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October 1st, 2012, 12:19 PM
Are you a judgmental person? To what extent? Answer as honestly as you'd like.
October 1st, 2012, 2:21 PM
Of course. To the extent that would ensure my personal wellbeing; little more than things like not walking through a crowd of apparent thugs. I understand that a first impression is likely the only one I will be reasonably able to call upon most people, so I find prejudice valuable for what it's worth to that end.
October 1st, 2012, 2:25 PM
I judge, but it's not the core of what I think of them.
For example, I saw a transgender guy during lunch. My first thought was "omg wtf would you do that", but then I convinced myself to think otherwise, because he was a sweet and loving person as far as I was concerned.
But if he were to come over and act all -sassy- for no reason, that first impression would stick, and right now he would be The Transgender Guy rather than what it really is, That Guy.
October 1st, 2012, 2:49 PM
I like to believe that everyone is judgmental in their own way. Some might deny it, but think about it. Have you ever asked someone what their favorite food or drink is, and after they respond, you say 'ew' or something to that effect? Even something as subtle as that is being judgmental, as you're showing your disfavor to their opinion.
I do things like this pretty often, though I don't go as far as judging someone's appearance, personality, or political/religious/ethical beliefs, as everyone is different in their own respect and I can't change that, so forcing my opinion on them does more harm than good, if anything at all. I try to be as subtle as possible but it's going to happen so I don't try to stop it.
October 1st, 2012, 2:49 PM
I try not to be, but obviously as with anyone it happens. My best defense against it in myself is to recognize it for what it is, and then make sure my actions towards them don't reflect that judgment.
October 1st, 2012, 7:48 PM
I think the word judgmental has a negative connotation. Whenever someone thinks of the word judgmental, they immediately think of negative judgements people would perhaps make about someone or something, but even passing a judgement of positivity is being judgmental.
I am judgmental, but I try to be as objective in regards to negative judgments I make about someone or something as I can be and I do my best to not allow my judgments to set in me and sort of ~reset~ at the end of the day.
October 1st, 2012, 8:01 PM
I'm not very judgemental towards other people because I don't want to get the wrong impression when I first meet a person.
October 1st, 2012, 8:46 PM
I'm not... really? Well, I don't do snap judgements much at all. Never have. When I judge people it tends to be consciously and after some observation. And that's judging of all types- if they seem nice, if they're dressed well, what they might be up to. I like to think about and observe people more objectively than anything so... that's what I do.
October 1st, 2012, 9:15 PM
Yeah, I am. As much as I try not to be, I am. But the thing is, I'm judgmental in a very different way, I think, than most people. I don't judge people for the things everybody else judges them for. So in that aspect I get to legitimately say in most conversations that I'm not judgmental, because I don't judge people for smoking or collecting government benefits or being addicted to drugs or being attracted to children (providing they don't act on it, of course).
What I judge people for are things society says I shouldn't judge them for - for instance, I judge gym junkies because they're obnoxious and I judge people for having children. I actually judge people for deciding not to have abortions. And above all, I judge people for judging people based on the things that I don't judge people for.
October 2nd, 2012, 12:20 AM
I am very judgmental towards certain groups of this world, but they are asking for it in my opinion. I should stop judging them I guess..
October 2nd, 2012, 3:20 AM
I would love to say no, but I judge a bunch of people for various reasons. To a low - medium extent, I guess.
October 2nd, 2012, 8:50 AM
Yeah, I am. It helps cut down on time at work since I have to engage with the public a lot. I don't stick to my initial judgements though, since I'll either engage with a person and refine my view of them, or I'll not see them ever again and forget all about it.
I also can't help but have a reaction like "Oh wow, you listen to that music? You have bad taste." But it's just a reaction and it'll change if I learn more about someone. The worst my judgements do is make me not engage with someone. I'm not out to attack people because of some perception I have of them.
October 2nd, 2012, 9:47 AM
Yeah I am. I don't want to be but it is so hard not to be sometimes.
October 3rd, 2012, 4:15 AM
Very much so. I tend to judge people more before really getting to know them, but I am not often wrong with my original judgement.
October 3rd, 2012, 1:10 PM
Sure. But not unnecessarily so though, I don't think.
October 3rd, 2012, 4:36 PM
I can be judgemental, but I don't normally let that effect my interactions with the person, if that makes any sense. xD
October 3rd, 2012, 6:52 PM
Not very much, I don't think. I'm generally apathetic about how people live their lives as long as they're not breaking the law. Of course I do at times, though. Can't help it sometimes. :p
October 4th, 2012, 6:07 AM
I judge people all the time. I can normally tell straight off if someone interests me or not and I am rarely wrong. Sometimes I am wrong and end up meeting someone not liking them at first but they grow on me. But that's rare.