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The Rainbow Connection [LGBTS Club]

Mana1

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Illuminaughty said:
I am sort of a prude; I don't have sex unless I am in a relationship.
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I don't think that makes you prudish, just not ****ty to be honest. I've only ever had sex outside a relationship once and it's just not the same and was horrible afterwards - sex is/can be an awkward and embarrassing thing so I gotta know they'll put up with me afterwards!

QuilavaKing said:
I sure don't consider myself a prude, but I'd like to wait until marriage to have sex personally... or if it's a same sex relationship, we'd have to be together a looong time before I'd be willing to go that far, mostly because marriage isn't legal where I live. I have no problem with nudity or porn though, which is what I thought being prudish referred to.
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Whoa really? Ok waiting to judge a person before hand might be a good thing but when you're talking years...

IDK, not to sound mean or anything but (like Andy said above) some people are a bit naive about the whole situation, with more experience with relationships/people and the later-teen years though ideals start to change. Sex isn't a huge deal, as long as you're comfortable with the person and yourself.
 
Esper

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This is just my anecdotal conclusion based on things I've heard from people, but it seems like the earlier you start having sex and the more you have "unattached" sex (meaning not in a relationship) the more likely it is that you'll not be in long lasting relationships in the future.

I think the first year or so of being sexually active sets up in your mind how you treat it from that point on. Not saying that you're stuck that way or anything, but the brain is still maturing in teenage years and habits people start, say, when they're 14 are ones they're going to keep for a while compared to ones they start at 18 or older.
 

Alice

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It's not really that I'm expecting it to be magical or anything, it's just that I don't want sex to be a big part of the relationship. It really isn't important to me, so I feel that if I sacrifice it entirely, I can ensure that my partner loves me and not my penis. Maybe that is naive though, I dunno.

Realistically, I probably won't wait until marriage, but being raised Christian, it's kind of hard for me to let some of those morals go... and I'm just used to saying it. lol
 

Illuminaughty

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I agree that sex shouldn't be the focal point of any serious relationship; however, I think that it is an important and essential component that strengthens a relationship. Therefore, I think the sexual component should be parallel with the emotional and romantic elements. But the romantic connection should direct the sexual actions taken, not the other way around! The more and more you start to open-up and "fall" for someone, the more and more you should open-up sexually as a way to show trust and physical affection. The converse would be, have sex with someone, then try to forage a romantic connection; it could work-out, but it's probably not the ideal way to go about things, since the physical attraction blinds the romantic incompatibilities, and once they surface, everything starts to go downhill from resentment, to infidelity, then finally, to the split.

Also, I do agree with Scarf, habits are hard to break. I believe the brain matures into the mid-twenties, but significantly more growth occurs with that 12-16 year age after puberty.

Also, a couple people I know who had only known non-romantic sex, have had a tough time adjusting to dating and relationships. They both eventually just gave up on their relationships and went back to the only thing that they knew, unattached sex. And ShinyRaichu, I don't think there needs to be fireworks or a heavenly-light breaking through the clouds, I just think it should have a least some substance to it, with a person that you have some type of connection with.
 

Greenbeans

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Hi! I would like to join please, to help support LGBTS and all the rights that i think people should be getting.
People should get respect no matter who u like.

QuilavaKing said:
I'm 20 and I've never been in a relationship of any kind, or kissed anyone. I've been asked out a few times though.
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I Have only been in a relationship twice, But they didnt tend to last very long since i was younger back then.
 
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Shining Raichu

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Welcome jerichob10 :D glad to have you aboard!

My attitude toward sex in general is that the quality is optimum with someone with whom you have a connection, but that doesn't mean you should be denied sex if you have the urge for it and somebody else who is willing. That might seem cold, but I just don't see the point in dumping rules and restrictions and morals and values all over something which is ultimately meant to be fun and feel good.

I've had several 'friends with benefits' in my time who will never be more than just friends helping each other out - but I don't think that that harms my ability to form a satisfying, monogamous, emotional and sexual relationship with somebody special to me. And I definitely don't need to abstain from perfectly enjoyable sex to make it more special or when I do.

I've never really been a one-or-the-other type person, though. Why should anybody choose between options when they can have them all?
 

