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Teara
February 1st, 2004, 02:52 PM
I don't really expect anyone to give this story a second thought, but that's fine withme. I just really need to get this off my chest, it happend two years ago when I still lived in Arizona. I promise it's true but I don't really care if you belive me or not since it's just here to let me clear my mind. Here I go.
:'(
Two years ago I was a member of a technology forum since I didn't know much about computors and they were able to answer all my questions. One person in particular was always willing to help me, he said he was a 19 year old enrolled in a computor school, after a while he became a pretty good friend, always helping me and answering my question, or just there when I wanted to talk. He eventually sent me an e-mail saying he wanted to meet me, he also sent a picture of a handsome young man and said it was him. I e-mailed him back and told him I would rather just keep friendships online and offline seperate. He maild back and told me he would meet me after school one day. I thought he was lying and just left the forum I met him at and ignored his constant e-mails. A couple weeks past, and I forgot all about him. We were getting ready to move to a differant state so I was pretty preocupied. I lved in a apartment comlpex with my mom across the court from my best friends who's mom also happend to be my mom's good friend. I rode home on the bus with my friends just like I did every other day but when I got home I noticed my mom wasn't home. She turned out to be at the store. Later I was watching tv when I noticed my cat staring at the wndow behind me with her ears down. I turned around and came face to face with a creepy looking man with long hair pulled back and a beard. He was watching me with a nasty grin on his face, after I got a good look at him he ran off, in Arizona there are alot of bums so I didn't call the police because I thought he was one of them, and they are always looking in on people. A few days past and I kept getting e-mails from the man from the forum. After school one day I had to stay after for a student counsel meeting. I went out back to throw away some boxes in the dumpster behind the school. I never saw him coming. After I threw the boxes away i turned around and was grabed by someone, it was the same man that had been looking in my window a few days earlier. He coverd my mouth and draged me away to his car on the side of the building without any windows. There was just one car there and its windows were coverd from the inside. he tried to open the door but to do that he had to either let go of me or uncover my mouth. He uncoverd my mouth but I didn't have much time to scream since he opend the door so quikley and threw me in the car. I won't give any details but I will say he tried to rape me, I managed to unlock the other door and finally after he slapped me a couple of times for trying to leave, I got the door open, kicked him in the jaw and got out. I ran inside went straight to the bathrooms. My shirt was stretched and my face was red from when he slapped me, luckely he didn't try to get into the school. I cleaned myself up and went back to the meeting. After that I made sure I was never alone and kept my eye on the window canstantly. We evantually moved and I am just now starting to get back to online forums, evan though I am only in pc, serrebi, and the poke'special one. Other than that my life is back to normal, I still keep in touch with my boyfriend in Az, I am student council pres, and I have good grades.
Thanks for listening and I apologize for any typeing errors or boring you. I have never told this to any one out of shame, I told my mom once but she forgot by the next morning since she was still a very bad alcohalic back than.

Frostweaver
February 1st, 2004, 03:05 PM
...

*a real sad event... but is happy to see that the evil man didn't do any permanent everlasting damage at least...*

*not too sure if the email from the man online is related to that bum... at least according to the post there doesnt' seem to be any connections*

*should always keep your guard up (guys and girls) if you're alone... especially if your society/neightbourhood isn't the safest place around. Really try to be careful...*

*seems from the look of things that Teara is far more than ok now... seeing that she has confident in trying out online forums again, and if she's brave enough to post her story out in the open, she must have overcame the fear from the event*

*certainly have fun posting in PC ^_^*

Kairi
February 1st, 2004, 03:16 PM
I would have probably seriously hurt him if at all possible, but Im glad youre all right. Like frostweaver said, it may not have been him. Do you know if he had any way of getting your information so that he would be able to find you like that?

22sa
February 1st, 2004, 03:34 PM
O_O Glad you escaped. ._.

Welcome to PC

22sa
February 1st, 2004, 03:46 PM
I'm sorry to hear that, Teara. I'm so glad you managed to escape, and also happy that you seem to have overcome what happened. ^___^
Welcome to the Pokemon Community!
Yah... And I hope you really managed to clear you mind too. =/ X_X

100marios
February 1st, 2004, 04:00 PM
I'm glad you gave that guy what for! That's a pretty scary thing to happen to a person. You kept a cool head the whole time though!
Too bad you couldn't find out his license plate or something, than you would be able to sue him. Man, those kind of people really aggravate me, you did the right thing in your position and I'm glad you were able to get on with you're life.

