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Old December 15th, 2014 (12:39 AM).
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Perhaps you could reconsider the tempo with which you escalate a relationship so it doesn't get too deep too soon.
Honestly, it's entirely on her that it got to this point. Like second date she was head over heels and made things facebook official. I liked her, was interested at the time, and what was I supposed to say? No? So things went faster than I wanted from the get go.

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Old December 15th, 2014 (12:56 AM).
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Honestly, it's entirely on her that it got to this point. Like second date she was head over heels and made things facebook official. I liked her, was interested at the time, and what was I supposed to say? No? So things went faster than I wanted from the get go.
I don't think that's fair on you. You shouldn't feel like there's nothing you can do if things are going faster than you wanted. But even if everything feels right, there's nothing wrong with slowing things down a bit just to be cautious. It's an opportunity to see how your partner respects your boundaries.
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Old December 15th, 2014 (2:00 AM).
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I don't think that's fair on you. You shouldn't feel like there's nothing you can do if things are going faster than you wanted. But even if everything feels right, there's nothing wrong with slowing things down a bit just to be cautious. It's an opportunity to see how your partner respects your boundaries.
Yeah, that was back before I realized, really, what I was getting into. I didn't want to 'mess things up', so to speak.

You guys are right though, my mind is made up. I just have no idea how to do it.
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Old December 17th, 2014 (10:45 PM).
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Looking to join this group.

I'm Genderqueer and Pansexual.

I just don't pay attention to things like gender, even my own gender just doesn't seem that important to me at times. I flow like the wind and go where the breeze takes me~

Looking to join this group.

I'm Genderqueer and Pansexual.

I just don't pay attention to things like gender, even my own gender just doesn't seem that important to me at times. I flow like the wind and go where the breeze takes me~
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Old December 18th, 2014 (5:44 AM).
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been a while since i posted in here

i came out to my mother & her bf as transgender on monday
it went probably as good as i could hoped for/expected
lots of crying from both of us, lots of emotions, anxiety through the roof, etc

but ultimately accepting and she'll be there for me
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Old December 19th, 2014 (10:26 AM).
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been a while since i posted in here

i came out to my mother & her bf as transgender on monday
it went probably as good as i could hoped for/expected
lots of crying from both of us, lots of emotions, anxiety through the roof, etc

but ultimately accepting and she'll be there for me
That's great to hear! I wish you and your family the best

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Honestly, it's entirely on her that it got to this point. Like second date she was head over heels and made things facebook official. I liked her, was interested at the time, and what was I supposed to say? No? So things went faster than I wanted from the get go.
She considered you partners, and you had only been on two dates? That sounds concerning to me.
With all of what's going on, you should listen to Kanzler and note this as a learning experience.
You should be honest. However, will she be ok and safe if you break things off?


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Old December 19th, 2014 (9:18 PM).
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I was in a conversation with a friend about queer charachters in media aimed towards a family friendly audience, and we were both talking about why hasn't there been one yet.

Then it hit me, the creators don't care if they have gay charachters or not, some even openly admit to them being queer in the most subtle little ways. Such as Marceline and Bubblegum from Adventure Time. (We were talking about this because the creator of Gravity Falls said in an episode where Mabel is wearing a rainbow sweater, she is supposedly coming out as Bisexual)

Why won't networks show off queer charachters? Well these shows are being shown on an international level to places like Russia and China that outright ban the showing of this stuff to the kids. These countries would even be willing to shut down a network for having a simple girl on girl peck on the cheek. Loosing views in a country as big as China or Russia is pretty critical for a network.

Just wanted to throw that out there.

I guess it creates a lair between headcanons and actual canon with it not being 'on - air' now does it?
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Old December 20th, 2014 (11:56 PM).
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She considered you partners, and you had only been on two dates? That sounds concerning to me.
With all of what's going on, you should listen to Kanzler and note this as a learning experience.
You should be honest. However, will she be ok and safe if you break things off?
I have no idea. I've planned on doing it tomorrow, where is still up in the air.
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Old December 21st, 2014 (8:44 AM).
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I'm not here to start a fight or anything, just something "fresh" to talk about. I'm sure you must have heard this cliche "homosexuality is unnatural" - I disagree with this, but what are your thoughts on this statement?

Common argument to support this claim is that same sex partners cannot reproduce naturally, does this argument hold any water?
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Old December 21st, 2014 (10:03 AM).
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Funny how often straight couples use condoms, birth control, and even abortion to stop themselves from having kids. It's natural right?
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Old December 21st, 2014 (10:41 PM).
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Wearing clothing is unnatural too, ya know.
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Old December 22nd, 2014 (12:11 AM).
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"Naturalness" is just another societal construct. So based on certain vantage points, one could argue that homosexuality is unnatural: still doesn't give it any objective value though.
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Old December 24th, 2014 (1:31 AM).
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"Naturalness" is just another societal construct. So based on certain vantage points, one could argue that homosexuality is unnatural: still doesn't give it any objective value though.
It could also be said it is 'natural'. Cue evidence of homosexuality among different animals, penguins, monkeys.
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Old December 24th, 2014 (11:02 AM).
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Of course, I'm not supporting the "unnatural" standpoint, I'm just saying that the reason those people are so tied to their views is because the argument makes sense from their point of view, which is why it's so hard to change people's minds.
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Old December 24th, 2014 (11:12 AM).
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Yeah, pretty much everything about humanity is "unnatural" though. I don't understand why natural = good for most people anyway, and I'm sort of a tree hugger. lol
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Old December 25th, 2014 (5:54 PM).
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Ha. Tree hugger.... anyone else get it?

