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Kura
September 20th, 2006, 01:32 PM
Um.. I decided to start a new topic for OC~ X3;;

Internet friends.. are they really considered friends? ._. What makes them so different that some people don't refer to them as friends?
Can you really fall in love over the internet? Especially if you've never even seen the other person before?

Voice your opinions~

I know a supposed internet friend of mine was debating with me (and quite a few others) over internet friendship. This "friend" kept telling me that internet friends aren't your true friends.. yet I love some of my OL friends very much~ There are a few OL friends I'd take a bullet for.. and there are a few who care more about me over the internet, than many do IRL~

So what do you think about Internet relationships?

Squeegee Beckenheim
September 20th, 2006, 01:58 PM
Well, I probably could write a huge article over my opinion, but I am not. I am going to be brief and to the direct point!

I believe that you can be very close to an internet friend if you want to be close to them. There should always be limits as you know. I am in a situation in which, I don't have many friend offline. So like my best friend, Paul, I treat him just like a real friend even though I can't see him.

You just have to do and feel the way you want in this situation. There are two sides, and I don't personally believe you could say which one of right or not.

Kura
September 20th, 2006, 02:03 PM
Well, I probably could write a huge article over my opinion, but I am not. I am going to be brief and to the direct point!

I believe that you can be very close to an internet friend if you want to be close to them. There should always be limits as you know. I am in a situation in which, I don't have many friend offline. So like my best friend, Paul, I treat him just like a real friend even though I can't see him.

You just have to do and feel the way you want in this situation. There are two sides, and I don't personally believe you could say which one of right or not.

Yeah, I feel the same. I do have quite a few real life friends.. but I think my bestest friend is an online one. It's just that, during a time, certain circumstances arose, and he really was the only one there for me, and the only one who was concerned or seemed to care~
I have a best friend in real life, too~ But I see both these two friends as equally both my best friends~ <3

I could write a book on my opinion, too~ And I could rant on and on about what one person said to me and how they tried to change my entire outlook on friends just because he wanted me to back him up and he wanted to be right all the time >>; He basically thought that only his opinion mattered, and would put others down just to prove that he was right.
(long story~)

Amachi
September 20th, 2006, 02:30 PM
Well I myself used to believe that there was no such things as internet friends, that it wasn't possible.

But that was before I started talking more to people I didn't know on the net.

And, after an argument with one that I got along really well with, I learnt that these relationships do exist .... that you can have friends. Because as long as you can transmit your emotions, whether it be via smilie (:P), words, or something else, you can always have a bond with somebody.

A bond that is real cause emotions are there.

....

However, I try to downsize the amount of people I talk to on the net who I see everyday, cause it bugs me that you could talk to them on the net heaps, but when you see them you might not even mutter out a hello. But I think that's just petty of me.

MegaDitto
September 20th, 2006, 02:44 PM
A difference between internet friends and real friends is that internet friends won't make as much of a impact in your life as a real life friend could.

They are still friends either way. Just different ways of communication.

Kura
September 20th, 2006, 02:50 PM
A difference between internet friends and real friends is that internet friends won't make as much of a impact in your life as a real life friend could.

They are still friends either way. Just different ways of communication.

Not necessarily. I take to heart what my closest internet friends say to me.
I have about 3 internet friends whom I trust just as much as IRL friends (if not more in come cases)
I've known them for 2-3 years, now~ And I feel that I'm very close to them.

They impact me a lot more than a lot of my real life friends do, because we share experiences and advice daily. Whether it be through emails, MSN, or even letters in the mail.

So I wouldn't think there'd be a difference there, but that's just my opinion~
And yeah, it is different ways of communication~ I guess I just see words the same way as speech. This is probably because I believe that, either way, these words are thoughts that are generated by the other person. No matter which way they express these thoughts, it still reflects through them.

Kayleigh
September 20th, 2006, 02:58 PM
I definitely believe that (most) of the good friendships that you make online are real--I finally had a chance to meet a wonderful friend of mine from England, who came to visit me with her family this year. We had talked over the internet (as well as on the phone) for nearly 4 years, but I still didn't know what to expect when I finally got to meet her.