Haruka
February 1st, 2004, 04:02 PM
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Purin
February 1st, 2004, 04:21 PM
It's good to know that you are all right after that event. The story isn't boring; I certainly learned another lesson from your story (even though I have been hearing reports since I was 10 about online chatrooms and girls suffering the consequences because of their [,mildly put,] actions.)
In fact, I was to write an essay which touches about this by today.
Like what frosty said (or thinks), be careful when walking alone and it would be best to go anywhere in a group.
Pokespecial one? *Checks forums*

Teara
February 1st, 2004, 04:26 PM
Thank you, I really apreciate you listening to my story and being so kind about it. You never think something like that can happen to you, but it does.
Also, I should have mentioned that the bum was defanently the man on the computer. I checked one of the e-mails he sent later in the day he poped in my window, It said (or something simalar):
That's a nice house you live in sweetie. Youre kitty didn't seem to like me too much, but I liked you. See you soon sweetie.

Frostweaver
February 1st, 2004, 04:34 PM
...

*ok if that's the thing, ask a friend to make a virus for you and send it to him... or make one yourself now... or just send MyDoom to him*

*always have to be extra careful about giving away your RL information especially house address when you're online... he was being so careful too with 22sa back then... if it isn't for Eddy Ko who was able to act as a "confirm this 22sa guy is a good guy", don't think they will ever get to meet together ^_^;*

*no worries... think most PC members always like to listen to stories... if it's a funny one, we laugh with the teller. If it's a one of tragic, we'll always do the best we can to help out in the situation*

Teara
February 1st, 2004, 04:39 PM
...

*ok if that's the thing, ask a friend to make a virus for you and send it to him... or make one yourself now... or just send MyDoom to him*

*always have to be extra careful about giving away your RL information especially house address when you're online... he was being so careful too with 22sa back then... if it isn't for Eddy Ko who was able to act as a "confirm this 22sa guy is a good guy", don't think they will ever get to meet together ^_^;*

*no worries... think most PC members always like to listen to stories... if it's a funny one, we laugh with the teller. If it's a one of tragic, we'll always do the best we can to help out in the situation*
I'd send him a virus but I just changed my e-mail adress and I don't want to take any chances. By the way I have no idea how he got my adress, maybe he lived nearby and saw where I lived, I still wonder about it sometimes.

Purin
February 1st, 2004, 04:45 PM
You never think something like that can happen to you, but it does.
I know that. (My Mum has been drilling that into my head billions of times, but she does care) :dead:

Teara
February 1st, 2004, 04:50 PM
I seriously doubt he's still following me, I'm like six states away ^______^ .
...I'm free! I'm free! weee! *dances around, runs into a wall, gets knocked out* :knockedou

22sa
February 1st, 2004, 04:52 PM
I'd send him a virus but I just changed my e-mail adress and I don't want to take any chances. By the way I have no idea how he got my adress, maybe he lived nearby and saw where I lived, I still wonder about it sometimes.
Virus!? But you already kicked him on the... Oh well, if you can stay safe I guess...

Frostweaver
February 1st, 2004, 05:44 PM
*perhaps hacking into your computer to extract important information... guess a firewall will help in that a bit... or just never input anything real if at all possible*

Haruka
February 1st, 2004, 06:12 PM
Uhhh... did you UPDATE you DAT files on Norton or Mcafee Virus Scan?

22sa
February 1st, 2004, 06:13 PM
Oh, my mom one the other hand 'doesn't care', other times she's sleeping lol. :P

Teara
February 1st, 2004, 07:01 PM
eheh...my parents...don't know I'm in any forums...they don't know I ever joined any. My mom didn't know how to use the computor at all so I didn't have any web restrictions. Now that she's married everything is differant. I am on a kids web restriction even though I'm almost 14 and they always say I'm too mature for my age. There are alot of things I can't do, like tell them I made my own e-mail adress...eheh...

