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March 24th, 2016 8:32 AMZoroark CutieWell it is due to 2 reasons. One, she was part of a special Olympics team and people get along easily in that and she had no problems making friends with most people in it. The second is because she was religious, given the area that I live in it is hard to find someone who isn't religious or even a church, she goes as much as possible and because some of them went to the same school, she became friends with just due to sharing a religion and even joined the Christian club at school. Her high school class didn't have many of the same people who went to those same churches which is how she got to be friends with many of them from different grades. I haven't made a single friend in any of my college classes, I mostly get to know people through forums or through my friends.
She was creepy when it came to stalking, and didn't even take the hints that I didn't want to talk to her anymore. I mean I didn't respond during any time when she kept texting me which should be the biggest hint that I don't want to talk to her anymore, but she just doesn't take the hint. Now I'm somewhat in fear of going to a nearby town as she might be purposefully going to start going there to try and find me. I also spotted a vehicle by my house a few times, and while I don't know who was in the vehicle and I can't remember the make or model, the car does look similar to her mom's car. I've seen it a few times when getting back to my house and I see it drive in by the near by church only to turn around and go back down the road to where she lives. Rather if it was her scouting the house or scouting the area, or someone else who just needed a place to turn around, I won't know unless I see it again and properly get a look of who's in it. Either way, I really hope that I don't hear from her again. If it continues sometime in the future, then I will only have 3 options. Either tell right off the bat that I don't want to talk to her, however I have a feeling that this will not sit well and she'll get people to get angry at me and may further make her stalk me more, call the police or get a restraining order, but only if it gets to the point where it is goes from creepy to scary and it happens at a frequent rate, or something else. I hate to imagine if this was my other ex, he said some scary suggestive things to me, and if he gets into Pokemon which it looks like he will, he might try to join a Pokemon forum most notably this one and I hope he doesn't because I can just see it being a bit worse. I don't think I even told you about the last time me and him talked which was a few months ago, I won't say anything about it now, but let's just say that it was one of the most annoying conversations I've ever had.
Do I need to add your new Skype?
I hope you don't get to the point where you do shout and yell at them. I think the best thing to do is if you do see them again or if they are there, either just ignore them or leave or when invited ask ahead of time who is all going to be there and if someone does tell you who is going to be there and they are mentioned then you just don't go. Now that is what I would personally do if I was in your situation because shouting or yelling at them is going to make you bad, or at least from what I can see, and may even start a fight.
I'm just terrible with starting conversations because I feel so awkward when I do, and it's such a bad double standard, I guess although I don't know if I should say that it is a double standard, because when I try to start a conversation I'm like too scared, but if someone starts a conversation it's not as weird and I can say something without feeling awkward. And yeah, my non-scary mod count did increase X3 -
March 23rd, 2016 12:20 PMLycanthropyHow did she even have so many friends from other grades then? Class is basically the only way I get to know people (not counting PC), though that still easily gives an age difference of three years between the youngest and oldest people in my group of friends.
Stalking like that sounds horrible really, it is one of the reasons I don't do social media. The only way I keep in touch with people besides meeting up irl is Skype and I recently made a new account (for unrelated reasons though) and just didn't add them again. Problem solved. Sort of.
Yeah, it really is. Now I don't see my those friends super often (we know each other from high school, but are spread over several places now), but every time one of those people gets being mentioned, something inside me is wanting to shout them to shut up. Board game days we organize occasionally are the worst when they appear as well, luckily that's not always, because it kind of ruins my mood.
