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Sableye~ March 10th, 2013 11:24 AM

Can't you just forgive me?
Are you a forgiving person?
Not really anything else to say here.

Kura March 10th, 2013 12:14 PM

Not at all. I find it very hard to forgive people- and even if I do, I hardly ever trust them again.

Shiny Celebi March 10th, 2013 12:38 PM

Depends on what they did, if it was something really bad or they hurt me, yes I do find it hard to forgive them at least completely. If it's a simple mistake or misunderstanding, then yes, I'll forgive a person easily.

Brynjolf March 10th, 2013 2:00 PM

Yeah.. Most of the time I just don't care about what someone did as long as they're nice enough now. If they're still dumb about stuff and do stupid things, then no.

Caelus March 10th, 2013 4:01 PM

I try to forgive and forget, especially if it's something that occurred years ago. Some people aren't as quick to forgive though, so there's a few people from my past that I haven't talked to in years but would someday like to.

There's only like only two people that I'll never forgive just because of how pathetic they are.

Sableye~ March 10th, 2013 4:13 PM

There's only one person I've met who I will probably never forgive, tbh.

I'm somewhat forgiving, I guess. T:

I mean, one of my few friends in some classes I'm in is a guy who used to hate me. I normally wouldn't be as quick to drop it, but he's really taking a chance by befriending me- I'm that one person in a class that everyone hates/avoids. {:

But in general, as I said, I'm somewhat forgiving. It partially depends on who they are and what they've done.

Arsonist March 10th, 2013 4:14 PM

Well, I hate to forgive when it's someone's fault, not mine. But yeah, if I see it was my fault, I forgive my friend or someone.

Btw I have a friend that forgives everyone.

Starry Windy March 10th, 2013 6:05 PM

I try to forgive everyone regardless of what kind of mistakes they have done.

Ephemeral Euphoria March 10th, 2013 6:19 PM

For me it depends on what they did and how severe it was.

Jake♫ March 10th, 2013 6:28 PM

I tend to give out multiple chances before they violate my trust to the point where I can't forgive them anymore, but that takes a good amount of time.

Gyardosamped March 10th, 2013 6:45 PM

As others have mentioned, it really depends on the situation. Usually, though, I forgive but I don't forget. I don't hold grudges, but I also don't look at the person the same way as I did before.

The way I look at it is that I tend to be more on the forgiving side most of the time, but if someone keeps toying with my trust, then I really won't forgive them.

Sweets Witch March 10th, 2013 8:11 PM


I act like I forgive people so they won't stress over it, but in actuality I hold a lot of grudges.

.Aero March 10th, 2013 8:15 PM

I tend to be forgiving, but obviously it depends on the situation. While I definitely am a firm believer in second chances, if someone continuously makes the same mistake, forgiving them for it over and over becomes tiring. So I mean, in general, yes I'll forgive, but if it's a consistent problem then I will eventually stop.

Synerjee March 10th, 2013 8:23 PM

Yes, I am. I try my very best to forgive others for what they have done, no matter how big or small the mistake that they have done. Everyone deserves a second chance. Forgiving is what I've been taught to do. It's part of my values and part of who I am. If I can't forgive them, I can never forgive myself.

Forgive them, for they know not what they do.

Talli March 11th, 2013 3:06 AM

like many posts in this thread it depends on what they have done. if it is bad then no I would not forgive them.

Cassino March 11th, 2013 11:43 AM

Well, I'm unfettered by things that would grieve others; I'm unsure as to whether that makes me forgiving or not.
If I were transgressed to an extent that would actually concern me, I probably wouldn't be forgiving.

Munchlax11 March 11th, 2013 12:46 PM

I'm too forgiving :/. It's a bit of the problem. I can't stay mad at people for long because I get scared that if I stay mad at them I might lose them. But initially if someone does something to me I get really angry, then I usually end up apologizing to them for getting too mad. After my initial outburst I cool down and forgive them very quickly. As long as I get an adequate apology I'll forgive someone right away usually. If they reaaly screw up I stay mad for a couple of days.... possibly up to a week, which is not that long, but it is a pretty long time for me. I'm not really the type of person to hold grudges.

KriegStein March 11th, 2013 2:14 PM

Most of the time I am.
But sometimes not so.

Crux March 12th, 2013 11:49 PM

I forgive, but never forget.
Whilst as it can be difficult for me to forgive people depending on what they did, as i'm sure it is for everyone, if they truly make an effort towards atonement then I will forgive them.
However, if they did something that bad that i'd need to work at forgiving them, then I won't forget it. Ever.

♣Gawain♣ March 12th, 2013 11:56 PM

Not much. Although it depends on the sin he/she had done to me.

Shining Raichu March 15th, 2013 11:17 PM

I always forgive and forget. When people say "I forgive but I don't forget", that says to me "I don't really forgive". If you don't forget then there's no point in forgiving because if you don't forget then it denies the other person the opportunity to redeem themselves.

That doesn't make much sense, so I'll give you an example. Say you have a newish friend and he's all lovely and it's not in his character to be nasty, but one day you really really frustrate him to the point where he snaps and swears and yells at you. It's an extremely out of character moment for him and it upsets you a lot. He apologises and you forgive him but you don't forget. In your mind, he's now the kind of person that would swear and yell at his friends and even if he never raises his voice to you again, it won't make a difference because you don't forget so he'll always be that guy to you.

It leaves no room for improvement or redemption. It's silly and juvenile not to forget when you forgive.

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