The only non-critical thing I can say pertaining to my original response is that people do have control. It's easier for some and harder for others because of genetics, diseases, environment, etc. but in most cases I'd say weight loss is achievable.
I got past fat shaming and use the motivation of my friends for THEM to lose weight for my own weight loss challenge. Their initiative feeds me and makes me feel like I'm doing something awesome. It keeps me positive on those days where I randomly regain a pound. What people need who are affected my fat shaming is a support group pf motivated people who will keep THEM motivated on a weight loss challenge. It's incredibly important to have that group of peers. I would never have even started trying to lose weight without them.
My break's over at work now. I have more to day maybe but hafta go back to my desk lol /iPhone