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BareBones
September 22nd, 2011, 11:22 AM
After reading the ♀Gender Game♂ (http://www.pokecommunity.com/showthread.php?t=250654) on the trivia section of the forums I got curious about something.

I know some people who get very, very offended about being called the wrong gender, and at the same time I know some people who don't care much about it. So my questions to you are;

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?

Jak
September 22nd, 2011, 11:28 AM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
No, because different people think I'm a different gender. I usually just tell people to call me whatever they feel comfortable with. So if you think I'm a girl, then okay, call me a girl. If you think I'm a boy, then okay, call me a boy. Simple as that.

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
While my gender in person is quite clear and obvious, I really don't care if I'm called he or she. I used to, back when I didn't look my gender so it wasn't very obvious, but I don't know...to be honest, I am comfortable being called either or. However, if I had a significant other that was calling me the opposite of what I am, I would probably be offended. It's different with someone special, you know?

This in mind though, I don't really have any gender identity issues or anything. It's just not something that bothers me.

Arago
September 22nd, 2011, 11:30 AM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you? no. i actually find it amusing!
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you? only over the phone, but i can understand why people mistake me for a woman. when i talk over the phone, i tend to have this overly polite tone that you would expect from a grandmother. that's really the only time someone confuses my gender. if someone thinks i'm a girl otherwise then they need their eyes checked, i'd say!

Raizhu
September 22nd, 2011, 11:33 AM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
It annoys me a lot. I've been mistaken for a boy several times, once by somebody who'd already known me for a while.
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
That I hate. When I was about seven or so, my haircut often led people to believe I was a boy. It doesn't happen anymore, thankfully.

BareBones
September 22nd, 2011, 11:38 AM
Oops, looks like I forgot to add my own answers! That was awfully silly of me.

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
Not at all. I find it quite funny when people do. I have no issue if people would rather call me male or female.

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
Again, not really. It happens quite often - I'm rather androgynous in both appearance and attitude. It used to bother me, when people first started to call me the wrong gender, but now I'm quite used to it.

Kevin
September 22nd, 2011, 12:07 PM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
Meh, it's not like real life so I don't care.

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
Psh yeah. I look too masculine to look like a female... unless they were blind. But yeah my voice is deep also so there's no reason they should think I'm a girl...

Truality
September 22nd, 2011, 12:08 PM
>If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
Νah, I guess I'd be fine. It never happened, though-or at least nobody told me that, so I guess I haven't experienced it either.

>If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
One has to be too short-sighted to mistake me for a girl. Therefore, it never happened in real life, either, but I guess if it did I'd be a little bothered. I'd probably tell them "u mad" or something.

Kenshin5
September 22nd, 2011, 12:31 PM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
No because I don't tend to act overly feminine in my posting. Nor to I ever change my gender to confuse people.

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
No, I really don't really have female or much female qualities about me. I think I have only been mistaken for a girl once and that was either at the end of last year or earlier this year when an old lady sad miss you dropped something cause I had long hair for my standards and apparently hers as well. So I just smiled and said "Thanks but I am a guy *chuckle*".

Violet Rose
September 22nd, 2011, 12:48 PM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
Nope, it'll be hard for someone to think i'm a guy
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
Of course! But that would probably be a joke :)

Inkpuddle
September 22nd, 2011, 01:01 PM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
Not at all. A username and an avatar is very little to go on when determining gender over the Internet. I just correct them and laugh it off.

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
It used to. It's only happened to me once, and that was because I was calling out to someone from behind a bus seat. My voice is neither deep nor annoyingly high-pitched, so I could see how someone might not recognize my gender right away. These days I wouldn't be bothered by it; I would only suggest that whoever makes such a mistake face-to-face should get their eyes checked, because visually I'm pretty damn feminine.

JakeyBoy
September 22nd, 2011, 01:05 PM
I hate it when people think I am a dude. What's the deal with that? Am I subtly giving off the wrong impression somewhere?

Saryka
September 22nd, 2011, 01:09 PM
Online, not at all. I'd find it kind of funny, actually. Offline, I would be offended, yeah. I like to think that I'm pretty obviously female and anyone who thinks otherwise clearly needs their eyes checked or something. XD It's never actually happened to me before, nor is it something I worry about anyway.

Liam Crawford
September 22nd, 2011, 01:10 PM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
My username rules out that possibility, but if it actually happens, I don't care and I will correct them.

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
Again that possibility tends to null, seeing as I actually have the qualities and features of an actual man. Nothing in my appearance, behavior or voice may lead someone to believe otherwise.

