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Old April 10th, 2013 (08:30 PM).
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I thought pansexual was the same as gender blindness, meaning that you have literally no preference of sex or gender. By your definition I would be pansexual... but I think that's actually closer to being polysexual, isn't it?
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Quote originally posted by QuilavaKing:
I thought pansexual was the same as gender blindness, meaning that you have literally no preference of sex or gender. By your definition I would be pansexual... but I think that's actually closer to being polysexual, isn't it?
Basically yes that's what it boils down to in simpler terms.
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Old April 11th, 2013 (03:14 AM).
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Wow. That's a new one. Confusing Bisexual with Asexual?
I don't think it was confusing the two, just thinking that liking neither gives me no particular inclination to either sex, ergo if I were sexual I would like both, or perhaps more accurately be pansexual. I had actually pondered this myself before the question came up.
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When you move into the territory of "if I were actually..." there's a lot of room for confusion between people. It's already complicated enough sometimes explaining to someone.

Reminds me of that video with the infographics I posted a while back. I really liked how it could convey clearly something rather complicated without watering it down.
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Old April 11th, 2013 (10:32 AM).
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I think the distinctions are a bit too technical and nuanced for most people's needs or understanding. I'm not too sure on this, but they may have started out for academic purposes, because social scientists classify and categorize and identify and stuff. It kinda feels sometimes that there's so much emphasis on getting the label right that in the very act of doing it you're making confusion.

I say forget the labels and just do your own thing.
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Quote originally posted by BlahISuck:
I think the distinctions are a bit too technical and nuanced for most people's needs or understanding. I'm not too sure on this, but they may have started out for academic purposes, because social scientists classify and categorize and identify and stuff. It kinda feels sometimes that there's so much emphasis on getting the label right that in the very act of doing it you're making confusion.

I say forget the labels and just do your own thing.
I agree. There are so many labels and they're all so confusing as it is, at least to me. I guess that's why the majority of the population only really knows about the major ones (gay, bi, lesbian, etc.) because the other ones are just so complex. :p

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Old April 12th, 2013 (09:17 AM).
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Quote originally posted by BlahISuck:
I say forget the labels and just do your own thing.
I like labels; it's much easier to say what I am in one or a few words... and that's the point of language, having words for things, conveying ideas, efficiently if possible. Telling someone I'm asexual and leaving it at that conveniently tells them the answer to what their question is ultimately getting at: "no, we probably won't mate". (I'm not saying everyone who asks of another's sexuality is pointedly out to mate with them, though — it just becomes a reference point in case the matter should become relevant.) It probably just helps my case that my chosen identity is obscure enough that people don't have any particular assumptions about it.
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Labels when applied properly and used in the correct context oftentimes do serve a function. But one must be aware of the potential interpretations of the label and sometimes it is necessary to explain something to discourage a misunderstanding.
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Labels apply clarity, that's for sure. But people's identities, biologies, and behaviour occur along a spectrum. So while labels are convenient for you, it might be inconvenient to someone - even with a similar experience - because they feel boxed in by a single word. My experience, fortunately enough, can be explained on the binary and is stable but labels imply stability. If a person has an orientation that moves around I don't think that a prefix-sexual would be very useful to them.




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Old April 12th, 2013 (01:55 PM).
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Quote originally posted by Cassino:
I once got "does being asexual mean you're actually bi?".
The question is actually quite reasonable; in the same way that one isn't necessarily completely hetero/homo/etc., one isn't necessarily completely asexual.



Nothing wrong with polyamory, provided the consent of all participants.

Wow first, it's been so long since my intro post here, gotta be up in dem times!

And 2nd,

Asexual means that you are not attracted to either sex, sexually and romantically , but you can still have a crush on either sex though.

Bisexual means simply that you are attracted to both sex, sexually and romantically. It goes towards both looks and personality of the person, and at times you can fall in love and have a crush on both sex at the same time too.




@Pachy: YAY ZOMG!!! :D I know you posted 1 week ago, but, I'm still really proud of you and am happy for you girl! <3


Lastly, LABELS ARE FOR SQUARES!~
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Quote originally posted by Twihiki_Amias:
Bisexual means simply that you are attracted to both sex, sexually and romantically. It goes towards both looks and personality of the person, and at times you can fall in love and have a crush on both sex at the same time too.
I know how that feels.
I once fell for a guy, and his younger sister...
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I've always wondered how it feels to be bisexual. I just can't/don't feel any physical or romantic attraction towards females (no offense to females.. you're all beautiful <3) at all, even if I tried.

