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kingofjokers December 30th, 2008 7:03 PM

my dog died today she got hit by a car we buried her under her dig house and have all her stuff in there but i cant stop crying and cant stop feeling sad it like hurts in the inside of my heart every time i think of her and i start tearing up i need help to feel better if you could pm me with your answers to make me feel better please and thank you :'( :(

Tokin December 31st, 2008 9:49 AM

losing a loved one is never easy, it's perfectly normal to grief their death, if it helps think of all the good times and think that most likely your dog is in a better place now^^

Master Electrician December 31st, 2008 9:32 PM

My condolences on the death. It's amazing how a pet can become so much more, how we can love and identify so much with them. To have her taken away in an untimely and brutal manner must be even worse. She'll be in my thoughts and prayers, as will you and yours. Grieve, and remember her, but remember too that death is best answered with life and that those who love us most would not want to see our lives ruined by their memory. Grieve, but live and enjoy life. Take this as a reminder to make a mark on the world in her honor and memory.

Guillermo January 4th, 2009 3:22 AM

Same thing happened to me, except we had to put our dog down. She was going blind and she had diabetes, so it was only fair on her half that we put her down. All I can say is stay strong, your family will support you and everything will clear up eventually. Grieving will just make your life worse. Remember the good times you had with her and just remember that she had a good life. Like Master Electrician said, she wouldn't want you to grieve over her death, so live life to the fullest and use this experience to push yourself harder in work and other things.

Rogue planet January 4th, 2009 4:33 AM

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Originally Posted by kingofjokers (Post 4238489)
my dog died today she got hit by a car we buried her under her dig house and have all her stuff in there but i cant stop crying and cant stop feeling sad it like hurts in the inside of my heart every time i think of her and i start tearing up i need help to feel better if you could pm me with your answers to make me feel better please and thank you :'( :(

Time is the best healer.
When my cat died I swore I would never get another cat. It took me a while to get over it, that cat had such a personality, some people see animals as an object but they have souls aswell. I'm getting another cat now, 8 years later, I saw that getting another cat wasn't a bad thing and I wasn't replacing my old cat. I'm no longer upset but I still remember that cat and always will.

Master Electrician January 5th, 2009 6:16 PM

Well, it's come to this: Roughly three weeks ago, I broke up with my girlfriend. It was a long distance relationship, and looking back, one I wasn't terribly invested in. It lasted for four months, all told. I grew interested in another who reciprocated. We're currently together, and I have to say, very happily so. Unfortunately, my ex doesn't seem to be able to get past it.

It's infuriating, really. She's behaving childishly about the entire thing. I admit that I could have handled the breakup more gracefully and my temper during it, but point blank, I just couldn't handle being with her anymore, whether or not there was anyone else involved. I do still care about her and want her to be happy, but I'm just so sick of her doing everything she can to keep wallowing in self-pity that I talk to her as little as I can so as I don't wind up in another fit of pique. Any thoughts on how to control that anger?

Zet January 5th, 2009 7:07 PM

when you feel angry you can always start punching a punching bag or boxing bag, I forget what they're called or stress balls can be good if money is an issue

Azzurra January 5th, 2009 7:40 PM

People really have been annoying me lately, and stress has been building up. I've been thinking of actually hitting a guy because of his continuous annoyance.

Razer302 January 6th, 2009 8:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Master Electrician (Post 4255977)
Well, it's come to this: Roughly three weeks ago, I broke up with my girlfriend. It was a long distance relationship, and looking back, one I wasn't terribly invested in. It lasted for four months, all told. I grew interested in another who reciprocated. We're currently together, and I have to say, very happily so. Unfortunately, my ex doesn't seem to be able to get past it.

It's infuriating, really. She's behaving childishly about the entire thing. I admit that I could have handled the breakup more gracefully and my temper during it, but point blank, I just couldn't handle being with her anymore, whether or not there was anyone else involved. I do still care about her and want her to be happy, but I'm just so sick of her doing everything she can to keep wallowing in self-pity that I talk to her as little as I can so as I don't wind up in another fit of pique. Any thoughts on how to control that anger?

I think the best thing to do is to simply stop talking to her. While she is still talking to you she won't get over it and will remain as she is currently. (speaking from personal experience)

jasonresno January 6th, 2009 9:15 AM

So I've come to the conclusion that I hate my job and I'm seeking to remedy the situation! Wish me luck!

Guillermo January 7th, 2009 3:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Master Electrician (Post 4255977)
Well, it's come to this: Roughly three weeks ago, I broke up with my girlfriend. It was a long distance relationship, and looking back, one I wasn't terribly invested in. It lasted for four months, all told. I grew interested in another who reciprocated. We're currently together, and I have to say, very happily so. Unfortunately, my ex doesn't seem to be able to get past it.

It's infuriating, really. She's behaving childishly about the entire thing. I admit that I could have handled the breakup more gracefully and my temper during it, but point blank, I just couldn't handle being with her anymore, whether or not there was anyone else involved. I do still care about her and want her to be happy, but I'm just so sick of her doing everything she can to keep wallowing in self-pity that I talk to her as little as I can so as I don't wind up in another fit of pique. Any thoughts on how to control that anger?

I'd recommend just changing the subject every time she brings it up. I've never been in that sort of situation personally, but I know good friends who've just changed the subject every time. Ignoring them just makes them feel more needy and most of the time become semi-attention whores, trust me. :]

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Originally Posted by Blazeflare (Post 4256153)
People really have been annoying me lately, and stress has been building up. I've been thinking of actually hitting a guy because of his continuous annoyance.

Never, ever hit someone for being "annoying". The only time you hit someone is for self defense, or else you can be reported to the police and you'll be in serious trouble then. I'd recommend just... letting it go. Ignore him and just walk away and pretend it means nothing to you. Take all your stress out on a bag or something... I usually punch my pillow. Don't use a stress ball, they don't work. They just make your hands ache.

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Originally Posted by Razer302 (Post 4257176)
I think the best thing to do is to simply stop talking to her. While she is still talking to you she won't get over it and will remain as she is currently. (speaking from personal experience)

Not talking to them just makes them more needy and like I stated, they become attention whores. They won't stop bugging you until they get a reply.

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Originally Posted by jasonresno (Post 4257247)
So I've come to the conclusion that I hate my job and I'm seeking to remedy the situation! Wish me luck!

Good luck with that, jasonresno!

kidpunk January 7th, 2009 3:22 PM

I got one you guys might not have heard before.

My band recently disbanded and I have to start from scratch (again!). Anyway, they took their instruments with them and they were from my school, my age. No one else in my school can play the guitar or bass guitar that good, but we do have a backup drummer. I want new members, but I want people my age in the band and there is really no one else I can find. Any ideas on what I can do?

Guillermo January 7th, 2009 3:45 PM

If you really want a band so much, make one of those... bulletin things. You put all the instructions like where to meet, the preferred age, to bring their instrument and stuff on a piece of paper and stick it up all around your area.

That's really all I can think of. That or just... waiting patiently for someone to show up.

LUIGISGHOST January 11th, 2009 3:34 PM

My problem is that not many people like Crazy Bones. I wish more people liked them.

Yrie January 11th, 2009 4:05 PM

Um...I'm sure someone out there likes them, there's always at least a couple.

@ Master Electrician - Your girlfriend is probably hurt over the whole thing and tries to make herself feel a bit better about it by behaving the way she is. I suggest you try to understand what she's going through at the moment, I mean, it's not exactly an easy thing to get over, and some people naturally take longer than others. Try to put it out of your mind for at least a small while each day, or take a walk or something calm, which usually helps.

Deefie January 13th, 2009 9:59 AM

Well, it's a long story....

I have this disease which makes my bones act unnatural(or w/e) It makes them grow tumors of bone on the bone, which can cause pain in my legs and arms.

Now esspecially around this time, it sucks.
I had surgery 4 months ago. They gave me a sort of metal construction, which corrects my bone.

Now, yesterday i had gymnastics i left,my theacher and i make an agreement, i didn't have to come, but now my theacher told the dean(spelling?) i wasn't there and i got into some serious trouble today...

I GOT SCREWED!!! D:

EDIT: YEEAAAHSSSSHHH, first post n.n

Zet January 13th, 2009 4:55 PM

what sort of trouble did you get into?

Deefie January 14th, 2009 9:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Zetta Despair (Post 4277957)
what sort of trouble did you get into?

At least 2 hours of detention ><'
At most 5 Hours, and it wasn't even my mistake D:

Vanilla Kitsune January 15th, 2009 9:43 PM

...

