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supertails
October 25th, 2008, 12:15 PM
Do you believe in love at first sight, cause I think I met the prefect person?

Motsuko Live
October 25th, 2008, 12:51 PM
No, I don't. Love at first sight is for those too immature to realize what true love is. I do, however, believe in lust at first sight.

viridian doubletongue
October 25th, 2008, 01:13 PM
I don't believe in love at first sight, true love, soulmates.

I know love though.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 01:38 PM
The lust between us must be strong then. I believe that this could be love and not lust. Though I know a lot of private convos took place.

Motsuko Live
October 25th, 2008, 02:09 PM
The lust between us must be strong then. I believe that this could be love and not lust. Though I know a lot of private convos took place.

>___>

... you met her online?

wakachamo
October 25th, 2008, 02:26 PM
The lust between us must be strong then. I believe that this could be love and not lust. Though I know a lot of private convos took place.

I'm starting to wonder whether or not you actually know what "lust" means.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 03:16 PM
>___>

... you met her online?

I'm gay and yes I met him online.

I'm starting to wonder whether or not you actually know what "lust" means.

Lust is basically a want for sex. which is my definition. Seems like I do.

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Cassino
October 25th, 2008, 03:44 PM
Love is for the person.
Infatuation/lust is for the body.

At first sight, all a person knows of the other is their body (though really only parts of it since people do tend to wear clothes). The idea of love at first sight must've been coined by a naive young chap indeed.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 03:46 PM
I don't know. I believe it's actually real.

Chibi-chan
October 25th, 2008, 03:53 PM
I don't believe in first impressions, so why should I believe in love at first sight? You need to know each other first. Lust because of sight isn't love.

The lust between us must be strong then. I believe that this could be love and not lust. Though I know a lot of private convos took place.
Make sure you keep this PG-13 ~_~ Hell, someone can lust over Britney Spears. That's not love.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 03:57 PM
That is true and don't worry it's going to be PG big time up in here.

TRIFORCE89
October 25th, 2008, 05:38 PM
There can be an attraction at first sight (doesn't have to be physical or dirty or anything, just...an attraction, an interest). But love would have to grow over time I think.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 05:45 PM
William Shakespeare believed in love at first sight and he made a ton of plays too. Unless you believed it was just attraction or lust though. It was just a story.

Counterfeit
October 25th, 2008, 05:52 PM
I can't possibly see how love at first sight could exist. 0.o

Yes, their physical appearance can tell you about their personality to some extent (The way they dress .etc)
But to love is to accept them fully and for their complete self, and not just their body. >_>

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 05:59 PM
Love at first sight does enable that. Which is why popular girls protect the unpopular boys their in love with and so on.

Chibi-chan
October 25th, 2008, 05:59 PM
William Shakespeare believed in love at first sight and he made a ton of plays too. Unless you believed it was just attraction or lust though. It was just a story.

So what, just because he's Shakespeare makes him a valid source in love? I don't think so.
Love goes beyond the flesh.


Love at first sight does enable that. Which is why popular girls protect the unpopular boys their in love with and so on.

I've never seen that happen in my life. Popular girls don't date unpopular boys...
Why?
Because it's not love at first sight, they don't have the body.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 06:02 PM
He was pretty real at times.

Counterfeit
October 25th, 2008, 06:03 PM
Which is why popular girls protect the unpopular boys their in love with and so on.

I don't see how that justifies "Love at First Sight" at all.

Sharespeare was just another guy with his own beliefs, just because he was famous dosen't make it fact.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 06:05 PM
That is true but I still believe.

Kitty-Kat
October 25th, 2008, 07:41 PM
I believe if you love someone, you've always loved them, even before you knew them. So it would kind of be at first sight, in a way.
I guess it depends.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 07:51 PM
Is that a reincarnation belief? I don't believe in reincarnation but I guess you could have always loved someone though.

Amachi
October 25th, 2008, 08:19 PM
There can be an attraction at first sight (doesn't have to be physical or dirty or anything, just...an attraction, an interest). But love would have to grow over time I think.
This is it. You can't just love someone from the get go. Any "love" you feel when you see someone is nothing more than an infatuation. Love needs more time than a moment or two.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 08:30 PM
I think you can love someone from the get go. It only took us 2 days before we decided to move out of state to see each other and he lives about 120 miles away. I'm going to his apartment on Monday. Which is only like 4 days after we met. I believe that's love.

Karasuma
October 25th, 2008, 08:41 PM
I've never seen that happen in my life. Popular girls don't date unpopular boys...
Why?
Because it's not love at first sight, they don't have the body.

Watch those popular girls, when high school ends their popularity goes out the window...welcome to the real world/college now girls...nobody cares if you were the drama queen in high school...

