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Old February 20th, 2015 (10:30 PM).
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So, I have a job interview on the 28th of this month for King's Island (exclusive amusement park found only in Ohio for those of you that don't know). I was wondering if I should dress up for this interview and if so...what do I wear?

I'm not exactly the suit and tie type, so forgive me. Would black jeans and a dress shirt be okay or should I go all out?

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Old February 21st, 2015 (05:59 AM).
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Quote originally posted by LetItBeKnown:
So, I have a job interview on the 28th of this month for King's Island (exclusive amusement park found only in Ohio for those of you that don't know). I was wondering if I should dress up for this interview and if so...what do I wear?

I'm not exactly the suit and tie type, so forgive me. Would black jeans and a dress shirt be okay or should I go all out?

Thanks.
How do the staff at the amusement park dress? Is there any way to talk to people there for advice on how their interview was?

As it's likely to be a customer facing role, I personally would go all out to look as smart as possible. They'll be gauging the impression you make on them as the impression you make on their customers. If there's something that looks like you haven't made as much effort as you could, and if someone else has made that effort to look that bit smarter, it could be disadvantageous even if you interview well.

Colour co-ordinating to match the colour of whatever uniform their staff may wear can be a good idea as it makes it easier for them to associate you with members of their staff. Obviously making a good warm friendly impression is vital as well, but attention to little details will pay off.
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Old February 21st, 2015 (06:01 AM).
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Quote originally posted by LetItBeKnown:
So, I have a job interview on the 28th of this month for King's Island (exclusive amusement park found only in Ohio for those of you that don't know). I was wondering if I should dress up for this interview and if so...what do I wear?

I'm not exactly the suit and tie type, so forgive me. Would black jeans and a dress shirt be okay or should I go all out?

Thanks.
Dressing up for a job interview, no matter where you plan to work (even if it was at a McDonald's), is a definite yes. I would suggest you not wear jeans (even if they are black) as well, since jeans aren't necessarily considered professional. The more formal you dress, the more it shows the hiring manager how professional you plan to be.

You shouldn't necessarily have to be fully-suited, but definitely yes to the dress shirt (with long sleeves), and a tie as well. Then find a pair of slacks (preferably black) to wear. You should also wear a pair of dress shoes as well. To top things off, make sure your facial hair is either non-existent or kept minimal and neat. Same with your hair: make sure it's neatly-cut and brushed.

Hope this helps!
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How do the staff at the amusement park dress? Is there any way to talk to people there for advice on how their interview was?
Dress code for King's Island is very inconsistent, usually changing depending on where you are going to work at (games, dining, etc.). I didn't apply for a specific position so that I would be favorable over others who are more picky than I. Same goes for the interview, it changes. So, I really have no idea what I'm up against here.

Also, first interview, and I'm really nervous.

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Dressing up for a job interview, no matter where you plan to work (even if it was at a McDonald's), is a definite yes. I would suggest you not wear jeans (even if they are black) as well, since jeans aren't necessarily considered professional. The more formal you dress, the more it shows the hiring manager how professional you plan to be.

You shouldn't necessarily have to be fully-suited, but definitely yes to the dress shirt (with long sleeves), and a tie as well. Then find a pair of slacks (preferably black) to wear. You should also wear a pair of dress shoes as well. To top things off, make sure your facial hair is either non-existent or kept minimal and neat. Same with your hair: make sure it's neatly-cut and brushed.

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I figured as much. Not sure I have a tie, but my mohawk will definitely have to be down (per their dress code) as well as my piercings out. I'll probably be buying some retainers too, in case I am hired.

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Old February 21st, 2015 (05:23 PM).
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Quote originally posted by LetItBeKnown:
Dress code for King's Island is very inconsistent, usually changing depending on where you are going to work at (games, dining, etc.). I didn't apply for a specific position so that I would be favorable over others who are more picky than I. Same goes for the interview, it changes. So, I really have no idea what I'm up against here.

Also, first interview, and I'm really nervous.


I figured as much. Not sure I have a tie, but my mohawk will definitely have to be down (per their dress code) as well as my piercings out. I'll probably be buying some retainers too, in case I am hired.

Thanks for the advice.
Yeah, you definitely want to keep your piercings out for the interview, and any tattoos you have (if you have any) should be kept well hidden as well.

Also, if you don't have a tie, you could run to Walmart or even your local thrift store and find one that's relatively inexpensive. Try to get one that's plain in design (not too graphical) and contrasts very well with your dress shirt as well.