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Old December 25th, 2014 (6:35 PM).
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Browsing tumblr, and stumbled across a post.

Not going to post it because I don't want to do anything to send people over to anything (Not saying yall will, its just a policy I do)

It was one of those 'pick your pronouns to smash to gender binary' kind of posts. It is really hurtful to see these people pick pronouns like its some kind of game. I'm someone who really wants there to be a third gendered pronoun, because thats all we need to add to the mix. We don't need pronouns like "bunself" and "faeself" when the crediability of the main third pronouns aren't even taken seriously.

Even if you are joking, or its some inner circle thing. The fact that its getting out there and around is making genderqueer people, no wait all of trans people look like this is some kind of play thing and we are choosing to do things in order to be cute and trendy.

Special snowflakes like this annoy me. Its just really aggravating, because whenever I announce myself as genderqueer to people I know through tumblr or an old community I was apart of, this is what they think I am. Urgh

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Old December 25th, 2014 (7:32 PM).
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take solace in the fact that the faeself/bunself stuff is done by a relatively small number of people and in a small subsection of tumblr

it won't have any genuine impact on genderqueer/trans people because no one cares what they (the bunself people) are doing past making fun of them and calling them out for accessorising gender identity to go with their uwu aesthetic

take solace in the fact that the faeself/bunself stuff is done by a relatively small number of people and in a small subsection of tumblr

it won't have any genuine impact on genderqueer/trans people because no one cares what they (the bunself people) are doing past making fun of them and calling them out for accessorising gender identity to go with their uwu aesthetic
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Old January 8th, 2015 (9:31 AM).
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why do they even do that though?
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Old January 11th, 2015 (6:42 AM).
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Sorry for the rant, please bear with me.

Why on earth are there so many homosexuals (and I'm mainly talking about lesbians here) hating on bisexuals? I'm sick of having to justify my orientation every single time I come out to someone. Some claim I'm in denial about being homosexual and some say I make it up to get attention. Oh, and then there are those lesbians that right out say that I'm disgusting for having slept with men. Wow... I don't even know what to say. It's bad enough that a lot of straight people discriminate against bi and homosexuals but that people who are longing for acceptance and who have to deal with so much stigma about their sexual orientation themselves go and act all intolerant is even worse in my opinion. People always talk about homophobia and transphobia but nobody cares about biphobia. I don't think many people know that it even exists. You know what? If I could choose my orientation, I'd pick either the gay or straight side because being in-between give you hatred from both sides.
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Old January 11th, 2015 (8:00 AM).
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I've never really encountered biphobia in my travels. People come out as bi before they come out as gay because they feel like people are more accepting of your homosexuality as long as you're still heterosexual as well. That's not to say that it doesn't exist, because clearly you're experiencing it, just that I've never come across it anywhere myself.

I think where your lesbian friends are getting their attitude from is that a lot of girls do tend to pretend to be bi for attention. It sucks, but it does spoil it for the people who are legit. I think where biphobia might also come from too is straight and gay inability to understand being attracted to two opposing things at the same time.

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Old January 12th, 2015 (1:52 PM).
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Wearing clothing is unnatural too, ya know.
You. I like the way you think.

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Browsing tumblr, and stumbled across a post.

Special snowflakes like this annoy me. Its just really aggravating, because whenever I announce myself as genderqueer to people I know through tumblr or an old community I was apart of, this is what they think I am. Urgh

/rant
Tumblr nowadays is generally a cesspit of awfulness. 'Special-snowflakes' tend to gather together there and, excuse the expression, have a gigantic circlejerk about each other and how unique they are.
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Old January 26th, 2015 (7:26 PM).
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Tumblr nowadays is generally a cesspit of awfulness. 'Special-snowflakes' tend to gather together there and, excuse the expression, have a gigantic circlejerk about each other and how unique they are
This. Honestly, I wouldn't take Tumblr very seriously, a lot of people there that use sexuality and gender as personal accessories are usually impressionable teens who try to "stand out" so to speak. You just do you, and don't worry about them, they're not worth your anger or time.

Actually, in general Tumblr's become a pretty toxic place, at least from what I've observed. I got caught up in it's echochamber and didn't realize how extreme and horribly poisonous the majority of it's user base is till recently.
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Old January 28th, 2015 (8:51 AM).
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People on Tumblr making labels generally doesn't bug me too much because meh.

But what does bug me is that people are saying these identities are oppressed and trying to get into the LGBT community. You are not oppressed for being things like panplatonic (which is defined on mogai-archive as "seeking a platonic relationship without any preference to gender"). I mean, what's the worst that'll happen to someone that says they're panplatonic? Someone says that the label is silly and describes most people? That's not oppression.
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Old February 23rd, 2015 (5:25 AM).
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You're lying

Panplatonic hasn't actually become a created word

You're lying

You have to be

If you're not, it signals the coming of the end of days.

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