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Charizard★ August 28th, 2009 4:08 PM

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Originally Posted by poopnoodle (Post 5047503)


Try to be understanding of Girl 1's situation...perhaps there's something more to her constant dismissal of boyfriend applications. Since you are close to her, maybe asking why she doesn't date will cause her to open up to you and see that you're someone she can count on emotionally, thus gradually building a stronger relationship between the both of you. Are you absolutely sure Girl 2 acts this way mostly to you? When she does, just keep your cool. Be self-confident, but don't try too hard. Girl 1 is probs your best bet, but you always have a chance with either.






I know, i think she wants to find the right guy but I think I may be the right one or at least I have a .1% chance to be the right one T-T

Mika August 28th, 2009 7:29 PM

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Originally Posted by percentage% (Post 5047523)
I know, i think she wants to find the right guy but I think I may be the right one or at least I have a .1% chance to be the right one T-T

k what I'll tell you is something I figured out too late. The best way to handle these things is to ask the girl directly. You can get advice from people here but she could also not be flirting with you at all. And if you misread innocent friendship talk as flirting and you dive too fast into it... well it hurts really bad when they reject you:< Just stay friends or try and tell her how you feel or stay friends and be patient and wait for the right moment.

Charizard★ August 29th, 2009 6:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Mika (Post 5048366)
k what I'll tell you is something I figured out too late. The best way to handle these things is to ask the girl directly. You can get advice from people here but she could also not be flirting with you at all. And if you misread innocent friendship talk as flirting and you dive too fast into it... well it hurts really bad when they reject you:< Just stay friends or try and tell her how you feel or stay friends and be patient and wait for the right moment.

k, thank you, I think your answer helps me most :)

HyPeRsHoCk September 1st, 2009 5:18 PM

When you're feeling like you can't do anything right, like you're good for nothing...worthless. How is this solved?

poopnoodle September 1st, 2009 6:12 PM

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When you're feeling like you can't do anything right, like you're good for nothing...worthless. How is this solved?
That, actually, has been a problem for me lately xD. But I don't really stress over it. How you feel is your decision.
You could take your mind off your negative emotions by developing some interests...I think the amount of passions one has contributes to their "worthiness," so to speak. Nah mean?

Zero° September 1st, 2009 6:49 PM

I saw this thread and hesitated, but now I'll give it a try:

I don't know what kind of person I am, personality-wise. I act differently depending on which person I'm hanging out with, and I hang out with alot of people, and they each act different from another group of friends. The thing is, I've been hanging out with SO many goups of friends, that I don't know how to be myself, stupid, I know but It hurts me. And whenever I talk about it, I get depressed and give up on life, and bad thoughts fill my head. I can't control my thinking so it's hard to keep those thoughts away. Writing in journals won't help get over my depressions and personality problems, I've tried many things, but none of them work. When I'm depressed, as I am now, I feel neglected by my friends, because they all expect me to act a certain way. I really need help, and I don't want to go to a Therapist, or counselor because I don't like talking to people I've never meet before about my problems (but it's different here in PC) so that's why I don't go. Also, I have bipolar disoorder, and it's hard to control my anger. When I get mad at someone, I feel like...punching them or something, and it's so tempting that I almost WILL punch them.


Another thing is that I don't like myself for being the way I am, physically and mentally. I'm weaker than most guys my age, and I feel as if I'm ugly, and weak. And mentally because-read above paragraph-

Any suggestions?

poopnoodle September 1st, 2009 7:04 PM

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I saw this thread and hesitated, but now I'll give it a try:

I don't know what kind of person I am, personality-wise. I act differently depending on which person I'm hanging out with, and I hang out with alot of people, and they each act different from another group of friends. The thing is, I've been hanging out with SO many goups of friends, that I don't know how to be myself, stupid, I know but It hurts me. And whenever I talk about it, I get depressed and give up on life, and bad thoughts fill my head. I can't control my thinking so it's hard to keep those thoughts away. Writing in journals won't help get over my depressions and personality problems, I've tried many things, but none of them work. When I'm depressed, as I am now, I feel neglected by my friends, because they all expect me to act a certain way. I really need help, and I don't want to go to a Therapist, or counselor because I don't like talking to people I've never meet before about my problems (but it's different here in PC) so that's why I don't go. Also, I have bipolar disoorder, and it's hard to control my anger. When I get mad at someone, I feel like...punching them or something, and it's so tempting that I almost WILL punch them.


Another thing is that I don't like myself for being the way I am, physically and mentally. I'm weaker than most guys my age, and I feel as if I'm ugly, and weak. And mentally because-read above paragraph-

Any suggestions?
I know quite a few people with that issue, you're definitely not alone. Keep in mind you ARE still young, in that ~awkward stage of adolescence~, and you will most likely grow out of that chameleon-like nature. Keep your eyes open to the future, and perhaps work on the things you can change about yourself. Friends are important, so I suggest you find your real ones and stick with them. That is a pretty hard task, but your real friends are those who you don't feel obligated to correspond to. It isn't easy to let go of people, but in reality, departure is constant and something everyone has to learn to accept at some point. If you abandon this desire to be compatible with everyone, discovering yourself will be a lot easier. As for things you might not be able to change about yourself physically, I'll throw a Dr. Seuss quote at you: "Be who you are and say what you feel, because the people who mind don't matter and the people who matter don't mind."

Medication is one way to deal with bi-polar disorder, but not the only way. Try to keep track of what triggers certain emotions in efforts to maintain control of them, and try to distract yourself with personal interests. For example, if you enjoy Pokemon, deal with your negative emotions by playing a Pokemon game.

HyPeRsHoCk September 2nd, 2009 6:36 AM

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Originally Posted by poopnoodle (Post 5066572)
That, actually, has been a problem for me lately xD. But I don't really stress over it. How you feel is your decision.
You could take your mind off your negative emotions by developing some interests...I think the amount of passions one has contributes to their "worthiness," so to speak. Nah mean?

Thank you. I will think about this...

The Scientist September 2nd, 2009 2:33 PM

Hey people. It's your [least] favorite scientist and mathemagician, Neiteio!

Anyway, I work in a high-risk environment where I'm guaranteed to make lots of enemies that just so happen to be "pro" computer hackers (this is still unconfirmed, we don't know if fel0ny really did hack that jewelry store website... and AnT is a hive of losers).

Regardless, they've become active after a few months of dormancy, and that usually implies that they're out to gather docs on us. The solution: [REDACT] anything they could possibly use to trace me. I've been really good with precautions for the longest time, from multiple aliases to TOR to dummy e-mails to neighbor's wi-fi...

So my question to you is as follows: are my SCIENCE-themed posts a benefit to the community or unnecessary? Should I continue doing what I do?

Gary, the Magic Fairy September 2nd, 2009 2:46 PM

Hey, there's this weird guy stalking some of my friends on the internet. I think he might be mentally challenged, so we don't want to be too harsh on him, but what should we do? He keeps using strange words, and they're starting to get scared. Help?

poopnoodle September 2nd, 2009 3:15 PM

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Hey, there's this weird guy stalking some of my friends on the internet. I think he might be mentally challenged, so we don't want to be too harsh on him, but what should we do? He keeps using strange words, and they're starting to get scared. Help?
Sorry that I lol'd at that a little. That's happened to me in real life...I just told the guy I was taken. If light confrontation doesn't work, you kind of have to get harsh. He's a person all the same, consider it a favor to let him know that he's not socializing appropriately. If he is seriously frightening, take it up with the head/a moderator of whatever social network you guys are using.

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Hey people. It's your [least] favorite scientist and mathemagician, Neiteio!

Anyway, I work in a high-risk environment where I'm guaranteed to make lots of enemies that just so happen to be "pro" computer hackers (this is still unconfirmed, we don't know if fel0ny really did hack that jewelry store website... and AnT is a hive of losers).

Regardless, they've become active after a few months of dormancy, and that usually implies that they're out to gather docs on us. The solution: [REDACT] anything they could possibly use to trace me. I've been really good with precautions for the longest time, from multiple aliases to TOR to dummy e-mails to neighbor's wi-fi...

So my question to you is as follows: are my SCIENCE-themed posts a benefit to the community or unnecessary? Should I continue doing what I do?



I'd hate to ignore you, but seeing as I've never read any of your posts, I can't provide a valid opinion.

If you don't want to make enemies with hackers, you should probably avoid criticizing their work...>.> and just continue being vigilant.

Hyper Chibi Absol September 3rd, 2009 8:32 AM

OK. Emotionally I'm better guys. I went to get a counselor and everything is fine.

Well... Almost fine. I'm having chest pains and the doctors yesterday couldn't figure out what I had. (I wrote journals for dA so they can explain the rest.) I just kinda need help figuring it out because this pain is effecting my breathing. :/

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My morning was kinda normal.

I went looking for the nurse's office but it turns out all they had was a public assistant thing. I didn't want to bother before so I went to go eat and met up with a friend of mine. She and I went walking and I taught more and more about the PA so I went to them and told 'em about my chest pains.

A policman told me to come inside and talk to him. He checked my pulse and got my information. And then he put me on oxygen until the ambulance came. I think a little part inside of me died when I had to ride the stretcher... :/ The ride in the ambulance was very odd. The guy asked me questions and thought what I thought.

It wasn't anything like heart attack or anything like that. Just alot of stress. He hooked me up to a machine (checking my breathing I guess?) He said that there was a little bit of fluid in my left lung but that's normal. We got to the hospital and I got my own room. More questions (all the same ones) They hooked me up to a machine their to keep track of my vitals. I got an X-ray of my chest.

Everything turned out fine but I never found out what was wrong with me because I didn't let them take blood.
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Well. You know that I'm having chest pains, obviously because I had to go to the hospital yesterday. (mom still doesn't know but I told my little brother and sister. My brother doesn't care)

Well... Ever since I came home yesterday, it was worse... As much as I hate to say it. It does effect my breathing because whenever I take a deep breath, it hurts or rather feels sore in my case....

I'll endure it for a little longer. If it gets any worse, I'll go back to the hospital and have those damned blood tests...

I actually think it has to do with my lungs. Not my heart because it effects my breathing and nothing else. :/ What bugs me is, they said my breathing was fine according to the machine that said I'm getting 98% of my oxygen.

I don't know... It's getting rather annoying now. I just want it to end. :/

When I told my little sister, she said that I probably had something that mom had when she went to college, but the problem is, it couldn't be that because mom's blood pressure rose and she had the chest pains. My blood pressure was low, told to me by the guy in the ambulance. :/

I just don't know what's wrong with me.. :/

Lana. September 3rd, 2009 5:34 PM

Hyper Chibi Absol...

I am experiencing the same exact thing. It's been... a few months now, since June I think, that it's been going on. I haven't told anyone though, because it really isn't bothering me except for the whole 'doesn't feel like I'm getting enough air' thing. I also feel weirdly sore when I take a deep breath just to feel my lungs fully inflate. I've had this problem for awhile now and it hasn't gone away or gotten worse (if anything, it's gotten better, as I no longer experience the chest pain I once did). Somehow I remember reading how the lungs can grow too fast for the ribcage or something like that somewhere, but I'm not too sure how plausible that really is.