I'm officially a wreck. My dad is leaving my mom. It's done for them. She stole money from his bank account to help some guy she's probably in an affair with.

I need some help/advice. Please? I tried begging my dad not to go, but its not gonna work out.

Yu_&_Rei January 15th, 2009 9:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Blazeflare (Post 4256153)
People really have been annoying me lately, and stress has been building up. I've been thinking of actually hitting a guy because of his continuous annoyance.

hmm, like annoying in what way? maybe a good stress reliever (if u feel violent) is to take a punching bag and beat on it. if u dont own one go to the gym or something. if u need more advice PM me.

Archer January 15th, 2009 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Vanilla Kitsune (Post 4283652)
...

I'm officially a wreck. My dad is leaving my mom. It's done for them. She stole money from his bank account to help some guy she's probably in an affair with.

I need some help/advice. Please? I tried begging my dad not to go, but its not gonna work out.

As much as it's hard to come to terms with, it's usually worse if a couple that don't want to be together are forced to. Give it time, but remember they are still your parents and love you the same.
Good luck, though.

Kidpunk, you might want to try and teach some friends to play. Have you got any spare guitars they can use?

NoBel_ToKYo ™ January 16th, 2009 8:51 AM

My best freinds parents split up aswell. He seems to be okay, though, so i hope you're okay once the dust has settled ^_^

Rogue planet January 16th, 2009 8:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Vanilla Kitsune (Post 4283652)
...

I'm officially a wreck. My dad is leaving my mom. It's done for them. She stole money from his bank account to help some guy she's probably in an affair with.

I need some help/advice. Please? I tried begging my dad not to go, but its not gonna work out.

It seems you like your dad a lot, can you not go with him? Just because it didn't work out between him and your mum dosn't mean it will affect your relationship with him.

Vanilla Kitsune January 16th, 2009 9:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Vendak (Post 4284795)
It seems you like your dad a lot, can you not go with him? Just because it didn't work out between him and your mum dosn't mean it will affect your relationship with him.


Well, he's not really my dad. He's my step dad, but he's the only dad I have ever had. I don't think he has custody over my brother and I, and he had done this to two previous wives before. I'm more afraid of how we're going to survive. My mom didn't finish school, where as my step dad finished high school. If he's gone, I don't know how we'll be stable.

Razer302 January 16th, 2009 2:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Vanilla Kitsune (Post 4284890)

Well, he's not really my dad. He's my step dad, but he's the only dad I have ever had. I don't think he has custody over my brother and I, and he had done this to two previous wives before. I'm more afraid of how we're going to survive. My mom didn't finish school, where as my step dad finished high school. If he's gone, I don't know how we'll be stable.

I am sure he won't forget about you. He may be leaving your mother but he may still want to be in contact with you as it sounds like he has know you for a long time.

It doesn't matter about whether your mom finished school or not. If she is in a stable job and you want to carry on with school there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to you.

It was hard when my parents split at first but after a while I got used to it. The start of the break up is always the worst, but it is down to the two people and trying to convince them to stay together won't help as they won't change there mind and you will feel worse as you have asked them to stay together but they haven't, which can cause you feeling like they don't care about your feelings when they do and they feel that this is for the best.

NoBel_ToKYo ™ January 19th, 2009 12:05 PM

If that is the case, Vanilla Kitsune, i think you can get like, money from the government to help support if you're unstable in finances..might be more to it than that

but i hope things go well for you in the meantime..:)

WriteThemWrong January 19th, 2009 9:53 PM

I'm a senior in high school and college planning is really getting on my nerves. All the stupid financial aid and housing I have to apply for if I want to go to the college I want, Northern Arizona Univ btw. Then I have to deal with my annoying parents who are getting pissed because I want to leave.
Whatever

Capt. Couch January 21st, 2009 6:37 PM

I have problems falling asleep which takes a toll on my well-being. I always wake up in the morning generally feeling like crap because I've been laying in bed and awake at 2:00 AM, not even feeling tired. It takes me at least four hours to start feeling better in the morning.

I've tried warm milk, a hot bath, meditation, breathing exercises, lying in a different position, eating nothing four hours before bed, chamomile tea, and resting on wet towels, along with other things. Does anybody have any other remedies or advice? Right now, I'm definitely considering seeing a doctor on this issue...

Zanacross January 21st, 2009 6:48 PM

Get off the computer earlier. It might help.

Capt. Couch January 21st, 2009 6:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Zanacross (Post 4301483)
Get off the computer earlier. It might help.

I kinda do that already... But that didn't help either.

Yu_&_Rei January 21st, 2009 7:04 PM

my cousin has the same issue, sometimes he doesnt even sleep though, one thing you should try is see a doctor, maybe it has something to do with your metabolism.

Spinor January 21st, 2009 7:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Capt. Couch (Post 4301453)
I have problems falling asleep which takes a toll on my well-being. I always wake up in the morning generally feeling like crap because I've been laying in bed and awake at 2:00 AM, not even feeling tired. It takes me at least four hours to start feeling better in the morning.

I've tried warm milk, a hot bath, meditation, breathing exercises, lying in a different position, eating nothing four hours before bed, chamomile tea, and resting on wet towels, along with other things. Does anybody have any other remedies or advice? Right now, I'm definitely considering seeing a doctor on this issue...

Meh, I had a tendency to fall asleep at 3 and wake up at 7 feeling fine. All I did was stay in PC.

What I do recommend. Is that you drink:
C0Ffe3!

If you haven't yet. If you have, make sure it sin't Decaf.

If all else fails... You seriously need to see a doctor. I'm just a regular person.

WriteThemWrong January 21st, 2009 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Bamachi (Post 4301523)
my cousin has the same issue, sometimes he doesnt even sleep though, one thing you should try is see a doctor, maybe it has something to do with your metabolism.

well i know lack of sleep messes with your metabolism, it slows it down so everytime you eat something it takes longer for your body to break it down, but i dont know if it is connected to it

PokemonMichael January 21st, 2009 11:34 PM

My gf is really annoyed ( as in im gonna dump u if u do it again kinda annoyed) at me because she saw me looking at some other girl funny.
i never liked her and she is driving me insane but i dont wanna dump her.
what do i do?

Akio123 January 21st, 2009 11:41 PM

I've been really depressed all my vacation from my University. First off, my parents decided (after months of planning and deposits) they said I can't go to Japan in the Spring because they don't think the group I'm doing it with is legit. Next, I am trying to do my transfer applications since I hate my college, but I am too scared and think there is no way I am going to get in. I feel like I am completely stuck and don't know what to do.

Astinus January 22nd, 2009 12:05 AM

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Originally Posted by PokemonMichael (Post 4302077)
My gf is really annoyed ( as in im gonna dump u if u do it again kinda annoyed) at me because she saw me looking at some other girl funny.
i never liked her and she is driving me insane but i dont wanna dump her.
what do i do?

In my age-old wisdom, it seems wrong to still be with her even though you don't like her. You're leading her on, and will only hurt her someway, no matter what you do.

Besides, you're young. It's not like she's going to be the only girl you will ever go out with. You can let her go find someone that will like her for her, and you can actually be with someone that you actually like. It'll be better and healthier for you two to break up instead of being in a relationship where one person really doesn't care for the other person.

Before that, you could talk things out with her. But if she's going to dump you for looking at another girl, she might not be secure in the relationship to even put some energy into saving it.

Then again, I'm bitter.

-

Capt. Couch, try to listen to relaxing music before you fall asleep. Not only will it calm you, it'll also clear your mind if you focus on it. Make sure that your room is completely dark. Try to fall asleep at the same time. And really don't drink coffee, or any caffeine at all during the day if you can, because that can keep you up. You could also try exercising more, since that'll tire you out physically.

If you still can't get to sleep, then go to see your doctor. There might be something else going on.

PokemonMichael January 22nd, 2009 12:40 AM

like, i like her, but she p*sses me off.
ill ask out her best friend
thanks by the way

Zet January 22nd, 2009 12:43 AM

you'll probably get killed asking out her best friend, why don't you just talk to her about the issues you have with her

Melody January 22nd, 2009 1:09 AM

Nah. If he breaks up with her first, then asks her best friend out later, he should be fine.

Personally I wouldnt stay with a woman who didnt trust me. Ditch her as soon as you can. (bonus points if you can do it softly)

Rogue planet January 22nd, 2009 8:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Akio123 (Post 4302086)
Next, I am trying to do my transfer applications since I hate my college, but I am too scared and think there is no way I am going to get in. I feel like I am completely stuck and don't know what to do.

