The PokéCommunity Forums  

Go Back   The PokéCommunity Forums > Off-Topic Discussions > The Treehouse
Reload this Page Konfuzzled x_x
Sign Up Rules/FAQ Daily Battle Blogs Mark Forums Read


The Treehouse For the everyday ramblings of the masses.

Reply
 
Thread Tools
  #26    
Old November 24th, 2013 (1:19 PM).
LoudSilence's Avatar
LoudSilence LoudSilence is offline
more like uncommon sense
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: US
Gender: Male
Posts: 585
Quote:
Originally Posted by Pumpkaboo View Post
I think it happens to everyone, especially when it comes to online relationships. Scientific studies say that on average most friendships only last 7 years before people start moving away from each other or begin to develop less contact.
I don't know, I don't like to relegate my relationships to statistics. Just because it happens a lot doesn't mean it needs to happen to me

When I make a friend, I usually intend it to last for the foreseeable future unless something serious enough happens to get in the way of that. Accepting it as a reality is like preparing yourself to let it go at some point and I'd never do that :/
__________________
この世界は素晴らしい。
Reply With Quote

Relevant Advertising!

  #27    
Old November 24th, 2013 (2:44 PM).
Poki Poki is offline
Banned
 
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: България
Nature: Naughty
Posts: 2,425
Quote:
Originally Posted by Cassino View Post
I find that's only a barrier if one thinks it is.
I misinterpreted ''while you're close''. My bad.
Reply With Quote
  #28    
Old November 25th, 2013 (10:35 AM).
Kakarot1212's Avatar
Kakarot1212 Kakarot1212 is offline
Resident Programmer
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Phillipines
Gender: Male
Nature: Naughty
Posts: 536
Fortunately, i dont have a friend like that . All of us contacts each other once in while.

And hopefully, none of us will do such thing.
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #29    
Old November 25th, 2013 (10:50 PM).
Honest's Avatar
Honest Honest is offline
شكرا
Crystal Tier
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: New York City
Age: 20
Gender: Male
Nature: Jolly
Posts: 11,701
Send a message via Skype™ to Honest
It's happened, and is probably happening right now, really. The problem with social media is the disconnect it creates while connecting us with people. We get so used to being able to contact one another over a screen, real life interaction becomes scarce. It's when people get lazy, or are too busy, that the real falling out happens. My best friend and I rarely talk nowadays, cause we're both like mad, and it sucks. We still try every now and then to talk, and we do, but it's not the same as it once was.
Reply With Quote
  #30    
Old November 26th, 2013 (3:37 AM).
LoudSilence's Avatar
LoudSilence LoudSilence is offline
more like uncommon sense
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: US
Gender: Male
Posts: 585
Quote:
Originally Posted by Vertigo View Post
It's happened, and is probably happening right now, really. The problem with social media is the disconnect it creates while connecting us with people. We get so used to being able to contact one another over a screen, real life interaction becomes scarce. It's when people get lazy, or are too busy, that the real falling out happens. My best friend and I rarely talk nowadays, cause we're both like mad, and it sucks. We still try every now and then to talk, and we do, but it's not the same as it once was.
Right on about social media man, it's creating a generation of socially inept people who are more comfortable with a display of text rather than a face. The disparity is getting larger every day, especially with social networks like Facebook opening up to children of any age (once upon a time you needed a university email to register!). Why do 9 year olds have iPhones and Instagram accounts?

When I have kids, they are NOT signing up for any of that crap until they're way older and have developed some manner of social skills :/
__________________
この世界は素晴らしい。
Reply With Quote
  #31    
Old November 26th, 2013 (5:32 PM).
Crux's Avatar
Crux Crux is offline
Evermore
 
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: 青い世界
Age: 20
Gender: Male
Nature: Relaxed
Posts: 1,324
Send a message via Skype™ to Crux
Well, people drift apart. It's sad, but whether it was a misunderstanding, or just a change of interests, it's something that happens.

If you don't want it to, then either pull them back to you, or strive to reach them. But remember that even friendships sail, and you can't stop them from leaving if they really want to.
__________________





{Never and Forever}

Tees | Coming Soon | Coming Soon
Reply With Quote
  #32    
Old November 27th, 2013 (11:39 AM).
Cherrim's Avatar
Cherrim Cherrim is offline
the blossom pokémon
Crystal Tier
 
Join Date: Dec 2002
Location: Waterloo, ON
Age: 27
Gender: Female
Nature: Relaxed
Posts: 30,748
One of the best things about the internet is that you can keep up friendships that otherwise would have died because of the distance. On the same coin, one of the worst things about the internet is that you feel obliged to keep as many friendships going as possible because distance is no longer an issue. Relationships that weren't all that close to begin with can't die off with dignity anymore because there's "no reason to" since it's so easy to keep in touch.

