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Umbreon_
May 6th, 2010, 01:17 AM
What do you think for the ones who don't take serious relationships? (a.k.a.boyfriends,girlfriends)

Discuss.

Katie_Q
May 6th, 2010, 02:25 AM
You mean when someone is with another just for fun, and wouldn't really care if they broke up. I think that's fine, if both people in the relationship agree and are fine with that. But if it's only one sided, and the other person thinks your serious (I don't even think I spelt that right), it's not ok.

curiousnathan
May 6th, 2010, 02:36 AM
I sorta agree, some of the pointless relationships that have undergone lately are ridiculous. In my opinion. Why waste your time, I dont want to condridict myself but considering that I have seen some good relationships, me not an expert myself though.

But, some disadvantaged kids need relationships to help them eiher 'fit in' or need special attention. An example; One of my friendshas no dad, but has a step dad which she hates, and he treats her terribly. She ggoes out with alot of boys just to recieve the make attention she wants that she did get from a caring,kind and generous loving dad. But I warn her though she is going to get hurt sooner or later but that need is to strong to simply control.

Guillermo
May 6th, 2010, 03:25 AM
You think someone is stupid because they don't want the same thing as you? Sorry, but I personally think that's stupid.

And all for them, I suppose. If someone doesn't want something, then I'd respect them a whole lot more if they just ended the relationship. Better than cheating.

Gary, the Magic Fairy
May 6th, 2010, 08:22 AM
You mean when someone is with another just for fun, and wouldn't really care if they broke up. I think that's fine, if both people in the relationship agree and are fine with that. But if it's only one sided, and the other person thinks your serious (I don't even think I spelt that right), it's not ok.This is what I think, pretty much. As long as the feelings are mutual, it doesn't matter how serious or strong those feelings are. As long as both know it's just for fun, then why not.
I sorta agree, some of the pointless relationships that have undergone lately are ridiculous. In my opinion. Why waste your time, I dont want to condridict myself but considering that I have seen some good relationships, me not an expert myself though.

But, some disadvantaged kids need relationships to help them eiher 'fit in' or need special attention. An example; One of my friendshas no dad, but has a step dad which she hates, and he treats her terribly. She ggoes out with alot of boys just to recieve the make attention she wants that she did get from a caring,kind and generous loving dad. But I warn her though she is going to get hurt sooner or later but that need is to strong to simply control.This psychoanalysis makes you sound really jealous. Just saying.

Yusshin
May 6th, 2010, 09:02 AM
To each their own.

I would personally never do that. A relationship should always be a serious commitment, and not a title or a way to get free, legit sex.

Rich Boy Rob
May 6th, 2010, 10:21 AM
You mean when someone is with another just for fun, and wouldn't really care if they broke up. I think that's fine, if both people in the relationship agree and are fine with that. But if it's only one sided, and the other person thinks your serious (I don't even think I spelt that right), it's not ok.

Pretty much this. If you both want a one night stand, great, have fun. If you both want a full on serious commitment, great I wish you both well.

Dakota
May 6th, 2010, 01:01 PM
Oops has two o's

I don't like it. =(

Your supposed to be spending time with the person of your dreams. To just be like "Eh, that's nice, when can I play COD?" is cold hearted, and will likely become into a dumping... which that guy/girl rightfully deserves.

Patchisou Yutohru
May 6th, 2010, 01:09 PM
Personally, one of the main reasons I avoided getting into relationships (apart from two I've been in) was because I felt like I wouldn't have been able to have a future with that person. I was talking to a psychologist about this when she came over to my house to talk to my dad about some things, since they're good friends it seems, she's trying to get some help for my brothers behavior problems. Anyway, I was explaining to her that if I can't see myself with that person, or can expect to see myself with that person all throughout and after high school, after everything that can happen, I don't want to start a relationship with them.

My first relationship was something that lasted a week. We slowly started to not talking each other. I didn't want to have that happen again and a lot of people I know just go into relationships for one of three reasons. One, of course, they actually care about the other person and can see something come out of it. Second, because they want to look cool by having a "boo" around their arms walking the halls with. Finally, because they're looking for fun and not a relationship. That's perfectly fine with me so long as I'm out of it.

I'm in a relationship somewhat right now with someone I can see something come out of. I actually dream we get married sometimes and she's always on my mind when I'm upset. A lot of our friends say that we're just like eachother because most of our friends know of the other person (ie: my friends know of her, her friends know of me). Sure it's a long distant relationship, but I'm sure something will come out of it.

I personally think I have a more mature outlook on relationships than other kids in my school that are my age. And that's pretty bad for those who are 18 years old. But like I said, it's their choice in what they want out of a relationship. I'm not one to say that people who aren't looking for a true relationship are in any wrong. As many others have stated, to each their own.

Throat
May 6th, 2010, 04:28 PM
You can always jump out the train (break up).
No one will walk over you without your permission, that's the most true cliché in the world applied to relationships.

