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shenanigans
September 25th, 2011, 04:28 AM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them? If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?

Patatas Fritas
September 25th, 2011, 04:47 AM
I think if you have lots of friends you're popular... Obviously...

No, I'm not more likely to talk to a popular person mainly because most popular people I know are ridiculously unpleasant people who I'd rather not associate myself with. Generally the more popular people are (In their, and their groups eyes) pretty. I tend not to agree. However I also noticed none of them even like each other, the amount of times I hear them talking about another person negatively...

I'd call myself popular, I have a large circle of friends (I'm only close to a few of them though) and I generally tend to get on with most people and am happy enough to have a conversation with someone - Even if I don't like them much I'm civil at the very least. I'm not at all envious of popular people though because it doesn't bother me how many friends I have well it does just not a lot - I'm happy with the amount of friends I have and if being popular means everyone pretends to like you and you don't really have any real then I'd rather stay as I am. I called myself popular though.. But I'm the good type of popular because I'm not really two faced and stuff and actually care about my friends.

Hybrid Trainer
September 25th, 2011, 05:33 AM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them?
Well i don't think it says much really but when people start saying they have 40-50 "close" friends i think if they have some sort of commitment problem.

If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
I'd don't necessarily avoid them, but i prefer to talk to people who aren't as popular.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
Well back in school the trend with being a popular guy was sleeping with everything that moved and didn't have a Y chromosome and the trend for being a girl was being unhealthily thin, wearing makeup so you looked like a walking tangerine and getting a tattoo on your wrist.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
Envy? Not at all. Like I said I prefer being friends with less popular people but that doesn't mean I dislike popular people. To me their just there.

Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
I've never considered myself popular. I usually just blend in with the background.

Truality
September 25th, 2011, 05:57 AM
>What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them?
I guess there are two cases here: that person is either too chasey or has a nice vibe that attracts other people.

>If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
I don't talk to people based on their popularity or amount of friends, I talk to them due to event occurrences. I also wouldn't discriminate the popularity fact because having a friend that is/or isn't popular has it's own ups and downs.

>Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
I nominate trends as the frontlines of fashion. One's personality is involved on whether they accept trends or not.

>Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
Envy, no, but I'm curious as to how do they feel, being popular and all.

>Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
I'm the exact opposite of popular, both online and offline. Getting others' attention has never been something I wanted to go after, even though I tried several times, out of curiosity-and I failed miserably. (being honest, right?) Sometimes I like that people don't come to me, and some other times I just feel lonely. So I guess it's balanced.

BareBones
September 25th, 2011, 06:00 AM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them?
I think it says very little. It has been made clear that to become popular you must please the masses - that doesn't mean you're a nice person.

If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
Popularity is not a contributing factor when I search for friends.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
In my old school I noted that the trend for males was; playing Call of Duty, smoking marijuana, skipping lessons and causing fights.
And the trend I noted in females was; Being moderately attractive at least, having intercourse, skipping lessons and smoking marijuana.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
No.

How popular do you consider yourself?
Moderately popular. I have a few close friends, five or so, and some people I can have casual conversation with but wouldn't consider them to be close to me.

TwilightBlade
September 25th, 2011, 06:31 AM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them?
@Facebook: Person genuinely knows 1/8th of their friends list. ^__^
@Forums: I don't judge a person by their amount of friends. I know some fantastic members with a friends list of 16, 40, and 200 members. I have befriended members where I was a part of their first handful of friends here.

If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
I look for common interests when I want to talk to someone. I hardly consider someone's popularity.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
Yeah, usually the attractive people are most popular at school. However, personality does play a role in who maintains popularity. I've met beautiful, nice, and sweet girls before. I've met handsome, funny, and understanding guys before. I look at the popular people from afar so maybe they just act this way in class nahhh! I went to middle school with the most popular girl in high school. She was sweet even before the attention.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
I don't envy their position. They're under a lot of pressure to be ~perfect~ (until they eventually realize that being a bit less than perfect is highly attractive). ;P

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
Although I have wayyy too many friends here, I don't consider myself popular. There's just tons of crowds I'm not in. I'm not that much of a social butterfly. I mostly stick to the same group of people.

Kevin
September 25th, 2011, 05:36 PM
I actually tend to chat with people with less people on their friendlist, because to be honest I dunno, I feel like popular people have enough friends so I don't bother talking to them. That's just me though... But I usually pass by people's friendlists.

As for myself... I wouldn't call myself crazy popular, but I hope people don't think I'm a nobody who lurks the forums...

Melody
September 25th, 2011, 06:05 PM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them?
Very little. The number of friends a person has, actually has little to do with what they're actually like. Sometimes a person with the most friends can be the worst person you ever met, and at times the guy with few friends turns out to be the one who would actually care the most and be the coolest of them all.