It turned out, she was exactly the same as she was online in real life, and we had so much fun together! =3 We never ran out of things to talk about, had a great time doing things that we both loved, such as drawing, and found out that we were just perfect friends. Even though we live really far away from each other, I still feel closer to her than all my real life friends--not counting family members, of course.

Sometimes it's nicer to have some good online friends, because that way you can get to know someone for who they really are. (As long as you're not talking to some pedophile. O_o But what I mean is people that you know you can trust.) You can easily find people that share the same interests as you, etc. (Which I definitely have trouble with in real life. XD There aren't many teens my age who still like Pokémon around here...) I'm not saying that I don't enjoy spending time with my real life friends--it's just that I appreciate the ones I have online just as much. Even if I haven't met them, I've known them long enough to get to know them personally, and find out about their lives and everything.

So, I believe--and know from experience--that if you get to know someone well enough online, and if you really enjoy talking to that person, then you can call them your true friend. <3 That's just what I think.

Sylphiel
September 20th, 2006, 03:08 PM
A difference between internet friends and real friends is that internet friends won't make as much of a impact in your life as a real life friend could.
That would vary from person to person, though. There's someone I originally met online (I've since met him in person several times, though) with whom it would be a complete lie to say he hasn't had some sort of impact on me; he's the one that made me feel generally happier about myself, and made me feel like I had more worth than before.

Anyways, I think the idea that internet friends aren't "real friends" might come from the fact that on the internet it's easier than normal to spoof who you are; it's easy for people to feign emotions, personalities, and even looks. That's my guess, anyways. Kinda reminds me of the time my mom railed against me a few years ago and told me that "you may think you're talking to other people, but you're not, you're actually talking to computers!"

(Though I heard nothing more about that from her when she saw, a few weeks later, the cards and even cookies that I'd received from various people I'd met over the internet, heh.)

My line of thought is that a friend is a friend. As long as I feel I can trust them, then just because I have to talk to them through media such as email, instant messages, and whatnot, that doesn't make them any less worthy of a "friend" status in my eyes.

Chikara
September 20th, 2006, 03:18 PM
If I wanted, I could write for hours on how stupid you have to be to subject yourself to that. I have a friend who has a 'relationship' with a guy who dosnt even think of her as a girlfriend. SHE is still convinced that its a relationship though.

And when we became well...not friends, ill say... it was automaticly my fault for some strange and distorted reason...even though I didnt do anything...oh well, I just think its stupid. Thats my opinion.

Kura
September 20th, 2006, 03:33 PM
If I wanted, I could write for hours on how stupid you have to be to subject yourself to that. I have a friend who has a 'relationship' with a guy who dosnt even think of her as a girlfriend. SHE is still convinced that its a relationship though.

And when we became well...not friends, ill say... it was automaticly my fault for some strange and distorted reason...even though I didnt do anything...oh well, I just think its stupid. Thats my opinion.

Subject yourself to what? Internet friends?

You know people could lie in real life about relationships, too~
There are cheaters, and twotimes everywhere out there.
Even in real life that situation could be possible. So it's just something that can occur online.

There are people who think they know someone so well IRL, and that they know that this other person loves them. Then they find out that they've been leaving a double life. Or have another two girlfriends~ etc~

You can't just say that so vaguely~

Chikara
September 20th, 2006, 03:42 PM
Naw, I was talking about relationships, I misunderstood the thred, sorry about that ^^'

But I wasnt trying to, I just said I dont think its extremely smart for a person to start a relationship online. Cause when they dont work out, then that person will probibly blame someone elce. Just what I think though..

Kura
September 20th, 2006, 03:45 PM
Naw, I was talking about relationships, I misunderstood the thred, sorry about that ^^'

But I wasnt trying to, I just said I dont think its extremely smart for a person to start a relationship online. Cause when they dont work out, then that person will probibly blame someone elce. Just what I think though..