QuilavaKing
September 22nd, 2011, 01:25 PM
I can't imagine how anybody could possibly confuse my gender irl, so I'd probably just laugh at them for being blind. lol

Online, It'd still be pretty tough to confuse me with a girl, but I guess if someone didn't know me, and heard me talking about a guy or something, they might assume I was a girl.

(Sorry I did them backwards. lol)

Snow Phoenix
September 22nd, 2011, 02:07 PM
Either way... I wouldn't care xD But, no one has mistaken my gender anyways :P

-Jared-
September 22nd, 2011, 02:44 PM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
Nah, in fact, I would laugh hysterically at it. XD Partially because I constantly misinterpret people's genders, so it would be funny to have it happen to me. ^__^

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
I don't see how someone could...so if someone did, I would probably laugh it off, again. ^__^ Either that or think someone needed their eyes checked...>__>

TornZero
September 22nd, 2011, 03:08 PM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
It doesn't bother me; it's the internet, and I laugh about it.

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
It's not difficult to confuse me with being a girl. I actually enjoy it some, one reason being that I don't aim to look masculine. Heck, I'd sometimes confuse myself if it weren't for my clothes and third leg.

Pokemon Trainer Touko
September 22nd, 2011, 03:14 PM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
Yes o.o I'm nothing like a guy, my username + avatar are so girly and my profile is really girly too :/

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
It is almost IMPOSSIBLE to mistake my gender offline as my voice is quite high pitched and sound nothing like a guy's and I look nothing like a guy @_@ But yeah, if someone ever called me a guy I'd probably skin them alive and break their arm or something like that.

Anna
September 22nd, 2011, 03:15 PM
Online? It used to bother me a lot when I was younger. Now it just amuses me cause I'm very so obviously female that I can't quite fathom how they came to think of me as male.

Offline? If it ever happened I think it would bother me, because again- so very obviously female. But the reason it would bother me offline is that offline we are judged more on physical appearance than attitude and behaviour, and if you're thinking I'm a boy... gosh you must be like... blind. I dunno, it's almost offensive to me that you would call me male. I revel in my blatant femininity.

Akarui
September 22nd, 2011, 03:25 PM
Honestly I don't mind if someone mistakes my gender as a female online. I like to think of myself as both male and female anyways. In real life, well I tend to come off as more of a guy though so I would be more surprised if I were to mistaken for a female. I mean one time since I had my hoodie on I was mistaken for a girl, not like I cared to be honest. xD

Mariah Carey
September 22nd, 2011, 10:21 PM
I get mistaken for being female all the time when I'm online, mostly because they haven't heard my voice or seen my pictures. It doesn't annoy me, I can understand why they'd think that. But if I ever got mistaken for being a female offline... I don't know.
http://i.imgur.com/GGYdi.png

Alley Cat
September 22nd, 2011, 10:26 PM
I would not get bothered online, and it would not happen in person. So no, I wouldn't be. It'd be just plain silly too, just a misunderstanding. Who decides what boys and girls look like anyway? If I want to wear make-up and skirts, then hell, that's what I'll wear. & If a girl wants to shave her head bald, put on some combat boots, some army cargo pants, a t-shirt, then by all means, let her. In a perfect society, gender would be meaningless in everything bar reproduction. But actually, with science headed where it is, in a few decades, who knows, we might not even need to use the egg of the female or the male of the sperm. I mean, we can already create stable conditions in which they can develop.

Kyoko
September 22nd, 2011, 10:49 PM
I would never have an issue with it, but it's never been an issue to begin with. I guess my utter girliness shows through even online. But if someone thought I was a guy online, I wouldn't be offended in the slightest....though irl it would be pretty hard to mess it up.

Hiidoran
September 22nd, 2011, 10:55 PM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
No, not really. I've only ever been mistaken for the opposite gender online when I was actively trying to confuse people by switching my gender to female... so that's understandable.

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you? That bothers me a little more - especially over the phone. For some reason, I've adopted this soft, effeminate-sounding voice when trying to be polite. This happens pretty often at work where I'm constantly answering phones and I get called "miss" by a lot of the elderly patients. When I was younger this kinda thing used to make me pretty upset, but now I just kinda chuckle. Sometimes I even go along with it these days... Heck, if we get a customer complaint they'll never be able to trace it back to me! I'm a boy, and they called me "miss." ;D

~VladKun~
September 22nd, 2011, 11:49 PM
Online, no, it's just a simple mistake.

