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Guy
October 31st, 2012, 07:26 AM
Your best friend confesses that he/she has feelings for you more than just friendship. He/she is falling in love with you. What do you (or did you) do/say?

PlatinumDude
October 31st, 2012, 09:09 AM
I'd tell them I love them back and start a relationship from there.

TornZero
October 31st, 2012, 09:20 AM
I'd tell 'em I would have to think it over for a little while. I'm not just going to outright reject them; they're my best friend. There'd obviously be some benefits to being "more than friends", but if that chance is screwed up somehow then the entire friendship could fall apart.

That said, if I already know what they're like in public and private alike (and can tolerate or enjoy both of those, of course), I couldn't find enough reason not to say, "Let's give it a shot."

Oryx
October 31st, 2012, 11:06 AM
I wouldn't know what to say but my friend would understand that I'm not into girls so I doubt she would be expecting much from me other than an acknowledgment of her feelings. I'd like to think that as long as she doesn't feel awkward with me knowing, we'd be able to keep on being how we are now.

Cassino
October 31st, 2012, 11:14 AM
This has happened. I had to explain that I'm aromantic.

Sterling
October 31st, 2012, 11:21 AM
My ex-boyfriend and I were best friends since freshman year of high school, and during senior year of high school, he confessed to me that he had a crush on me since then. I, however, felt the same way. So, me being blinded by his adorableness, I went ahead and took a step forward with him.

If that happened to one of my guy friends at this time, I would probably reject. I can't risk myself in losing a best friend like my ex. So, it would be better to keep the relationship we have now instead of taking a risk and taking an extra step forward. It's better that way, imo.

Ven Bloodia
October 31st, 2012, 11:31 AM
I'd cut all ties with them instantly and treat them the same way I would treat a stranger who was staring at me in a funny way. Anything to protect the void that's my heart.

Overlord Drakow
October 31st, 2012, 11:53 AM
I'd cut all ties with them instantly and treat them the same way I would treat a stranger who was staring at me in a funny way. Anything to protect the void that's my heart.

No heart truly desires to be alone. Perhaps you don't understand that right now but someday you will. I guarantee it.

To answer the question I'd be in the same boat as Toujy pretty much.

Yoshikko
October 31st, 2012, 12:48 PM
I would tell him to knock it off so we could just be friends normally lmao. I'm too emotionally closed up and awkward to want to deal with that, I think I would respect his feelings but probably pull a funny face if he told me lol.

Kura
October 31st, 2012, 12:50 PM
Apologize because I'm already very happy with my boyfriend and I wouldn't ever want to leave him. If the friend respects that, carry on as usual. If not? Distance myself.

LividZephyr
October 31st, 2012, 07:22 PM
I'd most likely say no. They're my best friend. They're someone I can hang out with and vent about relationships with, not get into one with.

Of course, my best friend would likely be a guy. I'm straight, and that isn't changing, so it would be really awkward and would damage our relationship. That's the last thing I would want.

EmeraldSerenade
October 31st, 2012, 07:24 PM
If my best friend were to tell me that they were falling in love with ME, well, I'd go ahead and start a relationship, because I've like my best friend for a while now lol...

King Goodra
October 31st, 2012, 08:33 PM
I'd call her a ****, because she's in love with her boyfriend and we have this thing where we call people ****s, so it would partially be to break the tension.

Wateria
November 1st, 2012, 01:54 AM
If my best friend told me that they loved me I'd go for it and go out with them.

Nearsighted king of Ice
November 1st, 2012, 04:39 AM
yeah...my best friend is a dude, and I'm a dude so...

Shining Raichu
November 1st, 2012, 06:50 AM
My two best friends are both girls and I'm gay, so I'd just be like "...you know I'm gay, right?"

If my best friend were a guy though, I honestly don't know how I'd deal with it. Ideally, I'd love him back and want to start a relationship, but if I didn't I honestly don't know how I'd react to that or what I'd say. I'm a real people pleaser, so I wouldn't want to hurt him or lose his friendship, but at the same time I couldn't disrespect him by leading him on when I had no feelings for him. I'd just have to tell him I don't feel the same way and hope to high heaven that I don't lose him.

Broken_Arrow
November 1st, 2012, 09:09 AM
That happened with me already 2 years ago a real best friend of me was so brave he came and told me about how he feels and i was surprised...there was time i needed to think because i was worried about our friendship and other stuff....(i didn't ignore his feelings i just didn't know what to say)and however he acted cruel sometimes but he kept being there for me whenever i needed help he was always there any problem happen...he's my best friend ,brother,son!! rival sometimes aaand boyfriend since a year and half now and i wouldn't wanted it otherwise! <3 ^^

Aquacorde
November 1st, 2012, 09:47 AM
I don't really have a best friend really but if one of my very close friends said that to me... it depends on who. As much as I love people I know online, I can't deal with a relationship without cuddling. And I think my online friends know that well enough.

Offline... er, one of my close friends is my ex and he has a girlfriend so that would be weird and no. He's not allowed to do that. Two of the others... there would be many many complications with them, but if either of them told me they loved me then... we could do that. Yeah.

Galukxy
November 1st, 2012, 09:58 AM
I'd tell them that I love them as a friend and don't like them any other way. That's how I usually deal with that.

