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shu November 14th, 2008 4:12 PM

Do you believe in friends forever?
 
I waz wondering if you believe in friends forever?

ErickaVolt November 14th, 2008 4:32 PM

Well, yes. I believe because I trust and love my friends and so they are. It depends on good relationships. Sometimes, friends can be your worst enemy.

Ruphire November 14th, 2008 4:45 PM

I believe in it because I love my friends and I hope we'll be together for a long time.

Gummy November 14th, 2008 4:50 PM

I have met many people that I thought I'd be friends with forever, but I've been wrong each time. People move on with their lives, start hanging out with different people and such. I really don't expect o find a life long friend until I get to college.

22sa November 14th, 2008 7:44 PM

Extremely skilled or genius people have a hard time to finding equals, so it is not strange for them to know the same people all their lives if they've actually managed to find a few equals to be their friends. For them, friends forever is an obvious fact.

Common people, however, don't share this trait, they have plenty of equals, move on, change and forgot people they use to know.

The Original Darkwiz787 November 14th, 2008 7:48 PM

Yes and no- but I can't Explain, it's complicated.

TwilightBlade November 14th, 2008 8:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gummy (Post 4121727)
I have met many people that I thought I'd be friends with forever, but I've been wrong each time. People move on with their lives, start hanging out with different people and such. I really don't expect o find a life long friend until I get to college.

Totally agree.

I met my best friend in 6th grade while on a field trip. I was playing my Pokemon Crystal on the bus, and the rest was awesomeness. After 9th grade, her and I went to different high schools. She didn't want to go into IB with me, but chose her neighborhood school instead. I was fine with that, but we promised to remain "best friends forever." We promised to keep in touch via phone, email, and possibly wifi in the future. We promised to go off everywhere together during the summer and weekends. We promised to never ever ever let boys get in the way of our friendship.

At the end of 9th grade, she had a boyfriend. And I'm all like.. wtf. She was never the type of girl to like boys. She was annoyed by boys, and was a total tomboy (wore Florida Gators jacket almost everyday) and a nerd (pokenerd lol). She was appalled when I got my ears pierced, carried a purse to school, and even wore pink for a day. She wasn't into girly things. I can't believe how much she has changed. Little Kimmy, all kissy kissy? It didn't make sense to me at the time. We haven't talked since 10 months ago and even for that time, it was a brief IM. She always had her boyfriend over, and she went to the movies with him instead of me.

Now, I've changed as well but I was jealous and grief-stricken due to this. It's hard for me to find a "best friend" anywhere now. I tried to get over her, but my first friend in high school had transferred to another school mid year. Now, I remain distant from any classmates. To this day, I'll only call her my best friend, I'll trust her completely, and I'll always back her up, but there's something.. Missing in life now. If you attach your heart too tightly to someone, the scars are deeper when you are ripped apart..

Ho-Oh November 14th, 2008 8:30 PM

Oh yes, thank you for asking. lololol

Yeah I believe in that, but just childhood friends are harder to keep. I'll always have Malyka and Jess though. :D

Aurafire November 14th, 2008 8:54 PM

I believe that you can have friends that you love and trust...It takes a few tries to weed out the pretenders but once you have you're left with the people who you can qualify as "best" friends. Does that mean forever? Well, I'd say friends for a lifetime at least =P

Legobricks November 15th, 2008 5:26 AM

A friend may happen to be able to last the term of one's life, but no, there are just too many possible circumstances out of both parties' control.

wobbadude1 November 15th, 2008 5:32 AM

Well, one of my friends who I am friends with now I have known and been friends with for about 13/14 years and I guess we'll be friends through thick and thin! It's even easier to keep friends this day and age thanks to social networking sites!

However another person who I was practically best friends with 10 years ago- now pretty much avoids me for no reason at all! I guess it can go either way really...

Virtual Chatot November 15th, 2008 5:44 AM

No, someone will move away or have other interests, and slowly you'll start to never see them.

I've seen it a hundred times before.