I think you should go take the blood tests - better safe than sorry, right? I would think the fact that you're using 98% of your oxygen has to be comforting, though.

Hyper Chibi Absol September 4th, 2009 4:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Lana. (Post 5073372)
Hyper Chibi Absol...

I am experiencing the same exact thing. It's been... a few months now, since June I think, that it's been going on. I haven't told anyone though, because it really isn't bothering me except for the whole 'doesn't feel like I'm getting enough air' thing. I also feel weirdly sore when I take a deep breath just to feel my lungs fully inflate. I've had this problem for awhile now and it hasn't gone away or gotten worse (if anything, it's gotten better, as I no longer experience the chest pain I once did). Somehow I remember reading how the lungs can grow too fast for the ribcage or something like that somewhere, but I'm not too sure how plausible that really is.

I think you should go take the blood tests - better safe than sorry, right? I would think the fact that you're using 98% of your oxygen has to be comforting, though.

Well... I told myself, if this gets any wosre, I'll go back to the hospital. But as far as I can see, it only got worse after coming home from the hospital, but hasn't gotten wosre since.

What do you mean? You can't?

PikaFreak September 4th, 2009 3:06 PM

Ok so, I have this friend and I kinda like him.
We've been friends since we were 5.

And we're 12 now.
We still hang out alot and stuff but things aren't right.

The things that aren't right are... well...
1. It's hard to hang around with him without blushing.
2. All of his other friends are 5 or 7 years older then him.
3. Sometimes those friends are there, when we're playing.
4. In the school year one of his other friends and I have a war between who he's going to pick to hang out with that day.
5. We don't agree on alot of things and when we don't agree he'll act all, oh my opinion is way more important then yours, in other words, he's rude.
6. This other friend of his will come down to see if he can hang out when I already told him a billion times that he picked me to hang out with today.
7. Sometimes I think he only plays with me for my games and toys and stuff...

Please help me!

~PikaFreak

Charizard★ September 4th, 2009 3:10 PM

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Originally Posted by PikaFreak (Post 5076300)
Ok so, I have this friend and I kinda like him.
We've been friends since we were 5.

And we're 12 now.
We still hang out alot and stuff but things aren't right.

The things that aren't right are... well...
1. It's hard to hang around with him without blushing.
2. All of his other friends are 5 or 7 years older then him.
3. Sometimes those friends are there, when we're playing.
4. In the school year one of his other friends and I have a war between who he's going to pick to hang out with that day.
5. We don't agree on alot of things and when we don't agree he'll act all, oh my opinion is way more important then yours, in other words, he's rude.
6. This other friend of his will come down to see if he can play when I already told him a billion times that he picked me to hang out with today.
7. Sometimes I only think he plays with me for my games and toys and stuff...

Please help me!

~PikaFreak

You're a little to young lol xD anyways, just wait it out a couple of months or weeks or years when you are older lol.

Lana. September 4th, 2009 5:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Hyper Chibi Absol (Post 5074609)
Well... I told myself, if this gets any wosre, I'll go back to the hospital. But as far as I can see, it only got worse after coming home from the hospital, but hasn't gotten wosre since.

What do you mean? You can't?

Well. I haven't actually gone to the hospital (heck, I haven't even told anyone), so I wouldn't know. I haven't seen any changes in the months it's been going on, so I've just sort of let it go and wait until it got worse to tell someone. And so far, it hasn't, so I'm not too bothered right now...

ordeal September 4th, 2009 5:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Hyper Chibi Absol (Post 5071648)
OK. Emotionally I'm better guys. I went to get a counselor and everything is fine.

Well... Almost fine. I'm having chest pains and the doctors yesterday couldn't figure out what I had. (I wrote journals for dA so they can explain the rest.) I just kinda need help figuring it out because this pain is effecting my breathing. :/

Sounds to me like you're having a mild form of hyperventilation. Either that or you might have bruised your ribs (I'm sure you would've remembered that happening). Taking a blood test really wouldn't do much when it comes to determining what's wrong, other then viewing your oxigen level.
I really wouldn't worry too much, if it is a mild form of hyperventilation you might be stressed out. Sometimes meditation helps.. I'm not a doctor (just a nurse) so if you really feel something is wrong, go to a real doctor. But try some relaxation methods for a day or two and see how it works for you.

altaria221 September 4th, 2009 8:33 PM

Hey guys, its altaria
I know that alot of you guys don't know me but... I've got a problem

Okay, now there is me and this girl, we have known each other since third grade (we are now in tenth)
So, the deal is everyone at my school says we should date, no they are not making fun of us, they honestly think we would make a cute couple
We are good friends, and hang out a good bit talking and joking, but a lot of people, and i mean every person that knows us, thinks one of three things
1. That we are already dating
2. That we should date
3. That we fight like an old married couple
Now, I have no idea if she likes me or not, but quite frankly i have no idea where my feelings are for her
As for all of the people saying we should date, i personally say, we could always try just to see how it would work out, but the deal is we share so many of the same friends,
We are one big circle at our school, and i would feel terrible if it didn't work out, and people took sides and hated each other
It's just one big mess that keeps on popping up and i don't know how to deal with it

Synaesthesia September 4th, 2009 8:53 PM

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Originally Posted by altaria221 (Post 5077260)
Hey guys, its altaria
I know that alot of you guys don't know me but... I've got a problem

Okay, now there is me and this girl, we have known each other since third grade (we are now in tenth)
So, the deal is everyone at my school says we should date, no they are not making fun of us, they honestly think we would make a cute couple
We are good friends, and hang out a good bit talking and joking, but a lot of people, and i mean every person that knows us, thinks one of three things
1. That we are already dating
2. That we should date
3. That we fight like an old married couple
Now, I have no idea if she likes me or not, but quite frankly i have no idea where my feelings are for her
As for all of the people saying we should date, i personally say, we could always try just to see how it would work out, but the deal is we share so many of the same friends,
We are one big circle at our school, and i would feel terrible if it didn't work out, and people took sides and hated each other
It's just one big mess that keeps on popping up and i don't know how to deal with it

Don't listen to what other people say. I've been through the same thing and if you ignore it, eventually people will stop talking about it. I think you shouldn't date for two reasons:
- You don't know how you feel about this girl. That can't be good.
- You don't want to ruin things you already have. If things don't end up working out, it'll probably be really awkward.

This girl sounds like your best friend and I think she should stay your best friend. And, being a girl, I know that most of us see a "point of no return." That is, when we've been friends with someone for so long that it'd just be weird to date them. I don't think you should be dating this girl, you two are better off friends.

Hyper Chibi Absol September 5th, 2009 5:27 AM

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Originally Posted by ordeal (Post 5076790)
Sounds to me like you're having a mild form of hyperventilation. Either that or you might have bruised your ribs (I'm sure you would've remembered that happening). Taking a blood test really wouldn't do much when it comes to determining what's wrong, other then viewing your oxigen level.
I really wouldn't worry too much, if it is a mild form of hyperventilation you might be stressed out. Sometimes meditation helps.. I'm not a doctor (just a nurse) so if you really feel something is wrong, go to a real doctor. But try some relaxation methods for a day or two and see how it works for you.

Well... Sunday night, my boyfriend told me when I was still depressed that if I didn't get better by tomarrow, he'd break up with me. I was crying so much and my breathing was weird even though the tears stopped flowing. I guess at that point I was hyperventalating.

Shaking. Weird breathing.... yeah...

That might've been what caused it instead of the beginning of school. (just confused it with crying pains. Like the ones you get after crying, it still hurts?)

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Well. I haven't actually gone to the hospital (heck, I haven't even told anyone), so I wouldn't know. I haven't seen any changes in the months it's been going on, so I've just sort of let it go and wait until it got worse to tell someone. And so far, it hasn't, so I'm not too bothered right now...
Yeah... It kinda bugs me knowing that pacing (an easy way for me to think) has to be shortened because I can't breathe well is kinda bad...

And... now I'm coughing (I just paced...) :/

Mobile Tsk September 6th, 2009 5:27 AM

I would like to know what I should do: you see, I am Mobile Tsk and I need to deal with this problem.

processr September 6th, 2009 2:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Benadryl (Post 5083199)
I would like to know what I should do: you see, I am Mobile Tsk and I need to deal with this problem.

Today, I realised that my only hobby is trolling a Pokémon website. FML

jigglypuff_96 September 6th, 2009 8:42 PM

Umm,, hi guys, Im sorta nervus but sometimes talking to strangers is the best thing:)

Okay-
Im changing schools. Im really happy because I use to get badly bullied at my old school. The bullies at my old school said that they told all their friends at my new school to bully me. Im not sure if their joking or not and school is coming up. Lets face it, Im an easy target too. Im tall, freckle face, with lots of pimples. I am not very good at school work and Im shy.
Please help :)

DonRoyale September 7th, 2009 12:00 AM

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Originally Posted by jigglypuff_96 (Post 5087478)
Umm,, hi guys, Im sorta nervus but sometimes talking to strangers is the best thing:)

Okay-
Im changing schools. Im really happy because I use to get badly bullied at my old school. The bullies at my old school said that they told all their friends at my new school to bully me. Im not sure if their joking or not and school is coming up. Lets face it, Im an easy target too. Im tall, freckle face, with lots of pimples. I am not very good at school work and Im shy.
Please help :)

As a victim of bullying myself, I can offer you some very simple advice to follow: People's opinions of you become easier to ignore when you realize their opinions are just an ignorant attempt to insult you. It can be quite humorous to deal with people when you realize how stupid and pathetic they can be.

Spoiler:
On a personal note...don't try to make friends with the bully's friends. From personal experience, it can come back to bite you in the ass...very, very hard.


Oh, boy, where do I begin. I feel very...lost right now.

I'm a person who can't function without having a crush, being in love; whatever you'd like to call it. It's something that keeps me going, keeps my thoughts centered, focused.

In my last semester of high school, I fell hard for someone. In a related-but-not-so-related story, I was going through a massive falling out with an ex-friend-now-worst-enemy at the time I developed this crush, and oh, did that ex-friend ever f#ck it up.

It began very awkwardly. My crush was virtually unaware I existed (Such a girl line. Oh well.) despite my reputation (which I oddly had; it seems independence + odd friendships = gossip, in my school, anyway), and to add to that, I had to stave off rumors that I was dating my best friend (she's a girl, she's hanging out with a guy, they have to be dating, having sex, getting pregnant; it's what all teenagers do of course, amirite?) at the time. It was difficult, but after some awkward outbursts (at even the slighest hint I got of anyone implying something, I'd speak out--loudly at that--to defy their accusations), I sorta convinced a few people.

