Conversation Between Bounsweet and xVaporeonx
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  1. Bounsweet
    October 24th, 2015 12:07 AM
    Bounsweet
    It'll go by sooner than you think! I feel like the countdown leading up until seeing my boyfriend again moves sooo slow, but when it comes to him having to back home, it's upon us before we know it. Time is so unfair that way :(
  2. xVaporeonx
    October 22nd, 2015 7:40 PM
    xVaporeonx
    Same :) The smallest things always mean the most to me. Just being able to hold hands, sleep together, when he walks up behind me and gives me a hug. I love those things. I miss them. Ugg. I got 29 days to go!
  3. Bounsweet
    October 19th, 2015 11:53 PM
    Bounsweet
    Oh my god, I'm exactly the same. We've done a lot of really fun things - we've gone to NYC together and while those are fun and I cherish those memories too, I keep finding myself thinking about the more mundane ones the most, like when we're lying in bed together falling asleep and waking up together, I love those moments.
  4. xVaporeonx
    October 14th, 2015 4:16 PM
    xVaporeonx
    It does suck at times though. When you can't reach them for some reason, or when you aren't feeling good and you can't just simply lay with them. That is what I actually miss the most when he is away. Just the little things like lying in bed together doing nothing but enjoying the silence.
  5. Bounsweet
    October 14th, 2015 12:32 PM
    Bounsweet
    So true, LDRs require so much patience sometimes, it can definitely be trying but if it's with the right person, the end result is worth it!
  6. xVaporeonx
    October 11th, 2015 8:34 PM
    xVaporeonx
    Yeah same with you and your SO. Things that are worth it can handle a bit of waiting :)
  7. Bounsweet
    October 11th, 2015 12:11 PM
    Bounsweet
    That's very smart on your part! I have had the impulses to just say screw it, drop my schooling and move to his state and just try to make ends meet there, but I do know that's just too irresponsible and would end up complicating things even more. It's good that you guys are just pacing yourselves and doing it the right way, it will be so much more enjoyable to finally be together without worrying about finances or getting things together which can be a problem with rushing.
  8. xVaporeonx
    October 11th, 2015 12:01 PM
    xVaporeonx
    Being in college makes it impossible for that to happen but I am sure you both know that. But it is good at the same time that you both aren't giving up something like that just to end the distance. It is always best to take it slow. My fiance could have moved here a few months ago but he would not of had money saved, or anything else sorted on back home. He wants to do it the right way and I am happy to wait for that. A lot of people don't get it or don't think LDRs work because they lack the patience to deal with waiting. 5 years ago I would have not done this myself, but now I can't see myself doing or being with someone any other way.
  9. Bounsweet
    October 11th, 2015 11:20 AM
    Bounsweet
    That's really intuitive! We are definitely stuck in LDR mode, we're both in college and don't have the financial means to make a big move like that, plus we have our families and such that complicate matters as well. It can be a really difficult experience, and it can even fluctuate over time for better or worse, but it definitely isn't a one size fits all scenario, there are definitely exceptions and a lot of differences in them too.
  10. xVaporeonx
    October 11th, 2015 10:30 AM
    xVaporeonx
    Yeah like when we first established we cared for one another, we knew we had to be together one way or another. I originally intended on going there (the UK) but I couldn't bare the thought of leaving my family, plus I really enjoy where I live. So we were kind of stuck for a few weeks considering just staying close online and that is it but he realized he couldn't do this forever and told me he would come to me. After his first visit he loved it and dreaded going back lol He used to think he would hate it here.

    As long as you intend on closing the distance eventually, that is what is important. There have been couples stuck in LDR mode for years and years because they simply couldn't make the move be it opposite countries, jobs, ect. Time isn't really a true indication of the importance of one person to the other in LDR's. It is funny because most people assume they are all the same and they aren't, all LDRs are different for different reasons just like CDRs are.
  11. Bounsweet
    October 11th, 2015 10:15 AM
    Bounsweet
    Thankfully we aren't in different countries, only a few states away so travel is a bit easier (plus his aunt works at the airport so yay discounts!) but we don't have any set plans about closing the distance anytime soon which is a definite stressor. It's really good that you guys have plans and a timeframe for finally getting to physically be together! I think that's really important in LDR, since it gives you something to look forward to that's in the not-so-far-off future.
  12. xVaporeonx
    October 11th, 2015 9:33 AM
    xVaporeonx
    We have known each other for over 3 years but have been "official" for about a year and a half. He has come here 3 times, his 4th visit will be next month. He is going to get a job transfer here sometime early next year so we will be living together. We will get married at some point so he can do all the green card stuff. Idk if you two are separate countries or now, but we are. And I was close and friends with him first so I feel that makes or breaks any relationship. You want to establish a friendship first before physical stuff. And I had some really close friends online that I talked to all the time and even talked of meeting up but we lost touch. It happens. lol And yeah, LDRs can be hard at times. I give you props for going over 4 years with it, that has to be so hard.
  13. Bounsweet
    October 10th, 2015 11:37 PM
    Bounsweet
    Aw, how long have you been with your fiancé? My boyfriend and I started off online LDR too, we've been together for a bit over four and a half years now. We get to see each other a few times a year but it's still LDR, which sucks and it can make things really difficult for us, but that's just how it is. I'm really close with him too and have been since day one, which I think contributed to the attraction heh. I met my two best friends online too, they're both members here actually lol, but we go really far back, I've known them for about 7-8 years now... and that makes me feel old to think about lol.
  14. xVaporeonx
    October 10th, 2015 11:30 PM
    xVaporeonx
    I get the same talks of me lol There are only two people I am 100% myself around and that is my aunt an my fiance. It is funny too because I was able to be myself from the start of our relationship because it started online. So many people have thought I was nuts for having a LDR online or having friends online, and I am happier than most people who see each other on a day to day basis. It is a shame it took me so long to be myself and all but I am glad I can be now. And I get drained too. Like I can only be around people for so long before I just wanna go curl up in bed. lol
  15. Bounsweet
    October 10th, 2015 11:06 PM
    Bounsweet
    I feel the same for sure, it's so much easier to open up online I think. I've been noted for being really reserved and quiet irl, my co-workers call me their "mysterious co-worker" semi-jokingly lmao. I've always been really shy in person, too. It's kind of funny to me how when I hang out with people in person it feels so draining to my energy, but I don't think I could ever get tired or bored of chatting with people online for the same reason you said, it's just a lot easier to relax and be myself.