Gender bending.
Posted March 15th, 2013 at 06:22 PM by Patchisou Yutohru
Setting your gender to female if you're a male does not mean you are a gender bender.
Setting your gender to male if you're a female does not mean you are a gender bender.
If you think you're a gender bender, chances are you probably aren't.
If you attempt to gender bend in an attempt to get an emblem out of it, shame on you.
There are people -- tons of them, in fact, at this community alone -- who have some serious issues with their gender and identifying themselves as male or female. While gender bending is associated more-so with gender roles than it is identifying as one or the other, the amount of people who claim to be gender benders around here make me feel like they are over-simplifying a complicated problem in some peoples' lives that make these people who don't feel like they have an identity and suffer from internal issues that stem from not knowing who they are. Identifying as male or female is something that every single human being has to experience and is one of the very basic and few labels that people would prefer to be associated with and not have problems with.
Every single person who claims to be a gender bender (or worse), every person who attempts to gender bend in an attempt to get an emblem out of it make me sick and they should all seriously reconsider what they deem to be important around here.
I don't take things very seriously around here, but I find things like this to be really disappointing.
Setting your gender to male if you're a female does not mean you are a gender bender.
If you think you're a gender bender, chances are you probably aren't.
If you attempt to gender bend in an attempt to get an emblem out of it, shame on you.
There are people -- tons of them, in fact, at this community alone -- who have some serious issues with their gender and identifying themselves as male or female. While gender bending is associated more-so with gender roles than it is identifying as one or the other, the amount of people who claim to be gender benders around here make me feel like they are over-simplifying a complicated problem in some peoples' lives that make these people who don't feel like they have an identity and suffer from internal issues that stem from not knowing who they are. Identifying as male or female is something that every single human being has to experience and is one of the very basic and few labels that people would prefer to be associated with and not have problems with.
Every single person who claims to be a gender bender (or worse), every person who attempts to gender bend in an attempt to get an emblem out of it make me sick and they should all seriously reconsider what they deem to be important around here.
I don't take things very seriously around here, but I find things like this to be really disappointing.
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I don't mind genderbending too much, but when people make it a point- I find it to be somewhat disrespectful to people who are trans..Posted March 15th, 2013 at 06:34 PM by Kura 
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Five stars, Nick. And yep, agreed with Kura.Posted March 15th, 2013 at 07:00 PM by Derozio
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I've always found the term "gender bender" to be sort of iffy. But yeah, I have to agree with you. There's people who play it up for the sort of "cute or comical" personae of it and it's just really irritating and I don't see the point of it.Posted March 15th, 2013 at 07:01 PM by Moogles
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I don't really care either way. It's almost always really obvious that they aren't doing it maliciously. These people aren't trying to make light of transgender issues or anything. Who the hell are we to say they can't identify with/as the other gender, even if not seriously? It's just a profile field and an identity/personality on the internet. I just decide to see it as they don't care about gender roles as, honestly, no one should. There's a big difference between exaggerating the social traits of the opposite gender for a laugh and actually struggling with gender and that difference is always obvious on PC. For me, anyway.
I mean, if I go set my gender to male and joke about it a bit, I'm obviously not trying to belittle anyone who actually has issues with gender. Besides, that emblem was ALWAYS for people who, regardless of gender set in profile, always seemed to be assumed as the opposite gender. It had nothing to do with parading around as an exaggerated stereotype of the other gender and if anyone's been giving out the emblem on that pretense, they've been doing it wrong. But if that's what it's turned into and it's offending people, the emblem should be removed/retired. Simple as that.
(It's the people who set their gender to the opposite gender--the one they don't identify with--and then get insulted when people call them with that gender's pronouns that confuse me. Like... you're bringing it upon yourself...?)
There's only one person in the whole history of PC whose strange treatment of gender offended me and I don't think that person comes here anymore so whatever edit: nvm just saw a post by them, sigh.Posted March 15th, 2013 at 07:21 PM by Lightning
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Five stars, Nick. And yep, agreed with Kura.Posted March 15th, 2013 at 07:59 PM by Jake♫
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I don't like being mistaken to be a boy because I'm most certainly not one. And whenever someone calls me a "he" I get a bit shaky. This is why I don't genderbend. I can't do it. But you're right--there's no such thing.Posted March 15th, 2013 at 08:11 PM by Yuki's Sword
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personally, if I don't like something, I just ignore it.Posted March 15th, 2013 at 08:18 PM by droomph
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Thank you for posting this. I think this is something we were all thinking but didn't know exactly how to say it.Posted March 15th, 2013 at 08:27 PM by Alexial357
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That's pretty much how I feel.Quote:Originally Posted by Kura
I don't mind genderbending too much, but when people make it a point- I find it to be somewhat disrespectful to people who are trans..
I'm pretty much mistaken as a "female" often, but, it's not really a big deal; I'd just politely correct them. Despite what others might say, I never really found any desire to gender bend at all, nor do I see the point. :xPosted March 15th, 2013 at 08:35 PM by Miss Doronjo
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I could not agree more.Quote:If you attempt to gender bend in an attempt to get an emblem out of it, shame on you.Posted March 15th, 2013 at 08:42 PM by Team Fail
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I swear. It's like God put his voice in Nick's mouth.
I couldn't agree more. And to add, not only is it disrespectful, it's also just plain annoying when you obsess over it like some people here do.Posted March 15th, 2013 at 08:56 PM by Bloodex
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I used to do it for fun cause I just liked confusing people. I got the emblem, but I didn't really do it just for that. I kept doing it just because it was amusing. It was never out of malicious intent or to get an emblem. But it is annoying when people make such a conscious effort to point out that they're genderbending here, and clearly only want the emblem.
Point is, I don't see a problem in doing it for fun like I did for a few years, but doing it obnoxiously and making this huge effort to be one is annoying and disrespectful.Posted March 15th, 2013 at 09:18 PM by Sydian
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Syd still confuses some people.
Good on ya btw Nick.Posted March 15th, 2013 at 09:37 PM by vaporeon7
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We could take gender out of this entirely and simply say that people who make a big deal of something they don't actually care about or whatever are annoying. There. Covered everything in this blog and then some. Why is "gender bending" (hate that term) the thing that's hit a nerve with people?Posted March 15th, 2013 at 09:51 PM by Scarf
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And I thought you were awesome before this!Posted March 16th, 2013 at 05:09 AM by Livewire
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PS Erica I love you too <333
Posted March 16th, 2013 at 05:12 AM by Livewire
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Thank you Nick. This is so true. I don't just have my gender set to female to be contrary. :3Posted March 16th, 2013 at 08:06 PM by Pachy
