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au bon
October 6th, 2012, 10:20 PM
Do you sugar coat things to prevent hurting feelings? How often do you do that? If not, why don't you?

October 7th, 2012, 4:25 AM
No, I am blunt as heck.

Unless it comes to like a 6 year old kid or something.

October 7th, 2012, 5:58 AM
I try to sugar coat things if I know they'll be upsetting or make the other person feel self-concious, but people irl know me as being slightly blunt with my sense of humour so I've been told they just take what I say as a joke anyway if it's offensive. :p

October 7th, 2012, 6:43 AM
I do actually sugar coat things sometimes, but not very often. :/ It really depends on the situation for me tbh

October 7th, 2012, 6:48 AM
Entirely depends on who the person is, like if they're close or someone I hardly know. If it's about a serious issue like their health/weight then I'll be blunt as all hell, and to be honest I'm usually blunt about most things. Sugarcoating just doesn't solve the problem.

October 7th, 2012, 9:09 AM
Ugh, yeah. I do. I hate to hurt peoples feelings, im not one to be harsh.

October 7th, 2012, 9:16 AM
When I'm not careful I'm pretty blunt, but I try to be tactful most of the time because it just makes things easier.

October 7th, 2012, 9:18 AM
Sugarcoat by Breaking Benjamin? (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pI1Cyaoz29w)

I do often, yeah. Mainly to people I either don't know well enough, or people I really really like. For the former, I don't know how they'd react to my being blunt, so I sugarcoat it and yeah, hopefully they get the message. The latter, I just could never be mean to.

If it's my friends though, I'm blunter then blunt trauma. Harharhar science jokes.

The Corrupt Plague
October 7th, 2012, 10:10 AM
I try my best to be honest even if it turns out brutal. Typical answers from me include: How was the trip? Boring and it feels like I threw a bunch of money away. Who are you voting for? Nobody because I can't stand both of them. What do you think of my cooking? Made me feel nauseous. Perfume? Your new vial smells like roadkill but I do enjoy the other one that smells like roses so it would be best to go back to rose scent.

October 7th, 2012, 10:52 AM
I don't sugar coat things. While I try to make everyone equally happy, I won't throw a blanket over my opinion to spare some tears.

October 7th, 2012, 10:54 AM
I don't like to hurt other people's feelings, so I sugarcoat things the best I can.

October 7th, 2012, 4:53 PM
I can be if the situation calls for it. Usually I tell it like it is.

October 7th, 2012, 8:24 PM
In truth I tend to be pretty stone hearted in real life,so yes I am generally rather blunt.

Shining Raichu
October 10th, 2012, 5:51 AM
I'm big on sugar coating. Bluntness is one quality I can't stand in a person. There is a difference between being honest and being a dick, and bluntness is that difference. There is a way to be honest without broadcasting your complete lack of regard for other people's feelings.

What I also can't stand is the way people who are blunt tend to champion themselves for it, as though "telling it like it is" is some great public service they're performing. Get some tact or get away from me.

October 10th, 2012, 7:03 AM
I'd only sugar coat if they were very young or very old to spare them from whatever it is.

Captain Fabio
October 10th, 2012, 7:22 AM
Nope, I am pretty blunt and it annoys me when people 'sugar coat' things; JUST TELL ME HOW IT IS!

Shiny Celebi
October 10th, 2012, 8:08 AM
I do have a habit of doing this, I'm usually very careful about what I say to people because I hate hurting their feelings and am constantly afraid they will get mad.

October 10th, 2012, 10:05 AM
I tend to be blunt to a fault, but I do try to have some tact depending on how I can word something or who I'm speaking to for the purpose of lightening the weight on something depressing. It may take a while to come up with the proper wording, but I can usually do it unless it's something that can only be taken care of with a "you're fatter than Albert" attitude.

October 10th, 2012, 10:39 AM
I try to be honest, but at the same time, I'm not afraid to omit details that might upset someone. I can go off ranting a lot and spill some truth in the process, but what they don't know won't hurt 'em. Sugarcoating isn't always necessary. It's really a situational thing. I'm happy I'm not the only one saying that. Empathy is really important, and it took me a while to learn it too. Now... I see the lack of it everywhere. It's tragic. Am I a curse or something?

Algo Fonix
October 10th, 2012, 11:19 AM
I wish I were more blunt. Of course, when I do decide to be blunt, people say I come off as being cruel. I kinda like that though.

October 10th, 2012, 4:56 PM
I think I tend to sugar coat a few things, at least when I'm worried about possibly hurting feelings ("oh, if saying this will make that person mad, then I shouldn't say it like that, say it like this instead").

Which is kind of odd, since I actually somewhat hate people doing it to me. Hmm.

October 13th, 2012, 6:26 PM
Only sometimes, really. I'm an honest person, most of the time. But this depends on the situation, and who I'm with.

October 13th, 2012, 10:34 PM
I only sugar coat things when I'm being sarcastic, being blunt is just my modus operandi for everything, lol. Contrary to the opinions of the lovely Shining Raichu, blunt people are the sort of people I love. They're to the point; precise; often hilarious. Sugar coaters just frustrate me.

October 13th, 2012, 11:38 PM
Yes, I am afraid of making people angry. If I know the person well and trust them, I will be less cautious.

