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Chaval
August 25th, 2009, 01:15 PM
What do you think of distance relationships?
I think there are really good,if you can trust people well enough and all that.










PS:(i'm single)

HyPeRsHoCk
August 25th, 2009, 01:31 PM
It's hard sometimes. But if you really love them, you'll trust them and will be very excited to see them personally. And I think it can actually be healthy for a relationship. As it builds trust and love.

Jolene
August 25th, 2009, 01:32 PM
I personally wouldn't want to be a part of one because I don't think I'd be able to take it seriously. I know that it works really well for some people though - I guess it depends on how committed you are.

HyPeRsHoCk
August 25th, 2009, 01:34 PM
I personally wouldn't want to be a part of one because I don't think I'd be able to take it seriously. I know that it works really well for some people though - I guess it depends on how committed you are.

I agree. Both ends have to be very committed to the relationship. You have to make sure of that. Or else it will surely end in heartbreak.

Captain Fabio
August 25th, 2009, 01:39 PM
Longest distance I have done is an hour away.
So, it isn't that bad.

They can work, but not for me.
Never liked the idea of being committed to someone that I hardly see.

Rokusasu
August 25th, 2009, 01:43 PM
I was in one, and it totally ruled my life- even to the point that despite the fact that it's over, I'm still 'recovering' from it if you like. (I used to stay up all night because of time differences, and I still do the same now outta habit.) Now I'd definitely avoid relationships outside of my country if that makes sense. XD Anything that requires me to hop on a plane = no. XD

Patchisou Yutohru
August 25th, 2009, 03:10 PM
I personally think, regardless of how distant two people are, if they are truly dedicated to one another, nothing can truly interfere with the relationship. Some long distant relationships have proven to be rather stable and eventually, long distant relationships often occur. Especially if you have a relationship with someone that lasts towards graduating high school and you two may become separated. If the two have dedication to each other, I'm sure that it'll work out in the end for them.

There is, of course, a lot of stress between the two due to so many things that could happen to one of them and the relationship could of course be ruined. I consider myself to be involved in a long distance relationship, and I constantly wonder what's going to happen. It is, of course, one that started online, so that may prove to be a, as corny as this sounds, heartbreaker or a dream maker.

Yoshimi
August 25th, 2009, 04:13 PM
It will usually never work out. There are some cases that people actually stay loyal to their friends on the internet, but no physical contact is a significant detriment to a relationship, from what I've seen :/

Chaval
August 26th, 2009, 09:28 AM
so...what do you think of them?i think that they are really possible and good,because you will find the one and your trust shows it all

Captain Fabio
August 26th, 2009, 09:38 AM
This is the second thread based on this subject created by you.

Camisado
August 26th, 2009, 09:43 AM
I'm in one - I met Get Innocuous! online, and he lives 93 miles away from me. We see each other every one to three weeks.

I'm at his house right now, in fact. xD

Sometimes it's difficult, but we've been together over six months now and it's all gone really well so far. It'll make us better prepared for when he goes to university which is quite difficult for some couples.

LEXAcide
August 26th, 2009, 09:58 AM
long distance relationships fail...
you can EASILY cheat and not to mention if there is no sex, you will likely get bored after a week or less...

Mew Ichigo
August 26th, 2009, 09:59 AM
This is the second thread based on this subject created by you.


Hes obviously got an online girlfriend.

twocows
August 26th, 2009, 10:01 AM
I think he just accidentally double-posted. Lay off him.

long distance relationships fail...
you can EASILY cheat and not to mention if there is no sex, you will likely get bored after a week or less...
If you have this attitude, you'll likely have no meaningful relationships, ever.

I feel that they can work, if both people are truly committed to it. I say this in spite of all of mine having failed. :'(

HyPeRsHoCk
August 26th, 2009, 10:03 AM
If you have this attitude, you'll likely have no meaningful relationships, ever.

I feel that they can work, if both people are truly committed to it. I say this in spite of all of mine having failed. :'(

Yeah...same here. :/ She did say she wants to get back together in the future...but idk...

