Feeling a bit shafted on Pokecommunity.
I'm a little peeved and feel that no one's listening to me, and it's becoming pretty frustrating.
I feel like time after time, I give suggestions to the community, only to be pretty much shot down or told my idea is garbage- but when another member mentions the exact same thing, but maybe gives it another name or tweaks something so minor it is common sense, it revered as some amazing thing. And in the end I feel pretty insulted.
It's no one's fault, really. I really sincerely doubt anyone's doing it on purpose, but it's happening. I know it is pretty egotistic to feel pinpointed, in a way, but I also know you guys tell JustinRPG that if he ever feels the same way, he's welcome to contact staff about it. Well I wanted to let you all know that I'm feeling a similar way. I didn't want to take it to suggestions because it's not a problem or anything, but I wanted to get this off my chest.
I guess what set me off is just the past couple of things recently, and yesterday when Dipu gave the idea that we should have a sort of PC matchmaker thing- people could send in PMs and get almost paired up to get to know new members better and etc. Just in time for Valentines day! I like the idea too, and I mentioned the same thing back for the 10 Year PC Get-Together. No, no, don't get me wrong- I don't hold anything against Dipu, (sorry Dipu, I hope I don't make you feel uncomfortable by mentioning you!) there's such a thing as having the same/ a similar mindset or idea. However, I was a bit peeved when the DCC title was changed, calling attention to it, and then it seemed to be taken seriously. But the reason I was peeved isn't because mods aren't doing their jobs- on the contrary: I WANT stuff like this to get positive feedback and be put through as an event. It makes things really fun for the community. I guess I am peeved for selfish reasons, though. I don't like feeling that way, but I can't help it. Why did moderators tell me it wouldn't work then.. when now suddenly it's a grand idea? I feel.. I dunno.. like I'm not taken seriously for it. I mean, if this was a one-case scenario, I wouldn't mind. But it keeps happening. I know for sure mods aren't doing it on purpose too. I can't even think of a BAD reason why they'd want to do that, let alone a good reason.
Another case was when trying to give suggestions to OVP and OC, and I said I felt that some threads are really great and could be added to after a month of them being closed, so to extend it. (TBH I forget what exactly I said but it was pretty much along these lines.)
Got shot down for it by some staff.
Someone else tweaked my suggestion just by adding the fact that it could be for only popular topics. Great! I like that idea too.
Suddenly the same staff that shot me down say it's an amazing idea. I feel like.. woah.. wait, what just happened? That's a little unfair, isn't it? Not because their version got the attention, but that I was just so readily brushed aside without a second thought to what I wanted to contribute.
I don't get it. Suggestions are here to be built upon, not straightly shot down. It pains me a bit, because I want to contribute to the community, and I like to contribute to the community, but when I keep getting shot down, I get disheartened and feel like I don't even want to bother any longer. I feel like no one listens. Or like they see my username and just think "oh ppfftttt, what's she got to complain about now?"
Need a few other examples?
For how long have I said that the IRC needs a revamp, it needs to feel like part of Pokecommunity and right now it doesn't. It needed proper moderation- which it does now have for the most part, thankfully, but it's so dead now that the moderation isn't even being put to good use. I say, let's try and fix it! No, I get people disagreeing with me telling me it's impossible before trying. Please! I want to see it succeed!
Next was blog rules. Blogs needed stricter rules. People shouldn't be allowed to spam 5/6 blogs in a day. There's an edit button for that. People fought me for that. I left PC for a bit because of school, came back, and that blog rule is now in place. Why did you fight me about it then?! I don't get it!
Okay, then let me try to contribute in a new way. For PCX, I suggested a PC IRL get-together. Yeah, it was an out-there suggestion, but I thought, heck it's PCX, let me give it a shot. Staff told me that it may not be possible due to safety stuff and liabilities. That's fair enough. Totally understandable, and I get that. They then told me someone would get back to me. No one did. No one gets back to me. Do people just forget or something? I know I can have a really bad memory too but.. I feel pretty forgettable. Am I the forgettable thing?
I mean, as an example, I keep a lot of PMs, and going YEARS back, I remember even sending one to a high staff member, asking about a response; a reply back to a previous question I asked 2 weeks prior- I asked "could I have a PM back please?" The PM I got back was "Here you go."
Yeah, maybe in this case it's a really old instance, and it sounds like I'm holding a grudge but.. it was just a bit shocking to me, so it really stands out to me. For all I know, they could've completely forgotten I sent something weeks prior (even though to me it was serious) and thought they were being funny. I really don't know.. but I feel like I'm a joke sometimes, and I really don't like feeling this way.
Now I don't want to point fingers and seem like I'm saying "staff are bad!" Nah, they're not. And really, members do it to me, too.. but.. I guess I sorta expect staff not to do it since they're in that position. And yeah, again, maybe they don't know they're even doing it. It's not really anyone's fault here, but.. I am feeling shafted, and I wanted to tell you that. I really don't know what I'm looking for in this blog, but mostly I just wanted to let all these hard feelings go. What's the point in keeping this feeling when everyone around you is oblivious that something even happened?
On the MOTY feedback thread, I saw it derailing and I tried to bring the conversation back to trying to help improve the system. I wanted people to help me out. I wanted things to improve. I don't want people just to say "No we can't do that" and just move on. I appreciated the fact that Toujours and some others mentioned some previous posts and how we can find ways around things or building on ideas. That's the kind of stuff I want to see from everyone here for everything. I hate seeing things shot down and just left like that.
Don't get me wrong. It's not like everyone can agree with everything, but if you're gonna disagree with an idea or just shoot something down.. then PLEASE at least contribute something good! Maybe it's because I've been shot down here so many times it sorta hits home to me but.. heck.. this goes for everyone. I'm not an angel, and I'm sure I'm guilty of this myself, but I'm trying my best to be better! Though, I did also appreciate the Poll of the Week being brought back in OVP too, so thanks for listening there. It actually means quite a lot to me. I don't mean to say you guys should do everything I say. I guess what I'm trying to say is.. mods.. members.. I hope I don't sound selfish when I ask this of you, but please.. just give me a little bit more consideration. Please give people like me some consideration, too. We're just trying to make the place better. I'm still here after 8 and a half years because I like this place, and I love so many of you people here. So I ask, is it so hard to shove the popularity and favouritism aside and give me a chance?
Either way.. this blog isn't here to attack anyone in any way, but just to clear my head and clear up any resentment. If anyone feels insulted, I'll take it down right away, because I did call mention to a few people but I don't want to paint anyone in a bad light here. I just hope this blog gets whatever honest reception it deserves.
Thanks for reading.
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