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Chibi-chan January 1st, 2010 10:38 AM

The Post Your Problems Thread 2.0
 
The other Post Your Problems Thread was old and cluttered; so here's a new one! This time, I'm going to try and make it more hands on.

I'm thinking of making weekly rotating polls. If you have any ideas for what type of poll you would like, feel free to send me a PM with a question and possible responses and I'll fit it in to one week or another! After a week, I will post the results in the next post. Hopefully this will help solve some problems too!
  • Follow standard OC rules.
  • Please don't use this thread to vent.
  • No one liners.
  • Do not post stupid problems or problems that can't be solved. Ex: "I'm turning 16! Help!!" "I didn't study for a test tomorrow!" "I've been diagnosed with _____"
  • Do not post stupid answers.
  • Respect other members and their problems.

These rules may be modified as seems fit. Hopefully your problems will be solved. (b'-')b

Chibi-chan January 1st, 2010 10:38 AM

Reserved for PYP Poll results~

Iron Maiden January 1st, 2010 3:39 PM

Two of my best friends hate each other at the moment, and im stuck in the middle with both of them wanting me to take their side.

Kura January 1st, 2010 4:17 PM

Hm.. sounds complicated. I personally hate when two friends want you to take "Sides." I would probably explain to each of them that you don't want to take sides because you are friends with either of them, and the mature thing to do in the situation is to resolve it between each other, because if it doesn't involve you, then you shouldn't have to step in. You can, though, tell either of them that you are there for support or advice if you need them, but that you do not want to step in because you don't want to make the situation worse, and that you think that you being involved would be immature and that you feel that the extra stress is personally too much for you to handle. And then thank them for understanding. Speak to each of them separately, though. But tell them that you hope that they can resolve it soon because you miss their friendship/ hanging out all together.

Rogue planet January 2nd, 2010 3:49 PM

So, I'm concerned about my neighbours. The woman that lives there has 2 children who I can always hear either crying or screaming. Usually I'd just pin it on mild bad parenting or bratty children, but this is happening every day, all the time, plus she's already pretty shady, she's been arrested more than once for drug offences.
I'm thinking she's probably abusing these children too much, I often wake up in the early hours of the morning to hear one or both of the children on the other side of the wall sobbing. I don't even think they ever sleep, if I'm awake then I'll be able to hear them & they often wake me up when I'm sleeping, so I'm not sure when they actually sleep at all. .~.
There's always a lot of different men going to the house aswell, I'd just say she's promiscuous, but I can't shake the thought that it's possible she's including the children aswell, she often turns up the television or music to a ridiculous volume level, attempting to block out sounds? Even if she isn't, it seems wrong to expose children to that sort of behaviour.
On the rare occasion that I'll see the kids outside of the house, they act very strangely and they're not as intelligent as what I would expect for their age, they're both about 8-10 and they can hardly speak properly. Should I just continue to ignore it and not meddle in other people's affairs, or contact the police or something? Like I said, the police have already been to the house, but nothing changed so I'm doubtin' they'll do anything anyway.

Shiny January 2nd, 2010 3:54 PM

Call the police, the children seem like they are being abused, just say you think they are, and if they aren't then oh well.

Lady Gaga January 2nd, 2010 3:54 PM

These children are definitely being abused, unfortunately. Why were the police there? Maybe this time they should come to take the children away, to a better home, and arrest the women. This is not a safe environment for them to live in. For the sake of these children, please call the police.

Or, as poopnoodle said, you could call Child Protection Services. That may be a better idea, actually. No matter what, these children need to be taken away.

Charizard★ January 2nd, 2010 4:00 PM

Theres this girl that I am close to. She is pretty close to me too. I don't know if she likes me or not. But, I think I do. I want to be with her but I'm scared what she would say. I don't want to be rejected or I don't want to lose her as a friend, are there any signs that can tell me she likes me?

poopnoodle January 2nd, 2010 4:05 PM

Quote:

So, I'm concerned about my neighbours. The woman that lives there has 2 children who I can always hear either crying or screaming. Usually I'd just pin it on mild bad parenting or bratty children, but this is happening every day, all the time, plus she's already pretty shady, she's been arrested more than once for drug offences.
I'm thinking she's probably abusing these children too much, I often wake up in the early hours of the morning to hear one or both of the children on the other side of the wall sobbing. I don't even think they ever sleep, if I'm awake then I'll be able to hear them & they often wake me up when I'm sleeping, so I'm not sure when they actually sleep at all. .~.
There's always a lot of different men going to the house aswell, I'd just say she's promiscuous, but I can't shake the thought that it's possible she's including the children aswell, she often turns up the television or music to a ridiculous volume level, attempting to block out sounds? Even if she isn't, it seems wrong to expose children to that sort of behaviour.
On the rare occasion that I'll see the kids outside of the house, they act very strangely and they're not as intelligent as what I would expect for their age, they're both about 8-10 and they can hardly speak properly. Should I just continue to ignore it and not meddle in other people's affairs, or contact the police or something? Like I said, the police have already been to the house, but nothing changed so I'm doubtin' they'll do anything anyway.


Have you searched for any child abuse hotlines? The police are never the right people to call, and in our country Child Protective Services will only so something if there is physical evidence of abuse (bruises and other visible injuries) and if the household isn't suitable to raise a child in (like, so unkempt it's dangerous to the child's help). That's about the best thing you can do, maybe tell whichever parent your living with atm so they're on the lookout for signs of abuse.

Lady Gaga January 2nd, 2010 4:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Charizard★ (Post 5444728)
Theres this girl that I am close to. She is pretty close to me too. I don't know if she likes me or not. But, I think I do. I want to be with her but I'm scared what she would say. I don't want to be rejected or I don't want to lose her as a friend, are there any signs that can tell me she likes me?

For christ sakes just ask her out. What is there to lose. A word, "no"? That is all it is, a word. Why are you so scared. If you really want to keep that friendship, and not break it, then look somewhere else. Though, you cant always be holding onto friendships, when inside you want more. Then you will never be together with somebody!

~Hot n' Cold~ January 2nd, 2010 7:02 PM

This is my bro's situation - he doesn't have an account, doesn't want one, but these are his words

I was a lonely boy. I am in 6th grade. Last year, girls hated me. This year I have been taken under a group of girls wings. I sit with them at lunch. I have 2 problems. Please help me:

1. My boy friends, they think I am a traitor except for 1. I sit with them at lunch every once in a while and they want me out. They once took me in, and the girls called me a traitor. I don't know who are my real friends... who should I go with?

2. One of the girls in the group I really like. She is one of my best friends and I don't know if she likes me. I try to hang out, we text, we facebook, we talk, but... I don't know what to do. My two friends in the boy group have been rejected like 20 times, she is a real tought. What should I do???

Feign January 2nd, 2010 7:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ~Hot n' Cold~ (Post 5445257)
This is my bro's situation - he doesn't have an account, doesn't want one, but these are his words

I was a lonely boy. I am in 6th grade. Last year, girls hated me. This year I have been taken under a group of girls wings. I sit with them at lunch. I have 2 problems. Please help me:

1. My boy friends, they think I am a traitor except for 1. I sit with them at lunch every once in a while and they want me out. They once took me in, and the girls called me a traitor. I don't know who are my real friends... who should I go with?

2. One of the girls in the group I really like. She is one of my best friends and I don't know if she likes me. I try to hang out, we text, we facebook, we talk, but... I don't know what to do. My two friends in the boy group have been rejected like 20 times, she is a real tought. What should I do???

Probably tell him to hang out with those he really does trust, and find to be the best of friends (even if that means that none of the groups fit the bill). A real friend would be understanding that it is okay to hang out with others, if you want them to understand that, tell them. True friends are hard to come by, because they are understanding, and even work through hardships.

True friendships don't apply to popularity or recognition, it just is.

Plus being in 6th grade means that hormones (especially for girls are beginning to rage), so just be aware of that. ;)

Cynic Kaka January 2nd, 2010 7:12 PM

To be quite honest, if his friends don't want him hanging out with girls, it's probably because they

A: Got rejected.

B: Still in that 'girls are icky' stage.

C: *******s who are very possessive.

I doubt that helped, but...you should consider if they're really your friends.


...I think Feign also summed it up pretty nicely.

Jolene January 2nd, 2010 9:53 PM

My teacher who I have a crush on is leaving the school!
 
I have terrible news! I found out that my cute English teacher, who I have a crush on, is going back home to live in Ireland soon. What should I do?

I was thinking that maybe I should rush down to the airport on the day that he's leaving, and there I'll confront him and confess my love to him. Obviously, he'll tell me that he loves me as well, and then he'll decide not to go away because he doesn't want us to be apart.

After that, we'll probably go on the run together - maybe to South America where it's warm - and we'll adopt new identities. I will be called Tinker Bell, and he will be called David Tennant. We'll travel around in a small rickety caravan, but our love will make it seem like paradise. We'll carve out a respectable living by performing folk songs wherever we stop, and I will sell paintings after learning how to paint. And then when I turn eighteen, we'll have a nice wedding in a small Brazilian chapel and we'll probably live happily ever after.