Kura
May 6th, 2010, 04:51 PM
It's not for me, but others might have fun with it. If I'm gona have a relationship, I want one with MEANING to it. Otherwise I don't feel like I could trust the other person and it'd just be a waste of time.

Melody
May 6th, 2010, 05:55 PM
The way I see it is that it's not wrong to have relationships that are somewhat meaningless. As log as the both of you feel the same way about each other, it's just fine. I will say it's important in any kind of relationship, no matter where it lies on the scale of friendship/romance, to be honest about how you feel about each other.

With that being said, as far as romance goes, it is kinda wrong to lead someone on.

Despite that, It's perfectly ok to have one-night stands if you're not otherwise committed to another mate. (as in single and bored XD)

Forever
May 6th, 2010, 08:51 PM
With that being said, as far as romance goes, it is kinda wrong to lead someone on.

Kinda? So you're saying it's somewhat right? No, it should be completely wrong. Playing with peoples emotions, joking, toying around, pretending you like someone when you really don't, thinking it's just some big joke, that's bad. Backing away when you're asked how you feel and saying you might when you don't really, then disappearing randomly when you're confronted, still doing the same thing after the confrontations and returning...

Even pretending to care about people and be friends with them, when you aren't really, is wrong. People just end up thinking negatively, sucked back into the hole.. the cycle. Like some thrill seeker, or some psycho maniac. Making the person believe you were a good person, when you really aren't. It's just not right. Nobody should lead anyone on, even in friendships, but in this case, especially not romantically.

Also, the "you" isn't aimed at you, John. Just a "you" in general I guess.

Anyway, I was explaining to her that if I can't see myself with that person, or can expect to see myself with that person all throughout and after high school, after everything that can happen, I don't want to start a relationship with them.

^ Replace high school with Internet, then that's what I realised recently (as in like a month ago.)

TRIFORCE89
May 7th, 2010, 05:11 AM
It's not for me, but others might have fun with it. If I'm gona have a relationship, I want one with MEANING to it. Otherwise I don't feel like I could trust the other person and it'd just be a waste of time.
What she said. Exactly that.

I look for something meaningful (not necessarily permanent; different things), not just a fling. Doesn't mean something meaningful can't be fun though.

Alinthea
May 7th, 2010, 05:18 AM
Christ. How many relationship threads do you people want?!

I don't take relationships seriously. I am too young to do such a thing. Yes, you might not think 20 is young, but I don't want some stupid woman asking me where I am going, what I am doing and having to include her all the time in my activities.
I want to enjoy my life before I settle down with someone who will make my life miserable.

RuRuBell
May 7th, 2010, 08:03 AM
I don't think I could personally be able to do it. Neither would I be able to toy with someone who likes me, nor would I want him to do that to me. I'd want to be in a relationship that I can actually see going somewhere...
Though I guess no one's a mind reader, eh? :S

But that being said, if other people like it, why not? They're dooing whatever makes them happy. As long as they don't hurt other people in the process, it's okay.

Reginaldvonburger
May 7th, 2010, 10:48 PM
I used to be in a relationship with a guy where I fell in love with him, and he wouldn't even care if I died. He asked me to have sex with him, I said no, he said "I love you. Can we have sex now?", I obviously said no, then he dumped me at Christmas and broke my heart.
*Sings that song that goes "Last year I gave you my heart, but you just gave it away"*
So, I'm not a fan of flings. I think they do more harm than good.
Right now, I'm in a very serious relationship with the love of my life. And neither of us want it any other way.

The Kidd
May 7th, 2010, 11:25 PM
To each their own.

I would personally never do that. A relationship should always be a serious commitment, and not a title or a way to get free, legit sex.

Wow...I didn't know that by just being in a relationship for fun, I am inclined to have sex. People can be in a "non-serious" relationship just to hang out, someone they can have fun with, laugh and cry to. Not necessarily doing bad things.

When you're a teen, you don't expect it to end up being in a long term thing. If that one person you're with happens to be the one for you...your soul-mate, true love...whatever... then good for you. Go get a cookie.
If not, it was a nice run. You just have to suck it up and move on to the next person... there isn't enough time in the world to just lay in bed moping around. Think of it as a new experience gained.


My point is a relationship doesn't have to be a serious commitment. I don't mean they can go cheat or something. Think of it like 500 Days of Summer (<3 crazy awesome movie)

livelyhans
May 7th, 2010, 11:32 PM
if we make a relationship we must take it seriously because we deal a commitment..
don't rush your couple to be yours.. just let the couple feel pleasure when he/she with you.. :t334: ugh.. i think i fall in love with my crush again...:embarrass :embarrass

so love your crush i mean love your couple... don't rush ur couple to be yours.. slow but sure..and u'll have the best relationship ever..^^ :t124:(muachh.. kiss from jynx..lol)

Rich Boy Rob
May 7th, 2010, 11:52 PM
if we make a relationship we must take it seriously because we deal a commitment..
don't rush your couple to be yours.. just let the couple feel pleasure when he/she with you.. :t334: ugh.. i think i fall in love with my crush again...:embarrass :embarrass

so love your crush i mean love your couple... don't rush ur couple to be yours.. slow but sure..and u'll have the best relationship ever..^^ :t124:(muachh.. kiss from jynx..lol)

Bolded are the lines I actually understood of that statement.

