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Jolene February 10th, 2010 1:19 PM

What do you think of parents who swear in front of their kids?
 
I think that parents who swear in front of their children should be ashamed. It's bad, because it teaches bad words to the children.

Honest February 10th, 2010 1:24 PM

Defiantly bad. And people wonder where kids learn all this foul language from. Tsk tsk

Uecil February 10th, 2010 1:25 PM

pfft* yeah i've seen it all before, its so lame it just brings shame.

Sora's Nobody February 10th, 2010 1:35 PM

Well in denmark when you say for example S*** or F*** it isnt meant litterally, its just a way of saying damn. I pretty sure i dont know a single person who hasnt said F***.
But if a parent says it infront of a 3 year old kid (In any country) the kid wouldnt even know what it meant. Swears are most often a way to express yourself when something goes wrong or not as it was supposed to. Tell me wouldnt you say f*** or something if you were driving a car and you crashed into a sign on the motorway and the airbag was deployed? probably, right?

HarrisonH February 10th, 2010 1:37 PM

It doesn't matter. The kids are going to learn it somewhere.

Jolene February 10th, 2010 1:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Sora's Nobody (Post 5539795)
Tell me wouldnt you say f*** or something if you were driving a car and you crashed into a sign on the motorway and the airbag was deployed? probably, right?

I would not. Fudgecakes, perhaps.

GengarNightmare February 10th, 2010 1:43 PM

It's definately better to avoid swearing around children (it's just trashy anyways >_<), but don't get the illusion that they'll never learn bad words just because you don't say them.

Sora's Nobody February 10th, 2010 1:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Jolene (Post 5539832)
I would not

Man! that sounded sarcastiscly convincing.

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Originally Posted by Jolene (Post 5539832)
Fudgecakes, perhaps.

Please ... please dont force me to say it... oh... oh nooooo! princess with your little finger up in the air

Timbjerr February 10th, 2010 1:47 PM

It doesn't matter much to me so long as the parent doesn't abuse them or use them is frivolous context. My parents cursed in front of me all the time when they were expressing how angry they were, such as, "you damn well better ****ing clean your goddamn room, son!!" To this day, while I curse a fair bit more than average, I usually do it to express anger, sarcasm, or some other emotional extreme.

But when I see parents in public with their kids using curse words in contexts like, "$5.00 for a slice of pizza? Oh, hell the **** no!!", it makes me a little sad for the kid to be honest...

twocows February 10th, 2010 1:48 PM

That our culture taboos certain words is stupid. Even more stupid is that it taboos ones that aren't particularly offensive; are waste and sex ("s" and "f," respectively) really so terrible that to speak of them in public should be a taboo? It's a bunch of nonsense, if you ask me. And that's exactly what I'd tell my children.

Eurydice February 10th, 2010 1:49 PM

i don't think parents should swear in front of there children, especially if they are small. i was babysitting on time and i couldn't believe the words the kid was saying.

Anxiety. February 10th, 2010 1:56 PM

Nah. It's not that bad. My parents never swore infront of me and by the time I was 5 I knew almost all of them.

Maybe thats just my area. But they'll find out anyway.

Miz en Scène February 10th, 2010 1:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Jolene (Post 5539832)
I would not. Fudgecakes, perhaps.

*Just before hitting the streetlight while driving a car.* Aaah, mother-fudgecakes!

Seriously, it is unacceptable for parents to swear in front of their kids, when they can help it. Even if not, they should at least make an effort to avoid using them at all.

HarrisonH February 10th, 2010 1:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Mizan de la Plume Kuro (Post 5539893)
Seriously, it is unacceptable for parents to swear in front of their kids

Why is it? I don't see any reason for it to be.

Miz en Scène February 10th, 2010 2:08 PM

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Originally Posted by HarrisonH (Post 5539904)
Why is it? I don't see any reason for it to be.

Because it instills rudeness and a lack of consideration for the mental integrity of other human beings particularly when the swears are directed at other humans. /Common sense

Usagi-Chan~ February 10th, 2010 2:10 PM

Meh, I'm just told not to repeat it.

*PrincessPika-chu* February 10th, 2010 2:15 PM

Well, it's different if a parent doesn't do it on purpose. Like if the mother is in the car with the kid and the mom spills coffee on herself, and something slips out.

What I dislike is when grown people use bad words over and over in everyday conversation, and not thinking of it...use it in almost every sentence--in front of the kid.

Over time, we just learn not to repeat it. Then when we kids get older, and our parents know darn well we use the words ourselves, they stop caring, and start cursing, which is okay by then.