Why would you not apply? You'll never know if you'll get in or not unless you try, you have nothing to lose and a lot to gain. Do you have a Connexions officer that you can speak to? I've found them to be really helpful.

jasonresno January 22nd, 2009 9:31 AM

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Originally Posted by PokemonMichael (Post 4302157)
like, i like her, but she p*sses me off.
ill ask out her best friend
thanks by the way

This embodies pre-teen romance.

My problem right now is that I only work 3 days a week and then have 4 days off. I need a hobby. Help?

AuraAshley January 22nd, 2009 12:36 PM

i got a problem i need help with

i like this one guy and he likes me too but he's waiting till we know eachother a little better to ask me out but idk i just wanna ask him like 2maro or w.e should i wait til he asks me or wat?

PokemonMichael January 22nd, 2009 6:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Zazie Rainyday (Post 4302172)
Nah. If he breaks up with her first, then asks her best friend out later, he should be fine.

Personally I wouldnt stay with a woman who didnt trust me. Ditch her as soon as you can. (bonus points if you can do it softly)

thanks, that helped a lot.
saying stuff over MSN is easier definetly.

Zet January 22nd, 2009 8:02 PM

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Originally Posted by PokemonMichael (Post 4303411)
thanks, that helped a lot.
saying stuff over MSN is easier definetly.

dude, not cool, never ever break up with a girl over the internet, be a man and do it face to face

kissing. raindrops January 22nd, 2009 8:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Zetta Despair (Post 4303627)
dude, not cool, never ever break up with a girl over the internet, be a man and do it face to face

I definitely second that, one of my exs, the one who was most important to me, dumped me over msn. It was the stupidest thing ever..

PokemonMichael January 22nd, 2009 8:18 PM

its kinda embarrasing to have a chick slap your face and run off crying in front of everyone. if i ever have to do this again. (not doubting it) ill do it face to face
ill do softly tho

kissing. raindrops January 22nd, 2009 8:20 PM

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Originally Posted by PokemonMichael (Post 4303671)
its kinda embarrasing to have a chick slap your face and run off crying in front of everyone. if i ever have to do this again. (not doubting it) ill do it face to face
i did it softly tho

So you already did it over msn?

PokemonMichael January 22nd, 2009 8:22 PM

not yet.
ill wait til school goes back

Zet January 22nd, 2009 8:23 PM

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Originally Posted by PokemonMichael (Post 4303671)
its kinda embarrasing to have a chick slap your face and run off crying in front of everyone. if i ever have to do this again. (not doubting it) ill do it face to face
ill do softly tho

no, no msn at all, man up and take the slap(that is if it happens) you'll get no where in life if you keep hiding behind the internet or someone else, and who said you have to do it everyone of everyone? just go around the corner and talk to her, not that hard

PokemonMichael January 22nd, 2009 8:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Zetta Despair (Post 4303681)
no, no msn at all, man up and take the slap(that is if it happens) you'll get no where in life if you keep hiding behind the internet or someone else, and who said you have to do it everyone of everyone? just go around the corner and talk to her, not that hard

ok thanks mate. ill do that.

helix January 23rd, 2009 12:07 AM

Eheh. I have a silly teenage problem. xD;;. Caution, up ahead lies a bit of a strange and complex situation written in detail just an idea of the feel of the circumstances.

So, I don't exactly hate but I don't like my female classmates either. None of them are good students, they all have shallow, inambitious personalities and the only thing they can talk (or scream about- they are quite loud..) about is how --ty the smallest thing is, how gay it is for two guys just to play wrestle, or what's going on in that soap opera. Therefore, I am the odd girl out in my classroom as I am serious about my studies, I like video games and anime and I don't like to raise my voice. Because of my interests, I noticed that in class I spend most of my time talking to the guys. During breaktime, I spend my time with two sisters from a lower grade, and we're good friends, but I never ever really click with the girls in my class.

There are fourteen in my class, with five girls and nine guys, counting myself. Though they do mix, most of the time the guys stick to the guys and the girls stick to the girls. Which makes it awkward for me, since I don't want to be alienated from the group of girls but I have fun hanging out with the guys too. I can bear with it, though. My real problem is this: I like this guy, very much. I care about him, I like working with him on school projects because he's a hardworking, ambitious person while also being a funny guy. However, like everyone else in the class, he's also concerned about keeping up an 'appearance' for the rest of the class. When it is just the two of us talking to each other, he's casual and talks to me normally, though usually he can't talk for long. When he's around friends, however, I notice that he's quite rude to me at times when I approach him.

I understand this, of course. My class is pretty immature when it comes to relationships- you hang out with a person of the opposite gender, by the next day the word has gone around that you two are 'deep in love' and a potential strong platonic relationship is ruined. And because the person I like is always surrounded by the tight circle of his friends, it's almost impossible to catch him alone. So I take whatever chance I get to get to know him better, and we're somewhat friends from these efforts, but he doesn't know I like him- at least I don't think so.

However, my girl classmates know that I like him. They're not very experienced with romance, however, so often they're bad at giving advice regarding it, and tease me about my affections. They throw out hints all the time in front of everybody, which unnerves me greatly. It's very annoying, actually.

Earlier today, school got out, and my female classmate asked me, "Why do you like him anyway? Are you desperate? You're desperate, aren't you.." And I hate that word 'desperate'. Her words left me disturbed. I'm a very affectionate person, I hang out with guys and I know many guys who are close, platonic friends of mine. So even in this circumstance when it'd be a better idea to hang out with the tight clique of girls to avoid conflict, why do I care about this guy so much and why am I 'hanging' with these dudes? I like it when I work hard and get good praise for it, and I soak up compliments from others very happily, and I'm wondering if these are actions to deal with a low self-esteem problem.

The bottom line is, I'm wondering if I'm desperate for affection and a feeling of self-worth. I've been thinking about it very carefully since my classmate suggested it. You don't have to tackle every single issue I've presented in this thesis of a post, but I'd really like to know if it's normal to want a some love. I can live without it, but I really would like to have someone to feel mutual romantic emotions towards myself. It's made me very confused..

Melody January 23rd, 2009 5:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Shirogane (Post 4304072)
Eheh. I have a silly teenage problem. xD;;. Caution, up ahead lies a bit of a strange and complex situation written in detail just an idea of the feel of the circumstances.

So, I don't exactly hate but I don't like my female classmates either. None of them are good students, they all have shallow, inambitious personalities and the only thing they can talk (or scream about- they are quite loud..) about is how --ty the smallest thing is, how gay it is for two guys just to play wrestle, or what's going on in that soap opera. Therefore, I am the odd girl out in my classroom as I am serious about my studies, I like video games and anime and I don't like to raise my voice. Because of my interests, I noticed that in class I spend most of my time talking to the guys. During breaktime, I spend my time with two sisters from a lower grade, and we're good friends, but I never ever really click with the girls in my class.

There are fourteen in my class, with five girls and nine guys, counting myself. Though they do mix, most of the time the guys stick to the guys and the girls stick to the girls. Which makes it awkward for me, since I don't want to be alienated from the group of girls but I have fun hanging out with the guys too. I can bear with it, though. My real problem is this: I like this guy, very much. I care about him, I like working with him on school projects because he's a hardworking, ambitious person while also being a funny guy. However, like everyone else in the class, he's also concerned about keeping up an 'appearance' for the rest of the class. When it is just the two of us talking to each other, he's casual and talks to me normally, though usually he can't talk for long. When he's around friends, however, I notice that he's quite rude to me at times when I approach him.

I understand this, of course. My class is pretty immature when it comes to relationships- you hang out with a person of the opposite gender, by the next day the word has gone around that you two are 'deep in love' and a potential strong platonic relationship is ruined. And because the person I like is always surrounded by the tight circle of his friends, it's almost impossible to catch him alone. So I take whatever chance I get to get to know him better, and we're somewhat friends from these efforts, but he doesn't know I like him- at least I don't think so.

However, my girl classmates know that I like him. They're not very experienced with romance, however, so often they're bad at giving advice regarding it, and tease me about my affections. They throw out hints all the time in front of everybody, which unnerves me greatly. It's very annoying, actually.

Earlier today, school got out, and my female classmate asked me, "Why do you like him anyway? Are you desperate? You're desperate, aren't you.." And I hate that word 'desperate'. Her words left me disturbed. I'm a very affectionate person, I hang out with guys and I know many guys who are close, platonic friends of mine. So even in this circumstance when it'd be a better idea to hang out with the tight clique of girls to avoid conflict, why do I care about this guy so much and why am I 'hanging' with these dudes? I like it when I work hard and get good praise for it, and I soak up compliments from others very happily, and I'm wondering if these are actions to deal with a low self-esteem problem.

