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February 25th, 2013 8:42 AMEGKangarooI can usually avert those type of comments pretty easily, by, as always, saying I am not interested. They sort of get the point by now. I'm not the kind of guy who chases girls if they happen to have voluptuous hips, a large bosom, and whatever kind of physical traits that turn most people into lascivious hounds -- and I am actually not that kind of guy -- so for all I care, my parents don't know about my homosexuality yet, but they still don't necessarily suspect I am anything that I am not.
I'll have to disagree with you that you think a sincere relationship is kind of like something that only belongs in fairy tales. Indeed, it's the only kind of relationship that ever leads to requited love. Romantic relations have -- over a long period of time -- been ... well ... romanticised, while friendships, on the overall, have been kind of neglected. Romantic relationships have turned into a multi-million dollar industry of matchmaker organisations claiming to have the ultimate methods of pairing up individuals that are perfect for each other, but they're missing out on the creation of friendships, because they're impossible to synthetically create. That's why most people don't trust dating sites. They're so hollow. So artificial. Because they're missing out on one of the key ingredients to making friends, which is repeated unplanned interactions, and that's a really hard thing to fake.
I disagree that a romantic relation that stems from the very thing that makes friendships the commodity by which we should be judged -- their brutal honesty, intense vulnerability, and complex understanding of a human's bare personality -- is in any way little more than just something we can dream about. Call me an idealist, but it's the only kind of relationship I woud find acceptable to put my commitment to. I do not know whether it was your intention to make it sound like it's an impossibility, but your second paragraph kind of proclined to that sentiment.
There is one person I know of who fits everything I've ever wanted to have from a friend. Unconditional acceptance of my character, a sincere heart, a caring personality, willing to lend a warm blanket to a self that's been disregarded its whole life. As if the odds are even more astronomical, he is gay too. Gosh, if there's anyone I'll ever want to commit to anything serious with, it's with him. -
February 24th, 2013 1:06 PMGyardosampedMy mom always makes remarks every few weeks saying things like, “When you and your girlfriend, or you and your wife…, or when you have children..”, and those comments put me in the most awkward positions you could ever think of. Unfortunately for me, I don’t even think my parents know what asexuality is, but I’m not asexual, anyways. I wish my parents would think likes yours! I mean, I believe parents have the right to question their children whenever they want. After all, they are our parents, and for the most part, they want what’s best for us. I understand their possible confusions or frustrations, but it definitely doesn’t make it easy on us. I just need to find the courage one of these days to come out to them and tell them who I really am and who I really like.
Well, I have to say that your reasoning is very similar to mine. That’d be a dream of mine (seeing as I will be 19 in a week) to find a guy who I can relate to, have fun with, and enjoy my life with. Those wishes sound like they can only be found in a fairy tale these days, but hey, can’t a person dream? I know I will have to come out to my parents eventually. That is very much inevitable at this point. And I know a person doesn’t necessarily have to reveal their sexuality if they don’t want to ever in their lives, but I know if I do not confront my parents soon, they’ll just come to me and force it out of me eventually, which is something I don’t want to happen. Plus, I can’t live being closeted for the rest of my life.
Oh my gosh, if my mother did that to me in public, PUBLIC, I’d die. I’m soooo sorry that that happened to you. I probably would have just gotten super blushed up and would have simply said, “no”. See, if my parents ever asked me (which they have) why I don’t have a girlfriend and I respond with, “I’m just not interested in relationships right now”, they’ll just simply jump to the conclusion that I’m using that as an excuse to cover up my homosexuality. I hate it. Ugh.