Do you think that this is a good idea?

txteclipse January 2nd, 2010 9:55 PM

This is assuredly a quality thread. Veritably.

Guillermo January 2nd, 2010 9:56 PM

Oh, my god. I'm gagging and vomiting at the same time. I think I'm gavomitting.

Kura January 2nd, 2010 10:44 PM

That.. is kinda what happened at my highschool.

I had a teacher in grade 11, named Mr. Chu-Morrison. He was originally Mr. Morrison.. but apparently he divorced his wife, left his kid and stuff.. to marry a former student of his.. named Mrs. Chu. And.. yeah.. she works there, too. Same school. Same English department. :/ Also taught English (and Religion)..
and every summer they go to Africa to help build houses or wells and stuff for certain villages and stuff there..

It's like.. super crazy..

:/ Yeah. I'm not kidding. He was my Grade 11 Writer's Craft teacher. Just ask Lightning. She went to my school, too. (I think she even had him as a teacher, too..)

Chibi-chan January 2nd, 2010 11:08 PM

Moving this to PYP because it's a bit......undeserving of a thread.

Giratina55 January 3rd, 2010 12:44 AM

Ok, im having a weird problem, I believe in this thing called tails doll, he is an evil creature that only comes if youve seen him before, or do his curse, i have not done any of the two, but anyways, if you encounter him, he will either kill you, steal your soal, make you his slave, or wait till a diffrent time, depending on what you have with you (like a sonic doll >:D), so... One night i looked out my window, i saw a red light (i forgot he has a red light/gem hanging on a string from his head) it was across the street (30 feet away) and i have good vision, but i apperently couldnt really see him, so i got my night vision binoculars and look thru them, and there he was, all.... scary looking with red all over him (its... well... blood *child friendly site*) holding a sharpy (once agian child friiendly...knife) and staring at me with his cold red eyes, and dissapeared, and i never saw him again (and no it wasnt my imagination) afterwords, about a few days later, ive been getting a weird craze for creepy stuff... (like making scary pictures of shadow, or something) so i need to figure out whats going on... Sorry if this is a dumb problem, its just really weird.

Zet January 3rd, 2010 12:46 AM

I think you're just being paranoid or just trolling

Lady Gaga January 3rd, 2010 9:36 AM

Well, every night, it takes me hours to sleep. The main reason is because I am so scared that somebody might rob the house. If I hear one noise, I am on red alert, and I can't sleep. Even though it is highly probable that this wont happen, I still think it every single night. What should I do?

Uecil January 3rd, 2010 9:54 AM

um maybe get a dog or a cat or something to comfort you or put a lock on the door or put up like an alarm if someone breaks in =/


Lady Gaga January 3rd, 2010 10:05 AM

I do have a dog, but she would sleep through a meteorite. =/

Kura January 3rd, 2010 11:14 AM

Do you have an alarm system? Why don't you speak to a therapist about it instead of coming to us? Don't you have school councilors there to talk to for free? Seems like a sort of paranoia that only they can fix.

Giratina55 January 4th, 2010 3:48 AM

No, im not paranoid! I hate him and have nothing bothering me about him at the moment, i think its just weird that he randomly appeared like that! oh! and he uh...well....hehe o.o" scared.... me when i was on the computer.... i have some pictures on my camera that i will show later.

processr January 4th, 2010 7:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Giratina55 (Post 5449444)
No, im not paranoid! I hate him and have nothing bothering me about him at the moment, i think its just weird that he randomly appeared like that! oh! and he uh...well....hehe o.o" scared.... me when i was on the computer.... i have some pictures on my camera that i will show later.

Really? Do you realise how ridiculous you sound? The Sonic series is a video game franchise that was created by Sega in 1991 - if you hadn't guessed from the fact that the characters are all anthropomorphic animals, they aren't real.

.Seth January 4th, 2010 11:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Giratina55 (Post 5449444)
No, im not paranoid! I hate him and have nothing bothering me about him at the moment, i think its just weird that he randomly appeared like that! oh! and he uh...well....hehe o.o" scared.... me when i was on the computer.... i have some pictures on my camera that i will show later.

It's impossible for game code from the late 90's to unleash a demon into your living room. A lot of the 'curse' websites say it's just for fun.

The Darkest Gale January 5th, 2010 12:21 PM

umm I have the same problem as notch-eared-pichu
I can't get to sleep and then I start getting mad because I'm told to just close my eyes and rest. Which I do but it doesn't work . Also I hate fire, I'm terrified of it and I'm worried about a fire at night.
any help and I do have a dog but he's deaf -_-
thanks

Distortion World January 7th, 2010 8:57 PM

What Do You Do With An Unfaithful Friend?
 
O.K,

So I have this friend who treats me very low even when iIm trying to be nice to him.

And people keep telling me to stop trying to be nice.

But I don't know what to do.

Can someone tell me what I should do?

Ninja Caterpie January 7th, 2010 9:24 PM

I wouldn't really call that a friend.

EpsilonE January 7th, 2010 10:24 PM

Ditch the loser. This should probably be in the advice thread, but I'll throw out some here

I've had the same problem, and it's not worth it. Chances are this person talks like a pervert right? Does he/she constantly brag? If yes, he has a low self esteem and he redeems himself by putting friends down.

If no, he probably doesn't feel worthy enough to be cared about, so you should just talk to your friend about it heart to heart. If it makes you feel akward, you can talk to them and THEN stop being their friend

Anxiety. January 7th, 2010 10:43 PM

Wanna know what I do? Tell them to get stuffed.
Stop being nice. Be a little... yeah that... back. I find it works the best.

nameslot January 7th, 2010 11:28 PM

Hi all.
I will try to avoid him as much as I can.

Guillermo January 7th, 2010 11:32 PM

Do what I do. Make an ass of him. Make sure everyone is around, and make him look like a complete loser. Quit the nice act. It has to work both ways.

Dukey January 7th, 2010 11:36 PM

I take them to make dragon cave, hidden away in the mountains.
I make sure this person is comfortable, hanging from the wall in chains and then I eat him.

Or I just stop talking to them, either way :)

Rolling Pichu January 7th, 2010 11:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Guillermo (Post 5458914)
Do what I do. Make an ass of him. Make sure everyone is around, and make him look like a complete loser. Quit the nice act. It has to work both ways.

That's ill advice. I can't believe how immaturely you want him to react. It's about being the best person, not the worst one.

As for my advice, it's simple. First, stop giving him too much importance. Stop treating him; tell that you're disappointed and you can't keep enduring his attitude towards you, but you'll be there if he ever needs a hand, as long as he doesn't keep treating you like crap. In other words, be a good friend.

Then go on with your life and try meeting other people or hanging out with other friends. If he comes to you with an apology, you've got a real buddy. If he doesn't, it's his loss.

I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but it's just what I have to say. Good luck.

Uecil January 7th, 2010 11:51 PM

i've had this situation so many times just ignore the person then when theyr'e laughing it all out everything will backfire for them
and try to avoid them and don't talk to them at all then soon they will realise what a jerk theyr'e being. but Good Luck on this ^_^

Iron Maiden January 8th, 2010 7:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jolene (Post 5445954)
I have terrible news! I found out that my cute English teacher, who I have a crush on, is going back home to live in Ireland soon. What should I do?

I was thinking that maybe I should rush down to the airport on the day that he's leaving, and there I'll confront him and confess my love to him. Obviously, he'll tell me that he loves me as well, and then he'll decide not to go away because he doesn't want us to be apart.

After that, we'll probably go on the run together - maybe to South America where it's warm - and we'll adopt new identities. I will be called Tinker Bell, and he will be called David Tennant. We'll travel around in a small rickety caravan, but our love will make it seem like paradise. We'll carve out a respectable living by performing folk songs wherever we stop, and I will sell paintings after learning how to paint. And then when I turn eighteen, we'll have a nice wedding in a small Brazilian chapel and we'll probably live happily ever after.

Do you think that this is a good idea?

What in the ****? Is that a serious question? If so then no offense, but that is the single stupidest thing i have ever heard. Your 14 years old, even if you willingly went on the run with him, in the eyes of the law he would be classed as a paedophile and be charged with kidnapping a minor. And what makes you think he has the same feelings for you?

Distortion World January 8th, 2010 9:43 AM

Thanks everybody.

I just confronted him and told him that if he's gonna be a jerk, I'm not even gonna try being nice to him.

He said he changed but I told hi mit was far too late to be saying that.

I feel much better now, :)

Shiny January 9th, 2010 6:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Iron Maiden (Post 5459511)
What in the ****? Is that a serious question? If so then no offense, but that is the single stupidest thing I have ever heard. Your 14 years old, even if you willingly went on the run with him, in the eyes of the law he would be classed as a paedophile and be charged with kidnapping a minor. And what makes you think he has the same feelings for you?

She has a simple schoolgirl crush on a teacher, it's really common, as long as she doesn't actually try to do anything inappropriate. I can't even remember how many crushes on teachers I've had.