The bottom line is, I'm wondering if I'm desperate for affection and a feeling of self-worth. I've been thinking about it very carefully since my classmate suggested it. You don't have to tackle every single issue I've presented in this thesis of a post, but I'd really like to know if it's normal to want a some love. I can live without it, but I really would like to have someone to feel mutual romantic emotions towards myself. It's made me very confused..

Not at all. You're not desperate. You're a perfectly normal young lady. I happen to feel the same way sometimes and in school I hated putting on a facade. Unfortunately for me, most of the class I had to put up with were so immature that I never had many friends.

Those girls aren't your friends, and you'd do well to remember that. A good friend doesn't make fun of you. Also it may be time for you to take a stand against the status quo, have a talk with the guy and actually let him know the same. If the other guys desert him just because he likes you, a girl, as a very close friend, then they really aren't his friends either. Be yourself. Don't let crowd ruin things for you. In the end, it'll earn you respect.

Belinda January 23rd, 2009 5:35 PM

Well, I'm pretty much scared for my Uncle right now,he has a blood clot in his legs,the doctors say if it get's to his brain it could cause him to die,I'm very scared at the moment I wish I could do something to help him,but I can't,he's one of the best Uncle's I've had,I go over every two weeks to check on him to see if he's alright,I just really need somebody to talk too you know,and I'm very nervous.

NoBel_ToKYo ™ January 24th, 2009 3:46 AM

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Originally Posted by BrightFer (Post 4305799)
Well, I'm pretty much scared for my Uncle right now,he has a blood clot in his legs,the doctors say if it get's to his brain it could cause him to die,I'm very scared at the moment I wish I could do something to help him,but I can't,he's one of the best Uncle's I've had,I go over every two weeks to check on him to see if he's alright,I just really need somebody to talk too you know,and I'm very nervous.

I'm sorry to hear about your uncle :( I understand that it must be very hard on you at the moment...I was going through something similar sometime last year. All you can do is Persevere, and trust that he doctors will help him recover. ^_^ And of course, you should see him regularly, like you say. I'm sure he could do with talking to you! ^^

BrandoSheriff January 24th, 2009 6:54 AM

I'm Having Girl Troubles...
 
Ok. I have a problem, and like most dudes my age, it's a girl problem. Here's the story:

There's this girl at school. I only have one class with her, and that's 4th period. We've been sitting together and talking since September, and overtime, I've started to develop feelings for her. I've been getting signs that she might have feelings for me too, like when I gave a speech one day, I happened to notice her smiling at me. And this was only with me too. Another day, I could've sworn she was about to tell me she liked me, but the bell rang. And then later on, we got new seating arrangements, and now we're not sitting next to each other anymore. We're on like two different sides of the room. It's hard for me to get a chance to talk to her now. The only times we get to talk is if we get into the same group, or at dismissal. I don't see her much around the school either. But there's just something about her that feels right to me. I'm just being told "She's the one! She's the one!" all the time...

What should I do now? I need tips... :(

emoBill™ January 24th, 2009 7:01 AM

From a girl: I'd say you should probably ask her out. You might say 'But I'm not sure she likes me!' Well, how much other stuff has she done to subtlely tell you she likes you? If it's nothing else, find out more about if she likes you or not, watch for more. Does she start up convos with you just to talk? Does she laugh at everything you say that's even slightly optimistic? Does she want to spend time with you outside of that period? If she does, she probably likes you and you should just ask her out.

Keep me updated, this sounds interesting.

You could actually just ask if she wants to see a movie sometime. If she says something like 'sorry, but i don't like you that way' you can just blow it off with a 'Oh, I didn't really mean it that way! I meant as friends.' Ta-dah. Yayz.

star88 January 24th, 2009 8:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Darkrai Lv.1000 (Post 4307220)
Ok. I have a problem, and like most dudes my age, it's a girl problem. Here's the story:

There's this girl at school. I only have one class with her, and that's 4th period. We've been sitting together and talking since September, and overtime, I've started to develop feelings for her. I've been getting signs that she might have feelings for me too, like when I gave a speech one day, I happened to notice her smiling at me. And this was only with me too. Another day, I could've sworn she was about to tell me she liked me, but the bell rang. And then later on, we got new seating arrangements, and now we're not sitting next to each other anymore. We're on like two different sides of the room. It's hard for me to get a chance to talk to her now. The only times we get to talk is if we get into the same group, or at dismissal. I don't see her much around the school either. But there's just something about her that feels right to me. I'm just being told "She's the one! She's the one!" all the time...

What should I do now? I need tips... :(

when you do talk does she say that you or stuff you say is cute or sweet. that is often a hint that some girls use.

NoBel_ToKYo ™ January 24th, 2009 11:59 AM

The hints that girls give tend to..be forgotten by boys. ^^' Lol We truly are a (mostly) clueless gender when it comes to the opposite sex. XD

kissing. raindrops January 24th, 2009 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by BrightFer (Post 4305799)
Well, I'm pretty much scared for my Uncle right now,he has a blood clot in his legs,the doctors say if it get's to his brain it could cause him to die,I'm very scared at the moment I wish I could do something to help him,but I can't,he's one of the best Uncle's I've had,I go over every two weeks to check on him to see if he's alright,I just really need somebody to talk too you know,and I'm very nervous.

Awwh, I'm really sorry to hear that BrightFer. =[
I know you must be very anxious for him, as you stated. Remember, just stay strong, enjoy and savour every moment you have with him, and don't be scared to express your love for him!
If you ever need someone to talk to, I'll always be here. You can drop off a PM/VM or something anytime. n___n
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Originally Posted by Darkrai Lv.1000 (Post 4307220)
Ok. I have a problem, and like most dudes my age, it's a girl problem. Here's the story:

There's this girl at school. I only have one class with her, and that's 4th period. We've been sitting together and talking since September, and overtime, I've started to develop feelings for her. I've been getting signs that she might have feelings for me too, like when I gave a speech one day, I happened to notice her smiling at me. And this was only with me too. Another day, I could've sworn she was about to tell me she liked me, but the bell rang. And then later on, we got new seating arrangements, and now we're not sitting next to each other anymore. We're on like two different sides of the room. It's hard for me to get a chance to talk to her now. The only times we get to talk is if we get into the same group, or at dismissal. I don't see her much around the school either. But there's just something about her that feels right to me. I'm just being told "She's the one! She's the one!" all the time...

What should I do now? I need tips... :(

I've definitely heard something like this before! Well, since you're the guy, it's most likely going to be you who's going to have to decide what to do. You might want to confront her and just talk, althought as you stated, that's a bit hard. Maybe ask for her msn? I know that talking on msn usually makes people a lot closer, especially the people who don't get a chance to talk at school! But seriously, if you feel that she's realy the one you like, go for it! Just don't let it linger for too long, or else if she finds someone else or loses her interest, you might be feeling a lot of regret for not doing something when she was still interested.
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Originally Posted by Ratiosu (Post 4307239)
From a girl: I'd say you should probably ask her out. You might say 'But I'm not sure she likes me!' Well, how much other stuff has she done to subtlely tell you she likes you? If it's nothing else, find out more about if she likes you or not, watch for more. Does she start up convos with you just to talk? Does she laugh at everything you say that's even slightly optimistic? Does she want to spend time with you outside of that period? If she does, she probably likes you and you should just ask her out.

Keep me updated, this sounds interesting.

You could actually just ask if she wants to see a movie sometime. If she says something like 'sorry, but i don't like you that way' you can just blow it off with a 'Oh, I didn't really mean it that way! I meant as friends.' Ta-dah. Yayz.

I agree with what Ratiosu said, this is great advice n___n Especially the movie part. You should try it out! :3

NoBel_ToKYo ™ January 24th, 2009 12:58 PM

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Maybe ask for her msn? I know that talking on msn usually makes people a lot closer, especially the people who don't get a chance to talk at school!
Too damn true. MSN saved the lives of many of my own relationships XD Yet i don't have it any more...

Saltare. January 24th, 2009 9:46 PM

Basic boy problem.....

Okay...well I have heard from 10 diffrent people that my friend, Shayne, likes me. But he says he doesn't. I want him to like me...but I think he does, he just doens't want to admit it.....any ways I can get him to admit it?

emoBill™ January 25th, 2009 9:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Yukio (Post 4307895)
I agree with what Ratiosu said.