As for who I feel an attraction to, I know I am only drawn to men. Sure, I admire women as friends and such, but even if a woman is really compassionate towards me, I just take it as though she’s being nice in a friendly way. But, yes, I want the person I’m with to be a friend and a lover. A relationship is nothing if it consists of just sex and that’s it (and I know I’m being explicit here on a Pokémon forum). There needs to also be a love/passion component to a relationship for it to work. I agree very much with your thinking. Everyone should look at any type of relationship like that. -
February 24th, 2013 10:42 AMEGKangarooI don't think my parents really suspect anything of my sexuality. Sure, they've asked me questions sometimes, and at my age, they sort of expect that their children are supposed to be seeing girls by now, but they know I am not the kind of guy who would really be carnally interested in girls anyway. I've got the fact that I tend to value relationships that are meaningful a lot more than those where the interests are purely lascivious to back up why I'm not coming home with a girl at my age. My parents know I am not interested in that, and at worst they might suspect I am asexual, which I am not, but it's not even half that bad of a guess.
If one day, I will happen to find a guy whom I can be honest with, whom I want to commit myself to romantically, then I will have no choice but to come out to my parents. Especially now that I am nearly 18, the age of majority, it would be madness to think that I am supposed to bend my values and live an inauthentic life just to please my parents and let them hold onto an image they have of me. A kind of version of myself that they create that is whom they love, instead of the bare personality I really am.
I've had my mother explicitly ask me whether I was gay just once, and it scared the hell out of me. It was totally unexpected, in public, and I broke out in sweat. I just told her that I didn't know, and I wasn't really interested in a relationship with anyone, and at the time, I really didn't know, and I really wasn't interested in a relationship with anyone. I can only really feel a romantic and sexual attraction to someone who takes me for who I am, and who will love me not in spite of all the asymmetry, and all of my brokenness and my problems, but because of it. Someone whom I can be able to talk to for hours and hours about everything under the sun. A real friend, put short, one of the 2 to 3 people a person on average can have whom they can be sincere with about everything. If it's just a relationship meant to fulfill some desires, a hollow shell, then it just would feel feigned to me.
And don't worry about your own logic sounding dumb, I really don't think it sounds dumb at all. You extract from your personal experience and you place it in the perfect context in your responses. -
February 23rd, 2013 7:41 PMGyardosampedI sometimes look forward to the days where I have already gotten rid of this secret I’ve been hiding all my life, but I can never find the courage to just come out, especially to my parents. And it’s not even because I think they’ll react in a hostile manner, but it’s just because I can’t see myself telling them. Luckily, my parents aren’t religious, and as a result, I’m not either, but I’m kind of in the same situation as you. I think my parents already highly suspect I’m homosexual, but they’re just waiting for me to assure them of that. I don’t think my father would actually mind if I was gay. He’s never asked me about relationships or anything of that manner, but my mom has. She’s quite a curious being, and she’s asked me twice before if I was gay, but I obviously said no because it’s hard to just spill your guts when you’re so abruptly confronted about something so private. Both situations have been super awkward for me. My mom is like yours. One minute she’ll say she loves me no matter what I am or who I love, but the next she’ll see two guys kissing on TV and say that that's “gross”. I do think that if I did come out to her, she wouldn’t think of me any differently and would support me to the utmost extreme, but I also don’t want to have to deal with the probably ton of questions and comments she may have. I know what you’re feeling, believe me.
That’s pretty cool to hear that the Netherlands is considered to be one of the most tolerant countries when it comes to supporting LGBTs. People will always be judgmental, irrational, and will always jump to conclusions when it comes to the topic of homosexuality. That will happen no matter what country you live in, like you said. We just can’t fix that, and I don’t think we will ever be able to, either. It’s also probably the main reason why many in the LGBT community are so scared to reveal their true selves. People are just scared to experience things outside of what they know. They don’t like change – or things/people that are different from them, for that matter. Everyone is very quick to judge and scrutinize anything and everything that is out of the norm. Once they realize that they’re just being illogical and senseless (and also realize that they’re the ones with the unscrupulous mentality), they start to adjust and that’s when the accepting comes in. It’s a long process, though, and it seems like your friend is going through it right now, fortunately. But it's also unfortunate that he even went through it in the first place.