Uecil January 9th, 2010 1:42 PM

i have had this problem ever since i started online in 2008 i have been constantly bullied by other members on sites, at school im bullied about my looks constantly i don't think i can take anymore it's got to stop so im going to leave offline for good but i dont want to make my friends upset espeacially my pair reverb they all mean the world to me but i dont know what to do its just making me ill all of it i get into trouble more at home and school so can someone help please :(

Daydream January 9th, 2010 2:49 PM

If someone's bullying you online, you block/ignore them, or if it's a site you tell a moderator/staff member. That's simple really.

In real life, it's far more serious. You need to speak to someone you have trust in; either a parent or teacher and tell them how you feel, someone will be able to help you because a lot of kids and teens go through this themselves at some point.

dc_united January 9th, 2010 3:22 PM

I know this is a pretty trivial problem compared to many of the other things posted on here in the last four days, but I feel the need to post it anyway.

I had my appendix removed last week, and me and my girlfriend split at the same time. I don't know why, but when I got out of the hospital, I began to develop insomnia, and even though I've healed up enough to be able to run for track again, I wind up falling asleep at four AM, and my performance in school and at track has suffered considerably because I can't keep my eyes open.

I really don't know what's caused it, whether it was something in the painkillers I had to take or sheer stress, but I'd hate to bring it to a doctor because it seems too trivial to really bother them with. What should I do? I went to friends and cousins, but none of their advice worked, so this is my last resort.

True Reign January 9th, 2010 4:53 PM

Seems like your body is responding to both the appendix and the breakup.

I'd say if it doesn't past in the next week, go see a doctor for at least some sleeping pills. Also explain to your professors/teachers about your insomnia. You never know; maybe they could give you an extended date on classwork or something.

Mika January 9th, 2010 4:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Individual Hope (Post 5462961)
If someone's bullying you online, you block/ignore them, or if it's a site you tell a moderator/staff member. That's simple really.

In real life, it's far more serious. You need to speak to someone you have trust in; either a parent or teacher and tell them how you feel, someone will be able to help you because a lot of kids and teens go through this themselves at some point.

It's not normal by any means and it's not easy to block people online. Sometimes the staff can be in on it. >>; It's easy said but it's hard to actually do. If this is real life, you have to know if you report the bullying which you should, there's a chance they'll laugh at you and say 'everyone gets picked on it's part of growing up'. To this you should respond 'it's not just kidding around, it actually hurts me' and be firm in your stance on that.

As far as on sites, if one section hates you try another and another. You can try and ask the mods etc for help but make sure you don't whine or anything like that nor should you sound like you're accusing the bullies. 'innocent until proven guilty' therefore you have to prove your case in a calm and civilized manner.

Don't give up and don't turn your back on the friends you have. Ask them to help you, friends protect friends you know? And if they don't want to confront the bully or w/e that's fine, just ask them to be your escape so you can forget your woes and stuff. It's not about quantity but quality and I'm sure people like your pair love you dearly <3

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Originally Posted by dc_united (Post 5463056)
I know this is a pretty trivial problem compared to many of the other things posted on here in the last four days, but I feel the need to post it anyway.

I had my appendix removed last week, and me and my girlfriend split at the same time. I don't know why, but when I got out of the hospital, I began to develop insomnia, and even though I've healed up enough to be able to run for track again, I wind up falling asleep at four AM, and my performance in school and at track has suffered considerably because I can't keep my eyes open.

I really don't know what's caused it, whether it was something in the painkillers I had to take or sheer stress, but I'd hate to bring it to a doctor because it seems too trivial to really bother them with. What should I do? I went to friends and cousins, but none of their advice worked, so this is my last resort.

It could be the painkillers and stress combined. Have you tried any relaxation techniques? You like to run, if you're allowed to this soon after your surgery, go for a run about an hour before bed the physical exercise will wear you out. Try listening to music or read a book, something to either bore you or lure you to sleep. If you're stressing out over your breakup, try hiding items [not get rid of them] that remind you of your previous relationship [out of sight out of mind] and if push comes to shove, talk about why you can't fall asleep. It helps me anyways. ^^;

Anyways, if none of that works, try and kill the caffine out of your diet completely over a weekend so you can crash early. Your body sounds like it's starting to get used to going to bed that late. XD;

Hope this works, if not feel free to ask back or ask your doctor.

Honest January 10th, 2010 9:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sspokemon (Post 5462811)
i have had this problem ever since i started online in 2008 i have been constantly bullied by other members on sites, at school im bullied about my looks constantly i don't think i can take anymore it's got to stop so im going to leave offline for good but i dont want to make my friends upset espeacially my pair reverb they all mean the world to me but i dont know what to do its just making me ill all of it i get into trouble more at home and school so can someone help please :(


This used to happen to me. Just ignore them, don't even bother replying. I know it's hard NOT to listen, but if you get the hang of it, it'll work out.

Oh, and are you getting bullied by someone here? You could just report them.

The Darkest Gale January 10th, 2010 11:08 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sspokemon (Post 5462811)
i have had this problem ever since i started online in 2008 i have been constantly bullied by other members on sites, at school im bullied about my looks constantly i don't think i can take anymore it's got to stop so im going to leave offline for good but i dont want to make my friends upset espeacially my pair reverb they all mean the world to me but i dont know what to do its just making me ill all of it i get into trouble more at home and school so can someone help please :(

:( I get bullied at school real bad
tell your teacher(s) or head
as for here tell a mod or smod ;)
hope this helps
And I'll support you :)

Anti-Hero January 10th, 2010 5:47 PM

Ok, so my dog ran away, and was picked up to the pound. We got him back, he was fine. Then, he got out. When we got him back, he did NOT want to come back. As we tried to force him in, he just sat, making it all but impossible. Twice, he ran back out into the gate. Again, we got him back in. This time, we blocked the gates so that he couldn't get out, yet he still persisted. My grandpa had to literally throw him back in the door.

Could it be that he misses my aunt's dog that was here when we got back him from the pound? Or when he was gone, could something' have happened? Cause, when he got him back from the pound, he had been gone for a good three days. But, what's weird is that he seemed scared of us, but he acted perfectly fine when we got him back from the pound.

What might be causing this peculiar behavior?

Achil!es January 12th, 2010 5:40 PM

Pokemon Problem
 
I am trying to get a Mamoswine I know that you need to get a Pilowswine with Ancient power and level it up to get one but my problem is i cant seem to breed or catch a Swinub with Ancient power or find the TM some where can any one help?
Does the Pilowswine get Ancient power via level up or does it need to be born with it?

Esper January 12th, 2010 7:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Adder (Post 5465995)
Ok, so my dog ran away, and was picked up to the pound. We got him back, he was fine. Then, he got out. When we got him back, he did NOT want to come back. As we tried to force him in, he just sat, making it all but impossible. Twice, he ran back out into the gate. Again, we got him back in. This time, we blocked the gates so that he couldn't get out, yet he still persisted. My grandpa had to literally throw him back in the door.

Could it be that he misses my aunt's dog that was here when we got back him from the pound? Or when he was gone, could something' have happened? Cause, when he got him back from the pound, he had been gone for a good three days. But, what's weird is that he seemed scared of us, but he acted perfectly fine when we got him back from the pound.

What might be causing this peculiar behavior?

My dog was always a leash dog. We could never train her well enough to let her off the leash because she would always run away. She would even try to sneak past us when we came in the door. Eventually we realized that she needed to be taken on more walks and she wasn't so desperate to escape after that. I don't know if you need to worry about your dog being scared of you. Dogs can get really worried if you leave them alone. If it had been three days I would imagine that he was still feeling abandoned, but if he seems fine now then he probably is fine. Just keep an eye out for weird/new behavior and give your dog lots of love and attention.

Anti-Hero January 12th, 2010 8:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Scarf (Post 5470595)
My dog was always a leash dog. We could never train her well enough to let her off the leash because she would always run away. She would even try to sneak past us when we came in the door. Eventually we realized that she needed to be taken on more walks and she wasn't so desperate to escape after that. I don't know if you need to worry about your dog being scared of you. Dogs can get really worried if you leave them alone. If it had been three days I would imagine that he was still feeling abandoned, but if he seems fine now then he probably is fine. Just keep an eye out for weird/new behavior and give your dog lots of love and attention.

Thanks~ He was just lonely, now that my Aunt's dog is back, he is back to normal. I'll also try to walk him some more.

The Confuzzler January 14th, 2010 8:35 AM

- long problem alert -

Okay, this problem started in the summer. we came back to school, and everyone was happy, it was set up to be a great year, good teacher, good friends, and next year i'd be going to high school.

Now, for a week we got to go away with the school for a week. It was fun, but i spent most of time with one of my friends. Shes a girl, and since the start of the year, i'd really liked her. It may have been raging hormones, but i dunno.

Now, we were getting really close, and then my best friend asks her out. He gets a yes. Now i was happy for him, but that all changed quickly. Mostly because, he found out i like her.

He got someone to spread it to everyone, including the girl i like. She didn't mind, and she told me it would've been a yes if he hadn't asked first.