22sa
February 1st, 2004, 07:15 PM
Same here, when my dad saw me on www.pokecommunity.com the first thign he said was something about the inappropriateness of me with Pokemon stuff, then he looked breifly at all the threads and immediately dissmissed everything I do here as "a waste of time"! :P Which it probably is :D but so!? Argh, well it isn't wasting my time, I could be doing less useful things... Jeez. Well one things for sure I won't be studying! Hmph. :( My mom saw me from time to time but I don't think she has any clue what a forum is... Actually, I don't think she even knows how to turn off the computer. :\ Ahh must stop there

Heh, I almost thought we had another near-adult person on the forum, guess not. ^^'

Teara
February 1st, 2004, 07:29 PM
Same here, when my dad saw me on www.pokecommunity.com the first thign he said was something about the inappropriateness of me with Pokemon stuff, then he looked breifly at all the threads and immediately dissmissed everything I do here as "a waste of time"! :P Which it probably is :D but so!? Argh, well it isn't wasting my time, I could be doing less useful things... Jeez. Well one things for sure I won't be studying! Hmph. :( My mom saw me from time to time but I don't think she has any clue what a forum is... Actually, I don't think she even knows how to turn off the computer. :\ Ahh must stop there

Heh, I almost thought we had another near-adult person on the forum, guess not. ^^'
heheh, my mom dosn't know where the power button is ( I'm not exagerating, she always presses the power button on the scanner instead). My parent havn't caught me yet...if they did I can just imagine what they'd say:
Mom: what's a forum, is that like a application?
Stepdad: Alyssa!!!! *slams computer on ground, drives away for two days*
Me:...eh?

DragonTrainer
February 1st, 2004, 07:32 PM
Grr....I wish I could just......Stupid man, wish I could just do something about it

Sorry to hear about this, you should have reported it

Haruka
February 1st, 2004, 07:37 PM
I don't really expect anyone to give this story a second thought, but that's fine withme. I just really need to get this off my chest, it happend two years ago when I still lived in Arizona. I promise it's true but I don't really care if you belive me or not since it's just here to let me clear my mind. Here I go.
:'(
Two years ago I was a member of a technology forum since I didn't know much about computors and they were able to answer all my questions. One person in particular was always willing to help me, he said he was a 19 year old enrolled in a computor school, after a while he became a pretty good friend, always helping me and answering my question, or just there when I wanted to talk. He eventually sent me an e-mail saying he wanted to meet me, he also sent a picture of a handsome young man and said it was him. I e-mailed him back and told him I would rather just keep friendships online and offline seperate. He maild back and told me he would meet me after school one day. I thought he was lying and just left the forum I met him at and ignored his constant e-mails. A couple weeks past, and I forgot all about him. We were getting ready to move to a differant state so I was pretty preocupied. I lved in a apartment comlpex with my mom across the court from my best friends who's mom also happend to be my mom's good friend. I rode home on the bus with my friends just like I did every other day but when I got home I noticed my mom wasn't home. She turned out to be at the store. Later I was watching tv when I noticed my cat staring at the wndow behind me with her ears down. I turned around and came face to face with a creepy looking man with long hair pulled back and a beard. He was watching me with a nasty grin on his face, after I got a good look at him he ran off, in Arizona there are alot of bums so I didn't call the police because I thought he was one of them, and they are always looking in on people. A few days past and I kept getting e-mails from the man from the forum. After school one day I had to stay after for a student counsel meeting. I went out back to throw away some boxes in the dumpster behind the school. I never saw him coming. After I threw the boxes away i turned around and was grabed by someone, it was the same man that had been looking in my window a few days earlier. He coverd my mouth and draged me away to his car on the side of the building without any windows. There was just one car there and its windows were coverd from the inside. he tried to open the door but to do that he had to either let go of me or uncover my mouth. He uncoverd my mouth but I didn't have much time to scream since he opend the door so quikley and threw me in the car. I won't give any details but I will say he tried to rape me, I managed to unlock the other door and finally after he slapped me a couple of times for trying to leave, I got the door open, kicked him in the jaw and got out. I ran inside went straight to the bathrooms. My shirt was stretched and my face was red from when he slapped me, luckely he didn't try to get into the school. I cleaned myself up and went back to the meeting. After that I made sure I was never alone and kept my eye on the window canstantly. We evantually moved and I am just now starting to get back to online forums, evan though I am only in pc, serrebi, and the poke'special one. Other than that my life is back to normal, I still keep in touch with my boyfriend in Az, I am student council pres, and I have good grades.
Thanks for listening and I apologize for any typeing errors or boring you. I have never told this to any one out of shame, I told my mom once but she forgot by the next morning since she was still a very bad alcohalic back than.*sees her pitty*

