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Forever
July 16th, 2009, 11:24 PM
This was discussed last night and... it's an interesting question. Basically, do you think a person is showing strength through tears or weakness?

It depends on the situation - in most cases, I'd consider the person to be more vulnurable (spelling? idk) when crying, because their emotions and thoughts are worn down. But... in a lot of cases, it can really be a strength and can build one up.

Diglett
July 16th, 2009, 11:31 PM
It's kind of even. Crying can be a sign of vulnerability, however, it can also be a something along the lines of "I cry, so does everyone else, I'm not afraid to admit it".

Idk, that's just my view on it. Interesting subject, though.

Sarcastic Prince
July 16th, 2009, 11:34 PM
Crying = Weak if Kids are Crying.
At least that's what I think.

Cassino
July 17th, 2009, 02:21 AM
It implies emotional instability or buildup and release in adults, thus a weakness. I don't laugh at people who cry though, I cry like anyone else, it's just a way of releasing tension, sadness or whatever; it simply makes apparent some kind of falliable mental integrity, which almost all humans have so it's rather people that cry a lot than ones that cry at all that are 'weak'.

In young children it's just a natural reaction to reception of pain in order to gain others' attention, although it may be useful (though in modern times unfunctional and annoying) it doesn't boost one's reactions or anything.

Terrain
July 17th, 2009, 03:00 AM
An interesting question.
It implies emotional instability or buildup and release in adults, thus a weakness. I don't laugh at people who cry though, I cry like anyone else, it's just a way of releasing tension, sadness or whatever; it simply makes apparent some kind of falliable mental integrity, which almost all humans have so it's rather people that cry a lot than ones that cry at all that are 'weak'.

In young children it's just a natural reaction to reception of pain in order to gain others' attention, although it may be useful (though in modern times unfunctional and annoying) it doesn't boost one's reactions or anything.

I agree to some extent that crying is a weakness, though I could also see crying as a way to obtain strength.
Yes, I fully agree that most young children cry just so they gain others' attention, but in the case of adults, when one is releasing emotion, tension or sadness through tears, it also builds one's strength in some way, because you lessen the weight and burden that you carry, you get stronger, thus showing strength.
It's just my viewpoint of it, though, so I could most likely be wrong.

I cry when I need to, because it's human to do so.

.Wolfie-kun.
July 17th, 2009, 03:10 AM
I see it as a weakness but also as a strength seeing as it proves that you do have a heart inside no matter how heartless you claim to be. (I found this out through experience >.>)

Mitchman
July 17th, 2009, 03:22 AM
I consider it a strength. If a male cannot give a damn if people think he is a wuss or a pussy and cry freely if upset then that man is a man of honor or something.

flight
July 17th, 2009, 04:04 AM
For me, not really. It's really rare for me to cry and when I do, it's for a really good reason. To me, it shows strength, because I'm not afraid to let my tears out for whatever reason. And afterwards, I'll feel like a better, stronger, more secure person. So no matter what the situation may be when I cry(though it's usually ones that affect me very deeply) I still hold true to my own self.

Though I know not to express this too much around people(I never have, except for like, two people)it's an emotion that, when I feel it, makes me a more secure and stronger person.

Vie
July 17th, 2009, 04:07 AM
I think crying is a sign of too much things at once. Its not weakness and not strength.

Neko
July 17th, 2009, 04:09 AM
I see the lack of fully being in control of yourself a weakness. Crying=/=control.

Satoshi Ookami
July 17th, 2009, 04:20 AM
It's weakness... by showing your emotions you show that ya can't control 'em

Avey
July 17th, 2009, 04:23 AM
Technically crying is a weakness, but that doesn't mean there's anything bad about it.

Rokusasu
July 17th, 2009, 04:37 AM
I think it depends on the situation and what the circumstances that made you cry were. =/ You can be moved by something, which shows you have a heart, or you can be crying out of sheer happiness. Then there're the not-so-nice things, but c'mon, there's only a certain amount of crap people can take without reacting to it. D; Also, I think it differs between males and females. Females are expected to cry more.

So in answer to le question, I don't think it is a sign of weakness.

Kazukii
July 17th, 2009, 04:39 AM
It's kind of even. Crying can be a sign of vulnerability, however, it can also be a something along the lines of "I cry, so does everyone else, I'm not afraid to admit it".