LEXAcide
August 26th, 2009, 10:08 AM
Dont any of you guys agree that it is just broken? Back when I was 14 and had one, She was SO clingy... She wanted to talk like 8 hours a day...
the first day it was ok...
the second i could handle it...
third day i hung up after 4 hours and said my battery died...
the fourth i broke up with her...
it just seems like utter nonsence

Camisado
August 26th, 2009, 10:11 AM
Dont any of you guys agree that it is just broken? Back when I was 14 and had one, She was SO clingy... She wanted to talk like 8 hours a day...
the first day it was ok...
the second i could handle it...
third day i hung up after 4 hours and said my battery died...
the fourth i broke up with her...
it just seems like utter nonsence

To me, it seems you're not ready for a relationship. =|

As for your earlier comment, relationships don't revolve around sex. I don't know where you get your ideas from.

twocows
August 26th, 2009, 10:13 AM
Dont any of you guys agree that it is just broken? Back when I was 14 and had one, She was SO clingy... She wanted to talk like 8 hours a day...
the first day it was ok...
the second i could handle it...
third day i hung up after 4 hours and said my battery died...
the fourth i broke up with her...
it just seems like utter nonsence
1. So what you're saying is that all people you meet online are exactly the same?

2. Personally, I wouldn't mind clingy. I'd take it as a sign that she genuinely cared. That may just be preference, though.

3. Your claim that it is "easy to cheat" is meaningless if the relationship is genuine.

4. As for "things get boring if there's no sex," I'd respond that if things are boring without sex, you probably aren't right for each other, anyway. There are better things on which to base a relationship.

LEXAcide
August 26th, 2009, 10:13 AM
To me, it seems you're not ready for a relationship. =|
that is probably true...
but after 20 hours of talking, what is there left to talk about?

twocows
August 26th, 2009, 10:16 AM
that is probably true...
but after 20 hours of talking, what is there left to talk about?
Find a prostitute if you want meaningless sex. It's cheaper, there's little talking, and you don't hurt anybody in the process. At least respect people who want a meaningful relationship.

LEXAcide
August 26th, 2009, 10:18 AM
1. So what you're saying is that all people you meet online are exactly the same?

2. Personally, I wouldn't mind clingy. I'd take it as a sign that she genuinely cared. That may just be preference, though.

3. Your claim that it is "easy to cheat" is meaningless if the relationship is genuine.

4. As for "things get boring if there's no sex," I'd respond that if things are boring without sex, you probably aren't right for each other, anyway. There are better things on which to base a relationship.
the clingyness separates from the real world though... whereas im usually hanging out with friends and family, i then find myself burning 8 hours a day... i felt as though my ear was gonna explode. Darn Overheating RAZR v3's

Find a prostitute if you want meaningless sex. It's cheaper, there's little talking, and you don't hurt anybody in the process.

im scared of prosties... half do some insane drugs, some have STD's, i dun wanna trust a condom, and they can be OVER loose...

I need a GF but she needs to understand that Im not going to surrender my life for her... And she needs to go on the pill...

twocows
August 26th, 2009, 10:25 AM
im scared of prosties... half do some insane drugs, some have STD's, i dun wanna trust a condom, and they can be OVER loose...
Then find a casual sex partner. Don't BS someone with relationships if you just want sex; be honest about it. There are plenty of women out there who are into that sort of thing these days.

Camisado
August 26th, 2009, 10:27 AM
I need a GF but she needs to understand that Im not going to surrender my life for her... And she needs to go on the pill...

This begs the question, what's in it for your prospective girlfriend? None of this sounds very attractive to me. Relationships are about giving as well as taking.

And the pill thing - does that mean you're not going to use a condom for her?

LEXAcide
August 26th, 2009, 10:33 AM
This begs the question, what's in it for your prospective girlfriend? None of this sounds very attractive to me. Relationships are about giving as well as taking.

And the pill thing - does that mean you're not going to use a condom for her?

well what i seek in a girlfriend are good morals along with looks... no drinking/smoking, not stereotyped as a *****, can make me laugh, is there for me during the sad times, and NO STD's like AIDS or other serious ones. Looks are important but not as severely as you would imagine... im fine with chubby, but not obese. any hair color is good. any race is good. oh and yes... we usually spend about 2 hours 2gether a day. No more unless its a special occasion.