I love your use of philosophical sayings. ;] Your eloquence is so endearing, really. I feel like my writing and logic is so dumb compared to yours, haha. xD & that’s awesome that you’re already in the club! That was kind of premature of me for not checking if you were in it beforehand, but it didn’t really cross my mind. I’m glad to hear you’re willing to post in it, though. We’d love to hear your input on the discussions that arise. :) -
February 23rd, 2013 2:29 PMEGKangarooHeh, actually, ante scriptium would make a lot more sense. Kinda like ante meridiem (AM) means "before the meridian" in Latin. Well anyway, that's a relief. I wasn't sure whether I'd be able to add anything to a topic that's basically just repeating back and forth at what we've talked about already. Not that that isn't in any way entertaining, but, ya know, it's gonna be difficult to keep up the multi-paragraph replies on just the same topic.
Coming out is really difficult for me. I have come out in front of some of my friends, and the reaction I got from them was tepid at best. The most terrifying part where I have to come out before my parents is going to be difficult, yes, but I feel determined that I would not forgive myself if I won't. I am sure your problems are far worse with coming out since you live in the USA, and I live in the Netherlands, but it still causes angst with me. I grew up in a protestant family, and my mother's opinion on homosexuality is already ambiguous enough. One minute, she says she's fine with it, and the next minute she rages that it is a punishment from God.
Even when living in a country that is considered the most LGBT-tolerant in the world, there's still the social expectation that being gay means you ought to act gay. Many people are too feeble to really look beyond those prejudices to accept that however much we wish we could put everybody in a handful of shiny boxes to make everything neat and organised, we just can't. Maybe that's one thing that I really like when I read about existentialism. I essentially tells that there is no meaning beyond what meaning human beings assign to the universe. Our knowledge is finite; nothing but a droplet in the ocean. The sheer amount of information as well as the vast realm of the unknown makes certainty humanly impossible. Prejudices are a great example of this limitation of our human knowledge. We seek meaning, and reach a conclusion that cannot be true, because we just don't know of the activity in the unknown realm. I think this definitely applied to one of my friends, who -- as I believe I've said already -- is coming to terms with my coming out, and is starting to lose the stereotype he has of gay people, now that he knows one that doesn't fit the categorical example of a gay guy.
There's also this really beautiful concept that the philosophy holds to, called "Existence precedes essence". It tells that a person's most important consideration is the fact that he is an individual -- an independently acting and responsible being -- rather than what labels, roles, stereotypes, or whatever preconceived categories the individual fits.
Also, thanks for inviting me to the Rainbow Connection. I would suggest you check in the members list, under the E. I already joined it when I was active on PC a long while ago. I think it's also still listed that I am a member of the Rainbow Connection on my about me page. I just haven't posted there yet, which I will of course do in the future. -
February 23rd, 2013 12:49 PMGyardosampedAntescriptum (LOL): Don't feel obligated to reply to all of the nonsense I wrote down there. :p I know it's a lot to read, and we're kind of going back and forth on the same topic, anyways. <3
I’d assume you’re right. PreScript sounds the most logical. I did find, however, that Antescriptum (before something has been written) can also be used, though it wouldn’t necessarily be used correctly if it was placed in the beginning of a letter/piece of writing. Oh well, it’s not a big deal. :p
Everyone always longs to have nice things. My philosophy is that if someone can afford to buy expensive and luxurious things, then by all means they should buy the items. People, however, tend to become greedy and self-absorbed when they’re given the privilege to do such things, and that’s of course where the problems start setting in. They believe that money can buy them anything, and in consequence, their sense of reality becomes totally obscured by everything and anything material. And, of course, you have those people who can’t even afford nice things and become unbearable to be around because their entire lives revolve around constantly complaining about their “misfortune” and jealousy of those who actually have the high-priced luxuries they want. It will always come down to this: no one will ever be satisfied with what they have. No one. And that’s sad to think about. You’re right, though. The sentimental value that is assigned to something is always what will count the most.
