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Rockéttes November 8th, 2008 5:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Visual (Post 4104958)
Theres this girl that likes me, I know cause alot of people told me and she told them, plus theyre are trustable, and I think I like her too, but she never talks to me anymore, and acts as if she hates me, plus shes trying to avoid me.

What do I do.

Typical. ;3
Having had much experience with this sort of thing, the best thing for you to do would be to just ignore the immaturity. 'Cause, I mean' let's face it. That's exactly what she's doing; being immature.

Next time she's 'mean' to you, just act... well, normal. Try to hold a decent conversation with her, and ignore anything out of the ordinary. I don't mean to sound like I know everything, 'cause I most certainly don't, but chances are, she's treating you like this because she doesn't know how she's suppose to act around you. Why? I have no clue, but that's the most logical explanation I can come up with.

As I've already said, just talk to her. Don't feed in to her little games; sooner or later she'll learn that it's alright to talk to you normally, and she'll learn to be herself around you. (hopefully)

Mr. Curling Iron November 10th, 2008 10:25 PM

Me. Girlfriend (reffer to as Shristi). Her Mum.

Typical... Right?

There just isnt a typical solution ;_;


Ok it goes like this: Her mum used to like me and she knew that Shristi liked me, and I liked her.

Something happened... I dont know, and for the past few weeks her mum has disliked me.. ALOT.
Shristi was given two choices, Talk to me and not her mum, or talk to her mum and not me... >.> and we've been talking secretly.

Later on, I asked her to be my GF and she aggreed, and after that Her mum went nepal for a while. Now, her Mum's back, and we can hardly talk during our normal times... and I want her mum to know about me and her being a couple, but shes scared her mum'll "kill" her.

We've talked about it quite a bit... and she just ends the topic by saying "Nah dw. You wont understand between me and my mum..."

Now, I'm desperate to tell her mum and get her "approval" (so-to-speak)... So I'm thinking about going to her place on friday and telling her Mum everything... And bending the truth to make it look like shristis confused and she wants to tell her but shes scared.

I know this might backfire... so I want to know what you people think about this... and maybe if there is a different solution thats less risky.


PS: On friday I'll have my School Certificate Computing test and school ends at 11:30 AM or so. Then I'll get to her place at around 12PM/1PM. (1 Hour by train >.>)

jasonresno November 10th, 2008 10:38 PM

When I get really hot, I get grumpy :(

Phixum November 10th, 2008 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr. Hair Straightener (Post 4113145)
Me. Girlfriend (reffer to as Shristi). Her Mum.

Typical... Right?

There just isnt a typical solution ;_;


Ok it goes like this: Her mum used to like me and she knew that Shristi liked me, and I liked her.

Something happened... I dont know, and for the past few weeks her mum has disliked me.. ALOT.
Shristi was given two choices, Talk to me and not her mum, or talk to her mum and not me... >.> and we've been talking secretly.

Later on, I asked her to be my GF and she aggreed, and after that Her mum went nepal for a while. Now, her Mum's back, and we can hardly talk during our normal times... and I want her mum to know about me and her being a couple, but shes scared her mum'll "kill" her.

We've talked about it quite a bit... and she just ends the topic by saying "Nah dw. You wont understand between me and my mum..."

Now, I'm desperate to tell her mum and get her "approval" (so-to-speak)... So I'm thinking about going to her place on friday and telling her Mum everything... And bending the truth to make it look like shristis confused and she wants to tell her but shes scared.

I know this might backfire... so I want to know what you people think about this... and maybe if there is a different solution thats less risky.


PS: On friday I'll have my School Certificate Computing test and school ends at 11:30 AM or so. Then I'll get to her place at around 12PM/1PM. (1 Hour by train >.>)

Argh! Crap! I wrote you a whole repsonse but I somehow deleted it >_> I'll write it all again I guess.

I think you should tell her, and here's why. Consider the possibility of her finding out that you guys are dating without her knowledge. I mean she'll eventually find out. And when she does, she'll even dislike you more, and things will get more complex. So how should you act? Here's my opinion:

Go to her and start your conversation with recognition that you are aware of the bad impression you gave her. Then tell her that you're dating her daughter. Tell her "Your daughter and I have talked, and we both agreed that we let you know about what we're doing. You're her mother, and I think it would be disrespectful for me to date your daughter secretly behind your back. After all, you're her mother."

First, she might react negatively to you. However, I believe that once she digests your speech, she'll realize what a great guy you are -- a person who has respect to your partner's parents, a mature and honest guy.

Be prepared for it to backfire though. However, I believe it is better than having a secretive relationship in all circumstances.

EDIT: omg, you're a female. That's funny, because I pressumed you're a male xD that doesn't change the content though; the only thing that will change in my post is the pronouns ;p

Mr. Curling Iron November 10th, 2008 11:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Phixum (Post 4113167)
Argh! Crap! I wrote you a whole repsonse but I somehow deleted it >_> I'll write it all again I guess.

I think you should tell her, and here's why. Consider the possibility of her finding out that you guys are dating without her knowledge. I mean she'll eventually find out. And when she does, she'll even dislike you more, and things will get more complex. So how should you act? Here's my opinion:

Go to her and start your conversation with recognition that you are aware of the bad impression you gave her. Then tell her that you're dating her daughter. Tell her "Your daughter and I have talked, and we both agreed that we let you know about what we're doing. You're her mother, and I think it would be disrespectful for me to date your daughter secretly behind your back. After all, you're her mother."

First, she might react negatively to you. However, I believe that once she digests your speech, she'll realize what a great guy you are -- a person who has respect to your partner's parents, a mature and honest guy.

Be prepared for it to backfire though. However, I believe it is better than having a secretive relationship in all circumstances.

EDIT: omg, you're a female. That's funny, because I pressumed you're a male xD that doesn't change the content though; the only thing that will change in my post is the pronouns ;p


Hehe. DW mate ;) I'm actually a guy >.>

Anyway, I'd do that, but the only problem I see in it is that I'm scared that if it does backfire, then then Shristi'll get really mad at me and we might have huge problems which I'd rather avoid ><

Phixum November 10th, 2008 11:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr. Hair Straightener (Post 4113216)
Hehe. DW mate ;) I'm actually a guy >.>

Anyway, I'd do that, but the only problem I see in it is that I'm scared that if it does backfire, then then Shristi'll get really mad at me and we might have huge problems which I'd rather avoid ><

Then get permission from her. Tell her you want to do this. Explain the situation to her. I think she should understand =)

Mr. Curling Iron November 11th, 2008 12:25 AM

XD I wish that would work :( I told her that a while ago ;_;

She declined ;_;

So i need a foolproof thing that I can do without her consent because I know she wont be that mad if I do it without her consent... but it works out...

Rockéttes November 11th, 2008 1:23 AM

First of all, you need to convince Shristi that it's all right to speak to her mother about it. I know, I know; you've already tried, and you seem to be getting no where, but you're never going to be able to convince Shristi's mother if you can't even convince Shristi. Tell her how unfair you think it is that you're forced to commit such a disrespectful act towards her mother just because she's afraid to speak to her. Yes, try to put her on a guilt trip. As much as it may hurt; if she feels the same way for you as you feel for her, how do you think she's going to react when she thinks she's hurting you?

Anyway, once/if you convince Shristi, the best thing to do in my opinion would be to get her to speak to her mother, or at least go together. I'm sure her mother loves her, and won't make that big a deal out of you two going out if that's what Shristi really wants.