Regardless, I guess things got sorta good when I started warming up to my crush's friends. (Yeah, sure, I'll admit: It was to get to my crush, and nothing more, but honestly, who hasn't done that? At least I was kind to them, since I had nothing against them.) I managed to become pretty good friends with my crush's best friend once I affirmed that I had feelings for them, so it made things with my crush's best friend a bit easier, at least.

So finally, I get my crush to notice my existence. My petty, doomed-from-the-start feelings start to get deeper when we begin to talk. We establish a friendship, but as usual, I don't have the balls to make a move, because of complications.

So, I was figuring out in my head the best way to make a move, when another friend of mine asks me to a prom afterparty. Knowing the connection he has to my crush, and the high probability of my crush showing up, I accept the invitation. Of course, my crush's best friend is happy to hear that I'm going. What she doesn't know is, I'm planning to make a move on her best friend at that party. (Drunk people are, at the very least, truthful; their sensitivity is impaired through their inhibitions.)

So, the day of the party rolls around, and I'm deciding to myself "OK, I'll wait until my crush is alone, then make my move." What happens? The entire party, my crush is talking to everyone and their mom. Unsure of how to go about it (Because I don't know half these people, and I'll be damned if I'm going to waste my time getting to know them. They're not what I'm here for. And sure enough, cue two drunk girls getting at me. Decisions, decisions. :V), I retreat, choosing instead to talk to my crush's best friend. Problem is, she's busy consoling the now ex-girlfriend of the guy who invited me to the party in the first place...because he'd chosen to broke up with her beforehand. So, with nobody to fall back on, I decide to make idle chat with a few old friends who I hadn't seen in a while.

Until the cops came.

So everyone I really hate is gone from the party, along with the randoms and freeloading partygoers. All that's left are my friends, the school floozies, and my crush. What does my crush do? Decides to move the party to their house. I think this is God's way of smiling on me, so I ask for a ride, thinking something will happen.

It doesn't. My crush is so s#itfaced that they can't recognize me, or barely anyone else, for that matter. Even when I made a slight pass, it went unnoticed. </3

So I'm stuck still trying to make conversation with the few people I have left to talk to (because my crush's best friend decided to leave with a few of the people for drunk 3 AM McDonald's; and who doesn't love drunk 3 AM McDonald's? The concept in and of itself makes me giggle like an 8 year-old girl. :V), and that's when I realized I'd failed. My crush had gone downstairs, where everyone who hated me (but I didn't hate them) were, so I was stuck with my sort-of friends, talking about whatever the f#ck we talked about. (I don't even know...and I should, considering I was one of two people who didn't touch alcohol at that party. Yay me for being a cellebus [sp?] little prick. :V) As soon as the drunk 3 AM McDonald's crew returned at about 4:30, I immediately requested to be taken home. My friend (the only other person who didn't touch alcohol...because he was the DD, of course) obliged, and drove me home.

I post on Facebook telling my crush's best friend that I had a good time (and I did; seeing my crush was good enough for me, honestly), and I went to bed.

That Monday, I was the talk of the school.

That Facebook post apparently got so horrendously misconstrued that some little s#its at my school (whose identities I am damn well sure of, by the way) decide to start a rumor that my crush's best friend and I hooked up at the party. S#it hits the fan from here.

Because I felt that the rumor was so overly staged for the sole purpose of destroying what little reputation I had at that point, and because it was so ludicrous in nature (my crush's best friend is not the type who does that sort of thing, and the fact that they said that about her, even though it was mostly against me, is pretty low if you ask me, despite the fact that I'm truly the victim and I'm the one who should feel as such.) that I chose not to deny it. It was just that; a rumor.

Then these same little s#its decide to say that I made up that rumor, and that's when it gets heated. Everyone begins to ask me if we did or didn't. I, of course, vehemently deny this, but this all happens after I'm accused of making it up in the first place, something nobody bothers to ask. Nobody, of course, except my crush's best friend, who is downright livid. Despite assuring me that she'd fix the problem, the damage was done.

My crush decides to delete me from Facebook and block me from MSN. Without so much as a "Hey, did you...?". Just...gone, like that.

I...did not take it well, let's just say that. I had already been dealing with scrutiny from a lot of these people, and while I had mostly dismissed it as the antics of a bunch of immature little brats, that pushed me over the edge. I ended up deleting 140 friends from Facebook - which, at the time, was over half my friends list - and immediately stopped talking to the vast majority of the people who even had the slightest connection to them, including, sadly, my crush's best friend, who, in my heartbreak, I accused of spilling the beans. She denies this, but still, we argued, and we haven't spoken since, much less on the terms we were before that party.

I haven't spoken to many of those people at that party since then. It was a mistake going there for such a selfish reason, and, had I realized this, I wouldn't have went.

On a side note, after school had finished, a friend sent me a picture which was a Facebook conversation on my ex-friend-now-worst-enemy's status where they pretty much do nothing but talk s#it about me. (Funny enough, it started out as talking s#it about another friend of mine...and then it segwayed into me, because I was the easy target for them.) It was the day that my crush deleted me from Facebook, the day I deleted everyone in response. They said a lot of things that, in truth, angered a lot of my friends more than it did me, because they were mean things, but they were very ignorant and pathetic things to be saying. (To give a relevant example, they said that I jerk off to Pokemon. We all obviously do that here at PC, right? Because this place is called PokeCommunity, not FurryCommunity. >_>) In the midst of their conversation, I'm deleting everyone over my heartbreak, and they think I saw that status conversation and are s#itting their pants, thinking I'm going to go all Columbine on them. Oh, the lulz of that...What a bunch of ignorant little...never mind.

Regardless, due to the swiftness of it, I never...let it settle in. My crush wanted nothing to do with me. I spent the entire time just thinking...maybe they were just misinformed. Maybe...I can forgive my crush for doing that.

I was thinking this today, as I was writing a note on Facebook. One of the questions asked "Do you want someone from your past back in your life?" or something of the sort. That got me thinking about my crush again, so as my friends are trying to talk to me on MSN, I bring it up. One of my friends literally gives me the biggest slap-in-your-face-logic answers I've ever heard in my entire life:

"If your crush won't apologize for what they did to you, they don't deserve you."

I don't think I've ever felt as stupid as I did when I was just floored by that response. Funny thing is, my friend didn't even intend for that to have any impact, much less the impact it did.

I feel like...I can finally get over my crush now. I've spent too much time trying to get over them this whole summer, and because of it, I've never really taken the time to explore other possibilities I have. In fact, I've broken hearts in the process by lying to myself, thinking I could fall in love with someone else when my heart couldn't stop thinking about someone who'd just tossed me aside. (When I write it out like that, I really feel like a fool...heh.)

I believe I need some time now. Or some space.
Where are the DPPt legendaries when you need them?
lolfailjoke.

With this exceedingly simple revelation, I think I can finally begin the healing process. The oft-delayed, three-month-overdue healing process.

God. I'm a f#$%ing idiot sometimes. >_>

Tudj September 7th, 2009 12:14 AM

Hmm I think alot of pokemon fans have bullying problems, I myself the same. I am by far the Sportiest person at school winning the award (im in year 8, own everyone at school at running and soccer, some others) I am pretty smart, get mostly A's, am I nice person- but one small problem Everyone hates me.

Ever since year 4 I haven't been the most popular person at school, and struggle to get along at school, but my ability to be good at nearly anything keeps my going, and now I have found out that all the popular guys play pokemon, yet they all bag it out in front of people (mostly girls). Kinda confused.

And last but not least nearly every girl I know hates me, never had a girlfriend, probably never will. Theres my problems. And a little help of the bullied people. Life evens out eventually, all you have to do is live through your school life having fun by yourself.

Black Omega Zero September 7th, 2009 3:00 PM

I've got a problem... I decided to get out of my bubble, but I got hurt into trying something new... to get together with someone... but that someone liked you long ago, I didn't even notice... I was never interested in that, but she only got closer to me so that she could get her revenge... she scored, I declared myself... but was rejected! GHAHAHA!!! This sucks! I'm going back into my bubble!... OK... the problem comes here: What should I do? (I got suddenly interested, but as soon as it came, it went away... IN A DAY!) I still care about my problem, but I've learned a lesson: never get out of your bubble... and never try new stuff, only what you have done up to now... Of course I want my revenge... but I guess it's better done against that person in the way of distance... and I'm doing so just now (these days) Should I still get distanced (inside my bubble or just away from her), or should I like her just to do the same (now on purpose), or should I forgive her?

Kisaragi September 7th, 2009 3:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DonRoyale (Post 5088171)
As a victim of bullying myself, I can offer you some very simple advice to follow: People's opinions of you become easier to ignore when you realize their opinions are just an ignorant attempt to insult you. It can be quite humorous to deal with people when you realize how stupid and pathetic they can be.

Spoiler:
On a personal note...don't try to make friends with the bully's friends. From personal experience, it can come back to bite you in the ass...very, very hard.


Oh, boy, where do I begin. I feel very...lost right now.

I'm a person who can't function without having a crush, being in love; whatever you'd like to call it. It's something that keeps me going, keeps my thoughts centered, focused.

In my last semester of high school, I fell hard for someone. In a related-but-not-so-related story, I was going through a massive falling out with an ex-friend-now-worst-enemy at the time I developed this crush, and oh, did that ex-friend ever f#ck it up.

It began very awkwardly. My crush was virtually unaware I existed (Such a girl line. Oh well.) despite my reputation (which I oddly had; it seems independence + odd friendships = gossip, in my school, anyway), and to add to that, I had to stave off rumors that I was dating my best friend (she's a girl, she's hanging out with a guy, they have to be dating, having sex, getting pregnant; it's what all teenagers do of course, amirite?) at the time. It was difficult, but after some awkward outbursts (at even the slighest hint I got of anyone implying something, I'd speak out--loudly at that--to defy their accusations), I sorta convinced a few people.

Regardless, I guess things got sorta good when I started warming up to my crush's friends. (Yeah, sure, I'll admit: It was to get to my crush, and nothing more, but honestly, who hasn't done that? At least I was kind to them, since I had nothing against them.) I managed to become pretty good friends with my crush's best friend once I affirmed that I had feelings for them, so it made things with my crush's best friend a bit easier, at least.

So finally, I get my crush to notice my existence. My petty, doomed-from-the-start feelings start to get deeper when we begin to talk. We establish a friendship, but as usual, I don't have the balls to make a move, because of complications.

So, I was figuring out in my head the best way to make a move, when another friend of mine asks me to a prom afterparty. Knowing the connection he has to my crush, and the high probability of my crush showing up, I accept the invitation. Of course, my crush's best friend is happy to hear that I'm going. What she doesn't know is, I'm planning to make a move on her best friend at that party. (Drunk people are, at the very least, truthful; their sensitivity is impaired through their inhibitions.)