I know what you mean, I'm terrible at starting conversations myself, I always feel like coming over as stupid just to say hi to someone I haven't really talked to. Either way, it looks like your non-scary mod count has increased by one. 8) -
March 6th, 2016 1:27 PMZoroark CutieSounds kinda like my ex-gf since she didn't have many friends as well, and the only friends either didn't like her at first, were many grades below her so she couldn't talk to them almost at any time, or had moved away or transferred to another school. It probably also explains why she stalked me. I don't think you were around during anytime I mentioned this, and I have said this in posts before, but my ex-gf was a stalker and a creepy one at that. She tried to get back with me multiple times after I said no to her, and honestly I was thinking to myself "Why me? Why not another guy?" and I began to think the only thing that I could come up with is that she doesn't know any other guys as pretty much the only people she knows and is friends with are the girls at her church class which is only a very small circle of friends she has. I think she is still trying to, I haven't heard of her for months because I had to lie to her to get her to stop texting me and sending me creepy texts, but recently I logged back onto Facebook and one of her friends said that she "needed to talk to me" and I'm not going to, her stalking and my last visit to her house is enough to make me not want to talk to her or her mom ever again. I wasn't literally crying for a whole week, but rather I felt very down. I only started getting better once I began to think of good things on why we broke up, and there were a lot of good things that I realized that I got from that break up. I did have some trust issues with her, like I heard from a lot of people that she was holding hands with another guy and playing footsie with them during class. I didn't believe them, but considering on the people who told me, I think I should have. I don't blame you for having a hard time with those mutual friends, especially since they're probably gonna talk about them when you really don't want to hear it or they're gonna invite them to hang out along with you and you really do not want to.
Mods still scare me. There's only like a few of the mods or hstaff that I'm not scared talking to. Pretty much if I had a good conversation with them or if I was friends with them before they became mods then I'm not really that scared of them.That's a very small list as it is right now with Zach, Wicked, Team Fail, Cathy, Aiden, Ben, Janna, and Ludger (And I forgot to send them a friend request after we were in a dubtrack room on Halloween T^T). I have talked to a few of the other staff, but it was all small talk. I would talk to some of them like the ones that Vic is friends with, but I like to keep to myself a lot and wait until I have a reason to talk to them, just like with everyone else, which is a bad habit that I need to break out of. I will never understand why I am so afraid to talk or start conversations with people. I know that I can easily talk to people and get used to people real fast, but I'm just so scared and nervous. -
March 6th, 2016 11:51 AMLycanthropyIn some way she was, but I think she accepted it when I told she was still my first priority. (She probably loved to hear that.) Now I think of it, it was probably also because I think she didn't have many good friends at her study. She denied that, but from what I understood those "friends" were just people she could talk with during class (which of course is important as well), but never in breaks or after school (and her most of her high school friends moved to the other side of the country). Maybe that was just a different mentality at that faculty. So instead she hung around a lot with me and my friends, maybe that's where it went wrong...
If you were just crying for a week, that sucks. I however felt depressed for months and the effect still lasts since a couple of my friendships have been torn apart. I still have a lot of mutual friends with my ex's new boyfriend. It's really hard to deal with, without feeling like literally murder them.
What's happened in your case, rumors behind your back, is just terrible. People shouldn't do that. It's like part of the relationship, a certain trust that should last even after it ended. As far as I know that hasn't happened in my case, but because of the "behind your back" part I can never be sure.
I used to be really scared to talk to mods and hstaff too at the beginning. I remember that all messages I sent to them (if I did something like that already) were always super formal and boring. I got over it when I saw Squirrel getting modded. He was a great friend before and stayed the same person after his promotion. It made me realize... mods are just people too. -
February 28th, 2016 11:18 PMZoroark CutieI can see why. I hope she wasn't trying to force you to only spend time with her. I mean if you were really busy, and you gave as much attention to her as possible when you wasn't busy while still spending time with friends, that should've been fine, but if she was trying to keep you away on purpose then that is not fine. Both of the breaks up that I went through left me depressed. My first one, I was literally crying for the entire last half of school and the rest of the day until I went to sleep, and for the entire next week I was basically a trainwreck as I was sad all the time, and it didn't help that my ex-gf was spreading rumors about me around the school and talking behind my back. After a while I felt better because I began thinking of the good that came out of that break up, and pretty much concluded that I was better off without her. The 2nd one wasn't nearly as bad, but I was still sad and was depressed, and that is mostly because it was my first time in 3 years that I was able to be with someone, and it lasted less than 2 months, and it was like "Well I didn't stay happy for long" and I was also scared because my ex-bf was the 4th chance that I had to go out with someone last year and I was thinking to myself "I will never find someone now.". I don't blame you for feeling that way when you found out, I would've severed ties with them immediately because well she was cheating on you, and what kind of friend is willing to take another friend's girlfriend or boyfriend when they are already dating someone, definitely not a good friend. If I was single, and one of my friend's girlfriend or boyfriend asked me if I wanted to go out with them, I would say "No. You're dating someone else. I am not going to go out with someone who is already dating someone else", in fact I wouldn't even go out with that person if a break was to happen because they wanted me to go out with them and help them cheat and I would have a burning suspicion that they would do the same to me. It's good to hear that you did break contact with them.
