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January 31st, 2013, 07:00 PM
How fast do you make up with someone you had a fight with?
(how long do you hold a grudge?)
January 31st, 2013, 07:06 PM
I'm not the one that starts a fight in the first place, I just keep my nose to myself. If someone starts a fight with me, unless they've got a really good reason, they get put in my $%&# list immediately.
I'm not a forgiving person, especially with my trust issues that I have.
January 31st, 2013, 07:16 PM
I once fought with my best friend due to a misunderstanding; it was over within minutes and everything was fine again (once we both understood what the other meant). So apparently not very long. I:
As for more physical fights, it's pretty much the same way. Play fighting with my friend's older brother went violent after he apparently forgot that it was only a joke. But after he calmed down, he apologized and we haven't spoken of it since.
January 31st, 2013, 07:52 PM
It took me two years to forgive my best friend from high school, if that puts things into perspective for you lol. But now we're all good and we hang out on the weekends and giggle over her baby. :3
January 31st, 2013, 08:53 PM
Depends on the person and depends on what they did that pissed me off. Sometimes I can make up in seconds, sometimes it takes a lot longer than that. I usually try not to hold grudges, that that's proven to be difficult over the years for my growing distaste for humanity.
January 31st, 2013, 09:16 PM
Depends on if I'm eager to get out of that friendship or not. There have been times when I've deliberately started a fight just to permanently drive a wedge between me and someone I don't like. But if the situation isn't like that then the recovery time is almost immediate because I just mentally chalk it up to "hard truth" and we make up.
February 1st, 2013, 01:39 AM
I still have a grudge against someone and that's been 5 years now..
Normally it takes me a fortnight to make up with someone.
February 1st, 2013, 10:29 AM
Depends on the incident. If it's really bad I will hold a grudge for a long time, at one time for one incident, it was over a year, though I try to not hold any grudge.
February 1st, 2013, 10:47 AM
I can forgive easily,but i never forget, nor do i really ever trust again. It depends on what they do, but usually i try my best to make amends or stubbornly give them many chances even if they might not deserve it. However, if i see they dont take it seriously or waste their chances or show no effort, i stop wasting my time with them altogether. It's not a grudge imo when it's self preservation, and just knowing better. I think i rather be around those who genuinely care is all. Though I don't mind being in their presence, unless they've done something horrifically nasty to me that merits it, but if I do find myself by them, I can and do act maturely and decently.
February 1st, 2013, 11:30 AM
I'm willing to forgive as soon as someone else is. I don't like the way I feel when I carry a grudge or feel like I have to avoid someone. Obviously it depends on what was done or said, but if people are sorry and it looks like we can move on then that's really what I want to have happen.
February 1st, 2013, 02:21 PM
well hmm,i don't forget but i also don't like to hold grudges!!! it makes me feel heavy and i don't like to be over weight lol...seriously..grudges doesn't help me but making me angry...i prefer to let go and let whatever happens happens...all what i can do is trying my best so i regret nothing but grudges ummmmmmm no not me *shakes head*
February 1st, 2013, 03:07 PM
I'm normally very quick to forgive, unless its extremely serious. Then I can stay angry until they apologize to me.
Evil Stud Muffin
February 1st, 2013, 04:06 PM
Depends. If its friends being jerks, then a couple of days. If its parents, I don't know. Even at 19 I can't comprehend what's going on with them. I never might to be honest.
February 1st, 2013, 04:08 PM
Depends on what they've done and what kind of person they are. If we got along well before the incident I'll shrug it off but if they're like that to everyone or if they still hold a grudge then I just try to ignore them.
February 1st, 2013, 04:24 PM
I can go a long time holding a grudge. If you hurt or betrayed me, your not hearing from me. I don't forgive people easily, because I've been hurt a ton by people. I don't give second chances anymore either. So yeah, I never really forgive people if they hurt me. Even if we are bffs, nope. Sorry.
February 1st, 2013, 05:48 PM
I normally don't make up unless I feel bad for the fight or the situation I/they caused. I dunno.
Usually not too forgiving.
February 1st, 2013, 10:09 PM
Hmm, it depends, I have my own reasons. But usually, I make up with people that I've fought with pretty fast, plus they need to be the forgiving type.
February 1st, 2013, 11:27 PM
Maybe my family, but I used to hold grudges xD Now I'm more forgiving and all xD
February 3rd, 2013, 08:57 PM
I hate holding grudges. I believe it's wasted negative energy that just nobody needs. The last time I had a fight with my friend was when he was being absolutely impossible just shouting "don't talk to me!" when I was trying to reason with him, so I ended up snapping and saying "Well **** off then" and he said "You **** off".
Then we didn't talk to each other for about 15 minutes while we cooled down, talked about it and settled it right then and there, and then we moved on and were happy again :)
Corvus of the Black Night
February 3rd, 2013, 09:04 PM
If I invest a lot of energy into a person and they continually mess around with me so bad that they tear me open and blame others for it repeatedly, then I hold grudges.
Otherwise, not really.
February 4th, 2013, 02:28 AM
I generally forget grudges in about 5 mins. But sometimes, I might blurt out some incidents to joke around here and there.
February 4th, 2013, 03:11 AM
I will hold grudges against people until my body is lowered into the Earth's soil and eaten by worms.
February 13th, 2013, 03:53 AM
I usually say sorry instantly after I say something offensive.
February 13th, 2013, 12:37 PM
After a fight, I usually try to make up with the person right afterward. I don't like to let things linger and create bad feelings that can build into a grudge.