I’d do the same as you any day! I was reading this picture (it was like a meme) on Instagram yesterday, and it said, “I’d rather have four quarters than one-hundred pennies”, and the saying is so true! I’d rather have one true friend than ten friends, ten "acquaintances" who I probably wouldn’t even be able to relate to. For the sake of the analogy, though, it doesn’t make a person anti-social to choose a million dollars over a million friends. I mean, not one person could probably even be able to handle or even remember one million people. x) Haha.
Thanks for being so caring. <3 People definitely judge others simply on the fact of what they consider themselves to be.
“Oh, you’re gay?”
“You must like dressing like a woman, painting your nails, love every guy you see or meet, and love Lady Gaga.”
Ugh, no. I don’t fit the gay stereotype at all. It’s rather annoying when people jump to conclusions so quickly, but whatever, that’s how society is and I don’t think it’ll ever change, at least not for the better, anyways. You’re right, though, people love to categorize others, yet we’re all so structurally built in such different ways.
& that makes it ten times better to hear that you’re gay, too (although, even if you were heterosexual I wouldn’t think of you differently anyways). I haven’t “come out” to anyone yet, but I plan to in the near future, and the only reason I haven’t yet is because I don’t think I’m ready to deal with the criticisms and judgments that unfortunately come with revealing your “not-societally-normal” sexuality. Gosh, I make it sound so harsh, but society does, too! I’m so sorry that happened to you. <3 Seriously, coming out is definitely not something easy to do, and people totally jump the gun when they find out someone is gay because they’ve been mislead into thinking that being anything but heterosexual isn’t “appropriate”. Although I haven’t revealed my sexuality to anyone in real life, I’m completely comfortable and accepting of who I am. I wouldn’t change myself for the world, and it’s not like I could, anyways.
Btw, if you’re ever inclined to do so (and I do hope you do, please, please, please), PC’s LGBT club would loveeeeeee to have you. :] We’d value your input a lot, and we’ve sort of build a community within ourselves to help each other out. I hope you decide to join, and if not, that’s completely fine, too. xD
I can’t change my personality or who I am, for that matter, but I do put on a façade which obviously makes me seem a lot more different than I normally am. People who I have to act fake around don’t really ask me questions about myself because if they see they can relate to the fake me, they kind of already came up the conclusion that I am very much like them, and therefore they don’t feel the need to “uncover” me for my true self. I hope that made sense, haha. xD But you’re right. If someone is being a complete ***hole to me, I’m not going to deal with it just for the sake of friendship. Luckily, though, I don't really have to put up a façade for people anymore.
I’m glad you’re staying. <3 You’re seriously so awesome, and I’m glad you rejoined! I don’t think I’ll stay here forever, either, but I don’t see myself leaving anytime soon. I have actually just recently returned, too, in January, and I have met sooooooooooo many wonderful people within a month’s time. I’m really so glad I came back. STOP BEING SO RELATABLE, GOSH, THIS IS NEW TO ME. XD Thanks for your kind and caring replies. :) -
February 23rd, 2013 11:38 AMGyardosampedsorry, I literally just got online (Saturday's are quite eventful for me in the mornings). I'll reply to you asap. :p
Hope you're having an awesome day! <3 -
February 23rd, 2013 4:55 AMEGKangarooI think that would be Prescriptum or something. That wouldn't be very handy though, because then the acronym would be PS too. So let's assume it's something like Pre-S, even though google gives no results on that. Ah well, no need for any apologies on the long reply. I like reading them.
And yeah, you're right again. I think too that just wanting to have nice things isn't really the same as being shallow, status-obsessed, materialistic, or hedonistic. It's when we stop valuing the things we want for what they are, and just use them to aggrandise our self-esteem that they become status object, and their values become obsolete. Nothing but a pretty number that's bigger than other people's. There's nothing wrong with wanting anything as long as the acquisition is not really a means to an end, but more like an end to itself. This is a kind of topic that I have tried to express into writing some time ago, and I still haven't finished it. If man is capable of assigning his own meaning to anything in life then that means he is capable of making and breaking the value of anything that he owns. If the meaning is shallow, the value of the object will be shallow. If the person nonetheless cares about something he has, then at least there's relevant value assigned to it.
