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Old August 14th, 2012, 05:31 AM
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Does anyone deal with family members that think its a phase and you will grow out of it? I feel thats how my grandparents are seeing me being trans. Instead of respecting my wishes about it they ignore it and it leads to many fights. I just have been staying up in my room instead of spending time like we used too. Ugh its stressful
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Old August 14th, 2012, 05:39 AM
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I was going too ask how bad bottoming hurt, and how to make it hurt less. do I need too delete this or am I ok?
You're OK, you don't need to delete it. It's fine to ask the question, you don't have to worry

As for the answer - there's no real way to answer it that's appropriate for a Pokemon forum lol. I also don't have enough experience in the bottoming department to answer your question totally (I have some experience, but your question is designed for a specialist haha) so our friend SwiftSign has volunteered to PM you a better response than I could give.

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Old August 14th, 2012, 09:22 AM
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cool, thanks for the answer SwiftSign!

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Does anyone deal with family members that think its a phase and you will grow out of it? I feel thats how my grandparents are seeing me being trans. Instead of respecting my wishes about it they ignore it and it leads to many fights. I just have been staying up in my room instead of spending time like we used too. Ugh its stressful
That sucks I hope your situation improves soon.

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Old August 14th, 2012, 04:42 PM
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I'll let you know in private :P
That could be taken more than one way. I'm now shipping QK x SR

Goodness, what I said could be taken more than one way, too. xD

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Does anyone deal with family members that think its a phase and you will grow out of it? I feel thats how my grandparents are seeing me being trans. Instead of respecting my wishes about it they ignore it and it leads to many fights. I just have been staying up in my room instead of spending time like we used too. Ugh its stressful
I wish I could help you. My attitude to people who don't accept me is to cut them out of my life and I can luckily do that. That's just how I deal with things in general though. When I've had to deal with stuff like that I figured I could go one of two ways: either ignore what people say and avoid them or any situations where it could be a problem and hope time will help things sort out, or confront them and try to get them to understand - or at least find out how deeply their misunderstanding goes so I could evaluate whether the time and effort it would take to get them to come around would be worth it.

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Old August 14th, 2012, 05:13 PM
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That could be taken more than one way. I'm now shipping QK x SR
It should definitely be taken the way you're thinking.
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Old August 14th, 2012, 07:20 PM
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So I got reminded of this thread when Andy decided to stalk old pictures of me.

Whilst we're on the subject of "bottoming" (I guess), I've noticed how a lot of people in the LGBT community have such a problem with the terms "top" and 'bottom," for the same reasons people have problems with the terms "man" and "woman of the relationship." Thoughts about this while we're on it?

Since I have no sexual experience because I'm lonely and on Pokecommunity.com.

Personally, I don't get offended by the terms themselves- I find the labels rather ridiculous; but not really for the usual "gender roles" dilemma. I mean, my sister is a very strong woman and my brother-in-law isn't a wimp, so I don't see either being "the man" or "the woman" in the relationship. People are usually a bit more complex than that.

But specifically for the whole "bottom" and "top" thing, I don't really like the tune of it. It sounds too selfish to me, I suppose. One person always giving and the other always receiving? For me at least, that just sounds weird to someone who isn't into it strictly being like that. I would rather not be forced into one or the other all the time.

I hope this isn't too spicy for the rules to handle.

Damnit guys stop having cybersex in this thread geez. I'm looking at you, Quilava. >:C
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Old August 14th, 2012, 08:02 PM
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Hey Guys I know I haven't been on in a while but I need some advice....

Should I come out to the rest of my family. I mean mother and little sister knows but my grandmother, and my two aunts who I'm fairly close with don't know. My mom was like it would kill them if they knew. So basically I'm just in need of some advice.

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Old August 14th, 2012, 08:14 PM
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Hey guys, I know I haven't been on in a while, but I need some advice....

Should I come out to the rest of my family? I mean mother and little sister know but my grandmother and my two aunts, who I'm fairly close with, don't know. My mom was like: "It would kill them if they knew." So basically, I'm just in need of some advice.
Sorry, my inner grammar nazi kicked in and so did the fact that I'm a douchebag.

Those relatives, I think, are hardest to come out to. Extended family. If it helps any, I plan to deal with my extended family by.... not having to tell them at all. They don't need to know as much as my family does and I really just don't value their opinion on the subject if they aren't accepting or I don't ask them for it, and quite frankly, they don't have to know. So if they have a problem with it, they can go kiss places that aren't very pleasant to kiss. My mom even said to me after I came out to her that "You know, you don't have to start telling everyone like Aunt Carol about this. She doesn't need to know."