So, the day of the party rolls around, and I'm deciding to myself &quot;OK, I'll wait until my crush is alone, then make my move.&quot; What happens? The entire party, my crush is talking to everyone and their mom. Unsure of how to go about it (Because I don't know half these people, and I'll be damned if I'm going to waste my time getting to know them. They're not what I'm here for. And sure enough, cue two drunk girls getting at me. Decisions, decisions. :V), I retreat, choosing instead to talk to my crush's best friend. Problem is, she's busy consoling the now ex-girlfriend of the guy who invited me to the party in the first place...because he'd chosen to broke up with her beforehand. So, with nobody to fall back on, I decide to make idle chat with a few old friends who I hadn't seen in a while.

Until the cops came.

So everyone I really hate is gone from the party, along with the randoms and freeloading partygoers. All that's left are my friends, the school floozies, and my crush. What does my crush do? Decides to move the party to their house. I think this is God's way of smiling on me, so I ask for a ride, thinking something will happen.

It doesn't. My crush is so s#itfaced that they can't recognize me, or barely anyone else, for that matter. Even when I made a slight pass, it went unnoticed. </3

So I'm stuck still trying to make conversation with the few people I have left to talk to (because my crush's best friend decided to leave with a few of the people for drunk 3 AM McDonald's; and who doesn't love drunk 3 AM McDonald's? The concept in and of itself makes me giggle like an 8 year-old girl. :V), and that's when I realized I'd failed. My crush had gone downstairs, where everyone who hated me (but I didn't hate them) were, so I was stuck with my sort-of friends, talking about whatever the f#ck we talked about. (I don't even know...and I should, considering I was one of two people who didn't touch alcohol at that party. Yay me for being a cellebus [sp?] little prick. :V) As soon as the drunk 3 AM McDonald's crew returned at about 4:30, I immediately requested to be taken home. My friend (the only other person who didn't touch alcohol...because he was the DD, of course) obliged, and drove me home.

I post on Facebook telling my crush's best friend that I had a good time (and I did; seeing my crush was good enough for me, honestly), and I went to bed.

That Monday, I was the talk of the school.

That Facebook post apparently got so horrendously misconstrued that some little s#its at my school (whose identities I am damn well sure of, by the way) decide to start a rumor that my crush's best friend and I hooked up at the party. S#it hits the fan from here.

Because I felt that the rumor was so overly staged for the sole purpose of destroying what little reputation I had at that point, and because it was so ludicrous in nature (my crush's best friend is not the type who does that sort of thing, and the fact that they said that about her, even though it was mostly against me, is pretty low if you ask me, despite the fact that I'm truly the victim and I'm the one who should feel as such.) that I chose not to deny it. It was just that; a rumor.

Then these same little s#its decide to say that I made up that rumor, and that's when it gets heated. Everyone begins to ask me if we did or didn't. I, of course, vehemently deny this, but this all happens after I'm accused of making it up in the first place, something nobody bothers to ask. Nobody, of course, except my crush's best friend, who is downright livid. Despite assuring me that she'd fix the problem, the damage was done.

My crush decides to delete me from Facebook and block me from MSN. Without so much as a &quot;Hey, did you...?&quot;. Just...gone, like that.

I...did not take it well, let's just say that. I had already been dealing with scrutiny from a lot of these people, and while I had mostly dismissed it as the antics of a bunch of immature little brats, that pushed me over the edge. I ended up deleting 140 friends from Facebook - which, at the time, was over half my friends list - and immediately stopped talking to the vast majority of the people who even had the slightest connection to them, including, sadly, my crush's best friend, who, in my heartbreak, I accused of spilling the beans. She denies this, but still, we argued, and we haven't spoken since, much less on the terms we were before that party.

I haven't spoken to many of those people at that party since then. It was a mistake going there for such a selfish reason, and, had I realized this, I wouldn't have went.

On a side note, after school had finished, a friend sent me a picture which was a Facebook conversation on my ex-friend-now-worst-enemy's status where they pretty much do nothing but talk s#it about me. (Funny enough, it started out as talking s#it about another friend of mine...and then it segwayed into me, because I was the easy target for them.) It was the day that my crush deleted me from Facebook, the day I deleted everyone in response. They said a lot of things that, in truth, angered a lot of my friends more than it did me, because they were mean things, but they were very ignorant and pathetic things to be saying. (To give a relevant example, they said that I jerk off to Pokemon. We all obviously do that here at PC, right? Because this place is called PokeCommunity, not FurryCommunity. >_>) In the midst of their conversation, I'm deleting everyone over my heartbreak, and they think I saw that status conversation and are s#itting their pants, thinking I'm going to go all Columbine on them. Oh, the lulz of that...What a bunch of ignorant little...never mind.

Regardless, due to the swiftness of it, I never...let it settle in. My crush wanted nothing to do with me. I spent the entire time just thinking...maybe they were just misinformed. Maybe...I can forgive my crush for doing that.

I was thinking this today, as I was writing a note on Facebook. One of the questions asked &quot;Do you want someone from your past back in your life?&quot; or something of the sort. That got me thinking about my crush again, so as my friends are trying to talk to me on MSN, I bring it up. One of my friends literally gives me the biggest slap-in-your-face-logic answers I've ever heard in my entire life:

&quot;If your crush won't apologize for what they did to you, they don't deserve you.&quot;

I don't think I've ever felt as stupid as I did when I was just floored by that response. Funny thing is, my friend didn't even intend for that to have any impact, much less the impact it did.

I feel like...I can finally get over my crush now. I've spent too much time trying to get over them this whole summer, and because of it, I've never really taken the time to explore other possibilities I have. In fact, I've broken hearts in the process by lying to myself, thinking I could fall in love with someone else when my heart couldn't stop thinking about someone who'd just tossed me aside. (When I write it out like that, I really feel like a fool...heh.)

I believe I need some time now. Or some space.
Where are the DPPt legendaries when you need them?
lolfailjoke.

With this exceedingly simple revelation, I think I can finally begin the healing process. The oft-delayed, three-month-overdue healing process.

God. I'm a f#$%ing idiot sometimes. >_>

Good luck getting a worthwhile response.

Virtual Chatot September 7th, 2009 4:33 PM

My Grandmother ( who is a deeply religious southern baptist ) just yelled at me for listening to my Arabic soundtrack. She said that I was "insulting God" by listening to Arabic music, because Arabs oppress Christians.

>:|

~*!*~Tatsujin Gosuto~*!*~ September 8th, 2009 7:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Virtual Chatot (Post 5091770)
My Grandmother ( who is a deeply religious southern baptist ) just yelled at me for listening to my Arabic soundtrack. She said that I was "insulting God" by listening to Arabic music, because Arabs oppress Christians.

>:|

maybe you should listen to them when shes not around so she won't yell or have a talk with her because it's your music and you have a right to listen to whatever you want to listen to


:t354:TG

Ageless Irony September 8th, 2009 8:01 AM

Today, I found out I have an irregular heartbeat. FML

The Darkest Gale September 8th, 2009 8:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Royal Genesis (Post 5093673)
Today, I found out I have an irregular heartbeat. FML

umm is it too fast or too slow and how many beats out =l

Ageless Irony September 8th, 2009 8:08 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Darkest Gale (Post 5093684)
umm is it too fast or too slow and how many beats out =l

It fluctuates--which the doctor said can be pretty dangerous sometimes.

The Darkest Gale September 8th, 2009 8:12 AM

hmm I don't know I'm sorry but I'm sure there is nothing to worry about

Ageless Irony September 8th, 2009 8:17 AM

Yeah, but it's a problem, so I figured I'd post it. Thanks for your concern though~ It's nice to know about the good people out there.

The Darkest Gale September 8th, 2009 8:21 AM

the best I can give you is support dude ^^ sorry

Ageless Irony September 8th, 2009 9:52 PM

Problem number two. Girlfriend is going away to college. Sad. Halp.

Guillermo September 9th, 2009 3:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Royal Genesis (Post 5095892)
Problem number two. Girlfriend is going away to college. Sad. Halp.

Just keep in contact with her via phone calls and e-mails. Just remember that you'll see her again.

Ageless Irony September 9th, 2009 6:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Juicy Fruit (Post 5096290)
Just keep in contact with her via phone calls and e-mails. Just remember that you'll see her again.

Well duh, but I was wondering more along the lines of if anyone else had some advice on long distance relationships...

HyPeRsHoCk September 9th, 2009 8:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Royal Genesis (Post 5096552)
Well duh, but I was wondering more along the lines of if anyone else had some advice on long distance relationships...

Get Skype+webcams ^^ lol. Yeah...so just try to talk to her as much as you can and visit her as well. Always tell her you love her before she leaves. Try to trust her no matter what. If you have any more specific questions just ask. I can also talk to you on AIM if that would be easier for you.

Black Omega Zero September 9th, 2009 2:19 PM

I hate humans, and I don't want to fall in love, better than that, I want to be inmune to all that, and I'm becoming that because of my bubble problem (somewhere above this)

Charizard★ September 9th, 2009 2:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Black Omega Zero (Post 5097913)
I hate humans, and I don't want to fall in love, better than that, I want to be inmune to all that, and I'm becoming that because of my bubble problem (somewhere above this)

Not to be rude, but you are Human, and you might fall in love no one is immune.

pkmnmaster69 September 9th, 2009 3:15 PM

Hey guys, I have a probelm sleeping now a days and im always waking up early and I try sleeping at night and close my eyes but I just cant get any sleep, have you guys got any tips?

HyPeRsHoCk September 9th, 2009 3:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by pkmnmaster69 (Post 5098131)
Hey guys, I have a probelm sleeping now a days and im always waking up early and I try sleeping at night and close my eyes but I just cant get any sleep, have you guys got any tips?

Exercise. Make sure you don't starve while in bed. I usually have a small meal before I got to bed. (Try to avoid sugar) Perhaps reading...

The Scientist September 10th, 2009 4:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by percentage% (Post 5097958)
Not to be rude, but you are Human, and you might fall in love no one is immune.

Someone's never heard of an asexual. Hell yeah Psycho Mantis.

Black Omega Zero, you're making the issue a lot more complicated than it should be. Your solution is ridiculously simple: JUST. STOP. CARING.

Instantly solves all your problems and gives you plenty of free time in which you can work on scientific research papers.

Also, I've lost my voice and haven't spoken in 5 days.

Rogue planet September 10th, 2009 9:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Scientist (Post 5099627)
Someone's never heard of an asexual.

Asexuals can still 'fall in love'. Love is not all about sex y'know.
Regardless, plenty of people are not interested in having a partner or 'falling in love', whether they are asexual or not.

poopnoodle September 10th, 2009 10:30 AM

Quote:

As a victim of bullying myself, I can offer you some very simple advice to follow: People's opinions of you become easier to ignore when you realize their opinions are just an ignorant attempt to insult you. It can be quite humorous to deal with people when you realize how stupid and pathetic they can be.

Spoiler:
On a personal note...don't try to make friends with the bully's friends. From personal experience, it can come back to bite you in the ass...very, very hard.




Oh, boy, where do I begin. I feel very...lost right now.