Of course you do.
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Originally Posted by Yukio
this is great advice n___n Especially the movie part.

Of course it is.
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Originally Posted by Yukio
You should try it out! :3

Of course he should. It came from me. There's enough reason right there.

(Someone's feeling egotistical today...)

Zet January 25th, 2009 4:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Skadi (Post 4309331)
Basic boy problem.....

Okay...well I have heard from 10 diffrent people that my friend, Shayne, likes me. But he says he doesn't. I want him to like me...but I think he does, he just doens't want to admit it.....any ways I can get him to admit it?

telling him how you feel about him might make him admit his feelings

True Reign January 25th, 2009 4:19 PM

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Basic boy problem.....

Okay...well I have heard from 10 diffrent people that my friend, Shayne, likes me. But he says he doesn't. I want him to like me...but I think he does, he just doens't want to admit it.....any ways I can get him to admit it?
I'm just going to assume that you like him aswell. If this is the case, then I suggest that you tell him your true feelings that way you would feel more comfortable about telling you the truth.

Believe me if all girls did this, guys would be so much more open towards emotions.

Ceilidh January 26th, 2009 8:02 AM

My friend has been seriously pissing me off lately -____-

Me and him were such good friends two years ago, but now it's just like he's a different person /:

I know it's just the agony of growing up, but I sometimes feel like I'm the one who has grown up since I was 14-15 and he has grown down /: I think he THINKS he has grown up, but he hasn't /: he's just acting more immature than before.

I just miss having fun with him and doing things on complete impluse, we used to just catch random busses places and just have fun in that town and what not =)) now we just do the same things all the time, and they bore me :(

He's also really mean to me lately :( I haven't even done anything.

Tokin January 26th, 2009 8:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Ceilidh (Post 4311851)
My friend has been seriously pissing me off lately -____-

Me and him were such good friends two years ago, but now it's just like he's a different person /:

I know it's just the agony of growing up, but I sometimes feel like I'm the one who has grown up since I was 14-15 and he has grown down /: I think he THINKS he has grown up, but he hasn't /: he's just acting more immature than before.

I just miss having fun with him and doing things on complete impluse, we used to just catch random busses places and just have fun in that town and what not =)) now we just do the same things all the time, and they bore me :(

He's also really mean to me lately :( I haven't even done anything.

a similar thing has happened to me with a friend, his inmaturity and randomness isn't of my liking anymore, your friend is not growing down, you are simply becoming more serious and mature, perhaps an honest friend to friend talk about this will solve that problem, who knows, it could be that you two can adapt to each other, change should never be a reason for a friendship to end^^

Ceilidh January 26th, 2009 10:13 AM

I just can't stand change :( I know it's something you have to deal with.... at times I just wish everything could stay the same.

Then again, if everything stayed the same we wouldn't grow as people :(

I should be thankful that he was there to begin with, and he helped me become a stronger person today.

I'm more serious in some ways, like I can't deal with the way he acts around some people anymore </3 I just feel like telling him stop being so bloody pretentious around some people -____-

I just feel like an outcast around most people my age lately /: I think I've out-grown alot, it sucks.

Spinor January 26th, 2009 10:35 AM

Hahaha... Yes, it's a love problem this time again.

Ok, so like last week I met a girl new to the school. Love at first sight, and it happened non-sexually, which with me is rarer than a shiny Pokemon o.o'.

So then I said hi to her, when we looked into each others eyes, and I just didn't know what hit me, she was so beautiful I lost track of time and the enviroment, I don't for how long we stared until another girl chased me away.

The next day, I met her outside, we stared at each other again with all the love in the universe, she then looked away and walked to a group of friends, then another one chased me away ;_;.

Before anyone tries to press that "Post Reply" button, here's the catch:

She is hanging out with girls that completely hate me and know me as a "Disgusting Stalker" because I started off the year being a flirty guy who tends to be in many places at the same time.

She isn't very social but she still hangs around with them. And if I try to get near her, the others will comment negatively and try to chase me off. Worst of all, I am super Nervous
Because when I actually greet her, we tend to stare at each other, I think she has feelings for me, but heck, do I do a Reputational Suicide all the time.

Tokin January 26th, 2009 10:50 AM

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I just can't stand change :( I know it's something you have to deal with.... at times I just wish everything could stay the same.

Then again, if everything stayed the same we wouldn't grow as people :(

I should be thankful that he was there to begin with, and he helped me become a stronger person today.

I'm more serious in some ways, like I can't deal with the way he acts around some people anymore </3 I just feel like telling him stop being so bloody pretentious around some people -____-

I just feel like an outcast around most people my age lately /: I think I've out-grown alot, it sucks.
I am no stranger to what you feel, I don't act the way many people my age do, realizing you are not like the ones in your group is always hard, but it's not too difficult, as I said, an honest to heart talk with him might make him see your points and your problems, and perhaps it will help him mature himself, but be advised, with maturty patience must come as well^^

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Hahaha... Yes, it's a love problem this time again.

Ok, so like last week I met a girl new to the school. Love at first sight, and it happened non-sexually, which with me is rarer than a shiny Pokemon o.o'.

So then I said hi to her, when we looked into each others eyes, and I just didn't know what hit me, she was so beautiful I lost track of time and the enviroment, I don't for how long we stared until another girl chased me away.

The next day, I met her outside, we stared at each other again with all the love in the universe, she then looked away and walked to a group of friends, then another one chased me away ;_;.

Before anyone tries to press that "Post Reply" button, here's the catch:

She is hanging out with girls that completely hate me and know me as a "Disgusting Stalker" because I started off the year being a flirty guy who tends to be in many places at the same time.

She isn't very social but she still hangs around with them. And if I try to get near her, the others will comment negatively and try to chase me off. Worst of all, I am super Nervous
Because when I actually greet her, we tend to stare at each other, I think she has feelings for me, but heck, do I do a Reputational Suicide all the time.
Ah yes, I have been friends with someone whose friends are my enemies, I know exactly what you mean, the best way to get through to her will be to find her alone, or to find a way to get her attention so she will approach you as well, or give you her email/phone, be aware that she might be feeling the same way and is afraid of having all her "friends" turn on her, so try it, I'm quite sure she will try to find a way to have a private meeting as well^^

kissing. raindrops January 26th, 2009 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by ─AdvancedK9─ (Post 4312075)
Hahaha... Yes, it's a love problem this time again.

Ok, so like last week I met a girl new to the school. Love at first sight, and it happened non-sexually, which with me is rarer than a shiny Pokemon o.o'.

So then I said hi to her, when we looked into each others eyes, and I just didn't know what hit me, she was so beautiful I lost track of time and the enviroment, I don't for how long we stared until another girl chased me away.

The next day, I met her outside, we stared at each other again with all the love in the universe, she then looked away and walked to a group of friends, then another one chased me away ;_;.

Before anyone tries to press that "Post Reply" button, here's the catch:

She is hanging out with girls that completely hate me and know me as a "Disgusting Stalker" because I started off the year being a flirty guy who tends to be in many places at the same time.

She isn't very social but she still hangs around with them. And if I try to get near her, the others will comment negatively and try to chase me off. Worst of all, I am super Nervous
Because when I actually greet her, we tend to stare at each other, I think she has feelings for me, but heck, do I do a Reputational Suicide all the time.

GET HER MSN!
It works wonders. Ask her for her msn, and talk to her on there. I'm sure you'll be able to talk some stuff through, and maybe even go out for a movie or something? Sounds like you really like this girl. Do you have any classes with her? Maybe you could pass her a note in class or something. Otherwise, the best choice might be to just try and catch her alone sometime.
I have many friends who are also friends with this one girl who hates me (although I have no clue what her freaking problem is, she's dating my ex, and I introduced them, and I don't even hate her?), so I know what you mean by that group of friends who hate you. Don't let them get to you, as I didn't let this girl get to me, but it must be somewhat harder for the girl you like. =/ Just think about how you could act around her and stuff.

Ceilidh January 26th, 2009 12:31 PM

I doubt it tbh :( the only thing I can actually see working anymore is cutting him out of my life full stop.

He's quite possessive with me lately, and gets annoyed if I go out with other friends -____- Idk what's with him anymore.

Blahhhhhh.

Thanks for everything btw <3

kissing. raindrops January 26th, 2009 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Ceilidh (Post 4312297)
I doubt it tbh :( the only thing I can actually see working anymore is cutting him out of my life full stop.