But seeing as your family seems to be a bit closer with its extended family than mine, I guess this solution wouldn't work as well for you if you don't think it fits. :/

But maybe it'll give you inspiration or a different outlook that will help you, I suppose? Good luck.
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Old August 14th, 2012, 08:32 PM
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I wish. Everyone in my family are noisy really really noisy people. So they might found out sooner then later. I once told a cousin about me being bisexual and she gossiped about me and that how my mother found out part of the story. Then I told her the rest of the story.
Thanks for the luck I'm going to need it.

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Old August 16th, 2012, 06:27 AM
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Hah, I swear I've been trying to reply to this thread for the last day and a half. Every time I click into it, I see "Notifications: 2" or something like that and get distracted with VMs haha.

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I have no problem with this!

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Whilst we're on the subject of "bottoming" (I guess), I've noticed how a lot of people in the LGBT community have such a problem with the terms "top" and 'bottom," for the same reasons people have problems with the terms "man" and "woman of the relationship." Thoughts about this while we're on it?
I don't have a problem with the terms 'top' and 'bottom' at all, but then again I've never had them used about me in any context other than the sexual context. During sex, one person is the top and the other is the bottom, and that's just how it works so naming it just that doesn't bother me.

But outside of that, I wouldn't want to be referred to as the 'top', 'bottom', 'man' or 'woman' of the relationship I'm in. I have heard people say in the past (usually about something on TV) "oh, he's the woman" and I just reply "this is a gay relationship, the whole point is there are no women". I don't get offended by it as such, but it does grate on me.

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Should I come out to the rest of my family. I mean mother and little sister knows but my grandmother, and my two aunts who I'm fairly close with don't know. My mom was like it would kill them if they knew. So basically I'm just in need of some advice.
Well first of all, saying "this will kill them if they find out" is really unfair to you. As a mother, she should know better than to put that kind of pressure on you. That really bugs me - I just thought that was relevant to say.

Second of all, it won't kill them. Their hearts will beat on. But I won't encourage you to do it if you have anxiety about it. I guess you have to figure just how much you value their opinion and if you're prepared to lose what you could lose by telling them. Honestly, in most cases I find people at least partially come around eventually so while it might be icy at first, I doubt it will last forever. And if all else fails, you still have your mother and your sister, so it isn't as though you'll be left stranded.

But if you're worried that they'll find out from someone else and you'd rather it come out via you, then tell them. I think above all it's important it happen on your terms so you're prepared for what will happen next.

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Old August 17th, 2012, 04:33 AM
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Hey guys, uhm, can I ask a question/start a new topic? Maybe it's too personal or inappropriate, but I was interested in how some of you met your first boyfriend/girlfriend? How did it happen? How did you find out (s)he's gay/lesbian?

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Old August 17th, 2012, 06:45 AM
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Hey guys, uhm, can I ask a question/start a new topic? Maybe it's too personal or inappropriate, but I was interested in how some of you met your first boyfriend/girlfriend? How did it happen? How did you find out (s)he's gay/lesbian?
For me it was online on Youtube. Tbh I think meeting someone online first is easier but thats just me
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Old August 17th, 2012, 08:49 PM
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Ok, how old is everyone on this thread? What do they identify as?

I am 13. I identify as a gay male. :D
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Old August 18th, 2012, 07:26 AM
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Hey guys, uhm, can I ask a question/start a new topic? Maybe it's too personal or inappropriate, but I was interested in how some of you met your first boyfriend/girlfriend? How did it happen? How did you find out (s)he's gay/lesbian?
I've had my share of romantic and/or sexual experiences starting in real life starting from when I was 18 years old to now, but the first person I actually considered a 'boyfriend' was online - and I met him right here on PokeCommunity . I don't know if I'd do it again, though - as much as I cared (and still do care) about him, online relationships are very challenged from the beginning and you have to make sure you're equipped to deal with the limitations it puts on your relationship.

And Altix, I'm a 21-year-old gay man lol. I feel like I'm standing up at Homosexuals Anonymous. "Hi, my name is Andrew and I'm a homosexual" lmao.

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Old August 18th, 2012, 08:25 AM
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Ok, how old is everyone on this thread? What do they identify as?