I'm a person who can't function without having a crush, being in love; whatever you'd like to call it. It's something that keeps me going, keeps my thoughts centered, focused.

In my last semester of high school, I fell hard for someone. In a related-but-not-so-related story, I was going through a massive falling out with an ex-friend-now-worst-enemy at the time I developed this crush, and oh, did that ex-friend ever f#ck it up.

It began very awkwardly. My crush was virtually unaware I existed (Such a girl line. Oh well.) despite my reputation (which I oddly had; it seems independence + odd friendships = gossip, in my school, anyway), and to add to that, I had to stave off rumors that I was dating my best friend (she's a girl, she's hanging out with a guy, they have to be dating, having sex, getting pregnant; it's what all teenagers do of course, amirite?) at the time. It was difficult, but after some awkward outbursts (at even the slighest hint I got of anyone implying something, I'd speak out--loudly at that--to defy their accusations), I sorta convinced a few people.

Regardless, I guess things got sorta good when I started warming up to my crush's friends. (Yeah, sure, I'll admit: It was to get to my crush, and nothing more, but honestly, who hasn't done that? At least I was kind to them, since I had nothing against them.) I managed to become pretty good friends with my crush's best friend once I affirmed that I had feelings for them, so it made things with my crush's best friend a bit easier, at least.

So finally, I get my crush to notice my existence. My petty, doomed-from-the-start feelings start to get deeper when we begin to talk. We establish a friendship, but as usual, I don't have the balls to make a move, because of complications.

So, I was figuring out in my head the best way to make a move, when another friend of mine asks me to a prom afterparty. Knowing the connection he has to my crush, and the high probability of my crush showing up, I accept the invitation. Of course, my crush's best friend is happy to hear that I'm going. What she doesn't know is, I'm planning to make a move on her best friend at that party. (Drunk people are, at the very least, truthful; their sensitivity is impaired through their inhibitions.)

So, the day of the party rolls around, and I'm deciding to myself &quot;OK, I'll wait until my crush is alone, then make my move.&quot; What happens? The entire party, my crush is talking to everyone and their mom. Unsure of how to go about it (Because I don't know half these people, and I'll be damned if I'm going to waste my time getting to know them. They're not what I'm here for. And sure enough, cue two drunk girls getting at me. Decisions, decisions. :V), I retreat, choosing instead to talk to my crush's best friend. Problem is, she's busy consoling the now ex-girlfriend of the guy who invited me to the party in the first place...because he'd chosen to broke up with her beforehand. So, with nobody to fall back on, I decide to make idle chat with a few old friends who I hadn't seen in a while.

Until the cops came.

So everyone I really hate is gone from the party, along with the randoms and freeloading partygoers. All that's left are my friends, the school floozies, and my crush. What does my crush do? Decides to move the party to their house. I think this is God's way of smiling on me, so I ask for a ride, thinking something will happen.

It doesn't. My crush is so s#itfaced that they can't recognize me, or barely anyone else, for that matter. Even when I made a slight pass, it went unnoticed. </3

So I'm stuck still trying to make conversation with the few people I have left to talk to (because my crush's best friend decided to leave with a few of the people for drunk 3 AM McDonald's; and who doesn't love drunk 3 AM McDonald's? The concept in and of itself makes me giggle like an 8 year-old girl. :V), and that's when I realized I'd failed. My crush had gone downstairs, where everyone who hated me (but I didn't hate them) were, so I was stuck with my sort-of friends, talking about whatever the f#ck we talked about. (I don't even know...and I should, considering I was one of two people who didn't touch alcohol at that party. Yay me for being a cellebus [sp?] little prick. :V) As soon as the drunk 3 AM McDonald's crew returned at about 4:30, I immediately requested to be taken home. My friend (the only other person who didn't touch alcohol...because he was the DD, of course) obliged, and drove me home.

I post on Facebook telling my crush's best friend that I had a good time (and I did; seeing my crush was good enough for me, honestly), and I went to bed.

That Monday, I was the talk of the school.

That Facebook post apparently got so horrendously misconstrued that some little s#its at my school (whose identities I am damn well sure of, by the way) decide to start a rumor that my crush's best friend and I hooked up at the party. S#it hits the fan from here.

Because I felt that the rumor was so overly staged for the sole purpose of destroying what little reputation I had at that point, and because it was so ludicrous in nature (my crush's best friend is not the type who does that sort of thing, and the fact that they said that about her, even though it was mostly against me, is pretty low if you ask me, despite the fact that I'm truly the victim and I'm the one who should feel as such.) that I chose not to deny it. It was just that; a rumor.

Then these same little s#its decide to say that I made up that rumor, and that's when it gets heated. Everyone begins to ask me if we did or didn't. I, of course, vehemently deny this, but this all happens after I'm accused of making it up in the first place, something nobody bothers to ask. Nobody, of course, except my crush's best friend, who is downright livid. Despite assuring me that she'd fix the problem, the damage was done.

My crush decides to delete me from Facebook and block me from MSN. Without so much as a &quot;Hey, did you...?&quot;. Just...gone, like that.

I...did not take it well, let's just say that. I had already been dealing with scrutiny from a lot of these people, and while I had mostly dismissed it as the antics of a bunch of immature little brats, that pushed me over the edge. I ended up deleting 140 friends from Facebook - which, at the time, was over half my friends list - and immediately stopped talking to the vast majority of the people who even had the slightest connection to them, including, sadly, my crush's best friend, who, in my heartbreak, I accused of spilling the beans. She denies this, but still, we argued, and we haven't spoken since, much less on the terms we were before that party.

I haven't spoken to many of those people at that party since then. It was a mistake going there for such a selfish reason, and, had I realized this, I wouldn't have went.

On a side note, after school had finished, a friend sent me a picture which was a Facebook conversation on my ex-friend-now-worst-enemy's status where they pretty much do nothing but talk s#it about me. (Funny enough, it started out as talking s#it about another friend of mine...and then it segwayed into me, because I was the easy target for them.) It was the day that my crush deleted me from Facebook, the day I deleted everyone in response. They said a lot of things that, in truth, angered a lot of my friends more than it did me, because they were mean things, but they were very ignorant and pathetic things to be saying. (To give a relevant example, they said that I jerk off to Pokemon. We all obviously do that here at PC, right? Because this place is called PokeCommunity, not FurryCommunity. >_>) In the midst of their conversation, I'm deleting everyone over my heartbreak, and they think I saw that status conversation and are s#itting their pants, thinking I'm going to go all Columbine on them. Oh, the lulz of that...What a bunch of ignorant little...never mind.

Regardless, due to the swiftness of it, I never...let it settle in. My crush wanted nothing to do with me. I spent the entire time just thinking...maybe they were just misinformed. Maybe...I can forgive my crush for doing that.

I was thinking this today, as I was writing a note on Facebook. One of the questions asked &quot;Do you want someone from your past back in your life?&quot; or something of the sort. That got me thinking about my crush again, so as my friends are trying to talk to me on MSN, I bring it up. One of my friends literally gives me the biggest slap-in-your-face-logic answers I've ever heard in my entire life:

&quot;If your crush won't apologize for what they did to you, they don't deserve you.&quot;

I don't think I've ever felt as stupid as I did when I was just floored by that response. Funny thing is, my friend didn't even intend for that to have any impact, much less the impact it did.

I feel like...I can finally get over my crush now. I've spent too much time trying to get over them this whole summer, and because of it, I've never really taken the time to explore other possibilities I have. In fact, I've broken hearts in the process by lying to myself, thinking I could fall in love with someone else when my heart couldn't stop thinking about someone who'd just tossed me aside. (When I write it out like that, I really feel like a fool...heh.)

I believe I need some time now. Or some space.
Where are the DPPt legendaries when you need them?
lolfailjoke.

With this exceedingly simple revelation, I think I can finally begin the healing process. The oft-delayed, three-month-overdue healing process.

God. I'm a f#$%ing idiot sometimes. >_>
omfg, tl;dr.

Quote:

Problem number two. Girlfriend is going away to college. Sad. Halp.
Sucks about your heart condition, but I'm not a doctor, maybe consult this guy >> google.com << for advice if you need it.

Now, it IS possible to make a long distance relationship work, but you both need to be determined to make it work. If your relationship is non-exclusive, avoid thinking that your girlfriend will only stick with you. If the relationship is exclusive, always call each other. Try to maintain the purpose of the relationship: to do things together. Watch movies simultaneously over the phone, talk to each other over webcam, send her gifts...defy the distance. Take advantage of her being gone by spending time with people you might have neglected, being patient for the next opportunity to see her will make your next ~reunion~ worthwhile. Oheybtw, DON'T BE CONTROLLING, avoid jealousy and trust her. However, you can't raise your hopes to high, because you can't always expect a girl who is going off to college to remain faithful to her bf...just try to keep a stable relationship. If it works, it works, if it doesn't...always remember there are plenty of awesome ----ing Seakings impatiently horn-drilling about in the sea.

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Hey guys, I have a probelm sleeping now a days and im always waking up early and I try sleeping at night and close my eyes but I just cant get any sleep, have you guys got any tips?
See a physician if it's serious. Exercise vigorously during the day, maybe try some natural sleep-aids. Try keeping the bedroom completely dark while you're trying to sleep, perhaps play some soft music.

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I hate humans, and I don't want to fall in love, better than that, I want to be inmune to all that, and I'm becoming that because of my bubble problem (somewhere above this)
Just, lulz. Let's not be so dramatic. You'll most likely develop an emotional attachment to someone eventually, then take back the above statement.

ColoradoRafter32 September 10th, 2009 5:43 PM

Hey I am new here, but this isn't the place to introduce myself. I like this girl and I think she likes me. We are okay friends, but never talk much. Well today in Jazz Band I was chillin with my saxaphone in a seat waiting for the rest of the people to arrive, and I hear her talking to this other boy about how much she liked to touch saxaphone keys. She was looking at me directly and I was looking at her back. I didn't talk to her in Jazz Band or ever that day. Did I just possibly blow my chance?! I am thinking about giving her a compliment tomorrow. Would that help me? Also a few minutes ago I bit down on a chocolate chip and I hear this ominous crack. I looked in the mirror and saw nothing. Its a tooth that needs to come out anyway. I am just gonna leave it. Help me with my girl problem please!

PikaFreak September 13th, 2009 1:31 PM

@percentage% - It's not really about that geez. Is that all you got out of it?
Read it again and actually think.
>.<

BUG♥CATCHER★BREEZE September 20th, 2009 3:04 AM

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Originally Posted by HyPeRsHoCk (Post 5098182)
Exercise. Make sure you don't starve while in bed. I usually have a small meal before I got to bed. (Try to avoid sugar) Perhaps reading...

Lavender is supposed to quite smoothing, too. Such a pillow filled with it. And turn of computers/televisions etc. at least an hour before you go to sleep. Apparently they trick your brain into thinking its still daytime. I read a magazine article on this recently, but I don't remember everything in it.