If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
Popularity isn't important to me. So I pay absolutely no attention to it.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
The sheep which follows the flock leader the closest tends to have the most friends. That doesn't say much about their personality at all.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
I don't envy them. I pity them sometimes. Being popular sucks, because you lose yourself in the wave. I've known this since I was a child.

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
Moderate. Dead center to be exact. Not high or low, because there are just as many people who hate me for being who I am as there are people who admire me for being myself and not much more. Do I care? Not really. I do what I can not to be a complete jerk but, I'm not out to please the masses. I do what I want. Nothing can change that.

Kura
September 25th, 2011, 06:38 PM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them?
Not much.. it may say that someone is more sociable.. it may say that someone is more reserved or conservative. I think they type of friends someone has speaks much louder than the amount.

If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
Doesn't matter to me. I'd hate to judge someone from what others think of them :/ so why would I? I rather get to know them personally.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
Someone more popular is also obviously assertive- either because of the confidence that many friends may give them or they may take that assertiveness to take the initiative to make their circle of friends larger. Sometimes I believe that those who are popular either don't notice that they are.. or are complete attention seekers.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
Not at all. They're like any other person to me. The attention-seekers I do feel sorry for, though.. as I feel like they need to sacrifice their integrity and are obviously lacking something in their personal lives..

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
Not popular at all. I wouldn't want to be either.. I really dislike people knowing my day-to-day business.. I'm a pretty private person.

PlatinumDude
September 26th, 2011, 03:30 AM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them?
The number of friends a person has shows how well their social skills have developed over the years.

If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
I'd rather take my chances of talking to a more popular person.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
I see personality and looks as factors for a person's popularity.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't.

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
Not really, particularly because I like spending time by myself.

Impo
September 26th, 2011, 04:45 AM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them? If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?

I'm not quite sure where I stand on this question - for one I don't really consider who they're friends with when I make friends. If they seem nice, I be nice back, and a friendship is usually the end result of that.
But I'd be friends with either, it's just that I wouldn't expect to be close friends with the more popular person, as they would have many more friends than just I.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?

I think popularity is a mix of the above. Someone with good looks will probably be popular, but a nice personality is attractive to. It's a delicate equation, popularity.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?

Not really. I don't see any reason to be envious, I have my group of friends, and we all get along fine.

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?

OH dear god, I'm not popular at all. I mean, I could probably talk to whoever and make a solid friendship, but to do that and become popular I would need to change who I am. I've already told myself I'd never be someone else to gain attention. Besides, who I am now is fairly... "rowdy", shall we say? I'm always in fits of laughter with my friends, because I feel safe with them. I do stupid things, and create good memories. If I was popular I'd be too scared to step a toe out of line. But most importantly, I enjoy it.

Esper
September 26th, 2011, 07:59 AM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them?
Eh, probably it just says that they care about having a lot of friends and make a bigger effort when it comes to keeping in touch with a lot of people. Probably they enjoy knowing lots of people.

If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
Neither, really. It would depend more on what circles they ran in, what their interests were, etc., etc. I mean, if they're popular because they're just an awesome person all around then, yeah, I guess I'd want to be friends with them, but not because they're popular, but why they're popular.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
I think popularity is mostly about personality or someone being well-respected for something. Good looks probably help someone be popular if they already are a little bit, but they alone won't make you too popular, I don't think.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
Maybe I envy their confidence or their social skills. Whatever makes it easy for them to talk to lots of people and do it naturally.

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
My perception of these things is never right so I really have no idea. Normally I wouldn't think I was at all, but then something might happen or someone might say something to make me think otherwise and I start thinking I might be only for something else to come up which turns those thoughts around.

Oryx
September 26th, 2011, 08:15 AM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them?
It depends on where they are. On Facebook, I tend to look down on it because I know that the person must just add anyone no matter what, making their profile very insecure, which is something I'm big about on Facebook, lol. In real life if I see someone talks to a lot of people, I think there must be some kind of spark about them, but I also worry about being friends with them because I feel that they can't give our friendship the kind of time that it deserves, which I've felt before with popular people.

If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
I kinda answered this above. I wouldn't avoid a popular person but I wouldn't go out of my way to be friends with them like I would someone less popular. For example, I'd be more likely to assume they're busy if I want to invite someone somewhere because they're so popular.
Online, I really don't care. I'll make note of the friends list but I don't care enough about it to have it affect my relationship with them.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
It really depends! I remember two people in my high school, average looking, completely nerdy, one of them is now a sophomore in college and has still never kissed a girl. But they were two of the most popular guys in school, everyone loved them, from the freshmen to the administration. It didn't have to do with their looks or anything like that, they were just genuinely really good people.
I've seen a lot of the good side of popularity as well, popular girls having not-so-pretty girls as best friends, etc.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
I don't really envy them their popularity, but I do envy them their social skills. That's a skill that I have yet to master, and popular people were born talented in that skill.