Camisado
August 26th, 2009, 10:36 AM
I'm just going to leave this thread, because I'm quite disgusted by your attitude towards women. =|

twocows
August 26th, 2009, 10:37 AM
well what i seek in a girlfriend are good morals along with looks... no drinking/smoking, not stereotyped as a *****, can make me laugh, is there for me during the sad times, and NO STD's like AIDS or other serious ones. Looks are important but not as severely as you would imagine... im fine with chubby, but not obese. any hair color is good. any race is good. oh and yes... we usually spend about 2 hours 2gether a day. No more unless its a special occasion.
The question asked was, what's in it for her? You're pretty picky, and not really offering much in return.

wakachamo
August 26th, 2009, 10:41 AM
well what i seek in a girlfriend are good morals along with looks... no drinking/smoking, not stereotyped as a *****, can make me laugh, is there for me during the sad times, and NO STD's like AIDS or other serious ones. Looks are important but not as severely as you would imagine... im fine with chubby, but not obese. any hair color is good. any race is good. oh and yes... we usually spend about 2 hours 2gether a day. No more unless its a special occasion.

You best be trolling, because you're better off finding a crocodile that shares the same opinion, you worthless chauvinist.

twocows
August 26th, 2009, 10:51 AM
You best be trolling, because you're better off finding a crocodile that shares the same opinion, you worthless chauvinist.
Don't be so harsh. He was just being honest. His may not be the most respectful opinion, but you shouldn't berate him just for stating it.

Bianca Paragon
August 26th, 2009, 10:54 AM
And she needs to go on the pill...
Why should she change her body chemistry..when you can just put on a rubber? o_O Or maybe you should take anti-androgens, mm? I mean, you'd expect her to change her hormone balance for you; why should you not be prepared to do the same?

I understand of course than many ladies choose to go on the pill; but saying "she needs to go on the pill" just makes you sound like a controlling jerk, imo.

Kura
August 26th, 2009, 10:57 AM
I think they're fine if both parties are committed and willing to meet each other in the future. Take Ashley and Matt (Drummershuff) for example. They both met here on PC, but now they're engaged!

LEXAcide
August 26th, 2009, 10:59 AM
You best be trolling, because you're better off finding a crocodile that shares the same opinion, you worthless chauvinist.
i wasnt trolling... ur opinion is worthless to me.


Why should she change her body chemistry..when you can just put on a rubber? o_O Or maybe you should take anti-androgens, mm? I mean, you'd expect her to change her hormone balance for you; why should you not be prepared to do the same?

I understand of course than many ladies choose to go on the pill; but saying "she needs to go on the pill" just makes you sound like a controlling jerk, imo.
im not asking anyone to change for me... But after a couple of weeks, I would strongly prefer the pill considering its a 0% chance of pregnancy

CW-Regret
August 26th, 2009, 11:32 AM
To everyone flaming Lexa stop honestly. Your flamming him over opinions? He didnt flame you guys.
Here are some points to things that a read.
1. Long Distance, means no Physical Affection.
2. You can only talk to the person, unless you both have webcams.
3. You can't truly spend time together with her/him.
4. Yeah you can build trust but how can you truly trust them?
5. Just because someone wants there girl on the pill, doesnt mean they are controlling. Just being safe because condoms can break, and many accidental pregnacies have happend.
6. If you under 18 Long distance=fail.
7. Please flame me i welcome your flaming.

Banjora Marxvile
August 26th, 2009, 11:39 AM
Long Distance relations... Already the thread has shown true light of some.

Anyway, I think devotion is needed. I wouldn't really like them too much, as I want to know them in real life, and also want to meet them person to person. If I was single and offered one, I probably would say yes, but I wouldn't ask for one. I don't judge by looks, but by actions and words. So, in that sense, a long distance relationship wouldn't disagree with me much.

Bianca Paragon
August 26th, 2009, 11:41 AM
i wasnt trolling... ur opinion is worthless to me.


im not asking anyone to change for me... But after a couple of weeks, I would strongly prefer the pill considering its a 0% chance of pregnancy
Or you could wear a condom.

Kura
August 26th, 2009, 11:44 AM
Um.. just letting all of you out there know that distance doesn't really determine sexual activity. Even if I saw Corey every single day I would still wait until we were married before having sex, and he agrees.

