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Old February 17th, 2014, 06:41 PM
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Ellen Page's coming out reminded me of a discussion idea I had brewing. Basically, are you obligated to come out to someone? Whether it pertains to your sexuality, religion, or just something about you that differs from the way you're already perceived, do you owe it to anybody to tell them? Perhaps your parents, friends, or even in Page's case, the LGBT community when you're there to give a speech on their behalf? Obviously the process isn't always met with support or even tolerance, especially in the case of sexuality or religion. Other times, as in Page's instance, maybe it helps to inspire others. And of course, the person in "the closet" (I have no term for non-sexuality instances) may feel better getting whatever it is, off their chest.

I saw a Youtube video addressing the idea that more or less said that it's ok to remain in the closet, to which I agree to a certain extent. Your sexual preferences or religious ideas aren't things that need to be made public. But is hiding something like this lying by omission? Does someone like your a parent, who's raised you believing you live a certain way, deserve to know the truth?
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Old February 17th, 2014, 07:27 PM
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Ellen Page's coming out reminded me of a discussion idea I had brewing. Basically, are you obligated to come out to someone? Whether it pertains to your sexuality, religion, or just something about you that differs from the way you're already perceived, do you owe it to anybody to tell them? Perhaps your parents, friends, or even in Page's case, the LGBT community when you're there to give a speech on their behalf? Obviously the process isn't always met with support or even tolerance, especially in the case of sexuality or religion. Other times, as in Page's instance, maybe it helps to inspire others. And of course, the person in "the closet" (I have no term for non-sexuality instances) may feel better getting whatever it is, off their chest.

I saw a Youtube video addressing the idea that more or less said that it's ok to remain in the closet, to which I agree to a certain extent. Your sexual preferences or religious ideas aren't things that need to be made public. But is hiding something like this lying by omission? Does someone like your a parent, who's raised you believing you live a certain way, deserve to know the truth?
Well, I certainly don't think there is one right answer to this type of question especially.

With that said, I don't see the issue with not "coming out" verbally, and rather, in a matter-of-fact fashion if one is dating someone of the same sex say," ...my gf/bf/spouse/partner [blank]". Rather, in school or work, I might mention something if I am dating [blank], but I frame it in a way that is not like, I am dating a man, shock-factor! To me it's not an important characteristic to my academic studies in political science and the philosophies I develop (and don't want anyone to assume I am some flamin' liberal for lack of better phrasing), though for reasons out of their control, some make it a huge component of their identity. When I am not dating, which has been a while since I live in the middle of nowhere and will be moving shortly (and don't do long-distance), I tend not to say "I am gay". Rather, I am just a single man. I am not really lying by omission. Some friends know I am from previous relationships or stories, but I never announced anything, nor do I remind them I am gay ever 5 minutes nor do I constantly affirm my "straight-acting" manliness as I have seen done by others frequently. I am not ashamed nor proud of being gay; it's pretty irrelevant to my life, research, career, and family relationships. Though, I will admit I am lucky in those respects.

Being closeted might be better for those that are trying to deal with same-sex relationships for the first time, let alone dealing with how others perceive this; both are huge personal issues to deal with. However, for the person and relationships they develop, in order for that person to maintain relationships, they will likely need to come-out at some point in time.
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Old February 17th, 2014, 07:39 PM
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People who are closeted tend to me insecure and self-conscious. I've noticed a lot of time they seem to have a background story making them this ways. They are scared of what society thinks and don't want to be judged. Also, sometimes they aren't completely sure that those are the feelings they are wanting as well. I don't think you have to come out at all, however it's a good start into gaining more confidence and stuff. It's a step you have to make somewhere in your life. It's just deciding if you're ready or not.
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Old February 17th, 2014, 07:48 PM
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I think that if it's something that will majorly affect your way of life, it's something you should come out about. For example, if you're gay, that's going to affect your lifestyle and your future, correct? If you hide it, you're likely going to be unhappy because, unless you make your relationship a secret, you won't be able to find a partner. And even in the case of having a hush hush relationship with someone, it's still a drag to keep it under wraps like that. I don't know about y'all, but when I've got someone that makes me happy, I want others to know how great I feel with that person.

