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Ho-Oh February 4th, 2010 11:38 PM

How long does it take you to apologise?
 
One word can sometimes be so hard to say. "Sorry" can be the hardest, or the easiest word to say - some people find it easy, because they wouldn't be able to live with the guilt of not apologising, or some would just rather keep their dignity in certain situations, and refuse to say sorry. When you feel you've done something wrong; or have done something that upset someone else, or even made a mistake, is apologising ever easy for you?

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
2. Have you ever taken back an apology?


Depending on the severity of the situation, it varies, however usually immediately, because I feel if I don't then I end up feeling stupid - so guilt plays a role in this for me. It's strange, but it's how I am. Although I don't recall taking back an apology, but there any many times when I have regretted apologising.

also, apologise > apologize, and this has nothing to do with any current situations jsyk

Unforgettable February 4th, 2010 11:41 PM

I have a really hard time saying it. I have to really mean it before I will say it, and I'm sure the people who are close to me know that. It's a word with powerful meaning to me. And if I'm not sorry, I'm not going to waste my time even saying it. Do I take them back? No. I think long and hard about it before I say it, and truly mean it, so there is no need to take it back.

DGexe February 4th, 2010 11:52 PM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
The very moment I've apparently screwed up to a day later. I'm one of those folks who's ended up disliking conflict, so to avoid it I tend to think everything wrong where I'm involved is my fault and I overapologize and apologize when I don't even need to, because I apparently think this'll settle things. Still, when I do apologize, I mean it. I really am sorry, even if it wasn't my fault. ._.;

2. Have you ever taken back an apology?Yeah I think I actually might have, but I can't remember the circumstances exactly that came to it. ... I might remember tomorrow, when I've had my sleep.

Dukey February 5th, 2010 12:08 AM

I say it a majority of the time when I wrong somebody I didn't mean to, but if it was a fairly intential thing, that I wanted someone to know and they didn't take it well, then no.

Have probably taken back apoligies too, but only if I figured I wasn't really the one in the wrong, and the other person is still going to be an idiot about stuff.

iLaxbe! February 5th, 2010 12:14 AM

1. As soon as possible. I'm not afraid of exposing my mistakes.
2. No, I never take back what I say. If the person disappoints me, there's nothing else I can do.

Distortion World February 5th, 2010 12:21 AM

For me, it depends on the person.

The shortest was on hour and the longest one is still happening.

Meand my frind have been fightin snice, early October last year. Everytie I get ready to apoligize, he goes ahed ad givs me another reason to hate him.

THIRTY-SIX February 5th, 2010 12:23 AM

1. Immediately after I think I should.
2. No.

poopnoodle February 5th, 2010 6:32 AM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation? most often, immediately after I feel I'm in the wrong. But sometimes it takes me a day or so to realize ;o
2. Have you ever taken back an apology? yap, I've had a few back and forth moments. u3u

Kikaito plush February 5th, 2010 6:37 AM

1. since my brain is slow a while
2. quite a lot lately

♣Gawain♣ February 5th, 2010 6:46 AM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
2. Have you ever taken back an apology


A: Varies on the situation. Grave mistakes means longer apology time.
A: Can't remember...

Legobricks February 5th, 2010 7:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Forever (Post 5524568)
When you feel you've done something wrong; or have done something that upset someone else, or even made a mistake, is apologising ever easy for you?

Sure, easy; it's when I've done something I deem right which others deem wrong that puts me in the predicament of a difficult apology, but you know, I don't find it difficult in that case, I just flat out refuse then and there because I believe I am right. If I later find myself in the wrong I'll most likely let the passing of time do its work but if it's someone I deal with a lot I'll apologise fairly promptly.

As for taking them back, not openly.

Ninetales433 February 5th, 2010 7:44 AM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
Depends on the situation.
2. Have you ever taken back an apology?
Twice,but I can't remember.


BHwolfgang February 5th, 2010 9:50 AM

I tend to apologize on the spot. It's not because I feel guilty; I just want to mend what was broken or damaged.

I did once, but that's another story.

Binary February 5th, 2010 9:53 AM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
After I realize that I'm the one who is guilty.
2. Have you ever taken back an apology?
Nope.

Uecil February 5th, 2010 10:09 AM

i've been feeling so guilty of everything i have done lately so i am apologetic.....

mikey February 5th, 2010 11:29 AM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
When I think that I have done something wrong, I say sorry immediately.
2. Have you ever taken back an apology?
I am pretty sure I have never taken back an apology.

Saltare. February 5th, 2010 11:33 AM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
If me and my best friend got in a fight, it usually takes a few minutes/hours for me to say sorry. If not, it takes a while.
2. Have you ever taken back an apology?

I have. But I don't feel like telling that story.

Anxiety. February 5th, 2010 12:01 PM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
Depends, but it usually takes a few days, if I say it at all.

2. Have you ever taken back an apology?

Yep.

Alexithymia~ February 5th, 2010 12:06 PM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
It depends. If I know [or I think] I'm to blame, I apologise very quickly. I feel guilty.. Friends have forbidden me from apologising because I sort of apologise for anything, as long as I feel bad. If someone told me a story about how they .. I don't know, burnt their ear with their straighteners, I'd apologise as if I was the one who did it to them. .. uh, yeah, it sounds weird like that. ;_;

If I know I'm definitely not to blame and it's all their fault, of course I wouldn't apologise.