Ah~ it's okay~

:3 And fair enough~
X3 Everyone's entitled to their own opinion~ I was just curious to know what others think about online relationships (friends or more than friends) X3;;~

Drifblim
September 22nd, 2006, 04:23 AM
It's different between sorts of people. I don't have that many friends in the real world; in fact, if I didn't have a job, nobody would care less, but now that I work frequently at a store I'm able to chat up all of the customers regardless of their age or heritage about their lives, world events, or personal opinions of the present. Of course, many of them are seniors.

Online, I have a fair few. The people here are some of them. Personally I've always considered them tantamount to anyone I know in real life.

Dawson
September 23rd, 2006, 09:08 AM
To me, online friends rank equally as real life friends in my life. In fact, my most trusted friends are ones I've met online.

The big negative of online friendships to me though is that friendships take longer to build online than in real life. I think it's a mix of the fact that I don't trust people easily and when you can't see the person you're talking to, it's very easily for them to lie and, thus, I tend to be a lot more defensive at first. As well as that, with people online, all you can do is talk. You can't build bonds through activities and other stuff you can do IRL so you have to rely solely on talking.

On the plus side, you'll never lose your online friends. No matter where you move to in the world, as long as you have access to the internet, you'll always have contact with your online friends. The same can't be said for friends in real life. I just wish I could get online more to chat with my online friends ._.

As for falling in love on the internet, you can only answer that when you've actually experienced first hand. So I say "yes" ;)

Cherrim
September 24th, 2006, 06:07 PM
Even though I tend to split my friends into categories like "online" friends and "IRL" or "offline" friends, I consider them perfectly equal.

For example, I've known Andy (Arcanine) for years now and, though we've never met, I still consider him one of my best friends. Same goes for a lot of the peropls I've met online, actually, since I've been through a lot with them (virtual or not) and we've built up a good friendship over the course of time. Whether I can physically see or touch them is a moot point; that friendship is still there. I still laugh out loud when I talk to them through MSN, I worry about them when they're going through something tough, and I know I can talk to them about anything since they're there for me--it shouldn't matter whether or not I can see them daily in real life.

I've always hated labelling people as "best friends" and whatnot, since that's basically favouritism and I hate that. But if I really had to choose one person to get that title, that person would be one of my online friends. I...can't talk to her anymore, but she's still my best friend regardless; recently when she came back from a rather long absence, we were basically able to pick up talking right where we'd left off. It was as if she hadn't been gone at all...and you know what? That's exactly what happened with one of my "offline" friends. She was more or less the best friend type before I had to move, and even once I had moved, whenever we visited each other after that (once a year), it's the same thing. It's like neither of us were separated at all. So...if it's like that for IRL friends AND online friends, there really isn't too much of a difference, is there?

People have said that it's not the same because you can't see the person. Sure, that can often make it a lot harder to forge bonds, but that doesn't mean it's impossible. It's harder to trust people on the internet, yes, but I don't see it as a major barrier. I trust a lot of my friends and even if they did turn out to be not who they said they were (quite a few now-close friends were like that a few years back), there's often a fair amount of their true personality that was evident before, so it's not that much of a set back all the time. (I've been talking with some people...6 or 7 years now? Usually when you know someone that long, you find out that the person they claimed to be when you first "met" them isn't how they really are...like a lot of people will fake their age, location, or even gender.)

Um...I think I may just be rambling now, but this kind of sparked my reply in the first place:
On the plus side, you'll never lose your online friends. No matter where you move to in the world, as long as you have access to the internet, you'll always have contact with your online friends. The same can't be said for friends in real life. I just wish I could get online more to chat with my online friends ._.
That's incredibly true. When I moved here from Nova Scotia about five years ago, if it weren't for the internet friends that "moved" with me, I'm not sure how well off I'd be, or even if I'd be here at all. (I hated it here when I moved. o_o;) But since there was some sense of normalcy in a new place, even if it was just talking to people I knew online, it really, really helped.