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Originally Posted by Vendak (Post 5100134)
Asexuals can still 'fall in love'. Love is not all about sex y'know.
Regardless, plenty of people are not interested in having a partner or 'falling in love', whether they are asexual or not.

Aromantic then. That's the term, right?

The Darkest Gale September 20th, 2009 5:23 AM

ummm not really a problem but
I really like pokemon plush and I want a smeargle
theres one up right and I want but my mum and dad keep sighing and stuff and that puts me off
what should I do
and not a problem but where would a thread asking what my next custom plush will be go on the foroums
thanks ^^

Azonic September 20th, 2009 5:36 AM

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Originally Posted by The Darkest Gale (Post 5135258)
ummm not really a problem but
I really like pokemon plush and I want a smeargle
theres one up right and I want but my mum and dad keep sighing and stuff and that puts me off
what should I do
and not a problem but where would a thread asking what my next custom plush will be go on the foroums
thanks ^^

Your parents do have authority over you. Try doing something nice to them and they might repay you. :3

The Darkest Gale September 20th, 2009 5:39 AM

hmnm I guess but there are a couple of things
its my money
my mum says you can have and stuff like that and forces a smile ^^
my dad just goes cuddly toy person, pokemon geek, i KNOW ITS A BIT OF FUN but...
thanks cherii do you know abou tthe other thing =)

processr September 23rd, 2009 8:19 AM

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Originally Posted by hortonshankles (Post 5143901)
Please! All I ask of u is a complete Script of fire red! AND THE CODES TO MAKE PIKACHU FOLLOW YOU!!

Was it really worth signing up just to ask that? Not to mention that this isn't a 'problem' in the slightest. Just Google it ffs. >>

twocows September 23rd, 2009 8:51 AM

I don't have too many problems weighing me down or anything, and they're certainly no match for some of the stuff other people in the world have to deal with. Classes are tough, sure, but I can deal with that. I'm short on cash, but I'll manage.

I'm more worried about crap in general. People are starving everywhere, losing homes (or homeless), diseased, killing each other, etc. Not to mention there seems to be a significant lack of depth to about 90% of the people I meet. I mean, they're good people, sure, but it's as if everyone these days is completely hedonistic and cares for nothing other than their own happiness. Other people matter too; that's how we got this far. A corollary to that is what I perceive as a death of affection; sure, people hang out and some are even in sexual relationships, but none of it seems real to me. Meaningful relationships (both friendships and romantic ones) seem like a thing of the past, and that saddens me greatly. Who am I to judge, though? It's just this sort of thing kind of nags at the back of my mind; I rarely think about it, but it's always kind of there in the background.

Giratina55 September 23rd, 2009 9:54 AM

Ok, i always ask my mom if i can do chores, she says sure but then she gives me something to do *not naming it* that she knows its impossibly hard for me to do.
so what should i do? Tell her to not give me something impossible to do?

twocows September 23rd, 2009 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Giratina55 (Post 5146276)
Ok, i always ask my mom if i can do chores, she says sure but then she gives me something to do *not naming it* that she knows its impossibly hard for me to do.
so what should i do? Tell her to not give me something impossible to do?

Don't ask for chores. Instead, ask for money. If you're lucky, you'll get it without needing to do chores. Otherwise, you'll probably get a more reasonable set of chores to do.

Pokémon Ranger ✩ Moriarty September 23rd, 2009 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Giratina55 (Post 5146276)
Ok, i always ask my mom if i can do chores, she says sure but then she gives me something to do *not naming it* that she knows its impossibly hard for me to do.
so what should i do? Tell her to not give me something impossible to do?

Calmly explain to her that you find that particular task impossible to do, and ask if there's anything else she needs help with. If you don't tell her it's impossible for you to do, she won't know! :)

Giratina55 September 26th, 2009 10:59 AM

The problem is, she already knows. And im actually supposed to do it, but its not like if you dont, the world will end! So, im going to try to make her let me do easy chores, like take the trash out, wash small dishes *i cant wash big ones*, ya'know, stuff that other kids do.

Vigilante September 29th, 2009 3:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Giratina55 (Post 5157225)
The problem is, she already knows. And im actually supposed to do it, but its not like if you dont, the world will end! So, im going to try to make her let me do easy chores, like take the trash out, wash small dishes *i cant wash big ones*, ya'know, stuff that other kids do.

Maybe you should address why you can't do that chore? Then work from there. I am sure she wouldn't give you something to that is inhumanly impossible.

poopnoodle September 29th, 2009 4:38 PM

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I don't have too many problems weighing me down or anything, and they're certainly no match for some of the stuff other people in the world have to deal with. Classes are tough, sure, but I can deal with that. I'm short on cash, but I'll manage.

I'm more worried about crap in general. People are starving everywhere, losing homes (or homeless), diseased, killing each other, etc. Not to mention there seems to be a significant lack of depth to about 90% of the people I meet. I mean, they're good people, sure, but it's as if everyone these days is completely hedonistic and cares for nothing other than their own happiness. Other people matter too; that's how we got this far. A corollary to that is what I perceive as a death of affection; sure, people hang out and some are even in sexual relationships, but none of it seems real to me. Meaningful relationships (both friendships and romantic ones) seem like a thing of the past, and that saddens me greatly. Who am I to judge, though? It's just this sort of thing kind of nags at the back of my mind; I rarely think about it, but it's always kind of there in the background.
Not sure whether or not you're asking for help, but all of the above (minus all things romantic) is where I'm at. Coming from a small, conservative town, 100% of the people I've met have been selfish and/or dense. (Looking back, I can't tell you how I made it through all those years of dealing with those people. Of course, I did have numerous breakdowns where I resorted to being completely antisocial for a day or so. Which made me look rather silly, in retrospect.) I just moved, so I've cut off all communications with my previous "friends." Not sure what adjective I'd use to describe that decision (immature/selfish?), but I'm a bit happier without them. I also just stumbled upon a volunteer opportunity, which leads me to the topic of world suffering. What goes on in the world is horrifying, and there is only so much one can do. Obviously, there's no compensation for volunteering (though it can get you a job sometimes), but the experience is certainly gratifying. If you're really passionate about helping those facing serious adversity, I'll suggest the Peace Corps, which is where I'm hoping to end up in a couple of years.

Edit: I said "minus all things romantic." The only reason ~love~ is not an issue for me is because I choose not to get romantically involved with people. The reason for that is, like you said, genuine affection seems to have died. I don't trust that anyone will share those special feelings with me, and I'm too afraid to open up to the idea. I've been through rejection...it's not fun, though I'd like to pretend that the realization that "the feeling isn't mutual" doesn't affect me.

My motive for responding was to give you advice...but I think I just sort of rambled into a TL;DR about myself. o.< Sorry about that. It's hard to give advice when you're struggling with similar (though somewhat minor) issues. Perhaps seeing that you're not alone will be a little relieving.

Graceful September 30th, 2009 9:20 AM

A Few Months Ago, This Boy, Sam, Kept Calling Me Names & Stuffs. I Just took it as a joke. He was nice then but now, He's just being mean like calling me a lesbian[Which is Offensive to Lesbians] and now I just can't take it. I've told my mum & Stuffs and she says report him if he does it again. But, I Sorta Like him. Which makes things worse.
I can't take it so much I've Cried......V_V

Kishijoten September 30th, 2009 3:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Graceful (Post 5171898)
A Few Months Ago, This Boy, Sam, Kept Calling Me Names & Stuffs. I Just took it as a joke. He was nice then but now, He's just being mean like calling me a lesbian[Which is Offensive to Lesbians] and now I just can't take it. I've told my mum & Stuffs and she says report him if he does it again. But, I Sorta Like him. Which makes things worse.
I can't take it so much I've Cried......V_V


aww poor you. If he was nice before and now he's mean maybe he doe's it in a secret way because he likes you.

Calling you names like this isn't a really likable thing but, just ignore that.


have you ever told any of HIS friends that this had ocured?.

processr September 30th, 2009 3:27 PM

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Originally Posted by ~Momo Uchiha~ (Post 5172860)
aww poor you. If he was nice before and now he's mean maybe he doe's it in a secret way because he likes you.

Or maybe he's a complete ass?

Graceful October 1st, 2009 12:00 AM

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Originally Posted by ~Momo Uchiha~ (Post 5172860)
aww poor you. If he was nice before and now he's mean maybe he doe's it in a secret way because he likes you.

Calling you names like this isn't a really likable thing but, just ignore that.


have you ever told any of HIS friends that this had ocured?.

I think Lee Knows. I'll ask/tell them. I know this boy called Karl knows. V_V I don't wanna go to school today......

FlyingSquirrel October 2nd, 2009 10:41 PM

I have this huge prob with my behavior. When me and my friends go around school, there is always someone or a few people who really blows my top off. This is the problem, without just ignoring it(its almost impossible for me) i tend to make it ten times worse by throwing a fist at their face and i dont even realize i punched them.....
What should i do??

(im not a bully or anything.. just an average guy i guess)

Graceful October 3rd, 2009 3:05 AM

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Originally Posted by FlyingSquirrel (Post 5179462)
I have this huge prob with my behavior. When me and my friends go around school, there is always someone or a few people who really blows my top off. This is the problem, without just ignoring it(its almost impossible for me) i tend to make it ten times worse by throwing a fist at their face and i dont even realize i punched them.....
What should i do??

(im not a bully or anything.. just an average guy i guess)

Either Breathe Deeply For 10 - 20 Seconds, Or Ask Your Parents To Get Counseling. It Will Help You To Ignore And Stop Fighting.

Zet October 3rd, 2009 3:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Graceful (Post 5171898)
A Few Months Ago, This Boy, Sam, Kept Calling Me Names & Stuffs. I Just took it as a joke. He was nice then but now, He's just being mean like calling me a lesbian[Which is Offensive to Lesbians] and now I just can't take it. I've told my mum & Stuffs and she says report him if he does it again. But, I Sorta Like him. Which makes things worse.
I can't take it so much I've Cried......V_V

like as in like like? And how is calling someone a lesbian offensive to lesbians?

Kishijoten October 4th, 2009 1:44 PM

Latly I've been silently crushing on this particular guy. He's so well amazing. He even said my name right at the very first time but, only because, usually my name is hard to pronounce.
He's in like 5 of my classes and all the major ones as well. so it's kind of distracting when he's there to stare.
what should I do?
should I wait for him to make the move? I mean 4'rths the charm right? after three no good guys I hope he's the right one.

ÇyänïdëÉX October 4th, 2009 1:46 PM

I can't get through humans any more. I have lost all hope in humanity and see its existence as bleak and short, what can return my faith in humanity again? and i don't mean religious faith, but i mean like trust.

Syrex October 4th, 2009 5:02 PM

Gah... I just wrecked my car a few hours ago -_-
I need to come up with $1000 dollars to get it fixed.