I wish you the best of luck.
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Quote originally posted by LetItBeKnown:
Dress code for King's Island is very inconsistent, usually changing depending on where you are going to work at (games, dining, etc.). I didn't apply for a specific position so that I would be favorable over others who are more picky than I. Same goes for the interview, it changes. So, I really have no idea what I'm up against here.

Also, first interview, and I'm really nervous.
Keeping yourself eligible for every position is a good move. I'd say dress for the best then. Best advice I can give you (from my own experience for better or worse!) would be

-Obviously, dressing to impress is a given from earlier!
-Particularly for the nerves side of things: don't try to force an answer out as soon as a question is asked. You can take a little time to think about it and give a more measured response.
-Honesty >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
-Doing your research on the company is a very good idea. A very common question is the good old "what do you know about the company?" One way I REALLY stood out for my current job was the fact I'd prepared to the point where I was reeling off a timeline of significant events from 1892 onwards. Not a lot says "I want to work for you" as much as having a solid idea of a company's background as opposed to being able to give them model answers for typical questions.
-It took me 5 interviews to get a job in the end, so even if it does go wrong, make sure you ask for feedback on your interview! 3 of my interviews gave me very helpful feedback that helped with future ones.

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OK, this is a really random question.

I want to resize some images. I want to make them bigger, not smaller. I found some nice avatars, but they're 80x80 (I think) and I want something around 150-180px.

I can't find a site that doesn't ruin the image quality upon resizing, though. Any suggestions? ☺
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OK, this is a really random question.

I want to resize some images. I want to make them bigger, not smaller. I found some nice avatars, but they're 80x80 (I think) and I want something around 150-180px.

I can't find a site that doesn't ruin the image quality upon resizing, though. Any suggestions? ☺
Download GIMP and do a perfect resize? Tbh the image quality won't be that amazing, but more or less tolerable.
With an avatar already the size of 80 x 80 resizing it to be bigger whatever the method will cause the image to be more blurry and lose quality.
Finding a site to do it for you won't help either, it's better to do something like this on photoshop or GIMP and do it yourself.
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Download GIMP and do a perfect resize? Tbh the image quality won't be that amazing, but more or less tolerable.
With an avatar already the size of 80 x 80 resizing it to be bigger whatever the method will cause the image to be more blurry and lose quality.
Finding a site to do it for you won't help either, it's better to do something like this on photoshop or GIMP and do it yourself.
Thanks for the suggestion. I had Photoshop before, but I don't really know how to use it

I found this:



and want to remove the boarder but keep the GIF's integrity. Does anyone know how to do this?

I can't find a lot of good images of Belldandy online (that work for avatars), and this one is super nice, but I can't use it as it is
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Thanks for the suggestion. I had Photoshop before, but I don't really know how to use it :pink_tongue:

I found this:



and want to remove the boarder but keep the GIF's integrity. Does anyone know how to do this?

I can't find a lot of good images of Belldandy online (that work for avatars), and this one is super nice, but I can't use it as it is :pink_frown:
In basic turns of photoshop, you'd have to open the file on photoshop, make sure you can see the frames on photoshop's timeline and crop all the border out of all the frames. It's easier to do than explain, but that's just me.

Just going to leave this for future, but if you have anymore art, graphics etc related problems you'd best post it in the Art & Design section, and for small things/ questions like this the DCC of that section.

Feel it is more appropriate to post art related things there because more of the artists and designers in the forum can see this and help you, because aside from me there are other very awesome and talented artists and designers that know their stuff.
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In basic turns of photoshop, you'd have to open the file on photoshop, make sure you can see the frames on photoshop's timeline and crop all the border out of all the frames. It's easier to do than explain, but that's just me.

Just going to leave this for future, but if you have anymore art, graphics etc related problems you'd best post it in the Art & Design section, and for small things/ questions like this the DCC of that section.

Feel it is more appropriate to post art related things there because more of the artists and designers in the forum can see this and help you, because aside from me there are other very awesome and talented artists and designers that know their stuff.
Ah, OK! I'll have to try this out. I'll use the Graphic Design forum from now on

My boyfriend has PS CS5 or something on his laptop, so I'll see if I can fiddle with it. Not sure why someone would purposefully put those awful borders on that GIF Oh well.

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Okay, so I don't really need help or advice usually, but some now would be incredibly appreciated.
I'm the type of person who's more of the type to help people rather than to need help myself, but I really just don't know what to do and I thought that there would be people here who have experienced this than me who could actually help.
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So basically in 2012 I met one of my closest friends ever in America while I was at a summer camp. He's was probably the first person who wasn't an internet friend that I became good friends with in so many years and he's become practically my little brother because even when he's still in America, he always came to me to ask for advice for his problems and what not. The last day of last year he actually moved to here which is the coolest thing ever, except he's moved to specialized school down south which is still somewhat far from me.