I've been the one drifted away from and I've purposefully drifted away from others before. Yeah, it sucks, but sometimes you just lose your spark with someone. Sometimes they haven't even done anything wrong but you just lose interest in your relationship and despite attempts to jump start it, there's just nothing you can do but let yourself drift off. Maybe one day you'll find each other again and the spark will relight on its own but relationships (and I mean platonic or otherwise) just aren't something that can be forced and you've gotta know when to call it quits. :(

Besides, every so often you get one of those friends where you can ignore/not talk to each other for weeks or months at a time and when you do manage to see each other or talk to each other, it's like no time has passed. I never mind if I drift a bit from people like that because I know eventually things will be right back to normal.
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #33    
Old November 27th, 2013 (1:01 PM).
Limerent's Avatar
Limerent Limerent is offline
Platinum Tier
 
Join Date: May 2013
Age: 20
Gender: Male
Nature: Quiet
Posts: 1,272
I am not going to lie, I drift away from friends all the time. I believe it is truly natural, nothing lasts forever. Realistically there is a bell curve of how long all the friendships I have made have lasted. A few will last a few days, most a few months and some for years. It is very doubtful that even 1 out of the thousands of people I have known will be my friend for decades or even a lifetime.

Examples of those that only last a few days are: (friends made on camps, some people met during video games etc.) These friendships can be very enjoyable at the time, however they were simply made of circumstance, although we might have some common ground once that circumstance has terminated we are no longer truly friends. I do not keep in contact with many short term relationships.

Medium term friendships for me last for a few months up to a year. It's likely we do have a considerable amount in common and just gel well together, I'll talk to you a fair amount and we will have some intimacy. It is a healthy relationship. Things happen however, little quirks of your behaviour may start to get on my nerves, I may meet new people and we will quickly stop talking altogether. This happens altogether. I have a friend who I met playing video games, same age, sense of humour, easy to talk to, great guy, slowly though our relationship is starting to fray because I find he firetrucks around too much and he presumably finds me like a nagging mother at this.

I have a few longer lasting relationships. What characterises them most is there not being dependence on regular communication, I could go off the grid for a year and we'd most likely still be friends. They've survived hardship too, I often have spats with my American long term friends over their language and politics but at the end of the day we're still friends. Not because we're the same in behaviour and opinions, we're very different and I can hate them for that sometimes, but because one understands the other on a personal level

To reiterate though nothing lasts forever, and eventually even for the closest friends I will most likely drift away without saying anything, which you all seem to hate so much. Well tough. I prefer this method to staying "friends" until hatred and backstabbing erupts to the surface. Leaving without saying much may seem cruel, but it's for the best. I cherish the memories of our friendship and the time we had together, no matter how brief it may have been. Live in the moment with friends and remember those moments for your best characterisations of those people

Oh and if we're truly made for each other you could be a long term of lifetime friend of mine no matter how we met.
__________________
Want to lose brain cells? What do you do? Alcohol, heroin, repeatedly bashing your head against a brick wall? Try tumblr
Reply With Quote
Reply
Quick Reply

Sponsored Links
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT -8. The time now is 7:19 PM.


Style by Nymphadora, artwork by Sa-Dui.
Like our Facebook Page Follow us on Twitter © 2002 - 2016 The PokéCommunity™, pokecommunity.com.
Pokémon characters and images belong to The Pokémon Company International and Nintendo. This website is in no way affiliated with or endorsed by Nintendo, Creatures, GAMEFREAK, The Pokémon Company or The Pokémon Company International. We just love Pokémon.
All forum styles, their images (unless noted otherwise) and site designs are © 2002 - 2016 The PokéCommunity / PokéCommunity.com.
PokéCommunity™ is a trademark of The PokéCommunity. All rights reserved. Sponsor advertisements do not imply our endorsement of that product or service. User generated content remains the property of its creator.

Acknowledgements
Use of PokéCommunity Assets
vB Optimise by DragonByte Technologies Ltd © 2016.