Kishijoten October 8th, 2009 1:51 PM

The problem is simple. I have like crushed on this guy like for four years and yes I know i mentioned another guy but, this one's better.
His name is Josh and durning science when we were doing popcorn reading he picked me twice, one yesterday and now today. I need some advice. What doe's that tell me?. And in popcorn reading you could pick anyone randomly and out of all the people he chose me TWICE!.
some help please...=_=!.

Rogue planet October 8th, 2009 5:56 PM

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Originally Posted by ~Momo Uchiha~ (Post 5197201)
The problem is simple. I have like crushed on this guy like for four years and yes I know i mentioned another guy but, this one's better.


Multiple 'crushes' = bad.
All this indicates is that it's nothing more than infatuation. Ask yourself, do you truly like these guys? Because it seems that you don't really know them on a personal level and you're basing these 'crushes' on trivial things.
In what way is this guy "better" than the last one?
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His name is Josh and durning science when we were doing popcorn reading he picked me twice, one yesterday and now today. I need some advice. What doe's that tell me?. And in popcorn reading you could pick anyone randomly and out of all the people he chose me TWICE!.
some help please...=_=!.
That doesn't really tell you anything, he could've picked you out for a number of reasons.
It isn't something that's very personal; so it shouldn't be too embarrassing to just ask him why he chose you?

Pokeyomom October 8th, 2009 9:32 PM

O wow. You kids:D Cherish the He/She stuff while it lasts:DDD

@Mama Uchiha: You need to not read so deeply into such begnign occurences. I'm trying to hurt your feelings, but it probably doesn't mean anything. You need to cool your jets girl;) Listen to Vendak. You need to ask yourself some searching questions to determine whether you even really like these guys are not.

There are plenty of women I meet who make me feel all fuzzy and warm hahaha. But the fact of the matter is infatuation often masquerades as love at first sight. It's a purely biological response to seeing somethin appealing to the eye. You could very well be crushing on these guys, but don't mistake it for to much more kiddo. Good luck! Get to know them- and go from there;)

@Cyainadeax (or whatever haha): Lighten up buddy. I have been there 2. Cut the excessive introspection if that's whats causing this. you haven't lost trust in anybody... Other than yourself. I can tell you what to do- Go help someone out. Volunteer a few hours to a good cause. You are bound to have someone touch your humanity in this process, and it is always refreshing to feel someones gratitude. People are just people. We are all trying to get by with our hand. Your perception is obviously tainted, and needs a good cleansing. I think reaching out to people, despite your trust in them, will do you much good.

@Syrex: That suuucckks man. Do you have a job? How bad is the damage?

Kishijoten October 10th, 2009 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Vendak (Post 5198017)

Multiple 'crushes' = bad.
All this indicates is that it's nothing more than infatuation. Ask yourself, do you truly like these guys? Because it seems that you don't really know them on a personal level and you're basing these 'crushes' on trivial things.
In what way is this guy "better" than the last one?
That doesn't really tell you anything, he could've picked you out for a number of reasons.
It isn't something that's very personal; so it shouldn't be too embarrassing to just ask him why he chose you?

*sigh* I can't just ask why. He chose me done and done. Like wise I know him for so long so maybe I should well NOT throw him overboard for someone who I barly know.

Chesu October 10th, 2009 10:59 PM

Does anyone know a way to keep yourself from dwelling on the past? Several times every day, I see, hear or think something that in some way reminds me of a past event that I regret. I'm able to put it out of my mind after a few minutes, but it happens so often that the number of triggers for it is on the rise. There's one major regretful memory, but there are also a lot that are just kind of embarrassing and annoying. For some reason, I just can't stop thinking of these things.

poopnoodle October 10th, 2009 11:08 PM

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Does anyone know a way to keep yourself from dwelling on the past? Several times every day, I see, hear or think something that in some way reminds me of a past event that I regret. I'm able to put it out of my mind after a few minutes, but it happens so often that the number of triggers for it is on the rise. There's one major regretful memory, but there are also a lot that are just kind of embarrassing and annoying. For some reason, I just can't stop thinking of these things.
There are memories that tend to sneak into my thoughts randomly, but I just force myself to be okay with it. If it was an embarrassing situation, I tell myself that I'm human and hope that the people who witnessed the moment don't think about it as much as I do. And if they do, what can you do? I doubt they don't experience embarrassing situations themselves. As for the more painful memories, I just make myself move on. You can't really prevent these memories from entering your mind, they did happen, and the most you can do is accept it and/or use the memories as a lesson.

st.jimmy October 11th, 2009 12:49 AM

if any of you read my last post here you'll be glad to know i finally got a girlfriend! :)
*off-topic sorrry*

Vigilante October 11th, 2009 7:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Chesu (Post 5206258)
Does anyone know a way to keep yourself from dwelling on the past? Several times every day, I see, hear or think something that in some way reminds me of a past event that I regret. I'm able to put it out of my mind after a few minutes, but it happens so often that the number of triggers for it is on the rise. There's one major regretful memory, but there are also a lot that are just kind of embarrassing and annoying. For some reason, I just can't stop thinking of these things.

I didn't write this, I just agree with it.
In my case I had to learn to forgive. Whether it was me or others it was still the same answer. I can't say I have forgotten all but I have managed to forgive most. This is not meant to be a religious answer, just that which I had to do to move on in my life. Forgiving myself was actually harder than forgiving others ever was. (and I had a lot to forgive others for) I will never completely forget the pain I and so many others have caused me but I was able to forgive. After all if anyone knows we are all human and all capable of great evil as well as great good it is me.

Develop an optimistic approach toward life. What has happened has happened. We cannot change the past, we can learn from it and try not to make the same mistakes. We can accept that all people are human and therefore will make mistakes. We cannot control others or how they treat us; however we can control how we react. As well we can choose not to deal with individuals that cause us pain.



Now for my problem:
I'm am unhealthy. I weigh 87 pounds and have around 6% body fat or something like that. It is actually really horrible, I mean you can see nearly all of my ribcage. It is rather disgusting. I have a horrible diet, mainly because I don't know what a good diet would consists. I guess eat fruits and vegetables and cut back on bad foods, but what foods? What should/shouldn't I eat?

I run out of breath quickly, and am barely able to lift things that are probably like twenty pounds. I am nearly always tied/lacking sleep which I know because of the black rings/bags around my eyes, which go away if I get good sleep, but I really just can't. I can't get to sleep when I want to, my body just isn't ready for it. I stay awake for a few hours after I have gone off to bed. I will then most likely wake up around 2-3 in the morning. (Falling asleep around 11-12 and going to bed around 9-9:30 ) I also don't have pills or anything of the sort to help me sleep, and they wouldn't be readily available if I ever wanted them. (I am only 13)

beauty. proletariat October 11th, 2009 7:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Meneur d'enfer (Post 5210331)
I didn't write this, I just agree with it.
In my case I had to learn to forgive. Whether it was me or others it was still the same answer. I can't say I have forgotten all but I have managed to forgive most. This is not meant to be a religious answer, just that which I had to do to move on in my life. Forgiving myself was actually harder than forgiving others ever was. (and I had a lot to forgive others for) I will never completely forget the pain I and so many others have caused me but I was able to forgive. After all if anyone knows we are all human and all capable of great evil as well as great good it is me.

Develop an optimistic approach toward life. What has happened has happened. We cannot change the past, we can learn from it and try not to make the same mistakes. We can accept that all people are human and therefore will make mistakes. We cannot control others or how they treat us; however we can control how we react. As well we can choose not to deal with individuals that cause us pain.



Now for my problem:
I'm am unhealthy. I weigh 87 pounds and have around 6% body fat or something like that. It is actually really horrible, I mean you can see nearly all of my ribcage. It is rather disgusting. I have a horrible diet, mainly because I don't know what a good diet would consists. I guess eat fruits and vegetables and cut back on bad foods, but what foods? What should/shouldn't I eat?

I run out of breath quickly, and am barely able to lift things that are probably like twenty pounds. I am nearly always tied/lacking sleep which I know because of the black rings/bags around my eyes, which go away if I get good sleep, but I really just can't. I can't get to sleep when I want to, my body just isn't ready for it. I stay awake for a few hours after I have gone off to bed. I will then most likely wake up around 2-3 in the morning. (Falling asleep around 11-12 and going to bed around 9-9:30 ) I also don't have pills or anything of the sort to help me sleep, and they wouldn't be readily available if I ever wanted them. (I am only 13)

I suggest you wake up extra early and go for a morning run. eat a really good breakfast at around 6 or 7 am. That should keep your energy going until around 12 - 1 pm were you should eat muesli bars, yoghurt, and fruits at school. At around 3 - 5 pm just snack on healthy food. You may want to eat alot of low GI food especially at around 3 pm so that you have energy to get through the sluggish second half of the day. Eat dinner at 7 pm. No later. Seriously. Also, keep a bed time of 9 pm. I know you dont like it, but you have to sleep early at this age. I'm struggling to keep my bed time of around 10 pm >.> but hey, you gotta keep at it.

Can you walk to school? Walk. Do some exercises at home such as yoga or muscle strengthening stretches. DONT go gym yet. Do lots of cardio.

Vigilante October 11th, 2009 7:19 PM

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Originally Posted by beauty. proletariat (Post 5210377)
I suggest you wake up extra early and go for a morning run. eat a really good breakfast at around 6 or 7 am. That should keep your energy going until around 12 - 1 pm were you should eat muesli bars, yoghurt, and fruits at school. At around 3 - 5 pm just snack on healthy food. You may want to eat alot of low GI food especially at around 3 pm so that you have energy to get through the sluggish second half of the day. Eat dinner at 7 pm. No later. Seriously. Also, keep a bed time of 9 pm. I know you dont like it, but you have to sleep early at this age. I'm struggling to keep my bed time of around 10 pm >.> but hey, you gotta keep at it.

Can you walk to school? Walk. Do some exercises at home such as yoga or muscle strengthening stretches. DONT go gym yet. Do lots of cardio.

What classifies a breakfast as a good one? I could walk to school, but that would require me to get less sleep as I would have to wake-up earlier, get ready and leave earlier. I live a fair distance from it. A morning run? It would be rather hard with my mom and all.

poopnoodle October 11th, 2009 7:41 PM

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What classifies a breakfast as a good one? I could walk to school, but that would require me to get less sleep as I would have to wake-up earlier, get ready and leave earlier. I live a fair distance from it. A morning run? It would be rather hard with my mom and all.
You sound like you need a lot of fiber and protein. Fruits, yogurts, granola, and toast are all pretty good choices to start off your day.
You can calculate your BMI here, which should help you determine how much you need to exercise and what you need to be eating. You should also consider taking multi-vitamins.
It might be hard to find time to exercise and it may be a little less convenient to pick healthy foods to eat, but it's certainly worth it. I suggest you make yourself a schedule once you've established how much you should be exercising and what you should be eating.