Offline however, then it's a problem, since I don't like being mistaken for a girl JUST BECAUSE most of my friends are girls in real life and I sorta look and sometimes wish I was a girl DOES NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCESmean that I am indeed a girl

Gold warehouse
September 22nd, 2011, 11:51 PM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
Nope, I usually go along with it, with ~hilarious results~. Makes for good stories to tell.

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
Never happened, don't think it ever will.

PlatinumDude
September 23rd, 2011, 12:53 AM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?: Yes, it definitely would, considering my username is clearly masculine.
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?: Same as above. I clearly look like a guy.

Briar
September 23rd, 2011, 01:03 AM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
just a little bit, to both.
people usually mistake my gender online because of the way i talk. to be honest, i had no idea i talked like a boy online. really.
as for offline, sadly, i've already been mistaken for a boy thrice. thrice, by a saleslady, two waiters, and a waitress. honestly, i'm not bothered by that so much, it just gets embarrassing when i'm with my friends, and some waitress/waiter goes to our table to get our orders, and s/he incidentally calls me a "sir."

miju-kun
September 23rd, 2011, 02:52 AM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
It's actually quite funny. I don't know why.

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
I look nothing like my opposite gender. If someone mistakes me in real life I'm going to kick them.

Elite Overlord LeSabre™
September 23rd, 2011, 06:55 AM
Online, it doesn't bother me. After all, with all my signatures featuring girly colors and fonts and cute anime girls such as Leaf, my own character Lisa, and various Pretty Cures, it would be easy to mistake me for a female... especially since I don't reveal my IRL name on the site and even that can be a name for both genders. Actually, I find it kinda funny when I'm mistaken for female and sometimes I forget to reveal my true gender. For years I had a lot of people fooled, and I kinda liked it xD And yes, the fact that I have an original trainer character (Lisa) who's a female also adds to my mystique :P

It doesn't bother me IRL, but it doesn't come up often either... only occasionally over the phone. By looking at me it's painfully obvious, lol.

Galukxy
September 23rd, 2011, 07:31 AM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
It doesn't annoy me much. I just find it amusing.
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
Yes, it does bother me because I'll start to think, how on earth do I look like a Boy? and how can they think that of me? especially through my nature and how I currently look. So, basically I would be quite disgusted if I was to be mistaken for a Male. :<

Esper
September 23rd, 2011, 07:57 AM
If it happens online, well, that's just what happens online and I don't feel bothered by it. Unless of course I've told you directly and then obviously it's annoying.

In the real world... ugh. I've gotten used to being called both a girl and a guy that I just can't be bothered to care anymore. The only thing that still gets to me is when someone is clearly hesitating while they think about what they're going to say. That makes it suddenly into something way bigger than it needed to be and makes things awkward.

Mew~
September 23rd, 2011, 08:15 AM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
Me? Na, not really. As long as it's obvious I could see where the problem would be. Though, it's a little awkward for me when someones gender on PC is set to a certain gender, and then I mention them and a little later someone tells me, oh that he is a she.

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
I don't see how they could.

Sora
September 23rd, 2011, 08:38 AM
Online: Nah. I find it amusing. My username is pretty feminine, so it just makes it even more amusing when people get my gender wrong. Buuut, they do from time to time. That, or they just feel like saying 'he'.

Offline: I wouldn't be able to understand how people would think I'm male when I look so obviously female. Can't say I dress female because I male wear clothes from time to time, buuut I am definitely female. I think they would have to be blind for them to not notice I'm female. Over the phone is the same thing. There's a higher chance of me being mistaken for my mom than for being a male.

Sammi
September 23rd, 2011, 12:24 PM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
Nope. If you haven't seen pictures of me and don't have gender set on the sidebar (or just plain don't notice it), I can see people mistaking me for male. But then I get a little boggled because my gender is set as female. I mean sure it's easy to miss but at the same time it's not like I hide it. :s

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
Depends on where it is. If it's at work, no way. I'm just a big black blob with my apron on, and my hair is super short. If it weren't for my high-pitched voice I'm sure more would be confused. If I'm in jeans and a shirt (especially a shirt that shows cleavage)... then I'll get boggled, but not really offended.

Kelp
September 23rd, 2011, 12:30 PM
If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender online, does it bother you?
Not really. A lot of people have the misconception that there are no girls on the internet for whatever reason, so it's quite common to be called a guy if you don't clarify. x)

If someone mistakes you for the wrong gender offline, does it bother you?
Well it's never happened, but I still don't think it'd bother me. I'd think it was quite funny.

Centiflora X
September 23rd, 2011, 07:23 PM
It does not matter to me what gender is used to describe me, offline, online, or in between...