Won't even go into online relationships right now, though. =x

mistywishmaker
September 24th, 2006, 07:35 PM
I think that on the internet, people aren't afraid to show their real personalities, and that's when people with the same interests get together and become what you call "online friends." I've had some email pals and forum members become close friends, and I've never even seen them. <3

Eureka1
September 26th, 2006, 12:41 PM
i met my girlfriend on the internet :P just talked for about 4 months then i felt odd <_< so i told her and she said the same so i was like woo

7 months together now ^_^

shame she lives 60 miles away or i'd see her a lot more often but i love her..

i dont think that you could love someone you know well tbh :P friends wise though shes my best and i came to know her on the internet so internet friends are great

i have about 20 decent internet friends from denmark, holland, australia, america, china and even some from japan

^_____________________________________^

also when i leave school i think ill still communicate with my friends over the internet so would they become internet friends?

Forever
September 30th, 2006, 09:00 PM
I think if they make you laugh, and make you smile they still can be friends. Im happy just talking to them and each day I look forward to talking to them. It's not like I could go to the shops and go talk to them..even if they did live in the same city. They are better friends than real life ones. But I wouldn't go all out to meet them.

<3 simpsonqueen

-:Buro-kun Tsubasa:-
September 30th, 2006, 10:51 PM
Net friends are harder to fall out with. They are easier to make aswell.

Yoko-Chan
October 1st, 2006, 06:36 AM
You cannot fall inlove with a person you never have seen before, that makes no sense at all.
I got ALOT of friends over the internet, It's nice because I don't have so much friends in the real life.

Eureka1
October 1st, 2006, 06:52 AM
You cannot fall in love with a person you never have seen before, that makes no sense at all.

doesnt make sense but it happens ^_~

Yoko-Chan
October 1st, 2006, 12:01 PM
doesnt make sense but it happens ^_~

In that case, If you finally get to see the person on a webcam, and you discover It's a fat, ugly, hairy person then you probably would have been sick right? xD
I know I would <.<
I know It's the soul of a person that matters the most, but you get my point, eh?

Kura
October 1st, 2006, 03:45 PM
In that case, If you finally get to see the person on a webcam, and you discover It's a fat, ugly, hairy person then you probably would have been sick right? xD
I know I would <.<
I know It's the soul of a person that matters the most, but you get my point, eh?

Yeah, but some people can look past that. Some people don't really care what the other person might look like because the beauty that lies inside shines too brightly~

You love the soul that lies inside the person.

You're making it seem that love is shallow~ Sure, some people need phyical attraction to the other person, but others wouldn't mind what the other looks like.

Amachi
October 1st, 2006, 03:54 PM
When you talk to someone over the net, you are communicating with them - just in a different manner.

Sure, you may not be able to communicate every thing to them, like you facial expressions or tine of voice, but once again, you are talking to them.

The fact that's it's a person on the other computer is sufficent enough to start a genuine relationship.

Of course, you'll probably have to work at it, but yeah.

Again, it's personal preference.

Also, think about this - have you ever been insulted by someone online? Well, if you think that love can't exist on the net, then how can hate and disgust?

Pikachu_Charizard
October 2nd, 2006, 12:12 AM
I don`t think love can exist over the net unless you know the person in person.

Yoko-Chan
October 2nd, 2006, 05:53 AM
You're making it seem that love is shallow

sorry didn't mean It that way ;_;
am not that good In explaining things ._.
I just mean that love is an incredibly strong feeling, and It sounds impossible to love someone over the net o.O
I have a person that I care DEEPLY much about, but I'm not sure that I love her o.O
Love is such a strong word to me, I guess It's just that.

Chuchino
October 2nd, 2006, 12:30 PM
Hmm... I think of online friends like any other friends!

The only difference between IRL friends and net friends is that it's easier to pretend to be someone you're not over the computer. You have more time to think of proper responses and even fake a reaction, and that's the only thing I'd worry about. That and you can't interact with them face to face, which can always be helped by phones and webcams and that sort of thing ^.^

Of course, it's not wise to go saying " I live on so-and-so street in Savannah, Georgia" the first day you meet someone ^^U

There are plenty of people I know online that I consider my best friends, and they've been people who've there to support me when I felt bad and help me out.

