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Taking A Stand Against Critics (Cherub, Nedroid, Letter to My 16-Year-Old-Self) [Daily Bloggity Entry #185]

Posted November 15th, 2014 at 2:01 PM by El Héroe Oscuro

Date: 14 November 2014
Time: 6:31 AM ET
Mood: Good morning!

Criticism can be a tricky subject matter. Some people can accept it easily, while others take it to heart and let it consume them. Sometimes people are very readily able to dish it out at other people, while others hesitate in doing it because they are afraid of hurting the other person's feelings. It's a tricky subject that's for sure; it all depends on what kind of character you have and how you truly feel about what people think of you after the aftermath. Are you able to accept people for how they criticize you? Or will you take a stand and defend your case?

Daily Video - "Doses & Minoses" by Cherub


For me personally, I'm a mix of the two characterizations. For one thing, I enjoy criticism....with the right support. I'm perfectly okay with someone calling me out on something as long as they have the proper information to support their claim. Criticism can be a good thing; it can allow a person to improve on their character and fix mistakes that otherwise could have continued if it wasn't brought to the attention of said person. It can be healthy when applied correctly. However, there are times when a person will allow their emotions to take control in the situation and cloud their thoughts with ill intent that isn't actually prevalent to the case at hand. As a result, it can sour a relationship between two parties and thus have a negative result then the one intended.

Daily Comic - "It Went Well in Rehearsal" by Anthony Clark of Nedroid

The reason why I'm bringing this up in this blog is because I actually confronted a bunch of people recently who criticized me. Giving a little bit of background to the situation, I am part of the EBoard of an organization on my university's campus that works with children by playing games with them and teaching them morals and values that they can apply to real life. Because I live off campus - roughly 50 minutes by train - I have to commute to my meetings and thus a lot of variables can deter me from reaching it on time: traffic, construction, and weather are all things that I have had to face in the past. As a result, there have been times when I have been a few - emphasis on few - minutes late to the meetings, and shockingly I have been criticized for myself being late to the meetings. The President of the organization called me out and said that my mind was not in the right place and that I didn't take the club seriously as a result because I was late by a little bit a few times.

Daily Video - "Letter to My 16-Year-Old-Self" by artist Watsky

Now here's the thing: I would be perfectly fine with the situation if this was the only thing going on in the club. It's hard to time commute time when you don't know whether or not there's going to be traffic, but I guess you could leave extremely early to correct that. However, that's not the problem at hand. The real issue that I have is the fact that there are many people who just never show up to the meetings and they get off scott-free. There are never any negative repercussions that occur because of their absence, and as a result it made me question why I was being belittled and they weren't. It sucked, to say the least, to be blatantly called out for being late when there were certain individuals that were just supposedly deemed innocent. Note: When I talked to certain individuals about this it wasn't because those people had a prior commitment; it was out of pure laziness.

So I did what any person with a mind would do in this kind of situation: I called them out on it. During one of our EBoard meetings, I basically told everyone about the situation at hand and how people need to be held accountable across the board if certain rules are to be up-kept. Individuals should not be given a "get-out-jail-free-card"; consequences should be given for people's actions. If you're going to be anal about being a few minutes late, then you better damn well be anal about a person missing a whole meeting. To sum up, it shut them up pretty quickly. They realized the error of their mistake and are going to adjust accordingly. I don't plan on joining the club next semester - because of this and my new co-op job, I've just lost interest in the club that I used to love - but it was nice for a change for the person being criticized becoming the critic and a positive result coming from it. What about y'all? How do you deal with criticism? Would you ever call someone out on something? If not, why not? Have you ever called out someone on something? Comment below as I'd love to hear and discuss with you what you have to say about this subject!

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- El Héroe Oscuro


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