And y'know what? Maybe her mother doesn't even have anything against you. Maybe it's just the idea of her daughter dating. Ask her that, too; ask her what she has against you, and what you've ever done to deserve her disrespect. Maybe she heard a false rumor about you? What better time to prove it wrong than right then, eh?

Anyway, I know it may seem a lot more complicated than this, and it probably it. All I'm saying is, with the details you've provided, this is what I'd do. Everyone's different, though.

DarkPrince_ November 12th, 2008 5:21 PM

Weird Dream...
 
Okay there is this girl I really like. So last night I had a dream about her and me. She handed me a note and I did not read it. Then we were almost about to kiss then I woke up....is there something going on that I don't know about....is it possible for her to have the same dreams as me....whats going on.....

Vernikova November 12th, 2008 5:50 PM

It's a dream. You like the girl. I wish you the best with your "bagging" of her.

Glossary:
Bagging- Getting the girl.(Verb. Origin: The Hood.) XD

DarkPrince_ November 12th, 2008 6:08 PM

Thanks for the hope. I hope she likes me too though.

Vernikova November 12th, 2008 6:19 PM

There isn't a doubt in the world if you play your cards right. If you know what I mean.;)*shooted*

Chibi-chan November 12th, 2008 6:24 PM

Eh....I wouldn't really go on what dreams tell you...
Anyone can have a dream of passing a note to Britney Spears, doesn't mean anything except you're thinking about her.

Btw, moving this to Post your problems~

Vernikova November 12th, 2008 6:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Chibi-chan (Post 4117384)
Eh....I wouldn't really go on what dreams tell you...
Anyone can have a dream of passing a note to Britney Spears, doesn't mean anything except you're thinking about her.

You act as though Britney Spears is predictable all of a sudden. XD

I still say go for it. [cheap line]Believe in yourself! If you try hard enough, you can do anything![/end]

Phixum November 15th, 2008 8:14 AM

This is a very classic problem, at least to me. Although I'm not LOOKING for a solution, merely talking about it makes me feel better ^_^

I've just broken up with my gf and I'm having an emotional gap ._. I feel I want to date someone, but I know that I shouldn't date in this condition, feeling that way.

helix November 16th, 2008 4:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Phixum (Post 4123252)
This is a very classic problem, at least to me. Although I'm not LOOKING for a solution, merely talking about it makes me feel better ^_^

I've just broken up with my gf and I'm having an emotional gap ._. I feel I want to date someone, but I know that I shouldn't date in this condition, feeling that way.

Occupy yourself with other things. Just point it out to yourself- you're single now, you don't need to go out with anybody for a while. It's okay to still think about her in small amounts, just slowly take her off your mind day by day. Enjoy your new single-ness, go out shopping alone or with friends, and have some 'me' time. Being single is pretty fun too =). Wish you well in getting over her.

Saltare. November 16th, 2008 7:27 PM

My Problem:


I just broke up with my bf Jarred. He still calls me 25 times a day, but that isnt my problem(well it kind of is...). Here's the real deal. There is this kid Shayne that lives in my neighborhood, rides my bus, and goes to my school. I think it is really weird. Listen to this:

He was born in-New York
I was born in-New York
He was born on-April 16, 1996
I was born on-April 17, 1996

We can both only wear 14 karat gold earings.

Here is how it all started....

At home

He moved to NC in my neighborhood this Summer. We went to the pool one day, and he was there. I didn't know who he was, but I thought he was kinda cute. So, me and my friend, Ashley, go in the pool while our dads cook. We do our little handstands and flips and stuff. And Shayne copies us(well, me at least).


We have been going every few days, and we start becoming friends. And both our dads have stuff in common, and so do Shayne and I. He kicks me in the pool and punches me and tackles me. But he doesn't try and hurt me. But one day, he kicked me in my stomach by my ribs and it hurt really bad. He left a bruise and when he saw, he said he was sorry, but kept hitting me. He'd also throw rubber bands at me too.


At school....

At Open House at LMS, I saw him and his dad walking around(Shayne also wears glasses, but he looks good in em.). And in the hallways, he pushes me and hits me with his binder. But Friday on the bus, he was real sweet, even thought he was rude inside school.


Now, the rest of my problem. I don't know if he likes me. I kind of like him, but, my friend likes him too. She says she doesn't but I can tell. And durring math class one day, Shayne's friend Ethan asks me"Do you like Shayne?" And I go "Shayne who?" Cause I know a lot of Shaynes'. And he asks over and over. And I finally say "Why?" And Ethan goes "Well he likes you." So, that kinda tiped me off on the bus. Also, his friend Gage, when he talks to me, he talks about Shayne and brags about him. Please help!

Vanilla Kitsune November 16th, 2008 7:28 PM

Uggh. A friend did something really bad to me about 2 months ago. I'm feeling shameful for what happened to me, and a little guilty. Anyone have any ideas how to make this go away? =/

Zet November 16th, 2008 7:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Dark_Aero (Post 4127821)
My Problem:

I just broke up with my bf Jarred. He still calls me 25 times a day, but that isnt my problem(well it kind of is...). Here's the real deal. There is this kid Shayne that lives in my neighborhood, rides my bus, and goes to my school. I think it is really weird. Listen to this:

He was born in-New York
I was born in-New York
He was born on-April 16, 1996
I was born on-April 17, 1996

We can both only wear 14 karat gold earings.

Here is how it all started....

At home

He moved to NC in my neighborhood this Summer. We went to the pool one day, and he was there. I didn't know who he was, but I thought he was kinda cute. So, me and my friend, Ashley, go in the pool while our dads cook. We do our little handstands and flips and stuff. And Shayne copies us(well, me at least).


We have been going every few days, and we start becoming friends. And both our dads have stuff in common, and so do Shayne and I. He kicks me in the pool and punches me and tackles me. But he doesn't try and hurt me. But one day, he kicked me in my stomach by my ribs and it hurt really bad. He left a bruise and when he saw, he said he was sorry, but kept hitting me. He'd also throw rubber bands at me too.


At school....

At Open House at LMS, I saw him and his dad walking around(Shayne also wears glasses, but he looks good in em.). And in the hallways, he pushes me and hits me with his binder. But Friday on the bus, he was real sweet, even thought he was rude inside school.


Now, the rest of my problem. I don't know if he likes me. I kind of like him, but, my friend likes him too. She says she doesn't but I can tell. And durring math class one day, Shayne's friend Ethan asks me"Do you like Shayne?" And I go "Shayne who?" Cause I know a lot of Shaynes'. And he asks over and over. And I finally say "Why?" And Ethan goes "Well he likes you." So, that kinda tiped me off on the bus. Also, his friend Gage, when he talks to me, he talks about Shayne and brags about him. Please help!

tell Jarred you'll put a restraining order on him if he keeps calling you 25 times a day, and as with the shayne thing, he sounds like a bad seed if he keeps hitting you, and well I guess if you want to be with him you should let him ask you out but if you feel like your friend would be better with him, try and convince him to go for your friend

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Originally Posted by Vanilla Kitsune (Post 4127822)
Uggh. A friend did something really bad to me about 2 months ago. I'm feeling shameful for what happened to me, and a little guilty. Anyone have any ideas how to make this go away? =/

well since I don't really know what happened by all I can say is "things go away over time if you wait" I know it's not really helpful but it will go away eventually, though I really do wish I could be more helpful

Aurafire November 16th, 2008 7:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dark_Aero (Post 4127821)
My Problem:


I just broke up with my bf Jarred. He still calls me 25 times a day, but that isnt my problem(well it kind of is...). Here's the real deal. There is this kid Shayne that lives in my neighborhood, rides my bus, and goes to my school. I think it is really weird. Listen to this:

He was born in-New York
I was born in-New York
He was born on-April 16, 1996
I was born on-April 17, 1996

We can both only wear 14 karat gold earings.