That's just an example, of course. I wish we lived in a world where everyone could be out about every oddity they have and it be okay! I just want everyone to be happy, and as long as no one is being hurt, everyone has the right to do what they want. So while I don't encourage keeping everything in the closet about yourself, whether it be sexuality, religion, or whatever, I can understand why people may choose to not come out about those things. Ultimately, it's the choice of who it affects.
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I don't see why Ellen Page coming out was such a news, especially since millions of gays and lesbians go through the same process. The very concept of "outing" that even exists today and is something that a lot of gays and lesbians face still highlights that we still have a long way to go.
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I don't see why Ellen Page coming out was such a news, especially since millions of gays and lesbians go through the same process. The very concept of "outing" that even exists today and is something that a lot of gays and lesbians face still highlights that we still have a long way to go.
This. I don't particularly think coming out that you're gay or lesbian should be so highly sought after in terms of learning that someone's homosexual. Until coming out that you're gay or lesbian is just the same as "coming out" that you're straight, no significant progress will be made.

This is why I didn't really understand why it was such huge news that Michael Sam (college football player, expected to be drafted in 2014, came out as gay in an interview) announced that he was gay. I don't think it should matter and I don't really see the point of announcing it to the world. I understand that it's meant to gain further acceptance of the LGBT community, but society should be progressing to the "no one has to come out" mentality instead of the "gays and lesbians should come out but it shouldn't be a big deal" mentality.
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This. I don't particularly think coming out that you're gay or lesbian should be so highly sought after in terms of learning that someone's homosexual. Until coming out that you're gay or lesbian is just the same as "coming out" that you're straight, no significant progress will be made.

This is why I didn't really understand why it was such huge news that Michael Sam (college football player, expected to be drafted in 2014, came out as gay in an interview) announced that he was gay. I don't think it should matter and I don't really see the point of announcing it to the world. I understand that it's meant to gain further acceptance of the LGBT community, but society should be progressing to the "no one has to come out" mentality instead of the "gays and lesbians should come out but it shouldn't be a big deal" mentality.
Celebrities coming out is a huge deal currently for numerous reasons - and it will ALWAYS be a big deal because it will forever remain important that queer youth feel represented in all aspects of media.
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One could argue that it's huge news, because no matter how much some people wish being straight and being homosexual were equal things to society, they're not. If you fall anywhere in the LGBT category you're more than likely going to get weird looks, or be picked on, or insulted. That's the truth. That's why when people do "come out", to some of us it should be no big deal - because being gay is okay, but a lot would disagree. What they're also doing is opening themselves up to be huge targets to insults and hatred. We live in a society where that's partially what coming out as gay or trans means. That sucks, but I see it everywhere I look. So really, she had a lot of courage to do what she did. I think that's why it got so much attention, or why even when people who aren't celebrities come out get a fair amount of reactions. I've seen people come out on facebook before, and those statuses got so much attention that the notes kept up for a few days. It's not just "yo i wanna hit on <same gender here>!", it's "wow, i'm admitting something that's viewed as a sin to some people, and this is how much i don't care about their opinions".

So while it's okay for people to stay in the closet, it's also lying, in a way. People like to talk about what they find attractive or pleasing, or wanna talk about who'd they date, or who they're into. Though, if you're hiding that, you can't ever mention any of it, not unless you lie. I'd imagine then you might slip up. Sooo I'd say it's telling a lie of sorts when you don't admit what you are to people.
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This is probably going to be a really short response, but oh well.

Simply put, I don't think one's religious beliefs or sexuality (since that is what "coming out" refers to generally) or anything of the sort is something that we should need to conceal. However, I don't feel as though a big "coming out" song and dance needs to be made. Basically, don't hide it but don't feel obligated to go around telling everyone if they don't ask either.