In the course of about a week or two since getting here, he's became friends girl who was already at the school through another friend of his. He'd seen her around the halls already and he'd already fallen for her hard.
A week later, both of them and a few friends ended at a movie night and somehow in the course of it the two of them ended up making out.

The problem is that she already has a boyfriend (about a year-long I think). She never told him until a day or a couple of days later so he felt pretty heartbroken. However, as the next few weeks past they have ended up kissing again and again and at the same time she's either pushing him away or coming back for more. She won't break up with her boyfriend because apparently she loves him too much which honestly I don't think is much of an excuse considering both my friend and her have reached 3rd base multiple times which is frustrating. His excuse was that because her boyfriend doesn't give her any (meaning he barely shows her that sort of affection). But if you truly did love him, why would go to someone else as a psyduckbuddy (not that they have actually have sex yet - from what he has told me).

I know she means a lot to him because already early on she told him his secrets and he's told her his
She has manipulated him a lot and I just can't say half the things she's done since I can't remember at this point of time.
The one thing I'm really hating about it how she treats him and giving all these different signals it's confusing really. She gets incredibly drunk with him and then ditches him to go to her boyfriends house leaving him to have to walk home from the bar through the dark roads on his own and getting his drunk messages of "I don't know where I am." etc is incredibly worrying since it's happened more than once on occasion and he could have been mugged or something at his state.

About two weeks ago she said she was ending it with him and he told me he had been crying the whole day from pain and heartbreak, only to find out another week later that despite me telling her to avoid her, she's constantly tried to be near him again and I know they've probably just ended in one of their rooms and spent the night together again. I know multiple times that he has spent the night in his room, apparently she sleep talks the name of her boyfriend instead.

Another friend of mine who has become a good friend to him via. internet is also really pissed of with him because of this and despite yelling at him a couple of times she is currently too pissed to speak with him.
Unlike me who doesn't have the courage to yell at him, she's not afraid of him and now he's too afraid to speak with her.

We honestly hate what she's doing to him and I really don't know what to do. I know the boyfriend honestly doesn't deserve this at all. No one deserves to get cheated on and he's been sitting there not know his girlfriend has been cheating on him for 3 months now.
After a bit of searching the girl's really privated facebook I was able to find out who the boyfriend is. My friend said she would message the guy if she had to since I really can't. Him being one of my closest friends, I'm afraid to ruin our relationship. More or less, because he's here in my country and I know there are a lot of mean people in his college that can be mean to him, I'm always looking out for him especially when he gets into trouble once in a while. He has no other relatives or people here that he can rely on so I'm all he has at the moment.

I'm worried that if the boyfriend breaks up with her, she'll just come running to him instead and after how she's manipulated him and treated him like muk except when making out and doing sexual favours that her boyfriend doesn't want to do. He thinks that because the boyfriend won't do the sex and only kiss her once in a while (heard there were other things to do with culture), that the boyfriend is just taking advantage of her just by having her as a girlfriend, but I don't fully agree with that because just because two people have been in a relationship, the sex isn't absolutely essential. Sex is probably great, yeah, but that doesn't mean everyone wants it so soon or they have beliefs that they follow.

I know she cares about him too since she cooks and bakes for him sometimes, but she's also done a lot of things that he doesn't deserve to be treated like that. Honestly, he deserves a girl that's better than this.

Right now, he's blinded with his love for her, but from the outside it's just incredibly painful to watch. He told me he would stop when it started, but it just continued on and on and her doesn't really help.

Sorry bout the long post, but I really don't know what to do and need advice. My only relationship has only been ever good so seeing this, I just don't know what to do about it. As much advice as anyone could give I would extremely appreciate it.
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I'll be blunt. She's manipulative and likes to keep her options open because she craves the attention and doesn't know what she wants.

He has to live with the fact that he's going to continue being played if he continues to keep contact with her. He needs to grow up and see the situation realistically. He also needs to give himself more self respect to take himself out of that nasty situation. He needs to realize that she will just continue doing this to others and to him if she were in a relationship with him. It's not a healthy relationship but he's also, in a sense, using her because he wants that intimacy, too. Again, he needs to grow up.

You need to tell him how you feel about him. Honestly.

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Lolno. She doesn't care about him. Someone who cares about someone else would have their best interest at heart and right now she doesn't give a muk about anyone but herself.


In the end it's his decision on what he wants to do, but if he stays in contact with this girl, he's just going to get himself into trouble. Worst case scenario probably get completely messed up in the head from her and possibly catch an STI. You can let him know what you think, but in the end you can't really stop it, either. You just have to say what you need to say and let him figure it out and make his own decisions from it. You're both adults now and you can't be expected to be his mother.