We will. It's just going to be a long while before we can move in especially since he is moving into his new house now.
Same. Like on PC, and pretty much some other forums as well, it depends on what sections I go to and how frequent I see some people from those sections and if I know them a good bit or the more I see and interact with them, the easier it is for me to talk to them. There are some exceptions, although it depends on who that person is, and I won't go over all of them since I don't want to take too long and plus this is going to be publicly seen since this is a VM, but I will say that it's not because I dislike them, that's far away from the truth, but rather because I actually am scared to talk to them X3. -
February 27th, 2016 12:48 PMLycanthropyI didn't want to give up my friends for my girlfriend, since those are possibly even more important. Still, I think she got more of my free time attention than all my other friends together. Uni took a lot of time since I haven't picked an easy study and am following some additional subjects as well.
Fun thing (well, sorta) is that she was the reason I got active here on PC, even though she wasn't into Pokémon. As we broke up, I was super depressed for months and PC was a great way to escape from my real life. At first I thought our breakup went okay, even though she wasn't really helpful when I look back to it ("I'm the cause for this, so I'll let you decide how we proceed from now." may sound nice, but doesn't help a lot.) But when I found out the real background, I felt betrayed and started to hate, even disgust, them. Don't worry, even though it will probably won't happen since we broke contact, she'll never get a second chance.
That's a shame, but I hope you'll get a chance to meet up in sometime in the future really.
I'm like that as well mostly. I can easily talk to a friend, but I'm still mostly quiet in a group of friends. I can't talk to people I don't know, I just don't know what to say, it's annoying. On PC, I don't have much trouble anymore to talk to people in general, but I'm most comfortable with people I know from sections I frequent.
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February 21st, 2016 8:03 AMZoroark CutieI know what you mean by not being to be there all the time. The first person who I ever went out with, and the only girlfriend I had, I would talk to her on a near daily basis and even talk to her on the phone. We would talk at lunch, breaks, in the gym or outside as we wait for school to actually start, and on the bus when we were heading home. However, just like you, I couldn't, but I also didn't want to, talk to her all the time as I was either busy or most of the time I would just want some alone time to rest, relax, grab a bite to eat, play some games, watch some TV or movies, browse the internet, or do some homework, but she would want to call and talk to me almost all the time, it even gotten so bad that she called at night around 10 at night or worse like 1 or 2 in the morning when we're all asleep and I had school the next morning and we just had to put a limit on her. As for what happened to you and your ex, and I'm gonna refrain from saying my full thoughts on this because I might get in trouble for all the angry things I would have to say about her, but personally I think what she did to you was awful. If the rare blue moon ever comes by and she crawls back to you one day, don't even give her a 2nd chance to be with you. I am sorry to say that. Cheating just gets under my skin. You deserve a lot better and deserve to be treated better than what she did to you.
Unfortunately we can't. I'm too poor to afford tickets to go the UK to visit him, and I don't think his parents would even consider going on vacation to the US, especially to Louisiana unless they were going to New Orleans and for Mardi Gras, but Mardi Gras was like a week or two ago. I especially can't afford it since the nearest airport near me isn't that big and would require at the least 2 flights and at the most 3 flights just to get to the UK and I don't think I could afford that. But I am willing to sacrifice going to someplace on vacation just to spend more time with him over Skype.