As has been said, the fact that we still make such a big deal about people's sexual identity that a celebrity being gay is enough to make the headlines is just sad. I want to see a day where nobody gives a rats ass what your sexuality is.
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This is why I didn't really understand why it was such huge news that Michael Sam (college football player, expected to be drafted in 2014, came out as gay in an interview) announced that he was gay. I don't think it should matter and I don't really see the point of announcing it to the world. I understand that it's meant to gain further acceptance of the LGBT community, but society should be progressing to the "no one has to come out" mentality instead of the "gays and lesbians should come out but it shouldn't be a big deal" mentality.
It was a huge deal because people think his prospects of getting drafted are slimmer now. It's a huge deal because people have gone on record saying that "The NFL isn't ready for a gay player. It's still a Men's-Men game"
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Celebrities coming out is a huge deal currently for numerous reasons - and it will ALWAYS be a big deal because it will forever remain important that queer youth feel represented in all aspects of media.
You don't deserve any more attention than anyone else for your sexual preferences. I think sexuality should be a non-issue in the media, and I don't need any agenda shoved down my throat, even if it is of tolerance and rainbows. **** who you want to ****, and if your conservative parents disown you for it then they're bigots and you aren't missing out on much. As the spawn of the majority devil (straight, white, male, atheist) I have learnt to pretty much do what I want regardless of consequences, for me sexuality is no big deal and I'd encourage any orientation to think the same way. I do this every day without getting a medal, for such things to become accepted it should be the norm, without any positive or negative fuss over sexuality.

As for the issue of identifying yourself based on broader points than sexuality you have no obligation to tell anyone anything about your personal beliefs. Seriously, I think people coming out think TOO MUCH about the opinion of others. Just do what you want in this world to be happy and be done with it, your life is your own, it does not belong to your parents, friends, colleagues whatever.

So just go and tell the world you secretly love trees and are a gay, Islamic vegan who is also a pacifist! Or don't, that's your own business. It does help form relationships if you are truthful though, I get so confused about things like gender over the internet, clarification would really help me out, regardless of what bigots think of your particular ties.
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Visibility is a powerful tool against homophobia

Visibility is a powerful tool against homophobia

Visibility is a powerful tool against homophobia

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The fact that it's straight people who are saying "why should we care sexuality is a non-issue" is actually incredibly telling. How about you guys use some critical thinking for once.

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THIS AS WELL.

The fact this even has to be said is actually incredibly staggering and shows exactly why it's a huge deal for people to come out in the public sphere.
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Well there go my chances with Ellen Page, koff~

All jokes aside, it should not be a big deal. Sadly, society still views these quirks in a negative light in certain households/religions/other. It should not be a big deal, people should just go around being who they are and do what they want (and who they want). But no, we have to have people who are absolutely ridiculous. There are some reasons why I hate these people, most of them are because that's the problem they decide to pick up. Really? What are you going to do to stop them? Attack them? Quit being a weirdo and finish your damn Froot loops, koffi~
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I don't see why Ellen Page coming out was such a news, especially since millions of gays and lesbians go through the same process. The very concept of "outing" that even exists today and is something that a lot of gays and lesbians face still highlights that we still have a long way to go.
Celebrities have an aura associated with them when they are generally famous people; though they are just normal human beings like the rest of us. The general conception is that if celebrities can do it, others can as well; it's the sense of feeling empowered being the minority group regarding sexuality that drives them to "come out of the closet."

Even with that being said, I honestly don't think it's necessary for people to proclaim their sexuality to the world. Though creating a group where similar people can gather and gain support is inspirational. Parents, I think, are the people you should tell because they would like to know, whether they support you or not is their problem, not yours. People cannot help who they are attracted to and it's depressing to experience or imagine parents asking, "Why did you turn out like this? What did we do wrong?" That's completely the wrong way to reacting to someone "coming out." I can only imagine how difficult it must be for someone to contemplate telling their friends and family.
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Well there go my chances with Ellen Page, koff~
On another note I find these jokes insanely disrespectful. Someone just took the time to do a huge leap forward with courage and then people go "aww now I can't date them aren't I funny lol". No, you're not. The rest of your post is completely incomprehensible.

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Um whether parents support their children actually has a huge impact on them and I think it's close-minded not to say that? If kids are going to be kicked out of their house/forced to be felt like they're completely different/said they're "not normal" by their parents then it in turns becomes their problem. It's a personal decision and I don't think anybody (gay or straight) really has any right to tell who they should come out to or not.
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Um whether parents support their children actually has a huge impact on them and I think it's close-minded not to say that? If kids are going to be kicked out of their house/forced to be felt like they're completely different/said they're "not normal" by their parents then it in turns becomes their problem. It's a personal decision and I don't think anybody (gay or straight) really has any right to tell who they should come out to or not.
Well, I understand where you are coming from, but I'd also add there are two ways to come out (as far as celebrities or high-profile persons are concerned). One, announce verbally, two, non-verbally. I don't think one is necessarily better than the other inherently, I just prefer the second.