Sex is meaningless unless a special connection is there, anyways.


Edit: And guys just leave LEXAide alone. He has his own opinions, and obviously he'll get girls that fall under his category. Easy girls, girls who want to have sex, girls who are already on the pill, etc. If he dates a girl who doesn't want sex or the same as him, they'll just break up. Simple as that.

:/

HyPeRsHoCk
August 26th, 2009, 11:47 AM
Um.. just letting all of you out there know that distance doesn't really determine sexual activity. Even if I saw Corey every single day I would still wait until we were married before having sex, and he agrees.

Sex is meaningless unless a special connection is there, anyways.

I wholeheartedly agree. You just earned my respect. :cool:

twocows
August 26th, 2009, 11:47 AM
4. Yeah you can build trust but how can you truly trust them?
You just do. Can't really explain it.
6. If you under 18 Long distance=fail.
Not necessarily. Don't assign arbitrary numbers; I know adults who are immature and kids who are very insightful.
7. Please flame me i welcome your flaming.
Please don't bait people.

LEXAcide
August 26th, 2009, 12:27 PM
Um.. just letting all of you out there know that distance doesn't really determine sexual activity. Even if I saw Corey every single day I would still wait until we were married before having sex, and he agrees.

Sex is meaningless unless a special connection is there, anyways.


Edit: And guys just leave LEXAide alone. He has his own opinions, and obviously he'll get girls that fall under his category. Easy girls, girls who want to have sex, girls who are already on the pill, etc. If he dates a girl who doesn't want sex or the same as him, they'll just break up. Simple as that.

:/

u r the $H1T...

If i could +rep u, I would

<3

CW-Regret
August 26th, 2009, 12:30 PM
You just do. Can't really explain it.

Not necessarily. Don't assign arbitrary numbers; I know adults who are immature and kids who are very insightful.

Please don't bait people.

I meant fail as in if your under 18 you basicaly have no power to go see them. Over 18 you have the option to go see them if you have the money.
One other thing people can lie about there age.

Bianca Paragon
August 26th, 2009, 01:07 PM
u r the $H1T...

If i could +rep u, I would

<3
And if people could -rep you; you'd be in receipt of a few for bypassing the family-friendly-censor. Did you think it was in place solely to annoy you? It's not.

METHOD_REPLEKIA/.
August 26th, 2009, 01:09 PM
I feel like they can work. You have to have strong enough trust and feelings for the other person for it to work though, and you have to want to make it work.
Besides, even in real life, if you can't trust each other, it doesn't work out.

LEXAcide - Love your name by the way, since Lexa is one of my nicknames.
I find it odd that you give a time limit to how long your girlfirend can "see" you... it is a tad bit controlling.... but, it is your taste, so I have no right to judge.

LEXAcide
August 26th, 2009, 01:18 PM
I feel like they can work. You have to have strong enough trust and feelings for the other person for it to work though, and you have to want to make it work.
Besides, even in real life, if you can't trust each other, it doesn't work out.

LEXAcide - Love your name by the way, since Lexa is one of my nicknames.
I find it odd that you give a time limit to how long your girlfirend can "see" you... it is a tad bit controlling.... but, it is your taste, so I have no right to judge.

thanks ^_^ its pronounced (Lex-Uh-side)
I wasn't being completely serious when I said 2 hours max... Everything is bendable but to not spoil a good thing, you limit it. Of course there are always exceptions. I would just assume it would'nt be TOO long so I can still spend time with my boys, family, and I do need some alone time.

METHOD_REPLEKIA/.
August 26th, 2009, 01:23 PM
thanks ^_^ its pronounced (Lex-Uh-side)
I wasn't being completely serious when I said 2 hours max... Everything is bendable but to not spoil a good thing, you limit it. Of course there are always exceptions. I would just assume it would'nt be TOO long so I can still spend time with my boys, family, and I do need some alone time.
Well, I see your point, on spoiling a good thing. My ex did that. It gets quite annoying when they are so clingy they call you EVERY 10 minuets, even after you hang up. >.<
Of course, you have to make time for other things, friends are important, and you do need your "you" time. and "boyz" time... Some girls just reall LOVE spending time with their boyfrineds. I mean, I love spending time with my boyfriend. Like everythng, there has to be a limit, weither it be "Drinking" or "Spending Time" I don't want to smother him, or have him think I am annoying. I always let him have time for himself

CW-Regret
August 26th, 2009, 01:28 PM
Or you could wear a condom.
Yeah Condoms dont break or anything.
How many people got pregnate because of broken condoms?