I just can't imagine liking both sexes. That'd be too hectic for me lol.
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Old April 12th, 2013 (04:26 PM). Edited April 12th, 2013 by Alice.
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Quote originally posted by Gyardosamped:
I've always wondered how it feels to be bisexual. I just can't/don't feel any physical or romantic attraction towards females (no offense to females.. you're all beautiful <3) at all, even if I tried.

I just can't imagine liking both sexes. That'd be too hectic for me lol.
I can't imagine being limited to just one... seems so dull, lol. Although I tried really hard to limit myself to just one for most of my life... even after accepting that I liked guys, I assumed I was gay and tried to stop liking girls.

There are specific features of each sex that I like though, I don't really like 100% of both sexes... without going into too much pointless detail, I'd say that I generally prefer the personality and sexy parts of guys, and the figure, long hair, lack of body hair, and most other features of girls. That's why I like trans people... for me a combination is actually preferred. Not sure if that's the case with other bisexuals(or polysexuals, or w/e you want to call it. I don't really care about the label anymore. lol)
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Old April 12th, 2013 (04:45 PM).
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The aversion straight men have for gay love is kind of similar to the aversion gay men have for straight love. And same for the ladies. And by love I mean sexual expression, but I wanted to keep it PG and hopefully I'm not self-censoring too hard.

I really do feel that if your orientation is exclusive to one sex, the other sex is just ... unnerving and would cause anxiety if you were forced to experience it and couldn't get away.

Is it okay if I ask a question about non-sexual bodily functions? I know there's a PG clause but I'd like to get clearance from you the people first
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Old April 12th, 2013 (04:58 PM).
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Quote originally posted by QuilavaKing:
I can't imagine being limited to just one... seems so dull, lol. Although I tried really hard to limit myself to just one for most of my life... even after accepting that I liked guys, I assumed I was gay and tried to stop liking girls.

There are specific features of each sex that I like though, I don't really like 100% of both sexes... without going into too much pointless detail, I'd say that I generally prefer the personality and sexy parts of guys, and the figure, long hair, lack of body hair, and most other features of girls. That's why I like trans people... for me a combination is actually preferred. Not sure if that's the case with other bisexuals(or polysexuals, or w/e you want to call it. I don't really care about the label anymore. lol)
I remember my high school psychology teacher once mentioned that she didn't think bisexuality was a sexuality at all. She thought all people who say they're bisexual are just confused with who they like, and looking back at it now, she really did say it so nonchalantly (it could have been offensive to anyone who was bisexual in the class). I agreed with her in some aspect because I've never experienced that feeling of liking both sexes and I can't even imagine me liking both sexes, but at the same time, that's like a heterosexual explaining what it's like to be gay (they've obviously never experienced it, so they don't know what it's like).

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The aversion straight men have for gay love is kind of similar to the aversion gay men have for straight love. And same for the ladies. And by love I mean sexual expression, but I wanted to keep it PG and hopefully I'm not self-censoring too hard.

I really do feel that if your orientation is exclusive to one sex, the other sex is just ... unnerving and would cause anxiety if you were forced to experience it and couldn't get away.

Is it okay if I ask a question about non-sexual bodily functions? I know there's a PG clause but I'd like to get clearance from you the people first
I guess that as long as it doesn't sound offensive, it's fine. Like QK said, there are a lot of things that have been posted here that wouldn't be considered PG. :p
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When it comes to women, I like the more emotional side to them because we can connect easier, and, when it comes to men, I like the more sexual aspect, and this is not me just being 15 and horny.

Me being 15 and horny is me wanting my boyfriend with me, beating up his parents(maybe), and giving him the ride of his life!
And then we go into the loving afterglow, exchanging 'I love you~'s and sweet things. We'll go on dates, and have lovey-dovey times and have fun.
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Old April 12th, 2013 (05:22 PM).
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Quote originally posted by FenrirDarkWolf:
Me being 15 and horny is me wanting my boyfriend with me, beating up his parents(maybe), and giving him the ride of his life!
And then we go into the loving afterglow, exchanging 'I love you~'s and sweet things. We'll go on dates, and have lovey-dovey times and have fun.
Goshdarn you youthful libertine types, making me feel so inadequate XD

How do you perceive the body odour of the gender you're attracted/not attracted to?
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Quote originally posted by BlahISuck:
Goshdarn you youthful libertine types, making me feel so inadequate XD

How do you perceive the body odour of the gender you're attracted/not attracted to?
If a guy has a bad body odor protruding from his armpits specifically, because that's the most gross smell imo, or from anywhere else on his body, I find that completely disgusting, lol, although I find good-looking, sweaty guys attractive (from a distance, because sweat obviously makes you smell). Also, I like when guys wear cologne, although I don't wear any myself. That goes for both sexes. I like the smell of women's fragrances better than men's, but yeah.