Caina November 15th, 2008 6:37 AM

I definitely believe Friends are forever... because during my 6th grade, I found my trusted friend, but somehow, when we went to high school, we got separated... I told her during graduation, " We're best friends forever no matter what right...? " and she said yes. And I gave her a remembrance during that day, and we promised to be in touch through cell phone, and we even promised to meet on the park, for some reason... she forgot about it. When I'm already on 7th grade, I keep on wondering if what she was doing, what she was like, I wonder if she still remembers me and so on. Now I reached 9th grade, we met during the Municipal Meet. I couldn't believe what I saw in my eyes... the friend I knew was plain simple, but when I saw her, I was completely shocked, her hair dyed, very sassy, and she even have a boy friend. It wasn't pleasing when I saw her... but I never thought that, when she turned around and saw me, she smiles and ran towards me and grabbed my hand and said " I miss you! " and she showed me the remembrance I gave her.

I was pretty touched at that moment, we where still friends, no, best friends!

Lynnx November 15th, 2008 6:37 AM

Not really, unless there's some way to really be able to meet them face-to-face on a regular basis. If a friend moves away, I always end up gradually losing contact with them.

jasonresno November 15th, 2008 7:29 AM

No. It's idealistic and I completely don't. People change. I've lost a few best friends over time.

Team Magma Girl November 15th, 2008 8:41 AM

The only person I know I'm going to be friends forever with is my best friend. We're like sisters. We're basically exactly the same except for looks. Same facial expression. Personality. Thoughts. It's weird. We've been friends for three years and never fought once. She's the only person I trust.


Sadly, I'll forget about my other friends in a few years. I love them with all my heart but I doubt I'd see them after high school.

4th Gen Matt November 15th, 2008 4:36 PM

I had a best friend I knew for about 3 years. We would go everywhere together and do everything together. We had the same interests and would sleep over at each others house every Friday and Saturday (we would take turns.)

Sadly, he moved to his home country of Germany. I talked to him about every other day via phone but we just lost touch. Haven't talked to him in 3 years.

My new best friend got a girlfriend about a month again also. I haven't talked to him since. I have talked to his younger brother on Xbox live more than I have talked to him. I really hate him for letting his girlfriend get in the way of our friendship.

So no, I don't believe in friends forever. Something will always come up. Period.

Azzurra November 16th, 2008 3:51 AM

Yes, I do believe in friends forever, because if you meet someone you respect and trust so much, you'll be friends through all the tough times and troubles, and will overcome all the bad situations you'll come by in the future.

My mother has had a friend for over thirty years or so, and I'd count that as friends forever.

Himawarii November 16th, 2008 3:14 PM

I'd like to believe so but milkshakes melt and people change,and that's just the truth. :<
Quote:

A friend may happen to be able to last the term of one's life, but no, there are just too many possible circumstances out of both parties' control.
^agreed.

Angela November 16th, 2008 3:22 PM

Yes I do, if you have a friend and you fit together perfectly then your a mach made in heaven and will be BFL;)

Michii November 16th, 2008 3:52 PM

I don't believe in "best friends forever" for the same reasons as Gummy and TwilightBlade. People change and things happen that separate friends. It's happened to all of us, and because of my own experiences with friends, I just don't know if I believe in that happy ending of having a friend for the rest of one's life. ://

Vernikova November 16th, 2008 3:58 PM

No. There a things that are out of your hands, people don't stay the same forever, etc. The only remote way though, would be to stay in contact on a basis.

Metatron November 16th, 2008 4:07 PM

I really, really wish I could say "yes" to this, but sadly, there's no such thing as "friends forever."

Like other people have said before, people are always changing. Whether it be personal changed they're going through, or changes they make in order to be accepted by society's standards, no one is the same forever. I've noticed it happen before, here as well as in real-life. You might consider someone your friend one day, then the next, they could completely blow you off for someone else. I'm sure some people here may have others they consider "true friends," but I haven't been able to find anyone like that =/

Cherish your friends. A few years from now, they could become an entirely different person.

Teara November 16th, 2008 4:07 PM

I belive it's possible to keep contact with friends through out your entire life, my mother had several childhood friends who still even check up on me. However to stay in the same area as them is pretty rare.