For instance, though many people are not familiar with him, Insanity creator Shaunt T, implicitly, came out by posting wedding pictures and his subsequent sentiments on twitter. Sure, no one should have to wait until marriage, but I think coming out, implicitly, by showing a serious commitment to someone, rather than a frivolous one, makes the most impact if we are to measure the utility of a celebrity coming out. As unfortunate as it is, a gay celebrities' relationship outcomes are scrutinized closer under a public lens. Even more so are single gay celebrities that are seen with different men every month even more dangerous to public perception. Again, I am not saying these perception are objective or right, but it seems like public perception of gay people is improved if these celebrities come to terms with their selves first, and are then, able to form meaningful relationships prior to coming out, even if that meaningful relationship doesn't last in the long run. Though, I will admit women are a bit different. There is an opposite, and somewhat endearingly truthful expression that lesbians move in together after the first date. though, I'd still offer the same advice given there is another, much less endearing generalization that women, especially conventionally "feminine" women are just tired of dating men or trying out something new. So again, I would say, regardless of sex, celebrities will make the most impact by being themselves in social circles, dating, coming to terms with their sexuality, and dating, and then making some some public statement or display of their relationship.

I think what some poster are getting at is, saying "I am gay," doesn't really have much meaning to it. It's kind of like, so what? Rather, saying, I love...blank, through words or actions is a more genuine, for why does sexual orientation matter without the presence of a love interest. It shouldn't affect how you live your life.

With that said, I think Ellen Page is brave. But she has sent, unintentional mixed messages with, what appeared to be a romantic relationships with men up to Summer of 2013. I don't think this is a huge negative impact, but it certainly didn't allow her to put her best foot forward as far as public perception goes.
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I think a lot of these comments are ignorant of how the world works. Yes, it SHOULD be a non-issue and people SHOULD be able to be open about their sexuality from a young age, but it's not like that. Our society as a whole is still homophobic and tons of LGBT youth face discrimination and struggle with their identities every day. Being able to see someone they look up to come out publicly can give them the courage to come to terms with their own sexuality and gives them someone to relate and look up to.

This "who cares??" mentality is also kind of hilarious to see coming from straight people (and a little bit offensive if I'm being honest). Um, maybe LGBT people care? Food for thought.
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I think a lot of these comments are ignorant of how the world works. Yes, it SHOULD be a non-issue and people SHOULD be able to be open about their sexuality from a young age, but it's not like that. Our society as a whole is still homophobic and tons of LGBT youth face discrimination and struggle with their identities every day. Being able to see someone they look up to come out publicly can give them the courage to come to terms with their own sexuality and gives them someone to relate and look up to.

This "who cares??" mentality is also kind of hilarious to see coming from straight people (and a little bit offensive if I'm being honest). Um, maybe LGBT people care? Food for thought.
In all honesty, actresses, actors, and "celebrities" in general are people I don't really look up to in a general sense, and really shouldn't be the framework set for anyone regardless of sexuality.

I'd rather look up to people who have made positive contributions to society and have sacrificed and worked hard in life, rather than given insurmountable amount of money in relation to the work and what that work does for society. For instance, Harvey Milk.

I look up to plenty of gay people, not because they are gay, they just happen to be gay. Being gay and an actor/actress hardly qualifies a person as a role model. (Not singling out any particular celeb.)