Here is how it all started....

At home

He moved to NC in my neighborhood this Summer. We went to the pool one day, and he was there. I didn't know who he was, but I thought he was kinda cute. So, me and my friend, Ashley, go in the pool while our dads cook. We do our little handstands and flips and stuff. And Shayne copies us(well, me at least).


We have been going every few days, and we start becoming friends. And both our dads have stuff in common, and so do Shayne and I. He kicks me in the pool and punches me and tackles me. But he doesn't try and hurt me. But one day, he kicked me in my stomach by my ribs and it hurt really bad. He left a bruise and when he saw, he said he was sorry, but kept hitting me. He'd also throw rubber bands at me too.


At school....

At Open House at LMS, I saw him and his dad walking around(Shayne also wears glasses, but he looks good in em.). And in the hallways, he pushes me and hits me with his binder. But Friday on the bus, he was real sweet, even thought he was rude inside school.


Now, the rest of my problem. I don't know if he likes me. I kind of like him, but, my friend likes him too. She says she doesn't but I can tell. And durring math class one day, Shayne's friend Ethan asks me"Do you like Shayne?" And I go "Shayne who?" Cause I know a lot of Shaynes'. And he asks over and over. And I finally say "Why?" And Ethan goes "Well he likes you." So, that kinda tiped me off on the bus. Also, his friend Gage, when he talks to me, he talks about Shayne and brags about him. Please help!

Well it's clear how he feels...Any guy who takes that much time out of his day to jokingly harass you obviously has a thing for you. It sounds like he's kinda going over-board though O.O...I hope your ribs are ok.

Why don't you talk to your friend about it first and see how she feels, then you can go from there and talk to him if you like. If it works out, that's wonderful. But seriously, you're 12 years old, and you have plenty of time to get into the whole dating scene. My advice would be to just have fun and don't get into anything too serious. Trust me...you'll have plenty of opportunities in the future to date people. ^_^

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Originally Posted by Vanilla Kitsune (Post 4127822)
Uggh. A friend did something really bad to me about 2 months ago. I'm feeling shameful for what happened to me, and a little guilty. Anyone have any ideas how to make this go away? =/

It really depends on what your friend did to you. I'd love to try to help, but I can't really do so without any information. I hope it wasn't anything too serious. Just make sure you're not feeling guilty for something that wasn't your fault. I've been there-done that, and it's not fun =/

Saltare. November 16th, 2008 7:54 PM

lol Aurafire that's what my mom said. Well, my friend is a cheerleader and is more concerned with her dances and songs to deal with boys. And she hates Shayne(coz she weighs more than him o.0).


And I'm fine. It just hurt a bit. And left a bruise.....


Quote:

Uggh. A friend did something really bad to me about 2 months ago. I'm feeling shameful for what happened to me, and a little guilty. Anyone have any ideas how to make this go away? =/

I don't understand, but I'll try and help.

WHat happened that made you feel this way? Try talking to your friend. And if it was that bad, then he/she isn't a real friend

Vanilla Kitsune November 17th, 2008 3:05 AM

To reply to all the post, it's not really something I'm comfortable talking with right now. And it's not really something to say on a Pokemon forum where kids go.

Zet November 17th, 2008 3:38 AM

well if you ever do feel like talking send me a PM and I'll give you my msn handle

Emii November 20th, 2008 7:12 PM

Ok, I'm really REALLY scared. I live on a college campus, in a house directly across the street from the dorms. There's this guy that my dad (my dad's a teacher here) knows, and ever since I met him, he creeped me out. He's much older than most college students, and he always acts so out of it.. anyway, about a week or 2 ago, my mom and I gave him a ride to the dorms from across the campus. I felt like he was staring at me the whole time, and the whole time I walked into my house. (since he lives across the street) and he KNOWS where I live. so earlier tonight, he came to the door, and my dad said he was acting really weird.. asking for money, and asking if he could sleep in our garage, or inside our house. and apparently it took my dad a long time to make him leave. so.. I'm really scared he'll eventually try to break in and do horrible things.. if you know what I mean. >_<

Zet November 20th, 2008 7:25 PM

you can probably ask the police to check around the neighbor hood a few times in the night/day to see if he's up to anything

Kenshin5 November 20th, 2008 8:13 PM

I really dont think there is anything the police could do.You could tell them I think this man is under the influence and he might do something he regrets or have the campus do a back round check on this guy.Or you could keep a close watch and be aware of your surroundings.

Rockéttes November 21st, 2008 3:11 AM

Or you could... y'know, lock your doors and get an alarm. o_o'

Don't spend the rest of your life scared of this one guy; he might not even be up to anything! I mean, if he scares you that much, sleep with a knife! Just don't jump to conclusions before you know the whole story. Maybe he's... I dunno, really poor or something? xD;

Tell your dad how you feel; maybe he can talk to him for you.

Emii November 21st, 2008 8:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Rockets (Post 4135919)
Or you could... y'know, lock your doors and get an alarm. o_o'

Don't spend the rest of your life scared of this one guy; he might not even be up to anything! I mean, if he scares you that much, sleep with a knife! Just don't jump to conclusions before you know the whole story. Maybe he's... I dunno, really poor or something? xD;

Tell your dad how you feel; maybe he can talk to him for you.

lol yeah, we always lock our doors. but my parents are all like "We can't afford an alarm! Besides, we have 2 dogs that bark whenever there's someone at the door!" yeah.. 2 tiny yorkies. they may bark, but I don't think they'd really do anything other than that.

and I did sleep with a pair of scissors last night. yes, scissors. XD the little kid kind, too. Hey, they were all I could find because my mom keeps our sharp knives locked up, so nobody will stab anybody else. but I AM sleeping with one from now on. I mean, being across the street from college students is a risk enough already.. they have lots of drug dealers and stuff, and I'm sure they know that me and my sister live here. They must have seen us enough anyway.

so I told my dad that his friend is a creepy weirdo, and my dad just left to go talk to student support services about him, I guess. Hopefully something good will come of it.

Cherrim November 21st, 2008 8:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Iruka_Sakana (Post 4136233)
lol yeah, we always lock our doors. but my parents are all like "We can't afford an alarm! Besides, we have 2 dogs that bark whenever there's someone at the door!" yeah.. 2 tiny yorkies. they may bark, but I don't think they'd really do anything other than that.

and I did sleep with a pair of scissors last night. yes, scissors. XD the little kid kind, too. Hey, they were all I could find because my mom keeps our sharp knives locked up, so nobody will stab anybody else. but I AM sleeping with one from now on. I mean, being across the street from college students is a risk enough already.. they have lots of drug dealers and stuff, and I'm sure they know that me and my sister live here. They must have seen us enough anyway.

so I told my dad that his friend is a creepy weirdo, and my dad just left to go talk to student support services about him, I guess. Hopefully something good will come of it.

I wouldn't suggest sleeping with a knife or anything of the sort. :| You'd probably be more at risk of hurting yourself in your sleep than of someone coming in to attack you.