So, when this happened, i actually felt like my chest hurt. It was one weird feeling.

Now, after this, he started spreading rumours about me. - one of which was perverted and just plain gross - they all weren't true. But, cause it was her boyfriend, she believed him.

And ever since then, things have always been awkward when me and the girl i like talk to each other. It just feels like all the friendship we had disappeared from the air.

Now, my friend actually wants to kill me. He is really annoyed at me, and i never know what he's gonna spread next. And i always think whatever he spreads may ruin my friendship with everyone.

So, my best friend hates me, i can barely talk to the girl i like, and everyone thinks my friend is right. What can i do to stop all of it, and maybe get the girl.

mew² January 14th, 2010 2:02 PM

I'm going out with this one girl and Im worried about kissing her.
There's nothing wrong, but last time I tried to, she denied it and I just kissed her on her cheek.
We'll be going out for a month as of the 17th of January and I kinda want to try again, but last time, it tore me up inside.

VM when you reply to this so I can remember to look at your advice. Thanks.

True Reign January 15th, 2010 7:25 PM

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Originally Posted by >> Quilava Blaze << (Post 5473255)
- long problem alert -

Okay, this problem started in the summer. we came back to school, and everyone was happy, it was set up to be a great year, good teacher, good friends, and next year i'd be going to high school.

Now, for a week we got to go away with the school for a week. It was fun, but i spent most of time with one of my friends. Shes a girl, and since the start of the year, i'd really liked her. It may have been raging hormones, but i dunno.

Now, we were getting really close, and then my best friend asks her out. He gets a yes. Now i was happy for him, but that all changed quickly. Mostly because, he found out i like her.

He got someone to spread it to everyone, including the girl i like. She didn't mind, and she told me it would've been a yes if he hadn't asked first.

So, when this happened, i actually felt like my chest hurt. It was one weird feeling.

Now, after this, he started spreading rumours about me. - one of which was perverted and just plain gross - they all weren't true. But, cause it was her boyfriend, she believed him.

And ever since then, things have always been awkward when me and the girl i like talk to each other. It just feels like all the friendship we had disappeared from the air.

Now, my friend actually wants to kill me. He is really annoyed at me, and i never know what he's gonna spread next. And i always think whatever he spreads may ruin my friendship with everyone.

So, my best friend hates me, i can barely talk to the girl i like, and everyone thinks my friend is right. What can i do to stop all of it, and maybe get the girl.

Ditch the douche and let things solve itself.

Or.

Ditch the douche and tell an adult whose mature enough to handle such a stupid situation.

st.jimmy January 16th, 2010 8:01 AM

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Originally Posted by >> Quilava Blaze << (Post 5473255)
- long problem alert -

Okay, this problem started in the summer. we came back to school, and everyone was happy, it was set up to be a great year, good teacher, good friends, and next year i'd be going to high school.

Now, for a week we got to go away with the school for a week. It was fun, but i spent most of time with one of my friends. Shes a girl, and since the start of the year, i'd really liked her. It may have been raging hormones, but i dunno.

Now, we were getting really close, and then my best friend asks her out. He gets a yes. Now i was happy for him, but that all changed quickly. Mostly because, he found out i like her.

He got someone to spread it to everyone, including the girl i like. She didn't mind, and she told me it would've been a yes if he hadn't asked first.

So, when this happened, i actually felt like my chest hurt. It was one weird feeling.

Now, after this, he started spreading rumours about me. - one of which was perverted and just plain gross - they all weren't true. But, cause it was her boyfriend, she believed him.

And ever since then, things have always been awkward when me and the girl i like talk to each other. It just feels like all the friendship we had disappeared from the air.

Now, my friend actually wants to kill me. He is really annoyed at me, and i never know what he's gonna spread next. And i always think whatever he spreads may ruin my friendship with everyone.

So, my best friend hates me, i can barely talk to the girl i like, and everyone thinks my friend is right. What can i do to stop all of it, and maybe get the girl.

Right:
make the girl realise that he is a bit of a git and fingers crossed she finishes him.
win the girl over asap as they split, you may seem a bit horrible jumping onto your friends ex straight away but who cares.
with the help of your new femme fatale tell everybody he's lying.
it'll work out...

My problem...

Well i was recently with this girl i've liked for the past 4 years, we where in love and i ended up losing my virginity to her...
We are best friends and always have fun but when we arent together we end up having petty arguments via text or facebook and we end up braking up.
But usually i win her back over and its all good in the end.
But we recently split up and this time i'm not sure if i can get her back or not and after staying up all last night and thinking of what i could do i decided to not move on from her for about a year and fingers crossed in the meantime i would get back with her.
I love her so much and right now we see each other everyday as best friends (and when i say best friends i seriously mean best friends) but its painful because i constantly just want to hold her and never let her go and that would definately put her off as being my friend so i thought about not seeing her as a friend anymore...but i'd rather be her best friend and have this predicament than not be involved in her life at all...
I'm just asking, has anybody ever experianced something like this and if so how did you ease the pain? :(

Saltare. January 16th, 2010 8:26 AM

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Originally Posted by st.jimmy (Post 5477539)

My problem...


Well i was recently with this girl i've liked for the past 4 years, we where in love and i ended up losing my virginity to her...
We are best friends and always have fun but when we arent together we end up having petty arguments via text or facebook and we end up braking up.
But usually i win her back over and its all good in the end.
But we recently split up and this time i'm not sure if i can get her back or not and after staying up all last night and thinking of what i could do i decided to not move on from her for about a year and fingers crossed in the meantime i would get back with her.
I love her so much and right now we see each other everyday as best friends (and when i say best friends i seriously mean best friends) but its painful because i constantly just want to hold her and never let her go and that would definately put her off as being my friend so i thought about not seeing her as a friend anymore...but i'd rather be her best friend and have this predicament than not be involved in her life at all...
I'm just asking, has anybody ever experianced something like this and if so how did you ease the pain? :(

Aww...I'm soo sorry ): That happens with my friend Krissie all the time(except losing her virginity...I think...?) I've never experienced pain like that. But I help Krissie with it. But she makes Zack's life miserable(don't do that...) and they have gone out a total of 13 times since the 7th grade(on and off, on and off)
But talk to her. That's about all I can say. And if she doesn't take you back, then maybe it's time to move on.

Best of luck.

st.jimmy January 16th, 2010 8:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Dark_Aero (Post 5477569)
Aww...I'm soo sorry ): That happens with my friend Krissie all the time(except losing her virginity...I think...?) I've never experienced pain like that. But I help Krissie with it. But she makes Zack's life miserable(don't do that...) and they have gone out a total of 13 times since the 7th grade(on and off, on and off)
But talk to her. That's about all I can say. And if she doesn't take you back, then maybe it's time to move on.

Best of luck.

yeah, it's the most painful thing ever...you're insides feel as though you no longer have a chest, just a big washing machine srewing your insides up...its horrible!
and thank you :)

Saltare. January 16th, 2010 8:45 AM

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Originally Posted by st.jimmy (Post 5477585)
yeah, it's the most painful thing ever...you're insides feel as though you no longer have a chest, just a big washing machine srewing your insides up...its horrible!
and thank you :)

That does sound horrible! At least your not like Zack...I don't think your stupid enough(I'm not calling you stupid) to go back to a girl 13 times who makes you miserable.

And, you're welcome ^_^

chikorita125 January 16th, 2010 8:47 AM

i have a massive phone bill to pay off, it sucks cause i didn't use my phone too much

st.jimmy January 16th, 2010 8:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Dark_Aero (Post 5477593)
That does sound horrible! At least your not like Zack...I don't think your stupid enough(I'm not calling you stupid) to go back to a girl 13 times who makes you miserable.

And, you're welcome ^_^

tbh i probably would go back to her 100 times but she doesnt make me miserable so im not stupid at least :laugh:

Saltare. January 16th, 2010 9:02 AM

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Originally Posted by st.jimmy (Post 5477615)
tbh i probably would go back to her 100 times but she doesnt make me miserable so im not stupid at least :laugh:

Yup ^_^ I hope things work out for you.

Zet January 16th, 2010 5:10 PM

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Originally Posted by >> Quilava Blaze << (Post 5473255)
- long problem alert -

Okay, this problem started in the summer. we came back to school, and everyone was happy, it was set up to be a great year, good teacher, good friends, and next year i'd be going to high school.

Now, for a week we got to go away with the school for a week. It was fun, but i spent most of time with one of my friends. Shes a girl, and since the start of the year, i'd really liked her. It may have been raging hormones, but i dunno.

Now, we were getting really close, and then my best friend asks her out. He gets a yes. Now i was happy for him, but that all changed quickly. Mostly because, he found out i like her.

He got someone to spread it to everyone, including the girl i like. She didn't mind, and she told me it would've been a yes if he hadn't asked first.

So, when this happened, i actually felt like my chest hurt. It was one weird feeling.

Now, after this, he started spreading rumours about me. - one of which was perverted and just plain gross - they all weren't true. But, cause it was her boyfriend, she believed him.