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
I wouldn't say I'm popular in real life. I have my boyfriend, and I have plenty of people that I would say hi to on campus, and I have a few really close friends. I don't have a huge circle of 'friends'.

Gold warehouse
September 26th, 2011, 08:34 AM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them? If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
I really don't care, it's not something I ever take into account, with people, media, or just anything...

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
Personality, at least here, it's most important.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
Nah, if anything it doesn't seem good at all. I have a friend that's really popular and she's constantly having to run around seeing people all the time because she's too nice to tell someone she doesn't want to meet up, even when she'd rather stay at home.

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
not very

Mew~
September 26th, 2011, 08:46 AM
Well, it depends for me. If they're popular for a good reason, I'm more inclined to want to talk to them, but if it's for something stupid, I'm just not the sort of person to follow any sort of crowd. I wouldn't mind being friends with a less popular person, I think of myself as not so popular anyway, though that doesn't mean I don't have a load of friends, I have great friends, but I guess if it's someone who seems not to have many, I'd try to talk to them.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
That's an interesting question. To say the least, it's quite gender divided in my opinion. The annoying good looking girls in my school are more or less more popular, but when it comes to boys, I guess it's more enclinded on personality. idk.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
Well, I'd need reason to for a starter. I'd envy them if they did some I quite liked, but like I said before, I don't follow crowds.

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
I don't find myself being that popular at all to be quite honest. Expanding a little on the first question, I don't popularity has anything to do with the amount of friends you have, I have loads of great friends.

Patchisou Yutohru
September 26th, 2011, 09:12 AM
quality of quantity. anyone who says otherwise, i immediately deem immature, foolish, and naive. i'm not concerned with how many friends someone has, or how many friends i have myself. i don't consider myself to be popular, and i'm not interested in becoming popular. i'd be happy with a few really close friends than 40+ not-so-close friends that i suspect aren't very real or worthy of being a friend.

in my high school, cliques played a part in popularity and they always seemed to play part in what someone did. people who did drama were set to one clique, people who did football were another, etc. with very rare exceptions and a few people who did more than one activity and wavered from clique to clique or didn't belong to a clique at all (i was part of this group, but i spent a large portion of my time involved in the fine arts, so i group myself with them if i must). it wasn't so much as being popular as so much as doing the most popular thing at the school. at some schools, the drama clique has the power, where-as in others, the sports clique had it.

Yoshikko
September 26th, 2011, 09:24 AM
Edit - I can't agree more on what Patchisou said, @ quality over quantity.

What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them?
I don't really think much of it, it depends on what kind of person they are really. I don't really value the amount of friends someone has, let's say they have like 30 friends which are just like okay friends, to me that's not worth as much as having just 2 amazingly close friends. But like I said, it depends on the person. I don't like it when people judge others on the amount of friends they have also.

If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
Like I said before, I really don't care about amount, that goes for someone having very few friends as well. I don't like it when people show off that they have like 40 friends though, I'd much rather hang out with someone that has 3 in that case.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
I'm not sure if I understand the question well, but I'll try. In my elementary school, popularity was based on looks and how rich you were, the brands you wore and even as far as the colour of your hair - most of the time it was blond or a very light brown. I dressed alternative and was judged on that, etc we know the drill. I went to highschool with the mindset that popularity was solely based on the exterior, and in the first few years, it seemed that that was right. But lately, I've noticed that as we grew older, exterior really doesn't matter anymore. One of my good friends dresses alternative as well, but she is very popular because she is a nice girl and she is fun to hang out with, and I noticed the same thing with other people as well, I think that as people grow older, it doesn't depend on exterior as much anymore as it did before.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
I have a certain .. grudge? Not exactly a grudge, a little less harsh, but like, I don't like the concept 'popularity'. I was bullied very bad in elementary school, by all the popular kids, etc, and I'm sure that caused it. There is a girl in my class for example, and I don't like her, only for the fact that she is popular and shows it off, and because she resembles a girl that used to bully me, in that sense. I know it's wrong to dislike someone for that, but that's how it is.

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
I don't, but I am not unpopular either. I think I have a very solid position in the class, because I am one of the people that was there from the first year straight, and there are only 4 or 5 people like that in our class, and I think that means a lot. You could say that we are the 'veterans' of the class lol, and that is a certain status that is not necessarily popular, but very solid. If that makes sense.