To be honest, I think you're being too paranoid. :( It's understandable that you find this guy really creepy, but it's more likely that he has a few problems--maybe alcohol abuse, he's down on his luck (which would explain the begging to sleep in your garage o_O), etc. If he does anything weird that makes you or your family feel uncomfortable, call the police. But I don't think it's any good to let it consume you like this.

Rockéttes November 21st, 2008 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Lightning (Post 4136277)
I wouldn't suggest sleeping with a knife or anything of the sort. :| You'd probably be more at risk of hurting yourself in your sleep than of someone coming in to attack you.

To be honest, I think you're being too paranoid. :( It's understandable that you find this guy really creepy, but it's more likely that he has a few problems--maybe alcohol abuse, he's down on his luck (which would explain the begging to sleep in your garage o_O), etc. If he does anything weird that makes you or your family feel uncomfortable, call the police. But I don't think it's any good to let it consume you like this.

Exactly;

And just because you live across the street from college students, and you happen to be a girl doesn't necessarily mean that they're going to attack you, if anyone.

Don't flatter yourself, hun. XD;

Emii November 21st, 2008 2:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Rockets (Post 4136595)
Exactly;

And just because you live across the street from college students, and you happen to be a girl doesn't necessarily mean that they're going to attack you, if anyone.

Don't flatter yourself, hun. XD;


XD I'm not. I go to this college too after all. but back to the point, it's just that this guy always stares at me. always. we already know that he has problems. in my dad's class the other day, he was acting like he was stringing beads in the air.. but there was no string and no beads. and he talks to himself. and he thinks everyone is out to get him, and he hears voices. he's known my parents for a few months, and told them that, so that's how I know at least that much. So I do understand that he has a few problems. but the police in this town won't do crap for anything. we have security guards on campus who think they are the police. I guess it makes sense though, the campus is a substation. but yeah, they handle everything here. but they really don't care about the welfare of their own students, it's sad.

but I guess I should stop thinking so much about it. I have a baseball bat in my room anyway, I think I'm less likely to hurt myself on accident with that. and anyway, Christmas break starts on the 4th, so he'll be out of state until January 14. So I'll try not to worry much about it, thanks! ^^

Renneh November 22nd, 2008 5:18 AM

Just because someone hears voices etc. doesn't mean they are anymore likely to harm you ^^

They are probably afraid of it all and a bit paranoid themselves..paranoia comes with those symptoms but really most are harmless.

It is probably best for your parents to stay friends with this person...isolating him could make him feel worse, like the world is against him... =( And that is a really rotten feeling to have, trust me.

You are being paranoid ^^ If you feel like having some sort of protection will help you then do so but don't make really extreme assumptions because it will make you fearful for no reason.

moments. November 27th, 2008 1:34 AM

I have an issue which is really knocking me around. Although it doesn't sound like much, it is killing me.
Next year for VCE I have chosen my subjects trying to keep as many options open as I don't know what I am going to do after school is finished.
I am doing some subjects that I do not like or am particularly good at, I am doing them for the sake that if I choose to do something that requires it, I will have it done.
My problem is, do I choose to do subjects I don't really like or am good at and just try and survive it, or do I drop them, do what I love doing and what I am good at but risk missing out on a University course or something later on?
The major one that I am considering dropping is Maths. Without it, I can do another artsy subject which is what I really want to do.
Help?

Phixum November 27th, 2008 5:50 PM

I would say play it safe and take math. It won't last forever, so I understand you will have to take it anyways. The sooner you finish it, the better off you will be.

Cherrim November 27th, 2008 6:18 PM

Depends on what you want to do. If your post-secondary ambitions don't include math in the least (if you plan on going into something arts-based in university, or straight into work where they won't care about higher level math courses) then I'd suggest dropping math and doing what you want, or what will be useful to you. Then later on, if you need a math course, most post-secondary institutions will have beginner courses that don't require previous credits, so those are always an option if you change your mind.

But! Since you say you have no idea, I'm going to suggest you keep math. If you literally have no idea, then you have to keep your options completely open. So take a broad range of subjects and, in that case, math is important. So unless it's really going to hinder you (you're bad at it to the point where it'll really affect your grade average, etc.), then I think you should stick with it even if you don't like it. No sense closing doors if you may need them open.

Kenshin5 November 27th, 2008 6:52 PM

If you dont believe math is necessary for your future career then dont take it.If your not for sure take it.And alot of University are really into ACT scores more then they are if you take a math class.

I Laugh at your Misfortune! November 28th, 2008 2:03 PM

Hey...I'm not sure if this is just a bit trivial, but lately, I've just been feeling really down. No real 'main' reason, I just seem to have stopped caring about life in general. I've kinda just given up...I don't really know what else to say...

jasonresno November 28th, 2008 2:08 PM

My soon-to-be fiance and I began house hunting a few weeks back and found and fell in love with a house. Due to my finding a new job (that pays double my old one) I can easily afford it. I went in to get the pre-approval loan and I'll find out Tuesday if I get it. I'm really worried I might not because of how young I am. But the house is absolutely gorgeous (and for the price it's the best you can find! even nicer than houses double its price) and literally needs no fixing up or repainting. Just move our stuff in.

So I'm really nervous about getting/not getting the loan. Some prayers would be nice.

/Circa November 28th, 2008 2:28 PM

jasonresno: The bank or whoever your getting the loan from usually looks up your options, if they see they you have no chance of repaying it they most likely wont give you a loan. But due to the state your in, new job with high pay, your living in a country where prices will probably drop dramatically and loaners are getting more strict, you have a good chance of getting the loan.

But it does soughta depends, they might not have enough money you see ;).

jasonresno November 28th, 2008 3:17 PM

Thanks for the reply :). On paper there isn't really a reason to not give me the loan other than because I'm young. But I'll let everyone know on Tuesday!

SupaPokeFan December 1st, 2008 8:53 PM

Aliens...and whatnot
 
Okay. I have this really bad fear of aliens. I don't know why. If I even catch a glance at a picture of an alien, I freak out. I start thinking they're out to get me. Ugh...I'm scared right now! *trembling in fear*

I just really need someone to talk to. Anyone, I don't care who. I would go see a therapist, but it's expensive. Anyone out there got a few minutes to help a guy out?

Twinx December 2nd, 2008 4:17 AM

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Originally Posted by SupaPokeFan (Post 4164903)
Okay. I have this really bad fear of aliens. I don't know why. If I even catch a glance at a picture of an alien, I freak out. I start thinking they're out to get me. Ugh...I'm scared right now! *trembling in fear*

I just really need someone to talk to. Anyone, I don't care who. I would go see a therapist, but it's expensive. Anyone out there got a few minutes to help a guy out?

When did this fear start? Did you maybe watch a movie about aliens or something?

Ultimo Spriter December 2nd, 2008 4:40 AM

Umm there is this girl at my girl who like im relly good friends (like really good) and i want to ask her out on a date but 1 i dont relly know how and 2 she likes some guy he aparently has a hot body but an ugly head. pleaz help

Angela December 2nd, 2008 7:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SupaPokeFan (Post 4164903)
Okay. I have this really bad fear of aliens. I don't know why. If I even catch a glance at a picture of an alien, I freak out. I start thinking they're out to get me. Ugh...I'm scared right now! *trembling in fear*

I just really need someone to talk to. Anyone, I don't care who. I would go see a therapist, but it's expensive. Anyone out there got a few minutes to help a guy out?

