It's tough, to say the least. I hate having to give up my subby side, but, well...I really like this guy. He cares for me a lot, and I care for him. I wish I could persuade him to accept my subby side, but...he's pretty firm about it. =/
He's not the dominant sort, but he's...fragile. He sees me as his big, dominant, comforting BF, and if I challenge that by acting subby or liking htings like that, it sort of messes with his mental image of me. He's...complex.
That said, I could violate any of his request at any time, but he'd probably be really hurt if I did. He wouldn't stop me if I tried to, though.