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Kurono
April 2nd, 2006, 10:49 AM
Meh, I was advised to place this here...go ahead and move it if this isn't the most suitable place for it.. :<

Well, I think I've noted many times otherwise, and this isn't really a concern that could greatly impact on the Community IMO, but isn't it strange how far the PC family "bloodline" stretches out? I mean with the constant meeting of new people, you'd probably want them as "family", right? I bet that literally every active member here is "related" to one another. It seems as fun and its awesome for a while, but then you pair with someone...

Who knows how long it might take, but you'll probably find that your pair happens to be a brother or sister or perhaps even an aunt an uncle according to the families that stretch out so far across PC. But you may find its too late because you've already "married" your pair. How's that for incest?

Normally, such a thing would be degrading and/or disgusting in real life, but of course its only a forum, and technically you're not really related to the people here, unless of course you're actually related.. Anyway I find that the system is greatly flawed, and I'm just wondering how many other people may be slightly bothered by the thought of it..and if possible discuss the possible "solutions"..though its simple enough to stay away from both families and pairs..

So, your thoughts?

Merzbau
April 2nd, 2006, 11:02 AM
The family things are just for fun...and like the only way you would notice something like that is if you were so bored you looked for it, or if...someone else mentioned it. Ahem. XD But I honestly don't even look at the family things. They become too long and tedious and are just kind of sig-filler. I used to be all into it and stuff, but as you can see...my sig has shrunk drastically from its original hugeness. I think I speak for a lot of members when I say that it's not really a big deal and most don't really notice. Am I right?

Kurono
April 2nd, 2006, 11:06 AM
Yeah, of course you're right about that. But it just reminds me of everything going on IRL with real families and such. And it might get someone thinking, "What if my girlfriend/boyfriend is actually my cousin?"

Sucks to think about it.. :<

wakachamo
April 2nd, 2006, 11:12 AM
Interesting thought, though it's less dramatic than in real life, so I guess there's no biggy :<

Karasuma
April 2nd, 2006, 11:17 AM
Yes I've seen problems like that, a sister married her step-brother IMO and a cousin has married his aunt or uncle. Its fun to post families, but it gets confusing as you add more peeps in your family. Maybe we should only allow ourselves to have the usual: Bro,Sis,Dad,Mom. Great thinking Kurono, I would like to hear what others think about this.

Hantsuki
April 2nd, 2006, 04:24 PM
I agree with your thought on this Kurono-kun. I don't really have to be worried about this and everything because I don't have a family or a pair and I really don't care about all of that stuff anymore. I used to have a huge sig with a whole family and everything, but as blackheart said, all this family and pairing stuff is basically sig filler and so it's nothing to be really worried about.

Also, this being a forum and no real life makes it more simple since this only just for fun and nothing serious is going on. However, it does get people thinking when they don't have much else to do *cough* and they finally realize that their pair is an actual family member which may seem wrong to some people. Plus, it is possible for some members to have messed up families because one member has a brother and the brother has a sister and a brother and the other brother doesn't have a sister even though their brother has one.

Basically, this whole confusing thing will just have to be up to the members that want to deal with it. But it's a good idea if people don't randomly PM members they don't even know and ask them to be a part of their family so their sig isn't so empty.

Zorua
April 2nd, 2006, 04:30 PM
Yeah, of course you're right about that. But it just reminds me of everything going on IRL with real families and such. And it might get someone thinking, "What if my girlfriend/boyfriend is actually my cousin?"

Sucks to think about it.. :<


I had a strange feeling that you were getting bothered by it all along Kurono. As for my thoughts, I disturbs me only by a small amount by the idea of pairing and marrying. Besides, the thing isn't really that bad. Though it is your opinion, so I won't argue with ya. My final answer would be it disturbs me by a small amount. To find out that my pair is actually a RL relative of mine. >.>;

Kurono
April 2nd, 2006, 04:40 PM
*is guilty of randomly PMing unknown people*

Well, that was a long time ago, and I'm done with adding random people to my "family"..