That's just ridiculuos, aliens don't exist and I advise you from watching horror movies if you can't handle the stress that comes from them,


When watching a horror movie you must keep in mind.
1. It's not real.
2. This will never happen to you.
3. And this was all invented by some writer.
4. They can't come after you.
5. And the worst thing that can happen is a nightmare.


(I'm assuming that your fear comes from movies, if there were no alien movies or comics, the word alien would only apply to immigrants from other country's.)

Twinx December 2nd, 2008 7:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ultimo Spriter (Post 4165219)
Umm there is this girl at my girl who like im relly good friends (like really good) and i want to ask her out on a date but 1 i dont relly know how and 2 she likes some guy he aparently has a hot body but an ugly head. pleaz help

IMO, if she's telling you who she's interested in, then she must consider you as a friend... a really good one but nothing more..

Anxiety. December 4th, 2008 1:54 PM

I really need some advice...

My friend's uncle's brain is slowly shutting down, and he'll soon die, and, obviously my friend is panicking, she really loves him, and knows there is no way for him to be cured from this now. I need some advice on how to calm her down, this morning she broke down into tears and had to leave the classroom, I just want to help her, but I've never really been through anything like this (My great nan died when I was about three, and then, I didn't know what was going on, I can't remember how anyone dealt with it) so I can't help her properly, I just need someone to tell me how to help her, even if it's just something to say. I'm praying that he'll go painlessly, and that it'll be as late as possible, I've never met him, but I'm sure he's a lovely person, and I hope he goes to the best place you can in his afterlife, so he'll be happy.

Please, I just want some advice, I don't know what to do, and I can't just watch her break down into tears everyday, please, anything... It's so painful just to sit and watch...

Razer302 December 4th, 2008 1:59 PM

All you can really do is to be there and comfort her. It is going to hurt and until she accepts what is going to happen to him she will continue to be upset and cry, and when he does pass away comfort her. Isn;t really anything else that you can do.

Pikalover10 December 4th, 2008 3:35 PM

At school, next quarter i have to write a book for specials and then read it to a class of kindergarteners....I don't know a good idea for a book....so could people please VM me their ideas??? Thanks and it would help alot.:)

Mr. Curling Iron December 5th, 2008 1:38 PM

Ok.

Time to write a long story :/

Umm i'm in australia so if you know some australian laws and stuff that'd help me out not trying to be ungrateful ;-;

Ok my girlfriend's mum hates me now and she is stopping my gf from having a social life... She stopped her from going to school because I could talk to her through her friends and stuff... Her mums making her act like shes sick so that she stays at home under her "eagle eyes."

Now, she was given an option, " Leave your bf and we'll move you to a different school and things will be 'ok' ", or, "We'll move to another state or country," but she doesnt want either of them, so shes going to run away..

Her plan was to run away from home, and take her stuff, and take a bit of money from her dads wallet so that she could get accomodation for a while, and later on get a job for herself, but I told her not to take the money and i've promised her that she'll stay with me at my place, or we'll both run away together and yeah...

Now, the thing is that we dont want her mum from interfeiring once shes at my place. So is there anyway for her (15 years old) to get foster parents (my parents) (foster or under my parents' care) but they havent registered as foster parents yet.. Her reason isnt abuse/violence, but its her parents trying to get rid of her social life and getting rid of me (which she would never ever ever do. trust me, I didnt give her the idea of running away...) and also, they're getting her depressed and etc etc. Leaving her current school, friends, everyone.

She's not allowed to do anything at the moment :/

Also, please dont tell me and her to forget the realtionship and just go different ways because this is real love and we're doing this for each other. I'm sticking with her forever regardless of the outcomes and i'd rather die then leave her...
No this isnt teenage puppy love.


again, not trying to be ungrateful but I'm not looking for moral or w/e advice. I'm looking for a way to keep her living with me at my house...

Razer302 December 5th, 2008 1:50 PM

She can't run away from her parents. Her parents are being out of order and I don't know the law but she defiantly won't be able to move in with you, due to her age. But if your love is as strong as you say it is you can work through it.

What made your GFs mum hate you? That seems to be the cause and maybe if you went to talk to her you could sort it out. I think her parents are taking it to the extreme with the moving country over a school relationship. I know it could develop to go much further than that but right now it just a school relationship and that is what she should see it as.

Her mum could be worried that you will her hurt or that she will lose her daughter, but I don't think you would do that from the post and at some point she is going to have to let her daughter grow up and move out and if she is in a loving relationship when that happens I believe that is much more beneficial and safer.

So try and talk to the mother but DEFIANTLY don't go ahead with the running away plan as that will cause a whole load more problems as you could face kidnapping charges.

Mr. Curling Iron December 5th, 2008 2:06 PM

:/ She is running away on her own accord and i am providing accomodation. AND. its not a school relationship, shes about an hour drive away from me and her mum started hating me (and her) after finding out that she was going out with me as a secret and her school grades have apparently dropped by heaps. and also that me and her had it... :/

Razer302 December 5th, 2008 2:25 PM

Ok well school age. I don't agree with you "having it" control yourself. Jesus I can why can't the rest of the underage population.

I doesn't make a difference if they are running away of their own accord and as you are providing accommodation you can be seen as an accessory to this and prosecuted. At least as far as I am aware.

I have a relationship like that. Parents always hate them as they see it as pointless to date someone that lives far away. I think that is caused by being scared of the daughter moving to be with you.

Running away defiantly isn't the answer. That is a very childish thing do to. Your have to act like adults to handle this and prove that she she is acting like the child and has to give her daughter more freedom.

Mr. Curling Iron December 5th, 2008 2:58 PM

umm o.o
I'm her bf... not her uncle or something :S

Razer302 December 5th, 2008 3:05 PM

Lol. I know that. If you were her uncle it would be time to call the police. xD

On a serious side. Running away= a complete waste of time. It just isn't logical. It is in no way the right thing to do. You have to sort it out with her mum and if her grades have dropped she has to sort that out. But if her mum is doing that there isn't anything you can do other than try to reason with her. Try telling your parents and see if they will talk to her mum. That sometimes works.

jasonresno December 5th, 2008 4:06 PM

Yeah, if you act immature then that's how you'll be treated. Running away is stupid. Don't be dramatic and certainly don't do anything to tip the dynamics of your lives too much. Just muscle it out and earn her parents respect or at least acceptance. Tell her to get her grades and stuff together and deal with it.

Did I mention I got turned down for the loan?

Not happy.

Saltare. December 5th, 2008 8:30 PM

^ sorry :(

My prob:

Okay, my best friend, Ashley, moved to Kentucky and I didn't get to say good-bye to her. I can't find her Myspace, or anything. But she moved to Kentucky to get closer to her brother who she hasn't seen in 3 years, and her dad who she hasn't seen for a while.

Still, she was my best friend and we can't even talk anymore. And my other friend, Loren, is a bit bummed himself cause he liked her(he's 15 and she's 13) And before that, Loren got sent to the hospital to have sergury done on his spine, so he wasn't here when she moved.

How can I get over this? Please help.

Mewcario December 5th, 2008 8:35 PM

How do I get this girl I sit next to at science to stop bullying me and calling me mean names when I say something? Also how do I get this kid dylan to stop threatning me whenever I do something? How can I stick up for myself? what can I say? Also how do I become a bully so I can get respect?

I get bullied all my life and I need advice.

Saltare. December 5th, 2008 8:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Mewcario (Post 4173133)
How do I get this girl I sit next to at science to stop bullying me and calling me mean names when I say something? Also how do I get this kid dylan to stop threatning me whenever I do something? How can I stick up for myself? what can I say? Also how do I become a bully so I can get respect?