Cherrim
August 26th, 2009, 01:28 PM
I've seen a few long distance relationships work out and far more fail, but there are a few here and there that do it right. A relationship doesn't have to be exclusively physical but it IS important to have, if possible. Even if it's only a few times a year.

They take a lot more work than a "regular" relationship but they can work out just find if both parties put in the effort to keep it going.
i wasnt trolling... ur opinion is worthless to me.


im not asking anyone to change for me... But after a couple of weeks, I would strongly prefer the pill considering its a 0% chance of pregnancy
Please go read up on the pill. It is NOT a 100% foolproof contraceptive. It can get pretty damn close if you use the pill AND a condom but it's not perfect. If all you're concerned about it using it as a contraceptive, I'd suggest looking for a chick who's working with a more permanent birth control method (IUD, depo, etc.). ;) If you miss taking your daily BC pill by even a few hours it can offset your hormones enough to render you fertile again (for lack of wanting to explain further) and you wouldn't know until she calls you up and surprise, there's a baby on the way. :'(

Ugh, this is getting so off-topic but I really had to reply to that.

Yoshimi
August 26th, 2009, 01:38 PM
Yeah Condoms don't break or anything.
How many people got pregnant because of broken condoms?

Very little. Absolutely no pill or rubber is 100% effective. The only way for something to be 100% is to get a vasectomy or for the women to get their tubes tied, although the former is much safer and easier.

And it takes that much more effort to put into a long distance relationship. Maybe more money, maybe less. I haven't tried it out./notofftopic

Chaval
August 26th, 2009, 01:38 PM
well honestly,i made this thread because i'm single and maybe there was someone here that may be interested....

anyways,people stick tot he thread...we are not talking about sex here ¬¬

LEXAcide
August 26th, 2009, 01:39 PM
I've seen a few long distance relationships work out and far more fail, but there are a few here and there that do it right. A relationship doesn't have to be exclusively physical but it IS important to have, if possible. Even if it's only a few times a year.

They take a lot more work than a "regular" relationship but they can work out just find if both parties put in the effort to keep it going.

Please go read up on the pill. It is NOT a 100% foolproof contraceptive. It can get pretty damn close if you use the pill AND a condom but it's not perfect. If all you're concerned about it using it as a contraceptive, I'd suggest looking for a chick who's working with a more permanent birth control method (IUD, depo, etc.). ;) If you miss taking your daily BC pill by even a few hours it can offset your hormones enough to render you fertile again (for lack of wanting to explain further) and you wouldn't know until she calls you up and surprise, there's a baby on the way. :'(

Ugh, this is getting so off-topic but I really had to reply to that.

I know the chances are 0.01%
thats virtually nothing so I disregarded it. I also know that Condoms are about 5% chance (somehow)... Thats Why I will make sure my GF is on the pill... But I know there is always a SLIM chance

Chaval
August 26th, 2009, 01:40 PM
jesus people,are you all horny or what??

CW-Regret
August 26th, 2009, 01:43 PM
well honestly,i made this thread because i'm single and maybe there was someone here that may be interested....

anyways,people stick tot he thread...we are not talking about sex here ¬¬
Sorry OP, just try a long distance relationship yourself, but real relationships are 100x Better.

METHOD_REPLEKIA/.
August 26th, 2009, 01:44 PM
well honestly,i made this thread because i'm single and maybe there was someone here that may be interested....

anyways,people stick tot he thread...we are not talking about sex here ¬¬

Whoa whoa whoa, hold the phone, dig a hole, dig a hole *is shot for Ed Edd and Eddy Reference*
So, you're saying you made this thread to try and get a girlfriend. -_-

jesus people,are you all horny or what??
Oh my....

xxemeneminyxx
August 26th, 2009, 01:46 PM
im not asking anyone to change for me... But after a couple of weeks, I would strongly prefer the pill considering its a 0% chance of pregnancy

Sorry but I had to laugh. Where did you hear that?!?