He's quite possessive with me lately, and gets annoyed if I go out with other friends -____- Idk what's with him anymore.

Blahhhhhh.

Thanks for everything btw <3

I knoww where you're coming from. =/ It's sometimes so much harder to talk to someone about how they're acting than it seems. I mean, one of my "best friends" right now just pisses me off when I see her, I feel horrible for how I feel, but I just don't like her as much anymore.

How does your friend see you? Do you think he could somehow like you more than as a friend?

Ceilidh January 26th, 2009 1:32 PM

The reason we're friends is because my old friend Abi (she used to be my best friend before she moved) used to be his gf, so I hanged out with them both.

But, then when Abi moved to New Zealand we still talked loads.

I really don't think he likes me like that... I mean if he did I'm sure he would have told me by now /: we've slept in the same bed together a few times (in parties and stuff) and he never ever tried anything on with me or anything.

.Seth January 26th, 2009 7:33 PM

OK...Here goes.

I take a "gifted course". It's called Challenge.
Basically, we do critical thinking mumbo jumbo.

Anyways, I used to like the class, but now, I dread going in that classroom.
I don't really like the people in the period I have the class either.
The teacher's ok, I just hate the work we do.
It takes forever, it's really hard. Plus, we're doing this "Around the World" project right now, and I just don't want to do it... Well, I don't really "just don't want to do it", I just don't really care about it...

I really want to switch out...but I don't know if I should or not...

Do you think I should?

kissing. raindrops January 26th, 2009 8:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Ceilidh (Post 4312400)
The reason we're friends is because my old friend Abi (she used to be my best friend before she moved) used to be his gf, so I hanged out with them both.

But, then when Abi moved to New Zealand we still talked loads.

I really don't think he likes me like that... I mean if he did I'm sure he would have told me by now /: we've slept in the same bed together a few times (in parties and stuff) and he never ever tried anything on with me or anything.

Ooh! I see, that explains how you became friends with him and your "relationship".
Yeah, then I'm pretty sure he doesn't like you like that.. If you were at parties and stuff, there must have been alcohol? Was he drunk? If he was and you guys were in the bed together, than he must of tried something, cause from personal experience, all guys are horn dogs when they're drunk. Even if he wasn't, though, you said "a few times", which is plenty enough for him to have tried something.
&& now he's just really mean to you? How about you explain some of the things he does.
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Originally Posted by RaiRai-kun (Post 4313329)
OK...Here goes.

I take a "gifted course". It's called Challenge.
Basically, we do critical thinking mumbo jumbo.

Anyways, I used to like the class, but now, I dread going in that classroom.
I don't really like the people in the period I have the class either.
The teacher's ok, I just hate the work we do.
It takes forever, it's really hard. Plus, we're doing this "Around the World" project right now, and I just don't want to do it... Well, I don't really "just don't want to do it", I just don't really care about it...

I really want to switch out...but I don't know if I should or not...

Do you think I should?

This is in school, correct? First of all, have you tried to talk to any of your friends, teachers, or parents about it? I mean, if you expressed how you felt to them, you could have a better, more confident decision as to if you really want to drop the class or not. I know what you mean when you say you "just really don't want to do it". I've been there, and it just gets really frustrating and annoying. I suggest talking to your friends, teachers and parents first, clear your mind and tell them exactly how you feel. && if you really want to drop out after that, then have a talk with your parents about it, ask them for their opinions. Hope it works out <33

>Feelings< January 26th, 2009 8:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Shirogane (Post 4304072)
Eheh. I have a silly teenage problem. xD;;. Caution, up ahead lies a bit of a strange and complex situation written in detail just an idea of the feel of the circumstances.

So, I don't exactly hate but I don't like my female classmates either. None of them are good students, they all have shallow, inambitious personalities and the only thing they can talk (or scream about- they are quite loud..) about is how --ty the smallest thing is, how gay it is for two guys just to play wrestle, or what's going on in that soap opera. Therefore, I am the odd girl out in my classroom as I am serious about my studies, I like video games and anime and I don't like to raise my voice. Because of my interests, I noticed that in class I spend most of my time talking to the guys. During breaktime, I spend my time with two sisters from a lower grade, and we're good friends, but I never ever really click with the girls in my class.

There are fourteen in my class, with five girls and nine guys, counting myself. Though they do mix, most of the time the guys stick to the guys and the girls stick to the girls. Which makes it awkward for me, since I don't want to be alienated from the group of girls but I have fun hanging out with the guys too. I can bear with it, though. My real problem is this: I like this guy, very much. I care about him, I like working with him on school projects because he's a hardworking, ambitious person while also being a funny guy. However, like everyone else in the class, he's also concerned about keeping up an 'appearance' for the rest of the class. When it is just the two of us talking to each other, he's casual and talks to me normally, though usually he can't talk for long. When he's around friends, however, I notice that he's quite rude to me at times when I approach him.

I understand this, of course. My class is pretty immature when it comes to relationships- you hang out with a person of the opposite gender, by the next day the word has gone around that you two are 'deep in love' and a potential strong platonic relationship is ruined. And because the person I like is always surrounded by the tight circle of his friends, it's almost impossible to catch him alone. So I take whatever chance I get to get to know him better, and we're somewhat friends from these efforts, but he doesn't know I like him- at least I don't think so.

However, my girl classmates know that I like him. They're not very experienced with romance, however, so often they're bad at giving advice regarding it, and tease me about my affections. They throw out hints all the time in front of everybody, which unnerves me greatly. It's very annoying, actually.

Earlier today, school got out, and my female classmate asked me, "Why do you like him anyway? Are you desperate? You're desperate, aren't you.." And I hate that word 'desperate'. Her words left me disturbed. I'm a very affectionate person, I hang out with guys and I know many guys who are close, platonic friends of mine. So even in this circumstance when it'd be a better idea to hang out with the tight clique of girls to avoid conflict, why do I care about this guy so much and why am I 'hanging' with these dudes? I like it when I work hard and get good praise for it, and I soak up compliments from others very happily, and I'm wondering if these are actions to deal with a low self-esteem problem.

The bottom line is, I'm wondering if I'm desperate for affection and a feeling of self-worth. I've been thinking about it very carefully since my classmate suggested it. You don't have to tackle every single issue I've presented in this thesis of a post, but I'd really like to know if it's normal to want a some love. I can live without it, but I really would like to have someone to feel mutual romantic emotions towards myself. It's made me very confused..

It's perfectly normal to want some love. You're wrong if you think you can live without it. Well, yes you can live without them, but you'd not be the same person anymore. So, in a way, I understand your position. And please don't reveal these types of feelings to those types of people as a way of getting help, you'll only get more trouble, like them trying to tease you by giving hints.

I hate the word desperate in this sense as much as you do. Don't mind me but, if the girls in your class think like this, they're plain immature, and I advice not having such people around with the name of friends. If you like hanging out with the guys, that might be cause they have a closer personality to you, and that it's more fun to hang out with them - and it's as normal as eating food everyday.

And about him liking you, you'll never know till you... till you... I'm sorry, but I can't think of anything to say... But you'll have to do something for sure. That something you'll have to figure out yourself. And try getting hints from the way he does things and the way he talks to you. Maybe that might be a way. And you shouldn't back off at revealing a little of your feeling toward himself either. Guys are bad at understanding that trait of girls most of the time!

It also sounds like he's under peer pressure of some kind, to have gone to the point of teasing you when they're around. But tell him how you feel. Maybe get him on MSN? It's a great idea to get to know each other better! And don't stop being yourself just because of those girls making fun.

Hope that helped! :)


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Originally Posted by Skadi (Post 4309331)
Basic boy problem.....

Okay...well I have heard from 10 diffrent people that my friend, Shayne, likes me. But he says he doesn't. I want him to like me...but I think he does, he just doens't want to admit it.....any ways I can get him to admit it?

If what you said means you like him too, then go ahead and tell him about how you feel, or at least give some hints. You can't wait for him to make a move, cause if you do that's where it'll be stuck forever. If you want something like a progress to happen, then you have to make a move...

Hope that helped! :)


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Originally Posted by Ceilidh (Post 4311851)
My friend has been seriously pissing me off lately -____-

Me and him were such good friends two years ago, but now it's just like he's a different person /:

I know it's just the agony of growing up, but I sometimes feel like I'm the one who has grown up since I was 14-15 and he has grown down /: I think he THINKS he has grown up, but he hasn't /: he's just acting more immature than before.

I just miss having fun with him and doing things on complete impluse, we used to just catch random busses places and just have fun in that town and what not =)) now we just do the same things all the time, and they bore me :(

He's also really mean to me lately :( I haven't even done anything.