Margot November 16th, 2008 4:34 PM

I know from expierence that's not true. For both online and offline there were people in my life I was best friends with. However, things changed and now I don't talk to some of those people at all. It's not that anything bad happened with them, it's just that we went different ways.

I'll always love my friends dearly, but thinking about it. I'm going to be 4 or more hours away from all of them in a year and with starting college, we'll all be too busy to meet up all the time. I do plan on keeping in contact, and being there for them when need be, but still. It won't be the same.

It just happens like that, you just have to appreciate all the fun you have~

♣Gawain♣ November 16th, 2008 5:16 PM

Of course. My best friend here always sticks together, through thick and thin.

Melody November 18th, 2008 6:33 AM

I believe in friends forever. A true friend is a wonderful thing to have. I still keep in touch with one of my friends from high school. From time to time I get others from my high school class who come up to me all friendly and say "I remember you" but they were not really my friends back then.

A true friend is hard to find. If you do find one, cherish them as long as you can.

~Skittlez~ November 20th, 2008 4:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shu (Post 4121613)
I waz wondering if you believe in friends forever?

Well, I did for a few years. Not now.

Lo-chan November 20th, 2008 4:30 AM

I believe it's possible to be friends with someone "forever". I have to agree that most of the time people move on and get new friends, that has happened with my friends. After I moved, I barely talk to any of them simply because they met new friends and it was just different at a distance.

I have a best friend who I trust completely. She is the only person I am close to and I really hope nothing comes in between us. We've been through too much together to let it get ruined so easily.

SamuraiMaster November 20th, 2008 8:07 AM

It depends.

If you're talking about friends you've known for a helluza long time then Yes.

I know a guy who lives in Seattle, we've known each other since birth pretty much. We have a lot in common, we will never betray each other.

If it does happen, I'd be depressed beyond recovery.

ShadowDeeps November 20th, 2008 1:57 PM

That depends on how you define "forever". I tend not to adhere to such certainty when it comes to the notion of "time" but I do have a soft spot for friends and I don't feel supercilious towards that kind of thing. But in my own observation the search for friendship is unending given that there's always some sort of flaw or facet that arises in life that will always put that friendship on the ropes or to a test of sorts. Or a rather, tests vs. choices. Which, to me, in a way, abrogates that friendship once searched for like that.

That's not to say I don't support long-lasting bonds (insofar I don't feel there is a person or thing that would qualify for "too nice"). But I'm very content in my own company and find that if something is going too askew that disconnecting myself and becoming aloof until I can feel refreshed and less tense is a better recourse than persevering in a friendship until there's nothing left to persevere about.

HeidiMoose November 20th, 2008 10:22 PM

It's a nice thought, but I'm not so sure I entirely believe it.

I have three friends that will always be dear to me, and I've known them all for 13-14 years. And although we were very alike in elementary.. (loved video games, pokemon, cartoons, actually good music, etc... ), they have much changed.
I mean, I've changed too, but I think I've stayed the same more than they have.
They're all party animals..
And I actually had signed a year lease in an apartment with them.. and after three months I jetted out. Partying is not my style... >.<

Any other friends I've made over time have come and gone..
I try to keep in contact with them.. but they have their lives, and I have mine.

Caelus November 23rd, 2008 5:37 PM

When I was younger, I believed in best friends forever; I honestly thought it was possible to be friends with someone forever. But then I figured "How's it possible to be best friends with someone forever?" and stopped believing it. Who knows? Maybe I'll believe in best friends forever in the future but as of now, I don't.

HeavensNightSH November 23rd, 2008 5:40 PM

Me and my best friend refer to each other as soul mates ^_^
We were both born in the same month which sorta explains how we have the same personality ^_^ I'll love her forever

Fearless Love November 23rd, 2008 6:04 PM

Truthfully, no I don't. People change, they leave, they die, it's just hard. I've had friends that have said we'd be friends forever and just as quickly as they said it, it didn't mean anything, and they left.

I love all my friends to death. Even the ones that really aren't my friends anymore. but forever is a long time, and it means so many diferent things to diferent people.

For me, Friends Forever is something that you have to work at. I will probably only have 1 friend forever, if that ever happens.