TwilightBlade
November 1st, 2012, 01:15 PM
If my best friend told me right now that he has romantic feelings for me, I would have to (magically) flip his desk, push him out a window, and put catnip on him and hope the cats take care of him. I love ya, but you're married, dude! :P

Brynjolf
November 1st, 2012, 06:01 PM
Normally, I'd accept, because if the friendship was deep enough, I'd probably had a crrush on them already.
But if they were an idiot, of course I'd say no. And I know I'm going to sound like an ass, but they'd have to be somewhat attractive, as well.

Briar
November 1st, 2012, 08:56 PM
as of now, i don't have any romantic feelings for any of my best friends, so i suppose if one of them comes up to me and confesses that s/he likes me in a romantic sense, i'd tell him/her that i'm just not interested in pursuing a relationship with him/her. seeing as my best friends are really my BEST friends, i don't think that any of them will take what i say badly.

Hannah
November 2nd, 2012, 11:57 PM
I'd be speechless for at least three seconds. I'm really close with my best friend, but he knows I like someone else. I would still treat him as my bff, tho, because I love him as a brother. It would be awkward accepting the fact that he has feelings for me, but we'll cope with it, and move on.

Ven Bloodia
November 3rd, 2012, 12:01 AM
No heart truly desires to be alone. Perhaps you don't understand that right now but someday you will. I guarantee it.

It has nothing to do with me wanting to be alone or not sweetie, I'd reject them because I already got a special someone and it's gonna take the forces of hell itself to even try to make me part with her lol.

thisguy647
November 3rd, 2012, 03:39 AM
I'd be pretty creeped out, to say the least. =/

Toshiro.
November 3rd, 2012, 01:14 PM
I'd be shocked to be honest, but I would let them down easy and tell them I don't like them that way. What else could you do?

Aura Vitae
November 3rd, 2012, 01:45 PM
I'd be overjoyed if my best friend suddenly confessed his feelings for me, because I have a crush on my best friend and have had one for two years now, though admittedly I'd be confused because my best friend is a guy and(as far as I know) is completely heterosexual and seems homophobic at times.

Squirrel
November 3rd, 2012, 05:42 PM
I'd be pretty thrilled to be honest! They're already in a relationship and have been for over a year now so it's very unlikely, but I'd be very happy indeed to be with them. I don't think it'd be awkward at all since most of the time we act like we're in a relationship anyway (minus the physical stuff paha), so I guess it'd just be like taking the friendship up to the next level...? But yeah, I'd be very happy!

ArcanaFlaera
November 3rd, 2012, 06:30 PM
If I felt the same way, I'd go for it.
If not, well, then I'd gently let them off saying I don't feel the same way, then things would get awkward.
Actually happened to one of my friends a couple days. He confessed to her, and she she didn't feel the same way. It's awkward since I'm stuck in the middle.

Team Fail
November 3rd, 2012, 09:44 PM
I'd tell them I'd have to think about it. I wouldn't simply reject them, because, well, we're friends. Other than that, I wouldn't really know what to do.

Kevin
November 4th, 2012, 04:39 PM
Well, considering my best friend is a guy too.... It would ruin our friendship and that would be plain awkward.

EQUALSGAMER
November 4th, 2012, 04:42 PM
It would depend how hot she was. (joking) but i agree with thisguy647 i'd be creeped out a little but would probably just back out of the room awkwardly.

Volcanix769
November 4th, 2012, 05:26 PM
I'd be knocked out if he were to do that.

FrankOcean
November 4th, 2012, 05:38 PM
If it was one of my guy best friends I'd be like, "Hahahaa no." And then call him various homophobic insults until we both get over it.
But if it was a girl best friend I'd still say no. Unless they were really, really hot and I like them back. I'm very shallow, btw.

Aeon
November 4th, 2012, 06:18 PM
This has happened to me... except the other way around.

I'd have to tell him that while I'm extremely flattered, I no longer feel the same way. Though the guy has never cared about relationships. Ever.

Icy Burn
November 5th, 2012, 10:26 AM
I'd crap myself, being it's a guy.

インフェルノの津波
November 5th, 2012, 10:42 AM
I'd think about it, seeing as I'm not attracted to guys, maybe I'd say yes. Though I'd say I wouldn't be surprised if he said that...

Synerjee
November 5th, 2012, 11:12 AM
This has happened before. He told me that he liked me and the thing was that I liked him too. I told him that I had to think about it. I didn't want to take this thing to another level withour consideration as if it fails, this whole friendship would most likely cease to exist. I've known him since we were both very young, like childhood friends, and our mothers are also very close friends with each other. I wouldn't want any friendship to break because of some under-thought action of ours. Plus, I was about to go for studies in Australia and he in New Zealand, so everything seemed so much harder. Soo..yeah. We just stayed best friends. Nothing more.

BUT if my girl best friend ever told me that, I would be like whaaat you serious, girl?! You know damn well that I'm straight! @@ and things might start getting awkward from there.

Magic
November 5th, 2012, 11:14 AM
Your best friend confesses that he/she has feelings for you more than just friendship. He/she is falling in love with you. What do you (or did you) do/say?

"You realise now, after 9 years?!"

Haha, seriously I had a huge crush on one of my best friends for years and years, so if he announced this I would be bother really annoyed (as I'm taken, happily) and really happy - as I wasn't delusional for imagining a connection for most of a decade.