I <3 them!

Eureka1
October 2nd, 2006, 12:43 PM
lol i never use webcam i dunno why :P phones are like.. amazing though ^_~ and love is an incredibly strong feeling to have and its also the most amazing feeling to have ^_^

also people who pretend over the internet are stupid, i really don't see the point :P

net friends are great imho the only truely real one i have was the one i fell in love with :P luckily it was a girl xP i have lots of people on forums i consider friends though ^_~ (this topic is cool lol)

Flabébé
October 2nd, 2006, 01:15 PM
Like everyone, this can be wrote about for hours. In my opinion, ofcourse you can have internet friends. In fact, I would rather have internet friends because its really hard to find something to argue about. You can't argue about who stole who gf or what ever.
Can you fall in love? Possibly. You can get to know someone very well, and fall in love with what you know. Is it the entire true? Most likely not. But I beleive it is possible.

Lord Mike
October 7th, 2006, 05:35 AM
You need internet friends and real friends. Real friends to live reality, and internet friends to turn to when you have trouble living reality. Can you have a internet girlfriend? Yes. Can you always trust anyone? Its probably hard to. In gernal, to be well-rounded, you need both if you want to learn social skills. With Internet friends, though, you can stay friends because even if you move far away, they will still be on PC, MySpace, or what have you.

Razer302
October 7th, 2006, 05:45 AM
i dont really have many internet freinds. i mainly talk to people that i see at school or people that i no.

Lord Mike
October 7th, 2006, 09:29 AM
Well, that's fine too, but its good to have both.

Anacortes
October 12th, 2006, 10:08 PM
I barely have any friends in real life, so naturally my life is the internet. Personally, I find it easier to talk with online friends at times. For some reason, it's just harder to make friends in real life. Or maybe it's just me.

~*!*~Tatsujin Gosuto~*!*~
October 25th, 2006, 02:56 PM
I have alot of friends in real life. But I don't consider internet friends as real friends. I might ask them for a favor (mostly on myspace), but loving a person online I think that its stupid because you never met face to face with that person

:t093:~*!*~Queen Boo~*!*~

Pikachu_Charizard
October 25th, 2006, 10:04 PM
You can`t fall in love with a person over the net. You have to meet them.

~*!*~Tatsujin Gosuto~*!*~
October 26th, 2006, 03:12 AM
Yea thats what I'm saying because if you fall in love with that person and you say that you want to meet with that person, then when you meet that person. There is a good chance of you getting raped. Thats what happens alot of the times

:t093:~*!*~Queen Boo~*!*~

Drifblim
October 26th, 2006, 04:15 AM
You can`t fall in love with a person over the net. You have to meet them.There's an argument to be made by one of our mods (Kelsey) against that.

Xhaiden
October 26th, 2006, 09:31 AM
I do not know if this has been said yet or not because even though I have read the thread I am half dead. Anyway, I think that in some cases, meeting people online and getting to know them that way is better then meeting them in real life. This is because you cannot make a whole bunch of assumptions about them based on looks and such. It allows you to know parts of that person that they normally do not show to the world. For instance, I am far more open online then I am IRL. In fact I am known better by my online friends then my RL ones. And then when you actually meet this person and he or she turns out to be not as you expected, you are generally able to over look that because they are still essentially that same person that you befriended.

On the opposite end of the spectrum, you could end up speaking with someone who is lying about who they are and in the end they could hurt you pretty bad if you aren't careful. This is why it is good to be careful about who you open yourself up to. -shrugs- I agree with alot of you though that some of the most important people in my life right now are online. It's all about taking risks and whether you are willing to deal with the after math of it.

As for the falling in love thing, one first must know what falling in love is. A crush is not falling in love despite the thousands of feelings that a person gets from them. People are often mistaken by these feelings and claim to be in love. However, it is possible becuase a very close friend of mine met a man online whom she had never seen or met and they spoke to each other over the course of several years until one day they met. They have been married for five years now and are a better couple then most.