Personally i think that love is not a feeling...its an ability that two people from the opposite gender possess. Its really hard to find a person that you know you can really trust on, not to mention that we live in a crazy generation nowadays heh, and its funny how the term 'I love you' is used today also because to me that word is overrated.
My girlfriend understands that but just maybe someday I'll tell her that word but in a different way because of how overrated it is.

I agree with chibi but i feel bad for those guys who have trouble asking girls out.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 08:43 PM
Are you saying that as a homophobic saying or that men and women can have love?

Noah Ridgewood
October 25th, 2008, 09:38 PM
I believe that someone can be attracted to someone at first sight, but I don't think someone can fall in love with said person without getting to know them after a while.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 09:48 PM
I don't know. I just know that I'm going to see him. I'm going to travel 240 miles round trip, which is 120 miles to his apartment and an other 120 miles back home. I believe that to be love especially with the gas prices. I don't care what you or anyone else says I'm making the trip. I'll only be there for 5 hours at the most, and yes I'll have fun;). You can call it lust, attraction or what ever but I'm going to see him. Like I said I only met him 2 days ago and on day 4 I'm making the trip.

Kyoko
October 25th, 2008, 09:57 PM
There is a saying "only fools rush in" y'know. I'm not trying to be rude, but like, four days? You honestly think you love someone after four days? You can't truely love someone until you've created a relationship that's deeper than just physical attraction, because as most people said here, it's infatuation. I don't think you can know much about anyone after four days, that makes them an aquaintance at most >:

Well that being said, I obviously don't believe in love at first sight. Love is something that has to build over time and after getting to know someone and liking them for more than just their looks.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 10:02 PM
Why am I making that trip then? Just for action? No, and yes I think I can.

Karasuma
October 25th, 2008, 11:16 PM
Get to know the person a little better. I mean i dont want you to take this the wrong way but you never know how he is when you meet the person for the first time in real life. Sure the person may talk sweet and say nice things, but you dont know the background that person has.

Everyone has their thoughts and I don't have the power to stop anybody from making their choice, sometimes its better to find out for yourself.
Best of luck on that trip.

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 11:26 PM
Unfortunately your right about that but you have to take risks before you can get rewards. I feel he's really the right one for me and I'm willing to take the risk for a shot on true love. Thanks for your concern and I hope for the best too.

Motsuko Live
October 25th, 2008, 11:39 PM
I think it's amazing that you feel so strongly about this, and you're willing to act on your emotions in such a way. However, I do think you should be careful. Love is a dangerous word, as corny as that sounds. Don't set yourself up for something you can't control. What if he's not everything you dreamed he'd be? All your hopes and wishes will come crashing down, and there's nothing you can do about it. It's better to discover the unexpected than expect the undiscovered.

But it's good that you're actually taking the time and effort to see him. As long as you try to do everything in your power to make it work, you shouldn't have any regrets if it doesn't. Good luck!

supertails
October 25th, 2008, 11:48 PM
I really do get what you mean and something in the pass has happen but I think I'm a lot smarter now, I just find it unfortunate that we aren't tought this at school. I hope it doesn't come crashing down too but I feel I'm open to change. I know your right and I hope for the best.

txteclipse
October 26th, 2008, 12:01 AM
Real love is built through spending time together and working through struggles. It lasts through the good and the bad.

If this guy suddenly developed a debilitating disease, would you stay by his side until the end or would you start pursuing other options? I don't mean to be blunt, but it's a good gauge. You may be attracted now, but I don't think I would call it "love" by any means.

supertails
October 26th, 2008, 12:05 AM
I really didn't want to say this but he is taking median for his heart.

txteclipse
October 26th, 2008, 12:19 AM
I really didn't want to say this but he is taking median for his heart.

I assume you mean medicine? I wouldn't really correlate needing medicine with having a debilitating disease, as there are plenty of people with prescriptions that can function more or less normally. I don't know the extremity of his condition, granted, but if it isn't crippling or, God-forbid, deadly, then that's not really what I meant.

supertails
October 26th, 2008, 12:29 AM
True, so very true but I take the good with the bad. You can always trust me to come through no matter what. I'm not saying you're gay but if you were then a boy like me would be prefect, sure I'm not the sharpest knive in the droll but I'm loyal to those I'm close to and I got what I they want too if you know what I mean but that's what I got to say.

God
October 26th, 2008, 01:39 AM
To be blunt, love at first sight only lives in fairy tales and re-runs of Family Matters.

You gotta let the love blossom, ove a month, year, a decade or even life. No matter what it takes.

Now why did I think of "L-O-V-E" by Ashley Simpson just now?

