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Naruto Uzumaki
August 15th, 2009, 02:21 PM
Not like a normal fight, I mean like a heated one. I got into a big fight with my parents once because my dad thought I would make nothing of my life and I said some words (Bad words) and I just got out of the hose and rode my bike as far away as possible (two miles away to the farthest park) and stayed there for three hours, but I came home because my Mom was really worried and she was crying. How about you? Discuss.

Weatherman, Kiyoshi
August 15th, 2009, 02:32 PM
Who doesn't fight with thier parents?

Of course there are the serious ones,
Anger blows off with time.

Parents should love thier kids, and not just let some argument ruin thier family love between one another.

Rokusasu
August 15th, 2009, 03:48 PM
I used to fight with them when was in my younger teens, but now I rarely exchange cross words with them. :3 Back then, it only resulted in me slamming a door and going to my room, so nothing too dramatic. XD

Bagel
August 15th, 2009, 03:57 PM
All the time.

Its gotten to the point were i just try to avoid them at all cost. We have very different views on things and its like they want me to be pefect at everything. i wright poems about our realtionsship. It might seem a little esilly and dramatic but heres one of them-

What do you know about me?
You really think this is who I am.
The perfect child, just following the plan.

You think that this is me,
That this is what I want,
To be the high achiever, to be your trophy

I crave to be a rebel
I want to break the rules
I want to get crazy, to be everything you aren’t

You never had the chance
To live a freer better life
You never knew anything else but a perfect good girl life

Im gonna be wild
But don’t misunderstand
I’m still a good girl, ive done nothing entirely bad

Because your idea of bad
Is kissing boys
So what I am now, is like being the devil in your eyes

You say I can be
Who I want
But if this is what I am, you give a huge damn

Ive seen teens
100 time worse
Im good in every ones eyes except yours

Nothings ever good enough
Though I try as hard as I can
But Im tired of it now, that life his gone and old

Ive different now
Just except it and be done
I don’t give a damn how you feel, since you obviously hate me now

It’s too late to be sorry
For all the pressure you put on me
I was pushed to hard to be perfect, that I broke, and it’s your fault and yours only

Now I’m better
I like myself now
I’m outgoing, and less afraid of the world

I’m happy just being myself, without the wait of living up to you on my shoulders
Ive got him now, even though you like him better then me
But you dint know him either, he’s different around you, to make you happy
I love him, and he loves me we are perfectly matched

Ive broke free, of your controlling grasp
Now I feel better then ever
I know who I am now I have no doubt, this who I want to be, and I love it.

Its not that good.

Hassamu
August 15th, 2009, 03:57 PM
Occasionally, but its never anything really major. It's happening less often now as I grow up though.

It would always be over something really petty though, like who's turn it is to help with the washing up or whether it was my turn on the computer or my sister's.. =/

.Seth
August 15th, 2009, 04:00 PM
I do sometimes. Not a lot, though. Usually, it's just ends with "Go to your room!", and I stay in there for a while.
Me and my dad's sarcastic attitudes (heredity ftw. o3o) don't mix.

.little monster
August 15th, 2009, 04:01 PM
No, I actually cant think of one. I always try to keep a level head around my parents. ..Still cant think of one.

Even when I told them about my sexuality they just went "Okay" but had tears in their eyes..no fight though..that's good. I am pretty sure they are repressing it too because they keep saying I'll meet to right girl some day..or they are trying to make me straight..oh well.

There have been fights where I said really loud "I DIDNT DO THAT" or whatever and then I had to prove them wrong but nothing like what this thread is talking about..

Yamikarasu
August 15th, 2009, 04:32 PM
I don't recall ever a fighting to the point where we were both yelling back and forth. I usually just ignore my mom when she really starts to annoy me. Most of the time she's good about giving me my privacy, although she still has this nasty habit of barging into my room unannounced. >_>

beauty. proletariat
August 15th, 2009, 05:07 PM
We have those massive arguements every two or three months :/ I've learnt to deal with their bs and just get on with life. Its not worth trying to keep outta arguements especially with people that you're stuck with for the rest of your life due to gamate union :|

Timbjerr
August 15th, 2009, 05:51 PM
Like everybody, I had a damaged relationship with my parents when I was a teenager.

