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Old March 17th, 2013 (12:01 PM).
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Would you rather be told the painful truth or be lied to to be comforted? I would rather just take the painful truth because the comforting lie is still a lie. However painful it may be its better to just hear the truth. Would you lie to spare someone's feeling?
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Old March 17th, 2013 (12:32 PM).
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Give it to me bluntly. I hate butt-pattery.
I would rarely lie to hurt someone's feelings but sometimes it's necessary based on opinion. For example.. I don't think babies are particularly attractive, but I feel it wrong to say "your baby is ugly" since.. well.. what's that going to accomplish? They're obviously happy about their baby so I say "What a beautiful baby" so I can share in their happiness. In a sense life is a beautiful thing, so IMO it's not really lying.

If someone asks me their opinion on an art piece, and then they get whiny because I give them a constructive critique WITHOUT telling them "It looks great" it really annoys me. Don't ask for a critique if you're just looking for someone to stroke your ego.

Yeah that's what I have to say on the matter.
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Old March 17th, 2013 (12:34 PM).
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I want to know the truth. Lying does not help me or benefit me in anyway, more than likely, I'll eventually find out it's a lie anyway, and I appreciate it when people are honest, I'd be honest back. Yes, sometimes the truth hurts, but lies hurt more.
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Old March 17th, 2013 (12:54 PM).
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I prefer the truth. Sure, it might sting a bit, but I still would rather know what they truly think. If that means being told that they hate me, that's fine. [:
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Old March 17th, 2013 (12:56 PM).
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Just tell me the truth because in the end it is more likely to help me with my problem anyways.
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Old March 17th, 2013 (02:40 PM).
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If it's worth lying over, it's worth knowing. I'd take the truth any day.
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Old March 17th, 2013 (02:54 PM).
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The truth. Much like breaking up with someone, the band aid approach is always best.
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Old March 17th, 2013 (03:35 PM).
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I'd definitely prefer a really hurtful truth. This way, you may have your feelings hurt, but at least you know what's up and can try to get past it. Time heals all wounds they say, so the sooner you know the truth, the sooner you can get back on your feet!
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Old March 17th, 2013 (04:54 PM).
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Painful truth of course...i don't like to live in a lie

i'm a person who likes to move forward in their life..maybe sometimes some truths are painful but i know that i'm strong enough to handle hard situations...i don't like when people lie to me ..i feel i'm not worthy to them to know the truth.
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Old March 17th, 2013 (04:58 PM).
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I'd say Painful Truth. But most things do not upset me, so maybe I will not call it 'painful' if I find out.

I hate being lied to.
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Old March 17th, 2013 (08:37 PM).
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The majority of the time, I'd rather take the painful truth to face it then and there, but there are some sensitive areas that I would prefer a comforting lie. I'll get over being lied to when the truth comes out since I'm generally understanding and "I didn't want to hurt you" is something I would probably believe if it was something I would prefer to have a lie told to me rather than face the truth sooner anyway.
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Old March 18th, 2013 (02:57 AM).
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Give me the truth as what my dad always told me what hurts us can only make us stronger.
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The truth will set you free, and at the same time it hurts. We will learn from our mistakes if we know the truth. But sometimes I had to lie to cover up someone or myself, and surprisingly I don't feel guilty about it.
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Usualy I prefer the honest-dream,killing-cold truth over the beautiful lie. Although sometimes I do wish lies would be reality... And I usualy try to think which one is better at the moment..a lie..or the truth.
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I can take the truth head-on, no problem. I really can't tolerate lies of any kind.

What else do I need to say?
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Old March 19th, 2013 (02:12 PM).
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I'd really rather have the truth than a lie. I might feel better with a lie for the time being, but if I ever find out that it was a lie - yeah, that will hurt me far more than the horrid truth ever would.

So yeah, give me the truth over a lie, anyday.
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From my close friends, if it is about very crushing topics then the painful truth is always the right thing to me. It will hurt, of course, but I know that when they tell me, they will make the crash as soft as possible. Brutal, vulnerable honesty is the most important thing I could wish from a friend.

If they're strangers and they feel a sudden urge to uninvitedly critique me about something that they can clearly see me thoroughly enjoying and sincerely being happy with, then...yeah...comforting lies are appropriate here.
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Old March 19th, 2013 (02:43 PM).
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I'd rather face the truth instead of facing the consequences of lying (I mean, if you get caught lying). I prefer the truth, I would have more respect for the person, otherwise lying would make me loose trust and maybe friendship with the person lying - after getting caught.
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Ugh.. sugar coating.

Give it to me straight. I wanna hear the facts.
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I guess the truth. If I know the truth, I can at least attempt to heal and move on. Better to get it done and over with. I'm sure I'd prefer the beautiful lie, but it's best to know the real story.
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Old March 21st, 2013 (12:42 AM).
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Give me the painful truth, but break it to me gently. I don't like bluntness, I find it a very unattractive quality and I find it really hard to deal with on the spot.
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Give me the painful truth. I may not like it and I may not want to hear it, but a comforting lie is still a lie and I'd rather know the truth than be told a lie. If you can avoid being blunt about it, then please do. It's easier to swallow a truth that's going to hurt me if you lay it on me gently rather than if he just threw it at me. At the end of the day though, all I want is the truth; the whole truth.
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The truth, cold and hard.
I don't like when think to 'not hurt my feelings' or 'be nice about it'.
I have an ironskin for a reason people, I doubt you could say anything that'd be all that painful to hear.
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Old March 21st, 2013 (05:28 PM).
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In the end the comforting lie is more painful than the truth. If you find out it's a lie, then not only do you find out the painful truth, but then there's the added fact that you've been lied to about it the whole time.

Especially if it's something deeply personal. I would rather hear the truth and get it out of the way, even if it were to crush me. I don't want to go through life with anyone pretending, myself or others, just so that I can get through it painlessly. Life hurts, and that's a fact. It's getting through it that's the great achievement. If you can do that, you're set.
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