Personally, I think that when a person wants to play one of those well-known question games of whether I'd want to have a million dollars or a million friends, I'd pick a million dollars, because there's no way a million friends could all be as earnest as just one really good friend. Of course, with a million dollars I could do a lot of fun stuff, but that is irrelevant to this analogy. What is relevant is that a lot of people assume going for a million dollars makes them seem anti-social. I think any really social person would not opt for having a million friends, because it automatically creates distance between all of them, in the same way the proverb "a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush" works.
In any way, you shouldn't at all worry that I will think any different of you if you tell me about whether you like guys or gals. Most people like to think a single word answer to such a simple question can say a million things about their personalities. People are often prejudiced and almost require everyone who is gay to act like it. It's just part of this pattern recognition in people that is actually a really useful tool, until we start dealing with other people. People like to know these shallow things so they can put others in the right category, because they have their minds set to think that "gay people are all like this," "atheists are all like this," or "furries are all like this," and that's really dangerous. I'm gay myself anyway, and I've felt discouraged by some people's reactions to it. The worst response I got was that one of my friends just looked at me in disbelief and said that it couldn't be possible, because I wasn't feminine enough. He's managing to come around it though, and he's starting to accept that just maybe not every gay person has to behave the way he thinks they should behave, and that pattern recognition doesn't apply very well to human beings.
I am normally not the one to mould my personality whenever I want to try and be accepted by that other person as a friend. My method of dealing with them is to keep them at relative distance, and when they try to uncover something I don't feel comfortable sharing with them, I just act vaguely, and leave the question open instead of answering whatever they want to hear. If the cycle of distrust continues, and I find that the person has little to offer as a person who gives a genuine crud about my person, and not some façade, that's when I try to keep them permanently at distance. I might think they'd be great friends to game with, or hang out with at their place or mine, but I'm not going to stress myself on trying to break a concrete ceiling in a friendship if I'll hurt my face on it.
I am certainly planning on staying in Pokécommunity in the long run. I can't guarantee adding a "forever" adverb to that sentence, but I think you know what it means. I am certainly not going to go on unannounced breaks for nearly a year at least, and if I do leave for an indefinite amount of time, I'll have the courtesy to tell others, and in any way I will promise a return then. It's very nice that there are other people around here whom I can relate to. -
February 22nd, 2013 5:57 PMGyardosamped(Before Script message (if that even exists): I'm sorry for making this reply so long, haha. I really couldn't help myself.)
WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE? Hahaha. <3
You're right that people are becoming more and more superficial and materialistic. Money doesn't make a person happy, love and the support of others does. Money can definitely provide us with great lives, but it can only buy fictitious friends - those who you cannot trust and are only your friends, well, for your money. Honest friendships have really been dying out as of late. There seems to be a lack of earnest people in the world today, and that's unfortunate. I believe we're all materialistic in our own ways. Sure, I like nice things, and if I work hard enough, I think I deserve nice things, but once it gets out of hand and a person's sense of reality is blurred by their superficiality, then that's when it becomes a problem, and it's a grave issue affecting many people. Nothing certainly beats a great friendship. That's one of those things in life that prevails over everything else. I wouldn't trade a candid friendship for anything, any day.
I don't like being alone, either, and a lot of times I question where I will be in the future (in terms of relationships and friendships). Sure, on the outside I may look like the happiest person in the world, but in reality, I am constantly questioning my future and what life has destined for me, and it doesn't help that I'm homosexual (I hope that won't make you think differently of me). I'm actually the type who would rather see others happy before seeing myself happy. I try my hardest to cheer others, but inside I am the one who needs a good boost, both emotionally and mentally.
I want to be able to participate in a mutual care for each other's heart.Yes! This is exactly my thinking. I don't picture myself in the future being with ten different people and moving from friendship to friendship. I see myself having a solid group of friends and a hopefully stable relationship with someone.