Yeah, I agree with what this guy's said :)

Anxiety.
July 17th, 2009, 04:45 AM
Personally, I think it shows weakness. It means someone has lost control of their emotions.
Which is why I don't cry. The only thing I loose control of is my anger.
I'm generally known as the tough guy who, when he's sad, gets angry or goes into shock and stares into space. I wish I wasn't though, everyone expects me to fight for them.
I don't hold my tears back, I just never feel the need to cry, my body just doesn't let me.

But I guess, depending on the situation, it could mean strength.

Saltare.
July 17th, 2009, 07:07 AM
I say a strength. I get what I want when I cry.

⋚Raika⋚
July 17th, 2009, 07:18 AM
It's a weakness, it just shows how weak and vulnerable a person is. But sometimes you just can't control your tears... :/

Cherrim
July 17th, 2009, 08:19 AM
I consider it a weakness, personally. I hate when people see me cry. I hate it, I hate it, I hate it. :( I refuse to take certain medication because it brings on depression and I hate that because I cry so much more often fffff. Oddly enough, I have no problem crying over a video game ending or something (lol what) but for decent reasons... augh, I just hate it and won't cry. :/ The only time I can think of that I've cried over something not fandom related (idk why anime/movies/tv shows/games turn me into a wibbling wuss XD) in the last year was health-related. So like... severe pain, etc. :|

I know it's good to let it all out every so often but instead it just feels like I've lost control and I dislike that feeling more than almost anything. Also if you're crying in public it just makes the atmosphere *so* awkward. XD I don't wish that on anyone.

Guillermo
July 17th, 2009, 08:24 AM
It's weakness... by showing your emotions you show that ya can't control 'em

what is this i dont even

Anyway, I hardly see crying as a weakness at all. People sometimes have to let out their emotions, and crying is one of the best ways to do so. Besides, people can't control when they cry or not. Crying is really a way to communicate, in my opinion. People know when someone's upset when they're crying, and then that person decides to help the upset person.

~*!*~Tatsujin Gosuto~*!*~
July 17th, 2009, 08:32 AM
I've always been the tough cookie and when I think of crying, its for weaklings


:t354:TG

seeker
July 17th, 2009, 08:34 AM
Well i think when you cry you're really letting your inner emotions show. i mean if you were playing poker or something it wouldn't be good but out on the street or with friends and family i neither consider it to be a strength nor weakness, all you're doing is expressing your feelings. It's a trait more than anything. You don't cry to win arguements or anything like that. Though crying is a good defence, if you're under any sort of threat you can cry and you'll be in your own little world where no one can hurt you but really how often does that situation arise?
So i think crying is more of a neutral personality trait rather than a strength nor weakness.

i'm a bubble. pop me.
July 17th, 2009, 09:00 AM
I kind of agree with GavZ, though i wouldn't call crying a personal trait. It's just a reaction to scary, tense etc situations. we can all cry. and i wouldn't go calling everyone i see crying a weak person. it also depends on the situation. sometimes it's good to cry - to let your emotions out so you can get over it. it's not a good idea to bottle everything inside. and it also tells ppl around us that sth is wrong so they can help us. but i guess if somebody cries too much in inapproriate situations, it could mean that their too sensitive/weak (though they could also just be a dramaqueen).
and yeah, i guess it could also be a strenght in a way a person is confident enough to let his emotions go in front of others. but overall i don't think that we should treat crying as an indication of weakness or strenght.

Ayselipera
July 17th, 2009, 09:34 AM
Depends what your crying about.

Spinor
July 17th, 2009, 09:34 AM
Crying is neither. It is just a natural reaction from the body when excess emotional energy builds up in the body. It can be kind of a sign of weakness since it means emotional release when the body can't take it anymore.

seeker
July 17th, 2009, 09:38 AM
I kind of agree with GavZ, though i wouldn't call crying a personal trait. It's just a reaction to scary, tense etc situations. we can all cry. and i wouldn't go calling everyone i see crying a weak person. it also depends on the situation. sometimes it's good to cry - to let your emotions out so you can get over it. it's not a good idea to bottle everything inside. and it also tells ppl around us that sth is wrong so they can help us. but i guess if somebody cries too much in inapproriate situations, it could mean that their too sensitive/weak (though they could also just be a dramaqueen).
and yeah, i guess it could also be a strenght in a way a person is confident enough to let his emotions go in front of others. but overall i don't think that we should treat crying as an indication of weakness or strenght.


