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The Rainbow Connection [LGBTS Club]

Phantom1

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So it's been a week for me.

You know what the first thing I noticed now that I'm alone?

How much goddamn time I have on my hands.

Seriously, I cleaned ALL THE THINGS yesterday. Everything. I found myself pacing. Video games didn't entertain me. I've been smoking more. Netflix asked me if I was alright because I watched nearly an season of Supernatural in almost one day, made it to episode 19.

I am outright bored, and it doesn't help me with avoiding thinking of her.
 
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Just a small update. The Supreme Court here in the US is (probably) going to deliver its decision on DOMA (the so-called Defense of Marriage Act which makes the federal government unable to recognize same-sex marriage, even if certain states do) and/or Prop 8 (the same-sex marriage ban in California). Depending on how things go there could be lots of changes or not many changes for the whole country.

I don't want to sound too much of a downer, but I don't really enjoy how LGBT politics is treated here, at least not in the form it is. It's hardly controversial, either we pat ourselves on the back or shake our heads - but in unison. I like articles like this one though, they're more discussion-worthy and that's something I'd like to see more of.

Would you elaborate on that a little? Personally I see this club as a safe space first and a discussion space second. If we're just self-congratulating each other I don't see a problem with that because some of us don't have much/any support in our daily lives.

I'm all for heavy debates, but I don't know if most members who post or view this thread would want that.

So it's been a week for me.

You know what the first thing I noticed now that I'm alone?

How much goddamn time I have on my hands.

Seriously, I cleaned ALL THE THINGS yesterday. Everything. I found myself pacing. Video games didn't entertain me. I've been smoking more. Netflix asked me if I was alright because I watched nearly an season of Supernatural in almost one day, made it to episode 19.

I am outright bored, and it doesn't help me with avoiding thinking of her.

Netflix does that?

Perhaps you could spend more time with friends and let that keep your mind occupied.
 
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Would you elaborate on that a little? Personally I see this club as a safe space first and a discussion space second. If we're just self-congratulating each other I don't see a problem with that because some of us don't have much/any support in our daily lives.

I'm all for heavy debates, but I don't know if most members who post or view this thread would want that.

The stories we post are usually really one-sided. Like there's no moral exploration and discussion going on, we know exactly what the response is going to be after reading the title. I'm talking about stories like "same sex marriage has been legalized in x" or "same sex marriage has been banned in y" of "z politician made outrageous comments". While every news story is new in itself, the ideas are nothing new, I guess to me it's just ... boring, repetitive and not very stimulating. News updates are cool, its just that I often see the buds of a discussion that disintegrates into yayy or nayy and watching a discussion that didn't have much potential to begin with unravel is a bit depressing to me.

You're right that this is a safe-space first though and that's what it should remain. I think my rant is better directed at D&D - I've just been pining for some serious discussion and intellectual stimulation lately.
 
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The stories we post are usually really one-sided. Like there's no moral exploration and discussion going on, we know exactly what the response is going to be after reading the title. I'm talking about stories like "same sex marriage has been legalized in x" or "same sex marriage has been banned in y" of "z politician made outrageous comments". While every news story is new in itself, the ideas are nothing new, I guess to me it's just ... boring, repetitive and not very stimulating. News updates are cool, its just that I often see the buds of a discussion that disintegrates into yayy or nayy and watching a discussion that didn't have much potential to begin with unravel is a bit depressing to me.

You're right that this is a safe-space first though and that's what it should remain. I think my rant is better directed at D&D - I've just been pining for some serious discussion and intellectual stimulation lately.
Ah, I get what you mean now. I wasn't sure if you were talking about our individual stories and didn't want to assume that's what you meant. 'Cuz, you know, there are gonna be some one-sided opinions here about certain things!

Maybe you should start a D&D thread. Or maybe just say something here anyway and see what sticks. There is a certain kind of Daily Chit-Chat feel to this place sometimes depending on who's around and what we're talking about, but I'm sure that you could start some more discussion-based conversations.
 

FenrirDarkWolf

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This is how the second break-up went.
Spoiler:


And you know what?
I. Feel. Great.
 
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It's hard to find a way to distract yourself. I would hang out with friends and do things that don't remind me of her. I play skyrim. Water my garden. Read a book. You know?

Getting out in general might help :) in the past I've found the best thing to do is to detach myself from what I would normally contact my ex on.

So I would go out without my phone, or watch a film without my laptop on, little things like that to stop checking up on things constantly.
 

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You can always find yourself something to do that takes up time & makes you committed to it, like getting a job, applying for a course, or going training (playing any sport or just going to the gym)...
You'll be occupying your time & in the same time benefiting from it! Whatever you do don't "sleep it off", it'll make you lazier & make you tire easily.
 
