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The Doctor May 8th, 2013 2:05 PM

Heartbreaks a Pain.
So a previous post on this got me thinking, have you ever been truly heartbroken? I don't want to say too much on it in fear of reminding people.

It can be about girlfriends/boyfriends, family members or other things.

Do you feel up to sharing how you felt?


When I was younger my first proper relationship was underway but about 6 -7 months into it we started to drift and started arguing and one day she told me "it's over". She explained quickly why, reasons of which I don't care to divulge into, and that was it. We did get back together for another few months later on down the line but it didn't last long.

That first breakup really felt like my heart had been ripped apart. It was the first time I had been in love and it's been a few years since and I still miss her and it does hurt when I think of her.

So that's my quick story, anybody else?

Shiny Celebi May 8th, 2013 2:12 PM

Yes I feel that now. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago. Its had a really bad affect on me and Im quite depressed and its made me afraid. I have a really hard time dealing with it, that's all I am willing to say.

The Doctor May 8th, 2013 2:34 PM

If you read back here Celebi.

It does get easier.

Sableye~ May 8th, 2013 2:47 PM

I've been trying to think of something at least close, but I can't.

The Doctor May 8th, 2013 2:51 PM


Originally Posted by ⊗Slenderman⊗ (Post 7654196)
I've been trying to think of something at least close, but I can't.

Keep it that way. It's close to the worst feeling you can ever feel, if not the worst.

Brynjolf May 8th, 2013 3:12 PM

Mine's sort of cringeworthy I guess.

Here's the story:

Five months ago I began to develop a crush on my best friend.

I spent these five months wondering how I was supposed to tell her.

I was very nice to her for this amount of time.

I eventually told her and she was sort of surprised. She spent that day being really nice to me and flirty and stuff.

The next five weeks I was so blindly infatuated that I couldn't see through her antics.

She lead me on for a whole five weeks. I eventually asked her if I should give up on the idea and she said.. yes.

Why did you flirt with me, hug me, kiss my cheek all the time, and talk to me sensitively like you did if you didn't want a relationship?

She dragged it out to play with me.

She didn't really care about me. I was so blinded I didn't even listen to my friend who said my crush was BSing me.

It hurt more knowing I spent that long looking like a fool in love with her.

She is the most beautiful, adorable person I've ever known and I can't have her.

Every step of the way closer to my school just hurts. Every day is another fight with myself.

I have been getting panic attacks worse and worse.

I even took up an old habit of smoking marijuana in my closet just to calm my mind. :\

I can't deal with all this.

I loved her so much. I was so nice to her. She flirted with me! She said she dreamed about me! She lead me on for so long.

It hurts.

Sweets Witch May 8th, 2013 3:35 PM

A long time ago - what's it been, six years? - my ex passed away and I am still torn up about it even after all of this time. I grew up with her, I went to school with her, I spent my entire childhood with her. For some reason I got to continue on and she didn't. I think that's what gets to me the most. I got to continue on in life and I'm a really crappy person, and yet she did not. Over the years I've had the displeasure of meeting many people who deserve to have been taken in her place, but they weren't. For whatever reason it had to be her.

ANARCHit3cht May 8th, 2013 4:54 PM

Kind of. At the time I believed it to be heartbreak and a terrible thing. But when I look upon now it, I realize I was naive and that what I was feeling was never even love to begin with, thus heartbreak could never have really happened, except in my minds own twisted version of reality.

♣Gawain♣ May 9th, 2013 1:30 AM

Nope. Because I'm not into a relationship rigjt now. But I do heard a lot of heartbreaks from my friends.

Nearsighted king of Ice May 9th, 2013 3:54 AM

Well it's not in a relationship, but it's still heart was around the time of my birthday and my grandma asked me where I wanted to go so the whole family can have some fun during my special day! No one listened to my suggestion and they just went to a place they all think is best, it became a whole day of just the younger family members having fun and me completely shunned...on my own birthday

Crux May 10th, 2013 9:17 AM

A long while ago there was a girl who said she was in love with me, but she took a astronomical step back after learning a bit more about me. . .
I wasn't even really attracted to her, but I was trying to be nice.

Meganium May 10th, 2013 9:39 AM

December of 2009. I was studying for finals, and he broke up with me abruptly because I "didn't give him too much attention". We were together for a year and nine months and we were steps to officially moving in together. I cried for weeks, including Christmas and New Years.

After that, every single guy that wanted to be in a relationship with me will get their heart broken because that's how I am, basically. I cannot endure another heartbreak.

Sheep May 10th, 2013 10:08 AM

My ex broke up with me in 2008/2009 or so, was it? So yeah, I was in my senior year of high school. I could barely eat and have never felt so sick in my entire life. That still haunts me to this day, though I'm pretty much over it by now.

Harley Quinn June 9th, 2013 2:50 AM

At the time I thought 'oh, my world is ending/I'll never be the same/kill me' and that I would be heartbroken forever, but a couple of weeks later I was back on my feet and the boy in question was without a job and out of my life. It sucked ass, but I don't think I was truly heartbroken. I simply had the misfortune to walk in on him doing...uh...what Bill did to Monica, lol. Making me Hillary.
I hope to never experience true heartbreak, however. It's something that at this point of time I certainly not mentally ready to go through.