An additional site that should aid you in forming healthier eating habits: here

bna_li October 11th, 2009 8:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Meneur d'enfer (Post 5210399)
What classifies a breakfast as a good one? I could walk to school, but that would require me to get less sleep as I would have to wake-up earlier, get ready and leave earlier. I live a fair distance from it. A morning run? It would be rather hard with my mom and all.

Well, Meneur d'enfer.

Generally, a good breakfast is a big one. It is the first meal of the day, so you need a bigger portion for more energy. However, this doesn't mean you should stuff yourself with chips. Eat some fruits, or oats, or something like that.

Have you ever considered going to a physician to see what your problem is? I'm not sure what you mean by "horrible diet," can you clarify?

Vigilante October 12th, 2009 1:58 PM

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I'm not sure what you mean by "horrible diet," can you clarify?
Lots of non healthy foods, and tons of sweets.

Anyways, I have another problem.

I need to figure out how someone gets the number off this graphy thing:
123
456
789
Someone chooses a number, then a person who was outside comes inside and guesses it. The teacher will point to a number or two or sometimes even three, that will be no. Then another that will be yes, or he will ask what the number is. I want to know what he does that signals the number. Btw, he points at it with a pointy stick. Help please?

Charizard★ October 12th, 2009 2:26 PM

My Heart is in Ruins
 
My heart feels like its missing something. I gave my all for this one girl and she crushed it like it was a bug. It is taking a toll on how I feel right now. I dont really want to do anything. Any help on making this feeling going away?

Vigilante October 12th, 2009 4:36 PM

Well, the best thing you can do is:

Move on.

Develop an optimistic approach toward life. What has happened has happened. We cannot change the past, we can learn from it and try not to make the same mistakes. We can accept that all people are human and therefore will make mistakes. We cannot control others or how they treat us; however we can control how we react. As well we can choose not to deal with individuals that cause us pain.

Really, just move on and forget about her.

The Confuzzler October 14th, 2009 8:53 AM

Ugh. My friend just completely misused my trust in him, To the extent of a physical fight.

You see, i am a very shy person. i don't tell my secrets, or who i'm crushing on. However, i thought, cause he's a good person, why don't i tell him who i'm crushing on?

It was fine, he kept it a secret, until a few days ago. He blurted it outside, in front of my crush. And she's a really good friend of mine. And i didn't want to lose her as that.

But i've not talked to her for days, and have no idea what's she's feeling, and better yet, i told my friend's gf that he's two timing her - which he is -

Help please? I know im a bit too young, but still..

SailorMuffins October 14th, 2009 6:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by >> Quilava Blaze << (Post 5218848)
Ugh. My friend just completely misused my trust in him, To the extent of a physical fight.

You see, i am a very shy person. i don't tell my secrets, or who i'm crushing on. However, i thought, cause he's a good person, why don't i tell him who i'm crushing on?

It was fine, he kept it a secret, until a few days ago. He blurted it outside, in front of my crush. And she's a really good friend of mine. And i didn't want to lose her as that.

But i've not talked to her for days, and have no idea what's she's feeling, and better yet, i told my friend's gf that he's two timing her - which he is -

Help please? I know im a bit too young, but still..

O_O He's two timing her at his age?! Anyway, telling his girlfriend that is a big no-no in my opinion. I say let the poor thing find out on her own. Otherwise, you just opened a can of worms on yourself.

I would say it was not his place to blurt, but perhaps its best out in the open now. If she is really your friend, she will come to terms with it and tell you how she really feels, whether that is good or bad. Trust me, if she's any kind of good friend you two will laugh at this years later. And for him? Two timers never make it in the real world. Try not to worry so much. ;)

Charizard★ October 16th, 2009 7:41 PM

umm......I was talking to this girl that Ilike, and I gave her my phonenumber, and she gave me hers. I told her to call me, and she said no call me. And then we had a convo and it sounded out like we were connecting.

Would that mean she is kinda intrested in me?

Her October 16th, 2009 9:39 PM

I wouldn't base it on one phone call, no. It sounds like you two have just started talking so just continue like that for a few more phone calls and we'll see what happens.

...but the first phone call? O.o;

Nick October 16th, 2009 10:35 PM

Connecting can mean a lot of things, percentage%. It really depends on how she acts around you off the phone. If you notice things about her behavior that don't seem like her when she isn't around you, chances are she's interested, but I wouldn't jump the gun too quickly because that could prove to be a wrong decision. Things like simple crushes where someone falls for someone else and doesn't know how they feel in return are often very difficult, but if you can pinpoint if she likes you or not on her behavior around you, then you shouldn't have a problem. How she presents herself and speaks to you is important as well.

The only way you could be able to tell if she's interested in the phone is how she talks, how she laughs, does she laugh at all? These seem to be important things to look for on phone calls that could make it worth your while and give you that hint of whether or not she likes you. If you're willing to risk something and maybe crack a corny joke that typically people wouldn't laugh over and she laughs over it... chances are there is something there in her mind. Unless she has a very poor sense of humor or something.

A big role in this also depends on the personality she has. Things are different for everyone and since everyone has a personality, that only makes it that more difficult to detect emotions. Especially if you think someone likes you. One way to find out if she likes you or not is to ask her friends. Seeing as how most girls around the teenage years tell their friends absolutely everything about who they like and everything, they'd likely tell you if she's interested or not. But there's always a chance their friends may not be too keen on you two starting a relationship if she does and all that.

So yeah, there are ways of telling but I'd suggest waiting until you know for sure to do anything that may come to haunt your decision. Get to know her. Get to know her friends. Get to know her quirks and get to know how she acts in public vs. how she acts when she's around you. If she acts differently around you than she does when you're not there, I'd say there's a likely chance that she's fallen for you just how you've fallen for her. But, like Chris said, I wouldn't go off on one phone call and jump to conclusions like that. After all, it's a phone call and in most cases, a lot of people act differently over the phone and she could be the type of girl who prefer talking on the phone and can do it for hours and naturally "connect" with anyone she talks to.

Just watch for signs in her behavior, how she presents herself towards you, the way she talks and things like that. Don't forget to put her personality into consideration, too, when you do try to look for signs that she may or may not be dropping. In the end, there's really no sure fire way to know unless you take the chance to go for it or ask her directly.

Charizard★ October 17th, 2009 6:32 AM

It was through facebook hahahhaha lol

Zet October 17th, 2009 3:31 PM

The man is supposed to call the girl.

Alpha`s Arceus. October 17th, 2009 3:34 PM

My problem,Luck keeps bothering me!

Zet October 17th, 2009 4:18 PM

That's not really much of a big problem, just ignore Luck

Caina October 18th, 2009 7:48 AM

..Uhm, hey there guys..
I really got this problem that makes me want to quit school. Anyway..

Have you tried explaining your side to people who won't even try to understand?
I always understand, in fact, I gained a lot of friends for I never judge a person without understanding them.
But they're different when they treated me, but I never did something to them, they just label that what I did was " bad and unforgivable "
and I really got shocked about it. The next day, as I entered our room, eyes that pierces my very heart, they stared at me
with malicious kind of thinking. I am afraid.

One of them talked to me, and I explained what happened. You know what he/she said? ( covering the gender )

" Bah! just shut up will you, I don't care about you anymore! " ...

that was my best friend. :(
and now rumors spreading, things I really dislike, many of my classmates are avoiding me,
I'm afraid to loose them all, I love all of my classmates, I treasure each,
but hell, I got misjudged... I just told my best friend.

" You know, I'll always understand... and I'll understand why you're acting like that, but please, for my sake,
... will you do the same...? "

and he/she just repeated the same thing. " I don't care "

then I got a text message from one of my close friends,
and my god, he/she was also furious about me,

I'm afraid I'm losing my touch in going to school.
But I feel a little relieved that I found somebody to talk to, I told everything,
and he/she just said,

" You know, you belong to us, but the question is, do we belong to you? "
I never answered him/her. I just said, I need to think for a while.

But now, everything seems to be so damn cold. The atmosphere of my classmates becomes icy cold.
I feel really depressed. Is it right for me to just always understand? Is it right for me to let them think what they want to think?

Is it right for me to just lay down and let them stomp me with their harsh words?
Please, I really need help. Or am I just being too affected?
Will they soon understand? Or am I the one who will let them understand again?
Is it right for me to feel this way? To be mad at the same time denying my anger because they're my friends?

I really don't know, I'm so confused!
Please, I beg you guys, I really need help...

Thank you for reading...

allibah October 18th, 2009 8:07 AM

my problem is...
im almost out of pokemon candy :p
otherwise im fiine.

Samme! October 18th, 2009 8:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by allibah (Post 5234521)
my problem is...
im almost out of pokemon candy :p
otherwise im fiine.

Well, I've never heard of Pokémon Candy before... so, I suggest that you go back to wherever you obtained this and get more. Or order some online from a reliable retailer.

Cheesymitten October 18th, 2009 8:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by allibah (Post 5234521)
my problem is...
im almost out of pokemon candy :p
otherwise im fiine.

I suggest that you go over to the DPP section or whatever version of the game you are using and "post your problem" there

Zet October 18th, 2009 6:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Caina (Post 5234446)
Spoiler:
..Uhm, hey there guys..
I really got this problem that makes me want to quit school. Anyway..

Have you tried explaining your side to people who won't even try to understand?
I always understand, in fact, I gained a lot of friends for I never judge a person without understanding them.
But they're different when they treated me, but I never did something to them, they just label that what I did was " bad and unforgivable "
and I really got shocked about it. The next day, as I entered our room, eyes that pierces my very heart, they stared at me
with malicious kind of thinking. I am afraid.

One of them talked to me, and I explained what happened. You know what he/she said? ( covering the gender )

" Bah! just shut up will you, I don't care about you anymore! " ...

that was my best friend. :(
and now rumors spreading, things I really dislike, many of my classmates are avoiding me,
I'm afraid to loose them all, I love all of my classmates, I treasure each,
but hell, I got misjudged... I just told my best friend.

" You know, I'll always understand... and I'll understand why you're acting like that, but please, for my sake,
... will you do the same...? "

and he/she just repeated the same thing. " I don't care "

then I got a text message from one of my close friends,
and my god, he/she was also furious about me,

I'm afraid I'm losing my touch in going to school.
But I feel a little relieved that I found somebody to talk to, I told everything,
and he/she just said,

" You know, you belong to us, but the question is, do we belong to you? "
I never answered him/her. I just said, I need to think for a while.

But now, everything seems to be so damn cold. The atmosphere of my classmates becomes icy cold.
I feel really depressed. Is it right for me to just always understand? Is it right for me to let them think what they want to think?

Is it right for me to just lay down and let them stomp me with their harsh words?
Please, I really need help. Or am I just being too affected?
Will they soon understand? Or am I the one who will let them understand again?
Is it right for me to feel this way? To be mad at the same time denying my anger because they're my friends?

I really don't know, I'm so confused!
Please, I beg you guys, I really need help...

Thank you for reading...

So what exactly do people think you did?


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