Anyways, long distance can work for some people but for me personally I couldn't. I would hate not seeing them alot. It just wouldn't work for me. But if my bf had to move away and somehow I couldn't I would make it work.

Devil's Guitarist
August 26th, 2009, 01:49 PM
well,it really depends on the person,but for me they work perfectly!i love my girlfriend and i would never lie to her and i know she would never do that too...

about you....why not?maybe a girl sends you a PM...really! don't give up man!

Sublime
August 26th, 2009, 01:52 PM
Ah, I have a lot to say on this matter.

I used to be against long distance relationships in any way, shape and form. I used to think they would fail, no matter what. I just didn't see how people could live with their love being hundreds upon thousands of miles away. But, that's all changed now.

Over the course of the past few months, I've realized that it doesn't matter how far away you live from the one you love, as long as you love them. Believe me, it's just as good as a real life relationship, if not better. I'm in a long distance relationship right now and it's the best relationship I've ever been in, hands down.

So yea, if you really truly love someone, then distance shouldn't matter.

Kura
August 26th, 2009, 02:06 PM
I think with Distance relationships you seem to get -too- much alone time.. in the sense that you don't really know how you do interact with each other. You know?
You don't know if the guy or girl DOES get a bit too in your face.. or even what their scent is. It's not the fact that they smell or not.. but I mean their natural scent.

:/ And Shampoo.. if you're gonna be mini-modding, like I'm doing -right now- (YES!!!) then.. at least stay on topic :/

Too much of someone can be a lot.. but at the same time.. usually relationships do that.. because you meet someone new and it's exciting.. but later it dies down a bit. The key is to find out how much it dies down and if that attraction is still there.

Is this a Lust Vs Love debate? .. You decide :3

LEXAcide
August 26th, 2009, 02:10 PM
Sorry but I had to laugh. Where did you hear that?!?

Anyways, long distance can work for some people but for me personally I couldn't. I would hate not seeing them alot. It just wouldn't work for me. But if my bf had to move away and somehow I couldn't I would make it work.

you should read the thread thoroughly before posting ^_^

This is for LOL'z so dont get offended...
IMO, This represents Long Distance Relationships...
http://i809.photobucket.com/albums/zz14/LEXAcide/IMG_0270.png

Fox♠
August 26th, 2009, 02:35 PM
you should read the thread thoroughly before posting ^_^

This is for LOL'z so dont get offended...
IMO, This represents Long Distance Relationships...
http://i809.photobucket.com/albums/zz14/LEXAcide/IMG_0270.png

Wow not only are your relationship morals the stuff of Gods, but you are also oh so funny. I bet you're a real lady killer.

I can't really say I agree with being in an online relationship, it's not that I have anything against them , or don't think they can work, it's just I can't face that commitment and distance.

LEXAcide
August 26th, 2009, 02:45 PM
Wow not only are your relationship morals the stuff of Gods, but you are also oh so funny. I bet you're a real lady killer.

I can't really say I agree with being in an online relationship, it's not that I have anything against them , or don't think they can work, it's just I can't face that commitment and distance.

Just killin the time :cool:

Avey
August 26th, 2009, 02:49 PM
Wait, are we talking about online relationships or just long-distance relationships in general? Er... okay.

My views on online relationships are mixed because to be honest I still haven't decided what I think of them. Having been in one about a year and a half ago, I reckon they can work if there's enough willpower put into them. Unfortunately if you're doing it online, you can never truly be sure that you're talking to who you think you are until you meet up or are provided with definite proof. They can work so long as you're mature and you know what you're doing, but if your judgmental skills are bad then it'll fall apart.

Long-distance relationships can work so long as both of the people want each other enough. It's not a question of lack of sex, as someone has kindly disagreed with, because if you're in a long-distance relationship you need to want/love the person more than you want anything else. That's what it's about.

I don't like going off-topic and I know everyone else has already implied it but whatever. LEXAcide you need to think about what you're saying and try and get your priorities right. And as waka said, you best be trollin' kid, 'cause otherwise you need to fix some issues.

Amachi
August 26th, 2009, 03:06 PM
I personally feel that this thread has been ruined by several people. I apologise to all those who provided decent contributions, but I don't want to see it open any more.

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