I have felt that same way before. I feel alone although there are plenty of people around me who I know are always there for me, who are always willing to talk if I ever need someone. And then, of course, there's those people who you're with just so it doesn't feel like you're alone. I sometimes feel like a puppet because I mold my personality to fit those of the people I'm trying to relate to. It's seriously annoying, and yes, I'm always like, "God, please, I just want this to be over as soon as possible." It definitely does take a lot of time to make a worthy friendship, but that's something I've had to live with given my personality, and it's something I'm willing to continue working at for future relationships, if that makes sense.
There has been many friendships where, at the beginning, I have felt were going to turn out great, and then, yeah, in the end, I regret everything. There are just so many people in this world that cannot be trusted these days. It's sad but true. It's very difficult to find trustworthy friends, and even if you think you've found a person that's somewhat honorable, they end up stabbing you in the back when you're in the most vulnerable state. I've "been there, done that" way too many times now, and I guess that's why I'm always so cautious now.
It's really nice to be able to relate to someone. :] It just brings up your spirits right away. I'm glad you've returned to PC! I always post on "re-intros" mentioning, "yeah, I hope you stay active and stuff, blah, blah, blah", thinking that if the person left once, they'll leave again, but seriously, you better stay active! You are like my twin, lol. :p & thanks for the kind words, too. People need to start taking notes! x) -
February 22nd, 2013 5:09 PMEGKangarooI'm thinking we are on the same page here with what we want to see from the world. I value friendships by their earnesty. A lot of people, when they get older, they get seduced by this concept that possessing more than their fellow enriches their lives. People want to have more, accumulate their wealth, buy things as status symbols. They want more and more without consideration for what its actual value is. I think that the buying anything with the means to further your own status, all value of what they have becomes irrelevant. I don't really care to fight myself onto the top of the food chain, the status chain, the wealth chain, or whatever. With a single friendship that I can say is free of any barriers, I can say that I am on top of the friend chain. And you can't beat that.
I hate being alone, not so much for the sake of keeping other people happy and thinking I am not a hermit, but purely for my own sake. I want to appreciate the value in another person. I want to be able to participate in a mutual care for each other's heart. Way before, it felt more like I was stuck in this cryogenic state. Like I didn't really have anyone. Sure I laughed with some acquaintances, but all those friendships were hollow, unsatisfying, and wore down on me because I had to try to be boring, try to be conforming, just to make sure the blueprint to what they needed to construct in their heads as my personality was understandable for them. I almost get magnetically repulsed by these people. With most meetings, the first thought that pops into my mind is "how do I get rid of him?" With a valuable friendship, this is quite the opposite. I don't want to be alone. I want to maximise social contact with these kind of people the more and more earnest I can be with them. But where the problem lies in creating these is that they take a lot of effort, and a lot of trust.
I will not lie that I've had issues with that last one. There's been enough tormentings I've had to go through for me to normally be cynical of others at first glance. Knowing when to trust another person enough, knowing when there's enough momentum for me to jump a chasm, break a barrier, slam through 3 foot concrete wall, there's been times I have slammed into them and got myself hurt badly. I've been tormented, hawked upon, abused both verbally and physically by my peers in the past, and all that put a dent in my trust of people on first contact. It certainly does help to gain some trust of people when they have a lot in common though, especially if they're posting multiple paragraphs of kind words in your visitor messages. -
February 22nd, 2013 4:29 PMGyardosampedI've always been introverted, and it's not necessarily something I'm ashamed of being. I am definitely the type of person who longs to have solid, pure, and prolonged relationships. I don't know how some people can move on from friend to friend or lover to lover so quickly, seriously. I wouldn't categorize myself as antisocial, or any introvert as antisocial, for that matter, but yeah, we get exhausted. There are times where all I want to do is be social and meet people, but a lot of my life is also consumed by my wanting to just be alone. There has been plenty of times where I have been invited to go out with friends, but I decline and make up an excuse just because I'd rather be alone. I'd categorize myself as the type of person who "has an okay amount of friends/close friends but still feels alone". But, yes, of course that exhaustion occurs with people who you can't really relate to. In all honesty, though, we only really put in so much effort to make friendships because we don't want to be alone. Yeah, I would rather be alone most of the time, but I don't want society to think I'm a loner and judge me because of that. This world is cruel, like you said. I've done a lot of things just so that I am not incorrectly judged or criticized by others.