I get bullied all my life and I need advice.


Welcome to my world.....we got cookies

On topic:

Well the girl thing, if she doesn't have a boyfriend, or isn't going out with anyone, she probably likes you.

Dylan thing: Tell the principle or a teacher. In my school, if someone threatens you or hits you, you get a little talk with the deputy. And if you are afraid to speak up, kick Dyan's ***

Some ways to stick up for yourself are just the simple two words almost everyone uses "Stop it" or tell a teacher. Or the reason I took Martial Arts and got my black belt, DEFEND YOURSELF. If the person wants to pick a fight, just say "bring it on" and fight em. It can turn out good or bad, but you were defending yourself if you get in trouble.

Mewcario December 5th, 2008 8:56 PM

I get bullied everyday and let people bully me.

I want to say something but I just cant.....

Thanks.

But kiara doesnt like me, in 8th grade she told me I was a ugly retarded nerd and will never get a girlfriend.

Saltare. December 5th, 2008 9:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mewcario (Post 4173182)
I get bullied everyday and let people bully me.

I want to say something but I just cant.....

Thanks.

But kiara doesnt like me, in 8th grade she told me I was a ugly retarded nerd and will never get a girlfriend.


*slaps hand on forehead* Look dude, Ima girl. I know what we do to show we like a boy. I have told that to a boy once and ended up going bowling with him the next weekend and seeing a movie. Get what I'm saying?

And why? Are you afraid of what's going to happen if you speak up? If so, don't be. I know the person might try and "attack" you, but, if word gets to the principle, everything is gonna get straightened out. I promise you.

Something like that happened to me just a few weeks ago. This kid Shayne, was bulling me and he admitted to the principle he was just joking around to get closer to me.

Same thing with girls.

Kenshin5 December 5th, 2008 9:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mewcario (Post 4173182)
I get bullied everyday and let people bully me.

I want to say something but I just cant.....

Thanks.

But kiara doesnt like me, in 8th grade she told me I was a ugly retarded nerd and will never get a girlfriend.

You dont have to say anything writing letters also work.When I went to high school you could just refer somebody to the consular if they were in trouble or doing something bad.Kids will be kids if I were you I would just ignore there ignorant comments cause what do they know she might end up living alone by herself in the future.

I Laugh at your Misfortune! December 6th, 2008 4:42 PM

Hey, I gotta bit of a problem. I like this girl and she kinda acts towards me in a way that (according to Dark_aero) means she like me. There's one major problem - she's about a foot taller. so yeah, awkward.

Weatherman, Kiyoshi December 6th, 2008 7:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by alipeewee (Post 4175456)
Hey, I gotta bit of a problem. I like this girl and she kinda acts towards me in a way that (according to Dark_aero) means she like me. There's one major problem - she's about a foot taller. so yeah, awkward.

Wow...
You like her.
And she (appearantly) Likes you back.

But a foot taller...?
WOOPDY FLIPPIN' DOO.

A girl doesn't have to be shorter than you just so she can be "dateable".
So what?
She's taller.

That happens a lot in the real world.
On TV shows too, actually.
Ever seen Rugrats, even?
Tommy's dad is shorter than his mom.

She got the joy of being tall.
And trust me dude, a lot of guys that are in the same position as you think the same thing.
A lot of tall girls become outcasts like that.

Outside apperance shouldn't account for anything.
Inside is what matters. [/moral]

I Laugh at your Misfortune! December 7th, 2008 2:23 PM

@ tacharine: please don't kill me :O

Its just a little awkward is all I'm saying. And its not purely height - its that while i am psychologically pubescent, less so on the physical side. Her? not so much.

Weatherman, Kiyoshi December 7th, 2008 4:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by alipeewee (Post 4177936)
@ tacharine: please don't kill me :O

Its just a little awkward is all I'm saying. And its not purely height - its that while i am psychologically pubescent, less so on the physical side. Her? not so much.

I'LLEATURFACEOFFOMNOMNOM

*ahem*

so... She's farther in puberty?
That's kinda, a duh.

Haven't you even heard that girls mature faster than boys?
Technically, the equivalent for a girl being 13 to a boy is 15.

Awkwardness is just a way your self insecurity is saying:
"OH NO, DANGER DANGER!!! *explode*"

Maybe at some point you'll have some sort of big growth spurt.
Like you said, not so much on the psysical side yet, right?

Gymnotide December 9th, 2008 3:05 PM

What do you do if all your parents do is yell at you and tell you to die and the only thing you want is for them to feel miserable like you do?

Weatherman, Kiyoshi December 9th, 2008 3:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gymnotide (Post 4182703)
What do you do if all your parents do is yell at you and tell you to die and the only thing you want is for them to feel miserable like you do?

Lemme guess Gym, They yell at you for being gay?
Or something along those lines?

Gymnotide December 9th, 2008 3:07 PM

No. They don't know.
And never will, because I hate them.

Weatherman, Kiyoshi December 9th, 2008 3:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gymnotide (Post 4182706)
No. They don't know.
And never will, because I hate them.

So, what exactly do they yell at you about?

Tangerine Fox December 9th, 2008 4:25 PM

Someone, and I think I know who, reported our dogs for barking. They want our dogs to be taken away, despite their dog being the worst in the neighbourhood.

We correct our dogs, they almost never correct their dog. But their darling little snookums couldn't possibly be the reason a suddenly quiet place started filling up with barking dogs? They've had their dog for a few months...my family has kept dogs here for twenty years, along with much of the neighbourhood, without problem. They bring home Ratty McYapper and suddenly there's barking everywhere? Hm...

We've taped some footage of the dog barking while our boys are quiet, but we're going to keep doing it. I'm still going to keep looking more stuff up, but does anyone have an advice for handling such wretched neighbours? I'm so angry I can barely think straight. =(

Stronkadonk December 9th, 2008 5:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tangerine Fox (Post 4182908)
Someone, and I think I know who, reported our dogs for barking. They want our dogs to be taken away, despite their dog being the worst in the neighbourhood.

We correct our dogs, they almost never correct their dog. But their darling little snookums couldn't possibly be the reason a suddenly quiet place started filling up with barking dogs? They've had their dog for a few months...my family has kept dogs here for twenty years, along with much of the neighbourhood, without problem. They bring home Ratty McYapper and suddenly there's barking everywhere? Hm...

We've taped some footage of the dog barking while our boys are quiet, but we're going to keep doing it. I'm still going to keep looking more stuff up, but does anyone have an advice for handling such wretched neighbours? I'm so angry I can barely think straight. =(

Let's see... Ding dong ditching? Egging? Doing something to the dog? (ITS MUZZLE TIME!)

What if my dad is a control freak, and hates everything I do?

Mr. Curling Iron December 9th, 2008 5:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tangerine Fox (Post 4182908)
Someone, and I think I know who, reported our dogs for barking. They want our dogs to be taken away, despite their dog being the worst in the neighbourhood.

We correct our dogs, they almost never correct their dog. But their darling little snookums couldn't possibly be the reason a suddenly quiet place started filling up with barking dogs? They've had their dog for a few months...my family has kept dogs here for twenty years, along with much of the neighbourhood, without problem. They bring home Ratty McYapper and suddenly there's barking everywhere? Hm...