I am much different offline as well. Offline, if it is not business that I am talking, then I would just be very nervous to talk to anyone. Online, it's weird for me as I sometimes I don't feel nervous talking to people and sometimes I do. If it is a friend, I won't be nervous. Someone who I never talked to before, I could be nervous or be fine talking to them. I remember that as soon as I turned it on, I remember some of you laughing X3. And I am sorry for the long message, I usually talk a lot like that X3.
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February 20th, 2016 11:44 AMLycanthropyI think I was around at the time, at least when you said your communication was getting worse. It's however not exactly what happened in my case. I'm someone who really prefers a real life chat over a digital conversation, but it's not like that didn't happen. We used to see each other almost daily during the lunch breaks and a bit of chatting over Skype. It's just... I couldn't always be there, because I had to sleep as a normal person and am unable to be online on times such as 1AM. One of my friends (at the time at least) however was. (Because he was skipping college all the time.) Okay, there was nothing wrong with that, at least not at the time. I mean, I couldn't just forbid her that, right? Apparently they grew quite close to each other and later she said she didn't longer love me, for apparently quite some time already. Although I mentioned it she denied everything about her being together with my friend, even though they literally walked around with their arms around each other. It was a horrible experience... (since there's actually more involved, which ruined half of my life, but I'll spare you the details.)
All in all, I don't know if the same would have happened if I was able to chat more with her. Maybe it was just unavoidable. Who can tell?
US doesn't sound so great then. Here everything is okay, but since neither of you speaks Dutch, that might not be the best idea either. :P (Though almost everyone here speaks (heavily broken) English.) But that's far in the future, don't you plan to just meet up during Summer or so?
You wouldn't tell when you see the length of the message you posted there. (You seriously surprised me with this wall of text there. :P) I think I've overcome most of my shyness now here on PC, but I'm totally different offline. Conversations in real life with me are most often super awkward.
The Summer GT was my first time to have voice called with strangers as well, and I was super nervous about it. For me it was extra scary because English isn't my mother tongue and I thought I was going to be a total failure. Even though I mostly listened to what others had to say, it wasn't so bad in the end. Your voice modifier was super funny by the way when you set it to the most random effects. It gave us all a good laugh.
As I said, don't worry about it. It's fixed now, no? It could be that I appear scarier than I am anyway, since I've used some dark avatar/sigs regularly. But yeah, I'm just a weird guy who likes werewolves. -
February 18th, 2016 4:57 PMZoroark CutieAh I see. That's exactly what happened in my last relationship. I don't remember if you was on Free Pizza the day it happened, but at one point in November I was on FP and was saying on there that I was wanting to break up with my boyfriend at the time who I got with in September, and I didn't want to because it was the first time I dated someone in 3 years, but the problem was that there was a severe lack of communication as he almost never talked to me and only talked to me once a week at random occasions. Communication is pretty key in a relationship, and you always want to try and make some time to talk to your loved one and you want to try and talk to them as much as possible. I would say if you can, if there is anything in your busy schedule that you really don't have to do, you can either knock it out of your schedule and talk to the person you have a relationship in or do that while also talking to them, but only if it is not important enough and you really don't have to do it, and if you're away from the house, something to talk to them would definitely help. I have Skype on my phone and I text Vic from it, sometimes during college in class when I should be paying attention XP, a phone app will definitely help if needed. You just don't worry about it and don't get scared. As long as you keep a good strong communication between them and among a lot of other things, you'll be fine.
We do plan to move in together at some point. It's gonna be a while before we do since he's still in college and possibly going to go to university, I need to get a job, a house of my own, and everything else. We need to figure out on where we want to live is one thing. He wants to move here to the US, but I don't know if we should live in the state I'm living in or someplace else that also has snow because he really wants to see snow (Not to mention that Louisiana is really homophobic and racist, so more than likely 2 guys with one of them being Polish is probably not gonna sit very well here with most of the communities). I sorta want to move to the UK because I always wanted to go to the UK and it looks very nice especially where he is at. He also brought up that both of us should move to Canada, but that would also require both of us to immigrate and we would rather have only one of us to go through the process (Although the free Health Care sounds nice, but then again I have heard from Team Fail that there is no unlimited internet in Canada so that also makes me have second thoughts.). But we'll figure that out and we'll move in together one day.