HarrisonH February 10th, 2010 2:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Mizan de la Plume Kuro (Post 5539940)
Because it instills rudeness and a lack of consideration for the mental integrity of other human beings particularly when the swears are directed at other humans. /Common sense

It's just words. Why is it that these words are off limits, yet other similar insulting words are not?

iLaxbe! February 10th, 2010 2:37 PM

Ah, I don't like it. Teach your son good things, why anything else? When they do it in front of me, I want to swear a lot at them! (The children must be used to it, so wouldn't be shocked, anyway)

Esper February 10th, 2010 2:37 PM

Swearing isn't bad on its own. It's just words you use when you're angry or upset and like a lot of things little kids don't yet know what the words mean beyond that.

It's only bad when someone else hears a kid swear and gets the wrong impression because they assume kids fully understand what they're saying and that they have bad parents because of it.

Lucent February 10th, 2010 2:41 PM

I have to admit, even if the "kid" is, like, 16-17 years old, swearing around them/nearby where they can hear still isn't a good idea. Because then kids start to pick up those words, and they could get into a lot of trouble if used at the wrong time in public.

My mom finds inventing "curse" words to be a lot better. So she can swear, but without sounding like she's swearing~

HarrisonH February 10th, 2010 2:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Lucent (Post 5540051)
I have to admit, even if the "kid" is, like, 16-17 years old, swearing around them/nearby where they can hear still isn't a good idea. Because then kids start to pick up those words, and they could get into a lot of trouble if used at the wrong time in public.

My mom finds inventing "curse" words to be a lot better. So she can swear, but without sounding like she's swearing~

If the "kid" is 16-17, you're ignorant to think they don't already use those words.

iLaxbe! February 10th, 2010 2:44 PM

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Originally Posted by HarrisonH (Post 5540055)
If the "kid" is 16-17, you're ignorant to think they don't already use those words.

Not everyone swears. I do because I'm miserable, but I know a lot of people (guys and girls) who don't. They know the swearings, of course, just don't use them.

Eurydice February 10th, 2010 2:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Lucent (Post 5540051)
My mom finds inventing "curse" words to be a lot better. So she can swear, but without sounding like she's swearing~

Thats what i do but people still know im cursing. i use gosh, darn, dangit, fudge, or witch. but i still try to avoid those words as well. but if i mess up and do say something its normally one of those, unless its something really bad then the other ones might slip out.

Raichu1988 February 10th, 2010 2:52 PM

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Originally Posted by ¡Laxbe! (Post 5540066)
Not everyone swears. I do because I'm miserable, but I know a lot of people (guys and girls) who don't. They know the swearings, of course, just don't use them.

Same here. My best friend never swears. She won't even say simple curse words and she's nearly 21. *shrug* I guess it depends on the person. I try not to swear a lot, but I do when I'm alone or with other people who don't mind and I'm ranting.

In front of kids though, like little kids who shouldn't hear those words? I keep my mouth shut, and I try to be as respectful as I can be if they aren't my relatives or if I'm in public around younger kids. Sometimes something will happen and I'll slip, but I try not to.

If a parent is swearing in regular discussion around their child, I don't agree with it. But of course, it's bound to slip up and happen sometime..

.Gamer February 10th, 2010 3:04 PM

My parents did it to me, and I turned out pretty ******** fine, if i say so myself.

Legobricks February 10th, 2010 3:12 PM

They'll learn the words anyway sooner or later. I think it's better to say them indescriminately (but not excessively) around [older] children because they'll then find nothing special about it. If they ask what it means, tell them honestly; F*** is about the only one that'd be difficult to explain, but most of them (depending on one's perspective of what constitutes a 'swear word') like ass, bastard and faggot originally did and sometimes still do have genuine meanings and usage without the connotations they nowadays carry, and one could give those definitions rather than the 'bad' ones. If you tell them not to say the words they will make an explicit effort to do so, if you tell them you don't know they'll ask other people.

RadiosX5 February 10th, 2010 3:13 PM

For me its if they swear in front of the 1 to 7 age group that i would be worried about.

Because to be fair my dad kinda swears in front of me and my siblings but i don't really have to worry about that kind of stuff because i don't really take much notice of it.

SonicThrust February 10th, 2010 4:21 PM

I think parents swearing around young children is wrong. Whether they will hear the words elsewhere or not, hearing them from their parents teaches children that it's okay to use those word and they will. Why is this bad? Because it's socially unacceptable for a child to go into their grade 1 class and call their teacher a b****.

Algo Fonix February 10th, 2010 8:04 PM

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Originally Posted by HarrisonH (Post 5539802)
It doesn't matter. The kids are going to learn it somewhere.

This.

They're just words, I don't see the big deal.

Åzurε February 10th, 2010 8:16 PM

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Originally Posted by SonicThrust (Post 5540365)
I think parents swearing around young children is wrong. Whether they will hear the words elsewhere or not, hearing them from their parents teaches children that it's okay to use those word and they will. Why is this bad? Because it's socially unacceptable for a child to go into their grade 1 class and call their teacher a b****.