I understand that families are just there as sig-fillers and such, but it gets...strange.. I'm thinking I'm just a little too active here at PC.. =\

I had a strange feeling that you were getting bothered by it all along Kurono. As for my thoughts, I disturbs me only by a small amount by the idea of pairing and marrying. Besides, the thing isn't really that bad. Though it is your opinion, so I won't argue with ya. My final answer would be it disturbs me by a small amount. To find out that my pair is actually a RL relative of mine. >.>;

Well, I'm surprised you didn't notice earlier because of my constant use of "Ew, incest". XD

DragonTrainer
April 2nd, 2006, 04:46 PM
Haha, PC hilbillies sounds too funny to be true.

Kurosaki
April 2nd, 2006, 04:49 PM
All I really have to say is: PC =/= Real life. It's a Pokemon forum for crying out loud, what the heck does it matter? Oo;

Zorua
April 2nd, 2006, 04:52 PM
*is guilty of randomly PMing unknown people*

Well, that was a long time ago, and I'm done with adding random people to my "family"..

I understand that families are just there as sig-fillers and such, but it gets...strange.. I'm thinking I'm just a little too active here at PC.. =\



Well, I'm surprised you didn't notice earlier because of my constant use of "Ew, incest". XD

I didn't Pay attention. Sorry Mr.Kun XD

I'm quite suprised I didn't notice it earlier

Lily
April 2nd, 2006, 04:53 PM
PC families have absolutely no affiliation with IRL matters; it's mostly an affectionate/random term to convey a feeling of connection between members...unless, of course, some odd coincidences happen to come your way. o_x; I consider it a rare possibility. The idea itself isn't too common, either.

MegaDitto
April 2nd, 2006, 05:17 PM
It is very unlikely for that to happen. But it is very overrated in some cases with the ask the closest member you can the question of pairing and familes. More of familes than pairings. But it is something that can be taken in a serious matter if it is taken too far.

Lokhlan
April 2nd, 2006, 10:52 PM
Kudos to Kurono for such a funny thread. I can't tell if you were acting serious and trying to be funny or just being serious, either way, this thread is totally funny to me. The idea of various people at PC becoming family and the pairing, which in turn leaves them suseptable to incest is just hilarious. God bless PC. *happily sighs*

Kylie-chan
April 3rd, 2006, 12:56 AM
I've been in incestual pairingness three times before. o_O; I have about ten different fathers, direct and indirect, all of whom are my brothers and uncles and cousins and... XD However, I don't care, because they're not my real family. [At least... I hope not. That would be too creepy.]

Naminé
April 11th, 2006, 08:17 PM
I don't think that it produce too much problems... I know that SPPF got "pairings" as well, and probably other forums out there got similar relationships. With that in mind, people who join PC probably knows beforehand that pairing doesn't mean anything at all, and the two paired members are only good friends. People will realize that it's not true incest if it's only friends hanging a title out their door.

Doubt that people will feel neglected or is difficult to join PC too. I read some other new members like me who asked their way on how to join in a pairing or a family, and there are surprisingly a lot of staffs who answered and led the way.

Geometric-sama
April 13th, 2006, 08:34 AM
The problem is that you end up in massive families of people you don't know. It's the reason why I don't really involve myself in families anymore.... just the standard pair, twin and evil twin, and I guess I'm only close to my pair. It's silly, really.

Naminé
April 13th, 2006, 11:19 AM
Isn't the point of the massive family system getting members who don't know each other together so they can know more about each other later on? I always thought of it as a mean to group people together so they can know each other better; as if it's an "excuse" for icebreaking.

So, to me if you are involved in those pairings and family ties with people who you don't really know, the system is carrying out its role. (Some pairs are serious I suppose, but they are a minority.)

Garouga! Bare Your Fangs!
April 13th, 2006, 12:20 PM
At least this isn't real life. Example:

Your pair is one of your parents- A bit creepy at first, but you'll get over it
Your significant other is your cousin- Just. Plain. Freaky.