We've taped some footage of the dog barking while our boys are quiet, but we're going to keep doing it. I'm still going to keep looking more stuff up, but does anyone have an advice for handling such wretched neighbours? I'm so angry I can barely think straight. =(


Drench a steak in poision and feed it to their dogs?


No but seriously, you can confront them, or take the videos to the council :/

Ho-Oh December 9th, 2008 10:04 PM

I really love someone (Macy <3), but other people think we shouldn't be together and they keep trying to make me change my mind, and go for some other dude, what should I do, give up my love?!

Saltare. December 10th, 2008 5:50 PM

My prob:

I've been getting this weird feeling in my stomach all day at school today. The feeling only got worse when I would be talking to Shayne or be thinking about him. Or I'd be talking to one of his friends.

Any idea what's goin on?

Razer302 December 10th, 2008 6:04 PM

I think you simple like the person a lot. Thinking about him is a sure sign of that.

Forever: Do what you want to do. It your life and your friends won't say anything unless they cruel people.

22sa December 10th, 2008 6:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Forever (Post 4183511)
I really love someone (Macy <3), but other people think we shouldn't be together and they keep trying to make me change my mind, and go for some other dude, what should I do, give up my love?!

You should get a reality check.

Tokin December 11th, 2008 7:35 PM

Forever: I haven't heard of one person who has been happy by basing his or her decisions on other people's opinions without it being what he/she wants, go ahead and do as you wish^^
Dark Aero: you are probably experiencing the first stages of a crush, look into it and see how it goes

Akarei Yorume December 12th, 2008 11:40 PM

I've recently been writing one shots about my OC and Itachi Uchiha having sex. I've even drawn it, but now I hear from my friend that the councilors at school know. They'll tell my mum, I know it... I've deleted everything remotely sexual from my computer, and off my DA page, but I'm scared. What should I do?

Michii December 13th, 2008 5:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Myra Uchiha (Post 4190335)
I've recently been writing one shots about my OC and Itachi Uchiha having sex. I've even drawn it, but now I hear from my friend that the councilors at school know. They'll tell my mum, I know it... I've deleted everything remotely sexual from my computer, and off my DA page, but I'm scared. What should I do?

Well, there's nothing you really can do. You've deleted the pictures and done everything in your power from keeping your family from knowing, but you just have to roll with the punches from here on out. You'll have to be upfront with your parents when and if they find out, and express your opinion. And remember, no matter what they say or do to you, it won't take away your identity. You are and always will be you, no matter what. The knowledge/disapproval of your parents will never change who your being is.

I'm sure you'll be fine. =]

Ripper December 14th, 2008 2:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Myra Uchiha (Post 4190335)
I've recently been writing one shots about my OC and Itachi Uchiha having sex. I've even drawn it, but now I hear from my friend that the councilors at school know. They'll tell my mum, I know it... I've deleted everything remotely sexual from my computer, and off my DA page, but I'm scared. What should I do?

Basically, you're gonna have to hope for the best. I'm pretty sure the the councillors will approach you first, and if they don' you should approach them as soon as possible. Technically, I think they're inclined to contact you before your parents, unless it's of urgent importance. Either way, you're going to have to stop.

MikeZzZ808 December 14th, 2008 3:53 AM

Is there any chance your friend might be joking with you since i dont understand how a counciler would find out if you kept it hidden

Jessie December 14th, 2008 10:17 AM

Okay I'm not trying to start a debate or anything, but I'm just really frustrated right now. I was born and raised in a Christian family...but I don't believe in God, I'm not a Christian, I base most of my beliefs in science (I'm don't believe in scientology, I just believe in evolution, big bang, etc), so I guess you can say I'm atheist, or I don't really have a religion...or something, I really don't know. But I've told my parent's, whenever I do they get really mad and all "Oh, I'm sorry you feel that way". They force me to get up and go to church every Sunday, most of the time we go Sunday afternoon as well and they make me go on Monday's to youth. My god, just kill me, why don't you. I keep telling my parents that I don't believe in Christianity, but they won't listen! They want me baptised, etc, but what good will that do if I don't believe it? How can I get them to STOP forcing this on me? I mean, gee, I respect people's religion but it's just getting downright annoying and I want THEM to respect ME for what I believe. And it's not like I'm a bad kid into drugs and stuff, I ride horses and have straight A's...how bad could I be, really?

Farasha December 14th, 2008 12:25 PM

How old are you and how many years do you have left before you turn eighteen?

I've known a lot of friends in that situation, and the best solution I've been able to figure out is to go along with it. Make sure they know that you're not going under your own will, and that you would rather be doing anything than going to church, but be respectful while you're there and go anyway, and they might eventually see that you respect their wishes even though yours are different. This could maybe make them see what kind of ridiculous bigots they're being and stop forcing you.

Baby steps. Changing your parents' mind isn't going to come immediately.

Jessie December 14th, 2008 12:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Farasha (Post 4194895)
How old are you and how many years do you have left before you turn eighteen?

I've known a lot of friends in that situation, and the best solution I've been able to figure out is to go along with it. Make sure they know that you're not going under your own will, and that you would rather be doing anything than going to church, but be respectful while you're there and go anyway, and they might eventually see that you respect their wishes even though yours are different. This could maybe make them see what kind of ridiculous bigots they're being and stop forcing you.

Baby steps. Changing your parents' mind isn't going to come immediately.

I'm 16, almost 17.

Thanks for the advice! :)

Ripper December 14th, 2008 2:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Farasha (Post 4194895)
How old are you and how many years do you have left before you turn eighteen?

I've known a lot of friends in that situation, and the best solution I've been able to figure out is to go along with it. Make sure they know that you're not going under your own will, and that you would rather be doing anything than going to church, but be respectful while you're there and go anyway, and they might eventually see that you respect their wishes even though yours are different. This could maybe make them see what kind of ridiculous bigots they're being and stop forcing you.

Baby steps. Changing your parents' mind isn't going to come immediately.

Very good advice. Couldn't have said it better myself.

raging lion December 19th, 2008 9:40 AM

How decent working conditions can lead to a better life?
Can anyone post a letter on this topic. We have a national school competition on this topic. I have written some lines but those are not enough I need at least 1000 words.
I searched the net but still no luck only some few lines. Please I need help.
Thanks

Tokin December 19th, 2008 8:24 PM

I'll provide something for you to work on^^
A likeable working environment contributes to worker satisfaction, which reduces work related stress, improving health, safety in said environment will also reduce stress and obviously the risk of accidents, this also improves relationships between employees.
Off the top of my head, expand that a bit, I hope it helped^^

Master Electrician December 20th, 2008 3:52 PM

It also improves energy and productivity, rather than forcing someone to be in an environment that they don't like which is a drain on an employees mental condition.