And ever since then, things have always been awkward when me and the girl i like talk to each other. It just feels like all the friendship we had disappeared from the air.

Now, my friend actually wants to kill me. He is really annoyed at me, and i never know what he's gonna spread next. And i always think whatever he spreads may ruin my friendship with everyone.

So, my best friend hates me, i can barely talk to the girl i like, and everyone thinks my friend is right. What can i do to stop all of it, and maybe get the girl.

Tell everyone that your best friend is just scared of losing a girl to someone better than he is and that he was making up stuff so he could drive a wedge between you and the girl

Esper January 17th, 2010 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by chikorita125 (Post 5477599)
i have a massive phone bill to pay off, it sucks cause i didn't use my phone too much

Call your provider and complain. Tell them you were overcharged. Tell them you don't like their service. The best thing that could happen is you get them to agree to lower the charges so that you'll stop fighting them. You might get stuck with the full cost if your provider is a jerk though and, really, that's most likely.

Jolene January 18th, 2010 3:34 PM

My amazingly cute English teacher is now gone. I think I'm on the rebound - I've started looking around the school for another teacher upon whom to target my infatuation, but none are quite so gorgeous as my lost love. How shall I cope?

Cherrim January 18th, 2010 3:41 PM

You've been here for ages and I still can't tell if you're a troll or not.

Anyway, if you're serious, stop going after teachers. You're probably just making them uncomfortable and it won't work out anyway. I'm not saying relationships with people older than you are bad, but least wait until you're of legal age before you start pursuing them to make it a great deal less awkward for everyone involved. :(

Ayselipera January 19th, 2010 8:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Lightning (Post 5483927)
You've been here for ages and I still can't tell if you're a troll or not.

Hahaha xD I'm going to have to agree with that.

Serious or not here is a lovely website I found. It's technically a website for those who are in an educational field of work looking for a companion who is also in that field. So if you're that desperate you could just lie about being a teacher and skim through the website.

In all seriousness though you should really try looking for people who are around your age. Dating teachers is usually a messy and awkward situation. Atleast that's how the news presents it. Nontheless here is the website if you're really interested.

http://www.teacherspassions.com/

Jolene January 22nd, 2010 8:11 AM

Thank you for the link, but most of the teachers on that website seem a bit too old and scruffy for my tastes. My amazingly cute English teacher was in a much higher league. For one thing, he was quite young for a teacher - I think he must have been hired straight out of university, so he's only about ten years older than me and that means it wouldn't be so bad if we got married. He always dressed very smartly in shirts and ties and in the winter he wore a very sexy scarf which I tried to steal on the day before he left, mainly because I wanted something to remember him with, but I gave it back because it was snowing outside and I was worried that he would get cold. He had really trendy blonde hair and a lovely thin face, and he had the nicest smile in all the wide world. He was very tall and also quite thin, with really long arms that he could cuddle me with and I would feel so warm and safe.

He also had such a lovely accent, and I was so happy when he read to us from books. When we have children, I hope he reads to them in the same way because he makes stories interesting. I wouldn't have found As You Like It interesting were it not for him, nor Romeo and Juliet. But now he's gone, and I am Juliet.

The Darkest Gale January 22nd, 2010 8:53 AM

right problem has appeared >.<
its kinda silly but oh well

I used to go with this girl and it lasted a year until I went to highschool where we had to split. Usually I just move on after a while cause were still friends but now she is going with this other boy who gets into all sorts of trouble which then meant she wasn't allowed to see him(parents decision) . but that didn't stop her
basically when she told me I lied and said I was cool when I bascially was stabbed in the back cause I was about to ask her out that night.
what should I do
silly I know

processr January 22nd, 2010 9:13 AM

The Darkest Gale: Good god, you're twelve years old. Go play or something. Wait a couple of years until you're much further down the road of personal development before pursuing relationships ('going out', how cute). Let her go.

Jolene: Statutory rape if there are sexual relations, most schools have rules on student-teacher relations, parents will never allow it if they find out. In short: 2/10. Better luck next time. Your trolling has gotten pretty sub-standard recently.

The Cynic January 22nd, 2010 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Apophenia (Post 5491772)
The Darkest Gale: Good god, you're twelve years old. Go play or something. Wait a couple of years until you're much further down the road of personal development before pursuing relationships ('going out', how cute). Let her go.

What did you not reach puberty till you were 17? My first girlfirend was when I was 6. Do not patronise people either. It is obviously a problem for him ok so if you can't help him don't say anything.

Rogue planet January 22nd, 2010 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by The Cynic (Post 5491849)
What did you not reach puberty till you were 17? My first girlfirend was when I was 6.

LMAO
Sorry, how can you really say you had a girlfriend when you were 6. Children just have friends, not girlfriends, how can you possibly say you had a real relationship at that age. Please learn the difference between a girlfriend and friends that are female.

@ Darkest Gale; don't worry about it, what Apophenia said, you don't need to worry about girlfriends and relationships at the moment. Just concentrate on making good friends, whether they're male or female. Try not to see females as potential girlfriends, they're not a different species after all, so you don't really need to treat them differently. xD

processr January 22nd, 2010 1:07 PM

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Originally Posted by The Cynic (Post 5491849)
What did you not reach puberty till you were 17?

That has nothing to do with things. Way to go. To answer your question, no, given I've been engaging in sexual activity for about ten months now.

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My first girlfirend was when I was 6.
See Vendak's comment for my reply, with just a little extra vitriol, and a little extra amusement in the tone of my voice.

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Do not patronise people either. It is obviously a problem for him ok so if you can't help him don't say anything.
Bawwwww. What, you think I replied to piss him off? I'm helping him by advising him against any rubbish like this at such an early age, when you have school and growing up to concentrate on.

The Cynic January 22nd, 2010 2:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Vendak (Post 5492114)
LMAO
Sorry, how can you really say you had a girlfriend when you were 6. Children just have friends, not girlfriends, how can you possibly say you had a real relationship at that age. Please learn the difference between a girlfriend and friends that are female.

emm... had my first kiss etc. etc. twas certainly affectionate if innocent and juvenile.

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Originally Posted by Apophenia (Post 5492137)
Bawwwww. What, you think I replied to piss him off? I'm helping him by advising him against any rubbish like this at such an early age, when you have school and growing up to concentrate on.

Its not rubbish, its important to him. Say, you had a guinea pig and you loved it very much. It provided comfort at a troubled time. It then goes and dies. You feel upset of course but most people do not understand. Its not the best metaphor in the world but it gets my point across. Its not rubbish because its important to him.

ArcanineOod January 22nd, 2010 2:28 PM

Oh my goodness! Is this an advice thread or a nag at each other thread?

Anyway, here's my problem, even though I'm really not sure any of you can do anything about it. (Longish length alert!)

Spoiler:
I love Classics. Greek and Roman stuff is my passion in life, especially the Greek, and especially the Mythology and Religion. Now, I take Ancient Greek in school, and am in the second (final) year of my GCSEs.
Ancient Greek is very difficult. I'm appalling (sp?) at the language part, but I love learning about Ancient Greek civilisation and translating The Odyssey from Greek into English. It's my favourite part of school.
In order to go on and take A Levels in Ancient Greek, I need to get an A/A* in my GCSE, and I think my language is going to let me down spectacularly. So I'm worried that I won't be good enough to take the A Levels, but I can't not take Ancient Greek. I simply can't imagine my life without it.

So, I could try my damned hardest to get an A in my GCSE, and even if I only get a B, beg my Greek teacher to let me continue if I promise to work non stop over the summer holidays and try to make myself be able to cope with the A Level. Thing is though, is it worth it? All this stress, all that hard work, for a subject I may not be able to cope with? Because if I'm going to be facing such a harsh workload next year, and be the only student in the school currently taking the A Level (for no one in the year above mine takes it, and the other girl in my year that currently takes it probably won't continue after GCSE), meaning I can't go to any of my friends for help... On the other hand, I'll only be taking four subjects, as opposed to my current 11, so there'll be fewer demands on my time... But on yet another hand, A Levels are much harder than GCSEs, and I'll also be taking A Level (hopefully) in Latin, which is another intensive subject, so I'll be under a lot of pressure anyway.

I just don't know. I'm thinking that if I'm mature enough to be thinking ahead like this instead of just insisting on doing it, I'll be strong and mature enough to cope with the extra stress, but then again, I could just be deluding myself. Is there any point continuing a subject that I can't do?
I mean, the civilisation and literature I can do, and I'm really passionate about it, so I work hard, but I just find the language part of it so difficult, you know?

I'll be getting the result of my mock Greek GCSE back on Monday, hopefully, and if I get at least a B in that, I should be okay; with a lot of hard work, I could get that up to an A. But if I don't...
I wouldn't worry so much, but in my last Greek exam, I only got 54%, and my teacher told me people usually get in the 80s/90s for that exam - my friend got in the 90s (though she's an oustanding student). I've matured since then, and have started taking the work much more seriously, (not to mention I bothered to revise the civilisation stuff for this exam) so I think I should do much better. I'll report back the mark if I need to.