Aquacorde
April 13th, 2006, 01:35 PM
True. But I think that since PC families don't branch out so far anymore, this shouldn't be much of a problem. The rules have changed so you should have only the basic mother, father, sister(s), and brother(s).

aRedMoon
April 13th, 2006, 01:48 PM
...I have to "lol" at this.

At one time, me and JA were paired and siblings. :O

And we had a baby.

...fun times <3

Kalylia
April 13th, 2006, 03:26 PM
I think we're reading WAAAY too in to this. Pairs and Families are just something fun to have around here at PC. You're family IS NOT really your family, they're just a group of super-close friends that you think of as an extended family. Part of your home-away-from-home. Incestual pairings? Well, it's kinda hard to be incest with people you're NOT really related to.

Just let it go. There isn't anything funny or concern-inducing about it. It's just fun and a way to show affection. I know that before ~Ozy~ and I paired, we would have been brother/sister. (At least, if we actually named our PC Family). But now, we're paired. In fact, I think that some of the most memorable, strongest pair on PC start out as those close-friend bonds that are often labled "brother/sister" here.

My suggestion is to have fun with it and show your affection to your friends. If we all let ourselves show our affection more, I think the world would have a lot less problems.

Suki
April 14th, 2006, 08:32 AM
I think it's kinda stupid to have a family on PC but that's just my opinion. I did use to think it was a good idea, but when I actually think about it, everyone here is probably related to one another. And I've seen how PC families can cause such a big deal, because my friend found out that he couldn't get married to his pair because she was his sister??? I think it's ridiculous IMO.

Lucid-Acid
April 14th, 2006, 03:16 PM
I’d like to add to your concerns by reminding you that Andy is his own grandpa, just because I can.

Drifblim
April 15th, 2006, 03:13 AM
Kudos to Kurono for such a funny thread. I can't tell if you were acting serious and trying to be funny or just being serious, either way, this thread is totally funny to me. The idea of various people at PC becoming family and the pairing, which in turn leaves them suseptable to incest is just hilarious. God bless PC. *happily sighs*It was serious, but due to the variations of families and pair-ups that have resulted, it does turn out rather funny.

With that being said, the family system is comparable to a friend list. In contrast to having a long, pell-mell list of friends on your profile, however, families often are more closely knit, barring the fact that some have never even heard of each other. They're the ones that you more often than not have the assurance that you'll get a reply from in the conversational atmosphere. Yet you have to liaise to be part of it, and you can include just about everybody and give them just about any disposition you please — there's one family in which Kylie-chan is a grandmother!

Pairs, though, are figments of infatuation in my opinion that tend to fizzle out after a period of time. Often they do not work out — and it surprises me how emotionally rent some people are about dissolution of a pair — and in cases like Kelsey and Jorge, they mesh very well. It's a rarity, however, that they ever turn serious beyond the computer screen; yet, I know on PKMN.NET there was a hullabaloo about a new member and a (now retired) moderator pairing, engaging, and later having a baby.

Yukimura
April 18th, 2006, 01:43 AM
Well i really don't findit odd.
With a pair thread and family thread it was going ot happen.
really just way to have fun on a forum so i find nothing odd about it.
I also find it funny. I manr to think out all the links with family and pairs.
Also can take awhile towork out all the links and lines.
Don't think can really get bothered. This is not real life or real blood lines after all.

pokejungle
April 19th, 2006, 04:50 PM
I think we should revamp the system, honestly.

It needs a restart anyways.

Drifblim
April 19th, 2006, 06:40 PM
Better yet, make that revamp a big integration. We'll expand on the favourite Pokémon and Friends list and have members tap in their bishounen, and then let them tap in their pair and associate them as such. Meh, loads of grubby hacking work.

Geometric-sama
April 19th, 2006, 09:38 PM
...I have to "lol" at this.

At one time, me and JA were paired and siblings. :O

And we had a baby.

...fun times <3
Not just siblings, but twins <3

And our baby got kidnapped ;_;

I’d like to add to your concerns by reminding you that Andy is his own grandpa, just because I can.
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