I know what you're saying but what i meant too say is that some people are more prone to crying, not that it is a trait full stop to cry. I didn't explain it too well. But i think it's in your personality to cry more than others but it still isn't a weakness or strength due to it being slightly a reflection on who you are and no one person is weak nor are they necessarily stronger than others. Sometimes it takes a lot more guts just to let go

.little monster
July 17th, 2009, 12:48 PM
I don't see how a normal human emotion can be a strength or a weakness. It's just an emotion, everyone cries, it doesn't make you weak or strong to cry. It's saying "Is Anger a strength or weakness?" Neither. Crying is not either.

I know I am going to get some negative reputation from some moron going "I DON'T CRY!"

bit.trip void
July 17th, 2009, 01:39 PM
Way back, 4-5 years ago, there was this football player named Nick Reiwoldt. He just got appointed captain of his team. In the first match of the yearhe was hit in the shoulder, and broke his collarbone, yet he played on. The other teams players deliberately hit his shoulder. He wasn't afraid to cry, not because of the pain, but because of he fact he'd miss a large part of the season and he was captain. So imma say strength.

Netto Azure
July 17th, 2009, 03:34 PM
I agree it depends on the situation. I usually cry when I'm really weak emotionally, but somehow gather the strength to become apathetic to the issue at hand.

sirboulevard
July 17th, 2009, 07:41 PM
It depends. If you cry to release your emotion, thats a strength, but if you cry because you cant control your emotions then its a weakness.

Sweet Smoochum
July 17th, 2009, 07:49 PM
I see crying as just a mere thing caused by emotions that everyone has expressed once in a while. It's not a sign of weakness nor strength. Crying is actually a good way to express how you feel. When you're done, you feel better.

BeachBoy
July 17th, 2009, 09:59 PM
I see pain when someone cries, not a strength or weakness. Some can cry out of hatred and have the "strength" to control themselves enough to stop a murderer. Someone can cry out of being abused, being too "weak" to fight back. So, I'm going to say it's circumstantial and neither, if that makes sense. (it's just... hard to describe my opinion on this topic)

Aurafire
July 18th, 2009, 07:52 AM
Depends on the situation...But I can't really see crying as a display of strength. It's just the expression of strong emotion, it doesn't necessarily have to show weakness or strength.

ShinjisLover
July 18th, 2009, 07:54 AM
It's neither a weakness or a strength. It's just a natural thing that only humans can experience.

Taylor Lautner
July 18th, 2009, 03:01 PM
It implies emotional instability or buildup and release in adults, thus a weakness. I don't laugh at people who cry though, I cry like anyone else, it's just a way of releasing tension, sadness or whatever; it simply makes apparent some kind of falliable mental integrity, which almost all humans have so it's rather people that cry a lot than ones that cry at all that are 'weak'.

In young children it's just a natural reaction to reception of pain in order to gain others' attention, although it may be useful (though in modern times unfunctional and annoying) it doesn't boost one's reactions or anything.I totally agree here with you. Most times I cry though have to be stress or something else.

Metatron
July 18th, 2009, 03:06 PM
It's neither. I mean, everyone has different ways of dealing with their emotions. Just because one person might cry more than others, doesn't make that person weaker.

...I've never cried in my entire life, btw.

Captain Fabio
July 18th, 2009, 03:06 PM
I think it is a weakness, if there isn't a highly emotional reason for it.
Like a loss of a friend or family member.

I haven't cried in a long time, since I was 14.
Not trying to look like a big boy, but I have delt with the emotions of life and handled them, even if it means punching something hard. Haha.

>Feelings<
July 18th, 2009, 09:13 PM
It all depends on the situation.
If you cry in the public for a small reason, it's not weakness, but becoming vulnerable to others.
If you cry because you got hurt, it's stupid and a sign of weakness.
If you cry to make yourself feel better, it's a sign of strength.
If you cry because someone insulted you, then it'll make you vulnerable only - neither a strength or a weakness.
If you cry because you're deeply hurt in your feelings, it is a sign of strength and honour.

There's more to the variations, but I'll stop here.

Klippy
July 18th, 2009, 11:05 PM
Sometimes you just have to cry. >: I spent 6 months of my junior year having anxiety attacks because of something that happened and all my friends abandoned me, so...after awhile, it just got to me and I cried. It really helped to let it go finally. But I think that's the last time I've seriously cried. D:

So, it's a strength. But it can be a weakness when you cry over little things. Like they say, "Don't cry over spilled milk," if that technically can apply. XD

Limey-chan
July 18th, 2009, 11:08 PM
Depends really. If someone's crying at a loss or they're in excruciating pain then it's quite understandable. If they're crying over something trivial then I think 'wtf' =/