I am 13. I identify as a gay male. :D
Nice to meet you. I'm trans myself. Welcome

I only knew I was trans when I met a trans person. I used to think I was just gay. I feel like it took a long time to find out for me. However maybe it takes others longer
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Old August 19th, 2012, 06:30 AM
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Hey guys, uhm, can I ask a question/start a new topic? Maybe it's too personal or inappropriate, but I was interested in how some of you met your first boyfriend/girlfriend? How did it happen? How did you find out (s)he's gay/lesbian?
we were classmates in grade school. we became an "item" after we accidentally kissed lol. honestly, i don't think that she (my first girlfriend) is a lesbian (not even bisexual), since we had that relationship when we were just 12-13 year olds and thus could've been influenced by our hormones. as far as i know, i was her first and only girlfriend so it could've been just a "spur of the moment" experience for her.

i'm Briar.
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Old August 19th, 2012, 07:09 PM
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there needs to be a trans on glee....i really dont know any trans people in real life. I am not trans, but im very supporting of those who are :D

oh and im on tumblr! http://owenisgay.tumblr.com/

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Old August 19th, 2012, 08:13 PM
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There is a trans person on Glee lol. She was in a couple of episodes last season (a physical male who identified as a girl) and performed on-stage as a woman. Then in the final episode I'm pretty sure she said she was transferring to McKinley High next year, so I'm pretty sure she'll be a series regular

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we were classmates in grade school. we became an "item" after we accidentally kissed lol. honestly, i don't think that she (my first girlfriend) is a lesbian (not even bisexual), since we had that relationship when we were just 12-13 year olds and thus could've been influenced by our hormones. as far as i know, i was her first and only girlfriend so it could've been just a "spur of the moment" experience for her.
That's awesome haha. How do people 'accidentally kiss'

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Old August 19th, 2012, 09:36 PM
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That's awesome haha. How do people 'accidentally kiss'
well, it wasn't like a "with tongue" kind of kiss or anything like that, more of like a peck on the lips or something. :-P
we were standing really close together and she was about to give me a (friendly) peck on my cheek when i turned around to look at her haha.

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Old August 20th, 2012, 08:29 PM
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Hello there, everyone!

I just wanted to introduce myself, as you may have noticed, my username is Vato (aka Vato!), I'm a fifteen year old gay male, and proud of being who I am.

I just wanted to ask something
How did you realized you are gay/lesbian/bi/trans/whatever other term you'd like to use ?
I always knew that I was different, but I only realized I am gay about a year ago when I fell in love with my best friend.

Yeah, it was platonic though, he's straight
Oh well, life goes on...

Anyways, I decided to post, to just, you know, make some friends n' stuff, I mean, what's the worst thing that could happen?

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Old August 20th, 2012, 08:52 PM
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I can't even remember when I realized, lmao. ;; I've never been a 'boy', football and stuff like that was so boring. But back then I didn't replace that with 'stereotypical gay' (I literally cannot think of any its 5:45am give me a break) things, I replaced it with video games yayaya, that isn't really a point towards being gay but then when I got to Secondary school I realized I had no male friends except for one, who was clearly gay anyway; and all my other friends were girls so that's when people started asking/wondering. Then when I was like 15 and in year 10 this new boy started who I had the hugest crush on. ;-; And luckily for me he started dating my best friend so I could just invite her over and she'd ask to bring him and I'd just stare at him when he wasn't looking. And anyway from that point I did used to identify as Bi-sexual, but since then I've thought a lot more about it and I now identify myself as Gay huzzah! n__n I don't even know if any of that made sense.

tl;dr - hot boy > i crush on him > start to think about my sexuality > identify as Bi > think about it more > now identify as gay.

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Old August 21st, 2012, 01:55 AM
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I've always known that I'm gay, but I tried to deny it. I was so in denial, I just didn't want to be gay... it was a horrible thought. But 2 years ago, I figured that I can't deny it anymore. I never had any characteristics of the gay stereotype, though.

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Old August 21st, 2012, 04:21 AM
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I knew I was gay when all the really hot guys were really hot

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Old August 21st, 2012, 08:45 AM
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In my case, I just randomly looked up gay porn for no reason, and pretty much immediately afterward posted here. lol

Nothing like a webpage full of penises to let you know that you're gay. (Well, bi in my case.)
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Old August 21st, 2012, 09:12 AM
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My last message where I was saying I forgot about the trans girl on glee was deleted for being off-topic. Anyway yes I forgot about her, but now I remember.
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