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Whoop de muk. I tell everyone here that I used to have depression and anxiety. I tell people here I suffer from constipation from time to time. I tell people here I have a birthmark on my ass. What other secrets do you want to know? Just because I share some personal stuff doesn't mean I mean a lot to everyone on here. Again, he needs to grow up and you both need to stop believing what this chick is telling you.

Be more skeptical, be more guarded, be more distanced- she's obviously a negative influence and I see nothing positive coming from knowing her.


I'd also let him know he's being cheated on. He'll be in a better place for it IMO.
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Returning to my previous issue, I'm now having an online relationship with one of them, who was interested in having a boyfriend herself, but her sister, who is also currently on an online relationship with another man, was trying to warn me to not be with her, because according to her, she's playing with me, just like with previous men before me, although I was fully aware that both slept with numerous men in the past. I asked her what should I do, and she told me to leave her, and when I told her about the advice a PC user gave me, she asked, "And what do you think?" And I replied, "That I don't know who I should trust anymore." Then she said, "Yourself?" Of course, what I said also implies trusting her, because one of my friends from France, who is also a friend of my girlfriend's sister, told me he was once in a relationship with the sister for several months, as her boyfriend, but he never really heard or saw her (he went to her residence, which is Ukraine, and couldn't find her). And every time he traced her IP, it comes back to France, and her excuse of using a proxy is ridiculous to him, because according to him, it wouldn't be always to the same location in France and the IP would be registered as a proxy. He asked a friend she had for a few years prior, and he told him the same thing. He too was her boyfriend for a few years, never saw her in a live cam, followed by same IP problem. I bought myself a webcam, since my gf told me she also owns a webcam and used it before, and he advised me to have her accept my request for a webcam chat to see if her sister is telling the truth or not (he thinks two women could be the same individual, explaining why the sister never uses a webcam nor a mic). I've asked some of my friends on Skype for advice, but they couldn't find any answers, only suggestions. I don't know who I should trust after hearing both sides of the story, because I fear if I proceed to chat with my girlfriend, then her sister won't be my friend anymore, but I don't know she's also holding any secrets of her own. What should I do?
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Returning to my previous issue, I'm now having an online relationship with one of them, who was interested in having a boyfriend herself, but her sister, who is also currently on an online relationship with another man, was trying to warn me to not be with her, because according to her, she's playing with me, just like with previous men before me, although I was fully aware that both slept with numerous men in the past. I asked her what should I do, and she told me to leave her, and when I told her about the advice a PC user gave me, she asked, "And what do you think?" And I replied, "That I don't know who I should trust anymore." Then she said, "Yourself?" Of course, what I said also implies trusting her, because one of my friends from France, who is also a friend of my girlfriend's sister, told me he was once in a relationship with the sister for several months, as her boyfriend, but he never really heard or saw her (he went to her residence, which is Ukraine, and couldn't find her). And every time he traced her IP, it comes back to France, and her excuse of using a proxy is ridiculous to him, because according to him, it wouldn't be always to the same location in France and the IP would be registered as a proxy. He asked a friend she had for a few years prior, and he told him the same thing. He too was her boyfriend for a few years, never saw her in a live cam, followed by same IP problem. I bought myself a webcam, since my gf told me she also owns a webcam and used it before, and he advised me to have her accept my request for a webcam chat to see if her sister is telling the truth or not (he thinks two women could be the same individual, explaining why the sister never uses a webcam nor a mic). I've asked some of my friends on Skype for advice, but they couldn't find any answers, only suggestions. I don't know who I should trust after hearing both sides of the story, because I fear if I proceed to chat with my girlfriend, then her sister won't be my friend anymore, but I don't know she's also holding any secrets of her own. What should I do?
If you're making such a distinction between "answers" and "suggestions", then I'll say that what you're looking for here is tantamount to having someone else tell you what to do. People have been telling you the various consequences that would follow your alternatives atm (to skype call or not to skype call). You should be weighing these consequences yourself, for you are the one going through the situation and understand your own needs and desires the best. Nobody should be deciding upon your behalf.
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Obviously no one here is going to encourage suicidal behaviour, so I do hope that's not what you're looking for. But in my experience with mental health, few people with our problems (our! You're not alone) actively want others to encourage their suicide, they just don't know what else to say.