Illuminaughty

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Shining Raichu said:
Welcome jerichob10 :D glad to have you aboard!

My attitude toward sex in general is that the quality is optimum with someone with whom you have a connection, but that doesn't mean you should be denied sex if you have the urge for it and somebody else who is willing. That might seem cold, but I just don't see the point in dumping rules and restrictions and morals and values all over something which is ultimately meant to be fun and feel good.

I've had several 'friends with benefits' in my time who will never be more than just friends helping each other out - but I don't think that that harms my ability to form a satisfying, monogamous, emotional and sexual relationship with somebody special to me. And I definitely don't need to abstain from perfectly enjoyable sex to make it more special or when I do.

I've never really been a one-or-the-other type person, though. Why should anybody choose between options when they can have them all?
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You should be ashamed of yourself; these are the devil's words. The promiscuous vipers will be ever-eradicated in flames far away from the kingdom of Heaven once the wicked transition into the afterlife. I will pray for you tonight.

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Kura

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My view on this: To each their own, as long as it isn't hurting anyone. If people in a relationship expect the partner not to have sexual contact with someone else, then their wishes should be respected. If the partner doesnt care and you dont mind, then go for it.. but be safe whatever you do!!!
 

CarefulWetPaint

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I personally think the sexual relationship has to be discussed between the involved parties so everyone understands what's going on to minimise the chance of hurting people or people just getting used. I agree with Kura though - Safe Sex, No Regrets!

On another topic :
Salvation Army Parent Company against gays - Salvation Army distances itself from the comment

Heres another link that could be relevant to this discussion if anyone is interested:
Christian Leaders Unite against Gay marriage.

What do you guys think about this?
Personally I think it is ridicolous that that parent company/organisation even said that! But it does show decent change by the Salvo's since they are trying to distance themselves from the comment and be more accepting (In a way).
 
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Shining Raichu

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I think it's ridiculous that an organisation like the Salvation Army even has a parent company. It seems like the sort of thing that should be a parent company.

The thing is though, even if they backtrack and change that statement for the Australian branch, it's not going to make a difference. The damage is done. You'd still be donating money to a less-publicly-homophobic branch of an internationally homophobic company. They've really done themselves a disservice. I will never donate to them again, ever, and I will discourage others from it also. For as long as I live.

Now, this business with the other Australian churches. It's expected, so I'm not too angry, but I did hope for better. I heard somewhere though that 75% of Australians are in favour of gay marriage, so hopefully something comes of that. I think most people are already decided on the issue and no pamphlet their church hands them will really change that. Less people go to church now than those who don't bother with it, so I'm hoping that as mighty as they like to think themselves, their hate speech won't really make much of a difference to the debate in the end.
 

Greenbeans

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CarefulWetPaint said:
I personally think the sexual relationship has to be discussed between the involved parties so everyone understands what's going on to minimise the chance of hurting people or people just getting used. I agree with Kura though - Safe Sex, No Regrets!

On another topic :
Salvation Army Parent Company against gays - Salvation Army distances itself from the comment

Heres another link that could be relevant to this discussion if anyone is interested:
Christian Leaders Unite against Gay marriage.

What do you guys think about this?
Personally I think it is ridicolous that that parent company/organisation even said that! But it does show decent change by the Salvo's since they are trying to distance themselves from the comment and be more accepting (In a way).
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Christian leaders unite againsed gay marriage? that does not look so good for the gay people out there /:
I dont understand why they would do that though, the christians are supposed to be the people that are watching out for people like that, not uniting againsed them and being d-bags
 

Epitaph93

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I'm straight, but I'm one of the few people in my home town that supports all gay rights. I've never actually met or had a conversation with a homosexual, but I am nonetheless a proud support of the whole community.

I'm from a small town in Texas where everyone is Christian and follows the bible to the word(except when it conflicts with their own view of course), most of which are strongly against same sex couples.

I'd just like to tell anyone who is from a town like mine, and is surrounded by bigots, that there are people standing behind you, whether you know it or not.
 