Kitty-Kat
October 26th, 2008, 06:52 AM
Is that a reincarnation belief? I don't believe in reincarnation but I guess you could have always loved someone though.

I never really made the connection between that an reincarnation, but I do believe in reincarnation as well. XD; I don't know, it's just my belief. I think if you have lived long enough to know the difference between love and lust and what comes in between, then you know if you have fallen in love at first sight.

supertails
October 26th, 2008, 10:28 AM
To be blunt, love at first sight only lives in fairy tales and re-runs of Family Matters.

You gotta let the love blossom, ove a month, year, a decade or even life. No matter what it takes.

Now why did I think of "L-O-V-E" by Ashley Simpson just now?

I don't know. Love is a strange thing at times so you don't really know.

I never really made the connection between that an reincarnation, but I do believe in reincarnation as well. XD; I don't know, it's just my belief. I think if you have lived long enough to know the difference between love and lust and what comes in between, then you know if you have fallen in love at first sight.

You were talking about love at first sight and that once you love someone, you have always loved them which makes it sound that if you love someone 100 years ago and you always love them and when your born again you still love the person even if you don't know it. I don't see how someone couldn't make that connection, sure you never said that you believe in reincarnation but it was pretty obvious.

Kitty-Kat
October 26th, 2008, 12:56 PM
You were talking about love at first sight and that once you love someone, you have always loved them which makes it sound that if you love someone 100 years ago and you always love them and when your born again you still love the person even if you don't know it. I don't see how someone couldn't make that connection, sure you never said that you believe in reincarnation but it was pretty obvious.

Er... uh, no x.X I'm confused. I know what I said. But maybe you don't? What I meant is... it's like you had a person that was made for you. Kind of like in Hancock, how the super hero people were made in pairs and whenever they were close together they began to die. I didn't mean you had to have lived on the earth in some form or another all the time. Or will live on the earth again. You really shouldn't assume things. ^^;

supertails
October 26th, 2008, 01:48 PM
I was right about you believing in reincarnation so it's more of a spot on guess then a assumption. I do get want your saying now but I was still right though.

Virtual Chatot
October 26th, 2008, 01:51 PM
Physical love is associated with one's physical desires and needs.
True love is sacrificial, even to the point of taking a bullet for someone you care about.
When you mix these two kinds of love, you get a really nice blend.

Confuse
October 26th, 2008, 02:00 PM
You can be physically attracted to someone very quickly, but can be turned off by their personality just as quick if you learn to know 'em over a long period of time.

Virtual Chatot
October 26th, 2008, 02:02 PM
You can be physically attracted to someone very quickly, but can be turned off by their personality just as quick if you learn to know 'em over a long period of time.

Which is why actual love is far more important than physical "love", which could be more appropriately dubbed lust.

supertails
October 26th, 2008, 02:07 PM
I'd take a bullet for him. I have no dought.

Virtual Chatot
October 26th, 2008, 02:36 PM
I'd take a bullet for him. I have no dought.I seriously dought you're 20 years old as you claim, just from all the spelling errors that you make in your posts.

supertails
October 26th, 2008, 02:56 PM
Just assume I've never took a spelling class because in high school I learned why I couldn't spell was because they used the old spelling system on me instead of phonic and I think they did that for only a year and then brought the good one back. I'm not sure but yea. I'm seriously 20.

suicidesal
October 26th, 2008, 03:19 PM
Yeah when I first met my boyfriend, I was REALLY attracted to him. and feeling for him what I do now- I know it wasn't love then.

Also - idk MAYBE its just me, a student of literature- but I'm quite certain shakespere mocked love at first sight.
Eg : Romeo and Juliet, they talk more of being in love than they of/to eachother... and then they're kinda stupid about it... and i believe all though shakespere isn't the be all end all in intellegence, I believe he knew more of how lovers should act than how romeo+juliet did

supertails
October 26th, 2008, 03:28 PM
I'm pretty sure he didn't and that could have been bad luck. Like today when he got a fever and sent me a text message telling me that I should wait til Friday.

QueenZ
October 26th, 2008, 08:27 PM
I don't believe you supertails..

supertails
October 26th, 2008, 08:34 PM
Don't believe me if you want but anyway I have great news. I'm actually going to my bf's apartment tomorrow. We've said I love you to each other and we're now bfs. He is my bf now and I love it. I'm going to tell you how the trip was and how it went when I get back.

Cherrim
October 27th, 2008, 04:08 AM
...make sure you tell someone where you're going before you leave, per proper procedure when you meet someone offline for the first time. True love or not, you've gotta be careful.

supertails
October 27th, 2008, 04:11 AM
That's a good idea. Thanks.