Oddly enough, my mom got on my back all the time because I spent too much time to myself and my schoolwork and not enough time being sociable and going out with friends...o_0

Azonic
August 15th, 2009, 05:58 PM
Pssh, of course I have had a fight. I'd rather not discuss them though. :c

Aizuke
August 15th, 2009, 06:29 PM
My parents have yelled at me a couple of times, but I've never been in an actual fight with them, since I don't do anything that they have problems with and if they do, they usually get my brother's or sister to talk to me first, and if all else fails, we have a quiet discussion. My parents only talk to me if I'm in the wrong which is understandable. I don't argue back so I suppose that's how fights don't occur for us. My parents tend to stay out of my life or try to help me because like they say, parents know best. Even though I do disagree with them sometimes, they're still right. Though there is nothing that I hide from them that would make them angry. Being the youngest, I've witness times they've had fights with my siblings, so I know how to avoid any arguments.

But sometimes they do say things that annoy me, and I do rant about it. But in reality, what they say is the truth, as harsh as it can be and I've learnt to deal with that. My parents love me and they want what's best for me, even if they have odd ways of sorting a situation out because of the way they've been raised, but I can't argue with that. Some people might think my parents are harsh, in all honesty, I've seen worse parents. My parents can be a bother sometimes, but everything good about them reflects more then all the negative things they've done or said to me.

Crimson Stardust
August 15th, 2009, 06:46 PM
me,i only fight with my dad as he always call me lazy as he wants me to do all the housework and he always{i mean always}called me an idiot if i do something wrong..i will just shout back then go to my room and shut myself from my dad for hours

Hyper Chibi Absol
August 15th, 2009, 06:59 PM
Kinda. With my mom. She found out something about me that was 'bad' and said I could never talk to my boyfriend ever again and I was 18 at the time. I got so pissed, I screamed in her face 'You're keeping me away from my future husband'.

Later that night, after immense crying in my room, she told me I could still talk to him. :/

Captain Hobo.
August 15th, 2009, 07:29 PM
Not really, my parents are nice.

Samme!
August 15th, 2009, 07:32 PM
I usually seem to fight with my Dad probably because he is disappointed that I'm not athletic like he was or that I'm a lazy bum and he expects me to do everything around the house. AND he always goes around the house SINGING at the TOP of his LUNGS random crap that nobody wants to listen to. And then I tell him to shut up and then he keeps singing and then I go find earplugs -.- But the fighting usually begins if I lie about something or I just ignore him.. I'm a momma's boy XD

twocows
August 15th, 2009, 08:48 PM
I did back in my senior year of high school. I got in the car and drove off so I could get some space for a while (they were trying to pin something on me that wasn't my fault, IIRC). I drove to a park about half a mile away and tried to park. Turns out driving while angry in the middle of winter when there are three feet of snow on the ground and everything's icy isn't a good idea. I drove right through the parking area into the snow, and couldn't back out. I had to walk back home and get my dad to help dig the car out.

BeachBoy
August 15th, 2009, 08:53 PM
Unfortunately (and sadly) I've been in heated verbal fights my mother numerous times. I'm ashamed for my actions after these, but... *sigh* sometimes we just duke everything out. :( I've sharply cut these down by making sure I don't say things that can cross the line or simply shut myself off from my family for a while. (like, go to the park or beach) Usually, the next morning, everything is just fine. But to this day I regret some of my actions towards my mother. Through these experiences, though, I've learned a lot and gained more and more self-control and understanding when it comes to disagreements and arguments. Things have really turned around these days, and I'm glad. Also, not going to dive into specifics, too many and too personal.

Psittaciformes
August 15th, 2009, 10:23 PM
Yes, I do get into fights, but only with my mom. They are not heated at all. This is because I do not yell back when I'm being yelled at. I might talk back in a rude tone, but never yell. My mom has a very shrill, high pitched voice, especially when she's screaming. Being shy and getting all teary-eyed at every single thing doesn't help much either. I would never even dare to raise my voice at my dad. His voice is louder than an airplane taking off, and he will continue to yell non-stop. It can get both very irritating and frightful. Most of the time I just storm outside or into my room when I'm angry, even just ignoring and not speaking to them for a long period of time. Our arguments usually (I'd say about 95%) revolves around things that I have to do and not what I can't do. I don't really have a problem with restrictions, just the stuff my mom makes me do. Interestingly, I've had the most fights with my parents during the summer, especially this summer break. I think the tensions between me and my parents will slowly but surely dissolve away when I go back to school...:P