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I'd like to join. :3 I saw this thread yesterday and fell in love with it. I am a strong believer in equal rights, as well as joined the It gets better project a few years ago. People can be kinda harsh when it comes to this sort of thing. Sorry for the short message, but I'm not good at introductions xD

Hello! That's cool that you were part of the It Gets Better project. Do you mind telling us your gender and/or orientation? (seems to be kind of traditional to start things off that way, haha ;)) If there's no label that suits you, feel free to just describe yourself as best you can :)

This is how the second break-up went.
Spoiler:


And you know what?
I. Feel. Great.

Sorry to be blunt, but I gotta say, from where I'm standing... Leon's kind of being an ass, and extremely immature. You admitted you were wrong, you tried to apologize, and he shot you down. If one of my friends behaved like that, well... I'd be the one letting them come back to me, not the other way around. People who handle disagreements and misunderstandings like that just aren't worth the frustration.
 

FenrirDarkWolf

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Sorry to be blunt, but I gotta say, from where I'm standing... Leon's kind of being an ass, and extremely immature. You admitted you were wrong, you tried to apologize, and he shot you down. If one of my friends behaved like that, well... I'd be the one letting them come back to me, not the other way around. People who handle disagreements and misunderstandings like that just aren't worth the frustration.

Oh no, that's fine. That's what a lot of my friends told me too.
Now I'm just like, whatevs, I still respect him as an artist and a person and stuff and if he can't do the same back at the very least, then that's his problem, not mine.

And the reason I feel great, is because I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
 

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I think you both were being immature. Fenrir, you moved too quickly before thinking about -everyone's- feelings in the situation, and Leon was hasty as well.
Right now it's all high drama because it just happened, but I say give it time to cool down, then if you want Leon back in your life as a friend, then approach Leon again explaining that the feelings were all new to you, and you had no intention of hurting him. Of course right NOW he won't listen because you just probably broke his heart a little, and emotions were going everywhere.
Everyone needs to cool off. No one was "more in the right" than the other. Just looks like it is a big mess to me- people jumping from one partner to another is always going to be a bit messy.
 

FenrirDarkWolf

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I think you both were being immature. Fenrir, you moved too quickly before thinking about -everyone's- feelings in the situation, and Leon was hasty as well.
Right now it's all high drama because it just happened, but I say give it time to cool down, then if you want Leon back in your life as a friend, then approach Leon again explaining that the feelings were all new to you, and you had no intention of hurting him. Of course right NOW he won't listen because you just probably broke his heart a little, and emotions were going everywhere.
Everyone needs to cool off. No one was "more in the right" than the other. Just looks like it is a big mess to me- people jumping from one partner to another is always going to be a bit messy.

I see what you mean, I totally understand.
I'll give him some time, I'll give myself some time, and we'll see if he wants to be friends later on.
If anything, I still respect him as an artist.
 

Dreg

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Can I join? I used to be Asexual, but now I'm a Genderqueer, and I believe in equal rights for all. Hopefully I will be active enough.
 

FenrirDarkWolf

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As an artist? Why only respect him as an artist?

Because, he's a pretty good artist.
And the fact that I'm pretty sure that's the only shred of respect he has for me is an begrudging artist's respect.

Kinda like how I've got these two friends and they hate each other, but they respect each others massaging skills.
 

FenrirDarkWolf

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To me though that makes no sense. Just respect him anyway. You don't have to only respect him because he is an 'artist' just respect him and wait patiently for his replies, be kind to him and expect the same back and eventually he will respect you back.

If you want to become friends with him again, you can't JUST respect him as an artist.

Mhmm. I derped cause I didn't know there was a meaning behind that question. XP
I thought you were just asking why for the sake of asking. :I

But... I'll give that a try.
 

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So, I'm going to randomly pop in now.

First off; well, sorry to hear about your boyfriend and . . . your other boyfriend(?), Fenrir. (Lol)

Also, all the crap that I posted before that was happening that kind of really sucked is pretty much over now. Granted, my ex's parents are now preventing me from speaking to or seeing him, so it's not completely over.

And, lastly, I'm a bit sad that school's over. My crushes on other guys decided to start randomly developing a bit more towards the end of the year, lol. I'm crushing on three guys. One is a Sophomore, one's a Junior and one's a Senior . . . but the Senior is graduating and moving to go to college, so I won't ever really get the chance to talk to him. Out of the three guys I'm crushing on, he's the one I'm crushing on the hardest. He also probably doesn't realize I exist. I kind of wish I had joined the track team now, because it was the only sport that I had been considering before, and now that I realized that he was on it I figure that it might have been a way to get to know him. >.>; It's pointless to regret that, though, especially considering I was in a relationship for most of the year. Oh, and he was also the only one of the three that I wasn't sure of being completely straight. I've been told that he's definitely into women, but that it's possible he's bisexual, lol.