I just can't stand change :( I know it's something you have to deal with.... at times I just wish everything could stay the same.

Then again, if everything stayed the same we wouldn't grow as people :(

I should be thankful that he was there to begin with, and he helped me become a stronger person today.

I'm more serious in some ways, like I can't deal with the way he acts around some people anymore </3 I just feel like telling him stop being so bloody pretentious around some people -____-

I just feel like an outcast around most people my age lately /: I think I've out-grown alot, it sucks.

I doubt it tbh :( the only thing I can actually see working anymore is cutting him out of my life full stop.

He's quite possessive with me lately, and gets annoyed if I go out with other friends -____- Idk what's with him anymore.

First of all, I better tell you that I have merged all your posts afterward into one, since they were all related. Hope you don't mind!
I know I say this almost all the time, but I'll tell this again - I know how that feels, cause I had a lot of experience about these things in my life.

No, it isn't the agony of growing up, it's just that you've become more mature, and tend to care about all mutual relationships more now than before. And even if this term might seem inexistent, your friend has actually lost maturity. Times have become like this these days...

If he's mean to you, maybe he has changed, and is not the same friend anymore you had before. Good changes are always welcome, but they don't seem to happen much. So, I myself can't stand much of these changes either. Good changes make you grow, not these ones...

If he acts more like an insulting creep around other people, whether it sounds stupid or not, he's simply thinking he's at a higher position than you, and you have to talk it out with your friend. You have to show that you are something too, and if a detailed time-taken conversation doesn't help it out, then look for other friends rather than this one.

If he's possessive of you, it means what I've told in the previous paragraph is completely true. It could either have been that he likes you and he's jealous, but no... After you've taken a good amount of attempt and still don't succeed, then, like you suggested yourself, cutting him off from your life seems good...

And about feeling left out from everything and by most people around your age, it's true that you've become mature to a level that you can't mix in with them. Just wait for it, and sometimes try looking for what they seek in friendship. But my advice is - be yourself, and if this makes any friend come to you for friendship's sake, then they will bw your true friends. What do you want more - A huge bunch of people hanging around with you, or a low number of friends, but true friends?

Hope that helped! :)


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Originally Posted by ─AdvancedK9─ (Post 4312075)
Hahaha... Yes, it's a love problem this time again.

Ok, so like last week I met a girl new to the school. Love at first sight, and it happened non-sexually, which with me is rarer than a shiny Pokemon o.o'.

So then I said hi to her, when we looked into each others eyes, and I just didn't know what hit me, she was so beautiful I lost track of time and the enviroment, I don't for how long we stared until another girl chased me away.

The next day, I met her outside, we stared at each other again with all the love in the universe, she then looked away and walked to a group of friends, then another one chased me away ;_;.

Before anyone tries to press that "Post Reply" button, here's the catch:

She is hanging out with girls that completely hate me and know me as a "Disgusting Stalker" because I started off the year being a flirty guy who tends to be in many places at the same time.

She isn't very social but she still hangs around with them. And if I try to get near her, the others will comment negatively and try to chase me off. Worst of all, I am super Nervous
Because when I actually greet her, we tend to stare at each other, I think she has feelings for me, but heck, do I do a Reputational Suicide all the time.

Lol, love at first sight? Don't be so sure about that. For a flirty guy as you say you are, almost every good looking girl might seem like a love at first sight. So, take some time and wait till you confirm this. In the mean time, start off by trying to get to know her. Like someone said, MSN is a great idea.

And yeah, don't do a reputational suicide. It can be one of the worst things you can do to yourself. You'll even feel like going somewhere new where nobody knows you, if at extreme. From today onwards, try giving everyone the image that you are not the stalking flirty guy anymore (sorry if it hurts...).

And about being nervous, I'll point out to MSN again. Face to face conversation with such a person can almost always make anyone nervous. It won't happen in MSN though, so there you go! After you get to know her a little, you'll see that the nervousness is fading away. And at school, try to get her alone, which might be difficult!

Hope that helped! :)

Imposter Oak January 27th, 2009 4:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Ceilidh (Post 4312400)
The reason we're friends is because my old friend Abi (she used to be my best friend before she moved) used to be his gf, so I hanged out with them both.

But, then when Abi moved to New Zealand we still talked loads.

I really don't think he likes me like that... I mean if he did I'm sure he would have told me by now /: we've slept in the same bed together a few times (in parties and stuff) and he never ever tried anything on with me or anything.

...you're ugly, right?


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Originally Posted by RaiRai-kun (Post 4313329)
OK...Here goes.

I take a "gifted course". It's called Challenge.
Basically, we do critical thinking mumbo jumbo.

Anyways, I used to like the class, but now, I dread going in that classroom.
I don't really like the people in the period I have the class either.
The teacher's ok, I just hate the work we do.
It takes forever, it's really hard. Plus, we're doing this "Around the World" project right now, and I just don't want to do it... Well, I don't really "just don't want to do it", I just don't really care about it...

I really want to switch out...but I don't know if I should or not...

Do you think I should?

No. I think you should just stay at home and drink tea.

Zet January 27th, 2009 4:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Imposter Oak (Post 4313905)
Quote:

Originally Posted by Ceilidh (Post 4312400)
The reason we're friends is because my old friend Abi (she used to be my best friend before she moved) used to be his gf, so I hanged out with them both.

But, then when Abi moved to New Zealand we still talked loads.

I really don't think he likes me like that... I mean if he did I'm sure he would have told me by now /: we've slept in the same bed together a few times (in parties and stuff) and he never ever tried anything on with me or anything.

...you're ugly, right?

you sure know how to talk to girls

and he probably thinks you're just a good friend only for the time being but I'm sure he'll fall for you

Imposter Oak January 27th, 2009 4:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Shinjiro (Post 4313910)
you sure know how to talk to girls

That is very true. I am one.

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Originally Posted by Shinjiro (Post 4313910)
and he probably thinks you're just a good friend only for the time being but I'm sure he'll fall for you

I'm not too sure... Have we got any proof there's no repulsion involved?

Zet January 27th, 2009 4:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Imposter Oak (Post 4313916)
Quote:

Originally Posted by Shinjiro (Post 4313910)
you sure know how to talk to girls

That is very true. I am one.

it's still not nice to ask something like that though :x
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Originally Posted by Imposter Oak (Post 4313916)
Quote:

Originally Posted by Shinjiro (Post 4313910)
and he probably thinks you're just a good friend only for the time being but I'm sure he'll fall for you

I'm not too sure... Have we got any proof there's no repulsion involved?

you know, love isn't just about looks

Imposter Oak January 27th, 2009 4:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Shinjiro (Post 4313933)
it's still not nice to ask something like that though :x

:D I'm not a very nice person!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shinjiro (Post 4313933)
you know, love isn't just about looks

What's love got to do with anything?

Tokin January 27th, 2009 5:54 AM

Ignore him, he gains nothing by his comments and there is nothing to be gained by paying attention to him either. Now...

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OK...Here goes.

I take a "gifted course". It's called Challenge.
Basically, we do critical thinking mumbo jumbo.

Anyways, I used to like the class, but now, I dread going in that classroom.
I don't really like the people in the period I have the class either.
The teacher's ok, I just hate the work we do.
It takes forever, it's really hard. Plus, we're doing this "Around the World" project right now, and I just don't want to do it... Well, I don't really "just don't want to do it", I just don't really care about it...

I really want to switch out...but I don't know if I should or not...

Do you think I should?
Why not ask the teacher about it and suggest a change in activities for others that are more relavant to the course and more interesting, if this is not possible, then drop out if oyu want, there is no reason to stay in a course you dislike^^

Ceilidh January 27th, 2009 6:34 AM

Actually, I'm pretty sure he's gay -rolleyes-

He has come out as "bi" before, but I know him too well to believe that.

Thanks for the good advice btw guys.

I find it funny how I haven't even posted pics of myself on here and some people are already thinking that lol.

Akio123 January 28th, 2009 6:48 AM

A. First off guys thanks for the advice on the last problem.
B. I have a new one:
One of my best friends (who is also my roommate here in college) was just diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. I don't really know what to do to help. His girlfriend is going to be staying with us so her and I can take care of him for a while but with school work, clubs, reapplying to new schools it seems like this is going to be one hard semester. I am not sure what I can really do to help my friend other than have the same diet he does so he doesn't feel bad and exercise with him. (I hope I'm not going against the rules, its not that I have been or anything I just want to know how I should treat him (I know not differently but I'm so confused...)).

