Thanks for the hug
I'm sure you give better advice than you think and sometimes just being there is enough. It's good to know I'm not the only one with this kind of 'problem', though calling it a problem might be a bit too much. I'm just a bit confused and I don't have anyone to talk to about it (I might, but I'm not quite ready to risk some friendships/relations and it's not the source of the advice that matters (not too much anyway ) as it is the advice itself).
Thanks for the welcome again and for being a friend