Forever
May 8th, 2010, 12:01 AM
Um, I'll try and explain it.

"if we make a relationship we must take it seriously because we deal a commitment.."
we = him (person a) & his crush (person b)

"don't rush your couple to be yours.. just let the couple feel pleasure when he/she with you.. ugh.. i think i fall in love with my crush "
Don't go out of your way to make person b want you, just let person b feel happy when they're with you. Person a may be falling in love with person b.

"so love your crush i mean love your couple... don't rush ur couple to be yours.. slow but sure..and u'll have the best relationship ever..^^"
Love who you're with, don't go out of your way to make person b want you, go it slow and you'll have a good relationship.

I think.

Bluerang1
May 8th, 2010, 01:54 AM
Oops has two o's

I don't like it. =(

Your supposed to be spending time with the person of your dreams. To just be like "Eh, that's nice, when can I play COD?" is cold hearted, and will likely become into a dumping... which that guy/girl rightfully deserves.

I agree with everything on here xD

Anyway, if it's meaningless, it's not really a "relationship" then, is it? I've never heard of those until this thread :o

curiousnathan
May 8th, 2010, 02:36 AM
This psychoanalysis makes you sound really jealous. Just saying.
Oh really? Oops I didn't mean to sound jealous. I just feel sorry for her, that's all.
And by the way, I am a boy. So why would I be jealous? Haha. :)

Alinthea
May 8th, 2010, 03:27 AM
if we make a relationship we must take it seriously because we deal a commitment..
don't rush your couple to be yours.. just let the couple feel pleasure when he/she with you.. :t334: ugh.. i think i fall in love with my crush again...:embarrass :embarrass

so love your crush i mean love your couple... don't rush ur couple to be yours.. slow but sure..and u'll have the best relationship ever..^^ :t124:(muachh.. kiss from jynx..lol)

Dude. Proof read, seriously.

Zorua
May 9th, 2010, 10:41 AM
I've learned that no matter what relationship you're in, you have to take it seriously for the sake of you and the other person that you're with.

When one thinks of the world "relationships" they probably think of something high-school-esque of some sort, and most people perceive High school relationships to be a waste of time, but...when you think about it, and view it from the opposite side, relationships could mean something. .__.;

...That's probably irrelevant to the current topic, but that's just my little 2 cents and whatnot.

All I can say on the subject is that it's good to take relationships seriously, but not strictly I guess? Being a little lax is also pretty good. From what I've seen, relationships have ended badly with either side being too strict and taking the relationship a bit too seriously. >.<;

Reginaldvonburger
May 10th, 2010, 01:15 AM
I hate it when people say high school relationships never work (like, when you're between 13-18), because yeah, they do. More often than you'd think. My parents started dating when my dad was 16 and my mum was 17, my aunt had her first daughter when she was like, 16, and is still with her husband etc.

Age doesn't play any sort of part in relationships or having children. It's maturity that does. If you're not mature enough to be in a REAL relationship, don't be in one. If you're only mature enough to have those little one or two week relationships that just involve holding hands and barely any other physical contact, and where you barely know ANYTHING about the other, then simply don't get yourself into a relationship, because how do you know if the other person has stronger feelings for you, than you do for them?

Alinthea
May 10th, 2010, 01:35 AM
I hate it when people say high school relationships never work (like, when you're between 13-18), because yeah, they do. More often than you'd think. My parents started dating when my dad was 16 and my mum was 17, my aunt had her first daughter when she was like, 16, and is still with her husband etc.

Times have changed.
People have changed.
Attitudes have changed.

Reginaldvonburger
May 10th, 2010, 02:04 AM
Times have changed? Surely nowadays young people in relationships should be more well recognized seeing as marriages are happening at younger ages.

Guillermo
May 10th, 2010, 02:10 AM
Really, don't see what's wrong with flings if both people agree to it. If one person disagrees, then I'm totally against it. Committed relationships are good, but at the same time you need breathing space. You just need to be able to handle it before you jump in.

rickyisgreat
May 19th, 2010, 07:38 PM
I hate it when somebody is with someone and doesn't even care about the person even though he/she really really likes him/her. this happened to me... :( "sigh"

Evee dude86
May 19th, 2010, 09:06 PM
Well I'm on my grown man **** so I'm all bout serious relationships now, that 2 me IS fun, real, etc.