Honestly, when I'm with someone, whether it be male or female, I don't really take smell into account unless there's an obvious (bad) odor coming from them. Other than that, as long as you wear deodorant, I'm fine. :p

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Goshdarn you youthful libertine types, making me feel so inadequate XD

How do you perceive the body odour of the gender you're attracted/not attracted to?
I'm not sure I understand...
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Is there a difference in the way you appraise male vs. female body odours?

Like when I smell a certain someone, I get a mental thumbs up. I can't describe it in words - kind of like magnetism. It doesn't "objectively" smell good, as I'd rather be smelling chocolates or strawberries, but there is an attraction and I feel my perception is influenced by my orientation.
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Quote originally posted by FenrirDarkWolf:
I know how that feels.
I once fell for a guy, and his younger sister...
I bet that was an awkward situation.

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I've always wondered how it feels to be bisexual. I just can't/don't feel any physical or romantic attraction towards females (no offense to females.. you're all beautiful <3) at all, even if I tried.

I just can't imagine liking both sexes. That'd be too hectic for me lol.
I wouldn't say it feels any more 'hectic' it's just nice I guess. When I was young I assumed I was straight, as I'm sure most people do. At around 14 or so I started finding myself attracted to girls, and with many late-nights sneaking onto the computer for some experimenting with lesbian porn google, I came to the conclusion that I was a lesbian. It felt weird obviously as I was still young and naiive, however I came to accept it.
That was until I had my first experience with a guy; and I realized; 'Maybe i'm not gay after all'

I was 17 before I actually realized I was bi, and boy did it simplify things.

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Goshdarn you youthful libertine types, making me feel so inadequate XD

How do you perceive the body odour of the gender you're attracted/not attracted to?
I'm not sure I fully understand what youre asking but I'll answer anyway;

I'm not sure whether it's because I'm attracted to both genders, but I find smell of another person to be wonderful usually, be it a male or female person. Obviously though, if you don't shower for a week you're not going to smell good regardless of your gender.

I find guys generally smell 'muskier' or have a stronger smell, and girls usually have a more subtle scent. Either way the only time I've really ever noticed and appreciated the smell of another person is either sleeping together, or during moments of passion.

Mayhap it's simply part of infatuation.

In addition to what I mentioned earlier about monogamy; I've only ever felt like i've fully loved someone once, being my current partner.
Since I've been with her, I've found myself less emotionally attracted to others, of either gender. My physical attraction to either gender hasn't changed.

I guess that's probably some sort of natural, monogamous instinct.
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Quote originally posted by Twihiki_Amias:
Asexual means that you are not attracted to either sex, sexually and romantically , but you can still have a crush on either sex though.

Bisexual means simply that you are attracted to both sex, sexually and romantically. It goes towards both looks and personality of the person, and at times you can fall in love and have a crush on both sex at the same time too.
An asexual and can just as well be romantic, and many are, seeking the love and companionship of whatever gender they connect with, but having little or no interest in the physical (ie. sexual) aspect of the matter. Conversely, a bisexual could be aromantic, let's say. One could even be a heteroromantic homosexual, in theory; and so on.


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Is there a difference in the way you appraise male vs. female body odours?
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I was thinking that how you view body odour could reflect ones sexual preferences. Because sex is a sensual experience and smell definitely plays a part, even if its a small one. I didn't want to spell it out cuz that might skew some of your answers but I suck at making things clear anyways


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Quote originally posted by BlahISuck:
Is there a difference in the way you appraise male vs. female body odours?

Like when I smell a certain someone, I get a mental thumbs up. I can't describe it in words - kind of like magnetism. It doesn't "objectively" smell good, as I'd rather be smelling chocolates or strawberries, but there is an attraction and I feel my perception is influenced by my orientation.
I think I understand now...
But, I don't know how to answer this question.
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Haha it took me forever to come up with what I did above. Or maybe body odour is sensually significant for me But I understand this isn't a kink club.
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