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I think it also depends on revelations. Someone can break and become intimidated by anything, or have a revelation to becoming stronger and grow into a strong, headstrong woman. Can also depend on support and everything. If there is someone you like that helped you through what you went through (Anna), then you would want to become stronger.
I like your stance on her Pokey. To me, that's like... looking more into her than what you see on the surface.