Extroverts aren't perfect, either, like you mentioned. Both sides of the spectrum definitely have their pros and cons. Most extroverts I know are just like those people which we hate to be with - those who you have to act fake around.
We definitely do stick together! You can certainly make a very good, long-time friend out of any introvert. We are trustworthy and will show our true selves given that the other person also does the same. My true friends - the people who I can relate to the most - are just like us, introverts, and I've never once questioned their motives. Society has that misconception that we're all quiet, antisocial, and fearful of everything social, but we are, without doubt, very much open when you get to know us.
I've heard of F451 before. I think it's actually been recommended to me before, too. I might pick it up and start reading it one of these days. Thanks for the recommendation. :] -
February 22nd, 2013 4:04 PMEGKangarooHeh, months of coping with the same issue can make you start using complex analogies like that to explain the thing that's sitting there, bugging your mind.
Introversion is a wonderful part about a personality to have. These are the kind of people who want to build meaningful relations mostly. I think there's a key difference between intro- and extraversion on that matter, which is where in social contact energy is expended. Most people say that introverted people may really like social contact, but it exhausts them. It's like playing basketball to them, sure it may be fun, but in the end you're gonna be knackered and you need a moment to recuperate. It's not because they're antisocial -- as is sometimes implied -- they're literally tired. That's about half the story though. The same exhaustion never occurs when I talk with a person whom I can trust. The reason is because the façade we try to put up is dropped. We have to carry this mask around that weighs a tonne so we can obscure ourselves, and only present ourselves as the most basic shapes that those who lack the qualities of engineering the other person inside their heads can understand sort of who they are. I think everyone is afraid to some extent that people have prejudices against them because they would assume a billion things you're not over one thing you are.
On the other side, extraverts might face anxiety with laying themselves bare in front of another. It can be because the fear of being judged bears down on them too much and just putting up an easy façade works so well, since the weight of carrying it is far less to them. It creates a fun person to be around, but it's difficult to get them to drop that façade. A common misconception of them is that they're shallow, because that's all they'll ever give away, and they sometimes have a hard time conceptualising other people as being anything but the shallow representation of their masks.
You were right indeed. The world's carnalising, and friendship's becoming a property that has actually been observed to become less valued over time. We introverts can cope with it though, we tend to stick together. A room full of introverts is guaranteed to be less silent than some think.
If you ever need a good read on this kind of subject, I'd suggest Fahrenheit 451. If you look past the tipifying of the author and don't assume that any of the side-characters are nothing but the mindless drones and that we are here as one of the few enlightened ones, then it actually becomes a very powerful novel to read. -
February 22nd, 2013 3:26 PMGyardosampedahaha, np. :]
I tried my best to understand everything, but you certainly jotted down some intense thoughts which made me say, "damn, that's vivid."
I can completely relate to you. I, myself, am a very introverted person, so being the way I am, it's hard to make true friends, especially those who you can relate to. I've always faced the issue of befriending people I haven't really been compatible with just for the mere wanting of friendship and company. I've put on that facade plenty of times, believe me. People will always try to define others even when they hardly know what goes on beyond just the physical.
I'm glad you're back! You will certainly bring a sense of honesty and integrity to the forums. If you ever post any of your writings or fan-fics, definitely provide me with the link so I can read! Your writing is endearing, for real. :] -
February 22nd, 2013 3:14 PMEGKangarooThanks for the welcome back. I can assure you, you pretty much nailed the main point of that post. It's not so much I think they're not great people to hang out with, definitely, but in the end, it's more like they're befriended with a shallow version of the real me: reading the summary and saying you understand the book. Those sorts of things.
I'll be looking forward to a great time back on the forums, and I am certainly not going to leave unannounced again.