In a nutshell for those tl;dr people:
I don't know if I'm good enough to continue Ancient Greek; while I'm good at literature and civilisation, and love the subject with a passion, my language skill (or lack thereof) lets me down. Worth stressing over and working super hard at between GCSE results and the start of the A Level academic year, or would it be best to leave it after GCSE and do a subject I'd be better at and would cause me less stress?


I can't imagine not doing Greek, and for any of you wondering, yes, it's relevant to future career plans; I want to be a Classical Archaeologist. =3


If you did bother to read it, thanks! I hope I get at least a little feedback. ^_^
xX

The Cynic January 22nd, 2010 3:14 PM

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Originally Posted by ArcanineOod (Post 5492326)
Oh my goodness! Is this an advice thread or a nag at each other thread?

Anyway, here's my problem, even though I'm really not sure any of you can do anything about it. (Longish length alert!)

Spoiler:
I love Classics. Greek and Roman stuff is my passion in life, especially the Greek, and especially the Mythology and Religion. Now, I take Ancient Greek in school, and am in the second (final) year of my GCSEs.
Ancient Greek is very difficult. I'm appalling (sp?) at the language part, but I love learning about Ancient Greek civilisation and translating The Odyssey from Greek into English. It's my favourite part of school.
In order to go on and take A Levels in Ancient Greek, I need to get an A/A* in my GCSE, and I think my language is going to let me down spectacularly. So I'm worried that I won't be good enough to take the A Levels, but I can't not take Ancient Greek. I simply can't imagine my life without it.

So, I could try my damned hardest to get an A in my GCSE, and even if I only get a B, beg my Greek teacher to let me continue if I promise to work non stop over the summer holidays and try to make myself be able to cope with the A Level. Thing is though, is it worth it? All this stress, all that hard work, for a subject I may not be able to cope with? Because if I'm going to be facing such a harsh workload next year, and be the only student in the school currently taking the A Level (for no one in the year above mine takes it, and the other girl in my year that currently takes it probably won't continue after GCSE), meaning I can't go to any of my friends for help... On the other hand, I'll only be taking four subjects, as opposed to my current 11, so there'll be fewer demands on my time... But on yet another hand, A Levels are much harder than GCSEs, and I'll also be taking A Level (hopefully) in Latin, which is another intensive subject, so I'll be under a lot of pressure anyway.

I just don't know. I'm thinking that if I'm mature enough to be thinking ahead like this instead of just insisting on doing it, I'll be strong and mature enough to cope with the extra stress, but then again, I could just be deluding myself. Is there any point continuing a subject that I can't do?
I mean, the civilisation and literature I can do, and I'm really passionate about it, so I work hard, but I just find the language part of it so difficult, you know?

I'll be getting the result of my mock Greek GCSE back on Monday, hopefully, and if I get at least a B in that, I should be okay; with a lot of hard work, I could get that up to an A. But if I don't...
I wouldn't worry so much, but in my last Greek exam, I only got 54%, and my teacher told me people usually get in the 80s/90s for that exam - my friend got in the 90s (though she's an oustanding student). I've matured since then, and have started taking the work much more seriously, (not to mention I bothered to revise the civilisation stuff for this exam) so I think I should do much better. I'll report back the mark if I need to.

In a nutshell for those tl;dr people:
I don't know if I'm good enough to continue Ancient Greek; while I'm good at literature and civilisation, and love the subject with a passion, my language skill (or lack thereof) lets me down. Worth stressing over and working super hard at between GCSE results and the start of the A Level academic year, or would it be best to leave it after GCSE and do a subject I'd be better at and would cause me less stress?


I can't imagine not doing Greek, and for any of you wondering, yes, it's relevant to future career plans; I want to be a Classical Archaeologist. =3


If you did bother to read it, thanks! I hope I get at least a little feedback. ^_^
xX

Do you know what? Go for it. It will be hard. But you can do it. I always loved the sciences. Absolutely enthralled by them. I really wanted to go all the way. I wanted to go to something like Oxford. I wasn't a pariculary stand-out pupil and I needed 5 highers (the equivelant of an english a level) at A grade and 3 adcanced highers at A grade to e even granted a chance of getting to Oxford. It seemed so inaccessible at first, but I stuck at it. Gave it my all. It was tough, very tough. But I managed to do it! And now I'm in my 2nd year of Physics at Oxford.

Basically what I'm saying, and it sound very cheesy, is if you can dream it you can do it. Give it your all. It will be hell. But you can do it. And when you do you reap the rewards. When I graduate I will be able to stroll over to the US or Japan or Germany and get a job in almost any sector. And if you can't do it, you tried your best and that way you can't be dissapointed. I realise not everyone can go to oxford but there are loads of brilliant unis in the world. You will get into one! You can do it!

~Good Luck, hope I helped!~

ArcanineOod January 22nd, 2010 3:57 PM

Well, congratulations on acheiving your Oxford dream! ^_^ Interestingly enough, Physics is another A Level I'm considering! XD

Thanks for the advice. I'll probably go for it, I think. After all, it's worth working extra hard to reap the rewards and to enjoy the part of it I love, right?
I hope to go to Oxford, though UCL might be better for Archaeology. I haven't really done much research yet. My school gets a good percentage of girls into Oxbridge, so I'm sitting here with my fingers crossed hoping that with enough hard work, passion and enthusiasm, I can get a place. Universities are getting harder to enter these days, but I'm sure I'll get into somewhere good, even if my Ancient Greek's not so hot. Oxbridge colleges aren't the only good ones, after all. =3

Thanks again! ^_^
xX

The Cynic January 22nd, 2010 4:02 PM

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Originally Posted by ArcanineOod (Post 5492516)
Well, congratulations on acheiving your Oxford dream! ^_^ Interestingly enough, Physics is another A Level I'm considering! XD

Thanks for the advice. I'll probably go for it, I think. After all, it's worth working extra hard to reap the rewards and to enjoy the part of it I love, right?
I hope to go to Oxford, though UCL might be better for Archaeology. I haven't really done much research yet. My school gets a good percentage of girls into Oxbridge, so I'm sitting here with my fingers crossed hoping that with enough hard work, passion and enthusiasm, I can get a place. Universities are getting harder to enter these days, but I'm sure I'll get into somewhere good, even if my Ancient Greek's not so hot. Oxbridge colleges aren't the only good ones, after all. =3

Thanks again! ^_^
xX

Glad I could be of help! Good Luck!

JadedIguana January 22nd, 2010 11:07 PM

My problem is more not urgent.

I've been wanting to go to Japan for a long time. Finally, I have the cash to go and get a hotel. The only issues are this:
Fukuoka
Yokohama
Sapporo
Pokemon Centers.

I don't know which is the best one to be closer to. More over, I don't only want to spend my time in the stores. Maybe I just suck really hard at searching for information, but I can not find anything else to do in Japan. I wanna go to an Aquarium (Preferably where the Whale Sharks are. ...no idea where that is.) a Zoo, a Park, and maybe a festival if there is one. Or even a theme park. Yet I can find none of these things.

So, there's my problem. XD

Heart~Bunny January 23rd, 2010 9:30 PM

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Originally Posted by JadedIguana (Post 5493424)
My problem is more not urgent.

I've been wanting to go to Japan for a long time. Finally, I have the cash to go and get a hotel. The only issues are this:
Fukuoka
Yokohama
Sapporo
Pokemon Centers.

I don't know which is the best one to be closer to. More over, I don't only want to spend my time in the stores. Maybe I just suck really hard at searching for information, but I can not find anything else to do in Japan. I wanna go to an Aquarium (Preferably where the Whale Sharks are. ...no idea where that is.) a Zoo, a Park, and maybe a festival if there is one. Or even a theme park. Yet I can find none of these things.

So, there's my problem. XD


Well I did find what aquarium you are talking about with the whale sharks. The Okinawa Churaumi Aquarium.


I recommend going to a map site or better yet an actual map. And decide on which is the closest proximity to what you want to do. Maybe the map will show you somewhat what is there.

But, really the only help I can give is the name for the aquarium you were talking about. I'm sorry. :(
[/worst advice]

Esper January 25th, 2010 11:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JadedIguana (Post 5493424)
My problem is more not urgent.

I've been wanting to go to Japan for a long time. Finally, I have the cash to go and get a hotel. The only issues are this:
Fukuoka
Yokohama
Sapporo
Pokemon Centers.

I don't know which is the best one to be closer to. More over, I don't only want to spend my time in the stores. Maybe I just suck really hard at searching for information, but I can not find anything else to do in Japan. I wanna go to an Aquarium (Preferably where the Whale Sharks are. ...no idea where that is.) a Zoo, a Park, and maybe a festival if there is one. Or even a theme park. Yet I can find none of these things.

