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Old August 25th, 2009 (01:15 PM).
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What do you think of distance relationships?
I think there are really good,if you can trust people well enough and all that.










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Old August 25th, 2009 (01:31 PM).
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It's hard sometimes. But if you really love them, you'll trust them and will be very excited to see them personally. And I think it can actually be healthy for a relationship. As it builds trust and love.
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I personally wouldn't want to be a part of one because I don't think I'd be able to take it seriously. I know that it works really well for some people though - I guess it depends on how committed you are.
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I personally wouldn't want to be a part of one because I don't think I'd be able to take it seriously. I know that it works really well for some people though - I guess it depends on how committed you are.
I agree. Both ends have to be very committed to the relationship. You have to make sure of that. Or else it will surely end in heartbreak.
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Longest distance I have done is an hour away.
So, it isn't that bad.

They can work, but not for me.
Never liked the idea of being committed to someone that I hardly see.
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I was in one, and it totally ruled my life- even to the point that despite the fact that it's over, I'm still 'recovering' from it if you like. (I used to stay up all night because of time differences, and I still do the same now outta habit.) Now I'd definitely avoid relationships outside of my country if that makes sense. XD Anything that requires me to hop on a plane = no. XD
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I personally think, regardless of how distant two people are, if they are truly dedicated to one another, nothing can truly interfere with the relationship. Some long distant relationships have proven to be rather stable and eventually, long distant relationships often occur. Especially if you have a relationship with someone that lasts towards graduating high school and you two may become separated. If the two have dedication to each other, I'm sure that it'll work out in the end for them.

There is, of course, a lot of stress between the two due to so many things that could happen to one of them and the relationship could of course be ruined. I consider myself to be involved in a long distance relationship, and I constantly wonder what's going to happen. It is, of course, one that started online, so that may prove to be a, as corny as this sounds, heartbreaker or a dream maker.
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It will usually never work out. There are some cases that people actually stay loyal to their friends on the internet, but no physical contact is a significant detriment to a relationship, from what I've seen :/
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so...what do you think of them?i think that they are really possible and good,because you will find the one and your trust shows it all
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I'm in one - I met Get Innocuous! online, and he lives 93 miles away from me. We see each other every one to three weeks.

I'm at his house right now, in fact. xD

Sometimes it's difficult, but we've been together over six months now and it's all gone really well so far. It'll make us better prepared for when he goes to university which is quite difficult for some couples.
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long distance relationships fail...
you can EASILY cheat and not to mention if there is no sex, you will likely get bored after a week or less...
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Hes obviously got an online girlfriend.
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I think he just accidentally double-posted. Lay off him.

Quote originally posted by LEXAcide:
long distance relationships fail...
you can EASILY cheat and not to mention if there is no sex, you will likely get bored after a week or less...
If you have this attitude, you'll likely have no meaningful relationships, ever.

I feel that they can work, if both people are truly committed to it. I say this in spite of all of mine having failed. :'(
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If you have this attitude, you'll likely have no meaningful relationships, ever.

I feel that they can work, if both people are truly committed to it. I say this in spite of all of mine having failed. :'(
Yeah...same here. :/ She did say she wants to get back together in the future...but idk...
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Dont any of you guys agree that it is just broken? Back when I was 14 and had one, She was SO clingy... She wanted to talk like 8 hours a day...
the first day it was ok...
the second i could handle it...
third day i hung up after 4 hours and said my battery died...
the fourth i broke up with her...
it just seems like utter nonsence
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Quote originally posted by LEXAcide:
Dont any of you guys agree that it is just broken? Back when I was 14 and had one, She was SO clingy... She wanted to talk like 8 hours a day...
the first day it was ok...
the second i could handle it...
third day i hung up after 4 hours and said my battery died...
the fourth i broke up with her...
it just seems like utter nonsence
To me, it seems you're not ready for a relationship. =|

As for your earlier comment, relationships don't revolve around sex. I don't know where you get your ideas from.
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Dont any of you guys agree that it is just broken? Back when I was 14 and had one, She was SO clingy... She wanted to talk like 8 hours a day...
the first day it was ok...
the second i could handle it...
third day i hung up after 4 hours and said my battery died...
the fourth i broke up with her...
it just seems like utter nonsence
1. So what you're saying is that all people you meet online are exactly the same?

2. Personally, I wouldn't mind clingy. I'd take it as a sign that she genuinely cared. That may just be preference, though.

3. Your claim that it is "easy to cheat" is meaningless if the relationship is genuine.

4. As for "things get boring if there's no sex," I'd respond that if things are boring without sex, you probably aren't right for each other, anyway. There are better things on which to base a relationship.
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To me, it seems you're not ready for a relationship. =|
that is probably true...
but after 20 hours of talking, what is there left to talk about?
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that is probably true...
but after 20 hours of talking, what is there left to talk about?
Find a prostitute if you want meaningless sex. It's cheaper, there's little talking, and you don't hurt anybody in the process. At least respect people who want a meaningful relationship.
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Quote originally posted by twocows:
1. So what you're saying is that all people you meet online are exactly the same?

2. Personally, I wouldn't mind clingy. I'd take it as a sign that she genuinely cared. That may just be preference, though.

3. Your claim that it is "easy to cheat" is meaningless if the relationship is genuine.

4. As for "things get boring if there's no sex," I'd respond that if things are boring without sex, you probably aren't right for each other, anyway. There are better things on which to base a relationship.
the clingyness separates from the real world though... whereas im usually hanging out with friends and family, i then find myself burning 8 hours a day... i felt as though my ear was gonna explode. Darn Overheating RAZR v3's

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Find a prostitute if you want meaningless sex. It's cheaper, there's little talking, and you don't hurt anybody in the process.
im scared of prosties... half do some insane drugs, some have STD's, i dun wanna trust a condom, and they can be OVER loose...

I need a GF but she needs to understand that Im not going to surrender my life for her... And she needs to go on the pill...
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im scared of prosties... half do some insane drugs, some have STD's, i dun wanna trust a condom, and they can be OVER loose...
Then find a casual sex partner. Don't BS someone with relationships if you just want sex; be honest about it. There are plenty of women out there who are into that sort of thing these days.
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I need a GF but she needs to understand that Im not going to surrender my life for her... And she needs to go on the pill...
This begs the question, what's in it for your prospective girlfriend? None of this sounds very attractive to me. Relationships are about giving as well as taking.

And the pill thing - does that mean you're not going to use a condom for her?
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This begs the question, what's in it for your prospective girlfriend? None of this sounds very attractive to me. Relationships are about giving as well as taking.

And the pill thing - does that mean you're not going to use a condom for her?
well what i seek in a girlfriend are good morals along with looks... no drinking/smoking, not stereotyped as a *****, can make me laugh, is there for me during the sad times, and NO STD's like AIDS or other serious ones. Looks are important but not as severely as you would imagine... im fine with chubby, but not obese. any hair color is good. any race is good. oh and yes... we usually spend about 2 hours 2gether a day. No more unless its a special occasion.
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I'm just going to leave this thread, because I'm quite disgusted by your attitude towards women. =|
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