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Well, isn't that awkward.

Posted April 29th, 2013 at 02:54 PM by Dakota
Updated April 30th, 2013 at 07:28 AM by Dakota

So, yeah. That girl I wanted to ask to prom? My friend wants to ask her. And I'm retreating and helping the kid out. He's a sweet guy, and given that I already had my chance and failed, I think it's only fair for him. And I'm not even upset. =]

Just felt like publicizing that. Carry on!
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    Kura's Avatar
    Just saying that if they get together, be prepared to be a third wheel and eventually losing a best friend (or two.) Not saying it will happen, but it is a definite (I would even say strong) possibility. Depends on how they end up acting, and if you're willing to put up with it.
    Posted April 30th, 2013 at 09:53 AM by Kura Kura is offline
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    I'll be fine, no worries. I mean, my best friend dated her before (this was before I met him, mind you. He's not a jerk like that). I was totally okay with it.
    Posted April 30th, 2013 at 10:00 AM by Dakota Dakota is offline
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    Kura's Avatar
    That's just it.. it was before you met him.. if it happens, there will be a very obvious priority shift. Just making you aware. You may be cool with it, or you might find it a bit difficult but either way.. I'm sure you'll sort it out and find a way. Good luck ;3!
    Posted April 30th, 2013 at 10:24 AM by Kura Kura is offline
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    Thanks for looking out for me ;D I'll be cool with it. I wouldn't have been okay with this if I wasn't!
    Posted April 30th, 2013 at 10:33 AM by Dakota Dakota is offline
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    I hafta agree with hinkage and Kura here. You don't have to rationalize anything, not by saying it's only fair or by helping him out either, especially if you made a big deal about her beforehand. What's the point of helping him out if you've still got a bit of jealous for her? I thought the best policy was to leave nothing unsaid. Bros before hoes is nonsense and there's nothing requiring you to help him. I'm just speaking from personal experience here, wishing the best for her does nothing towards how you feel in the long run, even if it helps immediately. But perhaps you don't have feelings for her anymore so that's irrelevant.

    If anything, just be prepared. You're talking within the timeframe of less than a week. Feelings usually take longer to settle than that, and you're not always going to be as confident that you're in control of them as you are now. I still think the best thing you should've done then and there is to tell him straight up how you feel. There's nothing wrong with being honest - and in this case perhaps it would've been good just to lay everybody's claims on the table. If he falters and wants to "be nice", then I'd conclude that you're both pussyfooting around and one of you has to seriously consider what you want. <- if that happened, just go for it, he's in no better position than you are despite what you say about him dating her in the past and etc. But I probably don't have the whole story so feel free to disregard everything I say.

    If it happened to me (and I'm not good at hiding how I truly feel), I'd probably look like ****, and tell him to gimme a while to mull it over. If it makes him feel guilty, then good for him - I don't see why I should lie and make him feel less guilty than show him my true self and have him deal with that. Conflicts erupt between friendships all the time, but I feel that you're carrying too much of the burden instead of leaving it between the two people it actually concerns It's kinda like workplace delegation - you can't do all the work you're delegated as a manager, because it's meant to be passed down in the first place.

    I don't know if I've said anything useful here yet, since it's all about the past. Um... there's more than a dichotomy between getting with her or getting over her? I kinda waited for this girl for nearly 4 years - and she had a boyfriend after she met me, ugh. But we ended up working out because we became adults and did not do stupid teenage rituals like we did 4 years before. All I'm saying is that you've gotta look out for yourself. You've considered your friend's feelings well, but you shouldn't have to go out of your way, not now or later, to make yourself feel satisfied.
    Posted April 30th, 2013 at 10:46 AM by Kanzler Kanzler is offline
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    Dude. I'll be honest, I only skimmed what you said. But I know it's not a good thing to hide your feelings. And I don't.

    I first started liking her about 4 years ago, and I admitted my feelings to her at one point. She knows I like her, but she said she would rather stick to being friends. And I can respect that. If I'd never told her my feelings, it would be different. Better to have loved and lost than to have never have loved at all. But she knows how I feel and it's common knowledge between the two of us. It's not even something I hide, it's something I openly admit.

    My point is, I used to like her "more" before hand. I got over her, but prom came up, and she was really the only person I ever liked enough to ask. But at the same time, I know my friend (I'll call him M), also liked her (I'll call her L) for a while, even though he's never admit it. I've let my feelings known to L, she's not comfortable with it. M never got a chance, and I legit think they'd make a cute couple. I have no problem whatsoever with those two going to prom together.

    Also, the kid who went out with L before is someone else entirely. Just saying.


    tldr: She knows I like her cause I've openly admitted it to her beforehand. I don't mind someone else getting a chance to be with her. If you don't agree with me, don't argue. It's my mistake to make. What's done is done.
    Posted April 30th, 2013 at 12:09 PM by Dakota Dakota is offline
  7. Old Comment
    Kura's Avatar
    Moral of the story: Find a hot escort to take to prom and make everyone jealous Dipu ;3~

    *lighteningthemood.jpg*
    Posted April 30th, 2013 at 12:26 PM by Kura Kura is offline
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    Will do. ;D
    Posted April 30th, 2013 at 12:36 PM by Dakota Dakota is offline
  9. Old Comment
    Volcarona's Avatar
    Ask me out to prom.

    I'm waiting in Relic Castle.
    Posted April 30th, 2013 at 12:46 PM by Volcarona Volcarona is offline
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    I'll make sure I bring my masterball.

    http://kotaku.com/the-cutest-cheesie...ever-485956418 (credits to Jo for finding this!)
    Posted April 30th, 2013 at 02:32 PM by Dakota Dakota is offline
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    Ah, I see. That changes the story somewhat. Just as long as she isn't that big of a deal. I followed this segment of your blog for a while and I thought it was weird that your decision changed like that. I'm sorry if I was being too paternalistic. I think you'll find that university will be next level compared to high school, so at least you don't have to wait too long for that
    Posted April 30th, 2013 at 08:44 PM by Kanzler Kanzler is offline
 

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