strange feeling I went like "yes...but yes...but no....but no....but yes but no" and so on XP
Pretty clear... Usually it'd turn out fine as long as you're sure of yourself.

About people who put looks ahead of everything, it's not always bad. Some people just like how many of the girls look, and the other stuff wouldn't be really important to them.