*really sad event indeed*

*knows that I shouldn't do anything that will put me in a bad scene*

100marios
February 1st, 2004, 07:38 PM
Hehe, my mom messes up on the computer all the time and I always have to fix it. For example:
Mom: Jordan! Come here! I need help with the computer!
Me: Whatever could be the matter mother? (I don't talk like that hehe)
Mom: The computer isn't turning on! What do I do!? I pressed the on button!
*She presses the on button again and nothing happens......I press it and the computer turns on*
Mom: What!? I did that! This computer never works for me!
Me: It only responds to father and I!
That's what happens a lot of the time hehe....my mom is smart, but for some strange reason the computer doesn't work too well for her!

bna_li
February 1st, 2004, 09:44 PM
Are you serious? That is hilarious!
[EDIT] Even if that was A LITTLE untrue, it would still be hilarious.
Sorry, didnt read the first post. That was hilarious to 100Marios. To Teara, happy nothing happened. This happens to often on the net. Ppl should learn to be more careful.

John Denver
February 2nd, 2004, 06:38 AM
whoa, way to open us up on a downer...

welcome to PC...I guess...

*decides not to boo ya*

orange*berry
February 2nd, 2004, 06:52 AM
That's really dissapointing. X.o() But it's good to see you're moved on, and far, far away from that weirdo. =P
Anyway, welcome to the Pokemon Community! I hope you'll feel welcome here, and we're all friendly people, so you don't have to worry about us. n.n()

John Denver
February 2nd, 2004, 06:59 AM
I think something similar like that happened to me

I a little guy was following me off the bus and to my house, I turned around and said," Do you live around here?" he didn't say anything, I went up my driveway and he followed my up...I stold him to back off and he came up and started punching me. I let my back drop and proceeded to pound his face into the pavement cause he was a little chicken wuss. Just then his MOM comes out of the house and tells me to go away...

IT WAS THE BOY WHO LIVED ACROSS THE STREET FROM ME!!

omg...idiots

boo ya

bna_li
February 2nd, 2004, 07:04 AM
Hes crazy. But here in Shanghai ppl spit at you for no reason.

John Denver
February 2nd, 2004, 07:30 AM
In South Carolina, I swear, there were hobo's sleeping outside our school...sad

BOO ya!

Kayleigh
February 2nd, 2004, 10:49 AM
That must have been really scary... But I'm glad he didn't hurt you too badly. You should have reported it though, no matter how embarrassed you may have felt, that was a serious situation and people like him need to be in prison. I still don't think that it's too late for you to tell some adults, because you never know if that man would try to do the same thing to other girls, or maybe even try to track you down again. Though that's unlikely now, it's possible and you don't want to take any chances. But I'm sorry about that, and glad you seem to be doing better now.

Also, welcome to PC. ^_^ I think you'll be able to trust everyone here; hope you enjoy posting!

John Denver
February 2nd, 2004, 10:54 AM
and if someone on PC is talking like that to you, don't waste any time. Tell the admins or any of the S-mods...and that person will be swiftly and silently assassinated...

well, warned er banned anyways

BOO ya!

bna_li
February 2nd, 2004, 10:55 AM
Hey Dakota, whats your home address?

Kairi
February 2nd, 2004, 12:02 PM
Actually, Dakota I do assassinations when bans dont work, so yeah. >.>;

Yeah, we certainly wont allow that here, you have to let someone know if youre being harassed or pressured in any way, well nip it in the bud.

Teara
February 2nd, 2004, 02:32 PM
That must have been really scary... But I'm glad he didn't hurt you too badly. You should have reported it though, no matter how embarrassed you may have felt, that was a serious situation and people like him need to be in prison. I still don't think that it's too late for you to tell some adults, because you never know if that man would try to do the same thing to other girls, or maybe even try to track you down again. Though that's unlikely now, it's possible and you don't want to take any chances. But I'm sorry about that, and glad you seem to be doing better now.

Also, welcome to PC. ^_^ I think you'll be able to trust everyone here; hope you enjoy posting!
Just recently I checked that site and it is no longer up, so I would not be able to report him to the site owner. As for reporting him to authority, I doubt they could do much since he was in Arizona and that was two years ago. My mom wouldn't do much about it except tell me EVERYthing I did wrong, and my stepdad would just ignore me. Thanks for the advice though.

Kayleigh
February 2nd, 2004, 03:03 PM
(It's okay!)

I wonder if they could track him down with his e-mail address or something? If you remember it...

That's probably not possible.. I know nothing about computers. ._.

DragonTrainer
February 2nd, 2004, 03:06 PM
Actually, it's very possible t track him down.Just takes some smart people to do it

Kairi
February 2nd, 2004, 03:16 PM
(It's okay!)