XxDawnfanxX
August 15th, 2009, 10:55 PM
Honestly, I am very close to both my mother and father who are divorced. I feel I can have a great time with each and talk to them when I need to. Fights? Every day, I live with my mom and we get into stupid stuff and occasionally some serious things but that was back then and I have cooled off from then. No matter what, my parents would back me up on anything which I am very lucky to have. Growing up, I have grown mature and my temper has cooled. Although, when I do lose it and take it out on my mom oh man does it get pretty heated lol.

Kirbychuu
August 15th, 2009, 11:11 PM
Who hasnt fought with their parents?
I havent for a couple years. Usually age fixes the problem.
-Usually-.. D:

Cobalt Lightning
August 15th, 2009, 11:17 PM
I won't elaborate. But mine are divorced for three years now, and I have been in some heated fights with my mom. I had a huge inferiority complex with the rest of the world, and she didn't help. I was depressed in the fall of last year, but I have amazing friends and I'm better now. But I never want to feel like that again. It's not fun... considering my username and avatar and such, you can see how happy I am now, but it wasn't always like that. The thing is, you just have to talk to them. Find out where everybody stands. Then you can act rationally like an adult and solve your problems, and they will respect you for that.

Oh, anyone think my location is amusing? Or even know where it's from?

Citrinin
August 16th, 2009, 12:06 AM
Nothing major. I've had minor arguments with my parents, some of which I was at fault, but that's to be expected with any kind of extended human relations, particularly one as complex as the parent/child one.

Gummy
August 16th, 2009, 12:50 AM
I'd like to meet the lucky teenager that hasn't. I wouldn't say me and my parents have a bad relationship, but there are just certain things that we will always disagree on. I'm quite used to my mom screaming nonsense in my ear, so when we argue I never take it too seriously. However, my stubborn dad believes that he can never be proven wrong, so our fights usually last for days (and are usually triggered by something stupid like not saying hi the moment he walks through the door, even though I'm most likely upstairs on my laptop, not coming down unless I need something or if I'm called).

Ayselipera
August 16th, 2009, 06:17 AM
Not really. We sometimes get into small disagreements, but thats about it. I never had a screaming match if thats what your getting at.

Camisado
August 16th, 2009, 06:27 AM
Actually, I've never fought with my parents at all. =x

Zorua
August 16th, 2009, 06:31 AM
I get into heated fights with my mother literally almost every time. Don't ask why, it just sorta happens between the both of us well whenever my mother is being thickheaded >__>.

~*!*~Tatsujin Gosuto~*!*~
August 16th, 2009, 07:46 AM
I've always yelled at my parents when I was little and still do sometimes, but now I just walk out my house and take long walks and don't come back until I cooled down.


:t354:TG

GKS
August 16th, 2009, 02:19 PM
Nothing big really. Once in a while we argue...

Mizan de la Plume Kuro
August 17th, 2009, 06:05 AM
I'd like to meet the lucky teenager that hasn't.
Never. I have never had a time when I got into a fight with my parents. Because of a few reasons.
1. Your parents are the ones who brought you into this world and you should always practice Filial Piety. (I'm not chinese BTW)

2. Because God said so. And can be explained in this song. (About your mother)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=srILXvwonbc
Such a beautiful song.

3. Because you will (and I stress this) regret it when they are gone.

4. Another reason is because I was a weird child who didn't talk much and never fought back. (That's what my Mother said anyway)

Of course my Mother has been annoyed with me a few times. But I've never felt any Hostility to either of my parents ever.
I'm not doing this to boast (sorry for you if you take it that way) but instead to give people who think their parents are a burden something to think about.
Just thought I'd say this.

Extric
August 17th, 2009, 08:48 AM
I've only had one crazy serious fight with my parents and that was about 2 years ago. I don't remember how it all built up, but I was getting tired of the house and the family and my anger was getting to an outrageous point. One night my mother one small comment and I just exploded and we went into a very heated argument. It go so bad that I actually considering leaving for good and never coming back. I had that attitude for the following two months. I wouldn't even go out in public with any of my family because I was just that pissed off.