Drummershuff
October 26th, 2006, 09:39 AM
Yea thats what I'm saying because if you fall in love with that person and you say that you want to meet with that person, then when you meet that person. There is a good chance of you getting raped. Thats what happens alot of the times

:t093:~*!*~Queen Boo~*!*~
Actually, it doesn't happen "a lot of the time". We only hear about people meeting each other when they've been raped or something. You don't hear about all the good times people have had with meeting online people, do you? Also, if you're scared about meeting some you've met online, why not take someone along with you? I've kind of arranged to meet someone in England when I got over next summer. Our parents know about us so we've done it so that our parents will go along with us the first time, and if everything is okay we'll be left to get on with it ourselves...

Pikachu_Charizard
October 26th, 2006, 01:58 PM
But still it would be risky . But then life is boring without a risk.

Ullion
November 5th, 2006, 08:27 PM
I to be honest, prob have more friends Online then offline. Mainly cuz everyone i know in RL treat me like crap, but the ones i have made online, well sometimes they do, but mostly they don't. I prob have mroe friends on JUST PC then i do in RL. Then again, i can be rude in real lfie, without meaning it, so i guess that is also why.

I've had diablo2 for a few years now, (A game that can be played online) and i made like 5 friends the first few weeks. And you know what was weird, they knew like, so much about me within a short time, at first we were great friends, but then i got bored of the game adn quit. Came back, and they like,well, they all grew up (and i didn't) so everything is like, awkward. But i still consider them great friends, because they are, well, i really don't know how to explain it, but they REALLY REALLY are friends, and i felt bad for leaving them *sigh* oh well.

And there was also a strange thing that happened, on MSN some random person added me, and we talked, and well, she was like, prob the best friend i ever ahd, she was actually kidn of ncie towards me, so i think friends online are prob the best. And also, if you don't know the person, they prob don't know you either, and so you can be yourself, and if they make fun of you, then you can leave em' ;P and it prob wouldnt hurt as much cuz you don't actually know them, so well.. what can they do?

lol, i know, i don't think i made myslef 100% clear on this, so acutally trying to understand it might be kidan difficult XD

Blastoise
November 5th, 2006, 10:09 PM
Internet friends. School friends. It's all classification based upon where you first met the person...a regular "friend" is just someone that you don't associate with a certain place or thing. They're just the same, you just remember where your first place of meeting was, or where you interact with them most often.

A friend met on the Internet has no more or less merit than a friend met elsewhere, but it's often difficult to tell friend from foe...but if you're patient and get to know them, in all of likelihood, you will be able to take down much of your defenses and converse with them normally. I usually give this about a year...so my true "online friends" and my "online buds" are separate to me.

I also have a philosophy about fights between online friends. The Internet is a place intended to be useful, sure, but it's also meant to make its users happy...so why should you let this negative influence from someone whose face you've never even seen before bother you? Take in positive influences; the Internet is one of the few things in life that allows you to filter such things, so seize this chance.

Loyal Arcanine
November 9th, 2006, 10:36 AM
I've met somebody on the internet with whom I can talk better than with any of my real life friends. I can talk about anything anytime, without feeling uncomfortable or whatever. With my real life friends that is often not the case.

xcutedivisionx
November 24th, 2006, 11:05 AM
Ok, so I believe in friends over the internet, but relationships are kind of hard for me. Like you've never met them before and who knows, you never know if they are lying about who they are of whatever. I mean how can you trust them. Or maybe they want you to get them trust, and then when you think you are in a so called "relationship" with this person, some may ask if you wanna meet. Well then what hapens then? What is you've never had a bf/gf before and you are desperate to meet them because they just said the words "i love you" and know you believe you are in love? No, you aren't. Possibly when someone says they wanna meet you, it is an online "POSER". they just want to get you and possibly rape or hurt you. But hey, thats just my feelings... =]

bna_li
December 1st, 2006, 11:07 PM
Er... nah. But it's only me.

I mean, I can't even love my family even though I see them everyday? So, yeah...

