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Old March 18th, 2013 (05:36 PM). Edited March 18th, 2013 by Blade_of_darkness.
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Scenario time: if one of your friends is down in the dumps/depressed about something, are you the kind of person that'll do whatever it takes to cheer them up or look on the brighter side of things? Or would you rather not get involved in their problems?

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Old March 18th, 2013 (05:51 PM).
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I would put myself in her place, and cheer him/her up. Although the times I've done that can be counted and most of the times I can't help them 'cause they're all far away.
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Old March 18th, 2013 (07:00 PM).
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I would cheer them up to the very best and look at the good side.
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Old March 18th, 2013 (07:08 PM).
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I usually try my best to cheer them up. Doesn't seem fair to just ignore them.
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Old March 18th, 2013 (07:19 PM).
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I would try to cheer them up, if possible. I'd end up making an idiot of myself doing so.

My best friend was really down when her grandmother was being hospitalized and they thought she was dying. After a while, I stopped trying to directly make her happy and just talked her through it. So apparently that works, in some situations.
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Old March 18th, 2013 (07:41 PM).
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I'll try to cheer them up if I can, of course.

My preferred method is through distracting them with something fun because that's how I myself deal with moods like that. It's probably not the healthiest way, but I'm obviously not very good at dealing with my own emotions so I rarely have any idea how to approach others in that regard. I'm always willing to lend an ear if someone just wants to vent about their problems which is usually enough. Otherwise I can also attempt to give lame advice or actually talk about things with less venting and more heart-to-heart but I don't feel like that would go down well so I always hope it won't come to that since I never really know what to say.
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Old March 18th, 2013 (07:48 PM).
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Psh, i'm great at cheering people up.
I've even gone so far as to put myself where they are/in their situation to be able to understand it better.
The funny thing about problems, issues, and bad scenarios though, is that if you realise how pathetically short life is then you won't be bothered by them.

Life is short.
And i've honestly learned the hard way that you shouldn't squander it away in worry, regret, and self-pity. As such, I will allow none of my friends to.
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Old March 19th, 2013 (05:32 AM).
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IRL? If I notice something is wrong, I ask them what they'd prefer. If they don't want me in their business, it's better to ask than just assume they want to involve me. If they do, then as a friend I try whatever I can to help them and whatever is best for them in that situation.
Online? If they mention it to me, I;m assuming they want to talk about it because why bring it up in the first place then?
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Old March 19th, 2013 (05:39 AM).
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I always try to find a way to cheer my friends up if possible. If I can tell it is really personal I won't push too hard, but I always let them know that I am there for them.
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Old March 19th, 2013 (05:55 AM).
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I would try to figure how to make their problems better, if I can not I will leave them to figure it out for themselves.
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Old March 19th, 2013 (11:05 AM).
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Well, something like this happened recently, and while all I wanted to do was to cheer them up, I just couldn't think of the right thing to say. I certainly did feel bad for quite a while afterwards. And that's my problem in these kind of situations. Unless I know the person well enough to know exactly what to say, I'm just gonna be fumbling around with whatever possible thing I could say to cheer them up in my head, and always end up with the conclusion that I'm gonna end up sounding like a dork.
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Old March 19th, 2013 (11:36 AM).
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I ask them but since I can't imagine myself in their shoes because I don't have good understanding of others' emotions...
You can probably call me cold-hearted but I don't really know what to say so I just let them explain it and I just listen without doing anything.
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Old March 19th, 2013 (12:45 PM).
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If it's something serious then I'm good at 'rationalising it away'; generally I'd rather leave well enough alone, as I would want to be, myself.
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Old March 19th, 2013 (05:35 PM).
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I'll give it a shot. If there's no promise of progress, then I'm stepping out. Life is too short to go neck-deep into someone else's problems uninvited.
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Old March 19th, 2013 (07:03 PM).
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I would try making them feel appreciated for a limited amount of time, but after a while I can tell if someone is 1) seriously depressed 2) just ignoring my good intentions because they want the attention and just keep saying they're sad.

I would definitely go all out to help someone who was really depressed though.
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Old March 21st, 2013 (12:28 AM).
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I try to do whatever I can, but the problem is I'm really bad at it so often I either make it worse or just make no difference whatsoever which makes me feel really bad
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Old March 21st, 2013 (04:43 AM).
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I would help the person in whatever way I can, provided if the person approached me. If I knew the thing and the person didn't approach me, I would pretend it didn't happened cos there would always be a reason why he/she didn't approach me.
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Old March 21st, 2013 (06:53 AM).
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Quote originally posted by SNOR(es)LAX:
I would help the person in whatever way I can, provided if the person approached me. If I knew the thing and the person didn't approach me, I would pretend it didn't happened cos there would always be a reason why he/she didn't approach me.
Not a good attitude for a Sket Dance fan =D
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