Tokin January 28th, 2009 6:53 AM

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One of my best friends (who is also my roommate here in college) was just diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. I don't really know what to do to help. His girlfriend is going to be staying with us so her and I can take care of him for a while but with school work, clubs, reapplying to new schools it seems like this is going to be one hard semester. I am not sure what I can really do to help my friend other than have the same diet he does so he doesn't feel bad and exercise with him. (I hope I'm not going against the rules, its not that I have been or anything I just want to know how I should treat him (I know not differently but I'm so confused...
it is noatural to feel bad for a close friend having such a disease, physically there's not much you can do, you should treat him with compassion and be a close, available friend to him and give your moral support, in short, continue to be a good friend, that will help him greatly^^

Spinor January 28th, 2009 7:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Akio123 (Post 4316224)
I have a new one:
One of my best friends (who is also my roommate here in college) was just diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. I don't really know what to do to help. His girlfriend is going to be staying with us so her and I can take care of him for a while but with school work, clubs, reapplying to new schools it seems like this is going to be one hard semester. I am not sure what I can really do to help my friend other than have the same diet he does so he doesn't feel bad and exercise with him. (I hope I'm not going against the rules, its not that I have been or anything I just want to know how I should treat him (I know not differently but I'm so confused...)).

Oh man, nobody likes when a good friend goes sick :<.

First of all, I am not recommending you go on the same diet as him unless you have an inactive pancreas as well. It could be bad for YOUR blood sugar. The exercise is Ok, but you need to maintain homeostasis yourself as well.

Ermm..

Homeostasis (Hou Me ou Steisihs): The maintainance of an organism to keep regular conditions.

Anyways.

I feel sorry for your friend, it's hard to deal with this but the best you can do is help him keep his health. Diabetes often forces people to miss education time, so also try to help him in what's going on in college as well if he needs to check his blood a lot.

Good Luck
─ TtFaF Expert.

kingofjokers January 31st, 2009 1:41 PM

ugghh girl problems theres this girl who i like and she acts very kind and stares at me all day and have a great smile so i decided to ask her out but i am a very shy person so i chickened out and now i still like her but shes going out with another boy what to do what to do sorry i didnt give you alot of info

Shock Narr January 31st, 2009 7:45 PM

LugiaInfinity suicide
 
I have recently had a very saddening and frustrating conversation with a person by the forum name of LugiaInfinity. It was scary. We had been friends for a while and he started talking about killing himself and it really started to scare me. I was trying to talk him out of it, but what can I do? I'm in Australia and he lives in Guyana (which is near Brazil)
I am scared. He's been offline since yesterday and the only contact with him I've had is that he has changed his personal message to; "People only care about you when you're ready to kill yourself."

I have copied everything that was said onto a Microsoft Word spreadsheet. I don't think I should post it here because it may sadden some poeple.
I don't know what to do. Now, I am not joking. This actually happened. I just wish he could talk to me or send me an email so that I know he didn't do it.

I've never been in a situation anything like thes before and I don't know what to do. I was trying to stop somebody from taking their own life. I was scared.

I'm hoping it's all a joke, but he sounded pretty depressed. I probably shouldn't post this as it may be evidence to some sort of suicide case that may come up in the near future, but this is the last thing he said to me:
Ryo - Shadow Chaos Emperor says:
im like gonna ignore thissss
Ryo - Shadow Chaos Emperor says:
and forget this
Ryo - Shadow Chaos Emperor says:
and just sleep


It's been almost two days since I last heard from him and I haven't logged off msn or closed the conversation window with him.
Please help me out here. I feel terrible because I couldn't do anything and I don't know what to do....

kingofjokers January 31st, 2009 8:39 PM

dont worry if he did umm you know then he is in a better place rite now or maybe he just taking off stress by sleeping and plus its not like being on the computer is all he does all day people have lives outside of PC lets hope he is having a good one

Tokin February 1st, 2009 4:55 PM

Killing oneself is not as easy as it seems to be, your friend probably is depressed and doesn't want to talk at the moment, perhaps patience will give you an answer, if it doesn't and you really need to know Try to find a way to get other ways of contacting him, like the phone, ask around his friends^^

h POKE February 1st, 2009 5:03 PM

Umm... He hasn't necessarily killed himself. Maybe he just needed time to think. Also, generally (if I learned anything from Health class) what you do when someone is on the brink like that is talk to them specifically about the suicide. Then again, I thought my Health teacher was crazy too.

Problems? I have problems... I have to write six articles every week for my newsletter. That's a lot of wrriting!

Razer302 February 2nd, 2009 8:15 AM

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Originally Posted by kingofjokers (Post 4323004)
ugghh girl problems theres this girl who i like and she acts very kind and stares at me all day and have a great smile so i decided to ask her out but i am a very shy person so i chickened out and now i still like her but shes going out with another boy what to do what to do sorry i didnt give you alot of info

You are still young. Near enough every relationship at that age will fail so I am sure it won't be long till she is free again and you can make a move. Don't be shy around girls. They will notice that straight away and that in turn will make them nervous, try to be confident.

LugiaInfinity February 7th, 2009 3:34 PM

Wow! Thanks allot for broadcasting to the whole PokeCommunity that I'm the insane kid that wants to kill himself.

Neety February 9th, 2009 5:50 AM

LugiaInfinity, I think your friend is just worried about you...pleaase don't get offended by their kindness. Plus you did kinda broadcast it yourself by putting it in you MSN name.

If you really feel that way, is there someone you can talk it through with, like a friend or tutor?

Saltare. February 10th, 2009 2:50 PM

More boy problems....yay?

Yikes! Well, today my friend Colin shouted out in Art class "EMILY LIKES SHAYNE!" And I felt like dissappearing at that momment. And since then, he hasn't spoken a word to me. Let alone look at me. I mean, I DO like him. And since my mom is a teacher, she got Shayne's address so I could go talk to him about it...idk what to do! Im scared...and nervous...

Stronkadonk February 10th, 2009 2:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Skadi (Post 4348523)
More boy problems....yay?

Yikes! Well, today my friend Colin shouted out in Art class "EMILY LIKES SHAYNE!" And I felt like dissappearing at that momment. And since then, he hasn't spoken a word to me. Let alone look at me. I mean, I DO like him. And since my mom is a teacher, she got Shayne's address so I could go talk to him about it...idk what to do! Im scared...and nervous...

Wow...
And you consider him your friend?
Just lay low, and don't stress out or feel embarrassed.

Eventually, in a bit, approach him and just chat with him in a friendly manner.
I wish you the best of luck.

Spinor February 10th, 2009 3:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Skadi (Post 4348523)
More boy problems....yay?

Yikes! Well, today my friend Colin shouted out in Art class "EMILY LIKES SHAYNE!" And I felt like dissappearing at that momment. And since then, he hasn't spoken a word to me. Let alone look at me. I mean, I DO like him. And since my mom is a teacher, she got Shayne's address so I could go talk to him about it...idk what to do! Im scared...and nervous...

Find him when he's alone and try to get a little flirty.

If that doesn't work, me not know what will. Guys always fall for flirts, but don't go too strong.

Saltare. February 10th, 2009 3:45 PM

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Originally Posted by ─AdvancedK9─ (Post 4348627)
Find him when he's alone and try to get a little flirty.

If that doesn't work, me not know what will. Guys always fall for flirts, but don't go too strong.


Well, I just got back from his house and it was an O.K talk. I started crying walking home. Since he says he doesn't like me, and I like him. I KNOW he likes me. He acts like a big flirt around me, he stares at me in gym class when we are running, he smiles at me A LOT, and he is nice to me. Like, he gave me a box of candy before I left his house. He is also a real gentleman around me, like when I was talking to him, before we talked, he spit out his gum, cleaned up his room, and LOOKED at me. Most guys don't do that. Im eager to go back tomorrow after school and talk to him if people question me about being there like his friend Steven...soo...im very nervous about this. It took me about 20 minutes to knock on the door.

Stronkadonk February 10th, 2009 4:08 PM

Don't freak him out.
Just act natural.
And maybe he doesn't, but he didn't want to offend you in any way.
I am not sure, because no girl has openly admitted they ever like me, but I still have many female friends.
We just talk.
Not flirt.
Not fight.

Saltare. February 10th, 2009 4:44 PM

...Yeah. I think he found it strange I was standing in his living room...but I left early cause he had a friend over. If anyone says anything to me tomorrow at school, im going back to his house to straighten all this out.


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