Tokin December 21st, 2008 8:04 PM

who you are mates with is your decision and they need to undertand that, however, try to be sensitive about it, to tell them in a way that will hurt them as little as possible, if at all, don't dance around the topic or tell lies however, you mentioned they are close to you, so that makes a personal conversation and them undertanding you a lot easier^^

Chibi-chan December 24th, 2008 12:01 PM

I HAVE A PROBLEM, YAY

Well, this Christmas Break, I've got absolutely nothing to do. Well, I plan on getting this video game I want for Christmas and I want to play it all through break...but then I feel like I should be arranging to hang out with my friends and ride my bike; basically stop being a hermit all Break. I don't really want to hang out with them though because I'm going to see them in a week or two anyway, I also think it'd be more fun if I just sat and played my game. But if I do that, my conscience keeps telling me I'm being a hermit and that I should be bonding with my friends and I should be going out to play...but deep down, I just want to sit and play video games because I know I won't be able to play when school starts. So...is it wrong for me to just want to play video all break, or should I really be hanging out with my friends? Should I feel guilty? D:

Stronkadonk December 24th, 2008 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Chibi-chan (Post 4221813)
I HAVE A PROBLEM, YAY

Well, this Christmas Break, I've got absolutely nothing to do. Well, I plan on getting this video game I want for Christmas and I want to play it all through break...but then I feel like I should be arranging to hang out with my friends and ride my bike; basically stop being a hermit all Break. I don't really want to hang out with them though because I'm going to see them in a week or two anyway, I also think it'd be more fun if I just sat and played my game. But if I do that, my conscience keeps telling me I'm being a hermit and that I should be bonding with my friends and I should be going out to play...but deep down, I just want to sit and play video games because I know I won't be able to play when school starts. So...is it wrong for me to just want to play video all break, or should I really be hanging out with my friends? Should I feel guilty? D:

I think you should play all break, as I am doing. I hate that I cannot play games during school as well, so I am taking advantage of this freedom. I believe you should as well.

Emii December 27th, 2008 4:43 PM

I have a problem again! ^_^;;

Ok, not that anybody here is a doctor, but earlier today, I found a lump on the back of my neck. It's right at my hairline, and about an inch to the left of my spine, and about the size of my fingernail. I get scared over everything, so the first thing I thought was, "OMG! Tumor!!" and I got all scared and panic-y. My mom said it could just be a cyst though.. it's not really bothering me, although now that I keep messing with it, it's a little sore.. But yeah, like I said, I get scared over stuff like this.. not that a cyst would be fun, but I'd prefer that over a tumor.. =(

Yu_&_Rei December 27th, 2008 4:49 PM

one of the members here who acted like the nicest guy to me has started hating me because I refused to tell him a secret, he then said a lot of hurtful things, reminded me of my dead aunt, and said he enjoys seeing my misery, he then apologized after but hes being a total jerk again, he did even cause me to go under huge depression and its so bad that if these normal pills dont work, I need to take depression pills, he completely flip flopped my personality too, I dont know what I'm supposed to do other than cry to myself.

Michii December 27th, 2008 8:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Iruka_Sakana (Post 4229689)
I have a problem again! ^_^;;

Ok, not that anybody here is a doctor, but earlier today, I found a lump on the back of my neck. It's right at my hairline, and about an inch to the left of my spine, and about the size of my fingernail. I get scared over everything, so the first thing I thought was, "OMG! Tumor!!" and I got all scared and panic-y. My mom said it could just be a cyst though.. it's not really bothering me, although now that I keep messing with it, it's a little sore.. But yeah, like I said, I get scared over stuff like this.. not that a cyst would be fun, but I'd prefer that over a tumor.. =(

Don't worry, your mother is most likely right. I'm judging this by my own experience with the same thing as your problem only on the back of my hand. I started ASDFing over it, practically crying over the fact that it could be a tumor and maybe ever spreading cancer. My mom told me that it was just a little cyst that was not cancerous and told me not to worry. She then showed me that she had the same exact cyst on her own hand. When I was still freaked out, she agreed to take me to the doctor if it wasn't gone in awhile, which I agreed to. We never went, but maybe you should try the same thing. Even though your mother is probably right, she'd probably recognize extreme fear from your part and agree to take you to the doctor if it was that important. And to let you know, my cyst remains on my hand a year or so later, and it effects nothing in the least. You'll be fine. =]

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Originally Posted by Bamachi (Post 4229699)
one of the members here who acted like the nicest guy to me has started hating me because I refused to tell him a secret, he then said a lot of hurtful things, reminded me of my dead aunt, and said he enjoys seeing my misery, he then apologized after but hes being a total jerk again, he did even cause me to go under huge depression and its so bad that if these normal pills dont work, I need to take depression pills, he completely flip flopped my personality too, I dont know what I'm supposed to do other than cry to myself.

You'll have to realize that not every person on the internet or in real life for that matter is a good person. You'll meet people who are arrogant, spiteful, ignorant, and in your case, hurtful. If he's saying all of these things to you exactly like you say, then you'd be best not speaking to him any longer. It's terrible to subject yourself to demeaning crap. Though, try to see it from his point of view, and attempt to see if you did anything wrong yourself. There's always two sides to a story, and it'd be unfair for me to completely take your side in this. As for your depression, don't let something online get to 'ya. It's not worth your sweat. I know it's easier said than done to be happy, but think about this. You're letting something that's typed on a computer that's basically run primarily by a tiny little set of chips small enough to crush between your two hands. Nothing on the computer is worth so much to get depressed over. And you're too good to have another person get to you. Good luck, and put a smile on your face. :'D

Master Electrician December 27th, 2008 8:34 PM

Get away from the situation. Take a break from PC and spend some time in the rest of the world. Take walks. Exercise. It helps.

Emii December 27th, 2008 9:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Michii (Post 4230169)
Don't worry, your mother is most likely right. I'm judging this by my own experience with the same thing as your problem only on the back of my hand. I started ASDFing over it, practically crying over the fact that it could be a tumor and maybe ever spreading cancer. My mom told me that it was just a little cyst that was not cancerous and told me not to worry. She then showed me that she had the same exact cyst on her own hand. When I was still freaked out, she agreed to take me to the doctor if it wasn't gone in awhile, which I agreed to. We never went, but maybe you should try the same thing. Even though your mother is probably right, she'd probably recognize extreme fear from your part and agree to take you to the doctor if it was that important. And to let you know, my cyst remains on my hand a year or so later, and it effects nothing in the least. You'll be fine. =]

Thank you so much!! Although I admit I am still a little bit scared.. but my mom did say she would take me to the doctor if it would make me feel better. (she has to do that alot for me, it makes me feel bad.. XD) But really, thank you! I feel better now that you told me that! I'll just hope that it's a little bit sore because I keep messing with it.. which is probably why.

pokemon_beauty December 28th, 2008 2:56 PM

I'm sick..
and I feel like whining about it :D
I might have mono.

There's nothing anyone can help me out with.
I just felt like whining because I don't feel good :p

Sauron December 28th, 2008 3:25 PM

I'll start with this one. I have a really horrible dad, and the kids and staff at my school are screwing up my brain. I'm three seconds from punching them in the face, and I don't know what to do. Also, a lot of the girls at school are chasing me around, trying to kiss me and get to be my GF's, but there are 2 girls, that are female versions of me. They have crushes on me too, but I don't want to break their hearts because I only love me, sexually, but not like that. I like me and I squeese my face a lot... What do I do? They're close friends to me.

Master Electrician December 28th, 2008 4:23 PM

Don't get involved with anyone if you don't want to. Trust me, I've been there, it's a mistake. Better to just tell them, "I'm sorry, but no" now instead of having a nasty breakup down the road. The latter hurts a lot worse.

I also find that exercise really helps, especially anger. Get an endorphin rush going, if you can get to a punching bag or weight room and just work that for an hour or so three-four times a week, that's a good thing both physically and mentally.

Your dad, there's not much to be done about except suffer through it until you're out of the house, and the classmates/school administration? Stop trying to be nice. Stop trying to avoid hurting people's feelings. Be honest and blunt. You might be surprised at the results.

Sauron December 28th, 2008 5:42 PM

Thank you. I'll try to do what you said.


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