October 14th, 2012, 1:34 PM
Depends on the person in question...

If I personally feel the person deserves a blunt talking to, I'll do it.
But if the person is say, really sweet and doesn't really deserve it, I'll be much easier about it... ;w;

October 16th, 2012, 1:53 PM
If it's someone I'm like really close with I'll probably be blunt with them, because they wouldn't care all that much. They'd do the same to me. For someone I don't really know I'll sugar coat things, being blunt just doesn't seem like a good idea.

October 16th, 2012, 2:14 PM
I guess I sugar coat things? But it's not so much sugar coating in the way of white lies, it's sugar coating in the way of me trying to be as nice to them as possible, so that whatever we're talking about doesn't seem so bad. I'm truthful, but I always point out the upside to things, rather than bluntly talking to them about how bad something is.

October 16th, 2012, 3:06 PM
Sometimes I do. Sometimes I don't. It depends on the topic, the sensitivity of it, and who I'm talking to. Just like everything else with me, it really depends on the situation and person as a whole.

Mr Cat Dog
October 23rd, 2012, 3:22 PM
Yeah, I'm normally quite blunt with everyone I know, be it close friend/family member or just a casual acquaintance. It's not a case of hurting people's feelings, in my opinion... and this is going to sound horribly gangsta, but I just feel it best to tell it like it is. Continuing the clichés, honesty really is the best policy, and if one sugar coats something now, there'll be a time in the future when that person realises you've kept something from them. And I don't want to be one of those people that keeps things from people unnecessarily. I like open and honest communication, even if it's not always the most pleasant; hashing out disagreements is the only way that really inroads and progress can be made. Sugar coating helps preserve the status quo, and while it may be desirable for a few hours/days/weeks, in the long run it's not the best attitude to have... IMO. :P

Ice Car
October 23rd, 2012, 3:26 PM
No way.

I have a tendency to be very blunt. I scarcely sugarcoat things unless it would be wrong not to, or if I feel it's absolutely necessary to.

October 23rd, 2012, 5:59 PM
I'm big on sugar coating. Bluntness is one quality I can't stand in a person. There is a difference between being honest and being a dick, and bluntness is that difference. There is a way to be honest without broadcasting your complete lack of regard for other people's feelings.

What I also can't stand is the way people who are blunt tend to champion themselves for it, as though "telling it like it is" is some great public service they're performing. Get some tact or get away from me.

This. This will play a role in my opinion. Honestly, it all depends on who it is I'm talking to/rating/criticizing.
If it's just your average guy or a friend, I tend to either sugar coat things or be honest but with the most respect I can. I hate it when someone thinks their honest and are actually blunt, not realizing that the two are different. Honesty is telling it as it is, bluntness on the other hand is being a dick about the truth.

But when sometimes, it's someone who themselves are blunt or rude, I try to be as blunt/dickish as I can. It's mainly because I feel I should punish them for what they put others through and give them a taste of their own medicine, so to speak. I know some people might think it's wrong, but oh well, it's something I've tried and failed to get past :/

I've Come to Bargain
October 24th, 2012, 3:26 AM
Yes. I try to stay away from hurting others' feelings as much as possible, so, to be honest, I always do that. The only time I don't sugar coat is when I'm discussing something that's very, very important (e.g. when it concerns death of a person).

October 24th, 2012, 7:36 AM
I only sugarcoat it when I am being passive aggressive which I find to be really amusing. Otherwise I prefer the blunt approach.

October 31st, 2012, 1:08 AM
Depends on the situation. I try to be as honest as possible without hurting other people's feelings. I also tend to choose my words carefully, so..yea. I sugarcoat quite a lot. But still, it depends.

If I'm talking about a very serious topic though, expect cold bluntness from me.

November 1st, 2012, 6:06 PM
Forum-wise, yes, I do indeed sugarcoat. I like to be as nice as I can so I don't hurt feelings, and usually nothing is serious enough for it to be worth it for me to be blunt. I can tolerate people pretty well so most of the time nothing throws me off enough to just say it like it is.

Pretty much the same offline since I'd rather not make anyone mad at me. xD;

Twilight Sky
November 12th, 2012, 9:43 PM
I'll admit that I'm guilty in the department of being really blunt, and that's part of who I am. If I want to tell someone the truth about something, then I'll do it. Generally, I'll avoid being harsh when I can, since that's not really ideal, but honesty is always a priority with me!

And people's feelings do matter to me a lot..I do hesitate when it comes to being blunt with others, I don't necessarily like doing it, but eh. u_u

November 12th, 2012, 10:16 PM
I'd probably sugarcoat it if its someone i don't know very well or old people 'cause you'd never hear the end of that.But most of the time i'll be very blunt.It really depends on the situation i guess.

November 12th, 2012, 11:25 PM
Anyone who knows me in real life or who has been staff with me on PC knows I sugarcoat nothing. I'm a straight-shooter - I tell it like I see it and usually don't pull any punches. Some people find that off-putting, but I'd prefer someone to be upfront and honest with me rather than trying to sugarcoat things.

November 13th, 2012, 3:44 AM
I know honesty is the best policy, the truth really hurts, doesn't it? I can be frank to someone "close" to me, but I can be sarcastic if the situation calls for it.