Controversial? June 9th, 2013 5:10 AM

My so-called sort-of girlfriend "broke up" with me on monday. To be honest it was more FWB than anything, so I didn't feel too much about it. Thankfully, I haven't felt a proper breakup yet.

Starry Windy June 9th, 2013 5:55 AM

3 months ago, it happened to me.
After some misunderstanding, the one I thought was a friend turns out to defaming me, even though I have explaining to stop the misunderstanding... (that I was cutting ties of friendship because of that...) I was almost leaving PC forever until my other friends cheer me up that I cancelled my leaving, but the memories of it keeps lingering even after this was over.

R.F. June 9th, 2013 7:00 AM

I was never into the whole emotions stuff. My laughing is quite horrible, since it doesn't sound like laughing should sound (hard to describe). With love it's pretty much the same, I mean, I know that my family loves me and stuff, but I don't know how to feel...

Anyway, that doesn't change the fact, that not long ago (two years if I recall correctly) I fell in love with a girl. At this time it was my first time really feeling something (well, besides pain, of course). It turned out to be one sided and so brought me only pain (right after that she fell in love with somebody else). I somehow managed to at least restore some kind of friendship (if you can call it that way), but it took me a year to get over it.

Well, you can say it's the begin of an ongoing catastrophe, though, since that time I became a total outsider sealed up in a tiny village, with nobody to talk to. Even if I'm around people I feel lonely and I never feel like being part of them...I even developed some minor hatred against humankind ^^"

On the other side I had a lot of time researching stuff on the internet and even though it makes me even more of a stranger, at least it gives me a good time ^^

Kura June 9th, 2013 9:38 AM

Yes, and I would say that it pretty much took me 8 years to fully get over him and to have absolutely no feelings for him anymore.

Pikachu June 9th, 2013 10:53 AM

Yes. Several times. Last time was the worst thing I have ever felt, even though it was all my fault. But I seriously haven't ever been as depressed and bipolar as during the year after that happened.


Altair June 10th, 2013 4:44 AM

I sure have, I think it was around 6 months ago. My first girlfriend, my insecure self wanted to ask her out since I already knew she liked me, we where both in the same school at the time. She said yes, two months later she saw through me and hated what I was, she dumped me...

I was miserable for a while after that, however when I think about it now, I laugh to myself and say ''What the hell was I thinking?!'' I knew it was a bad idea, I knew I wasn't ready for a relationship, I am also slightly religious so a girlfriend at this time wouldn't be so great! I gave in to my emotions instead of thinking rationally at the time.

This relationship however taught me so much on how I can improve myself. I'm no longer insecure, what others think of me is none of my business, I also used to be the 'nice guy' that gets walked all over, that's all changed. This incompatible relationship literally changed my character for the better! I'm so grateful she broke up with me to be honest! I've never would have become the person I now am. ;D ...

I'm a firm believer that everything does happen for a reason.

The_Consumer June 10th, 2013 4:03 PM

At the beginning of December, a few days after joining this site. I think it was the first...a few months before that I had attempted to go with somebody else hoping to get over her but that other girl led me on and I got angry, but not heartbroken, since I didn't love her. My pride was the only thing that was injured. Which was traumatic.

However, around December after spending over a year obsessing over the girl I used to speak to all the time before suddenly ending our unconventional chats...3 years ago now, I finally gave up. I cried for ages, don't think I've cried for someone so much in my life.

The worst part is that she used to like me at some point during those 3 years spend apart but got over me in the meantime. I had no idea and I try not to think about it because I only kick myself.

It's a really vulgar feeling and I'm glad I've gone through my teen heartbreak. It has set me up for the future. It has also thought me that I'm extremely bad at dealing with it.

Jinx June 10th, 2013 4:12 PM

I've been heartbroken three times in my life.
1). when my grandma died. she was my best friend.
2.) my first serious relationship, he broke up with me because his parents didn't want him having a girlfriend in college.
3.) my second serious relationship, it was an abusive relationship and i just kept ignoring everything. He hurt me a lot, but it was for the best.

Sandshrew4 June 10th, 2013 4:38 PM

Never had a crush or relationship or whatever you call them, and really hope I never do. The closest I got to a "heartbreak" was when my parents told me they were getting divorced when I was about seven. It was pretty upsetting.

Ephemeral Euphoria June 10th, 2013 5:49 PM

I have had my fair share of heartbreaks before but the worst of them sting so bad to this day that I still feel sick thinking about them much less bringing them up right now.

Honest June 11th, 2013 2:57 PM

No, I haven't, actually. Which I'm happy for.

I mean, I've had my fair share of let downs. I had a huge crush on this one girl, and I guess I still sort of like her. I made a big deal about her recently. I wasn't heartbroken when I asked her out and got a rejection, though. In fact... I kind of felt a little happy. I guess I was happy that I had it in me to admit it. And we're still best friends. =]

So no, I haven't had to feel heartbreak. Hopefully it stays that way for a long time to come.

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