My crush on the Junior is pretty minor, but I'd still like to stalk try and approach him next year and be friends. He has a girlfriend, and I know a girl that's, like, best friends with his older sister, so she confirmed for me that he's completely straight. As for the Sophomore . . . he was in my Biology class all year, and he sat next to me for the second half of the year. I've had a crush on him since the beginning of the year, but I was able to pretty much forget about it while I was in a relationship. After I stopped talking to my ex so much, my crush on him decided to grow and it became a bit agonizing to be sitting next to him. >.>; Lol. I know him the most out of the three guys I'm crushing on (considering I don't actually know the other two that well, and they probably don't even know my name. . . .) and I know that he's straight. He didn't realize I was gay until last week when he asked me if I had a girlfriend. Lol

Random fun fact: all three of them are in a musical ensemble, lol. They're all really good at it, too. @_@;
The Senior can sing, play guitar, paint, is an excellent athlete on the track team . . . he's annoyingly good at everything, lol.
 

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Okay, I hate to veer off topic, but I just need to vent to real people, even if nobody responds.

So, I work at a small store with what's essentially a skeleton crew of three other employees (including my boss). Being on shift with my boss is always a bit awkward, but I mean, he's a good guy, so I don't mind too much. The other two I've actually started to consider friends, which is huge. It takes me a long time to start to think of someone as a friend.

And then the one guy, who I like working with the most, goes and gets himself fired for doing something that's not only against store policy, but is freaking illegal. And I don't want to get into what he did just for privacy, but when I say that I never, EVER would have expected him to do something like that, it's a huge understatement. I mean, he's been working there the longest other than the manager. He's the guy who's always drilling into us "Don't do this, it'll get you fired," or "Don't do that, you can get fined." And on top of that, telling us how to take precautions to make sure nobody can ever accuse us of doing those things (like making sure to be in front of a camera when doing certain things, and if possible, having another employee act as a witness). And out of the three of them, he's the one I would want to be there to have my back if something went catastrophically wrong and somebody held up the store or there was a fire or something.

And my brain just can't even process this right now. It doesn't help that it just came out of nowhere, with no warning at all. My boss just texted me to call him when I had a minute a few hours after I got home, and told me he'd been fired. I mean, I closed with the guy yesterday. He was supposed to be on shift tonight a couple hours after I left. And I don't even have any way to contact him to find out what the hell happened. I could probably find him on Facebook, he has a fairly unique name, but it's just... what the hell would I say? I send him a friend request just so I can say "What the hell, man? What were you thinking? You're supposed to be Cool Trustworthy Guy, and you go and do this?"

I just keep hoping that it was all a huge mistake, that there was some kind of misunderstanding somewhere and he can have his job back, because I just can't imagine him doing that. And if it's true... God, I don't know. I just don't even know. I feel like somebody just punched me in the gut.

And to make matters worse, I'm now the most senior employee other than the manager. And I've only been working there two months. So that's fantastic. The store's already not reaching the (in my opinion) ridiculous goals head office keeps setting for us, which puts ALL our jobs in jeopardy. This is really gonna help.
 

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Inkblots, your story didn't turn into a sexy porno like I thought it was going to.

You have disappointed me.

(I don't know what the guy did, so I don't know what to say other than . . . that sucks, but good luck with getting through what sounds like an annoying and stressful job. :x)
 
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Where do you work? Does it have anything to do with telecom? PM me if you're not cool with going public, but okay with talking about it privately.
 
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BlahIsSuck: It's a nation-wide electronics store. Sorry for being vague, but there's always that slim chance that somebody connected to what's going on in some way could read this, so...

Nakuzami: Thanks. It wouldn't be that bad of a job if we actually had enough employees to staff the store properly, but when you're in a small town at one of the smallest stores in a nation-wide chain, working with high-value product, are getting competition from a similar store a couple doors down and a big-box store across the parking lot, and being expected to do almost as much as the larger stores despite all that... Let's just say I'm really regretting taking the job, and while I'm grateful that I have a job, because I know a lot of people don't, I wish I could afford to leave, and have for almost a month. It was supposed to be a part-time job for a couple years while I get my freelance business established and study for my editing certification, but it's taking over my life, and I'm sick of it.
 
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