Clearly you're in a tough situation. You're beyond drained and you can't find a way out of whatever you're going through. I get it - I feel like this extremely often, it's an awful state of mind and no one blames you for wanting to ease your pain in the one way you seem to control. While the laws of this thread state that I can't give you any professional advice, I really don't mind talking to you privately and hopefully using my experience to help in any way I can. Aside from that, I really must insist that you see your doctor and go from there. They'll be able to refer you to mental health professionals who can give you the support you need on a professional level.

If I recall correctly, you've mentioned you are transgender in various posts? If your situation anything related to that, your doctor is required to give you various connections to anyone who can specialise in your situation. Or at least refer you to someone who can point you in the direction of someone who can. At least that's how it works in New Zealand. Once again, I can also talk to you on a personal level about dealing with transgender stuff if that is the issue.

Just do your best to make it through the next hour, through the next sleep, through the next breakfast, the next day, etc. Drag yourself through the concrete to the doctor if that's what it takes. While suicide may seem like the better way out, it's an empty path.
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Obviously no one here is going to encourage suicidal behaviour, so I do hope that's not what you're looking for. But in my experience with mental health, few people with our problems (our! You're not alone) actively want others to encourage their suicide, they just don't know what else to say.

Clearly you're in a tough situation. You're beyond drained and you can't find a way out of whatever you're going through. I get it - I feel like this extremely often, it's an awful state of mind and no one blames you for wanting to ease your pain in the one way you seem to control. While the laws of this thread state that I can't give you any professional advice, I really don't mind talking to you privately and hopefully using my experience to help in any way I can. Aside from that, I really must insist that you see your doctor and go from there. They'll be able to refer you to mental health professionals who can give you the support you need on a professional level.

If I recall correctly, you've mentioned you are transgender in various posts? If your situation anything related to that, your doctor is required to give you various connections to anyone who can specialise in your situation. Or at least refer you to someone who can point you in the direction of someone who can. At least that's how it works in New Zealand. Once again, I can also talk to you on a personal level about dealing with transgender stuff if that is the issue.

Just do your best to make it through the next hour, through the next sleep, through the next breakfast, the next day, etc. Drag yourself through the concrete to the doctor if that's what it takes. While suicide may seem like the better way out, it's an empty path.
I just can't do anything. I am crying right now and home alone, and I cut up my arm, again. I just want this to all stop. No one seems to take me serious at home. They think my whole transgender being is a joke and make fun of it and question everything about it. My therapist knows I am trans but he doesn't really want to go into any of that until I am "happy with myself" which I can't ever be.
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Quote originally posted by DDDchu:
I just can't do anything. I am crying right now and home alone, and I cut up my arm, again. I just want this to all stop. No one seems to take me serious at home. They think my whole transgender being is a joke and make fun of it and question everything about it. My therapist knows I am trans but he doesn't really want to go into any of that until I am "happy with myself" which I can't ever be.
Change your therapist, if that is an option. They are required to work with you at the level that you desire and if they are holding you back without moving in any other direction, which is harming you, then they are essentially committing malpractice and you should not stay with them any longer. Exhaust your options in order to find the professional that is right for you.
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Quote originally posted by DDDchu:
Can I please kill myself now or now? I am just done, so done.
If you are really thinking about this, please give a call to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline. 1 (800) 273-8255. I don't mean to sound like an advertisement, but this is not something that should be taken lightly, especially on a forum.
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Please, use that phone number Tsutarja posted and seek professional advice. This is a link to an LGBT lifeline if you need it as well. I can't offer professional advice, but I want to at least give you my support...I don't know you well, but I'm here for you regardless and seeing that post breaks my heart. There are so many other options out there for you. And like Harley said, if your professional help is not meeting the standards you need met as a transgendered person, please seek one that will meet those needs and exceed beyond. Stay strong.
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i need help getting over a broken heart, an old bud of mine abandoned me and will not tlk 2 me anymore... it happened on the 7th btw
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Quote originally posted by DDDchu:
I just can't do anything. I am crying right now and home alone, and I cut up my arm, again. I just want this to all stop. No one seems to take me serious at home. They think my whole transgender being is a joke and make fun of it and question everything about it. My therapist knows I am trans but he doesn't really want to go into any of that until I am "happy with myself" which I can't ever be.
Has anything happened in the last three days? Have you made any steps with doctors, mental health, etc?

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i need help getting over a broken heart, an old bud of mine abandoned me and will not tlk 2 me anymore... it happened on the 7th btw
Time and busying yourself are the best medicines for the immediate hurt. There isn't a get fixed quick way of dealing with these sorts of things, but they're healthy ways of diverting your attention when you need it. Reflect upon what happened, but don't let it consume your day. Hold out hope for the renewing of whatever you had with them, but only hold it on a loose string. Move on.
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