With that said, I agree having gay role models is important. Celebrities, are probably not the best examples. Some gay people care about these celebrities, but should they really? Gay hollywood shouldn't be the representative or role model of LGBT people. (since they are, they should be held to higher standard. Though, ultimately, the more reverence we put into the visibility of actors, singers, and other celebs, the less service we are actually providing for gay youth. We should be focus on inspiring the youth to pursue careers that help others and society, not careers revolving around vanity, fame, and disproportionate wealth.
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On coming out in general, staying in the closet is 100% OK as that's a person's own personal decision and therefore is not subject to the judgment of others. What's not OK is the feeling that one has to stay in the closet for any reason.
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i mean, it's kind of presumptuous to put a generalising answer here regarding coming out. you are never under any obligation to come out, and if coming out will endanger your safety (and I say this as someone who came out to her parents and got kicked out) then why do it? why risk shelter and financial stability instead of doing what you can to survive? i just really don't think it's anyone's place to prescribe or judge someone's choice in disclosure due to their own personal circumstances and their own conception of the risks involved.

celebrity-wise, yeah, apathy is a good way of being a hip ally, but visibility is key to proving the omnipresence of diverse genders and sexualities.
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To continue on the coming out in general topic.

Coming out, someday, I hope, won't be a thing. Whether that be coming out religiously, or sexually, however... there will be a day I hope where, say, you just walk up to your parents and say, "I love this person" and it's, well, not as big of a deal.

Sadly, that day isn't here.

For the past three years I've worked with my former high school in leading an LGBT group there. I was tutoring kids on the things that classes didn't teach, that it was okay to be who you were.

They ask all the time why they should come out. Of course, it's their decision, that's the first thing I tell them. Coming out is a dangerous step, but once you do, you will be glad you did. Thing is, I was going off of what other people had told me. I didn't come out fully until October of last year.

And that feeling, was the best feeling in my life. It was the best thing I ever did because I feel like I'm not hiding myself anymore. That's what it's about. It's not about getting attention, or drama, or anything like that. It's about not having to hide who you are, who you love, what you believe.

There is no reason that anyone, ANYONE should have to hide who they are. Coming out? Those people that do manage to do it? Are brave. They know that there will be backlash. They know that there will be hard times ahead. But at least they are able to say, I did it, and I held my head high. That's why it's called gay 'pride', because you should never be ashamed of who you are, ever.
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Coming out is probably the single most courageous thing an LGBT person can do. No doubt. My own coming out while relatively easy (in that my family accepted me for who I was unreservedly) nevertheless was very emotional. There is a very real fear of rejection that is even more profound than the rejection one might experience from a potential partner, because this is family. To be rejected by one's own family can be, and often is, very traumatic.

A previous poster indicated that it is the problem of the parents if they cannot accept their child's sexual orientation. But this is simply not true. Because we as a society have deemed family to be the single most important thing that strengthens society, being rejected by one's own family does indeed become the child's problem, not just the parents, who obviously can barely be called parents if their love for their children is conditional for any reason. Rejection by one's own family can lead to severe depression and in extreme cases suicidal thoughts.

Our sexual orientation, as some have said, really shouldn't be an issue at all, and it shouldn't be required that any of us should have to come out. We should be able to live our lives as who we are right from day one and be accepted by everyone close to us. Because we live in a largely prejudicial world, where even the slightest differences in people cause friction, sadly coming out is very much a big deal.

Until we can accept all people for who they are regardless if they are black or brown, or purple with pink polka dots, Christian or Muslim, male or female, gay or straight or bisexual or transgendered, or any other trait that marks us as different from others there will always be a need to seek support from other by announcing who we are.
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I'm honestly starting to wonder if people are reading my posts. Visibility is a powerful tool against homophobia.

Um whether parents support their children actually has a huge impact on them and I think it's close-minded not to say that? If kids are going to be kicked out of their house/forced to be felt like they're completely different/said they're "not normal" by their parents then it in turns becomes their problem. It's a personal decision and I don't think anybody (gay or straight) really has any right to tell who they should come out to or not.
Actually I did see your post, loud and clear. In regards to that, yes, I'm straight, but I don't have any problem with people announcing to the world that they've come out. Also, I know that parents have a significant impact on their children regarding anything, not just their sexuality and therefore, that's why I acknowledged that letting their parents know is important. Reiterating Shining Raichu's point, I also believe it's entirely up to the individual whether or not they want to come out. They shouldn't feel forced by people, or society, to either stay closeted or come out.