I wonder if they could track him down with his e-mail address or something? If you remember it...

That's probably not possible.. I know nothing about computers. ._.Email is a huge problem, too easy to spoof and nearly untraceable. The whole system of email is supposed to get an overhaul soon, with authentication to verify you are who you say you are.

Timbjerr
February 2nd, 2004, 03:51 PM
woah....
uh...woah...

*cough*
my dad is a comoputer networking technician, so I've heard a lot of actual stories about people who end up having things like that happen in online relationships.
I've had similar happen (except I wasn't raped...as a male, I would seem to have control of the situation if someone tried to rape me). But I've been in online chatrooms in the past and I met one girl who told me she was 18, and she seemed really cool and all and I would chat with her every day for a week...then she brought up disturbing information. she said her "son" was enrolled in the army and was fighting overseas, suggesting her son must be 18 or older (I was 15 at the time).
>.<
I tried to ignore her altogether, but I made the mistake of telling this other girl that I talk to who announced it to the whole chatroom, now everytime I go back there, I have to disguise myself so that 40-something depressed lady doesn't recognize me >.<

^^NICK^^ v.2.0
February 2nd, 2004, 04:54 PM
Aww. it's a good thing that you made it away safely. Be cautious.

Sapphire Titan
February 2nd, 2004, 05:23 PM
That was so interesting Teara good for you! You're a survivor! You're so cool! I think we should meet in real life.....




JKJKJK!!!!OMG don't take that seriously plez!

orange*berry
February 2nd, 2004, 06:20 PM
*L* Yeah. n.n() Maybe it's not the best thing to joke about right now, but we know your where only kidding.

Now I'm hoping that that guy hasn't been harassing anyone else. e_e Some people... *sigh* If only you had gotten his IP back then, they could have tracked him down, but otherwise, it's nearly impossible.

Teara
February 4th, 2004, 02:26 PM
*L* Yeah. n.n() Maybe it's not the best thing to joke about right now, but we know your where only kidding.

Now I'm hoping that that guy hasn't been harassing anyone else. e_e Some people... *sigh* If only you had gotten his IP back then, they could have tracked him down, but otherwise, it's nearly impossible.
*bangs head on table*
Now I really regret not finding out more about him. I don't have any of his info so I don't think I can find him. Of course if I could I would turn him over to the authorities but than I would be really paranoid. I mean people can only be held in prison for so long, but once there free...

latiosspud
February 4th, 2004, 02:37 PM
*bangs head on table*
Now I really regret not finding out more about him. I don't have any of his info so I don't think I can find him. Of course if I could I would turn him over to the authorities but than I would be really paranoid. I mean people can only be held in prison for so long, but once there free...
You would also need to have proof which would be pretty hard to find in your case considering that you didn't have a witness and that he didn't actually rape you.

Kairi
February 4th, 2004, 02:38 PM
If he cant track you down though, and you keep all information about yourself anonymous when you told the authorities, youd be okay. Its all right though, when youre in a situation like that it is very hard to remember to do such things.
latiospud:
It could turn out once identified, he could be a well-known cyber-stalker/rapist.

DragonTrainer
February 4th, 2004, 02:41 PM
Lol, so this turned from a rape story to a , cyber-stalker huntdown thingy XD

latiosspud
February 4th, 2004, 02:46 PM
If he cant track you down though, and you keep all information about yourself anonymous when you told the authorities, youd be okay. Its all right though, when youre in a situation like that it is very hard to remember to do such things.
latiospud:
It could turn out once identified, he could be a well-known cyber-stalker/rapist.
And how exactly would that help? If they knew that person is a rapist they would probably know his description already.

Kairi
February 4th, 2004, 02:50 PM
And how exactly would that help? If they knew that person is a rapist they would probably know his description already.Police could be trying to track this man down, for instance. If she told his ISP the charges, and showed the emails with his IP on them, they could release his information. Once taken to the authorities, theyd know where he is,

DragonTrainer
February 4th, 2004, 02:56 PM
Well, she could do that, but then again, she is probably scared.I know I would be

Teara
February 4th, 2004, 03:31 PM
Like I said, I made a new e-mail account and I haven't used the old one for so long I have completely forgotten my password. So than...somewhere on the web is an e-mail account full of proof. :paranoid: Plus I would be scared if I ever saw him again, and I would probably have to go to court and face him.