Ashen November 23rd, 2008 6:19 PM

I kind of do. Mainly because I've had bad experiences with people in the past once I've "left" their lives. Then again, it's highly unlikely, unless you're insanely compatible, that people you're friends with in grade school will continue to be so later on in life. It's even possible that the same phenomenon occurs in college, though I've heard of people finding life-long friends in college more often than from grade school.

That being said, I live by one rule when it comes to friends: "Those people who matter don't care, and those who care don't matter." More or less, this boils down to the fact that if people can't accept your quirks and flaws, they don't matter; but if they can accept them, then they're some of the best friends you'll ever have. So, yes, I do believe in friends forever – they kind of have to fulfill the requirement with the quote in order for that to happen.

(And, in case anyone's wondering, that quote is from Ted Geisel. Yes, Dr. Seuss. An infinite font of wisdom, that man.)

Nick November 23rd, 2008 6:48 PM

I've only had three best friends in my life.

The first was a boy who lived across the street from me. We went to Kindergarden together and basically did just about everything together up until the point he was going to move to a place I have forgotten since. It was about two years after we became friends. I found out that he was talking negatively before he moved, but didn't remain in contact with him until the point where I had to say goodbye. My first best friend-best friend relationship: broken.

My second best friend basically took his place rather quickly when I entered second grade. He moved from a different school. We remained best friends for a while up until middle school where he started to irritate me. However, our friendship continued towards high school. We were juniors (well, are juniors) when our friendship ended. He doesn't know, but I found out he smoked and didn't want to be around such a negative influence. You see, I have asthma, and when I'm around smoke it gets really bad. I was at a homecoming meeting with our class (graduating class), and he came. He didn't go to the same school as me since he decided to drop out as well and he came with cigarettes and smoked RIGHT next to me while saying how much he loved to smoke. I clearly remembered just a few years back when he said he'd never do that. We both promised each other when we found out another friend smoked. He broke that and our friendship and is now someone I don't want mentioned in any conversation between me and someone else. My second best friend-best friend relationship: deceived.

My final best friend relationship was with someone who moved to my neighborhood from Florida and has sense moved back. This one was actually my strongest friendship I ever had with someone else. I was introduced to him by someone I didn't really care for since he was a known trouble maker around my neighborhood. He was riding bikes with him and we met up. I said hi, and then quickly went back home across the street. The next day came, and I saw him riding alone around the apartment complex across the street. I continued to meet up with him on strange occasions leading to the assumption that it was probably meant to happen that I'd be friends with him. He was there for me everyday after that. I was his first friend there and his first friend to ever enter his house. His parents knew me, respected me, and treated me as their own since I basically lived in thier house for the majority of the two summer vacations to follow. He was there for me when I got my bike stolen, I was there for him when his dog ran away. Up until 8th grade, everything was going fine until I found out that his dad got a new management job ALL the way back down in Florida. This one was especially hard for me to cope with because we promised to keep in contact with eachother but it seems he cut relationship slowly with EVERYONE from my neighborhood. My final best friend-best friend relationship: nullified.

I do, however, have one friend that I had been friends with since pre-K. We met at a day care center and are still friends. However, this isn't a best-friend status. But, with that said, I do believe friendships can last as long as you keep the friendship close to you and don't let anything interfere with it. But that's about it. So, forever: no.

In terms of people online, no. I don't believe online relationships (unless acted upon into a real life relationship) can last that long. I do believe they can last for a number of years (ranging up to about ten), but forever? Can't say I think that can happen.

Ayesha November 23rd, 2008 6:54 PM

Well I sort of do. I believe there is someone out there who will be the perfect friend for me in every way and can share my pain and share my life and such.

Renneh November 24th, 2008 1:18 AM

tough question. I do for 2-4 friends who I know online, that even if we don't talk for months due to a variety of circumstances...we are still really close and will always be.

For everyone else, I don't really trust many others so I really doubt that they'll be friends forever because of the same reasons others have said..people change and move on.

moon November 25th, 2008 2:54 PM

I don't have a best friend that I talk to every day or so. I've got several pretty good friends instead. But I do have some friends I got when I was little little little and still when we meet it's like no time has passed. That's what I call friends forever. I spit on forced friendships though.


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