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A previous poster indicated that it is the problem of the parents if they cannot accept their child's sexual orientation. But this is simply not true. Because we as a society have deemed family to be the single most important thing that strengthens society, being rejected by one's own family does indeed become the child's problem, not just the parents, who obviously can barely be called parents if their love for their children is conditional for any reason. Rejection by one's own family can lead to severe depression and in extreme cases suicidal thoughts.
I believe that was me, unless someone else mentioned it as well. What I initially was trying to state regarding parents' in this sort of situation is that for those who believe their child turned out the way they did is because they have a choice, they honestly shouldn't be blaming them. People do not have a choice in who they are attracted to, and we should accept them for who they are, not focusing on what they are not.
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Pretty much as far as coming out goes - just in case my writing before wasn't very clear -
the way it should be is that you don't feel you have to come out, that it doesn't matter whom you love that you can one day just say "hey I'm dating this person and they have the same kind of genitals as me".

Sexuality should be a non-issue and I feel that by continuing to make a big deal of it in the media, such as when celebrities "come out" we are more contributing to the problem than aiding in fixing it because we are adding to the stigma that being gay is a big deal. I'm not saying public figures should not be openly gay, I'm just saying rather than making a big song and dance over it they should announce it via openly dating a person of the same gender. That way they are still using visibility as a tool against homophobia as Moogles has constantly promoted but they are doing a lot more good by also demonstrating that homosexuality is also not a big deal, it's news no different to them dating a male celebrity (which also shouldn't be worth making the news, just saying).

I realise that this is not the world we live in today, but if more people acted this way then we be much closer to living in the world of sexual equality that we're working towards.

I'm sorry if anyone finds this view to be offensive or insensitive but quite frankly I have several gay friends, I have several gay friends who share this same view as me and I have had a grand total of seven people "come out" to me as gay or bi before they have ven told their family. My reaction to them being gay/bi is pretty much "supportive indifference" and that has usually been met with far better results than those who have made it a big deal. One of the happiest moments in one friends life (supposedly) was her coming out to me and me responding with a brief hug and "nobody cares". I realise that this won't be the same for everyone, after all we're all people with different beliefs and personalities but I think 7/7 happy is a pretty decent indicator that I'm doing something right.

Sexuality may not be a non-issue today but if more of us stopped acting like it was something major than maybe we'd be one step closer to this actually being the case.
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Pretty much as far as coming out goes - just in case my writing before wasn't very clear -
the way it should be is that you don't feel you have to come out, that it doesn't matter whom you love that you can one day just say "hey I'm dating this person and they have the same kind of genitals as me".

Sexuality should be a non-issue and I feel that by continuing to make a big deal of it in the media, such as when celebrities "come out" we are more contributing to the problem than aiding in fixing it because we are adding to the stigma that being gay is a big deal. I'm not saying public figures should not be openly gay, I'm just saying rather than making a big song and dance over it they should announce it via openly dating a person of the same gender. That way they are still using visibility as a tool against homophobia as Moogles has constantly promoted but they are doing a lot more good by also demonstrating that homosexuality is also not a big deal, it's news no different to them dating a male celebrity (which also shouldn't be worth making the news, just saying).

I realise that this is not the world we live in today, but if more people acted this way then we be much closer to living in the world of sexual equality that we're working towards.

I'm sorry if anyone finds this view to be offensive or insensitive but quite frankly I have several gay friends, I have several gay friends who share this same view as me and I have had a grand total of seven people "come out" to me as gay or bi before they have ven told their family. My reaction to them being gay/bi is pretty much "supportive indifference" and that has usually been met with far better results than those who have made it a big deal. One of the happiest moments in one friends life (supposedly) was her coming out to me and me responding with a brief hug and "nobody cares". I realise that this won't be the same for everyone, after all we're all people with different beliefs and personalities but I think 7/7 happy is a pretty decent indicator that I'm doing something right.

Sexuality may not be a non-issue today but if more of us stopped acting like it was something major than maybe we'd be one step closer to this actually being the case.
^this completely. I soooo agree. Being gay is just not that big a deal. It's really not. When I find out someone is gay, I literally don't look at them any differently than before I knew. When someone like a celebrity comes out of the closet and it becomes a huge deal in the media, it's basically like they're screaming "Such-and-such is gay! Look at him differently!" Isn't the whole idea not to look at someone any differently just because they're gay?

I recognize that to an extent it is a big deal because it's regarded as such in today's society, but isn't that the perception that we're trying to defeat?
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