My grandmother, the wonderful woman she is, actually paid for a counselor for us. We sat with the guy three days and, thankfully, he helped in repairing our relationship.

Ascaris
August 17th, 2009, 10:29 AM
Yeah, but they're over stupid stuff like homework and other teenage dilemmas.

xxemeneminyxx
August 17th, 2009, 01:22 PM
Yep sure havent we all?
Not so much now but when I was younger about 15/16 but now not so much.

Frozen King Prawns
August 17th, 2009, 11:01 PM
Of course. I'm in a huge argument with my dad right now. It's sorta got to the point where I'm blanking him out of my existance and not talking to him at all. I just want him out of this household tbh.

Yoshimi
August 17th, 2009, 11:18 PM
Never. I have never had a time when I got into a fight with my parents. Because of a few reasons.
1. Your parents are the ones who brought you into this world and you should always practice Filial Piety. (I'm not chinese BTW)

that doesn't mean that they have immediate immunity from being insulted by their child. No one said that honesty would be nice. If you would rather lie and keep your record, than be honest in risk of causing a fight, then that is you.


Annnnnywho, I get in fights with my parents all the time. Not HUGE arguments, but ones good enough to get my parents mad at me. They keep hassling and hassling me about school, even when I told them I'd do my best. I mean no disrespect, but it's like it comes in one ear and out the other.

Kisaragi
September 17th, 2009, 11:21 AM
I fight with my mother all the time. Sometimes I think she is pure evil, crawling out from the depths of hell. But that's just silly!

Ageless Irony
September 17th, 2009, 11:22 AM
...
Yeah,
I have.

It's bad.

Mitchman
September 17th, 2009, 11:26 AM
Screaming is a daily routine at work with my father so yeah.

AntLion.
September 17th, 2009, 01:55 PM
I think most people have had fights with their parents, I have had plenty :P

Gold warehouse
September 17th, 2009, 02:38 PM
I'm generally a quiet person. I don't shout at anybody, whether it's a stranger or my mum.
As I don't raise my voice, other people usually don't raise their voice when talking to me. If my mum does begin to shout, then I'll politely ask her to stop shouting.
It's the best way to prevent any disagreements getting out of hand.
We normally just go about our own business without bothering each other these days anyway, which works aswell.

Tudj
September 17th, 2009, 11:55 PM
Yes, generally all the time, and I see friends also do it aswell, so I always assumed that everybody did.

Elite Overlord LeSabre™
September 18th, 2009, 08:09 AM
Only when I'm at home. When I'm 800 miles away at college, there's hardly any yelling over the phone, but put us under the same roof and the sparks will fly... almost on a daily occurrence over something...

Soul Eater
September 18th, 2009, 01:38 PM
I admit I have had a few quarrels with my parents but I have never gone as far as a full-blown heated argument. D: My mom would always win the arguments anyway because she is the type of person to tell me to watch my mouth... EVEN THOUGH I'M TWENTY YEARS OLD. She still treats me like a child bit at times I do give into it and that doesn't help.

I get along pretty normally with my parents. I mean, it's basically how any other child would get along with their parents. A few quarrels here and there... but in general a still supportive family that always tries their best to give their love. XD

Still, I will admit that my parents have gotten into a couple of the heated arguments. It's mostly over friends who take advantage of us or... personal things I won't discuss. But its nothing that leads to abuse or nothing like that. Since in the end, they usually forget about it and move on.

Caelus
September 18th, 2009, 08:14 PM
I've had a couple of fights with my parents though I don't think any of them were that bad.. just bad enough.

Most of our fights happen due to teenage stuff, though I can live with it since most of the time we get along well.

Jazmine Marie
September 19th, 2009, 12:12 AM
My childhood was literally filled with heated fights with my parents [and the heated fights between themselves]. It was just really, really horrible. I hated living in that environment so much. The fighting ended up so bad that I had to move out when I was sixteen.

The people who have semi-decent relationships with their parents should be truly thankful for what they have. If your family has the occasional fight or disagreement, never ever think that your family is bad or horrible. There are so many more families out there that are much, much worse off than yours.