So, there's my problem. XD

Much as I love Sapporo I wouldn't recommend it if you're planning to travel in the next few months. It gets cold up there. I know it has a zoo, the Maruyama zoo, but I haven't been to it because, frankly, zoos in Japan are a little sad looking from what I hear. As in sad for the animals because of small spaces and that sort of thing. Again, that's just what I heard. Sapporo is also more "American" in appearance. Very few old buildings, streets laid out on a grid pattern, etc. I don't mean to knock it. It would a great place to go if you had someone who's been there before and could show you around.

Yokohama was pretty nice when I visited it for a day in spring. Its Chinatown (what Yokohama is known for) is pretty big and has plenty of shopping you can do. It's of course close to Tokyo and there are plenty of pretty cheap trains (relatively speaking) running between them so you could take day trips to Shinjuku, Harajuku, Yoyogi Park, Akihabara, or wherever you want to go. I have no idea what kinds of zoos they have down there, but I did just find this place called the Hakkeijima Sea Palace, but it seems a bit out of the way.

I've never been to Fukuoka, but I've been to Kagoshima which is on the other side of Kyuushuu from Fukuoka and it was very pretty in the way most people imagine the natural parts of Japan to look. Hills, rivers, trees. Natural onsen if you're brave enough. There were lots of traditional looking buildings mixed in with modern ones, as well.

All these cities have Pokemon Centers (so I read) and all cities in Japan have festivals. Lots of them. The best time to be around for festivals is usually summer, but there's usually some kind of festival going on somewhere every day, but most won't be that large, but instead more like your local town parade. You'd need to look up a schedule of festivals for each city for the times you're considering going.

Spinor January 26th, 2010 6:31 PM

Alright, so I had great days at school and I finally asked a girl if she would go out with me and apparently we are going out...

Well, unlike 99% of the problems here which are HOW to get a girl. My problem is how to keep her. I'll be honest, she is my first girlfriend. All others were pseudos and pretenders. So I really don't know how the whole process should go. She is very social so she hangs out with other guys sometimes. I only have one class with her and she rides the bus, which are very big disadvantages. And I don't know about the whole relationship progress. If I should go slow or what sort.

Now instead of trying to start this I'm trying to keep this XP

Weatherman, Kiyoshi January 26th, 2010 6:45 PM

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Originally Posted by AdvancedK47 (Post 5502521)
Alright, so I had great days at school and I finally asked a girl if she would go out with me and apparently we are going out...

Well, unlike 99% of the problems here which are HOW to get a girl. My problem is how to keep her. I'll be honest, she is my first girlfriend. All others were pseudos and pretenders. So I really don't know how the whole process should go. She is very social so she hangs out with other guys sometimes. I only have one class with her and she rides the bus, which are very big disadvantages. And I don't know about the whole relationship progress. If I should go slow or what sort.

Now instead of trying to start this I'm trying to keep this XP

Well, I may not have much experience with this topic, here a a few rules I've devised, which I would try myself:

1. Be Yourself
This may sound cheesey or whatever, but it's true. Being in a relationship, you expect only the truth from the other person, right? So do the same. If she actually does like you for who you are, it will be better in the long run.

2. Show a little affection
Come on, spread the love! or in this case, like. or whatever floats your boat, dude. Simple things like hugs and suttle kisses can make a difference, and show you actually care about who you're going out with. Now don't go overboard, nobody wants someone clingy.
3. There will be conflict
On day, one day- there will be conflict. Healthy conflict is good in a relationship, just keep in mind: every. Couple. Has. Fights. Just don't be afraid, and work it out.

4. Work as a team
If someone is in need, help them out. That's really all there is to it. Note: this does not go for murder, etc. XD

5. Respect
Respect for the other person is important, I know you know that, so just keep it in the back of your head as a reminder.

And Note: don't blow off things planned with her unless something important comes up, and not just some BS.

Jolene January 28th, 2010 4:28 PM

Okay. I need help. I just found out that Jack White is mad at me. I'm quite scared. He's been known to take down seven-nation armies in the past. What do I do?

Although, I quite like the way he describes me. Yes, very much.

Weatherman, Kiyoshi January 29th, 2010 3:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jolene (Post 5506289)
Okay. I need help. I just found out that Jack White is mad at me. I'm quite scared. He's been known to take down seven-nation armies in the past. What do I do?

Although, I quite like the way he describes me. Yes, very much.

I'm deeply consitering if you're a troll or not.

The Cynic January 29th, 2010 6:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jolene (Post 5506289)
Okay. I need help. I just found out that Jack White is mad at me. I'm quite scared. He's been known to take down seven-nation armies in the past. What do I do?

Although, I quite like the way he describes me. Yes, very much.

Don't be silly now... It is moderately funny but this thread is for real problems not little jokes.

processr January 29th, 2010 8:55 AM

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Originally Posted by ωΣάτλξяΜäη, Kiyoshi (Post 5507164)
I'm deeply consitering if you're a troll or not.

It's obvious that she is, and it's obvious that she's not very good at it. (b'')b

Gary, the Magic Fairy January 30th, 2010 6:01 PM

I have a new religion, and no one is taking it seriously. (Nondenominational Neopaganism) They're always trying to convert me to Christianity, so I don't know what I should tell them to make them accept that I'm serious about this?

Feign January 30th, 2010 6:08 PM

Considering the fact that it is "nondenominational" may be what is also making it hard to believe, aside from Christian ignorance. It also depends on how you yourself practices it. Like if you do so seriously, and all the time, or it was just something you read in a book, and started believing in it. The only way to get them to understand though is if you explain it, and if they don't understand it, or refuse to understand it, afterwards, then that's their problem, not yours.

So it might be, that you have to prove them your are serious by proving that this religion is something you truly do believe in. And hopefully they aren't ignorant enough to believe that as long as your beliefs stick within the law, it should be fine.

EDIT: You know what I just realized? If someone were researching about the moon (like an elementary kid or something), and at one point was looking up the different phases; well "new moon" would be one of them, yet google comes up with tons of Twilight stuff... Way to disrupt a descent search pattern thingy Mayer... I wish the boos would just self ignite...

Gary, the Magic Fairy January 30th, 2010 6:26 PM

Hm.. it is a full moon.. maybe I can invite them over and show them. Thanks.

And yeah, I'm not sure about the legalities of it. Most of it is perfectly legal, but a few things are a little... lets say "gray".

Anti-Hero January 31st, 2010 3:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Gary, the Magic Fairy (Post 5511430)
Hm.. it is a full moon.. maybe I can invite them over and show them. Thanks.

And yeah, I'm not sure about the legalities of it. Most of it is perfectly legal, but a few things are a little... lets say "gray".

Inviting them over might just be good, but if they don't want to come, then of course, don't force them.

But also, I have a question that you don't have to answer, but it would be nice. Nondenominational Neopaganism. Did you just suddenly change to it? And for what reason? People could just be in shock, or they could be afraid or whatever. I mean, suddenly changing faiths tends to be a rash decision. Even if you did just ease into it, they could still be in shock. The best thing to do [I think] would be to talk it over. Lots of people are confused about Paganism and what not, they believe that it is merely witchcraft and human sacrifices and all that yadda.

Also, assuming Wiccan beliefs influence you, nothing should really be illegal with it. The Wiccan Rede states: "An it harm none, do what thou wilt" or "Do what you will, so long as it harms none" So, you probably wouldn't be harming anyone or anything, so there is really no need to worry about that.

The Cynic January 31st, 2010 4:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gary, the Magic Fairy (Post 5511430)
Hm.. it is a full moon.. maybe I can invite them over and show them. Thanks.

And yeah, I'm not sure about the legalities of it. Most of it is perfectly legal, but a few things are a little... lets say "gray".

What? You realise the scenes in the da vinci code arn't actually what paganism is about, right?

By nedenominational pagansism do you mean pantheism? Sorry if I'm wrong...

Paganism was talked down by Christianity since the Romans suddenly decided they were going to accept it as a state religion. As a result Pagan symbols have been buthcered by Christans into Satanic Symbols. For example, the pentacle is often represented as a statanic sign, when it is not. As a result, your Christian friends might be just a little bit aprrehensive.

You have to explain your beliefs rationally to them, rather than just saying you like the idea. An ex-girlfriend of mine back in high school decided one day she would be pantheist based on the grounds that "she liked the idea". Explain in simple points why you feel the religion is right for you. You should be able to believe whatever you want. Just don't force your beliefs on other people or try and convert them. Its their choice in the end.

You should also maybe change your sig. before you give someone an epileptic fit. If your trying to make me suddenly believe in a god then its not working, your just giving me a headache and believe me, you don't wanna mess with me and a headache. I think your sig. is an example of how not to behave. The whole "Join Us" thing is the sort of stereotype that people have of paganism because of the whole Christians' bad publicity thing. You probbly shouldn't do that at your lunar thing.

I'm not sure how old you are but perhaps if you are still at school you should give a talk to your class about your religion, its history, its principal beliefs, why you like it excetera.

Don't let the whole "my friends don't like" it thing get to you or make you change your beliefs. If your friends can't accept that you have a different system of beliefs than them then they are not really friends.

I hope I have helped somewhat.