2. Have you ever taken back an apology?
Not that I remember. It's sort of fickle, anyway.

Sarah Paliner February 5th, 2010 2:07 PM

1. If I know that I am in the wrong, then I will apologize on the instant. However, if I am not at fault, am the only one being forced to apologize when I'm not the only party involved, I will offer no apology.

2. Yes, usually when it is rejected with an insult.

Esper February 5th, 2010 4:22 PM

Since I always imagine I'm making mistakes and slighting people I apologize almost immediately, but a while back I started second guessing myself so sometimes I don't apologize when I should. It's all very confusing and I've given and taken back apologies plenty of times.

Ayselipera February 6th, 2010 6:21 AM

- If I realize that I was the person who was wrong or I feel truly sorry then I'll apologize pretty quickly. Within a day or so. Although one time it lasted months, but that's another story. :)

- Not that I remember.

Caelus February 6th, 2010 10:37 AM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
Depends, but most of the time it's right after I find that I'm guilty, or at least when I think I'm guilty.

2. Have you ever taken back an apology?
Maybe once. Not really sure on that.

Melody February 6th, 2010 1:31 PM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
Usually almost never, because I put my mistakes behind me and don't dwell upon them more than necessary to learn from them. People who expect an apology might as well dip themselves in hot oil, because I never apologize just because someone feels like they or another person deserves one, I have to feel as if I mean it or I won't say it, and saying/doing anything to force my hand usually has the opposite effect.

If someone I care enough about is hung up on something I did, badly enough, I'd apologize if I felt it'd help the situation any, and if I felt I could do so without sounding bitter, angry, negative, or insincere.

When I do apologize, it's usually within a day or two if I can.
2. Have you ever taken back an apology?
Never. Getting an apology from me is rare, and when I do say it, I always mean it.

Jesh February 6th, 2010 1:35 PM

It depends. If I was just messing around, like, instantly. Other times can take a few weeks :c

Åzurε February 6th, 2010 2:52 PM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
Not long. Whenever the situation calls for it, I usually am wrong, and I have little trouble accepting that.

2. Have you ever taken back an apology?
Not outright. The last time I felt like doing that was when some hot-tempered avatar on a game I play cussed me out (dodging censors all throughout, he got muted twice. =P). Poor dope. But, yeah, it doesn't happen often, and hardly ever outright.

Honest February 7th, 2010 10:42 AM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
If I feel like they deserve it, as soon as I can tell them. Which is usually like a day

2. Have you ever taken back an apology?
Once. Because my friend was being a jerk.

Synaesthesia February 7th, 2010 1:30 PM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
Uhh. Well it depends. If I don't want to seem weak, I try to wait a bit. When I really think that I shouldn't be apologizing, I never will apologize (unless the other person is just taking too damn long, then I'll confront them). But when I really don't want to fight with someone, I'll apologize, and when I recognize I was wrong, I'll try to apologize within the week lol..

2. Have you ever taken back an apology?
When someone reacts rudely to an apology (ie. saying "yeah, you should be sorry.") I'll sometimes be like "you know what, screw you. I don't apologize." and walk away.

Heart~Bunny February 7th, 2010 4:22 PM

1.
Immediately.

2
I have never taken one back.. When I say it I mean it.

WasNotMe February 7th, 2010 7:17 PM

When I don't mean it, I apologise straight away. If I actually do feel sorry then I probably won't say it at all P:

Pave Low February 9th, 2010 1:15 PM

It simply depends on what the situation is. If I and some others think that the dillema wasn't truly my fault, I won't be apologetic unless I get given good reasoning that would alter my mind.

On the other hand, if the situation is pretty serious and isn't going my way, I will try and apologise as soon as I can in my time.

RivalGator February 9th, 2010 2:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Forever (Post 5524568)
1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
2. Have you ever taken back an apology?

1.) It depends on the situation and who the person is. If I feel that the person deserved what I did, then hell no. I won't apologize. No ****ing way. But if I over-reacted and I could have found a better way to do it, then usually I will apologize once both of us have calmed down and when I really mean it. I never apologize by force or before I am ready.

2.) Yes. I have many times. If the person starts being a dick to me, then yep.

Cold Fusion February 12th, 2010 2:00 PM

1. How long does it take you to apologise in any situation?
Usually if it's a minor thing a day, maybe a few hours. It realy does depend on the situation for me; if it is a huge fight then it could take over a week, litrally, and usually I still think I am right in the back of my head somewhere, I just don't want to argument to continue. If it is a minor one as I said before,a few hours or a day at the most. Yes, I hate saying sorry at times. D:

2. Have you ever taken back an apology?
Yes because the person started another argument straight after I said it...then we flew into angry sparks again. Otherwise I don't think I have ever done it since that time, unless I have forgotton any.

To be honest I don't really get into a situation where I have to say sorry, it's a rare occassion for me to fight because of my friendly nature.

Conan Edogawa February 12th, 2010 4:23 PM

It really depends on the situation. If it was a legitimate argument and the other person was nice about it then I apologize immediately. But if they act like a cocky... you know what then I don't even think of saying it. To be honest, I argue with my fellow students most often and I'm usually right so it doesn't come up much. And if I'm wrong then I manipulate the situation so I look like I'm right.


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