I really hate to post this here, but...I don't really have anywhere else to turn to.
So, I don't feel comfortable living with my mother and her boyfriend anymore. A few days back, I started an argument with my mother because she was telling my four-year-old niece and four-year-old sister that my older sister (who is almost twenty-one years old) is a prostitute and goes around selling herself. Obviously, there's really no justification for telling two small children things like that, so I stepped in and told her she really shouldn't be filling their heads with it. As usual, everything I say is turned into a smart-remark with her, and it quickly got heated. My mom really cannot have ANY conversation with me without yelling or calling me names and attempting to belittle me with insults to my sexual orientation.
Anyway, we went on for a few minutes (this is not the first time, either; we argue almost every week now) and her boyfriend (the father of my aforementioned little sister) stepped in and began pushing and shoving me while also screaming in my face and calling me names. This has never happened before, but lately I can sense that they are more hostile towards me for whatever reason (honestly, I really just think that both of them simply dislike me). It's been getting worse and worse since we moved, with my mom getting drunk every night and such. I'm really afraid of what could happen if we have another argument. I just really don't feel safe anymore.
I have a grandmother in Kentucky who I could live with, but I don't think she is financially able to support the both of us. I also would want to burden her, plus I've already made really good friends here that I don't with to leave behind after having to do that so much in life already. That being said, I also have a really good friend whose mom is like the one I never really had who I'm sure would gladly let me stay with her. The problem is that legally, I'm not sure if that is even allowed.
Any advice?
I know I'm not in the wost situation, but I'm no longer being supplied with clothes, real food, or any other necessities, some before and some after our argument. She basically disowned me without kicking me out.
You may want to consider calling child protective services if your mother's boyfriend is physically assaulting you or if you feel like your siblings are being neglected or improperly cared for. Their number for Ohio is 1-855-OH-CHILD. You can read more
here. Keep in mind this is a pretty major thing to do and that it could impact your life significantly, but it sounds like it may be for the best. I can't judge that, though, only you can.
That's awful. There are options to get away and such, but in full time education/at 15 it's hard to have much control of how that'll go.
I think it's obligatory to go to school until 18 in America? I'd guess that you're there until June 2017? I have a friend in America who wasn't in a good family situation either (again, sexuality related to it), and after he turned 16, he learned to drive, got a job and barely spent any of his time at home other than to sleep there when things got tough for him at home. I'm not sure how feasible that is for you, and your situation sounds worse. But said friend is in a happier place now. It depends just how much you can handle, really.
It's good that you're willing to be open about issues like this, as you won't simply be letting it get pent up to the point where you can't handle it and let it explode. More mature than I was when when I was your age, that's for certain! Do your best to keep a level head and assess your situation/wellbeing well. When you're inevitably dealing with ****, do everything you can to make it as bearable as you can. If there's no way you're going to hold together in your current situation, then do your research very carefully about what you're legally entitled to.
All I can say is gl, other than that.
Like I mentioned, CPS can help if it's bad enough, and there's also the legal concept of
emancipation, but that usually requires that you have the means to provide for yourself, which most people don't at age 15.
A what? What's a dietitian? I've never heard of such a thing. Whatever it is.
A
dietitian is a specialist in nutrition. Keep in mind that many people who call themselves that have no professional background to speak of, however. If you do seek one out, make sure they actually know what they're talking about. Talk to your doctor to make sure they're not full of it.
You may also want to make sure you have a source of fiber. I'm guessing you've already checked this, since it's the first thing any competent doctor would ask, but I think it's still worth mentioning. Many people in first world countries are chronically low on fiber and this can severely affect your digestion in a variety of negative ways. I have a particularly poor digestive system, so I take Metamucil cookies as a fiber supplement. I find that taking two cookies (one individually wrapped package) with each meal
significantly helps with my digestion. The difference is night and day: if I don't take it, I have a lot of problems; if I do take it, I have almost none. I can't guarantee that a lack of fiber is your problem, but it's one of the biggest and most common factors associated with digestion problems.
You should be able to find Metamucil in the vitamin supplement section of your store, even though it's technically food. The only problem I have with it is that it's not cheap, but it's worth the price for the significant quality of life improvement to me. They also have a powder that you can mix into a drink, which I've never tried because my drink of choice is water and I doubt it would taste good mixed in.
I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but I would recommend seeking professional help for this problem. It may also be that
she needs professional help, but I suspect she would probably be even more unwilling to seek it.
I will say this, though. You have to do what's right for
you. Your whole life should not revolve around her needs. You only have one life to live and while I generally think you should help family when possible, I don't think that applies when they're dragging your entire life down in the process. Keep in mind that living on your own isn't easy either, but it sounds like it might be a much better environment for you and well worth the associated costs.