~The Cynic~

Anti-Hero February 1st, 2010 8:15 PM

Bleh. I have troubles sleeping. I have a decent bed time of 9-10. I go to bed somewhere in those times. But, I go to BED, I don't fall asleep. I will just lie there in my bed staring at the ceiling, watching the T.V. or looking out the window. I've tried turning off the T.V., that only makes it harder to sleep. I s'pose that it could possibly the fact that my bed is like a rock with a bunch of holes in it. But, then again, that is ruled out because when often times when I am at, say, a friends house, it takes just as long to go to sleep.

So, my question boils down to: What are some good tips/ways to get to sleep?

Feign February 1st, 2010 8:27 PM

Don't stay up late like me. XD

For me, it helps to think a lot, sort of like pre dreaming. XD (day dreaming if you like that term better). If I try to keep my mind blank, it only makes it worse. I can't fall asleep by distraction, otherwise I can't sleep, unless if I am already really tired.

Make sure not to drink apple juice or coffee before bed, or any soda.

Try to get comfortable too, like lying on your stomach first then on your side.

BHwolfgang February 1st, 2010 8:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Adder (Post 5516513)
So, my question boils down to: What are some good tips/ways to get to sleep?

Well, since your bed is not a place where one would be comfortable sleeping, how about finding a better alternative? How about the couch? I think you should replace your mattress as soon as possible, but that probably won't be happening anytime soon...

You should also relax yourself of any stress before going to bed. Perhaps sipping on some herbal tea or hot milk?

Anti-Hero February 1st, 2010 8:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Drizzle (Post 5516554)
Well, since your bed is not a place where one would be comfortable sleeping, how about finding a better alternative? How about the couch? I think you should replace your mattress as soon as possible, but that probably won't be happening anytime soon...

You should also relax yourself of any stress before going to bed. Perhaps sipping on some herbal tea or hot milk?

Hot milk and tea are just bleh. They taste horrible and don't seem to help. I also could not at this time, or probably any time in the near future afford a mattress. Plus, as the current state of things are, the couch is being slept on.

What about those egg carton foamy things? They would be good for covering the wholes, no? Then I could just put sheets over them yes?

BHwolfgang February 1st, 2010 9:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Adder (Post 5516563)
Hot milk and tea are just bleh. They taste horrible and don't seem to help. I also could not at this time, or probably any time in the near future afford a mattress. Plus, as the current state of things are, the couch is being slept on.

What about those egg carton foamy things? They would be good for covering the wholes, no? Then I could just put sheets over them yes?

Oh, I see. Do you mean a foam mattress/memory foam?

I'm not sure if you can afford one, but how about getting a used one? I don't know if you can cover the holes with foam. It's worth a try?

Anti-Hero February 1st, 2010 9:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Drizzle (Post 5516580)
Oh, I see. Do you mean a foam mattress/memory foam?

I'm not sure if you can afford one, but how about getting a used one? I don't know if you can cover the holes with foam. It's worth a try?

By foam I mean the egg crate mattress pad things. Like, just laying it over the top of my mattress, and securing it down with my sheets.

Mika February 4th, 2010 11:57 PM

You're going to need two so you can make a 'second matress or double a larger one over.

It should help quite a bit but a memory foam is still best.

The egg carton foam is 9 bucks at wallmart for a queen size. Memory foam is over 40 bucks but it's worth it.

Penguin13 February 7th, 2010 5:18 PM

[I apologize about any foul language. This is crossposted]

Ok. So as some of you may remember, I joined the army. I left for training 6 July 2009. I've been at Ft. Knox for 32 weeks so far. Well.. I'm finally leaving in 2-3 months. But sadly, it's not on good terms. I might have mentioned before that I sustained a back injury. Well, it's worse than I thought, and I'm not healing properly. The army has decided that I'm not worth it. They're discharging me with a med-40. That means I do get benefits because they broke me. I'd rather not go home, but I have no choice. I intend on still serving as soon as I can. But I still have to recover and get back into shape. This really isn't the worst part though. What happened while here is what's really bothering me. It's got me on antidepressants, anxiety medicine, and sleep aids. It's ****ing with me hardcore. I can't sleep, concentrate, eat, etc. This is more of a rant to get it off my chest, but I do need help. Where better than my friends of AIJ?

(This is an excerpt of a letter to my girlfriend)

Nearly all of the 221 days I've been here, I've been beaten, abused; physically and mentally, made fun of, robbed, tortured, punished for others, and anything else you can think of... I haven't been entirely trithful with you, and this includes my injury. I told you that I had a muscle strain because I tried to charge a .50-cal. That's not true. I was pushed down a flight of strairs with a 60lb ruck sack on my back. I grabbed the rail right before I hit the bottom, with my head, and my ruck sack twisted my back. My bone spurs and arthritis were likely caused by all the beatings I've endured during BCT. While in PTRP, it's likely that I would've recovered faster and properly had it not have been for the beatings endured there. I don't know why they did it, instead of leaving me alone... During BCT, it was most from two people from Hawaii because I'm a haole. Everyone else did it because they think I'm gay or something other ****ing stupid reason. In additional to that, I was ganged up on in the shower. They left me naked, crying on the shower floor. Not only did they beat me, but they put Biofreeze (stronger than IcyHot/Bengay) on my... privates... (front and back)... They blamed me for every ****ing thing that went wrong.I got nearly 30 counseling statements and had to write over 20,000 works of essays. I also got the dogshit smoked out of me on a daily basis. Another contributing factor to my injury... Oh, the same **** happened in FTU, but it was because I was too fat... In PTRP, the same **** happened, except this is where I was robbed and tortured... My locks got cut, pieces taken off the locker, smashed doors, and anything else to get in it. Over $500 worth of clothing and equipment was stolen. I've had to repay all of that, in addition to counseling statements. None of my personal items or pictures were touched, because "that's going too far." Being tortured on the other hand, everything was game. My locker has been tipped, flipped, moved and stolen. I had to remake my bunk at least 10 times a week, usually after having to search for it, wash the foot powder, shaving cream, hand sanitizer out of it, etc. One day I just left my linen in my locker and slept in my sleeping bag... Well, they gagged me, tied me inside of it, and dragged me up and down the stairs, through the shower, then dangled me out of the third floor window. I just wished they had dropped me and ended it all... anything would've been better than all this ****. They even put Biofreeze in my eyes, as well as what was done in BCT. Oh, and they've pissed in my canteen and even on me. Believe me... I've been through too much ****. Thone only thing that has kept me from... ending it... is the thought of you... your love, support, everything. I cry myself to sleep most nights missing you. YCA was one thing.. But this is plain hell.

[...] The real me is so stressed out over everything that's happening that I'm getting stress-enduced canker sores and ulcers in my stomach and can't sleep for fear of being beaten. The real me is only able to deal with this by getting ****ed up on my pain medication. I'm light-headed, dizzy and out of it 24/7. It's the only way I can take my mind off everything. The real me doesn't want to get 'stoned' to deal with his problems.

Well, life I said last night... I'm on some medications... The first one I mentioned was in the first letter, Tramadol. It's a painkiller, and it's pretty strong (mainly because I've never had narcotics in my life). As I mentioned, it makes me dizzy, light-headed and... 'stoned' if you want to call it that. It's pretty much the only thing that keeps me sane. But, it also gives me really bad stomachaches. Add the stress to that, and it makes me throw up a lot. In addition to throwing up, stress causes some other effects... Nosebleeds, anxiety, nervousness, loss of appetite, shortness of breath, mood swings, crying... It's all ****ing retarded. To counteract that, I'm one some anxiety medicine. I'm also have a lot of trouble sleeping because I have too much **** on my mind. So I'm on a sleep aid... Now for the antidepressant. It's because of everything that happened here, the whole med-40 thing (what I'm going to do now and after I get out until I can rejoin), my parents are turning around and straight ****ing me. Before they said they support me, now it's the opposite. The problems with relationships in general; the fact I've had absolutely no friends (despite what I've written) here, and the whole thing with us... And last but not least, I think white kitty might not be making it too much longer. She's had feline leukemia since birth, and it's starting to win.... and I'm not sure if she's going to make it until I get back. It's just everything stacked up on eachother and me bottling it up, not being able to do anything. It's ****ing me up hardcore... I'm not sure how much more or longer I can handle this... It's really starting to take it's toll...

Esper February 7th, 2010 6:36 PM

Paraphrased:
Quote:

Originally Posted by Penguin13 (Post 5532578)
The army ... broke me.
...
I intend on still serving as soon as I can.
...
I've been beaten, abused; physically and mentally, made fun of, robbed, tortured, punished for others, and anything else you can think of.

Pardon me for asking, but why exactly do you still want to be in the army?

Everything you've described sounds inhuman and, frankly, a bit unbelievable. I'm no lover of the military, but I still wouldn't expect the things you've describe to really happen to the level you're talking about, but maybe I'm being naive about it. Putting that aside, if they're letting you go I'd get out while the getting's good. What good is it going to do you, your girlfriend or your country if they break you again, perhaps permanently, or get you killed? Do you honestly think things will be different the second time around?


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