I'm always socially awkward, even when I joined PC. I told Dedenne1 about this recently, but I was really nervous when I first joined PC and I still kinda am, I'm just generally a shy person. I honestly and quite frankly get really nervous when I talk to someone new either through text or voice, although I have been making efforts to actually change that (I actually remember in the summer GT last year before the first call on it happened, or at least I think it was the first call, I was like "Is it okay if I have a voice modifier on?" X3 and then I actually forgot to do that. Didn't you see it when I said that?). I still am in the process of it as there have been some members that I have been meaning to talk to, I won't name names, but some of them are regulars from the sections that I frequent, it's just that I've been nervous to talk to them and I don't know if they want to or would like to even talk to me, however some I need to try to with some of them because I feel a bit like a jerk for not talking to them. I also need to get to greeting new members. I used to greet people on another forum I was on from time to time, but I stopped after some time. For some reason, I just got really nervous greeting new people after some time.
Also I am sorry again for saying that you were scary. I don't think I'll ever forgive myself for saying that. I know how it is to be thought of as scary. I remember when I was in high school, I got very sick one day, and I needed to talk to my aunt who worked at the preschool so that she can do a few things so that I could leave school and go home, and I was waiting until her class was back inside from getting a drink and I scared one of her students. I don't know what I did except look very sick to scare her. -
February 18th, 2016 12:09 PMLycanthropyAh, great!
Yeah, it's the risky part that scares me off. My last (and only) relationship has ended in a not so pleasant way (to pu it subtly). I feel part of the reason was that I wasn't able to communicate enough with her as I lacked a phone with WhatsApp and had a somewhat busy schedule, even though we used to see each other almost daily during lunch breaks.
I know it's quite the distance, but do you and Vic plan to see each other in person sometime?
Hey, don't worry! I used to be completely socially awkward when I joined PC as well, it took me ages since I started talking to people, so I can totally relate. I simply forced myself to talk for a bit and it's getting a lot better now. Hence why I started talking to you. I wanted to show there's nothing to fear. :) (And to be honest I don't like the thought of being scary, even though I'm ironically depicted as an evil little Sandshrew occasionally. xD) -
February 16th, 2016 7:21 PMZoroark CutieIt looks like it fixed itself for me yesterday. I have been having a few delays, but nothing as what it has been doing and it is now correctly showing and sending my edits on my messages. And thanks :), it's all about taking a few risks and if you really do care about a person. There a lot of risks to it, mostly in that the person you're with being far away and you have to rely on some sort of chat service (like Skype) on communicating and that it might be awhile before you and the person move in, but if you stay confident about taking those risks and be able to fix them, then it should all work out.
And no, you're not. I am sorry for saying that you were a bit scary. That was just me being shy when I said that over Skype. It just takes a bit of conversation before I get used to someone and I have grown comfortable talking to you. Still, I am sorry for saying that, especially since me and you did talk before over on FP and during the summer GT. Will you forgive me? -
February 16th, 2016 11:55 AMLycanthropyThat's too bad. I dunno, it's Skype we're talking about and that program regularly has random issues, but it has a great function, certainly for someone in a situation like you. Seriously, I'm impressed how you two manage to keep up a relationship like that (and now PC-official, woot!). I don't think I'd be able to do that, tbh.
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February 14th, 2016 3:30 PMZoroark CutieIt seems to still be broken for me. I'll send a message to Vic or on Free Pizza, and it'll either never get to either or it will after a long while, or after I restart Skype or switch my status from offline to online. It might be that I need to an update, but eh, I'm too lazy XP. It could also be my internet connection so I won't ever know. I don't mind it so much since it only happens when I don't message in a while.
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February 14th, 2016 12:06 PMLycanthropyI don't voice chat a lot, so I wouldn't know about the latter, but the former indeed as well as the fact that Skype marked unread messages as read and vice versa. It seems to be fixed now however. :D
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February 7th, 2016 11:07 AMZoroark CutieLet me guess, is it delaying messages by a lot and causing voice audio to skip a lot to you?