Ayselipera
September 27th, 2011, 07:10 AM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them? If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
I honestly never take the amount of friends someone has into account.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
Definitely personalities.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
NO.

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
I used to be very popular and at first I thought it was great, but I came to realize to be popular you have to have the right personality for it. Which is the kind that likes going out regularly with multiple people doing all kinds of things even if you don't enjoy half of them. Which I hate to be boring as hell, but I really like my alone time and I have to be in the mood to want to do certain things with certain people. For a while though I felt bad saying no, so I went to everything and I just hated it. I never had time to myself, I didn't like half the people and almost everyone complained about each other or what we did, but came out anyway because they hated being alone. I just remember one day I was like, "okay this is dumb I'm not even enjoying myself this isn't worth it at all." So I just stopped saying yes to everyone and began doing what I really wanted. At first I remember my main group of friends were actually mad at me and some of them even stopped talking to me for a while, but eventually they got over it.

So I don't feel very popular anymore although I've been told I now fit into the category of "very well known and very well liked, but no one bothers you because they know you'll say no." Which okay that's fine. Why I'm even liked I have no idea because I'm quite vocal on how much I don't like anyone there and I drive angrily throughout the school parking lot hoping to hit people, but apparently, "THAT'S JUST MALLORY LOLGOGGJDLFJSOAFA1@!!!"

Die.

Briar
September 27th, 2011, 07:40 AM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them?
i think it means that they're likeable people. or, at least, likeable on the surface. as for me wanting to befriend a "popular" person, it depends on if s/he befriends only certain types of people. if that's the case, i'd rather not be in his/her group of friends, as i'm more of a person who'd rather be friends with different varieties of people.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
i really think it's more to do with personalities. at least, that's what i got from experiencing high school in an all-girls school. sure, pretty/athletic/talented girls have a reputation and people can talk constantly about how good they are, but that doesn't automatically grant them a lot of friends. it just grants them a lot of attention.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
they're okay. i've actually been friends with "popular" girls before and they were alright, personality-wise.

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
hnnh, it depends. currently, i'm in college, and it seems like no one really cares about a person's reputation. additionally, it's a big place, so word about you can rarely get around (except in your class or in your circle of friends).
in high school, however, i can't say i was "popular", since it's not like a lot of people actually approached me and wanted to befriend me, but a lot of people did know me and i had a pretty good reputation.

Freddy Fazbear
September 27th, 2011, 04:09 PM
Popular kids @ my school tend to be loud and obnoxious. I am a quiet, reserved kind of guy, so I tend to see popular kids as my stark opposite. I do have popular friends, however, but I never trust a word they say. For some reason, most popular kids like drama. I, for one, can't stand drama. Unless it's Total Drama. But that's totally different. As for my own popularity level, I'd say I'm about average. I do have 20+ friends, but none of them are close to me. So I'm not unpopular. I think it's the hair. Still not popular, though. And I don't wanna be.

aruchan
September 27th, 2011, 06:24 PM
I have a pretty unstable social situation at school due to some hyperambitious and ruthless students, so...

I'm probably not popular, but I'm not too unpopular.

Harley Quinn
September 27th, 2011, 09:40 PM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them?
To me, it says that the person must have a good personality or something that a lot of people from him him/her. It's more or less always the former, though.
If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them?
Yes, I'm more likely to talk to them. But to be friends with them? Nope, I'm no more nor less likely to be friends with them, I don't see why the amount of friends they have should influence me to be their friend? I'll talk to them, and I'll want to be their friend if I like them. Quite simple, really.
Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
No, I don't judge people by how many friends they have, so why would I want to be friends with someone based on how little friends they have? That's silly. Though it's more likely that the less popular person has a nicer personality (at least at my school).
Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
Well, yeah, being good looking is generally a factor in popularity. The person is attractive, and people like attractive people. In my eyes, being sporty helps as well. But overall, it's the personality that makes them popular, at least in my opinion. A person can have lots of 'friends', but still be hated by everyone else.

Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?

Galukxy
September 28th, 2011, 12:49 PM
What do you think the number of friends a person has says about them? If they're a very popular person, are you personally more likely to talk to them and want to be friends with them? Or, is the inverse true, and you'd rather be friends with a less popular person?
I talk to whoever wants to talk to me; regardless of whether they are popular or not.

Do you ever see trends between particular factors, such as good looks for example, and popularity or do you think it's more to do with personalities?
Usually, but I go with personality more than looks or anything when I talk to someone.
Do you envy popular people at all, or feel any emotion at all towards them that you don't with other people?
No, of course not.

One more thing. Be honest; how popular do you consider yourself?
Middle-ish. 5 out of 10 even, if I was to rate myself on popularity.