I'm in need of assistance (For the love of God, read this!!)
Posted June 30th, 2012 at 12:30 PM by PEDRO12
Alright, so I'm having girl/love problems :(. Speaking of girl problems, I just noticed that every problem someone has, involves the opposite sex directly, lol.
Anyways, I'm going to give you the full story so you can feel what I feel. This guy is my very very very close friend. I've known him for a long time, and you could call us best friends, we're doing stuff together all the time.
We used to be in the same private school together two years ago. Of course, he then moved to a public school, and we found that the people attending that school were great. We kinda made friends with all of them, and about 8 month ago, my friend introduced me to this girl.
Over the past 8 month, I've come to know this girl a lot. I've also grown very fond of her. Let me tell you, she's the perfect girl. She's beautiful from the outside AND the inside. She has the kindest heart, she's funny and nice, sweat and adorable, helping and friendly... Regardless of how attractive she is, she's not arrogant or self-centered at all, and she's very modest and humble.
About a week ago, I realized something. I'm in love with her. Not only in love, but obsessed as well. So I went to my friend's house and asked him if she was as great as I saw her to be, and he said she was even better. This is when I hit a cross-roads, and I've been stuck there ever since.
I'm leaving the country towards Texas on the 22nd of July, that gives me roughly 3 weeks, and then I'll be thousands of miles away from her.
For the love of God, does someone have a solution?
Anyways, I'm going to give you the full story so you can feel what I feel. This guy is my very very very close friend. I've known him for a long time, and you could call us best friends, we're doing stuff together all the time.
Spoiler:
We used to be in the same private school together two years ago. Of course, he then moved to a public school, and we found that the people attending that school were great. We kinda made friends with all of them, and about 8 month ago, my friend introduced me to this girl.
Spoiler:
Over the past 8 month, I've come to know this girl a lot. I've also grown very fond of her. Let me tell you, she's the perfect girl. She's beautiful from the outside AND the inside. She has the kindest heart, she's funny and nice, sweat and adorable, helping and friendly... Regardless of how attractive she is, she's not arrogant or self-centered at all, and she's very modest and humble.
About a week ago, I realized something. I'm in love with her. Not only in love, but obsessed as well. So I went to my friend's house and asked him if she was as great as I saw her to be, and he said she was even better. This is when I hit a cross-roads, and I've been stuck there ever since.
I'm leaving the country towards Texas on the 22nd of July, that gives me roughly 3 weeks, and then I'll be thousands of miles away from her.
- On one side, I could ask her out, tell her I love her, and wish for the best. Of course, I've done my homework, and although she's not killing herself over me, she still likes me quite a lot, and she's single. I'd place my money on her saying yes, but then what? I'm leaving for Christ sake, and I'm not coming back till I finish med school and specialize in a field of medicine. I love her so much that I'd marry her when the time comes, but I can only marry her after finishing general med, so I can make a living. That means, we'd have to be engaged in a long-term, long-distance relationship for 8 years, and that'll almost definitely fail :( So bottom line is, I ask her out, and sometime down the road, there's a high chance I'll be heart-broken :(
- On the other side, I could just let go, swallow reality, and accept my fate. Of course, what that would mean is that I'd probably be heart-broken right now, and for a long time.
For the love of God, does someone have a solution?
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You haven't even dated her yet, how can you be so in love and ready for marriage already? o3o Even so though, if you like each other enough then you'll find a way to make it work through med school. Ask her now and you'll have three great weeks of being with her (assuming she says yes like you're expecting) but make sure she's aware of you going to med school for so long. Then if she likes you enough, you guys will make it work. And if it unfortunately doesn't work out, there'll be plenty more fish in the med school sea. c:Posted June 30th, 2012 at 12:41 PM by AlexOzzyCake 
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1- Like I said, I've know her for 8 month, and I go on every social trip of escape that the guys from the public school go to. I know her A LOT, like she's lived with me forever. Plus, if you knew how great she was in like, every manner, you'd understand how I could love her. This surpassed being a crush a long time ago, lol.
2- That's what I've been thinking, but it's still risky. I mean, it's reasonable that two people could make a long-distance relationship work for a couple years, but 8? Jeez, I was just wishing I could find a more precise solution.
Thanks though
Posted June 30th, 2012 at 12:45 PM by PEDRO12 
Updated June 30th, 2012 at 12:52 PM by PEDRO12 -
You might feel you're ready for a long-distance relationship, but that doesn't mean she is.
Let's assume you ask her and she says yes. The beginning of a relationship is usually a big high point and people think their love will outlast anything. If you ask her then for this kind of long-distance relationship she might not be able to think things so far ahead with a clear head. What I mean is, she might not be the kind of person who can do long distance, but it might take time for her to realize this. Time that she might be happier spending on a relationship she has in person with someone else, or on no relationships.
So, if you ask her then you should talk about the fact that sometimes people's needs can't be met because of the nature of the relationship.Posted June 30th, 2012 at 05:10 PM by Scarf
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Have you asked her how she feels about dating you if you're going away for 8 years? Kind of important, considering you're not the only person considering the relationship.Posted June 30th, 2012 at 06:50 PM by Toujours
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Yup, that's exactly the type of risk I'm talking aboutQuote:Let's assume you ask her and she says yes. The beginning of a relationship is usually a big high point and people think their love will outlast anything. If you ask her then for this kind of long-distance relationship she might not be able to think things so far ahead with a clear head. What I mean is, she might not be the kind of person who can do long distance, but it might take time for her to realize this. Time that she might be happier spending on a relationship she has in person with someone else, or on no relationships.
I'll take that into consideration, thanksQuote:So, if you ask her then you should talk about the fact that sometimes people's needs can't be met because of the nature of the relationship.
I'll definitely have to mention that, but I've yet too ask her out. When I make up my mind concerning this very, er, perplexing situation, I'll have to consider that. ThanksQuote:Have you asked her how she feels about dating you if you're going away for 8 years? Kind of important, considering you're not the only person considering the relationship.Posted June 30th, 2012 at 09:14 PM by PEDRO12
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**** bro she could be a succubus watch out m8 lolPosted June 30th, 2012 at 11:11 PM by Karpman
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That's something that I cannot help you with - I'm in a state that's similar to yours.Posted July 1st, 2012 at 01:56 AM by Blade_of_darkness
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Succubus: "A female demon supposed to descend upon and have sexual intercourse with a man while he sleeps".Quote:**** bro she could be a succubus watch out m8 lol
I kinda hope she is, lol :p
Wish you luck, and be careful, love is tricky and could go nuclear if you don't control it :pQuote:That's something that I cannot help you with - I'm in a state that's similar to yours.Posted July 1st, 2012 at 12:22 PM by PEDRO12