Shining Raichu

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Welcome Epitaph :) that's a really sweet thing to say. And it's always great to see hackers venturing out into other areas of the forum :D

jerichob10 said:
Christian leaders unite againsed gay marriage? that does not look so good for the gay people out there /:
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I don't think it really looks that bad for the gays. I'm certainly not shaking in my boots. The thing about a resistance forming is that it makes the other side rally even harder - and if we need to fight we will. People hide behind religion to excuse their own bigotry, but I'm confident they'll find out that we can be just as tough if we have to be.

I'm not sure how healthy that 'us and them at war' mentality is, but I'm prepared to uphold it until such a time as we have everything we shouldn't have to ask for :P
 
Esper

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Soooooo... this weekend is Pride in San Francisco and since I happen to live close to SF and I've never been I'm gonna see if I can crash the party. I know from a friend that a lot of it is hyped up beyond what it could be, but I still think I should see it for myself. If it gets too crowded there's plenty else I can do, too, but I'll let y'all know what it's like if I end up going.
 
ruby

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I've undergone constant confusion regarding my sexuality. I'm bisexual but with the amount of people that disregard bisexuals as people just seeking some attention, or just curious and experimenting, I didn't know where I stood at all for a very long time.

On more than one occasion I wouldn't admit my real sexuality and instead just say that I was either gay or straight (depending on whether I wanted them to know I was into guys) in fear that they wouldn't believe me and think I was the same as those who I had seen in school using the word so frivolously. :|

What made it more confusing is that I was usually far more romantically interested in guys than sexually, and played up the majority of my apparent sexual attraction so as not to offend. Whereas both criteria were met far more often with females.

I started to believe that maybe I was just curious, and so I never let myself have a sexual encounter with a guy in fear that it turned out that was the case and I hurt someone's feelings.

Recently however I've become completely sure of my sexuality. This was due to a very pleasant dream involving a me and another guy, who I'd always been romantically interested in, resulting in sticky surprise down south upon waking up. (Previous to this my dreams exclusively featured females)

Just like that a switch was flipped; I now knew that I was without a doubt sexually attracted to males as well, with the mess in my pants to prove it.
It's been a huge boost in confidence and has helped greatly with interacting with other guys now that I know for definite that I want to stick my junk in their trunk.

So... yeah, sign me up. :]
 
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Shining Raichu

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Yay we got ourselves a Joey! Consider yourself signed up!

That has to be quite honestly my favourite joining post ever haha. I'm glad you finally figured it out, even if it were a little later than it could have been. Tempted though I am to ask for more details about the dream, I will just move right along XD

Scarf said:
Soooooo... this weekend is Pride in San Francisco and since I happen to live close to SF and I've never been I'm gonna see if I can crash the party. I know from a friend that a lot of it is hyped up beyond what it could be, but I still think I should see it for myself. If it gets too crowded there's plenty else I can do, too, but I'll let y'all know what it's like if I end up going.
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Please do! Parades were never my thing - they seem so loud and obnoxious and everybody seems to think being almost naked is what you have to do to show pride (which, while providing a decent helping of eye candy, is not really the message I want the gay community conveying) so it'll be interesting to see if it's really as horrible as I imagine it haha
 
Star-Lord

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Haha omg that's such an awesome joining story. I really don't have any words for it.

I'll be attending the local pride festival in my town. I don't think I can make all of the events since I'm taking a summer course though. The theme is "Phoenix" since it has something to do with rebirth. There's going to be drag shows and whatnot, and I think it'll be a neat thing to see, since I've never really... been to any of those things. I'm looking forward to it. We'll see if it turns into a thing that I really enjoy or not.

On a completely unrelated note, I figured I'd share this gif with you. I can't read the rest of the club, so you guys may have seen it. It's still fun though, hehehe.
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Esper

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And in other news, a Prop 8 supporter who testified in favor of it when it went to court has had a change of heart and is now for same-sex marriage instead of against it. [read]

He still says some things I don't agree with, but acknowledged that fighting gay marriage doesn't do anything to strengthen straight marriage, which is, well, obvious and always has been.
 
Mana1

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Looks like Oreo have thrown themselves in to the firing line now:

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There are talks of people boycotting Oreo, but apparently they don't realise that the company branches into more than just biscuits.

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