Nail on head. It's socially unacceptable. Those words have come to be derogatory to begin with, and there are people who will get offended if you use them. People also tend to use them to enhance a disrespectful or apathetic persona. Note that I said "socially". This is why certain swear words have different "intensities" in different areas. It's not logical or productive to use words with a social taboo on them in front of a young child, because even if they don't understand what it means, humans have a tendency to repeat what they've experienced. And chances are they will repeat them in front of someone who will take offense. In my mind, this seems to spring largely from the same generational trickle-down as over-sexuality in children. It's spread for the most part by schools and media.

MegaSlowBro. February 10th, 2010 8:31 PM

In my opinion, I think that's it very low for parents to do that. Even though some kids might be too young to know what it means, they will certainly say it. They will think that it's okay to say those words freely, when it's not. Also, majority of the movies today include cussing. This might affect someone's lifestyle, becuase they will get in trouble often, they will not understand why, which might cause them to get angry at things that they shouldn't.

BHwolfgang February 10th, 2010 11:37 PM

Just because swearing isn't always used in a bad way doesn't mean that it's okay to say it in front of kids. They'll learn someday, but for the time being they shouldn't be exposed to this kind of vulgarness.

I look down on parents who cuss in front of their kids. I would even be more disappointed if they purposely taught their children to cuss.

Bay February 11th, 2010 12:40 AM

Quite a few of you say the cuss words are just words. Well, they can be quite powerful actually when used, no matter the right or wrong context. Also, there are certain times and places where you can't use it, like at a workplace or a funeral.

As for me, I don't think parents who cuss in front of their children are bad. Sometimes parents will do it unexpectedly. However, if they used it excessively then the children will pick it up and use it without thinking about when it is the right and wrong time to use it. I don't actually have problems with children cussing because I'm used to this already (my reaction to this is another story), but like I mentioned before there are certain times when it's okay and when it's not. I think parents should teach their children that actually if the kids already know how to use the cuss words.

What I don't like are parents that tells their children to not cuss and then the kids later hear them say it. If the parents taught their children that, they should set an example or at least not cuss when their children is around. :<

Elite Overlord LeSabre™ February 11th, 2010 3:35 AM

They rock the hizzouse

My parents used swear words with me, but usually only when I did something bad (which was quite often). I did have to laugh when they would swear at me while yelling at me for swearing, if you believe that.

Bottom line is, parents shouldn't be doing stuff that they don't want their kids doing (driving is an exception to this rule).

Tropical Sunlight February 11th, 2010 7:16 AM

Good guys.
What's wrong with that?

RivalGator February 11th, 2010 7:46 AM

Well, I think it's bad, but I also grew up with two parents who swore constantly in front of me. It gave me a bit of a swearing habit. My grandparents don't, but my mother had always cussed like a sailor. I don't love it or hate it, I just don't like hearing it in ever other word of every sentence.

Moltres111 February 11th, 2010 8:39 AM

I don't care. I curse myself too. I can't remember what teached me cursing though.. school/internet/parents/my sisters and my brother?

They rarely curse in front of me anyway.

Saltare. February 11th, 2010 4:55 PM

My parents do.

I don't think they should be ashamed. As long as they teach their kids to not repeat it until they are adults(or not at all).

Medli February 11th, 2010 5:04 PM

I actually can't imagine that, mainly because my parents are obsessive with avoiding anything and everything that would be a bad influence. Swearing, inappropriate stuff in movies, games, all that, even if it isn't really that bad.

I think that if parents swear in front of younger kids, that's pretty bad. I find that kids end up repeating stuff they really shouldn't be. On the other hand, I'm pretty sure all teenagers have been exposed to swearing in music and movies and all that fun stuff by the time they're, well, teenagers. So, it's not like you're going to keep them away from those words in the end. At least don't teach them that adding words like that at the end of every sentence is a good thing.

I personally try to avoid swearing because some people (including some friends) don't like using them and don't like hearing them all the time. I only use them if I get really angry.

.little monster February 11th, 2010 5:51 PM

I don't see anything bad, as swear words are just words. The only reason they seem bad is because we were raised to think so. I think swear words are perfectly fine to use, as long as you don't use them against another. I was raised around swear words. I curse, I don't curse in vein.

Plus, they'll learn it somewhere. At a young age. I heard curse words in school in the second grade. It's unavoidable.

Saltare. February 11th, 2010 6:16 PM

I think I said my first swear word in first grade.

I know my teachers want to curse in school soo bad. My Social Studies teacher says sugar XD

I think little kids should know not to say bad words. We used to say "Oh shitake mushrooms" when we were younger

Sora's Nobody February 12th, 2010 8:33 AM

I asked my teacher this question today, and he says that doesent consider F*** a swear

Yamikarasu February 12th, 2010 9:08 AM

OMG you're right! If children hear bad words they will definitely grow up to criminals.

>_>

Swear words are stupid. Not the words themselves, but just the fact that we have this set of sounds that you for some reason should not say.


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