Whuddaf
December 10th, 2006, 05:11 PM
Internet friends are like a yummy stack of off-white hummus.

That's probably the best analogy I can think of.

Lavabyle
December 10th, 2006, 06:19 PM
Well, there really are no limits to friendship, you just need to know when its going to far. If you're going on online dates or something, you need help xD
Anyways, some people act differently online than in real life. You don't know how violent, gullible, etc. they are, because everyone is pretty much equal online. Besides, in real life bonds tend to be stronger, because you share the same community, the same gossip, and the same things happen to the both of you throughout the day. All in all, friends are friends, its just real life friends are easier to sustain than online ones in my opinion.

Nariko
December 11th, 2006, 10:20 AM
I used to have a bunch of online friends, but now I only have like, one or two of them. I do agree that you can care for an online friend as much as you can for a real friend for the most part though.

Tensaiji
December 11th, 2006, 01:53 PM
I guess it's my turn.:classic:
_____________________________

I believe that there is no such thing as "internet friends". I only have friends that I know IRL and have a computer. I know these 2 girls that were real good friends with each other and both had a crush on me. Problem is, I never seen these 2 girls IRL and only in pictures. 1 Was my cousin's friend while the other was her friend. They considered me as a "friend", butI never did. I told 1 that I never liked her and she started bugging out. The other 1 thought I was her "freind" until I mentioned her the truth. They both kept bothering me, so I blocked them from my computer and now I erased them from my life.

Hawkie
December 12th, 2006, 06:21 AM
Heh. This is an extremely interesting topic... I like it.

Friends - Online friends are possible. Though move with caution. An experienced net user will know danger signs, as you are able to read a LOT between the lines. Believe it or not, the way one person writes says a lot about their personality, your mood and whatnot. Straight-to-the-point writing with no smilies or no personalization can be seen as emotionless or very formal. So to a degree you can see who a person is, as you need to concentrate to act (write) things that don't apply to you. ^-^
This is what I experienced at last, and I've been in countless communities since '01.

As for friends you make there ... It is possible. As to a degree you know them. Yet, you ought to be careful. Especially if you get popular, then, just as IRL, people suck up to you for the fame. Has happened to me. =/
These people are also real and can be seen on an equal level of RL friends. I've found that the friends I make have stuck by me through fire and flames, and we've talked through the phone and exchanged letters, among some things. So as with RL best friends, there can be loyalty.
Of course there are always the people who are out after you, but damnit, use your judgement!

Love, is another matter. And take this from one who is in a long distance relationship and is serious about it. It's hard, yes. It's difficult, yes. And it's an odd thought that the one you care for is miles upon miles away.
And how can you say that because one person says "I love you", you instantly believe them? I've been in such relationship twice, and my first one was total crap. The guy said these words and I believed him, and cared for him, but heck, it wasn't love, and the reason I said "I love you" back was to make him feel better, not myself.

As for how you know who they are... Webcams and voice convos tell you a lot. Also I didn’t get together with the first person I met... Wasn't even planning on getting into another long distance relationship (but things happen)... but after a half year with a lot of talking and many hilarious events (plus a lot of serious talking, where both of us gave the other insight in each other's lives, feelings and thoughts), then things happened.

The things about looks is okay as well. I have to say that it doesn't matter. You do create mental pictures, but when seeing a picture for the first time, for me it was a matter of getting rid of my first mental image of the person and replacing it with the picture. And no matter the looks.
These eyes of my beloved make up for it by tenfolds! Or so I say... And as for furthermore, I know two couples that met this way, and they're fine now. One of them are married, the other have plans of moving together.

Just my little input ^-^

22sa
December 12th, 2006, 06:57 AM
You can`t fall in love with a person over the net. You have to meet them.I have fallen for someone online before, but nobody offline. O_o

Anyways, most of the friends I enjoy are online, but a lot of them are inactive right now, so I can't enjoy myself to the fullest yet. ;-;

bna_li
December 14th, 2006, 04:59 AM
I'm a shallow guy, so even if you were nice, or whatever, it wouldn't be enough.